CHAZAQ's Torah Talks #150 Rabbi Yaakov Nadel - From Slavery to Freedom

now with the iPhone everyone having the whole internet in their pocket it's made it three times as as hard as it was back then I put together a handbook with like 20 different tools attitude perspectives on the struggle how to view the struggle properly and it's not all or nothing and how to get up after fall and there really is a serious resource now to send people my goal was always to make a One-Stop place where you can get all the resources regarding the struggle from prevention education protection intervention from regular teenage struggles all the way through full-blown addiction whether you're modern whether you're kidish you know and in all languages as much as we can you know in one place and I was getting emails from people all over the world saying you saved my marriage you saved my yish you saved my [Music] life and welcome to Torah talk kazak Tuesday night programs with special guests we have with us all the way from AR from Israel RAB yobel Shalom welcome how you doing good thanks for having me to INSP some with God's help and we're going to be speaking about From Slavery to Freedom but before we get to the topic we get a little bit of background about that the rabbi and the great work you're involved with so I was a programmer about 25 years ago ago at the turn of the century for dafa Corporation maybe you've heard of it sounds familiar I used to do all their kids games the multimedia stuff interesting so I was about 20 something straight out of coo I needed the internet for my work and it was a challenge because there was very little awareness back then of the dangers of the internet there were very few filters available and you know suddenly The Whole World's open to you and and I had to find ways for myself to stay strong it was it was a struggle and with a lot of and helped me find certain methods that were helping me to stay strong that I you know shouldn't be n in the wrong things also you know filters were coming out then a little bit and I noticed a lot of yiden were struggling with this on different forums um different Jewish forums they were saying it's a lost case it's just possible there's nothing to to talk about even okay and I shared with them you know some of the things that were helping me and I noticed that it really inspired them they said wow you gave me a push I'm going to try again and um when I saw that I said maybe I should do a little website uh with some tips and Asis and tools and you know share what's working with me and um I started to gather together some filtering uh ases that were starting to come out out then there was different ideas different device for people to put on filters on their inter yeah there was like K9 back in the day if you remember but it wasn't very good but then there was nativ in Israel which was like a very powerful whiteless filter and I was looking in ways to bring it to America back then we we were looking for ways to find filters in the F Community um so I put together a little website and we had a page of tips and a page of Asus a page of stories of people who had succeeded to break free of this um a page of filters and people can send in questions you know and I would try to give them Asis advice you know advice whatever and um one day a guy said why don't you start a forum so people can post about their struggles and uh I didn't really know what a forum was but he offered even to host it and that's when things really started to take off cuz we had hundreds of people from all around the world who started somehow I don't know how they found out about it but they started posting about their struggles I guess if they searched for something on the Internet they found a lot of people were searching sometimes for bad things they found our website they ended up coming into the website and and getting helped so people were strug you know talking about their struggles and it's Anonymous so people weren't afraid to open up and from yeden from all across the Spectrum you know from Modern to the most yes even you wouldn't believe saying I thought I'm crazy I thought I'm the only one I didn't realize how many people are struggling with this today and I'm so grateful that I found this group group and they started sharing with each other you know people used to give each other it became a warm knit community of and I spent like 12 hours a day on The Forum giving and your job or this so I was still working in multimedia but I was losing my prasa more and more because I couldn't do both and uh Hashem sent me someone who started to give me a little monthly stipend each month to keep guard your eyes going called guard your eyes from the beginning from the beginning actually it's funny the day I purchased the website guardy your eyes.com it was 10 days after they had just launched the first iPhone wow wow iPhone the first you know Apple announced the iPhone so it's almost like Hashem Was preparing a there's got to be a balance okay the N now with the iPhone everyone having the whole internet in their pocket it's it's it's made it three times as as hard as it was back then so um so then people were posting and giving each otheruk and after a while so much good material was coming out from the Forum from people who were really working on this and really making progress and sharing what worked for them so I took all the Asis and I put together a handbook with like 20 different tools and attitude perspectives on the struggle how to view the struggle properly understand what Hashem wants from us through the struggle how to grow how to use it as a a stepping stool to really reach Great Heights and it's not all or nothing and how to get up after a fall and you know all the aces that that people um need to hear to be and I was getting emails from people all over the world saying you saved my marriage you saved my yish you saved my life you know and it was so moving to see the impact it was having on people we started a phone conference um somebody offered to do like a 12ep you know 12 steps for addiction so somebody started a 12-step phone conference so people could join anonymously and we had a number of cycles of that and uh one day on one of the calls we had a therapist who told us about a study that says it takes 90 days to change an addictive pattern in the brain 90 days 90 days so I set up a little 90day chart where people had uh with sign up and you know day three day seven day 20 day 30 day 50 day 80 day 90 you know and then you reach each time you get different levels different rewards interesting yeah like uh digital rewards you know coins or whatever and people really love that cuz it gave them something to work towards you know and on the Forum they would post about I'm up to day 40 you know and everybody's giving him and I had a hard time and people would be mikim and help them get back up if they had a fall so we so so we had this forum we had phone conferences we had the 90-day chart I made a partner program so people could use like kusas uh for accountability wow anonymously like they could be in touch either by email or phone or whatever and um and then you know obviously the resources I started sending out daily kuk emails each day a little something usually from The Forum that people were posting that was very inspiring you know and the email list grew and grew and the members grew and ultimately it was reaching a point where I wanted to really get this to the next level but I didn't really know how and at that point Hashem sent me my partner ycll he was his name is jesal Stelzer he's a professional therapist very very talented guy he was working with um when he before he's a balua before he was balua he was actually uh an adviser to bib nany very brilliant guy you know with bunch of degrees and um you know therapist working with teens at risk in Israel with the government and this topic of you know bam struggling with this stuff kept coming up and he didn't have anything to offer them resources so he was looking online you know what could he find and he found my website and he contacted me and asked me if we have any resources in Hebrew you know he didn't know I'm in I'm in Israel we ended up meeting and when I showed him what we have and the testimonials I'm getting in all the time the people were helping he was like wow I sense here that there's a mission here for me you know and I want to start helping you free free of charge as a volunteer and we started to do some trips we went to the Auda we went to tasor we went to the U started to show our our work to people and we started to fundraise so we can do this in a much more professional way and then we found a guy in Israel Mendy Elish shevitz a from Guy who's a genius in web development and he knows how to put together web teams and he helped us design the website from scratch and make it much much more professional and so the three of us have been working together already now for 15 15 years it's 15 years old I I started it 17 years ago but my partner joined me like is 18 years old kak interesting so remember when you guys were just starting out and I think you were in touch with me very um yeah so you know now we had a team we definitely done events in the past and good stuff we're here to be that's what we're here for it's amazing so it's 17 amazing years the last 15 years with your partners years with my partners and today over 30 people work for the organization in capacities wow 30 people like what eight full-time and another 20 something to keep the website running like what's the well there's there's just so much there's the Spanish website the Hebrew website the Yiddish website there's there's the marketing the finances the fundraising there's there's the support you know there's just a lot so you offer support to people that are struggling having yeah so there's moderators on the forums there's Hotes still forums Forum yeah the forums are still a big part of our uh not everybody uses them because some people are afraid to open up even on a forum but the people who do take that jump are they never regret it they say wow this is so powerful the group support that you get and I was very close with RAB we've had this hosting the rabbi big event oh wow very nice he used to and he spoke about this topic also yeah addictions so he was um slavery extremely grateful when guardi eyes came onto the scene because he was getting like five calls a week about this problem and he didn't know what to do with them you know and when guard your eyes came on the scene and we contacted him he was just very excited that there really is a serious resource now to send people my goal was always to make a One-Stop place where you can get all the resources regarding the struggle from prevention education protection intervention from regular Teenage struggles all the way through full-blown addiction whether you're modern whether you're kidish you know and in all languages as much as we can you know in one place people should have a uh amazing what's the website again guard your guardy your eyes.com eyes.com aming Hebrew it's G y. org.il for for and the yish site is actually called hit.com what hit oan means guard your eyes yeah and it's growing fast as amazing unbelievable I was just saying that I was close to Ari and what he loved the most about guard your eyes was that he understood addiction and he knew that for addiction you need group support now the problem is in this area people are too afraid to go for group support in 12-step groups and expose them M El it's it's a very taboo subject you know this I was going to ask you it's very taboo people might you know how does one so that's why he loved guard your eyes because it was the first time there's a real platform of group support that at the same time you can be completely Anonymous inter so you're able to sort of open up and get support from others but at the same time nobody knows who you are so people are not afraid to open up now if you have a very if you have a very strong addiction we do suggest live group support you know hiding behind a fake username is not enough for people who have a real addiction they need to face tace support but um they won't do it that's the problem so guard your eyes acts like a bridge for these guys wow to get them to the sa programs and today over a third of from Jews in sa around the world which is thousands of members have come there through guard your eyes wow sa is what sorry for it starts it stands for sexaholics anonymous it's like AA Alcoholics Anonymous um it's for people who are struggling with lust related addictions and there's a guy on guard Your Eyes by the name of Dove who's Anonymous he's over 25 years clean in sa from a full-blown addiction W very wise very special yid really a special yid um and he has helped thousands of people on guard your eyes over the years first on our forums he would spend days and nights answering people so he's able to help people because in a sense he's been there done that so he's able to understand others that's what would always say if a person has a difficulty or hardship in life there's a reason for it what's the reason is that because one day others might have it you'll be able to tell them I've been there done that so yeah that's why Hashem puts people through things not for not only for themselves but for others as well wow wow wow wow amazing and Dove um so he is he's running today a vet's group what we call it's like veterans a vet to vet people to see if they're really addicts we call it like the first aid group and he has members from all over the world and countries and cities everywhere that there are from people um there're at least five years or more you know clean sober and they're experienced at welcoming uh newcomers and basically they vet the members of guarder eyes they speak to them on the phone and they help them figure out if they might be addicts or not and if they need the 12ep uh 12-step groups because most guys that come to guard your eyes are not addicts I would say 80% don't need you know intervention or 12-step groups it's a Yahara and and it becomes you know there's there's the green orange and red levels when a person signs up we ask them a series of questions based on the answers to those questions we're able to categorize him as either a green which is like typical teenage struggle sh occasional Falls orange means you're starting to get addicted to it because it's a very addictive thing you've tried to stop many times you're not successful it's starting to affect your life but you're still able to manage and red is where it's really ruining your life already and you're you know you can't continue this way but at the same time you can't stop those are the guys that we send to the veter group to figure out if they're ready for the 12-step program wow this is I I've heard of guard your eyes but I you didn't really know much about it but hearing all this and seeing the amount of work that goes into it wow unbelievable and it's really it sounds like one of a kind Organization for you know in the sense that we have something for everything and uh where does mental health come to this uh situation so you know we've found that this is such a big draw and such a big Nan today that even people from the best homes with the best best upraising great parents still get pulled into this and through technology or technology because it's so accessible and so easy you know filters are important but there's we don't live in a filtered environment today it's there's the computer in the office and and there's the your sister's phone and your mother's phone and the old phone in the closet that they're not using anymore and then for in Walmart you know you can get today for a few dollars it's just so accessible that if a person is not ready to work on themselves no filter is going to help you have to have an inner you know you have to have some sh and you have to have tools and guard your I provides tools to dealing with urges our new program which we spent uh about two years researching um the most advanced science on behavioral change because we wanted to really be able to help I mean the amount of people that were reaching out to us was getting overwhelming we didn't have the manpower to deal with it and we realize we have to start to rethink our our whole online platform and create it in a way that can be more automated so that we don't need the Manpower as much and that people will get the help they need and people come to guard your eyes a few years ago they would see thousands of Articles tons of tools they wouldn't know where to really go we wanted to create like a funnel that takes a person from step one all the way through you know full um recovery and so the way we start is is first by assessing their level and based on that we offer them different tools but we created something called the flight to Freedom program we did research flight flight to Freedom that's what we're talking about From Slavery to slav to Freedom yes okay it took us about a year or two of serious research we went through hundred books and hundreds of scientific papers on behavioral change on the science of Behavioral change and um put together a program to together with top therapists and researchers um which basically takes the person from Step One how do you get motivated first of all you know the pros the cons make a strong decision be M that this is what I want make a decision that this is really what I want and once you have that you know we teach them how to how the brain works the neuroplasticity rewiring the brain we teach them how to deal with urges when they come up we teach them how to deal with setbacks how to track their progress and how to ultimately fill their lives with more meaning so that they don't feel such a draw to this because every person has inside of them a god hole what they call like a certain it needs to be filled with something and if you don't fill it with something meaningful you're going to be dra I talk to people all the time you know as as uh started I was 15 I I I was so busy I didn't have time for anything this that running around making things happen I tell to people that keep busy you you won't have time is that an accurate uh uh thing to tell over to people definitely um for lower levels of the struggle that is probably the best a there is bed so person is Bored not doing anything then then he starts doing nonsense no question um for B for example that struggle with this the main a is the main a is throw yourself into learning have good friends have a good social life have hobbies don't be bored and feel empty inside you know build yourself a gmak and learning and you know God created he created theora as a spice to calm it down and it will go hopefully you know you'll outgrow it over time you'll learn how to deal with it more and more but once it becomes a bit addictive like the orange level especially the red level that's where guard your eyes is a being busy is a nice it's not going to be enough you're going to need support you're going to need tools but it starts somewhere miso I would guess what it starts at a certain level but the person jumps to orange red or he just it starts sometimes just from Curiosity kids are exposed to things and they're drawn to it naturally and it leads to a cycle of addiction because there's dopamine that's released when a person views things they shouldn't and the reward Pathways in the brain you know respond and then there's this like cycle where you feel empty afterwards and you feel you need to fill it again and you just go back to it and also the depression and the shame very similar to drugs uh it's definitely it's called because I've heard this uh you know I don't know the terminology and stuff it's called the new drug the yeah the new uh in our generation this is mish related to drugs but it's more than that there's also a lot of Shame um connected with this issue a lot of uh you know feeling that I'm I'm anyway gone I'm it's too late for me you know and I'm such a loser and I can't believe I did it again and and uh and that just brings the person back to doing it again so we talk about you know a lot on guard your eyes the difference between healthy regret and toxic shame which you know is bad and we put out a book recently with Dr schy Zimmerman called from Boys to Men shout out to Dr zimman Who is the one that introduced us and uh made this tor talks happen and we had him on T talks as well so yes we we spoke about the book so we were the inspiration behind the book and we wrote it together with Dr Zimmerman we did the research together although ultimately he ended up writing the actual book big big rabbis were were behind it yeah we got RAR and Feldman to to write a forward to it I personally met him with my team uh we went to Rabbi tski this was during covid it was 6 weeks before he passed away he wrote a HK for us on this book it was the last HK he ever wrote probation probation yeah on this book which is really a game changer in the F Community it's the first time this is being addressed in a real with real dasra and real psychology you know in a mainstream way and has there been any push back for the great work that uh is going on over here or is this been across the Spectrum it's been pretty much across the spectrum because people who are coming to guard your eyes are in the mud and nobody's going to say don't use the internet to take people out of the mud cuz that's where they're falling that's where the fire is you got to go where the fire is um but you did say there is phone lines yeah there are a hot there is a hotline which you can the whole flight to Freedom program basically you can do online on the on the phone um you know there's a section for how do I deal with urges there's a section for how do I get more motivated how do I track my progress how do I deal with rewiring the brain the whole you know you can press different numbers on the phone and go through the program amazing but uh it's mainly an online platform so so so so you know in m in Egypt 20% of the Jews a fifth were redeemed you know so when when it comes to P which we just had everybody think talks about freedom freedom freedom now this is the in essence what you're doing you're breaking people out of slavery which is today's topic right out of slavery into freedom but the L of Freedom the the expression of being free what what would be the best way to to explain it to one or to understand it so rabie tki used to tell over um how he was dealing with uh 40 Years of drug and alcohol addiction and used to tell over how one of the people who went through alcohol addiction and Recovery through his um program was sitting at the Seder and they were talking about slavery and this guy said to his father T you have no idea what slavery means you have no idea what it means to be a slave and then to be free like I am today I experienced it on my you know so real the there is nothing like slavery there's no greater slavery than slavery to the Yahara because it means you're a slave to the body you're a slave to this world you're stuck you know you can't be a good father you can't be a good husband you can't be Anem you can't have a connection with the Toyo with anything meaningful because you're it just takes over your mind and and and thear tells you do this and you just listen to him he's like your master and there's it's the worst type of slavery now the whole process of leaving MIT and going to cab which is the period we're in Now is really a parallel and a mush for us leaving theara and um learning how to go into the Wilderness after on faith and then getting the the Sweet Waters of the Tyra that give us the Fulfillment that we need in place of all the stuff you know the Yahara and um you know the period of shim is also related to the six weeks that we leave MIT so we find this theme again and again throughout the year and and there's a mitzvah to remember twice a day inma in the morning and the night is mentioned in the to over 50 times why so much because that's what we're here in this world for it's a mush to how to leave behind thear and go into the midbar and serve Hashem and get the T and um we recently did a project for Bim based on sh I was going to ask you yeah about the book over here this is a a book we put out after um six weeks seven weeks of the boys being on a program and every every day I would send out another another perspective another Tool uh to the boys either by WhatsApp email which boys what are we talking about so what we did is like this we had a mash in American Yeshiva in Israel who did a sh project with boys a few years ago and got them to be on a 50-day program of filter their phones you know and be and at the end of the 50 days he took them on a trip in Israel to the north they did a whole day of fun track you know um go-karts and a winery and good food and everything and was very successful now he's not working in the Yeshiva anymore so he turned to us and he said how do we do this on a bigger scale I said wow that's a great idea I like it because shim is a time of the year that guard your eyes can really capitalize on this is the time of year that we can about Holiness yeah 100% so I built a little website sh him.org oh nice it was available and we uh we made a sign up form and Rabbi sadon his name isia sadon know know of course he went down to 40 something yeshivas in Israel wow spoke to the American boys uh the masim the russas and got the isas to get on board with this and sign up the boys in America we did 30,000 worth of advertising we were in the mishak Amy status groups we put up posters to advertise this initiative ultimately we had about 1,300 people sign up to the uh program over a thousand b a few hundred yite and every day they had to be so this book I put out after the program so there's five there's four different uh guidelines in order to be able to join the program there's five but the fifth is not is optional the first is I'll make sure that all my devices are filtered or I'll use a flip phone the second is I'll make a conscious effort to guard my eyes and I understand I won't be perfect but I'm going to put in effort each day for 50 days I'm going to read every day and try to implement the daily tip of this book each day you know we sent it by email WhatsApp or text now we have it in a book format and number four it gets easier the more we hold back and you know this is something we all need to work on especially B and optional for those who are struggling more to sign up to guard your eyes that's optional so we had over a thousand Buck from sign up and uh you say Buck teenagers teenagers from over 150 yeshivas we have here a list of all the yeshivas we had boys from amazing and um got a lot of great feedback um and we took them to the American dream mall last week um and they had a blast a whole day of kizo we had Joey n come and did music we had water park we had a full meal from chickies over there and a lot of a lot of great speeches the boys loved it there was tons of dancing there was a real feeling of kadosa in the air so one one's listening to this and saying wow this Rabbi is really into this whole topic it's unbelievable but what's the main idea like what's like I could still see someone let's say not maybe holding with kadha or so much like what's the big deal to go like why does one have to uh keep his eyes kades his eyes holy what what would be the right response to him I deal with a lot of cure of people for example I I speak about it and and many times they look at me like where did he fall out of you know like I'm watching things I'm you know on the phone or going to places right so very good question now obviously for you know once you get pulled into this it becomes an addiction it ruins your your connection with your wife with your children with with your t it takes you over so for example for G they don't I'm saying for them this is all normality it doesn't make difference so unfortunately there's people that that watch movies unfortunately M movies but uh what what do we so for earlier like for everybody right the idea of sh what's really the idea behind sh why is it so important is it is it because I'm going to be dirty is it what what's really the asside for normal people I'm not talking about once he becomes addictive that's already obvious why it's a problem so Rabbi y elephant once gave us over this idea and he said I want you to share this because from the Mir he's a famous magir in Isel and he's very close with the organization and he once told me I want you to give over this message to the world so I'm happy to share it the whole world okay get ready what's behind sh what's really the problem with it so he said it's interesting that the mitvah of right is the same para of do not stray after your eyes and after your heart is in the same para of the mitah now the mitvah what does mean means to take a deep look it says he's peeking out from the cracks right means to take a deep look right now tell us that the on the ti the blue string on the tittis is supposed to remind us of the Sea and the Sea reminds us of the sky and the sky reminds us of the kov that's called taking a deep look why does it have to be you know maybe just the blue reminds me of the kov no it reminds me of the sea which reminds me of the sky which reminds me of the K the idea of the kazal are trying to tell us here is that when you just see blue don't see just the outside don't see don't see the external look at the depth of something see something and think how you can see Hashem in it our eyes were given to us to see Hashem in the world they were given to us to see the Torah the depth of the tah the tah could look very it could look very um not what's the word I'm looking for in English uh superficial that's the word superficiality and that's what this world is really today this whole world is superficial the tah has infinite depth on all levels of par every word of the T has a thousand SAS in it and even the gar that we learn is so so deep and requires so much you know depth of thought and work to really understand the r and his T that's what our eyes were given to us for to see deep and therefore Hashem puts the mitzah ofu in the same par to tell us that why should you not stray after your eyes not because you're going to go together or because you're going to be dirty or whatever the reason you shouldn't stray after your eyes hhm is telling us is because if you stray after the packaging if you stray after The Superficial it's like somebody gives you a beautiful present a present a very um precious present and it's covered in a beautiful box with a ribbon and you say wow look at this box it's beautiful and you put it on your shelf you don't even open the present that's what is about when you look at the when you look at the superficiality of the external the paging you're not seeing hasem you're not able to see the depth of anything you know and that's the technology today is built to catch our attention and constantly keep us interested with flashing colors and neon lights and we can't get past the neon lights we're not training our eyes to be able to see Hashem in the world only by guarding our eyes is how we train ourselves to be able to see Hashem and there's a story that reab elephant Tells over from the at many years ago there was a um a story with Baba mayor the son English edition or the Hebrew Edition I think English Baba mayor was a son of Baba Sali and there was a rashash Shiva who came to him together with a group of people and they said a boy was kidnapped linu in London I think he was kidnapped and they don't know where he is he's lost and um mayor thought and he took out a piece of paper and he made some lines on a piece of paper and he said he's on this in this street and this in this apartment and they sent down the consulate and they found the boy wow and the rashash was amazed and he asked him and the Riva wrote this article in the ated he was there he asked him how how did you know and he said I never looked at something I shouldn't in my life and therefore I could see you know because was created to see he was able to see from one end of the world to the other but after the he lost that ability and that's actually why he was embarrassed because originally his main Essence was his Nish and the Goof his body was only a Le a garment for his Nish right so why would I be embarrassed if I have a garment over my Essence right but once he sinned and the body became the ior now he's embarrassed he needs a lush for the body body soem made them and they felt they needed to be dressed so clothes that we wear are actually a muscle to the body being a Le to the Nish and that's why the Mitzvah ofis is on what on a beged Hashem says on the beged which is a parallel to the Lush of the body over the over there I want you to put the the to teach you don't look at the external don't look at The Superficial look deeper beautiful very Rabbi amazing insights U powerful powerful words that you're saying and we have a minaga custom and Tor talks which is a final message for our broad audience I just want to share something cute if I could please um I was thanking um yesterday Don grimian for giving us his water park yes for free and uh he's a big believer in American dream I think the American Dream all and I told him that it was a tremendous kashem it was very inspiring I thanked him and I'm just reading you his answer he says it's funny to me that you think you should be thanking me because I gave over a stupid water park as a reward for the most incredible accomplishments of these boys who guarded their eyes I am the luckiest person ever created to have had the to host such Holiness isn't that amazing it's amazing very nice and we put together this book and next year we hope to make this into even a bigger movement yes kak will get involved we'll put it out there to the I appreciate it cuz we want to get next year 3 4,000 bam signed up to this and geared to B it's geared mainly for Bim we had weekly Raffles with hundreds of dollars worth ofarim and Juda nice only the B were in the Raffles but we invited the the married guys to come to the water park event as well everyone who came got one of these books that has the whole 50 how does one get more information about all your grade projects and work so first of all go to chm.org um and go to guard.com to those two websites yeah and we're looking for sponsors to cover this we we it cost us about $75,000 this year we got about 20,000 sponsored so we're still minus 50 if anyone wants to be a sponsor for this year or for next year tremendous tremendous because if we get our B to go into marriage with the right perspective you know how many people come us and guard your eyes and say if someone had only spoken to me about these things when I was younger I wouldn't have messed up my life and my marriage so much you know so I believe this program which takes kuk and tips and tools from the stier from you know psychologist from MIM like Rabbi Kim do Stark in Israel wrote a book called foundations for life we took a lot of material from there great book you know about how to prepare boys for marriage if we can prepare our boys to come into marriage with the right perspective um it'll be a different one day I just want to end with one uh message sure please the um that was the first sin yeah and I believe that before mhia comes hem wants to bring back the again for us to have one final chance to fix it before mashiah the internet is by definition the why it's the sum total of all human knowledge eight and it's eight it's a web it's con you know it goes out in all directions everything humanly ever like millions of shim millions of good things like K or anytime used for the most incredible MIT at the same time we don't have to talk about what the internet can offer we actually made a little cute image in this book of a tree with a guy standing under the tree with his phone and it's a with green apples and red apples to the yeah green apples and red apples the green apples are all the good things the red apples the red apples are all the bad things that you can get on the internet I usually give a shout out to daily giving and I usually give it a shout out to torney time so I'll do it right now at the end I usually do that yeah daily giving is an amazing organization they're also helping guard your eyes they asked me also to give a shout out they're tremendous um Dr Don was on the program as well very nice so this idea that back again right before mhia hasem has brought back the the tree of all human knowledge and our job is to choose correctly this time and that will bring us to the ultimate did I say that right for amazing Torah talk that we just had daa with Holiness we want to remind everyone Tuesday nights 8:30 p.m. Eastern Standard Time kazak cq. glive amazing guest amazing Torah amazing inspiration and uh we want to thank once again our friends at Tor anytime and all the podcast players and different platforms that Host this amazing Tor talks and once again a shout out to our friends at Daily giving a dollar day goes a very very far away amazing where ations like kazak and and and guard your eyes many many others uh get a lot of support from this amazing cause and uh I want to thank all of our dedicated volunteers employees not behind the camera and all of our dedicated board members and uh donors thank you for making kak strong and we're looking to do much more planning to uh more events more shooting more kids out of public schools she was more after school program more Sunday school programs get involved reach out to info. 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