CHAZAQ Shiur with Rav Mordechai Finkelman on "The Fountain of Youth"

the rabis mayor of I want to thank very much uh for inviting me to come here it's a big for me to come here and to see on a Sunday night there are many many things that we can do we heard from ra shita the big that there are the tremendous amount of entertainment that that's at everybody's fingertip and we have precious Yen who come together for with kak a for me to see this so what we heard was that if we from if we Mar if we recognize the sweetness of the Torah so we'll realize that all the T in the world can be dissolved in this sweetness and we can continue to stand up for what's right when we have a world that has come to a point of the of the the Maul began with with what kind of a last the sons of Judges who were not afraid of punishment their fathers were judges they saw as bam they saw the girls in the world they said that they could have fun things were good they took anybody else's wife whatever they wanted that's how it began but M says did not seal the decree of the Maul until they made a legal contract for two men when they did that Hashem said no more chances if a person sins and he knows it's a sin it's a sin that's one level who'll do chv but if a society could say say a sin is legal it is no more sin it is okay something's very wrong and the came for that so I'd like to move from the point that we came to with ra and explain a little bit more about this sweetness of the Torah when I was young I went to Yesa we studied in the secular studies history and we met an Explorer his name was ponon many of you probably remember heard of him he was searching the world for the Fountain of Youth he believed somewhere in this world there is a water that if a person immerses himself in this water he comes out young a 80y old person a 90y old person he believed it was a fountain of youth he never found it but as I watched my parents Shalom and my grandmother mother my mother's mother I thought to myself when I was 15 years old I have seen the Fountain of Youth what is the beauty of Youth why do we all appreciate the young and enjoy the young because the young are always changing they're always improving there's excitement in watching that the newborn baby when the baby begins to focus with their eyes and they start to smile because they recognize people around them and they begin to smile it's exciting there's an improvement there's change then the baby starts to crawl and then to walk and then to talk and then to learn can go to school a bar mitzvah a Mitzvah changing and improving the young people marriage than they have children more changes and it's exciting what happens then do they stop improving do they they stop changing then they're getting old I was born post World War II my parents came here as teenagers during the war my mother Shalom had to go to public school there was only one B aov when she as a teenager came to America and she had learned too much in Europe there was no class for her in the BET Yakov so they couldn't take her in she went to public school so when my parents married and we were born into this world my parents had become more Americanized so we went to the movies to the theater to the beach we didn't seat the way we find in today's in the betov but our parents sent us to good and we came home and I remember when I was a seven-year-old child and my older sister was nine and my sister said to my mother you know I see the mommies in the betov they were a hat they covered their hair that night my mother had a hat change when I was 9 years old I came home from Yesa my rebi had said was A step above the next day everything change overnight when I was 10 years old my father Shalom came home from a from theen and he announced to the family and all of us children he announced this to us while we were sitting on the floor in front of the television he had heard in that sh the r said this box this television will destroy the American culture not the Jewish culture he he said the entire America will be brought down by this box so my father announced this box must go it must go and he wouldn't give it away to a Jew of he wouldn't cause somebody else to do what he was told tonight that that sh was a sin he went next door to an apartment house he brought in two go and he pointed to the piece of furniture in the living room he said if you can carry that it's yours and my grandmother Shalom she said what are you doing we have no linen closet in this house it's a small very small apartment keep the piece of furniture let them have what's inside the furniture let them take out the television but ke said no the rav said it has to go tonight they'll take it out I didn't understand what that was because like my brother says when he tells the story over it was a very sad night in our house we lost our best friend but of course it picked up our Liv lives dramatically we we changed as people because of it but it was a hard night but that still didn't teach me the Fountain of Youth when I was 15 years old and my younger brother became Bar Mitzvah so my mother graduated from wearing a hat and she bought herself a p she bought herself a wig and her mother who spent much time in our home who was 70 at the time that my mother was 35 she was 70 she said you know that's a good idea I too will buy myself a p and that's struck me Pon Leon did not know what the Fountain of Youth was if a 70-year-old woman can still improve can still change because her daughter is changing that's the Fountain of Youth this 7year old woman is Young there are some 20 year olds who are old and aging because they not changing they're not developing they're not still improving the Fountain of Youth is the Torah that gives us the ability to always grow when I was 17 years old my friends and I would would go at least once or twice a week to a nursing home near our Yesa Palm Gardens nursing home not far from Torah and one of my experiences was there was once a man there he was in his early 60s but he was paralyzed from the neck down his head he was able to move but that's all so he had to be in the nursing home and his his wife sat next to him whenever we came she was there right by his next to his bed we came in the mornings because he wanted to put Onin he wanted so we would take his he made the he was able to speak very clearly and we put thein on for him and his wife sat and cried because it's much harder to watch somebody suffer than to suffer she was seeing her husband she felt he was suffering but he would turn to her when he could talk after the shos was on and he would say to her that's when I realized he was a real American he looked like a European Jew had a big white beard and peot I didn't realize until he said this the first morning that he's certainly born in America he says to her what are you crying about this is great I'm ding I'm putting on filling this is wonderful he was like a young person paralyzed in bed but excited about life the Fountain of Youth when a person has Torah they no matter what age they don't change there was a man in in in my neighborhood in B Park raom I lived a few doors away from him he was 72 years old his wife passed away so after the sh he said look now I am alone what should a man do if he is alone he's like a b I'll go back to youa so he went to the mfta of Stalin in Bor Park and signed up for the 10th grade class he joined the 10th grade class at that point in time I hadn't yet learned and I did not know that you're not supposed to ask a re how his student is cuz you might hear something you shouldn't hear I didn't know the yet unless it's your child and you have to know about them so I went over to the Reby of the 10th grade in Stalin I I daved with him in SHO and I said well how was your new student you know his 72 year old student in a class with 15 year olds he said he is great he learns very well but it's hard on the students in the class because every day after the Shure I would send them down to the dining roomp for lunch but R niss he blocks the door he says you're going to go down to lunch after a Shure like this without dancing we have to dance first after a Shure like this and he would make the boys dance for the Torah and then they went down to lunch he was when he was 92 years old 20 years later and he was bedridden and his grandchildren and great-grandchildren they took turns by his bed they wanted that privilege see even then he couldn't get out of bed but he was excited one of his grandsons is a friend of mine he said zi laid there in bed and he said isn't it great to have the T you could lay in bed and still do six Mitzvah continuously the Mitzvah that are in the heart and in the mind not believing in six Mitzvah he was young Pon had no idea he he Wast in his life looking for a pool but we have it the Torah is called May that's what it's called and my re wson just last night he shared with us Z which he really has shared with us in the past the Z translates two that we say every week right before we speak about the by the day of they realized that the changes in nature the lightning the Thunder the smoke it was exactly what they heard what they had a tradition from their ancestors happened by the Maul and they were afraid the flood is coming back and they ran to B and they said as we say I think it's m we say it right before right has returned to to the Maul he's coming he's bringing the Maul again we were told by our ancestors for the past 10 Generations that this is what happened to the world before the Maul what's we thought Hashem promised no more Maul will never happen again so bam answered them no this time is not a maul what did he mean by that tells us tells us that wanted to bring the Tor to the 10th Generation 10 is the highest level there are 10 there are 10 we are perfecting the seven mid that we can perfect from and now we're in the week of Mal to but we don't even count above that we don't count the 50th day even though it says in the Torah we count but is above and we don't we don't have a have a ability to touch that so we have the from through which even though we can learn the Tor but there's such high levels that we don't we don't give weeks to that that's itself that's above so in the 10th door the 10th Generation the door of no brought down the of in that's why the says Where do we see to the T it says before the Maul came the the man is just flesh and they gave into their materialistic drives and their wants as we described what happened in the Maul they legalized sinful living they gave in says the but was all over the Tor what kind of an answer is that we see all over the Tor it meant besides the besides his life in the Tor by so the Torah was supposed to come down to that generation and it had to come down to that generation but it couldn't come down to people who were T who who tame so it came down as physical water as much spiritual water as the Toyah has came but it came physically that was a ma so they were right theim it was exactly the same experience as the Maul and they were afraid of it and that's exactly what happened but bam explained to them this time it's the same amount of water but it's it's is giving strength to his Nation who were willing to take it who wanted it who said we trust you Hashem we don't have to know what it says the will do everything it says whatever you will tell us we will do so Shalom that gives CL the ability that we have Shalom we should have and I think all of us have Shalom with all the rest of Cl is we said toim last week for that we should be able to keep the Tor here and that even if some people in the government of Isel don't understand the Torah and try to uproot the the the Torah the trua movement it shouldn't work we should be able to continue serving Hashem so asked me after the are we are we praying that bad things should happen to our brothers who are against us they said that's not what the prayer is about they should do we say about our brothers Hashem should humble the Sinners and bring them back and they should do chv I once had this discussion with an Israeli soldier but he didn't understand what I was doing I was the only Kain on that tour I was alone outside and they gave us an hour to say to so he was watching me watching me I said he asked me like what I have to believe what am I doing he I said I don't know I never checked it out but I know one thing this is and for sure in this city the are buried and I said we don't DAV to them we never DAV to a person when we stand by a k and we are it's but we want Express Mail I'm a simple person I explain it to him I'm not sure my goes right away into sh there are so many barriers blocking the wrot that I did there are barriers Shabbat over the everything goes right up the 10 people with a or Shabbat but a week day I'm alone Side by a c of a sadik by care of a parent they love me and they'll take the express mail overnight maybe faster that's who all it is but we D into has so we got into a whole conversation about believing in believing in Tor he hates being in is he told me he hates being in the Army and I told only because he doesn't know who he is if he know he's he would be so happy to be in Israel back and forth finally he gets very upset he says I was born three years after in he says they Tau me I was taught to hate you and your Tor so what do you want from me I said him I don't I understand you hate me I have no problem you're a third generation son I I have no problem I understand it we love you and I want one thing I told him for your sake not for my sake for your sake so go to the Cel to be when you in front of the cotel turn around and look up you'll see a sign go up the steps to that bit mid bang on the and announce to the people they're nice people they won't throw you out you bang you announce the a and if you let them teach you who you are you will love you will love being a soldier you'll appreciate what you're doing that's all I said but I have no problem we don't we love each other the T gives a person inner peace we're not afraid we're not we have no problem with everybody else if a if a person knows he's living right so he has inner peace he has no problem so the the the the Tor is the opposite of the Maul the Maul with damaging Waters destroying the world the is we just went through enjoy where we spoke about the re of one of the N that we sing on that day of the of the anniversary of receiving the Z when was we sing the last m the last why how how do Weil by learning Tor Tor is the word of hasem we're all over the when it quotes a it says the compassionate one says T is the word of Hashem wanted to veil in the mikah of Hashem we learned T so what the Maul was in damage the Torah is in building it's the Builder that's that's part of the sweetness of it it gives us inner peace it keeps us Young no matter how old we are we're always improving we can always change there's never an end we can't learn enough a person could live 500 years he wouldn't finish the whole Torah he wouldn't finish all the I'd like to share with you a mid you could look it up it's on last week's par the par that always ushers in the of it's the second Y in and I heard this more than 35 years ago from turn he was the of the in B Park he was about a year ago now his son living be well he to go over the sh but I heard it from the Father the the story goes as follows this is we discussed already how the came to to the and they were so they want what's going on is there a he said no no so what was the what happened after that says the mid so the nations were jealous of us when they saw this and they said to Bam what's going on how come it fit to be more than the Nations more than us he was them so what was the answer who answered it's a mid the mid is very brief it says answered he closed their mouths he told them through the bring me your ancestry show me who you come from bring me your ancestry like my children bring in and they were quiet said turn hour I don't understand two things in this med one is us more than if you love somebody don't you go to them first if you have some your wife made a delicious cake and gave you a few pieces of it and you want to show how wonderful what a baker your wife is you go to your best friend first want to taste this cake it's wonderful it's I'm going to Dy it then you go to the next best friend but first you go to your best friend went to all first said do you want the I live like this I can't take it sorry go try somebody else say I can't I can't live that not possible you have to be moral morality I can't have morality go to somebody else whatever says that's called comes to us last where's the second question closed their mouths by asking for about is very good to have grandparents and Shay for us you wonder sometimes how come this person this because there's someone ding in but as far as we concerned the has a Mas an unbelievable aboutus he says there was a king who had a guard dog very expensive dog to keep alive a big dog that ate expensive meats and dogs don't live so long the the king outlived a few guard dogs this dog became old wasn't effective they had to buy a new dog for him and they told the king you know it's not fear to the treasury to have to support a dog that doesn't protect you anymore we have to put the dog to sleep I mean if no no you can't do that to my devoted dog I'll take care of the dog so the king went to a room says where he kept relics from his Hunting Expeditions on the wall you know they take the skins and they dry them we we wouldn't do it but they do it and they save the Skins so he took a wolf's skin off the wall threw it on top of the dog m not not enough took a beer skin on top of the wolf skin still not then took a lion skin on top of the other two skins he says to the DU now nobody's going to start up with you everyone's going to be afraid of you every no one's you'll be okay till the day you die you'll be safe in the woods you'll get food to eat no one's going to start up with you he took the dog and said goodbye sent it into the forest says that all the animals ran away from this new animal they were frightened so many teeth and so many feet and so many who who was this animal they ran to their King the arier the lion they said we need your help there's a ferocious animal never anything like it says don't worry I'll take care of you follow me and he goes ahead of them and he sees this animal he stays and keeps his distance and he Roars from a distance what are you and the dog barks back my father was a wolf so the lion comes a little bit closer what are you my grandfather was a beer lion comes a little bit closer what are you my great-grandfather was a lion so the lion is what he's dealing with so he goes face to face and Roars what are you I'm a dog so we have to be something is very nice and for us but by hasem we have to make ourselves something closed their mouth by saying bring you that's not what counts what counts is who are we not who our father was who our Z was it's nice it's nice to have good but that's not what it's about life is about us are we that lion are we that beer who are we so closed their mouth he said such a beautiful hbar so imagine you come to school on the first day imagine that everyone sitting here that you're you're an elementary school student going from Seventh to e8th grade everybody has a card in their hand they got in the mail what class they're going to but orientation everybody sits together the beginning then you're told take your card and go to your classroom and the gets up says and he says okay we have rules in this school that's how he starts out his dra there's a dress code you don't dress right you're out there's a speech code you don't speak in a fine way you're out food what kind of food you can bring to Yesa and after he finishes all the rules now take your card and go to your class so people will feel what kind of school is this there's not a school there's a prison I don't want to be here I'm not coming back tomorrow but if theal gets up with a smile and he says welcome hope you had a great summer hope you got your back we have a wonderful year prepared for you we have shabbatones and we have contests and we all kinds of wonderful things are going to go on and speaks the B says and they're also rules you have to keep certain regulations oh this we could hear the had an unbelievable they said when we asked what does it say in the T said we found out that the first thing said was I love you ifem would have said that to us when we said also say yes we also say yes whyem say l l l low rules rules rules rules us that's a good that's a good that's mid responded not who is your father what did he do how did he raise you if I cannot tell you Ln Lov how often do you want to steal when you're very hungry how often not every minute of every day not every day of the week if I can't tell you if I cannot tell you how could I possibly say that is the hardest of all the it's 24 hours a day every second to remember you are a prince you are a princess how do I look how am I behaving how am I driving am I too aggressive one of my children when they were seven years old I was coming back from a doctor's appointment on a short Shabbat 411 and we were coming to go back to Bora Park from Manhattan I was going the the longest way I thought would be the shortest way around Long Island rather than through Manhattan says by the thog Neck Bridge before easy path you only had two choices those who are close to my age remember you only had either exact change or you waited in the line for change No Easy Pass so I didn't have change even though it was a short of Shabbat I had to stay in line waiting for my chance to get the change to go through the toll my little son realized hey a whole bunch of cars are going in the exact change lane but they don't have change either when they get to the front they go into our lane they just save themselves time he said to me why can't you do that look what they're doing I said are you angry at them does it bother you he said yes I said we are hidden we cannot anger people we can't we have to be clean and neat when we walk in the street how do we speak Shalom I had many times it happened to me over the years that I'm driving someone hit my car either destroyed it or at least damaged it can we get out and scream like a maniac no we have to get out and be civil even if we're upset even if we lost the car or whatever else we didn't lose our life but I've seen people get out and scream like does that take the dent out of the car does it does make the car beautiful again if we scream I never saw it happen what does it do it it it's not for that was the answer who said how could I tell you that's every second of the day 24 hours a day seven days a we if you can't do a simple thing like how and I think that that's that was the first of the and that's it's not just of course it's but a part of is it's an inborn love forem for for that's what it it's really is you look at preschool children they're enthusiastic about everything they learn in Tor about every mitvah because we're born with that a just the older we get we take in all kinds of poisons so with dolls Thea and the AA all the different poisons of the world outside but preschool children they're not poisoned yet they're excited I remember one of my own children when he was just under three was sitting at the supper table together I wanted the children to appreciate that M made supper they should always say thank you and say it's very delicious so I tried different ways so that night I said to the children who's the best cook in the world this little fell who's just in play group he yells out Hashem I looked at him Hashem the best cook in the world he Hashem is the best everything I said you're right who's the second best cook in the world right but why you say Hashem because we're born with that we're BN if we're bored by it's something wrong since we're little children something happened little children don't have a problem with they don't have a problem unless they see a bad example in but if they don't we're born such who raised you how can I such an important relationship but it's Mish a relationship of love and I'll just I'll take one more Avenue of this I'm watching the clock to we finish hopefully by by 10 but listen to these and we see how powerful this relationship is what does it really mean if we translate it so very often Shalom he says it's two parts I am God that's for the whole world is the god of everyone if they keep they have a they also have to believe in one of is not to be an idal worshipper they have to be moral that's why they had a ma they have a responsibility to be moral they're not allowed to have what they call equal rights either equal rights they could have for for help to be able to live the right way the government should pay for that but not to to say it's okay to live in sin that that doesn't they're not allow to say that they have a and they have for that also but we have us and and what happened was is that we have failings but we have to believe that said that we can do chuah there's no such thing as but I'm so much in the habit I'm an addict I keep going back to it we can check change I once had that experience I heard it from a English principal one the where I taught so I had a big sign on the wall from all the of that era who were alive theni the father of the thein was alive all these and they all signed and they wrote a long letter about the dangers of Television that was the worst thing you could have in those days in your house today much worse things that come into the house that was the worst thing there was no cable in those days what come through that but but so I had a sign on the wall and many B the parents my P told me they're proud of their children they're in the house with the television but they don't come into the den and they were proud of their children because they H that it is right just they didn't want to give it they felt they were addicted so inauguration was a Friday that year president I think it was Reagan's inauguration was January 20th on a Friday so the English teacher announced she's bringing in a television to the classroom for the children to watch the inauguration so you know how children are they like conflict it's exciting to see if there's an argument you know that's normal so the children said to me rebi the English teacher said tomorrow she's bringing in a television to show us the inauguration what do you think of that so I believe very strongly that if you work for a place you defend that place you don't speak against the place you work for you have to that's the truth you have to be loyal if you work someplace so I said I can understand why does it says always a person should run to the to the kings of the Gentiles to watch their honor so that when Masia will come we'll see what real honor is but if we never see the honor of the how will we understand how great is the honor of mhia so she wants you to see the honor of the president the 21 gun salute Hail to the Chief all the things that go on by inauguration I understand it how do I feel that in might mid because we learned Torah in this classroom that kind of a machine is coming in I'm not so comfortable but I understand it I understand why we would do it why you should see it and then I went on with the the class with the day come the next morning Friday morning I come to class the whole are at my door what did you tell the boys yesterday what did you tell them why parents are calling up they want the children sent home before but course bringing in a television you're against I said I'm against it I didn't say I I just say I'm not so comfortable in my bit midash to bring in that machine because there's so many other things that come with that machine but I did not speak a word again I told him what I said so one of the English principles were a few principles one said to me a young man why are you so against it I said if you come into my classroom I'll show you the sign now the children were already in the room ready for by this time and they were very excited this is what they wanted you know this is the excitement they tried to create and they're getting it so I brought in the this English principal and they were very quiet because this is what you know and he read the whole sign and he turned around and said to the boys he says boys I want to tell you something everything it says on this sign is absolutely true cuz I was raised with that machine and I am an addict and I probably will never stop but I I do see all these things all the time whatever the ranim wrote is true and I understand what your rebi is saying and he left the room and we we went we D he came back at the end of and he announced I spoke to the teacher she's going to bring a radio and you'll hear the inauguration you won't see the inauguration but what did he say I am an addict I probably will never stop I want you to know I am still very friendly with that man not only he stopped he took it out of his home he has been t as children so he could change because the Torah is like that honey there's no such thing we are never never never addicts not us cuz the Torah can change the person it's just not part of our life we can feel that way because the world around us talks about addictions but there's another mentioned about meat falling into honey and writes that the meat dissolves it becomes part of the honey it's not it's not considered meat if it goes into milk anymore that will not be considered meat because honey dissolves the food that's in it like it dissolves the bee it dissolves the meat it's noral meat it's a piece of the honey it has become honey that's theat it's not a bug that's assur it's honey it's not meat it's honey and that's the says the to us in in one of the the seven after said we have sinned so badly we cause the has left me my master has forgotten me responds through the can a mother forget her child can I forget you because you sinned no matter what you did you brought aan we brought theban that's what that's what really happened sent us warnings and warnings and warnings and warnings and we didn't want to hear them so we buried yahu up to his neck in the sand we put him in prison we tried to hide him he shouldn't tell us cuz we didn't want to hear what's right we were enjoying the sin says can a woman forget her child can the compassionate mother forget the the the the child of her of her womb sometimes yes a mother might forget her child maybe human beings maybe but me I will never forget you never the sin is just dirt with soap we wash it off and you're the same child it's just I I will never forget you will never happen so the G translates this that that our conversation with who was that you how will you ever forget the that we made right after the we hurt you so much says yes I can forget that was said by theel I could so we asked says but if you can forget the eel maybe you're going to forget us too maybe you're going to forget our relationship if you could forget something as powerful as the egel has a have there's two parts to that for the world doesn't say globally I am CL 's God every one of you I took you out of me you every one of us who were hasem took us individually loves us individually watches us individually there for everybody there's a personal relationship I will never forget what does that mean how how are we a Jew what does it mean a Jew a breath of hasem is cuz breathes himself into us every Jewish child from Abraham and Sarah a boy and a girl every G every they are so they immediately when they become a Jew they have a breath of is is in us he is one with us so said a mother and a baby are two entities maybe maybe a mother could tog get her baby sometime if there's such a big rift between them maybe she could put the child out of her mind but but I'm part of you can a person forget themselves can a person forget themselves we are one it's impossible to forget ourselves how much are we one so I'll just read from how much are we won so we have a it says I hear my beloved he's knocking on my door he's giving me opportunities to serve him I mean I can't get over how many people came here tonight it's beautiful it's such a for is for is that hasem gave us an opportunity and you opened the door but the says no many Jews don't want to open the door open up for me please says my sister why my sister were husband and wife in sh but a husband and wife could divorce sister can't divorce forever and ever and ever it's blood relative so we we ask could you be my brother if you're my husband then we could have a divorce I want you to be my brother so answers us I'm I'm marrying you but a relationship like a sister that we can never separate my spouse my Dove a dove is a bird that's that's loyal to its mate unlike other birds my twin what kind of a twin he says that the M explains a Siamese twin an attached twin how do I know these twins if one twin gets a headache the other twin feels the headache if you ever have an acre of pain I am suffering with you I'm attached to you I'm in you I breathed myself into you and I'm with you and if you suffer I suffer but it's worse than that that's just if we suffer Hashem suffers it's more says when we do a sin it's like somebody who gets who gets drunk it says in the a person does not sin he's attached to hasem unless he's temporarily a spirit of idiocy went into him cuz how would he do that he has Hashem in him and he sin imagine Hashem gives USA we take the and we go to a place without gave us and we go and ramp around in some place that was so upset he's with us and he's inside us the pain of Hashem by the says because is in us but the person doesn't feel it cuz while he's sinning he has no he's he's numb he's like a shiku the shiku doesn't feel he's drunk but his wife and his children are so embarrassed there they're embarrassed he's not embarrassed he's running around he's throwing up he's making noise cuz he is numb he's drunk but but the the family is very very hurt is she's part of us that's what it is and that's what is about that's what we we we're reminding ourselves how close we are toes how close is to us we stand there again it's the Tor is written is future tense we'll speak spoke future tense will'll call and he called in this reading that we read three times a year in the morning but it's repeated again and then which is the of it says MOS Moshe will speak not Once Upon a Time spoke he will speak in every generation and every year three times a year in the and if if women can or can't come but if they to be part of the of the of the community where the the women have a different role they can't always come to B but they they also part and when the reads those words it's will speak will respond not responded every door we hear again did you notice that on we have there's what's the what the we have all the time what is the is not about what we do it's about who we are we are a twin AE twin with and we carry him with us and it's it's shalom that's what it brings us if we are we know what he's talking about he said two things that we understand look around see who are the most calm satisfied people who feel good about their life people who live with the Torah they feel good about life they have inner peace if they have inner peace they could love everybody the only time we don't love someone is if we're not at peace with ourselves a person that's at peace with themselves finds in that he loved everybody so everybody loves him so everybody comes to his K from the most F far far away to the biggest dancing together and singing together was so comfortable that he loved every ye and what else did say that we say every day in how beautiful are your homes and of there's a storm outside of a storm a blizzard to make us cold from the Tor but you come into the warm home of a close that door the street doesn't come in there it's a every day 365 days a year we don't bring in the we don't bring in the said we don't bring in the T we leave it out in the street and the house is M an oasis of the water of the mikah hasem of the opposite of my of the water that builds so we should be it's so beautiful that so many men and women who after a whole day you're probably so tired staying awake a big for yourselves said when a person Put on We are so attached to each other somebody in Paris feels like doing chva really bki said two weeks ago at Mya dinner to a that dinner he said there are certainly 35 million Jews in America the census says 52 million but he said there were 6 million before World War II in America nobody left America from World War II till today very few Jews left and for every Jew who left many came from other countries so we should have six times as many Jews now as we had then but they don't know that they're Jewish they don't sign up in the census so it says we only have 5 a half million when we had in 19 you know 33 we had 6 million he says that means that there are really over 35 million Jews here but they don't know it but if we live right they're going to wake up as they're going to wake up as we're attached to each other we have a we are a so there of such wonderful like yourselves we came to ourselves before the to the before the we came to be and we should go to the not as we should commit ourselves to get rid of any that we might have in our hand so that we should be able to be each one of us who are here and all of Cl who's not here B Shalom with the ability to live a life of inner peace of being self-satisfied and loving each other being for those who don't love us they should do we don't say but to be if we live in peace if we could live the way wants will bench the whole world with Shalom not only Shalom but he'll bench the whole world with Shalom is a special time of for that Chau to blow hopefully we'll be to find ourselves hearing the words of