🛑You are here but you aren’t here!🧐 🔈 Rabbi Ilan Meirov

how often does it happen that you're sitting with your wife with your husband with your children with your parents and you're talking to them but you're not really talking with them you're with them but you're not really with them you know you could be sitting in a restaurant and your wife still feels like you're not spending time with her how does that happen why is that so an obvious reason is because it's very common while the guy is out there with his wife he's looking at his phone checking uh the stocks and checking the news and sending an email so his wife says yeah you're with me but you're not with me this obviously applies the other way around as well definitely with our children as well where we're with them but we're not really with them and this is unfortunately a very common common problem that takes place in society we read in the torah that there's a special proclamation that is recited by a certain ceremony a person will proclaim to god i have not violated your mitzvot and i have not forgotten about them now let's stop for a moment we know the torah doesn't have any extra words no extra letters even so what does it mean i have not violated your mitzvot and i have not forgotten about them obviously if you didn't violate the mitzvah you obviously didn't forget about it or at least seemingly it seems obvious that you didn't forget about it so what does the torah mean by saying that the man should proclaim he didn't violate the mitzvah and he didn't forget about it this gets passed back this is back to what we started with very common a person does emits vai puts ante feeling it he does another mitzvah or another mitzvah but he does it robotically doesn't even think about the message behind it the reason behind it the secrets behind it he just does it out of you know out of uh you know custom he does it every day he wakes up that's what he does he puts he doesn't put his mind into it or he prays he just reads the words doesn't bother knowing what he's saying that's why the person makes a proclamation i didn't violate your mitzvot i didn't forget about it because it's possible for a person not to validate the mitzvah he puts on feeling he prays he pretends it's it she does this she does that he does this he does that they do them it's well they don't forget about it but they do forget about it because while they're doing the mitzvah they're thinking about business what they should cook what they should eat where they should go shopping they have to learn how to combine our thoughts with their mouth our thoughts with their action you know many times a father or mother could tell his child i really love you with his smile it penetrates the child or they can say yeah i love you i love you the child knows there's nothing behind the word there's no emotion behind the word let's try to connect all the different senses the emotion with the thought the thought with the action whatever that's necessary combine it together so that whatever it is that you're doing is really legit and done properly we take this message to our hearts and bizarre hashem we'll see the quality of our actions will be on a much greater level