Rabbi Yaakov Rahimi | The Power of Speech | CHAZAQ

Welcome everyone to tonight's very special share the power of speech. We're here the great honor of hearing Rafimi. Of course um we know about the tragedy that happened in the community and of course this entire event is loving memory of [Music] course [Music] very quickly. Amen. And um tonight's event and of course the [Music] and um we we're all gathered here where we're we have um of course we're going to we're start with with a chapter we're going to hear from um Dan and we're here from and um everyone is everyone is here and of course is um such a tragedy and we're all seeing what what can each and every one of us do here practice practical step for for the of course for the family and that's what the paper is going to rub our fingers we speak about tonight is there's this paper it's an amazing initiative from the clan heritage foundation if you see the paper on your on everyone's chair as we put around it's called adab Iraq and what it is is there this is that everyone where I pass around a signin sheet they can get a weekly amazing shabas newsletter sent to them for free every single week via email and so everyone's going to be if you sign up, it's going to get a special Shabas um um a Shabas placer for your for your table with a with a tila that that person could say at their table that they're taking upon themselves not to speak for of course we're going to say for about and of course for so of course everyone should sign up for this initiative it's a practical step that every single person can take for this shabas and for for all this the the Shabbat going forward of course with so we're passing sheet and um of course this Sunday this Sunday night as well in this same this very same room we encourage everyone to join us we're going to be having Rab um speak of course for Leela Nishmas for Rafael Lisa and Rafa so of course everyone should join us this Sunday night the flyers are outside um And of course, I want you to not only come, tell your friends, bring your f friends, family to all um join us. And we're gonna start off with a um a paric for for [Music] [Applause] Sure to very very quickly and it's our great great honor to call upon the RV of Kilashem for some opening remarks we are the victim and thank you very much to Mr. Rabi Above warm and amazing organization. I was asked and we certainly very much as part of Katashim appreciate the partnership of Kazak and the opportunity to do many events together with uh the organization that does so much for Queens and beyond. Uh this particular event was spearheaded by the sisterhood of Kiratim and I'd like to thank them and all those that are involved in the sisterhood for their incredible work and efforts and energies on a daily basis to make sure that there are programs that are catered to our community and beyond as well. Soak all around. I'd like to introduce and say a few opening remarks. We have with us a great honor to have Raakovi. Ravakovi grew up in Lakewood, New Jersey and he is a graduate of Dal Yeshiva and he went to learn for several years in the prominent yeshiva of Brace Medish Gavo in Lakewood and is a very close talmid of in Sharita and of Saratkin Sharita. Over the years, he had this of taking part of a very big project called a work that is all over many BMI all over the world. and Dav is very involved with not just his own community but across the tri-state area probably even beyond that of spreading Torah working together with Kazak working together with Torren time NCSY and many many other organizations as well was invited to speak about the power of words and when I heard that that was the speech I was a very happy and I think it's something that always needs always needs to be strengthened and reinforced. And even when we know a lot of the importance of it so many times in our daily lives, we come in and we don't show that significance to what it means to speak words. And in general, the words that we use is light in our eyes. It doesn't cost money to say words. It's very effortlessly. It's something we do all the time, every day, all day. And therefore, we're not always so careful and there isn't that much appreciation for what it means to say a word that might offend somebody that might cause a person damage and harm. As a matter of fact, they say a story of Galinsky says this story, beautiful story that the himself was a great master author and he wrote the which was he was known for spoke about the importance of keeping guarding your tongue and the way he would sell his is he had ambassadors. He would have emissaries that would go to different cities but they wouldn't just set up a shop and start selling the books. What they would do is they were invited to speak in in places of large gatherings and then they would say about the importance what is they would give a very impassion speech something that really inspired the community and then afterwards they would say and now you want to know how to follow the rules of here is the of the it's a complete guide with all of the almost every no stone unturned everything was discussed every that was associated every every that connected to did a magnificent job of bringing it in. So uh one time one of his ambassadors comes back to him and says I sold this and this many books looked and said wow that's amazing you sold a lot. He says yes here's the money for it and I'm resigning. I'm quitting my job. I don't understand. You just did so much. Why would you resign? Says, I think I'm being counterproductive to the efforts of encouraging of of of keeping counterproductive. How can you say that? You're going you're giving you're strengthening the idea of keeping and preserving this command. Why would you say that? He says, "I want to tell you one story that's very emblematic of my experience. I went to a certain and I gave an impassion speech. I spoke about how so many times the consciousness and the carefulness that every Jewish home has to keep as an example and how every woman in make sure that there's a set of dishes for dairy and there's a set of dishes for meat and how we're careful to wait 6 hours. You never heard of a household they don't wait 6 hours. Of course you're going to wait 6 hours. And then I stopped and told him, you know, waiting six hours between meat and milk is min it's not even a from the from from the Torah. It's not even an enactment of it's a mean that comes stems from the but it's not as binding as even if a person were to have meat and milk together which is potentially but that's one if he were to have and insert put something in his mouth something not in his mouth he would violate a Torah prohibition but how much can a person eats one kazai three kaz Five kaz that's five violations a person with this speech in one speech he has the potential of violating 17 in the Torah worse than every other prohibition I mentioned up until now if we're careful about the kashut in our homes certainly we have to be careful with I gave this speech and I was so proud of myself I was so happy wow this for sure had a positive effect until I heard what people said after the shield and I overheard one person talking to this friend he says you know I loved what the spoke about so much it was an amazing I've been telling my wife to for years why are you so careful with all these details in the kitchen and now I have rabbitic backing look it's not even as bad as you know you really don't have to be that careful and he heard that and he fell his heart fell he said oh is not even deemed that important that you take that and you say, "Oh, the kitchen is even less than that. So, I want to return all of my all the funds. Here's the funds and I'm resigning." The told him if one Jew has one moment where he's now introspecting or repenting or stopped himself from saying a sentence or was a little bit more careful as a result of your dash, it would have been all of the effort of traveling and going and making sure and selling and doing everything. And that's the lesson. A lot of times in uh in our lives, uh we don't appreciate what it means to be careful. one word of to to abstain to stop ourselves and say no you know what I'm not going to say that it's not such a nice thing to say I'm going to hold myself back and sometimes it's like we said in last week it's that little bit that a person takes the small things and he adopts them and he makes it part of himself part of his life that changes the whole dynamic of connecting with so that's the power of speech Without any further ado, it's a great honor and it's a great privilege for me to invite a true to give us words of encouragement and in matters of the power of speech. [Applause] We continue to have success. Amen. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you everyone for coming. Thank you Rabi for arranging and all those live on Zoom. Thank you for organizing this. This is your four of Thank you Raban for such an introduction. You said it so good that I felt like a different person. I think you're talking about the wrong guy. I mean [Applause] really after the rabbi spoke there's nothing more to add but I want to tell you that the R that you have in your community I have the to work at a school in Brooklyn called Darits the Shashiva. His name is Mary Yad. I'm sure all of you heard of her bid and in a school part of the school curriculum in certain grades is that we teach and the we use is because he has a he brings out the so we can tell you the we use the with health. >> Tonight we're going to speak about the power of but before I start I want to share with you what happens when we care and it pains us when other are in pain. The puk says Yakov left a city called Beva. Now Rashi asked a very simple question. It's a tremendous lesson. It's one of the most famous rashies alata. And the reason why I'm saying over this rashi is because many years ago I heard a story from a yak of bender. Byak of bender is risha of darra over here in cedarhurst in five towns. And he said when he was a young child and yeshiva he learned in Mir Brooklyn and he was a yat he was an orphan his mother in the summer will go to the mountains. She was a widow alana. She would go to the mountains for the summer. Now being that he wanted to be with his mother every Shabbat even though he was in yeshiva obviously every Shabbat he went to the summer with his mother. The problem is and this is a true thing there is no rise to the mountains on Fridays. If you want to go to the mountains for Shabbat to the camps and you're in Brooklyn or in Lakewood, you have to leave Thursday night, Thursday evening, early Friday morning. So bender when he was a yeshiva learning in the near he will leave Thursday afternoon like everybody else will go to the mountains for Shabbat. He comes back to yeshiva Sunday his went over to him and he told him where were you Thursday afternoon where were you Friday morning for for first savior in yeshiva so he told him yesa you know my mother is is a widow alana and I'm with her in the mountains and obviously there's only rides Thursday afternoon so I have to leave he tells her you have to be here Friday morning and I'll pay for your car service. How much does a car service cost? I'll pay for it. Not that he had money or what about but he said I'll pay for my own pocket to make sure you stay here every single Friday morning. Why? Because you sitting in the betrash you sitting and learning and everybody is watching you learning. You think you don't make an effect. You make such an impression. You make such a difference sitting and learning the beta midrash. Even though there are other people learning Torah, I want you to stay here because you make an effect and if it means to pay money, I'll pay money for the car service. So Ben told Shiva, he says, do I really make such a difference? He quoted them this Rashi told him this Rashi. Rashi says this, listen to this lesson, the tremendous lesson. Rashi says, why does the say left the city of and you went to the city of Kan? If you're going to the city of Kan obviously you're leaving the city that you're in for example let's say I'm traveling from Lakewood to Brooklyn. So the answer is I am driving to Brooklyn. I don't have to say I left Lakewood and I'm driving to Brooklyn. If my destination is Brooklyn obviously I'm leaving Lakewood. So why did the puk over here say Yakov left the city of Beerva where he was from and then he went he went to the city of Kan. Isn't it obvious if he's going to kan he's living in the city of Beerva? That's Rashi's question. And then Rashi says an unbelievable answer. He says, "No, it's not only that Jacob Vinu went to the city of Kalan. He also left the city of Baleva." Meaning when he was in the city of Belva, he made such an effect in his surroundings. Jacob and you can imagine that when he left the city, the whole city of Bva felt it. It's not just he went to a different city. It's the city that he left was also affected. Cuz when Yakabina was around the beerva, everyone got influenced. Once he left, you felt him exit the city. So that's what the puk says says Rashi left the city of everyone felt it. Everyone felt what it means. A city with Jacobu and a city without Jacobu. That's to the P went out of its way to tell us that he left the city of Beerva. Even though it's obvious asked the a beautiful question and a very obvious question. Yakov for sure had a huge effect in the city of Beerva, but don't forget his parents were still there when he left. And were still in the city of Bva. See, even though you're right, left the city, but at the end of the day, are they still great are still the pillars of Judaism still in BV and his parents were alive and that we're still in BV? So says a very obvious question. Why are we making such a big deal that Yakov left the city of Belv that the whole city got affected if he left behind his parents and why are we making such a big deal? So says an unbelievable answer trying to remember this for the rest of your life says you're right obviously had a huge effect in their surroundings and of course the city of BVA was still very holy with them around but at the same time each individual in life each sadik in life makes an unbelievable impression in their surroundings and each one has their own has their own share share has their own mission that they can accomplish to the people around them by doing the right thing by following Torah by being righteous. See even though you're right when he left the city it made an effect in the whole city even though stayed but left it still made an effect. Why? Because even though there's all that sadikim in the city every person makes a difference. So when they leave it's felt by everyone says of Jacob Ben. This is an unbelievable thing. Many times in life, a person can tell themselves, and it's so not true. When I'm talking to myself, a person can tell themselves, "Do I really make a difference? Does it really make a difference if I'm careful the way I the way I learn Tawa? If I'm careful the way I don't speak, if I'm careful the way I pray, the way I dav, there are so many people praying around me. There are so many people learning Tawa. There are so many people giving. Does he really make a difference? From this kaka, from this rash, we learn a tremendous lesson. No matter who the person is, you have a mission and you have a job in this world. And what you do at your situation makes an effect on your surroundings around you. And if a person leaves a place, the whole surroundings feel it. And it's even worse than that. Even if a person doesn't leave the place, if a person doesn't fulfill their mission, if a person doesn't believe in who they are and how much they can accomplish for one another, then it for sure makes an effect in their surroundings. Each one of us has each one of us can make a huge difference. So I want to share with you a famous Shanti writes like this. When a person is in pain from his heart on the pain of their friend. When you're in pain for your friend. When you have pain in your heart for your friend that's going through a hard time. When you have sal for another person, by you being by you having pain for your friend, but the situation that they're going through, you're moving away from them and even worse things. When a person is happy and their friend seem your friend is engaged, your friend had a baby, your friend has good pan, your friend is getting married and you're really happy by you being happy from your friend, you're showering him, you're throwing on him, you're throwing at him thousands of more good news and salvations. And he says like this, listen very carefully. When any Jew blesses his friend and each one of us makes a difference [Music] from inside their hearts automatically you're able to remove the bad news the bad decree from them says which means when any Jew really gives a to their friend and they really mean it before they say the words they really believe in the power of the blessing and the power of the and you really care about your friend from your heart. Such a person says about you're able to accomplish what a big sadik in a generation is able to accomplish but it has to be from inside your heart. Every single one of us makes a huge difference in the world. The question is how much do we look for one another? How much do we really care about one another? I don't want to go on the writes more. It reads like this. This is tremendous words meaning the words of themselves that sadikim every Jew can give salvation to their friend whatever situation they're going through through praying for them and to save them from the situation however that the pain of your friendly really really pains your heart and if it does he writes for sure will listen to his prayers a person who really cares for another Jew a person who really cares about their friend and gives him a and prays for them no matter who they are no matter who the Jew is Hashem listens to their teilot every single one of us can make a tremendous tremendous difference and I want to share with you another big he writes like this. He says a person that really cares about his friend. He says you want a sigulah. says and it says do you want to sing for your for your prayers to be accepted by Hashem says that when you always add prayers for your friends and your every you pray whatever personal prayers you have with Hashem if you would add for your friends Hashem please I have a friend who's didn't find his hashem please I have a friend that's married for a couple of years with no children please give them a child I have a friend that doesn't please give him the please give him says anytime you add your friends in or are the Jews in for the you pray for the hostages for the soldiers when you're praying for other Hashem sees it and when Hashem sees that you care about other Jews says it's a it's a guarantee that Hashem will accept your and then the goes on he writes like You know who loves? Hashem loves those who love all the Jewish people. The more a person loves other people. the more you love other Jews, the more you care about other, the more Hashem is going to love you. So the power of prayer, the power of tremendous. But before I talk about that topic, we first have to recognize how much power we have, how much of a difference we make, how much of a kaf we have when we die for one another. When we care about one another, just caring about another Jew already makes a difference. Just having the pain in our heart for another person already takes away the bad decree on the Yehud that we're ding for. Just carrying itself is enough for Hashem to remove the bad news from that Jew. How much more so when we actually pray for one another, when we d for one another. What does the word mean? There's many many reasons to behind why why prayer is called. One reason is Rashi says Rashi says that comes from the word patil. A pat in English is a a wick. A wick of a candle is we have wax and that thing on top where it gets burnt is called a wick. How do you make a wick? Says Rashi. It's a bunch of strings that are circul twist them together and it becomes into one piece says Rashi. Why is named after the word after wick? Because what happens through prayer? And this is really a famous question that the ask they ask if a person really believes in Hashem. If a person really believes they have everything they need from then why pray in the first place? Think about this for a second. If a person really believes Hashem gave them exactly what they need in their life in that situation, then what are you praying for? Imagine a person is praying, a person is diving, Hashem, please, I want a better car. Hashem, I want a better house. Hashem, I want a better job. If you really believe in Hashem and Hashem loves you and Hashem gave you everything you need, then why are you praying for more? And if you don't have it, then you don't need it cuz if you need it, Hashem will give it to you. So why pray in the first place? This is question. They ask, what is the point of what is the point of prayer? Don't we have everything we need? Do we don't have Do we have everything? Why are we asking for more? Now there are many answers to that question. One of the answers is that prayer is not about asking for something but rather it's becoming someone. Meaning through prayer, through asking things from Hashem, we get closer and closer to Hashem. When a person is before praying and after praying, he's a whole different person. When a person really dav to Hashem after he's done ding praying to he's much closer to Hashem. He's a person that's now closer to God. So praying is not necessarily asking for something. Prayer is really becoming someone. You're a different person after prayer. You get close to Hashem. The more you ask from Hashem, the more you talk to Hashem, the more you talk to Hashem, the more you recognize he's there. The more you recognize Hashem is there. The closer you get, the different person you are. You become more righteous and more righteous. So it says Rashi why is come from the from the root word from the show a wick because just wick is a bunch of strings that you twist them together they become one. So to a person when you pray so much to Hashem when you have so much you become you become a you become one with Hashem that's what comes to the word because when a person prays over and over and over you get closer and closer to Hashem but there's another interpretation of why is called that is based on another rash in par rashi says byeuhenu tells cla Israel Hashem and he says, "I pull myself in front of says that he meaning he fell to the floor trying to take away the bad decree of the of the golden calf that sold." So he knew that we're doomed and we have to dive into Hashem to take away the bad gazer. Hashem wanted to wipe back. So mashenu says that I went and I was meaning that I put myself forward. I totally threw myself to Hashem and I prayed to Hashem to please take away the decree says Rashi. Another interpretation of comes from the word which means in Hebrew to fall. Another form of prayer. There's two ways that a person can pray. A person can pray to Hashem as one of the options that he has. Meaning let's say a person is not well. So he has a few things that he has to do to make sure he gets better. You go to the doctor, make sure it's a good doctor. Person has to make sure his insurance is good. Then a person, you know, if if if that doesn't help and he goes to a different hospital, different clinic, person has to make sure that he has time off of work. He has to make sure his boss lets him go. Or let's say a person is trying to get married. So he tries this and he tries this person and that person. one of the options that a person has to do as homework to get the job done to get better or good issue whatever it is also to d to hashem but diving to hashem is important but it's one of the options but says rashi there's no way how to pray to hashem the wayenu did totally throw yourself to hashem nobody else can save you nobody else can help you only throw yourself throw yourself in front of hashem That's you know why is called the word meaning a person has to turn to hem and only another parable to this is from the writ let's say you have an let's say you have a poor person knocking on your door so is you never allowed to leave him hanging with nothing empty-handed any person that knocks in your door says the seventh he says if knocks knocks in your door and he's asked if it's a da no matter who he is you have to give him something even a little bit even 25 cents even 50 cents you can never say leave them hanging however if you know that he's not going to any other door knocking if you know that he's only knocking on your door and he's dependent on you to get that then you have a you have an obligation to give him what he needs and he says if he needs clothing give him clothing if he needs food you have to give him food if he doesn't have a roof on top of his head you have to make sure he gets a house. The Raman goes on through the details of now asked Shish Pinkis a very obvious question. This is tremendous lesson. He says why is it when a when you know that the that the poor person is knocking on your door why does the Ramba make a difference and he says if you know he's going to go knock on other doors try to give him whatever you could but definitely give him at least a quarter or whatever it is. But if you know the tani is not going to knock on other doors you have to give them more. You have to support him. You have to give him clothing. What does it make a difference whether you know he's going to knock on other doors and try to find his more money or not? So it says and this is a very true thing. What goes through the mind? Okay, let's see. Let's let's talk about me. Let's say somebody's knocking at my door and I see the guy's collecting the why would I give him only a dollar or maybe $5 if I'm rich that day or $10. Why would I give him only a dollar, $5? Why shouldn't I give him 101, 200, 300, 400? because I know you're knocking at my door on Lakewood. You're knocking at thousands other doors today. So, you're not dependent on me. You don't really need me. You're going to many other doors to knock to get another dollar. Therefore, what do I give them? A dollar, $2. But if somebody will call me or somebody will knock on my door and say, "No, I need your help right now. There's no way I can do this. I'm who knows what's going to happen to me. I need money right away. There's no way I could go to other people. There's no question he's going to open up my heart and I'll give him a lot more than a dollar, give him $100, 200, whatever, whatever I can afford. That's what the raom here is saying. The ra is saying if you know the poor person knocking on your door is going to go to other places automatically a person naturally gives less cuz he knows that ani is not dependent on me. But if you know that he's dependent on you automatically you give more says. So too when it comes to prayer listen carefully how do we dive into Hashem? How do we confront Hashem when we pray for something? Do we pray to Hashem like that an like the poor person who's knocking at a hundred other doors that day? Do we pray to Hashem and say, "Hashem, can you please help me?" But in back of our minds, we really are thinking of other ideas how to get help. Or when we dive into Hashem, do we tell Hashem and we and we tell ourselves the reality, Hashem, I'm not turning to anyone else. I'm not depending on anything else. I'm only depending on you. and I know Hashem only you can help me. When a person turns to Hashem in that way that he knows and he's aware that only Hashem can save them and help them and get the job done. When a person throws themsself on Hashem through prayer, that's when Hashem listens to the and showers him with. But if a person is also going to Hashem even though he's going to have many other options but also he's praying to Hashem, Hashem will listen to but won't give you as much because he knows you're not really depending on me in the first place. And that's a raash of you here saying you know what is throw yourself in front of we see another example like the says over actually made a copy of it when she went to Ham made a very bad and she knew that only if she begs the she can be saved. says like this talked to the king. Listen to the words. She fell in front of the feet of and she begged to pass the bad of Ham. Hamash wanted to wipe out the Jewish people. Mak knew if she's not going to beg to remove the it's going to be bad news. She knew that the only person that can save the Jewish people is her. Estab was aware of it. So what did she do? She knew the way to beg. She went and she fell and she said, "Please save us. Please save us." Says Rashi, listen to the words. She fell. Meaning she knew how to beg. She gave the feeling that only you can take away the bag of only you can do it. She told him, "We're dependent only on you." And she got the job done. So to Abatai, how does a person pray? How is a person supposed to be pale? It's easier said than done, but it's important to learn it. The way a person has to pray when you dive into Hashem, tell yourself, and this is a reality, only Hashem can help me. Only Hashem can give me what I need. There's no person in the world that can help me out. Only Hashem. And when I dive into you, Hashem, I'm diving only. That's what is. I'm not also turning to Hashem. I'm only turning to Hashem. That's what it means. The word comes from the word. When a person to Hashem, having in mind only facing Hashem, throwing yourself in front of Hashem, that's what a is looking for comes to the word. I want to share with you a story from Zed. This is a beautiful story. And again, before I say over his stories, I call him up and I find out the details of the story. Now, maybe you heard about it cuz I said it a few times. I'm not sure if this grab specifically heard the story, but I can tell you that if you listen to the the story carefully, it will give you tremendous kizuk about the power of before I say the story of I want to tell you three other stories. No, I'm joking like two. One story is from the says a story like this. He says one time somebody this is a there's a new biography that was put out on the life and this biography was written by was one of his grandchildren. So they went through every single story to make sure and verify that it's true. So this story is printed in this new book. They say over here that he got his theim of his mother. the's mother. They actually say her name. Her name was Drocha. I think it's a Russian name. Drocha was mother's name. Malatrocha. Okay. So she had aim the when he received the after his mother passed away he saw that was yellow and was really worn out and he told the people around him I can testify every single day by dawn my mother my mother will cry. I can tell you that my mother cried for her children and for her sons and for her son which is to grow up to be a Yehudi that's good that's honest and she cried and she cried with this years later somebody came to the and he told him that he needs a Yeshua he needs a salvation so the told him did you pray did you dive into Hashem option number one is diving to Hashem that's your first that's your first that's your address tells him yes of course I prayed I saidim the told him no no no did you really say taleim he's like grabb what did you mean he's like let me show you what it means to pray from aim the got up and he took out the of his mother that was yellow from tears and from the hands of using it and he told him this is how you use aim don't just read understand that only this only can really really really save you and he goes gone. There's something called praying and then there's really praying to Hashem. This is a quick story but with a very big message. There's praying to Hashem and then there is really praying to Hashem. When a person doubts to Hashem, do they really believe that only Hashem can save me? Do they really believe that Hashem is listening and they're crying and they're talking and talking to Hashem? A person who prays like that says the Hashem will listen to he says my mother every single morning really pray to Hashem not just but really pray to Hashem that's our person has to pray and that's what the told this person he says you want a Yeshua you want a salvation you really really have to pray to Hashem I want to share with you says a very beautiful this is gold you want gold this is an unbelievable and I can't even believe that He said it but he said it. He writes like this. He says you know rebas are able to create to do miracles. Why do people go to rebas? Why do people go to big rabbis? See he says like this are able to do something that's above nature through having true belief in hem. And then he goes on like this. He says if you really believed in Hashem you will bring salvation in yourself. And he goes on like this. He says that his reb his sometimes would notice that the person coming to him doesn't really have strong. So he told him, "If you really put in your heart, if you really believed in Hashem and the Reb will tell this person who came for this that came for for help, the Reb would tell him, say with me the words, I really believe in Hashem." And he said, "Say verbally over and over and over again." And the Reb will tell them if you really work an am if you really believe in Hashem you don't need rebas you don't need you can bring the Yeshua yourself and he goes on he says what do you think rabbis do the rebb told him says what do you think do they really believe in hem so when they give a they mean it cuz they know they have powers know they know that they're capable. They know they make a difference. So he will tell them if you would tap into how much you make a difference. If you really believed in your going to make a difference. So anytime somebody came to him that he saw that he didn't have so much he would tell them say the words say the words I believe. The more you have the more the more salvation you're going to get. How did I get to this? I have no clue. Does anybody know? What about over here? How do I get to this Rabbi? Okay, back to Oh, I want to share with you a story like this and then we're going to mention the and then we're done. Story from Thank you so much. Thank you. Story from the from is like this. The power of and I see that we're late over here so I'm going to make it shorter. Now he's a famous rabbi said but uh back then you know before he became famous he had a hard life. One of the things that he was going through was after he got married the first 10 years of his life he didn't have any children. So he said over a story like this. He was saying that the hardest times and we should never know the hardest times of when you feel the pain of not having a child is by by the holidays byotes. Why? Because all the families get together and you see your brother-in-laws, your sister-in-laws this it gets uncomfortable. So he says after a couple years of marriage one pes right before pes he told his wife this Passover we're not going to anyone we're doing alone at home I'm not going through the pain and she told him we really should do something we really should get together let's call all the couples that we know of in the community they lived in Benbak at the time who we know also we're not zuk to have children yet let's get them together and let's make an event of kizuk because just like we're going through a hard time of feeling alone and loneliness. I'm sure they're also going through it. Said's wife. Let's get them all together and do like a night of said, "You know what? It's a mitzvah to give. Let's do it." He calls up a rabbi. This rabbi's name was that was his last name. happens to be my wife's first name but his name was he calls up then he tells him we want to make an event before it's almost for all the couples that were not to have any children at the time lived in that's in the north of Israel now to come to before one of the busiest times of the Jewish calendar season is before pes tells him listen I'm not really going to come to Benbach but if you want the night before pes My wife goes to a big shopping inb has all the good stores, all the good utensils. You know, benev is packed with stores a lot more than so my wife goes in a big shopping. If you want, we'll make the event says, "How am I supposed to get people together? It's the night before. People are busy. People are away. It's just, you know, it's it's one of the busiest nights of the year. How am I going to get people together?" So, this rabbi told listen otherwise I can't come. It's either or it's nothing. So Zed got together a bunch of people and they were able to pull an event in this came and he says because of the cause he says I'm going to go out of my way and he was there for a couple hours and he spoke's house was saying and he was making painting the picture how he had a bunch of couples in his house listening to this big coming in and he gave a beautiful speech and he says because of his wife couldn't serve too much food because It's so she was able to get some walnuts, some puim, sunflower seeds. But what can you already serve before? Everything is. So she got some fruits, some puim, whatever it is. Uh um no sunflower seeds and walnuts all these things. Okay. They had a beautiful speech and he gave them this and then after said that I want to take action. Speech is nice. It's very goodiz is good. But I want I want action. what are we walking out of here with? So he got up in front of all the couples at the time and he says, "Each one of us, we're going to pair up. One couple is going to pray and dav for another couple to have a child for at least 40 days." And they paired themselves up. He ded for him. He d for him. They took each other's names and this they switch each other's names and started praying for this guy to have a children. His wife prayed for his wife. Okay, life moves on. Listen to what happens. They're praying and they're praying and they're praying. Hashem has many children. He should have many more with health and sh and this couple that they prayed forem also had many children. Now fast forward 20 years later. This happened around 2 years ago. Fast forward 20 years later. Rabim Zed's daughter gets engaged. One of his daughters. Who does she get engaged to? To the son of the couple that they were praying for. When was the what was the engagement party? You know when it fell on now who's going to host them? No one. So where was the engagement party? Whose house? And what do you serve? Nothing except peanuts, walnuts, sunflower machines and fruits. And then they remembered, whoa, 20 years ago we were in our apartment. But 20 years ago, it was also in our house and I ding for you, you d for me. And we really, really meant it cuz we knew we're responsible for one another and we really cared for one another. It really pained us and we really dive into Hashem. Fast forward 20 years later, our kids are getting married at the same night, the same location, same situation. Thai from here, we learn the power of the power of prayer. We can make such a difference in the world. how much we can pray for our children. How much you can pray for our siblings, for parents, for friends, how much we can pray for other people in the community, we make a tremendous difference. And like we learned from the ka that we said in the beginning, each one of us can make an impression about the people around us. Each one of us can make a tremendous difference. One of the greatest gifts that Hashem gave us is Shabbat. I actually learned a beautiful idea from the Ariza last week. The Swas quotes him writes that one of the only things that stayed intact perfectly fine exactly how it was from the first week of creation is Shabbat. He says after the betash was destroyed everything started getting diluted like he says tora is a little less is a little less the taste of the fruits and vegetables in are the best but even right now they're the best it's still less than how it's supposed to be when the bet is around he says everything as soon as the betash was destroyed it made an effect on the whole world everything became into a lower level he says except Shabbat Shabbat is the only day that was not touched from the mdash The holiness, the power, the effect of the day of Shabbat is just as powerful as it was from the first week of creation. That's what writes. There are so many pertaining to how careful a person has to talk when it comes to Shabbat. So many talks about how we supposed to talk in Shabbat. Business, not business. The way we talk to it's so many And talks about how careful you have to talk on Shabbat that was so careful what he says on Shabbat. He only spoke only. There are many Shabbat because they knew that every moment of Shabbat is precious. What you can accomplish on Shabbat, you can't accomplish during the week. So they were very careful what they spent their time on on the holy day of Shabbat. How much more so when it comes to the topic of staying away from stay away from and having it makes such an effect on the world when one is careful not to talk just a couple of weeks ago we spoke to Shaban queens felt like a long time ago it was only like two weeks ago how long ago two three weeks ago we spoke to queens and I was talking about the topic of and I was saying how People had unbelievable salvations in Yeshua when they were careful not to talk. I get a call a couple days ago. We already have two stories from last of those who listen to the lecture and took upon themselves not to talk and they're already calling me with personal Yeshua and salvations they had from staying away from the story number one is from a couple in Great Neck. The wife unfortunately lost her job. The pan was not doing well. They heard the lection and they started learning every single day that they learned it. They learned it. They learned it. They call me a couple of days ago. The husband calls me up. He sends me a message, text message, and he says, "This is unbelievable. It really works. The really works." I told him, "Give me a call. Tell me the story." He tells me that we started learning it right after the me and my wife. And he said, "We controlled ourselves not to talk to." He said within a couple of days the boss calls her back up that he wants to hire her but still the salary wasn't great. They kept on learning. A couple days later the boss calls her that he wants to give her a higher raise for less hours. Meaning they needed a sigula. They need a Yeshua to have panah. They started watching the mouth learning to say if this just happened after and boom they get a Yeshua. They get they get salvation from Hashem. They get pan. Another person is a delinquent. They heard this live on Torah any time the lecture. And this woman started learning the her learning the safer and staying away from her child to get into a certain yeshiva in Lakewood. She wanted her daughter to get into a certain school in Lakewood that she felt would be good for her. But all the all the doors were closed. They weren't taking her in. Since tishab she started learning the safer. She calls her manasha and then mana told me the story that she listened to the lecture and listen to this. This already happened last week. The school closed up the school that she wanted her daughter to get in that her daughter's in the school. She's able to come to the school. This is two stories that just happened from recently of those who actually took action not to talk to work to stay away from to have to learn the safer every single day. We all want that this girl should have all to dance by her wedding. One of the main things that we can take upon ourselves and talk to myself is staying away from no one wants to talk. The question is what is the strategy? What is the plan? And the answer is says the when we remind ourselves daily and daily to stay away from the by alerting the safer or on Shabbat like we said Shabbat is a powerful day. We see the was so careful how you were allowed to talk on things that are allowed on Shabbat. How much more so should a person stay away from Shabbat? How damaging could it be? So therefore the time hurt and I do this in my school every single Friday. I teach this to my class. We print this out. The heard this translation put out puts out a weekly pamphlet called it's a very easy thing. They have a question of on top and then your family tries to guess the answer. Is it option number one? Option number two is it this case or not? And then they give you the reason behind the answer of the then in the back it always has two short stories of stay away from. We do this in the curriculum in the school and it makes a very big difference. Imagine a house. Imagine a Shabbat table where your children are growing up or your grandchildren, whatever it is, or yourself, you're growing up at a table where you talk about staying away from the life will be different. Shabbat will be different. The of your children should be different. You know, the Manchester would say that he doesn't know a home or a house or a family that learned every single day that didn't see a that didn't see salvation that didn't see some form of Yeshua in their life and he says if you want to have good for your children the writes that too you want for your children your grandchildren stay away from learn the let's take upon ourselves to start learning this every single Shabbat table you're able to email them they email to you for free I think they also mail it they also give it on the shs but let's try to get at least 30 homes in this room at least the bat For the next couple of months, we're going to be learning this table. It takes 5 10 minutes and it's a game changer for your life, for your children. Imagine a house where children grow up that they see their parents care about not talking. It's a whole different type of it's a whole different vibe in the house. Let's take upon ourselves to learn this every single Shabbat and the that we're taking upon ourselves to stay away from the to learn this every single week for only. Thank you so much for listening. Please take this upon yourself and bring you can make a huge difference. Bring salvation to the world. Thank you so much. [Applause]