What to do when couples fight

famous story from when his wife passed away 1998 one of the most powerful speeches at the funeral the world remembers is that he said I don't have to ask forgiveness and for my wife cuz we never fought and never he was like looking what the reason is when we had a question they didn't he didn't call it a problem what do we do he would take the open up and check it out and whatever is that's what they follow so they're both on number of in this case you cannot ask everyone to open up they don't know those no problem have a rabbi but a rabbi that knows you that knows your family that knows your issues don't get just anybody get a rabbi that is the experience in that field