CHAZAQ's Torah Talks #176 Rabbi Yaakov May - The Role of Kindness in Jewish Education

during the second world war London was he was under the blitz they were being devastated he never left his post he didn't go to the countryside he stayed in London to make sure he was there and then the London bin was bombed there's pictures of abramsky a 67y old man climbing up on these Rock to get to the bz's window because in the bezin had the safe all the gitten that he that he had done since he went in London and there should be rias there should be proof that the women should be should be able to remarry when the Ty run came can you imagine those things were not stable they make one wrong move you come tumbling down but he was driven by driven leadership means kindness you have to be there to help people me your students your family members that teaches [Music] everyone and welcome to Tor talk kazak's program with special guest we have with us all the way from Brooklyn my my former principal pleasure so so nice to see the r here at the kak headquarters so we're going to be speaking about the role of kindness of in in Jewish Education before we do that exciting topic if we get a little bit background about the the RBI okay so I came to in 1964 and I left in 1980 wow all right had the the opportunity have some wonderful R in high school RAB weer R and so and I came back to the and I was I hope I was a loyal t to the all right and they they empowered us they empowered us and they inspired us to be marit Torah sh Torah that's what they do yeah 100% and uh right after that there was uh I had a few positions yeah I went to Milwaukee when they opened up the Shiva was a high school re and the feeder and Elementary School gar teacher they called you the talmudist tudus right all the gar in in the Junior High um then from there I went to Hebrew Academy in suff county and from there I um uh from the sou County I went to sh I went and then I went to sh then I came to F mosha which U my my youngest son my oldest son was student here before he moved down oh wow amazing amazing it's important because first MOS is named after his uncle R and who was his rebi for a number of years when his father was no longer around when he was traveling in America that's the background amazing amazing amazing 22 years uh I remember my years there for8 years amazing and uh if you would if the Reb would Define the Reb's Mission what would that be my mission is the same mission of the AL who heard it from the it doesn't change and shouldn't change so the alar went to I'm opening UPA only only school only special unique brainly brain brain brainiacs we going to Yesa in those days says what should be my mission what should I be doing in seea so he quoted to up you know to raise up the of the spirit of the broken okay of the weak and bring life to for to to the ones who will feel broken at that time which was very common in Europe so basically um they had a it was more than just a place to learn it's a place to create people create men okay to recognize that the greater of the great still have to be built up and they have to be um shown and they have to reach their full potential and I just want to make a mention so Bon Cutler at that time rakov ketki I mean they had they had R Rudman they hadz they had all the great you would think they need to be built up every jeun needs to be built up C can out tell me the my students wow very very very powerful so we know that built the world of kindness how does that connect with the role of jewi education so we used to first mosha that the Yesa is a CED organization it's there for the for their parents for their siblings for their friends whoever we have to be there for them um and that means that we have to Envision everything we do in Yesa no matter what is am I fulfilling the of being a I just want to share unbelievable idea from uh from the sh how do you do very I give food to someone I drive in some place but I'll tell you eye open from who is so he said the following I'm tell you the we have to gos you know how you to be has to be root of now how do you do that then he start saying about how what does that what does entail okay he says um one l a person has to work hard has to be a slave laborer but he has to be not just a a a bystander he has to be D now that means you have to look for the opportunities to help other people and to be shock imagine someone like doing okay if he's rich or he's healthy or he's not he's poor a person has to look for the opportunity he has to they saying Li you have to be living in a and that pertains everything we do and I want a more storyi was a head Chief D of of London so during the war during the second world war London was he was under the blitz they were being devastated he never left his post he didn't go to the countryside he stayed in London to make sure he was there and then the London bin was bombed this pictures of abramsky a 60 70 year old man climbing up on these rocks to get to the bz's window because in the bz had the safe of all the G that he that he had done in since he went in London and there should be rias it should be proof that the women should be should be able to remarry when the tip run came can you imagine those things were not stable they make one wrong move you come tumbling down but he was driven by driven leadership means kindness you have to be there to help people mean your students your family members that teaches everyone unbelievable so we all knowu was can I not that I prepared it has a very big question when it came to doing there's 11 telling what did when the three came to his house he was a he was the he was a bus boy he was the waiter he was he was um the baker the Candlestick maker he bought everything right he took care of them and he did it with with he was M he ran very fast I mean I will tell you too I'm not a 90y old man but if I was 99 years old 100 and they gave me a bris M thank God I was 8 days old I took care of that MIT all right but uh he's an eight and it's the third day after the most painful most painful day and Hashem took the Sun out of its orbit in the Sahara Desert you know SAR desert was plenty hot without hem making any should not have to run out do give him a day off so I like said over re said over the from the alar he said um he was more dead than alive when he couldn't do he lives so much to do i' rather be i' rather not be around if I can't do wow and that's what did and the way he did it he did it with his with his with by himself the one mitvah had his his child do was bring water and because of that it was with unbelievable kindness but a little bit diminished because he didn't do it himself he had his son do it so they come to get water for cl in the midbar right the Miriam's well what do we have to do for that it had to come mosha not himself Hashem would have been more than capable of just makinging water come down right he can make the sea he can make a sea without salt right he can make the Pacific the Atlantic the Mediterranean the Caribbean they not have to be salt he can do without salt but he wanted he wanted mosha to do it himself because we were not Z to have aem's perfect hand in creating water for us on need we got plenty of water we survived but but it was not through himself that's that's the message from there just remarkable message I just want to mention one other place in the Torah and that falls under the G of Torah there's more than Al talks about the torah's standards for doing are different than any any any system that exists in the world I show a you know from shos where the Manchester brings us down he says um um when he told the mid midwives he told mamam that kill the baby so what was their reaction they had and therefore they did not commit murder so what do you mean he brought them life they were light said he didn't kill them okay there's two levels the the first level is when a person does kindness it has to be done with unadulterated secondary priorities to be focused only on one thing and what makes it the best they feared that's why that's why you don't kill a child because you have God you're a God-fearing person you don't kill a child because what human being takes it late your kills them we only only the Nazis did that we never saw anything and now L on October 7 they did that as well okay they they they great reab the Nazis were the Great rabim rabbis for them okay therefore we see that you have to not only keep them alive not only you do because the Torah demands it how it's demanded you saw from how it's demanded that type of that's we have I want to say therefore it ends up and says like this then it says allow them and allowed the children to live you want them to live you did your job you wouldn't kill them I understand all right you birthed them you brought them to life but then what happened they couldn't abandon them because the Torah demands if I have a child in front of me what can I do for the child they put their lives on the line egyps and gab was looking for these two midwives all right but they could they couldn't they couldn't abandon those little children so and they gave them milk gave them water milk and something to eat hasem took over after that every moment they were doing this F for these children for these mothers right every moment they put their lives with Sak sometimes the Torah says you have to you have to give your life to do a he did a lot he he was prepared to give his life I don't know I did see pictures of London after the Blitz the last place you want to be is a rock pile of rocks on the fifth floor okay he did it right that's what it is and that's what the what the what the women did and that's what the Manchester calls us Torah the of Torah is above and beyond the average person that's doesn't kill babies he walks didn't do job demands even a higher level and that's what we have to always stand what does it do amazing so what message could we give over to parents when it comes to parents to children uh okay that we have children we have obligations to take care of them it may not be an obligation to be an opportunity to do what we can do for our children what the school can do what the re can do what the teachers can do Al what the parents can do they're not part of they're the parents I've seen that parents say listen I gave them to the Yesa to the school let them deal with that they from their Partners their partners and the school coling do so much and uh one of the big Educators Robie break once spoke and he said that the role of a parents is support the child the role of Yesa is to educate the child beautiful all right mean sometimes education could be with a strong hand the parent ask I I understand my son is a one my daughter is a wonderful person we will do better next time the parent the child should never feel that their parents abandoned them they there for them in school has demands have to expect children to grow that's a strive 100% there's a famous saying by he said that there was a child he wasn't uh behaving so much what did he tell the parents that he should be relaxed why because he's a he he has a very big Nish and a small body you know right now he's a little bit wild and uh what what what inspiration could the give towards parents or Educators that have certain children that uh are a little bit wild or you know jumping around a lot of children that were wild I have many boys five boys were more wild than the next many girls they were more tame okay but was a wild child all right his Reby had to come teach him Tor as he was climbing a tree imagine this little boy who was he he was right he came I think he was only bought a goat in into the base magish put the coat in the or cish oh wow right so so let's say that would happen today the world will come to an end world doesn't come to an end that that child which came had to be handheld how to teach this child no two children are the same every child is different no two children the same family are the same they should not be driven by what work for one works for the other we to know what works for my child this child that's our goal and they also have to have they have to have respect in the education institution that if they truly do and we do and care about their children if to recognize that and work together a partner with theba theba doesn't own the child okay but the parent has giv all that child the the the the partnership to educate my child we can only do it with the support of the parent 100% 100% enjoying every single word Rabbi May uh such beautiful gems we have a a a custom and Torah talks a final message for for our broad audience I I said every message I know the final message was the first message because it's the most important message the role of the is to raise up the child the the Bak the girl schools to raise up the child okay and and when the child is not successful when he's down Le have to raise him up also we're not only there for the superstars we're there for every other child if the she was only there for Superstars there would have been very few people learning in Colo it's true 100% very very very true every single child have to be there for them right no matter what the situation right those who are broken and just to bring said that was a message to unbelievable right and that was 150 years ago how much more so today a lot more so well beautiful RAB thank you very much want to thank everyone for joining us T talks 8:30 p.m. Eastern Standard Time Tuesday nights with special guest the feedback has been amazing please continue sending over the positivity and and and uh comments whatever you can do we appreciate that we want to thank our friends at Tor any time and the many different platforms that are hosting kazak Torah talks special thank you also to daily giving a dollar a day goes a very very far away we encourage them to look into that and looking forward to seeing you all in many uh more 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