Chofetz Chaim Yomi Hilchos LH 6:7-8 Accepting LH Because You Didn't Judge Favorably {Day 54}

Okay, good morning everyone. We're continuing in we're learning and here we go. You should know just like we wrote in the name of the believe disparaging information that people say on their friend You also can't believe it even if you know it's true. But you could interpret it differently. Let's say you could you could interpret it in this angle and that angle. In other words, let's say somebody told you uh information and the way they relayed the information they told you over a fact and they interpreted it in a certain way. The was and by judging him unfavorably he shamed him he disparaged him. It is known that for the listener to judge him favorably. It's a it's a to many one who violates this and the listener who does not judge the person favorably and he he concedes and he agrees with the speaker in this disparaging report. It's not enough that he's violating not judging his friend favorably. He's also considered a because by not judging favorably. So now the matter has expanded to be considered disparaging information. In other words, somebody somebody told you a fact with an interpretation that interprets the these facts um in a derogatory manner. If you believe that and accept that derogatory interpretation, aside from violating judging someone favorably, you're also violating accepting comes along with a long footnote. This is all if even the report was on an average person. who's who usually his custom his general path is to be careful from sin and sometimes he stumbles. Meaning we're talking about we're not judging someone favorably is a problem. Even if the person who you're not judging favorably is an average person. Certainly if the reports on a god-fearing person that about a god-fearing fearing person there's a greater if somebody violates this and judges the person unfavorably and agrees with the disparaging report of the speaker definitely is violating the of accepting. Okay, here we go to the Now I'm going to set forth that which many people stumble regarding believing without seeing. I'm going to give one example and extrapolate. An intelligent person should extrapolate accordingly. It's common if somebody leaves Bezdon and Bezdon found the person guilty and then he goes he tells his friend why he thinks he should have been the victor why he should have been acquitted. He tells his friend, "See yourself that I'm correct." Completely messed up the of this case. If I would have taken this to my RV, who's your RV? My RV is the Rambam. You know, many people they say, "Who's your my manes?" Pal, you don't even know anybody who saw him. Exactly. That's why I've accepted him as my rabbi. But if I would have taken it to him, you could be sure that he would have uh he would have judged in my favor. If I would have taken it to my rabbi who everybody knows is he would have known the truth and he wouldn't of this this corrupted. He then pours on the shameful words that you know are not for a general audience says we can't even write down the kind of words that he says if the friend responds now I don't believe that the uh whatever the guy says no here here it is he shows him the in writing see yourself that it was done without He shows him, he reads it again and again and again. He works himself up more and more. And each time he reads it, he he's himself is astonished. And now the reader, he sees in it things that he doesn't agree with. as it is known quotes the famous words of the that the hashkafic viewpoints of what we call balim people who are not steeped in Torah learning are usually exactly opposite from that which the Torah says until the two of them decide the two of them decide that the rabbi or The best have no ability to come to a proper conclusion. Now let's come to our subject. Look how they flagrantly violated believing of not judging favorably and also other that are explained earlier in the If the original listener would would go in the way of the Torah when somebody came comes to him, he definitely is obligated if he has the ability to extract any tiness from his friend that he shouldn't have tus on the basin. Meaning if somebody comes to you to complain about a rabbi, your number one obligation is that the guy should walk away not having titus on the rabbi otherwise big mistake if you give him an audience. And if you can't do that come expand different excuses that didn't do anything wrong. The is just passing based on what was at the time of the case. The dying can't do more than what he sees with his own eyes. Another factor is very often even if ruin is rightay makes right. Tell the guy that very often has it that bez that bezdon will be orchestrated by heaven to rule in favor of the of the other guy even if he's wrong. Like the says in there's an idea that sometimes the wrong party wins. It could be that the other guy's masle caused him to win. His masle is good. You should have nothing to worry about. Certainly Hashem will return your gaz from somewhere else like tell us say that it's when cause uh steal or cause the den to be ruled in their favor. They bother Hashem to resto to return the to the owner or other kinds of consolation to remove the from his heart and to extricate from his heart any complaints he has on the let's say you see there's no way you could get the guy to cool off and to feel better about how he feels that he was wronged by the or by the you need to strengthen yourself not to believe the disparaging information that your friend told you that he's complaining against the bezden. You should think that whatever the guy is telling you is not exactly how it happened because the way Bezen Poskins depends on exactly how the person made the claim. So right now he's all worked up and he's saying I said this and this and Bezen ruled against me. He's he made up what he's he's making it up. Really? Really? I should suspect my friend that he's making it up. Yes. Yes. You should suspect that he's making it up. Better than suspect that the bezen made a mistake. the to judge someone favorably is even on an average guy. only on somebody who has a presumptive status of being about someone who is presumed to be you have to judge him favorably even if the cards are stacked against him like writes in like and this is similar to what the says in if you see in the night you should assume he definitely You have to know that if somebody comes to tell you about what issued or what issued, the cards are never stacked against them, the cards are always stacked in their favor. You know why? Anyone who's familiar with and especi especially the judicial system of knows that the din hinges on the smallest nuance of the way something is presented but you say what do you mean? What do you mean? I'm a big I'm a big one time I opened the garra and I know that the bez made a mistake because when I learned 73 years ago, I remember the gam that seems to indicate that the bez made a mistake. Even if you are at yourself and you think the be made a mistake, you need to think about the guy presenting you with the facts. He may not have said that in the court. It's only now that he's found guilty. He sort of sort of convinced himself that since he should have said X, Y, and Z that he did say X Y and Z. In summation, there are many factors that make it more likely that the bezdon is correct than the guy talking. Even if you've looked into the matter and you cannot find one redeeming quality withd Nevertheless, it is biblically prohibited to decide against the and to say that they don't know how to ask him. You need to go straight to the rabbi. or to the ask them the reason. You don't understand what they did. So ask them. Don't talk about it. Maybe they'll show you this not what happened. They'll show you the reasoning where they came up with this. Or you know what they might do? They might they might concede and say, "You're right. I made a mistake. even we find that they made a mistake. Then they retracted then got another loud speaker to convey his I made a mistake. This is what this is what was taught. The Torah says, "Rebuke your friend and don't bear sin against him." What does that mean? That if your friend did something to you, you're not to talk about him. Go to him and say, "Why'd you do this?" You should you should have a conversation with your friend. Why'd he do this and this? If somebody hurt you, you can't bear a grudge. You need to ask him, why' you do this? Someone who violates these words. One who violates this and just decides based on your friend's report that the rabbi or the did not judge properly. They made a mistake. Without you going to the rabbi and asking why did you do this? Many main principles of especially violating anyone who judges his friend favorably they judge him favorably. So you have two guys in Schaw. One guy after Davening he opened up a bag and he ate a piece of pig mamish loyal. What a terrible thing. The other guy after Davening Ruven came over to him. He said this rabbi did you hear what this rabbi Paskin where where did he learn? What? He doesn't what does he now he he makes look like and you say really this is what he said and your par with the guy who was actually we won't give you enough credit we won't give you that much credit you're probably worse than the guy who is why because you're not only over the of you're also over the of you're also over So what do you have to do? Your responsibility is either to try to explain to the person why the bezen issued a correct and if you can't do that at least do not accept it as absolutely true. Rab said we have some days to make up so stay tuned for makeup schedule. Okay everyone have a good day. Recording shop.