Chesed, Din & Tiferet: The 3 Underlying Principles of Reality - Rabbi Shmuel Reichman

[Music] there's a story of a homeless man who walked into this really fancy building in New York City and he walks straight to the elevator walks past the secretary who was frantically waving her hands and saying you can't go up there go straight to the elevator go straight to the penthouse the top floor goes out of the elevator marches right past the secretary who once again was saying excuse me you can't go in there March it straight into the CEOs office sits on the chair puts his feet up on the CEOs desk CEO turns around faces him and says son I told you you can't come in here anymore you're a disgrace you're a bum you're not doing anything with your life you have a free ticket to Harvard and you're throwing everything away you're living in the now you're not doing anything you're throwing away your life and the son looks at his father and says oh you're one to speak what are you who are you yeah you're so successful you have all the money in the world but you threw away your marriage you're never there for me you what exactly are you doing with your life what about what's important I'm at least experiencing life I'm enjoying the now living in the moment all you care about is your goals your destination becoming great well what kind of life has that left you so the question is who's right who's right and anyone who's emotionally aware should be torn on the one hand the father's right you should have goals and destinations in life on the other hand that the son is clearly right you shouldn't be so stuck in your goals and destination that you forget about what's really important then you stop a living life you stop experiencing life but you throw away your relationships and everyone close to you they represent two extremes and the actual ideal is something in the mail so let's talk about the concepts of class ed din and to Ferris concepts which most of Jewish wisdom is built on the morale uses these terms I'm how uses these terms definite Haim uses these terms what exactly is fascinating difference will be spiritual concepts also why are the others after Miyazaki Yaakov why do those always represent the concepts of hasad did into Ferris what's the deeper ideas here so let's start with acid acid din and - ferrous are the three stages of a process has an estate one car side represents outflow it represents the starting point the initial C the initial stage it is the beginning of the process din represents the second stage which is restriction which is limitation which is creating boundaries which is taking that infinite potential of that first stage of the outflow and giving it boundary isn't a container and restrictions so that it can exist so if you think about it dinners exactitude it smoothly connect it meter which means that you get exactly measure for measure what you deserve dinner is something limited it's something which isn't boundless but has boundaries and some practical examples are rain if you have infinite rain Cassatt just under has no boundaries you'll have a mumble you have a flood when it comes to parent if all you do is give to your trial and give and give and give and give and you have no rules no boundaries or limitations no order no structure your child's Minh and the you know very undeveloped you need structure a child needs a structured world to allow him to grow or her to grow properly and when it comes to teaching look in the one hand the Gemara Sock'em Duff coffee would be is I mean Allah says that more than the calf wants to drink the cow wants a nurse the teacher wants the gift once the teach wants to outlaw of the wisdom that they have but if you teach too much you'll drown your child's you'll drown your student it's too much but if you teach too little you'll also it's not appropriate the student needs more the ideal is that downs but it's important to recognize before we go to that third stage that then the restriction is also Hassan it's just less classes so when you limit the infinite amount of rain that's still rain it's just the last frame when you're teaching just not more than the child can handle and still teaching it's just the last teaching then isn't something else it's merely focusing and a limitation of the infinite of stage one and what's also really important to realize is that this is the concept of a current FL of what's essential giving is occur and then is always that which enables Tuffle secondary is that which enables the giving to be appropriate and to be well received so that first stage of outflow needs the second stage in order for that first stage to become real and to be ideal and it's also really important to recognize that unbounded facade custard that has no limitations can be extremely inappropriate so I the Torah refers to an incest which relationship relationship which is arise which is inappropriate as being Crescent why facet cuz closet is when there are no limitations no boundaries no rules no structure you need structure unstructured house it can be very unhealthy and that's why then it really is what enables has it to thrive but that third stage to Ferris harmony that's the perfect balance cuz that's the million-dollar question how do you properly balance for example when it comes to teaching you might want to teach Tamachi while auntie - lil how you how you get that perfect balance where you're teaching exactly that which is challenging to a student but not too challenging and not too easy at when you're parenting how do you know when to say yes I want to say no how do you know when it's appropriate to give when it's appropriate to say now I can't give right now you need to hear now for you not for me I'm not saying no when you're a parent you don't say no because you're angry at the child you say no because the child needs to hear now needs to understand a great examples one comes to cover or yireh how do you know how much cover an offer to have for you I'd be how you know how much your to say whoa you know like you're on a completely higher level and I'm gonna respect you you're not my friend you're something you're someone that's tremendous it comes - em how you know how to have that balance of a plan era where you're not just living a few oriented life but you're not just living a love or life where I'm gonna be a never - I'm when it's good for me when I'm in love with that Shawn beware not feeling so good I'm not gonna do it you have to have both but how do you strike that balance it's like when it comes to eating honey it's hard to find that balance because you have some honey you think it's great but by the time you create that structure of okay it's enough honey you're way past the boundaries and you've probably eaten too much honey so it's really hard to find that perfect balance but that's what Safari says to Ferris is finding that perfect balance and just to give you a couple demonstrations and illustrations of the concept of defensive of that perfect harmony and balance the first is beauty bear beauty beauty is not a bunch of pieces that exist it's when seemingly opposite pieces harmonize in such a way that beauty transcends to some of the pieces and emanates from them when you look at horizon on the beach it's not that the sun's beautiful or the the ocean is beautiful or the sand is beautiful it's when all the pieces harmonize in such a way that what emanates for them transcends to some of the pieces it's that perfect balance of all the pieces coming together also real Fay which is the same the same letters of pay air beauty Ralph a a doctor creates inner harmony homeostasis within the human body that's also why when you think of also ms/ms truth truth is that ultimate harmony oneness it's not there's no single piece of truth the truth is the collective of all the pieces coming together it's like if you think about it there I'll give you a demonstration let's say a boy comes to his father and says I can't believe it trying to the neighbor he kicked me so the father goes over there Klieman says happen you kicked my son so Shlomi says are you kidding me your son punched me in the face so it goes over his son you didn't tell me you punched him in the face the son says yeah but he pushed me down the stairs so then he goes back to Shlomi and says you push on that say yeah that's cuz he tripped me and called me names like who's saying the MS who's lying they're both saying the MS but they're only saying parts of the Animas the MS is the absolute collectives truth with with all the sub pieces of truth coming together and it's also the idea of Shalom Sholem isn't just the lack of conflict Shawn is when conflicting ideas conflicting parts come together in a harmony that's why they're also the root of song is shall aim completion wholeness that's why Pincus got the beer how strong the Brock of Shalom not because one another thing is that he killed zimri Zimmer in Cosby it's why he needed a bra Shawn nuther he is he created harmony Clara was in a chaotic state he created her me he got the breath of show and marriage is also that concept of oneness two people coming together to create a one this a child is the result of oneness when male and female come together to create and once a child's that which manifests and that's also like a ferris and Jewish thought is called rahama mercy it's not too much faster than not too much there's rocking there's that balance that's why the place where child was born the creation of one this is the rasa the womb the place of oneness now rasa and in back to original concept represents the console of a current affair so one of the greatest paradigms of liquor in TfL is I say and Llosa say I say a mitzvah the myths us to do the positive Commandments those are the occur those are building your connection with us and building your love fresh I'm building the relationship a little sachets are that which create boundaries they create the structure they create the limitation of that which will potentially break and destroy your relationship and connection with Russia now give you a Marshall when you have a factory the purpose of the factory is to build that's the fact we have a fence around the factory that's you just that which is tough that's just to enable the factory to thrive and to prevent unwanted people from coming in when you have a marriage the real Iker of the marriage is building the relationship the fact that you're not supposed to betray one another is not building the relationship it just prevents the food relationship from breaking down the purpose of life is to build it's to be kind it's to grow the tough fell that which enables that is to also don't break things down don't destroy don't be corruptive and just one great illustration of this example is I say no hello so say one of the most fascinating concepts and Abajo you're not allowed to do a mitzvah which was the result of nivara there's something called MIT Sahaba Bavaria so for example you can't steal a lulav and then shake Louisville submits our Bubba there there's one exception which is when the Mitzvah and the heir come big nough at the same time so for example you're allowed to wear it sisters with shaatnez on it and you're allowed to do there's an insert to cut off your ass from any part of the body but when it's on the Bruce Mila you're laughs - Kyle off of the organ because you're doing the myths of Bruce Mila while you conflicts Rass and the question is why well what's the idea of a Sado hallucis a so the first option is that a knock out there I say knocks out the Louis outside that I say is so important it knocks out the law so say the second option is that it's a net gain let's say the AH say is ten positive points and the Llosa say is five negative points we'd rather get the net gain of five points so you can do it so the third option is that we can define the act in one way so we can define it as a positive act with a fourth option most fundamental option is that we can redefine the Llosa say as being positive so the whole purpose of the Louis essay is to create the structure of allowing you to build a relationship with Hashem but on the only reason you're doing this Louis sa the only reason is that in itself is allowing you enabling you and itself is an essay bringing you closer to Hashem then we can redefine it almost like in a very lush ma or as something which is a Uyeda loss or a Holly or something which is actually inherently good that's creating that connection now we're not gonna get more into the lung disk because this is very connected to su give Kim let me grab a BA or we have that same same different options or IMAP Ellis lower shown with a cloud similar topic but the idea is is that the occur what's really important in life is always what should be at the forefront of your consciousness and this is the idea of offering music and Yaakov said didn't I Ferris Alvin I'm always represents the beginning the beginning of a process he is you know hath Luxor him proactively opening up his house on all four sides Ruth and beginning of Clay Shaw endless expansion every one from high school emanates and comes from lovino the beginning is always represented by Avram the first reference moon s ring is from harem chakras the first wheel in the morning that's a groom he it's luck always represents restriction and self-control that's why he gets hook repeated everything out for him did he read ugh the wells he we went down to meet Ryan he repeated going with a female he even looked the same as Avril the Gemara says that the first person of age was after him because these Huck looked exactly like him and I haven't wanted to give you talk an independent identity so he allowed his to have his own sense of self so I've an agent starts a little different than the at a desk it's Huck is the binding of you talk restriction holding yourself back self-control that's why Google Agee bore is a keyboard what's go around brewers also connected to dim he's a deeper mission kobish a seat sir someone who controls his e sahara strength is not just physical Mike its self controlled restriction holding yourself back that's then that's why the cause I'll also say that's someone who was able to have self control and control himself is even stronger than someone who can surround the control of city questions wise and say he's stronger than so who can conquer City cuz Niebuhr is not about conquering it's about control it's saying that it's even greater to be able to control what's the inner battle inside of yourself and to be able to control and surround an outer battle outside yourself and Yaakov represents the Barris Yaakov is M s teaching Emma's Leo Kovak of the story activist the idea of oneness of perfect balance he had the 12th shot them of Clara Clara are all the individual pieces coming together and melting it's that one that's that perfect balance and harmony and the real idea here is that we have to recognize the importance of the current offer we have to understand what's important in life but we also have to be able to harmonize all the different components of our life and don't want us then it'll actually emotional the physical all the aspects of ourselves we have to recognize that oneness in that harmony and we have to also recognize what's really important to us how we spend our time what we talk about what we desire as a mirror into who we are and when we read can recognize what's important to us and we can build on that and develop a thicker and we can really build a life of one is a life of Harmony bringing together hazard in antivirus [Music] [Applause]