CHAZAQ's Torah Talks #68 Rabbi Yehoshua Sova - After The 3 Weeks, Now What?

Tuesday night program with special guests tonight we have with us Ravi Joshua Silva all the way from Florida Welcome Rabbi how you doing okay I'm great thank you for inviting me oh it's our pleasure really exciting and uh looking forward to talking with you Rabbi about the Tish above came Tisha Bubba went now what the basement dish is not rebuilt so uh before we do the topic grab it if you give us a little background of the great work you're involved with and a little bit about yourself fantastic so first of all thank you hazak as well as Tara anytime I encourage everyone to go to hazak c-h-a-a-z-a-q dot org forward slash donate I personally have donated before I went on the work that they do is amazing and uh kudos to you keep pushing the envelope for all these fantastic programs to bring us stronger to our connection with our father in Heaven amazing we really are a very odd and very I'm very humbled that you asked me I also think to her anytime for making this as well for us coming together so anyways we're not playing guys just for the record I appreciate it thank you spontaneous anyone that could help it would be wonderful I personally I saw the wonderful things I'm just like I gotta give something so thank you kudos to you uh background about me um I'm the oldest of five I was born in Cleveland Ohio my parents were learning in Kerala on the Taos Cleveland and I grew up in on Tremaine drive for anyone that's familiar with Ohio and my father originally was born in Denver Colorado my mother's from Chicago my parents moved back to Denver and that's where I grew up as a child went to Hill Academy and then after I went to Chelsea Shiva Cleveland followed by that I went to or it's a strong to the risk of cola and then came back to America I went to BMG based on Chicago to this day I still have a very deep connection with all my Urban frontals versus Chicago and Lakewood as well then we went to a few out of town places I spoke with my reputation he felt that going to out of town places would be very good for my character and who I am we went to Dallas Texas then after that we went back to Denver and then after Denver my wife wanted to be closer to her home which is where she grew up which is Miami Beach Florida and that's where I currently am I've actually have the big hook to serve as the rabbi of the only spartic show in Miami Beach excluding the bukharians they call themselves bukharian so that's a good thing you know you know it's called smarty yeah it's bukhari and we have everyone from all types although I am Ashkenazi and my great grandfather was a Roth in Ukraine uh Hashem very adaptable that people literally think I'm spartic it's an amazing blessing to have that we literally have from all walks of life from all backgrounds that come every single day and in addition to that I also teach at lebovich so I'm also going there and giving my talents to teaching there as well and it's a very gift big gift I always say it's such a gift that the amateur has given me and I'm very macro type of that and I've actually had meeting people like you makes it so much worth it so I'm very happy to be grab a Silva bringing everyone together there all strides all backgrounds after Unity it's amazing great so uh to our topic Rabbi in your experience Rabbi what would you uh tell us what steps could we take practical steps to bring the Ula you know the three weeks went by the nine days went by one by what do we do what do you suggest so I this is something that I have to say is a little bit of a pet peeve of mine I personally my leadership role is that when I see something that is a little off I try to fix it that's just who I am one of the things that really really bothers me is when people don't get along and a lot of times it's miscommunication and most of the time has to do with money and if a person really had a sense of that Hashem is in charge of you Hashem wants to give you opportunities he's our father sitting at the table with everyone else he wants everyone to have a piece of the pie and guess what if we run out of pizza he'll go to the store and get another pie it's Hashem we're talking about he doesn't run out of anything and I've seen that in my own personal career I've seen that when I've made space for others Hashem makes unbelievable space for me and you never lose by name Nevada it's an amazing thing the gemara tells us a very fascinating thing the very famous in the fifth chapter and kitten and I the the sofa he quotes saying that he doesn't really understand why gitin was chosen as the hormon that that's the one that was under all them so have them Services is a beautiful idea he says getting this is unbelievable starts off if somebody brings the divorce document from overseas wait wait what's it get how do you dissolve the marriage now we're talking about what Medina what are you talking about this is not we have to as first establish the fundamentals of what it get is like tested over there says what what's the what's the mission talking about says could be a very depressing you're talking about a family that is being ripped apart whether it's Justified or not but there's a family being ripped apart even an inanimate object is shedding tears so we want to also continue with that same day now talking about it we're getting ripped apart from our father and Evan says somebody's out overseas he thinks himself God forbid I'm going to die and if I die I may never get an opportunity for my wife to remarry and start her life again I don't want to do that to my wife and my kids I love my wife and my kids I want them to start all over again therefore says the mishnah from complete love and once you understand that it flows so nicely says we talk about all this all this everything what is going on it's like a bloodbath going on the answer is Hashem saying I love you and the gamara tells us in the middle a very peculiar thing it says because because he had such humility he said don't kill come don't kill barcamsa just leave him alone that's a simple meaning therefore that brought a human mind everyone says him he's the god of daughter what are you talking about dancing is is that if you had real humility and you understood from beginning that we all have to get along then this never would have transpired in the first place and if a person understands that Hashem is in charge Hashem is there for you that's going to bring the ultimate Gula and you'll never be upset at your friend you'll never be to say your neighbor you never see it are you relative you're just gonna get along I always tell people that I saw a personal story there was someone in my family I'm not going to go into detail right now but there's someone in our family not me whatever it says oh there's someone in my family they're really talking about themselves or a friend of mine you're like it's a little too intimate to be a friend but anyways so this is a some money in my family that came from a very large family and to make a long story short they got a windfall of money a hundred thousand dollars and the family members were fighting like animals so badly that when my cousin was there together with another cousin they were told by their parents do not talk to your cousin in the Yeshiva of 60 people that is insanity what are you doing why would you do something like that the answer is honestly you don't believe in God and I one time had a very as they would say in England a very cheeky conversation with somebody who's much older than me and I told the person I was involved with them and I told them I said listen before we have a conversation about something I just have to get off my chest something that's really bothering me is it true that I said obviously speaking with honor and deference to the person this is this true that you I didn't say you but I said whatever the title associated with this person that you're involved in some type of controversy it says well yeah you don't understand what that person I said what I'm saying I said do you believe in God for someone's gonna be like like what remember why are you talking to me so weirdly what do you mean do I believe in God of course I believe in Hashem what are you talking about I said so if you believe in God why are you fighting with this person no you don't understand that guy undercut means I said you're talking about Hashem is called Yahoo he could do anything I said I'm an Ashkenazi an asphardic show it's been around for a long time very talented people in Miami beach but okay I'm getting a lot of people coming great fantastic people there is no plausible reason why I am the rabbi of the show I say that all the time makes no sense but of course we're the only show in Miami Beach that has that and it's just growing by Leaps and Bounds and I say it's you know why because when you look to have everyone succeed everyone will succeed you believe in Hashem Hashem makes space for you so that's what I say the first thing is recognize we have a father in Heaven they can always get more pizza it's not just cutting pieces of the pie he's getting you another whole pie and how many people have had that and there life they thought oh my gosh I'm not going to be able to make what and then literally out of left field something happened I've had that in my life I'm sure you've had that in your life everyone's had that so the first one is recognize that Hashem is in charge and have real beta amazing wow powerful Rabbi Silva love it love the energy 100 True spiritual God is in charge let's give it all to whenever there's issues stress problems within the organizations and Community I always talking to those local government you're in charge you to take care of it because God Almighty always takes care of it amazing amazing insights Rabbi and uh let me ask you what are common pitfalls to avoid in order to bring the Gula so you're saying Shalom peas getting together is very important in having Unity Etc what are common pitfalls have you seen in the past right back the message tells us that when the Jewish people went through the yams of they had 12 passageways now if you look at the middle of the middle says it was like in a semicircle okay now what always bothered me is I shouldn't split the sea you can make it a zigzag you can make it a box he can make it whatever why does he have to make it 12. what does that even mean so I heard in beautiful interpretation which goes like this just like you have 12 months of the year has nothing to do really with Nissan one is Hanukkah and one is PESA you know what it's it's Unique and you wouldn't say to yourself oh you know what I think I think I you know because we're gonna have a Newman hug we're gonna eat matzo when we spin the dreidel right everyone thinks like you're a bizarre like what are you doing why is that because we understand that the month calls for a certain mood there's a certain element behind if you look and I always tell this to people don't dive in like you were in fifth grade just like you upgraded from your house you upgraded your job you upgraded your car or whatever it is how you get from point A to point B you upgraded your clothing upgrade your spirituality too you're not in fifth grader anymore so if trila is not speaking to people which for some reason it doesn't upgrade your teeth there's a fantastic save I always say it's a fantastic safer Daniel fresh and if you take hidabroot they actually tell you and all the speed Road there's colors associate that I tell people I'm like every day at Phila is an adventure for me I don't know what lurks behind the next page is going to be you search and you're like you're like you're touching different buttons you're accessing different things so if you understand that utila is so powerful to Hashem you're upgrading it's the same thing too with your limo Torah as well Everyone likes to see inconsistencies in others that's why we learned that's what we learn and then you start yelling at the person in other words we're trained to be very critical and analytical but instead of focusing on the page whatever it is that we're embarking on we focus on look at those people and I heard just like every month is different Hashem wanted to highlight that but say you have 12 schwatin they're all different they're all unique and they all play a role in the symphony in the orchestra called call yourself just like the drums are different than the strings which are different than the best and different than all the other elements that you have there everything has its purpose and it is made to be different doesn't mean be exactly like me means they were all playing to the same composer and if a person understands that that just like the Jewish people when in a semi-circle which means wherever you came in guess what you're coming right back out and you have to recognize there are people all around you that aren't in a different tunnel but they're all coming back to the same Shore everyone's just going back make a U-turn go back and go wait a second what just happened oh they're next to me what's that open they're not like me they're not supposed to be like you that's exactly the point you have to take the good of one another and see how amazing I always say that it's amazing to me I see because I didn't grow up but I did I see the unbelievable deference that the Spider-Man have towards it is unreal coming in it's like they realize this is you know you're in manalama you see it one person told me he doesn't even cross his legs I didn't even know that was a thing cross your legs we don't want you guys are sitting there slouching with the coffee and who knows all right slouch your legs right you know I was thinking slouch your legs but that's the answer and people could learn from ashkenazim when it comes to Limonite uncompromising you can learn from how you say things you can learn from so many different people how they do miss motive it's just every group has something to offer at the table called the smorgasbord of Judaism and the pitfall is when we highlight the difference and say you are different and therefore I despise you because that that is completely wrong yes they're different and love the differences amazing amazing amazing I love it love it Rabbi Soma such inspiration to love your fellow like you love yourself to love the differences that have delivered I've said this in the past the root of it is right the love is bad the difference of your fellow just like you overlook yourself Overlook theirs as well amazing amazing and it's true by the way all the different nationalities and backgrounds every single one has their ways that stick out and make themselves unique you know for example in our community over here in Queens there's many behinds and the way they have a Sinha when it comes to happy occasions like a breed Mila or a barometro wedding whatever it is it has an extra on that extra you know the Mitzvah and every single Community has their uniqueness amazing I would like to add by the way I would like to add Rabbi that my grandfather when he ran on foot with his brother from Ukraine and they went East to make sure to avoid the Nazis they went deeper and deeper into Russia my grandfather always said the facet that was shown by the bukharian Jews was unbelievable he said people left their own bedroom and slept on the floor so he could sleep on a mattress because he went literally 2 000 miles away from his home he said he saw that cassette he saw that all the so another thing the baharians have I believe over everyone else taking everyone in they don't care about anything they give it a free hand a loving hand with a smile it's amazing there's so much good out there look at this look at my son look at my son it's like if you were to go to Hashem and ask him Hashem who's your best son come on who's your best I'll say it I I love you all like he should just like we would say the same thing too I love everything about my children you can't pick one over the other Bobby silver you're saying beautiful gems words of inspiration kizuk it's 100 True Rabbi if I were to ask you a personality trait something that personifies the proper individual that could bring the Gula who and what would it be saying the 10th Fila is Hashem you gather the uh the Gathering of the Exiles now why is that number 10 so I believe this is my own interpretation 10 represents the letter yud yud is the smallest one smallest of all they say represents either the smallest one or a little by little if you want to get just still do a little more a little more that's how you get to the next World so the 10th Fila is that of gathering of the Exiles spread out throughout the world we make Hashem and we do what we need to do Hashem will bring us back why the answer I believe is is that if you look for opportunities for a little nikuda something that'll make someone's day a little brighter someone that you could uplift somebody just a smile hey what's up how you doing what's going on uh it's nothing it's literally nothing for you it's a good that little things you don't know how far that will go we all know of people in our life that they've done something or said something to us that to this day carry us on the ones they all inspired me in some way some more than others but the ones that inspired me more than others that they said something or did something I pointed out to them they look at me like what are you talking about I said that no no somebody else must have said that he said no no you told me I remember I remember they're looking at you like you're crazy and I've had that before people coming over to me tell me oh Rabbi when you said this I'm like I think you're mixing me up with somebody else but I know you said it you were the one that said it a little just a little nikuda the personality is we look for the yehudi we look for the start from the little just a little give a little more we look at him the reason why they're so beloved since people that go because they give a little it's just for them yeah give a little okay here you can take my thing no no that's fine no it's okay it's totally and then you're Blown Away by that so and answer your question personality would be is just give a little and that will bring the ultimate he's going to come down here bringing the house down in Fire and like it says how can you be how can you destroy something with fire and bring it down with fire the answer is with that enthusiasm we're going up we're just going up with you Hashem bring it down because we're going up we're meeting and we're going to bring it down Hashem I feel the fire the enthusiasm through the screen it's amazing love it very very much and it's so true just do a little bit more there's a famous um story Parable I believe it's from the club It's Kind basically there was a a wall separating two communities and uh they said you know let's take down the wall and all the big guys and all the strong guys came and they couldn't take it down and everybody the whole Community decided to come they're all going to run into the wall to bring it down and uh they're pushing and kicking and trying but they weren't much there and they're all sitting there exhausted all of a sudden a young guy comes and just gives it a little bit of a push and all of a sudden it falls down everyone's like whoa what did you do he's like I didn't really do much it was all you guys you guys did all the hard work so many people say with regards to the Gula that oh how is it in common dime of uh you know uh you know never finds all these big tadiq have passed away so they did all the hard work now our turn is to just give that little yield like the rabbi saying that a little bit more I'm enjoying so much and we have a Minag we have a custom atar talks which is a final message a takeaway from uh from all this Rabbi what was what would that be rabbit the message we have is a very simple one love your brother love your neighbor love us all Hashem loves us more the reason why tyh thank you Hashem I don't get any merch I don't get any there's nothing the reason I have it somewhere yeah exactly well you have it right here Rabbi ah ah thank you thank you the reason why that resonates so powerfully with people is because we really do say thank you Hashem is Hashem that's why that song rocks because that's really where we come from we are thanking you Hashem every single moment we are thank you we're part of your chosen people we are one family somebody told me a fantastic one I was just an artistic cell a few weeks ago and my tour guide his name is Archie great guy by the way he's a and I asked so I like I like asking out of the box questions so he told me he wasn't prepared for this and I said to him arkey tell me one good surprise he made out of the ice originally from Baltimore he said okay tell me one good surprise that you had by making Aliyah that you did not anticipate an arcade told me the following he said I am blown away every single day how a close neighbor is much more important than a far away relative in other words just because we're born in the same family but if we have nothing to do with one another it doesn't mean we happen to share the same last name we have some blood that's associated with it but that's it but if you have a neighbor that really cares about you he's going to do everything for you and he said indicative of that was he one time saw a video to Israelis that unfortunately got an offender Bender screaming yelling at each other they don't realize they're being filmed and finally in the middle of them yelling and screaming each other getting each other's face selling one of them just stops says like why are we doing this immediately start hugging each other he says only in Israel could you have that and he told me that's why people they get so hot-headed he says if a neighbor went in front of your lawn or he did something that really bothers you you'll be polite you're not gonna say anything you're like thinking on yourself your mother and your brother who is that person right they annoy you but if it's your brother your brother like what's wrong with you why it's your brother it's your re it's a re it's real the connection is real it's so deep when we hear people that need something we always jump in how many of us have when we've heard a Call the Clarion call of somebody needs help we all jump in somebody told me one of the things that they were saying they were for sure and I want to tell you something it is not even a question to me if coven would have been dealt with properly we'd be right now we'd be be talking right now and right by the homological show line right now that's not even a question because everyone was everyone realized this is serious we got to get together and we have to respect one another and that was so unfortunate how people I told somebody I said literally it was like bizarre to me you have two people looking each other pointing at each other yelling and they're both saying the exact same bubble which is are you all out of your mind are you crazy you're so selfish I can't talk to you you're nuts they're both saying the same thing and they're both coming from completely different bandage boys and they're saying the same thing why why can't it be you holding your life well that's dangerous set it up really you really everything that you do is according to FDA group really everything that you do is not if they I mean it's like you have to appreciate the other side where they're coming from and understand it's not another side and I One Time heard it I'll just conclude with this is a beautiful idea it says there will never be another look at like in his congregation ever if is what are you talking about unfortunately we have Discord that's just the way it is says there being an options having 90 to 10 right yeah that you can work with most was a hundred percent right 100 right caught up with zero a hundred to zero you're never gonna have low yeah but you're gonna have 90 to 10. the 10 that they're saying is 100 valid what they're saying they're spot on you have to recognize that now 90 is overwhelming a lot like that but you have to at least appreciate where they come from and we believe Hashem is doing an unbelievable has that he's showing you how much of a Lunatic Society this has come that we're debating about what gender is where did they I told somebody I said the best thing you could do to get these people zip them is you walk into a place and God goes well I don't know if uh I say I identify as a vaccinated person I'm vaccinated but just say the words I identify as I identify as 65 I need to collect Social Security or my favorite one which is a true one I have a friend of mine from Shapiro he told me that his brother did this he walked in one Sunday with his kids to Chuck E cheese you see there's a bunch of women with their kids they're going in Baltimore cheese he walks in he goes excuse me sir you have to pay an admission fee he's like one second but how come they got in and I did he said well sir today is Mother's Day and we are celebrating mothers and he has a beard like you and me he goes well I identify as a mother oh welcome to Chuck E cheese right this is this is what we're talking about to show you stop the foolish arguing and recognize how similar we are and then that's Hashem we're all going to come together it is going to be the last dish about this is going to be the last time that we have to sit on the floor together instead of Hashem we're going to sit at hashem's table together um we just had all the way from Florida Rabbi Jeff continuing Redemption ideas there's a few quick important thank yous uh to Robbie and the entire team of kazak really appreciate all the Hub yeah two thumbs up amazing and uh shout out to steamyomi for putting us together with Rabbi Silva really 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