Rabbi Yigal Cohen | The Power of Women | CHAZAQ

[Music] welcome thank you for the raban my English not perfect I hope you understand my I learn English from the street you know it's not English from the from the school but I tried my best please please sit down I want to learn with you today very important thing I think the most important thing for a woman thank I want to thank for giving me the opportunity to speak you know I do I do this a lot speaking but every time that he does speak every place in the world I feel gratitude for to give me this opportunity to speak so I also thank you that you wait for me I I'm sorry for I'm late what's the most important midah things that has a woman should have in our life the most important the most important thing that you the woman needs in her life to be the best wife that she can the best mom that she can and the best woman that she can the most important thing for my opinion is to be happy woman to be happy if you're happy your husband going to be happy why because when a husband come home and see his wife happy what you think to himself why is she happy because she has me yeah that's what she thinks so when you smile you bring up the EGO of your husband and it's good he feel good to himself when you Shalom the opposite you feel Shalom not not happy you feel that fail she has me why is she unhappy and I want to tell you something else you ask for a lot of things each one of you asking for a lot of thing in your life and God willing will give you anything that you need anything all the all the the singers going to have good husband all the marri good [Music] children I want to ask you one question just remember that do you think if I give you a note please R whatever you want whatever you want and I promise you that God going to give you anything you want do you think you're going to be happy after that you get whatever you want yes I wish I pray but if God going to give you anything you want I promise you if you're unhappy now it's going to be the same thing after if you're happy now you're going to be happy after you have to be happy now now said who is the rich man you want to be rich yes you want to be rich who is the rich man that happy what he got I w't convince you and myself to be happy with what you got just be happy with yourself you know how many people doesn't like this themselves their self they looking in the mirror and and they want to change something why why we want to change something in our faces in our life because we're not happy with what we got Kazan said who is the rich man who has who is Happy what he got they not said they opposite but we have to understand the opposite if you're not happy with what you got if you're unhappy Shalom if you has doubts about your marriage you this you this you this you're the opposite of Rich so please please you want healthy child children right everybody want healthy I mean not only in his body in his soul in his soul you want Happy happy children healthy children you have to give him an example for happiness life how can we do it I how can I work on myself what should I do to be happy with what you got with you got happy with my children I have ADHD you know what's ADHD you you I'm I'm going all the all the time I'm going like this I feel always my mind is working like like like I don't know why what in English my any boy know English I don't know what but my I I I always feel that I I has to do something and it's difficult for me when I was young to sit in the class and to listen to you know some sometime he's boring the teacher is boring sometime not all the time sometimes most most of them they they very very very uh interesting but sometimes it's difficult you know I feel bored I feel I want to do something okay I'm not young it's okay I went through but my children I have two daughters beautiful I have five daughters that's all all I got five daughters in my life the best thing that I have get in my life it's my five daughter and my my my my my beautiful wife that I'm so happy with that but two of them has like me ADHD okay hyperactivity so three of them the best in the class the best she one day she come crying why why you crying I get get 98 then 98 from 100 and I start I start cry with her I'm par guy 98 you have celebration we have to Celebration and I have another girl another daughter that gets 40 than 100 she also come cry oh 40 40 I told her 40 you know how many 40 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 and I'm telling you I'm telling you I'm happy with the 40 just like the 9 98 and the 100 the other one because for me it doesn't matter the the the number for me that he she tried she tried has difficult she has difficulty How can I love the same way a children that fade and some of the the the example test of of the test or or the other the other way that has succeed how can I love him the same way the same things everybody has failed in his life how can I accept myself when I fail how can I accept my wife when she fell the said meaning I have to love my wife just like I love who myself so the Torah teaching you two things very important things is you have to love we have to love each other very much just like we love ourself meaning that before that I'm going to love my wife I have to love myself okay how can I do that to be happy you you have to accept yourself you have to know the good thing that you have inside yourself if you doesn't know what you wor how can you be happy and a lot of times our parents not not our parents I mean my parents or there is parents that say to to the children you're not smile you're not like that you're not like that oh not the CH not the parents maybe the teachers if not the teachers maybe the friends and we believe them we believe them that we're not smart enough that we're not good enough that we not we we we cannot grow more than we we we now don't believe anyone in the world that say to you things that make me feel bad you know why I'm not shamed in what what God created me you know why because God doesn't make mistake he create you the best way the best thing in the world the most beautiful in the world is you the most beautiful is you you know why because God create you the only one that know what's the best thing is for you who create you never never be as shame with what God gave you because he doesn't make mistakes when you have believe in God when you knows that he created the world A Beautiful World beautiful beautiful beautiful world with so amazing things in the world so sophisticated she forget to give you what you need why should I shame because I'm I'm tall not I'm not tall enough short or something like that or whatever whatever God decide to create you you have to be happy with your husband because if you think that you choose him you're not choosing nothing God gave you them and he gave you the good things for your own when I see my children I have five children Five Daughters I know that God gave it to me and I know this is the best thing for me and I'm happy with that I'm happy I'm showing that I'm happy with that I'm really really really not feel disappointed or Shalom you say what disappointed I'm not feel disappointed because I know that my father that loves me so much your father that loves you so much he gave you that he gave you the what whatever you need all your life and he doesn't make mistakes he knows better than me and better than you what's good for you this is what Raba said everything that God does it's for your own best your own good for so I if I took points for my lectures what the the first point that I want you to take with you in home and I have to say something before I cannot help anybody nobody can help me remember that you you know how many guys calling me or meeting me please Rabbi my wife left me she likes to e to your lectures please call her to bring me back you don't know how many hundred hundred please she listen to your lectures please you can speak with her please I give you some somebody came to my home with 100 ,000 shek nice 100,000 she and he told me please Rabbi if you bring my wife home I will give you 100,000 sh I try my best not 100,000 sh I try my best even the people that don't have money it doesn't for me it doesn't I to I took the money from away took the money I don't want everybody now if he gave me money everybody knows that I took money and everybody came with money I I all all the all the long going to make phone calls it's difficult for me I call her and she told me something very smart bra let's say that I'm listen to you I'm bringing back home do you think the problem going to go away the problem with between us gonna go away because rabal called me and told me please bring him home he promised her that if she bring it home you're going to buy her new car I told them I'm not going to tell her that no even if you promise my whatever you promise me you know when the problem going to go away when we walk on ourselves no rabbi in the world can do the work for us if you want to change you want better life you will be happy it not depends on me not depends on it depends only on you I was in depression 2 years I went to all the psyches and and therapy and pills that I can nobody helped me and see I understand I I went to the rabbi big Rabbi I'm asking blessing to be happy you know what to tell me I'm not blessing you I was in shock why not he told me it not depends on it depends on you go to work do whatever you need to do change and you're going to be happy you want to be better you want to feel better you want to be a good woman happy woman it's not depends on me it not depends on nobody else the said what do you mean if I'm not working for myself for myself nobody can help me in the world there's only one that can help you with some some things in your life but the most things the most important things it depends on you to smile just smile yes to smile I'm working on it you know I'm going to the mirror I'm closing the windows because if somebody going to say me you're going to send me to hospital I'm closing the window and begin to smile yeah smile you know how many people told me I like your lectures because you smile in your lectures just smiling no money nothing smile sitting in your home and stop and smile I know some people going to say you're crazy some people going to say you tell them you are the crazy that not smiling I am the normal the normal I am the normal I'm smiling I'm happy I'm happy with what I got are you happy what gave me I have so many things so many good things you have in your life don't waste your time to be unhappy don't waste minute in your in your life minute in your life to think about good B thing to speak no good no good you know why said not to speak he at why is that because to speak you have to do two things before to speak you have to first of all see bad thinking bad and speaking bed and ate he asking you please see the good think the good and speak good don't waste your time about seeing bad because if you're going to see bad you're going to find bad you're going to think bad you're going to live in bad fight fight to be happy fight to be good this is the way for love how you think we're going to love each other to bring the better mdash how can we love each other we different we different each other from each other I different from my wife how can I love her even she's thinking different than me she she speak different than me she likes different things than me and still I'm loving her why is that why is that I'm looking for good I'm finding good I'm looking the good thing that my wife has inside herself and I find diamonds big big diamonds I find something that make me to love to be happy what I got when I see my children I see the diamonds that they have inside their and I become to be rich rich I have one grandson one but he make me feel wow wow is ADHD like me yeah I think more than me but I hope not but yes it's beautiful it is make me happy it's make me happy more than1 billion you believe me believe it or not 1 billion dollar going to stay over here my grandson GNA take it the he gonna do in his life I'm going to take it after with me your children your children is the big present that can you can get in your life because after I'm standing here my mother Al Shalom passed away 17 years ago she was young but I'm jealous in her you know why I'm jealous at my mother because my mother doesn't know how to read because she grew up in Iran and then in those time she they they didn't want to the to the school she didn't want know how to read but she has big heart we are we are eight children she she get and I'm every night going from place to place I was in Seattle in Chicago in New Jersey and Brooklyn and now here and every person that listen to me the mitvah belong to my mother she's 17 years upstairs getting present every night when you see your life with a present surrounded with present surrounded with good things you see the good things that you have in your life the billion things the billion billion of the billion of of Mercy that get you every second in your life when you saw it when you see these kind of things you feel rich and I can promise every each one of you you are rich maybe you still don't know it but you are rich you know there is people that has million dollar in the bank2 million do in the bank but is but there is people that has good wife that worth 10 times than him a good wife small house small house regular car but big Heart Gold Heart Gold what a person mod to live has the king of the world he has anything that a human being can want in his life anything that he want he wants the smartest guy in the world and he said what is mean better for you to eat small bread and loving house in loving house then they eat meat you know Kebab Kev lamb but in the house that's full of fighting you have husband that loves you you are millionaire you are billionaire when your husband look at you like a present when he give you honor when your children kiss your hands in Shabbat and said and sing for you this second and awake you're king queen you're a queen you have children that s and your husband song for you sing for you that you are so who is the rich man who is the rich man you know who's the rich man first Ru to be rich to be in peace with you look at me and said this is the beautiful thing in the earth create me he doesn't make mistake look the good thing that you have you did mistake I'm all also B mistakes so what change fix work don't stay in in the bed and say I'm miserable and not don't don't don't except instead of don't have don't have don't have don't have everybody has things that he don't have right everybody I don't have billion dollar I don't have that I don't have that okay but what you have I have I have you have I I can fit with every person in the earth and in five minutes give him a big list big list what you have have you want self-confidence self-esteem you have to have it you have to to believe first of all in yourself that you great that you can't that you have strength woman I'm scared than them you know what some some lectures a woman called me Rabbi come here we dance like this I'm afraid I'm I'm going I'm going I'm coming I'm coming I'm coming rest Str you have fight you fighter a woman wow I'm telling you I saw a mother or a a woman that can fight for her children for her husband she can change the world for him you believe that that you strong or you said oh I'm weak I'm don't have strength I'm done this I'm I'm not this I'm not what is that no more no more yes we can yes yes I can I can find I will find because with me with you to believe that you have to believe in your life in God and yourself it's not my call if you believe in God and not believe yourself you cannot do nothing in your life because you part of a yes you unique part of a he I don't know say in English [Music] English can do anything there is nothing that he cannot do right everything money Health anything in the world you can do you have to believe it anything any miracle that you want in your life you can do it depends on you how how much you believe it you believe it you're going to be Miracle you're going to see miracle if you believe in Miracle you're going to see miracle if not believe you're not going to get Miracle you believe that he can get you anything you want yes you're going to have it you're going to have it if you not believe Shalom you're not going to have it if you believe but after you finish to believe your de that he can only only he can do anything he want you also can do anything you want there's not such a thing I cannot not such a thing you know how many people with depression come to me because I was in depression and I speaking about it in lectures a lot of people thousand of people come to me came to me help me help me I tried pills I tried that I Tred therapy I tried that I tried that you went through over there please help me I cannot help him if he not if he you believe that you can do it you believe in yourself that you have the strength inside yourself that you can do it you believe that you're unique if you're not feeling unique it's not because you're not unique you're unique but you're missing the good point that you have inside yourself when we jealous another person because she more beautiful she has more money it's only because one reason one reason we not appreciate what we got when I drive car said and I see BMW next to me I'm not supposed to jealous him right why because I have right I'm just giving some examples what my you know you drive a new car good car and there is car next to you also good car you're not jealous in because you have also good things when are you jealous in when you don't have the things that he has right when you don't have nothing and he has everything W I'm jealousy how we came to this situation that we not believe that we have you know sometimes sometimes a poor people person not rich not rich but he's so sweet he's so sweet a good person if you meet him you want to a good person but he doesn't have money and he jealous the man that has money but the man that has money is a bad person Shalom not not every body but sometimes and he jealous them and I ask them why my friend why why why you have billion billion billion times more than them billion times why you jealousy why you jealousy please I'm asking you I'm beging you please I'm Rabbi I'm collect collecting money for I have 130 30 we have restaurant that you get food a lot of things that we try to do and I came to America a place like that and collecting money I'm not good at it at all at all because I'm shy and I have I have my fults you know I have friends he is the best in his walk he's doing that like if you going to meet him or something like that go go without your wallet without your checks without money because he going to take from you anything you have he just know how to do it I don't know how to do it and sometimes I wake I I went through to Miami I I went to Miami I'm sitting some place and some rich guy saw me and ran to me I love you so much I love your lectures I know him he's a rich man very big rich man I said to smile wow rich man like that love me W it's good good signs but he told me I I asked him can can I come over to your office to speak about and this he looked at the calendar and said I'm sorry no I'm flying to here I'm flying to there send me without nothing I feel disappointed or not a little bit no no no I'm telling you no you can believe me or not it's your decision I'm not feel any any any disappointment because I know one good thing and I want you to know also when Clos door one door he open seven other doors remember that remember that he close one door sometimes Shalom somebody get fired from his his job please start to cry don't cry don't cry be happy will find you better better better job thousand times better he Clos in the guy said no he doesn't want goodbye I will find never never afraid I'm I told this to my to my daughter if somebody doesn't want want you don't feel Shalom any disappointed at all is not for you that's it closed this door open 10 10 times better doors okay I sit with in my place my friend came to me and asked me how much he gave you I told him nothing no no way nothing this LBI that I told you before my friend was next last last week here we he sit with him he gave him a check of $4 million cash wow $4 million it's a lot of work a lot a lot of you know wow wow wow wow wow wow wow but he does he gave him I asked myself eagle coin in of course I'm thinking in HEB not in English yes but I said in English I'm thinking I think to myself eagle coin do you jealous this Rabbi they take A4 million check or not a little bit a little bit so I asked this in my lectures half of the people said no Rabbi you're not jealous Rabbi don't jealous no no no you have big beard white beard no not jealous not jealous you know you you think because my beard I'm not je sometime the B make you more jealous don't don't don't don't be sure and the other F said just like here they said a little bit in gentle yes in gentle a little bit I want to tell you something I don't I don't know if you're going to believe me or not I feel In This Moment I'm not jealous at him at all at all I tell you why I tell you the reason no there is reason there is reason you have to work on it you have to work on it there is reason oh I'm sorry I'm sorry I forgot to translate hey there is no such an English word for this in Hebrew said in Hebrew we said I don't see him from uh a fe okay I mean I'm not jealous in at all at all at all at all any slang NE okay I'm not jealous in at all what's the meaning let me explain you okay let me explain you uh but I'm trying to get to the water please look I don't know how to collect money I'm not strong strong at that I have I'm not I'm not good at it okay I'm not good at that but I have another good T what the other good that I have I can speak thank you thank you thank you so much I can speak you know in Israel I'm working a lot of with the k mean the people they're not religious with love with sympathy with smile and bring him close to is his big present okay my God gave me a present that they gave lectures I'm asking you questions this lectures that we have now worth more than 400 million ion or less what it or not I we jealous somebody that get $4 million when I have more than million $4 million I have more than that God giv me a blessing how can I jalous somebody else you know if we jalous somebody else said you want to change everything to replace everything with him no right because you don't want to lose what you get so don't don't I'm saying to myself I'm saying to myself everybody outside looking you know the grass of the the neighborhood always looking the green more the green than you this is this is the way of life but you have to be behave of that believe what you got look at your husband don't say hey hey his husband her husband or that that he has that that and that and that no your husband has great things your husband your children yourself if you remember the good thing that you have every day every day every day every day you got to remember the great thing that you have in your life two things I want you to to remember the greatest things that you have in your life and thank you two things I want you to remember the great thing that you have in your life parents friends money you know sometimes some people have $50 50 bucks in the in the in the pocket in the wallet and they're happy with that I came from nebra nebra is Big City in Israel but very very interesting City we have Falafel you know what Falafel you know FF and a FF the most the cheap FF in the earth I think but I don't think responsibility about what you're going to get after the eating of this FF but you know 8af is very so dangerous I tell you the truth but you know when you have 50 shek in your in your wallet you can say I can buy for me and for my children FF I feel rich and you can have million dollar in your pocket and you feel poor why is that it's not enough to buy a building in Manhattan you know it's it's not enough to buy this kind of car it's not enough and not enough enough enough remember you have two choices you see the the the cup half empty half full right all your life half empty half full what you focus on the empty or the full only the full I don't know how much time I have okay 10 minutes it's okay another 10 minutes yeah okay 10 minutes I know that you sitting here a long time and 10 minutes I want to give you a few tips to have to be rich rich with money and reach in your soul in your soul okay said when you wake up in the morning and you feel emptiness there is such a time that you feel in we said feel L of bad what we can do I want to feel happy I want to feel good I want to you know I want to do things to be creative to be to do my work and in the best way that I can to be to do my my job with my children the best way that I can please give heart to your children when I speak about children please give them a heart please I'm begging you he needs that always say something good to the people to the children I said it's like gon when when we said I don't know say in English there is game poker or something I don't know the games but there coin coins coins right Jon noton chips chips right chips when you give hug to your children and you tell them you are the most smart man in the earth when he go to the school and this the teacher going to ask question his hand going to do like that even when he don't know the question my mother told me that I'm smart he remember the compliment that you gave him or Al to your husband very important when he came home open the door do like that wow yes and we when he asked you what happened what happened tell him you are the most beautiful guy in the world look at me after 2 minutes you're going to see him going to the mirror and look at the mirror and he tried to he start to say finally finally she saw it you know it's worth nothing it cost you nothing nothing nothing and to the girls always you are beautiful the girls I saw it my girls they stand next to the mirror and fix their air I told her you're 12 12 years old what you going to do with your beauty you're not going to marri now yes I want to be Beauty she want to be Beauty creates a girl she want to feel beauty tell her please tell her it's very important to woman to children to a daughter you know sometimes in the in the classes in the school a a girlfriends tell him tell her a friends tell her you're not this and you're not that you that that where she supposed to get the self-confidence she need with you not with your father I'm telling you but your father doesn't speak he come to from walk so so tired he's going to sit down and just want to eat to to to rest you speaking with the children speak good things you're smart you're strong I love you so much give him a hug he needs that when I see I I was in Shabbat it was one it's difficult for me without right all the Shabbat they give him hug he he gave me so he hug me so much so so strong he does doesn't have father he needs somebody to hug him he need somebody to hug him and I gave it to him and he needed so much the children means your love it's cost nothing just give love also also your your husband your husband need more than love honor what is honor your great you are great you're strong you want to yeah I don't know say in English you have big muscles you're strong yes tell them tell to you you man oh and after five minutes he start to go like something it's work all the time it's work all the time it's work all the time when I said compliment to my student in in the lectures somebody asked me a stupid question sometimes what can I do with him I'm telling him you smart you know that he said and you forget the question you forget anything all all all the lectures you look at me I love this Rob yeah he loves me so much because I give him compliment so be happy just like you are now always remember the good thing that God gave you and be grateful be grateful always say thank you in America most of the people all the time thank you thank you excuse me excuse me thank you thank you excuse me excuse me is you're going you're getting that excuse me excuse you no no we fighter in Israel we Fighters we Fighters so when you have grateful when you feel grateful what God for for what God gave you when you feel grateful you know you you have so many good things you living in America such a great place I know there is difficulty also in America not everything is perfect but you have good things here you have good good cars good fine houses good food good community you know good people I came here I'm feel I feel that I'm you know I need to be with good people sometimes because in Israel my work is to to to to be with a lot of people that's broken you know they feel so bad so I came here I feel that I'm healing I'm I'm I'm I'm feel good because I'm with good people with good people you have good people next to you you have good people next to you you know it's blessed do you feel like a lucky woman amen I hope yes cuz if not what bless of course of course big bless big big big bless you are Jew you son of you daughter of you have connect directly to the president of United stat cannot say you can say it is your god your daughter you are daughter of the only God you can ask him anything you need and when you smiling you are grateful for we grateful for and you smile you feel great because you say thank you I'm asking you five time five thanks in a day every day but every day new thanks for things that you didn't said yesterday fine good find find five things and new things that you have today and say thank you God for them that you didn't say yesterday before day before thank you thank you so this is another tip five thanks five every day thank you for this lectures thank you for the raan lectures thank you for the food thank you for the health of me and my children I have to tell you something never never lost your faith in God 20 years ago my wife was Brant we went to a doctor to check if everything is okay this the doctor said that the children have big big problem in on in on H for never never lost your faith in five professors told us to kill the the children to kill them because she not going to leave 5 minutes that's what she said told us we fight we fight bring her to this world she has three surgery and she fight she's fighter she's so strong she she when she fight with her twins she has twins she kick her with she gave her she's strong she [Music] fight and you know a lot of people told me Rabbi why you you say this story about the heart of your children nobody going to want to marry her if they know that she has problem with her heart has problem now she doesn't have problem I told her I'm telling you I'm telling this story for people to give him strength and God will find her and when I was here in America she called me she meet a guy she told me Ma I want I want to marry I start I start to cry you know because me and my wife of course my wife more than me we went through a lot of things with this this this girl and always we believe believe in good thank you so much believe and I'm telling you please I'm begging you always think good you think good you bring good to yourself I believe that she going to find and I told the guy before the first meeting listen this is the the story of the of the girl I'm not going to lie to you this is all the true on the table you want to take it take it he has questions he has answer and when you think about your future good you're going to have good future this is what said what is trust in God trust in God he said we trust in God we believe in God that everything everything everything going to be okay you are good hands remember that you are the best hand in the world want to lead you to the best place in your life and he will do he will do he will lead you guide you to the best thing in your life only in one condition believe him trust him believing good thinking good and God will gu you to the best thing in your life I want to ask you if you want what [Music] one one asking I have [Music] 130 not for me collecting I'm shy but I do it for for for for the for the poor people in the we have restaurant that bring 200 people lunch every day if you want to be a part we have is Big to buy to buy house and big whoever you want to without is this is the woman that outside it's $180 for a month from for 18 months you part of me partner of me and more than that I will pray 40 days for the each name that you you said to to to do for you and thank you so much thank you everybody I wish you all the best in your in your life I wish you am