CHAZAQ's Torah Talks #96 Rabbi Mayer Friedman - The Gift of Shabbat

[Music] foreign Tuesday night program with special guests tonight we are with us Rabbi mayor Friedman Street great to see you welcome to the kazak headquarters and uh we're really excited to be speaking about the gift of Shabbat or shout outs and uh but before we do the topic if we could get a little bit back in about the rabbi and the great work you're involved with and the Shabbos the shop is Yeshiva that the rabbi is involved with as well yes so I'm I'm a member of the caller of Dover Feinstein um Feinstein and mtj yeah mtj and in that capacity um I was offered to give a share in a college campus uh in Manhattan and as many years ago and I gave a share over there and then after that I started giving Sherman other college campuses so I was going both in the cola and of David encouraged me to to go into give you know every time a different share would come up I would ask him should I go out to give the share because I'm going to call and said you know that's what you're in the cold that's what you're for you're here go go Teach as well so that I was doing that for a little while my father-in-law was right Rabbi London and I've been London and and my mother's in London they would go to NYU to help dominion and NYU and also they would go to Brooklyn College to help Dominion in Brooklyn College and they would learn with students at night let's say NYU had a chakra London would go at night he would learn with students then also he would also talk to students in the kosher cafeteria to come in the morning to help the minions she would go at night then he would help the minion in the morning and he also would go with Brooklyn College helping the they had a mental minion back then and I was also teaching at various colleges at that time so Robin London had an idea and he said you know what Shabbos you know say the Shabbos was given you know for Learning and we have enough the guys during the week are busy the boys and the girls during the week are busy in college or Shabbat they're available so let's use the Shabbat as an opportunity for them to come to grow and so he went ahead and he created a situation he took he took his house and he made rooms in his house he made it in a way that they could accommodate boys one shot that's a month of boys one childish a month of girls and this is in Brooklyn this is in Brooklyn and uh more Hashem people were very excited about it because we yes you have to learn during the week also I mean obviously going to the campuses during the week but it's never enough and now also the environment in the college campus if I was a very challenging environment and here you have a special environment that the focus of the Chavez is to grow the focus is London was Torah activism to be active in Torah make the guys activists they should go back to the college Inspire them encourage them she'll go back to the college to grow and to during the week as well so that was the program and through that program the guys so many guys made best friends as a result of that program um I know many of the guys and they tell me how amazing it is and how uh you know they look forward to it and it's just an amazing thing and uh unbelievable how long has this been going on foreign how it's done you know Friday night they have a beautiful student London Cooks up beautiful suda um with we have special speaker Rodney from the meaning Yeshiva comes every Friday night that we have it we speak every Friday night wow that we have it and uh we have we encourage the boys to give their Torah and then we had and we have Friday night we have cabusa learning afterwards the guys come together we go to the show nearby and the guys uh stagger way then they enjoy each other's company but the meal is also it's very relaxed very enjoyable the guys are chilling in a very positive way it's not about drinking you know we're not that's not that's not our focus and the guys get to know each other they grow together and then we have Sean this morning we go to whether ashkenazm go to an astronaut sure funny now we have an old combo happening Friday night that everybody we have a beautiful couple at that we're gonna make our own Minion Java's day we go different shows depending and then depending on the time of the year whether I'll give a share Friday night or I'll give us we'll have our own kid and Shabbos let's say now the shot of us is getting longer have our own kid in Shabbos after the happening and then after the kiddish I'll give a sheer and then we'll have beautiful sudo again we have we have students coming we encourage the students to speak again I can see that you many times I've been a guest speaker at the rivers in London does commitments in London's itself felt that a person should take away from the Shabbos you know you're growing on the Shabbos now you're really up to the challenge you already have your children you already had so much a Friday night and and the deafening and the learning and now let's see what you can take upon yourself for the next month a Kabbalah many people have made different commitments and by the way what goes on in the boys program goes on in their growth program also amazing Universal London puts together amazing top of the line speakers to speak to speak to the girls and she spends so much time she advised she's become a great advisor for the girls and he had so many weddings thank God to go to thank God Hashem and um so we have so we have that safe then Chavez afternoon we have a break for the guys we give them a little couple hour break and then we all depending on the time of the year is again where they'll have a special speaker sometimes I'm a speaker from the OU some of them I have a different types of speakers and then we'll have recorder every element you know what do you say the topping on the cake an icing on the cake whatever it is and then they so they remember every man saw all the years since the other shows so we we have to go back we took it from day one we felt you know you want to bring the guys to the one of the top speakers around so we go to him and we go there and then we come back we have Abdullah and that's and the people grow and then people take it with them and they bring friends and and it's uh Hashem never enough so uh that's a little bit about the how the Chavez is and I've been London London was credited the first about souvenirship in the world really the 1940s wow and that's h-a-i-c and London said look look what I've done I want other people to follow and other people have made other YouTubers this was 1940 where 1940s early 40s in the bench in the back of Yeshiva turvidas sorry my name is London London was originally and he left he went there was opened up half a time not when I was in foreign and his students became became a famous Shiva and and all the regular mainstream receivers wanted students and they've gone on to become great members of the Jewish World the many different ways so many famous students have come from Babylon amazing yeah you guys are very inspiring and I I like I said I get tremendous feedback from whenever guys that you know people go to uh the Shabbat Yeshiva and uh influenced uh so many people uh via Shabbat experiences maybe you could just please speak a little bit about the the greatness of Shabbat as opposed to maybe once you have a nice meal during the week and have some guys like this you know Hashem says the seventh day which is Chavez and he made it holy and Chavez is the mechanic the source so when a person Chavez you're in you're enveloped in caduce is you might not you might not uh see it but it's there it's a Mathias like you know the balatorium in this week's Parsha in vayaka invayako he says that the parisha connects to Lester's parashat he seesaw it talks about the glow emotions face current or panov and this expansion is gathered the Jewish people together and he talks about the Lords of Shabbos so the balaturam says the connection to the glow of the face of Moshe in the midst of Shabbos because every kill has a glow there's a special kadusha there's a special radiator special Holiness so when you're tapping in the Shabbos like I think that some of this forms say the learning of Chavez is greater and that's what it says even learned during the week is great but you're tapping and you're in you're in such a level of kadusha such a level Holiness so when you so therefore we are we're in a great Advantage you know Shabbos people having a dislaves people have have the Heart is Open much more open you know people get distracted during the weak and their mind is a little you know all over the place become Chavez able to focus in and and that could do something so we have the extra why you have the Champions people tap into and that Holiness in the chamber senses and uh and we you use the Shabbos to tap in to that Holiness and then you'll have the Holiness of the Torah study which is holy holy so they have the Torah and Shabbos coming together and really as a med Bishop says you know that says you know he said you're coming there with the swell we're going to be busy they're going to be busy working the you know everybody's going to be busy with their fields a lot but what's going to be what's going to be uh must be with the Torah so the answer was Shabbos you'll have the Shabbos and that will be the time the people will will grow and uh and and say what we're tapping into that how does one practically utilize the gift of Shabbat you know you know I I unfortunately I'm saying fortunate we know a lot of people like Shimmer and the car bring people that are far uh near to Torah I mean so I think for them you know starting off Beginnings a little bit hard it might be difficult for them so you know not to be on the phone or not the electronics not to work so they sleep like throughout a lot of the Shabbat well what's practical tips uh to utilize your about what's the right Shabbat right I think the key is that it should be an enjoyable experience and to make something enjoyable number one you have to first think about how you can have great food for sure you have to get physical you have to get you have great food for the person Shabbat you should try to think about what maybe there's some good nice songs that we could sing because really that's something that we need to sing about it's very important to sing uplift also I think it's important that people should prepare conversation before Shabbat what things of topics that are interesting I remember somebody you know someone asked me Rabbi how do I protect myself not to talk Allah so I said the same way you prepare the food your wife were pissed they spend so much time preparing the physical food what are you doing to prepare the spiritual food even though the physical food is also spiritual and Shabbos but what what what's the conversation are you going to bring up some topics of inspiration topics of Interest I said it doesn't have to be only Torah subjects that you talk at the meal but it should be something of meaning something that's interesting if a person's Married With Children they should look forward to your to you the parents the father the mother going to have certain type of discussions maybe certain types of gains that you're going to talk you know whatever type of games you're going to think about in marriage about table for example we always read a story some of the kids love stories writing stories you know Inspire and connect with uh with people and to add to what the rabbi is saying it says you have to make it you know it just doesn't matter right to add to it right yeah yeah but but that takes planning and I think I think people are missing making a big mistake that the focus is about the food and that's great and it needs to be focused on the food but not enough about what else how am I who even thought one of my thoughts with thoughts it's a conversation how am I spending my time who am I spending my time with do we plan enough who will be the right type of company to have maybe we maybe the company that will be inspirational for us on baby inspirational them and when you inspire others you yourself are getting 100 so you have to we have to think about who's who's your company you have to think about uh maybe you know what the Shabbos is getting longer is there a good class proper total class that ice the husband should go to the wife she goes or the children or something and if there isn't make it happen every you everyone model yeah exactly you can make it 100 there's nothing stopping anybody from making things happen there's a way to do it you know sometimes if you want to do something in the show you have to be diplomatic how you do it how do you do it how you talk to the rabbi and the rabbits and whatever you if you have to the represent evolving for ladies figure out is the rabbi want to give the class for the represent if they're not available let's get somebody else but let's know how to work with the people and make things happen on a long Friday night there are many communities that have connections they have different progress whether the adults with the children it's beautiful they have children Friday night for kids and they have learning and they have things the weather for the adults it's parachute classes in people's Apartments things can happen we got we gotta we got a big Playmakers I always say proactive proactive don't I don't you know when I wanted to play a little basketball I don't like to sit on the bench ah be in the game beautiful that's how you have to be make play don't don't sit back and that's and that's what that's what we have to be you know you know and that's this resource and that part of Jesus you see us in Sean we have to be Azure you're going to get an opportunity anything we're going to make we're going to be the reasons we're never opportunity to do a good thing we should be quick and haste to do it uh so how does one Inspire others to enjoy the gifts of Shabbat for example shabbat's amazing we look forward to it and it's the best thing like sometimes like losing theirselves like this guy doesn't know what he's missing out but how do we give it over to others to uh be part of it uh be part of the fun as they say right so again so I would say if they'll come to your house for Shabbat right and they see the food is amazing very important Hashem gave the food coverage Advantage honoring the Shabbat with such great food so that's number one the meals would be a Blow Away meal that's first of all you have to plan it doesn't just happen right and that takes a lot of effort takes a lot of work costs money won't take away I mean it doesn't mean you're just you should buy a bottle of wine for a thousand dollars I mean they say what's normal and they're not in doing something in a very nice way that's the first thing the second thing is like we said before they should walk away feeling that the conversation at the meal what's really meaningful it came to the house and they were they saw something they heard something they learned something that they didn't know before and and there was something and I think having that type of conversation at the meal and to be engaged that the people at the Mill are engaged and they and they really feel enriched but not just the food but by the conversation I think um they walk away and say you know what I have I don't really have this opportunity I don't have this all the time they don't because people are not engaged enough in my humble opinion many times a lot of people are not engaged in such meaningful conversation that's that that's really you know people could really be hey wow that's something enjoyable I I think I think that's the same way sometimes there are people that give a rabbi gives a Sherman and it gives a speech and it really blows the crowd as wow yeah but I think that's every time we're at a Shopper's table and you have guests you know the truth of the matter is even with one person's blessed with children that it also should be that conversation you know even if there's no guests at the table how is the conversation at the table going to be that the children are engaged not that the children want to get up they eat their food and they go on the couch and they go on the floor and they're doing their thing and then they should want to be tired the part of a conversation because I think also we're living in a time and people don't have so much patience right you know the ads what do you call it HD if they seek the generation so but I think that's that's the planning that's the planning that we need to plan a few things that we do in our house fish about number one is being that the kids are younger we go around the room and we say thank question for something else it shows appreciation and it's also exciting that they have their turn say thank you for anything and everything the food and the light and the family member or a friend or whatever it is another thing that we do on Shabbat day is very exciting they always look forward to it and the suggestion for everyone especially with the the children world is uh Shabbat parties uh you know they have some uh some candies and some sweets and uh I always explain Shabbat is a sweet day that's what we have sweet uh some candies during the week we try to limit the sweet drinks and Shabbat will bring it all out and it makes it exciting 100 fun and for every single person for every single love of every single age it can be different whether it's stories whether it's a certain whether it's a class whether it's a program whether it's electric there I've always been saying so beautifully every single person to take something upon himself to make this about great I should be a new slogan we should start going around and make Shabbat great again it's always been great it's always going to be great Rabbi amazing insights amazing uh we have I mean I have a custom and Torah talks is one final message uh from Rabbi mayor Friedman our special guest on tour talks so I would say that you know we're talking about the shamishiva which is focused on learning we have to remember that the key for the Jewish Community for its growth to be inspired to be passionate is about Torah study at the end of the day when all is said and done we gotta figure out how we get the adults and the children to be involved in total study and the total study is sweet and yes it makes the person happy that's why Tisha both we can't learn regulatory study we have to make sure that everyone like the rambam says every person a high of colada to have a set time every day every night because everybody or whether poor whether single whether married even with children the grandmother says it has to be correlated every day and every night and I think that is the key and also Let's Get Back to Basics people need to get the minion every day morning at night that's the basics that was and that was the key that many years of the 50 years ago or 40 years ago that generation that went Dominion they made it we have to go back to the basics minion every day not just people go to Sean Chavez and Shabbat not enough they have to be in you have to be in the game you have to be in it don't be in the sidelines don't be a fan and you know they used to be in it to win it not an encouraging Lotto but you gotta be in it Go Portugal the menu and also make sure set up you know the easiest time to do it is before diving after diving in the morning or at night or whenever you can figure it out have a set time to learn minion you know I think that's that's the winning combo 100 definitely everyone and anyone out there in the world that ever wants to learn about Hashem we're gonna get to the rabbi's information I'll be going to be part of Shabbat sushiva when it comes to learning literally has throughout the day into the nights she you're in programs one-on-one learning Partners kaburra's groups Kohl's during lectures women's programs children's programs whatever you want reach out to the organization we'll be more than happy to set you up and Rabbi how does it work with so hard to understand it's both actually uh how does one get involved is it only for college students is it for everyone anyone it's primarily good for college undergraduate students and maybe recently uh graduated students at more like in graduate school or that's more that's the focus that's accommodating for uh for for housing and things yeah every day everything is how does one hear about it or or know more about the Shabbos Yeshiva that you reach out to the rabbit organization they can reach out to me and that would be that would be the best way okay and how does one reach the rabbi usually a little old-fashioned I have a cell phone oh really but really but I'll tell you we could do a shamishiva gmail.com s-h-a-b-b-o-s-y-e-s-h-i-v-a gmail.com just put it attention for Rabbi Friedman remember there's a voice program there's a girls program the growth program I hear is dynamite so I can tell you I'm not there on a regular basis for the girls program so but I'm there for the boys program I know about the boys program as well it's dynamite as well where are they uh Freeman for being very humble but uh amazing work that you do and again I know a lot of the guys they're very thankful and appreciative for the rabbit and and the mishbach and whether it's in London London that's all I have done and do for qualities of the Jewish people and that we appreciate everything Rabbi and like we discussed today the gift of Shabbat it's the best thing it's a imagine it's it's part it's like the next word to heaven in in this world and we encourage them to be part of it get others to be part of it don't be satisfied at all so obviously my life is good no bring others as well uh share the wealth and businesses special shout out and thank you to Nathan Abel for helping arrange 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