Choosing What to See | Rabbi Shlomo Farhi

[Music] one of the warst and most beautiful scenes that a person could ever imagine or see is the mother of a Jewish Family covering her eyes lighting the Shabbat candles it's such a beautiful holy sight the garat tells us that the lighting of the Shabbat candles brings Shalom by to the home and what are we told that the shalom bite comes from because in the light no one's going to trip in the dark really that's what that means that's the Kusa that's the Shalom bite let me ask you a second question if the Shalom bite of the candles on Shabbat night is about not tripping it's interesting to notice that when the mother brings that light the light of Shalom B which is about being able to see something why would she cover her eyes when she's bringing it when when the whole K and purpose of it is in the ability to see and my friends there's a beautiful idea here Shalom B does not come from being able to see or not being able to see you're in the dark you trip on something it's going to be a problem so too the idea in Shalom B is if a person doesn't notice things lives in the dark they have no peace in their family in their marriage because they're not noticing saying all the beautiful things that are there perhaps what we're trying to communicate is you might trip on that which you can't see that which you're not seeing but the Shalom B that the woman is bringing into existence is not when someone's in the dark where they have no choice whether they see or not but rather Shalom bite comes from the ability to see once the candles are already lit and there's already light choosing what it is that you want to focus on do you want to focus on your children the beautiful table what special Delicacies were prepared or do you want to focus on which things that you like are not on the Shabbat table you see the secret of Shalom B therefore is in being able to choose what I want to see and what I don't want to see not in not seeing at all if you're not seeing what you have you're going to be miserable you have to see what you have you have to notice all the beautiful things but if a person person is looking at the things that he does not have by seeing them somewhere else noticing what is out there that he doesn't have he brings into his home a lack ofon he's noticing now because of something he saw somewhere else what he does not have in his space that my friends is the choice of Shalom B seeing being able to see all the beautiful things that you should but at the same time knowing when not to see something that's going to make me think I don't have that thing Hashem should bless usem to always know when to keep our eyes open and when to close them [Music]