When We Can’t Understand Hashem’s Ways | Rabbi Yitzchok Oelbaum | Tisha B'Av

Thank you Robbie once again and the Kazak organization for registry. Beautiful. It's hard to say beautiful. We're in Tisha but so many people here listening people in person people on with Torah anytime. Thank you Ruin. Thank you Shim. What you guys do for is amazing. Hashem you may have you imagine somebody starts an appeal and the cause of the appeal not the Kazak event we had three days ago everyone knows about but it was to build the BA mikdash that was the appeal we're raising money to build the BA mikdash and all that's missing is a few million dollars that get that's it a few million dollars is missing and there's an appeal let's build a bas Bes mikdash. My guess is it won't take more than a few hours to actually raise that money to be able to build a b mikdash. Of course, when there's an event, you have a few people who don't want to give money. So, they're busy saying, "We have to verify. Is it real? Is it not real?" We're talking about even they verified it. to raise a few dollars is not going to be a big deal because who doesn't want the B mikdash says the we know what we need to rebuild the B mikdash and it doesn't have to cost us anything says the the second was destroyed because says if we fix these two things that is the way to rebuild it doesn't have to cost us anything you know a lot of times you walk around we see a guy he looks like a when you talk to him about somebody he says I don't want to hear I don't want to hear talking about a certain rabbi he tells you no don't talk don't talk but all of a sudden when it comes to his own private things own personal things he'll talk to you about anything in the world just because he's good on one aspect doesn't mean the other aspect that he's talking bad it's still everything goes inside of that our is our work is today to try to try to work on it try to work on ourselves and to analyze are we are we filling that mission of not talking bad about other people who loves loves all of us just like a father loves loves us the same way and he doesn't want to harm Israel and he doesn't want to punish us especially imagine you think you want to destroy that but But it's took out his anger on the aonim instead of taking out on. But the way to actually rebuild it is to work on that. You know, I heard something very powerful. We all heard this and it's actually an American line. Sticks and stones may break my bones. Very good. But words will never harm me. Says, how untrue is that statement? How untrue is that? How unJewish is that? Not only can words harm me, he says. He says, not only can words harm me, he says, but words cause pain, but they could even kill and they cause more pain than sticks and stones. You know, we know the Gar tells us [Applause] it's easier to jump into a fire than to actually to embarrass your friend. Tigmor says we all must remember that it's easier to jump into a flame than to embarrass our friends. That's what we have to do. That's how important it is not to talk. Got to jump into a flame. It's a very hard thing to understand. So the question is how do we guard our tongue? What what is there to do? I have something. I want to say it. I want to give it over. Unfortunately, it feels good to say it. They tell me that I I try to work on. I'm not always successful, but I'm about to blurp something out. I think to myself for a second, if I wait two hours, does it feel I still want to say it over? I'll bring you proof. If you wait two hours, you're not going to want to say it anymore. Because how many times do we say something negative at somebody else and two hours later I'm like, ah, why' I do that? For what? For what? Why' I do that? I think that is a little bit to work on that instead of saying it right now say it into you shouldn't say at all. But if the is so stark and we have to say it, wait two hours. If you wait two hours, you'll see that of just blurbing it out is not going to be as strong. It's going to be either nothing or cut in half. You know, the Gar tells us the story. It's very interesting. Gamar, we know it says [Applause] Because of the story of Kamsa, that's why everything was destroyed. It's a very hard thing to understand. What does that mean? Because of that story, we lost the B mikdash. What does that mean? Because of that story, we lost the B mikdash. So, let's say the story very quickly for those who don't know. So know that there was a wealthy man in Ushalim and he told his servant to invite Kamsa to his party and by mistake he invited his enemy named Baramsa. They invited Baramsa by mistake. This Baram shows up to the party and he was asked to leave and he begged to stay. He was asked to leave. He shows up to the party and he begs please let me stay. I'll do whatever it is to stay. And all the abundant were here, they didn't say anything. And this was not the place cuz if you have a lot of rabbis, they're not just showing up for, you know what I mean? So this guy was a guy and he's begging to stay. Didn't help and they threw him out. And it was because of this Baramsa, he took revenge. He went to the Romans and he said that the Jews are rebelling against you and that led to a series of tragic events that the Bay Sheni was destroyed. So let's analyze the story for a second because of this story that's why is destroyed and the answer is no. This is just a makabes. But let's analyze what happened. The story goes in he was supposed to invite his friend Kam and he invites Barams. So right away the story starts off. You have an issue to hate your friend. You have to love your friend. It's the So right away the miser starts off. You have over here. Okay. What happens now? They're throwing him out. All the rabbis are there and no one said a word. You have Khanifa. Everyone's trying to kiss up to that wealthy guy even though this guy's getting embarrassed. What's going on? All kissing up to him. And then you have lash. What did he went and he was mal we see he went and he spoke the whole this story was a microcosm of the tone of what was going on at that time. So when it says it was because of this story that the was destroyed wasn't exact because of a story. This story was the makabat. But this was the tone in the world. The tone for claw at that time was that what? Yeah, the Ra was thinking for the wealthy people. I was wrong. Doesn't matter. He went to do on them. Boom. And this was the why was destroyed. This was the tone. I heard an unbelievable story. My brother Lorto told me a story. He's a rabbi. He has a yeshiva in Lakewood. And the story really moved me tremendously. There was a man that was a shamish and in the morning he would show up to Shereir and he would ask anybody do you want a coffee like 20 guys at the do you want a coffee? You want a coffee? And he would fill up on everybody a half a cup of coffee. Everybody would literally hand him half a cup of coffee. One guy says I want a full cup of coffee. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. And he came and he gave him a half a cup of coffee. This went on for a long time. One day the shamish couldn't show up. So he asked his son, he said, "Do me a favor." said, 'Could you please take over my job in the morning, but I have one tonight. The coffee in the morning, it's got to be a half a cup of coffee, no full cups. Someone says, "Aba, you know what I said? If you want to carry out my a half a cup of coffee, that's it." Okay, no problem. The next morning, the son shows up to fill up the coffee for the people at. And all of a sudden, the father shows up as well. He asked the son. The son says, "Aba, what are you doing here? I told you I'm taking care of it. I'm only doing a half a cup of coffee. I'm scared you're going to give everyone a full cup. He says, "Can I ask you an honest question?" He says, "You didn't tell anybody, but what is this business of a half a cup of coffee?" And the father tells him, he said, "I'll tell you." The truth is, there's two people in this year that have Parkinson's. If I fill up a full cup of coffee, they're going to hold it and they're going to split on themselves. I don't want to spill on themselves. But I don't want them to feel different than anybody else. So I'm Makma to give everybody a half a cup of coffee. So everyone's the same and nobody feels different. How loving is that story? How beautiful is that? That's Claus. A miser like that. Like this is what actually brings the gula. I have a friend of mine. He used to live in Lakewood. He moved to Chis. His name is Yashi Schwimmer. I mentioned his name. He might kill me. It's too bad. I'll deal with it later. He's a dentist and he moved last year. I was there a few weeks ago. He tells me actually I was there in February and again a few weeks ago. So in February he tells me he says, "Do you want to go to Sheba Hospital to visit the That's what he asked me. I said, "How you going to get in?" He says, "It's not America." He says, "You just walk in and you're good to go." You serious? He says, "Yeah, okay." I go with him in the car. He makes a stop at the mall. He buys earpods. He buys speakers. He buys cell phones. And we go visit the And I thought I was giving them. I walked out so much. You have no idea. You're talking about 18, 19, 20, 25, 50 old people who are sitting there. They're in a wheelchair. Some people are missing a hand, missing a foot. It's not even to believe what you see there. and all them the the the energy that they have and they they give off they said no we're that's we're doing this and it's just unbelievable unbelievable the that I walked out was next level the story continues I was here two weeks ago I said I said do you want to go he says he says I want to go but I want to tell you something that happened he comes to America every other week and he picked up smart watches They're cheaper in America than in Israel. Israel are very expensive. They're expensive. You take it from America. You go to Israel, they're cheaper. So, he has 15 smart watches, whatever it cost, nice amount of money. And he declared it. He wasn't going to sneak it in. He actually declared the watches. He declares the watches and the customs take it away from him. They take away the watches from him. He's very, very hurt. They call him back. He's trying to get He said, "Dude," he said, "I'm from America. I just moved here a year ago. I declared the watches. I'm a dentist. Look, I have two firms. I'm not in the watch business. I brought this to go to the high limit. He's showing the videos, pictures. There's nobody to talk to. There's no one to talk to. Finally, they call him back like three weeks later. They said, "We'll give you back the watches, but you have to pay a storage fee of three and a half thousand." What? You have to pay a three? He looks at me. He says, "It is very, very painful for me to have this. Here it is. I'm going and I'm bringing some for the and they're playing with my brain. They take it away from me. And I almost lost myself. But I said, "No, this is an we all have. So this is my I'm going back. We're going to do what we have to do. We're going to take care of Hashem's children and that's what we're going to do." And he went and we walked out with more. But this is the type of people we're talking about. Everybody has little bumps in the road. But the question is, do we fall with the bumps or do we grow from the bumps? That's the question. And the story goes with Reba. There was a man painting somebody's house and the guy had a lot of pictures on the wall. So he told the painter, he said, "Let's take off the pictures." The painter was a guy. They're taking all pictures off the wall. And the guy sees that one of the pictures was a picture of So you asked the man, the owner of the house, he says, "Is this your rabbi?" And the guy is looking at this guy like, "My rabbi, please get to work. Is this your rabbi?" The guy's looking at him like like he's crazy. And this guy pulls out a picture out of his wallet. He says, "This is my rabbi." The painter pulls out a picture. He says, "This is my rabbi." And all of a sudden, the owner of the house gets excited. He says, "Okay, what's going on?" He says, "I ask you, this your rabbi." So he asked the guy, he says, "What's your story?" So, I want to tell you a story. He says, "I was hired to paint the house of the Bavar. I walk into the house and the big rabbi, the grand rabbi asked me, "Sir, did you have breakfast?" I said, "No." Says, "The rabbi made me breakfast. Made me eggs. I had breakfast." The rabbi himself made me breakfast. And then the rabbi says, "I want to tell you something." And I knew he'll say what everyone else says. I'm paying you good money. I want a perfect job. That's what everybody says. But not this rabbi. I was wrong. He looked at me and he said, "We once had a perfect world and everybody was the way they were supposed to be." He said, "Because of our sins, our temple was destroyed. And ever since, the world hasn't been perfect. I therefore cannot ask you to do a perfect job, but I would like for you to just to try your best." The Reb tells him, just try your best. If you try your best, we'll be good. That's all I want. Try your best. That's what he's telling this guy. And the painter continued and the painter tells Desbalabas, he says, "The rabbi sent me all his followings, all his he sent, they shall hire me." And now one of them offered me breakfast. But the old told me, "Sir, we're paying you good money. I want a perfect job." And you know what I reply back to them? Don't you know there's no temple? Perfection is not even possible. So how can you seek that? That's what this guy told all these who hired him a ration that we can make on somebody. It's unbelievable. Just by being nice, by being you walk out, you feel good, you feel great. I want to conclude with something. See the time's off schedule. We said today one of the kin this was the era of so the 10 the biggest over a span of a hundred years but they're the biggest these were the in a generation the biggest of the dar that's who they were and how did they die the most gruesome way there's a story Araba, he refused not to teach Tory and they caught him teaching Tory. What did they do? They put him in prison. They put him in prison and they took off his flesh. They took a knife and they literally they skinned him. Then we have the story of who was also caught teaching Tory. What did they do? They took the Tory, they wrapped the Tory around him. But that wasn't enough. They put flax inside and lit it on fire so the pain stays there as strong as possible. And then we read about another martyr that the emperor took note of how handsome he was. She told her father, "I want his I want his skin so I can make a sculpture out of him." And when they came to the mukatin, he begged, "Please don't take the mukatin. At least I can put my on the makamat. Don't touch These stories are shocking. But the question is, how are we to understand this? These are the greatest sadikim of a generation. This is what God, this is what you do, Hashem. These are the greatest people in the world. This is how you kill them. So it's a difficult question. We know it says vero saddak who suffers. We find many righteous people who suffer. But like this like this to kill these like this. And the truth is the asked as well. The cried out and they said they learned and this is the that they get for teaching. What are you doing? These are the biggest people in the world. How do we understand this tora? this is your Tory and this is the reward they get for learning Tyra doesn't make any sense answered something he said you want to understand what's going on then I have to bring the world back to I have to bring the world back the way it was created the obvious question is how do we understand this asked a question what does this mean you killed these in the most gruesome way the asked it people were asking said, "Oh, you want to understand? I got to bring the world back to where it was. We read this today. How do we understand this?" And expands on this. He says, "Amazing." Make question a little bit stronger. Imagine you have a child in a classroom and he asked a great question. But in response, the teacher told him, "Be quiet or I will punish you." That's what the question is. The asked and answered, "Doesn't the child have a right to ask a question? So Shila is how do we understand this? He said a mush a beautiful mushel. Now this mushel I heard this mushel changed my life. There's once a master who was approached by the king to make a coat for him. A becka, a coat, a frock, whatever you want. And the king told him, "Here's the material. It's very expensive material. I want you to put it together and I want you to make the coat for me. Says, "Okay." The tail makes the coat. He shows up to the king and he brings over the coat. The king says, "Wow, this is beautiful. I've never seen anything like this. This is beautiful. It's a beautiful coat." And the other tailor were jealous. So he told the king, "This coat is beautiful, but you have to understand something. We could tell that the way he made it is that he pocketed half of the rest of the material. So, as nice as it looks, I'm telling you, you gave him this much material, he made the coat with this much material, the other half is in his pocket. He's going to make his own clothes with it. The king comes to the tailor. He says, "You know, it looks nice, but where's the other half of the material?" He says, "It's all in the coat. I promise you." He says, "I don't believe you." He says, "I have no way to prove it to you." The tailor said, "The only way I can prove it to you is I'll take the code apart." And that's what he did. He took the code apart and now you saw that the material was exactly the way he gave it to me. That's what said. You have a question on me why they died that way. Then you have to understand I have to bring the world back to I have to bring the world back the way it was created and everything is you don't know that. And that's why again we don't understand why they were killed that way. But he says in response said he is the master tailor and there's a master plan in which everything that happens in this world is accounted for. However, if we demand answers to our question says we're going to have to transform the world. Things are not always as simple as they seem. When a sadic suffers we see it on a very basic level but in fact we must be aware that is somehow part of a complex plan. We must know that we cannot understand it all. So if we all understand that everything is part of a master plan it's not possible to understand. We have questions but if we take this misa this m of actually able to internalize it and realize something happened today. It's hard, but it's all part of a master plan. If we that be able to conquer the world, be able to be be friends with everybody, not say something that hurts, hold it back. It's all part of the master plan. We do that. Heard amazing.