Chayei Sara - 5th Portion

Join me as we learn together for the fifth Torah reading of paras Thursday chapter 24 verse 53. Yesterday we spoke as Alzar came to the family of Rifka. Love and Alzar both agree that this is something which is destined from God as he tells them the story how everything transpired. And today the we continue with that story of Elazar and the family discussing Rifka's leaving the family and going to verse 53. The servant then took out articles of gold and silverim as well as clothing and he gave it to and then he gave delicacies. And he gave to her father to her brother and her mother. What does the word mcdan mean? Sweet things. He brought with him kinds different kinds of fruit from the land of Israel. Verse 54 and they ate and they drank who and the people that were with him and they stayed overnight when they got up in the morning and he said give me leave as I need to go back to my master with Rifka. What is the word when they stayed overnight? How many nights did they stay over? Anytime it says only just plain sleeping overnight means that they stayed overnight only for one night. Verse 55 and her brother and mother said let the girl remain for us just for a year or for 10 months and afterward she'll go. Let her stay here a little bit until she matures. Why does she want to stay here? So let's see what Rashi has to tell us about this. First of all, as we look into the Rashi, we notice in the verse that it only says her brother and her mother. Last time it says that love and Bisuel responded. What happened to Basul? So Rashi tells us what happened to the father Bulak if he was against Rifka going to therefore he tried holding her back from going. There what happened to say a angel came and then killed him. What does the word mean though? Literally translates today. Rashi explains it means shun an entire year. Like we find it also when it talks about in the book of Leviticus pertaining somebody's freedom. It says days should be for his redemption and then it means a year. Why were they waiting for a year? because generally it was given for a woman who was getting married 12 months from the time of engagement. So she can prepare herself for the wedding with all the beautiful decorations and with all the beautiful jewelry and clothing to adorn herself and prepare herself for the wedding or 10 months. He says if you're not going to agree to a year maybe you'll agree to 10 months at least wait 10 months. If you mean that the first time it says doesn't mean a year means 10 days. So what does that mean then? It doesn't make sense that a person says if you're going to say that first they said y means days and then afterwards he goes 10 days. That doesn't make sense. Okay. If you don't agree for a few days then it may be a longer amount of time. Therefore we must say that what does y mean? A year. And because he says, "If you may not agree to her year, which is 12 months, maybe you'll agree that 10 months, she should wait until she goes." Verse 56 and Alzar tells them, listen here, don't cause me to be tried or to be late. I see that God clearly made my way successful that I should come here quick. I'll let me go. Let me leave. I'll go to my master. I did what I can. You don't want to show you don't want to you do your part. I got to go. Verse 57. They said they came up with an idea. You know what? Let's ask the girl. Let's ask her opinion. Does she want to stay or does she want to go? Verse 57 tells Rashi. Rashi says from here we learn rule. The very fact they said that let's ask the girl we can from here we learn that you don't marry off a woman only if she agrees. One cannot force a woman a forced marriage. The woman has to agree to the marriage only then can she get married. Verse 58. They called and they said to her, "Do you want to go with this man and marry the son of his master?" And she responded, "I will go." Verse 98. Verse 58, Rashi. Not only did she agree, but she says, "May I'm going to go my own even if you don't let me go." That's how keen and interested and excited I'm about to go. Even if you don't let me go, I'm going to go anyway. And with that they b farewell to Rifka, their sister. And along with her they sent her nurse and the servant of Arav and his men that came with him. Verse 16. And they blessed and they said to her and they said to her, "Our sister, may you grow into thousands of of and thousands and many and many more than that and 10 thousands. And may your descendants take possessions of the cities of their foes." Rashi. Verse 16. What was the blessing they're giving her? This is not an original blessing but actually you and your children to are going to get the blessing. Which blessing? The blessing that God already gave the blessing that God already gave to Abra Mariah that it will make mult and it will make your children continue to prosper and grow. And then they conclude, may it be the will that this blessing that God gave that the children of Ara will continue to prosper and grow should be from you and not from another woman. Verse 61 got rose up with her maidens like malim and they rode on the camels. And they traveled following the manif took Rifka and they set out on their journey. Verse 62 just come back from and he was living in the southern region. Rashi. What is why did he go there? Because this was the place if you recall was the well where the angel visited Hagar said being that now Sarah passed away. So he brought back Hagar that she should remarry Abraham. He was sitting in the nev in the southern region close to that well that it said that traveled from there towards the negv and he settled between there was that well that is between the places of kadesh and the place is what we call now shure Verse 63. And went out to pray in the field towards the evening. And he lifted his eyes. He looked up and he saw that camels were approaching. So Rashi tells us what does it mean to speak? It's a terminology of prayer. Like we find in a person pours out his talk, his praise to God. As we know that was the one who was towards evening as was the one who started the concept of and this is where we see the prayer that did was now that he was praying towards evening essay now verse 64 and Rifka looked up and she saw and she fell off the camel she slid off the camel. Verse 64, she saw she saw him how beautiful he was and she was like amazed. She was wowed by him. Doesn't mean that she literally fell off the camel. She slid off it to the ground like the says she slid her way as she was sitting off the camel. and she didn't reach yet the earth as it says give me your picture like tilted towards me was tilted towards we find it in other places as well when the word fall doesn't mean literally full and where it says that it will fall doesn't mean that it literally fell means it's leaning towards the ground but not that it reached the Verse 65. And she said to the servant, "Who is this man walking towards us in the field walking towards us in the field?" And the master and the servant said, "Who that is my master?" She then took her veiliscus and she covered herself. The word fatiscus Rashi tells us is an action word. like she buried and she broke, meaning an action that she took upon herself, which was that she veailed herself with her veil. And the servant then told everything that occurred to him. Verse 66, what did he tell? He told him, he told him all the great miracles that happened to him. Number one that he had a was a shorten the way was shortened to him. He made it in one day. And number two, the fact that he prayed to God and made this condition and God brought her to him in this manner of in this method. Verse 67 brought her to the tent. Which tent? Into the tent of his mother Sah. And he took Rifka. He married her and she became his wife and he loved her. And thus was now consoled for the loss of his mother. What does it mean? Sorry. And as follows. His mother's tent. Rashi tells us not that he literally took her to his mother's tent, but he brought her to the tent. She is Sarah's mother. What does that mean? She became similar to his mother Sarah's that as long as Sarah was around, there were three miracles that happened in the tent. Number one, there was a candle lit throughout the week. Number two, and from mayor of Shabas Shabas from Friday evening to Friday evening, she had a special blessing in the dough that she made that her dough would continue to become even more and more than what she initially made. And there was a divine cloud oil which was always on top of her tents. However, once Sarah passed away, all these stopped. But when Rifka came into the tent, all these things returned. Therefore, it made him feel as if his mother is there after his mother. It is just a respectful way, the way of the world. As long as a person has his mother, he's very connected to his mother. But once his mother dies, he is comforted by his wife. Over here we see this as well that Rifco is now brought the love, the happiness and consolation tok as he no longer had his mother. This concludes the fifth Torah reading.