Rabbi Paysach Krohn | Elul: A Month To Come Home | CHAZAQ

Welcome to tonight's very special shares. We so special for the entire community together in unison this very special event. Of course the events being dedicated loving memory of Lisa or Nanov and David is um of course all the everyone's encouragement in the back and of course all the learning tonight of course is format and of course for um and the the theory time daily book was still was given out to to um over 150 people tonight and of course we thank all our generous sponsors for dedicating the book or we want to thank the partner organizations for for for tonight's event of course of course Kazak we want to thank Israel Hillrestn and leadership of the for tonight's program we're also together with renewal which hear about it from momentarily and um All about kindness and bot mel of course all about kindness is in the name itself they tremendous organization in the community which does so much said kindness for those in the need in the community of course an amazing organization and the organization called bot mel which is an organization supporting women teens families in the community by strengthening um the connection between the families through through dynamic programming and events events. Thank BA and Aura of course and of course Kazak. We're we're just one week away from the new school year and of course um each one of us if you think for a second we know of a friend, neighbor, coworker who has children in public school and we still do something about it. There's only a few days left before the new school year. So of course let them reach out to Khazak to help give my Jewish education. Kazak has after school programs over 20 different locations these public school students and have transferred over 2,000 students from public school yeshiva. So of course reach out to Kazak to help give them a Jewish education and um we're we're we're going to start off um tonight's event with some of course it's our honor to call upon Rabn to lead the first chapter. Everyone can please rise. [Applause] [Music] say [Music] Mary is for network to lead parliamental. Lord, Adonai. [Music] Adonai Laber. Adonai. [Music] Okay. And um it's a it's a great great honor to call upon one of the partners of this event renewal and by Josh Sturm. It was a very special message for for everyone and a great opportunity for everyone over here. Thank you. >> Thank you so much. It's really a a privilege for us to be here tonight. A special thank you to Kazak for putting this wonderful program together. It should be a uh for the entire Nissano family and they they should see and feel that we are all together with them because we are Cla Israel. I want to just explain to you a little bit on that message of Clal Israel of what how abnormal a nation we are. We are not normal. And I've been told that by doctors, by hospital people, by CEOs of the hospital over and over and over again. They say, "You are not normal." Renewal, the Jewish people, you're not normal. Why? Because in the United States, if a person needs a kidney, the average person in the country goes to the hospital with if they're lucky, extremely lucky, they go with one person that may donate a kidney to them. Maybe. We don't know if they're a match. We don't know if they're willing, but they've said maybe they'll do it. That's the average person in the country. If they need a kidney, they have maybe one person. In the last three weeks, Renewal has been fortunate to have collected over 1,000 swabs of people that are willing to donate to a total stranger. This is Claudius. I'll share with you just a quick story. Friend of mine who's a RV uh donated his kidney a few months ago and I went to visit him in the hospital the day after his donation and we were smoozing. We're friendly and he said, "I have to share with you something." thing. I said, "Sure." He said, "I asked the doctor a question that I don't think I was supposed to ask." I said, "Okay, what'd you ask?" He asked the nefologist, that's the kidney doctor. He asked the nefologist at the hospital as he was going through the process. He asked him a very tough question. Remember, this is a kidney donor. He asked the nephologist. He said, "Would you do it?" It's a tough question. He put him on the spot. He said, "Would you do the same thing? You're testing me to see if I'm good, if I'm qualified. Would you do it yourself?" And the nephologist who we work together with very well, he's a wonderful individual, does a lot of good. The nephrologist gave him a very honest answer. He said, "At this point in my life, I wouldn't do it for a total stranger." He said, "I'm not ready to do it for a total stranger. Maybe later in life, but at this point, I'm not ready to do it for a stranger, but for a family member, I would do it in an instant right here, right now, I'd be willing to do it for a family member." Well, this friend of mine turned to me. He didn't say this to the doctor, but he turned to me and he said, "You know, the truth is he and I have the same criteria. I just have a much larger family." Kalia is not normal and we're proud to be not normal. The world at large may act one way, we act differently. the ability to be able to give of oneself in order to save a life. And it's not for everybody, but for those that make that wonderful decision to be able to do it. Of course, the results are life-changing because there's something that you should realize. I'm not going to single people out. We are doing this on behalf of a specific person from the community here tonight. And their family is here. And the idea of a person donating a kidney, they should realize that when you donate, you're not just donating to that person. You're not just saving that person's life. You are saving the life of the whole family, of their friends, of their community, of their whole world. It's not for nothing that the Mishna tells us that one who saves a life is as if he has saved an entire world because that's what it is. And this is who we are as KL Israel. Renewal is proud. I'll give you one more statistic. Renewal is very proud to have this idea that over the last 13 years, we have been responsible for roughly 18% of all altruistic kidney transplants across the United States. I want to just explain what that number means. Altruistic is when a donor and recipient don't know each other. It's a terrible term because anybody who donates a kidney is altruistic, but that's the term the hospitals use when the donor and recipient don't know each other. We're responsible for 18%. But who are we? We are Clai Israel. Cla Israel is responsible for 18%. You know what Cla makes up as a percentage of the Jewish people in America? Sorry, as a percentage of the of the population in America, we're about 2%. That means that 2% is responsible for 18% of all altruistic transplants that happen across the country. I'm going to take that statistic one step further because whereas renewal while renewal services all walks of Jewish life our kidneys are coming not exclusively but almost from the orthodox from the religious dati population of the Jewish people the orthodox population of the United States is roughly 2%.2% is responsible for 18%. You talk about this is who we are. This is how we weather every storm. This is how we weather every trial and tribulation. We band together as one family as one united. And that is as we enter into the that should stay with us and should carry us through should bless each and every one of us and our families with wonderful health for those who need it for all wonderful things for us for our families and for all of Isel. Thank you so much. If anybody wants to get tested after Rabbi Cronh's speech, we'll be in the lobby doing swab testing for those who are interested. Thank you. >> Thank you, Rabbi Seru for all the amazing work you do. Introduce our next speaker. I think you can say it's a tall story by Rabbi Far. He said that once that in Israel there's a part of Israel on the border and by that border a lot of people who are burglars they try to they try to smuggle cars into that part of Israel and because once once it goes through that border then then you're never going to see the car again. So it happens so so there's there's two checkpoints at that border. So the border patrol at that at that checkpoint they they saw a certain car and the first the first um the first officers they said they they check the license plate and everything they said let it go through. So what happens as it's going through? They're about to go to the second checkpoint. The officers say, "Stop the car. Stop the car. We have to check it again." The officers said back, "We you already said it's good." They said, "No, no. Go check the car." And what happens? They checked the car and they saw it was stolen. So they asked the first officers, "What? Why' you What happened? What was the difference?" They said, "We saw a bumper sticker in the back of the car." What was the bumper sticker? It said ain't O no. There's nothing but Hashem. So they What they do? They they took this car, they drove it back to whoever owned it. And who was it? It was it was somebody. It was a it was an irreligious man and and and the irreligious man said um they told they told him the story of of of what happened by the first border patrol and the second thing and he said, "Wow." And he started crying and he said, "You're not going to believe what I'm about to tell you." He said that that um a fam um there's a group of young bakr young men and they came to my family and they said um you should start maybe keeping a little bit of Shabbat of Shabas. And his family said no no no it's too much for us. They said fine maybe put on fill in every single day once a day. They said no no it's too much. They said fine at least just put a bumper sticker on the back of your car. And what was the bumper sticker? Ain't no there's no one but Hashem. And that weak is is car stolen. So I think that um to introduce and um of course I think you can say a lot of these three words is um they're such a role model literally hundreds of thousands of people around the world were were inspired by the amuna of Rabisana Rabin and the the whole family. So everyone everyone we call everyone could please rise as we call upon to say some opens. Thank you for the introduction. Should my mother, my in-laws, my beautiful wife, my children, and all the family members who are watching at home who cannot come tonight. I am forever grateful for Israel. I've been saying to everybody Isra Jew and I'm proud to be part of this greater family. for me to stand here and to say publicly to everyone, thank you for your prayers. Thank you for being there. Thank you for being with us. I think I spoke to my wife. The half an hour we were trying to save my daughters was the only time I felt alone. Otherwise since then and the whole thing how it happened I still we saw it with our own eyes we didn't understand and no one else was there to jump in so I just jumped in the water. What would any other father do except that I don't know how to swim? And to see I really thought we're going to be collecting body parts because you know they went so fast slammed into a slab of cement. I thought you know the head is going to be one part and the body is going to be another and just to come over got closer we didn't blow up those jet skis and to come and see my daughter first I saw Aviva face down and they kept saying you know we have one we have one I didn't understand they're talking about my daughter Aiva I thought they were talking about So hashem with my wife and I, we pushed them up. My wife is screaming at the top of our lungs, please call 911. And for some reason, the guy who's supposed to be with us disappeared left the scene of the crime. So like we're trying to push her up. Hashem again that they were working on the house. So the workers helped us pull them out one by one. And now all of a sudden I'm so happy my daughter comes to she wakes up. You know, I don't wish this on anyone to see your daughter's face down in the water unconscious. I don't know what to think. I just And then all of a sudden after we got my daughter out of I see my other daughter under the under the dock all the way like from here to the beimma. I like I I got so panicked. I ran. I don't know how I grabbed her. I don't know if my wife helped me. We pulled her up and I've turned her over again, but she had a severe head trauma. Her head was she hit severely against the pole, which is cement. I have scratches all over. I had scratches all over my hand trying to save them cuz I had to hold on one thing to try to pull them out. And when by the time the ambulance came, they were doing CPR, chest compressions on my daughter, my baby, and they took her in the ambulance, and I'm standing over there trying to figure out what, where, when, how. Now, you know, I have a red cap on. Thank God I had it because I have a bald spot. I learned the hard way. If you get a sunburn, it hurts. really hurts. So like I've just saying I'm just praying and like walking back and forth. We don't know what to do. Our stuff is on the boat, our slippers, nothing. And once we came to the hospital, from then on we did not feel alone. Kabad rabbi came from rur county. My wife's sister from another mother Vicki. She showed up and the rebbitson also her name also happens to be Rael and they come and give us the news that I wish no parents ever have to hear that we saved one of your daughters but we couldn't save the second one and before initial shock The first thing I said to myself is, "What am I going to tell my mother? What am I going to tell my in-laws?" And I started apologizing to my wife. I said, "I'm sorry. I couldn't save my other daughter." My grandmother used to always say, "Things could always be worse. Shem shouldn't make it worse cuz no matter how bad you think good things could be even worse and how fitting it is tonight which is I am to my loved one and my loved one is to me and I didn't know how many times my youngest daughter always was thinking about her bo her grandfather my father Shalom David bin Islam [Music] 28 years ago I was telling people when I was sh I sat in my house 28 years ago when my father passed away I was 26 years old and my father was 54 and I was sitting there and I was telling everyone and then my wife told me that she always cried. She wanted to say, "Mommy, I feel Bobo. I feel my grandfather. I want to see him. I pray for Mashia should come and she would cry." And you know, Lord of Hashem, we have seven other ones. I never heard any of my kids say that. None of my other kids say that. You know, we miss Mo, we miss our grandfather. And it's not for nothing that tonight, tomorrow night is my father's yard and the is going to be exactly on September 11th, a day after my daughter's birthday. She would have been 14 years old. But I am forever grateful and I said it and people think I had something scripted. I said it from the bottom of my heart. I love you and I'm happy if you could say that that of all people that happened to me to my wife cuz I think it will be somebody else he would have been knocked out. He would have been asking questions of why. But my father taught me many years ago we don't ask why. The goim say why we as hidden we never say why why was my father the youngest passed away 6 months after my grandmother I don't know why did my father lose his oldest brother at 42 years old only two months after he got married I don't know why did my cousins who were not even bar mitzvah my oldest cousin was 12 years old and my youngest cousin was only 2 years old. 42 year old man walked out of the house and they brought him back in a in a you know my grandparents were alive. My my father, my two two brothers, my aunts, they were all alive. We don't say why. Why is the worst answer to us? We just continue living. I have never seen such a as was mentioned before. We are one big family. Adam, we are considered one. Adam in singular and plural is one because we are I never thought I would see so many people. 2:00 in the morning, people are coming. When I left the hospital at 2:00 to go get my passport to get ready to go to Heritage Israel till 2:00 people were coming. I didn't know that the state police trump securityities of the hospital. People just said, "Okay, we know why you're here. Just keep going. Keep going." 2:00 in the morning. I left the hospital 2:00 till 3:00. I asked my wife what time people were coming. 3:00 in the morning. The next day I had to go to Miami to pick up my passport. 7 o'clock in the morning people are calling me ready. I am proud to be I am more than that. I need I need Bkhari. I am proud Bkharian. We are basian America not BS. And I saw it when we sat together when everybody came when everybody was coming to supposedly consult. There is no consolation. There's nothing he could say. But the most important thing is that as my father would always say, John, you have to continue living. You have to continue. And that's why I carry my daughter with me all the time. She's alive. She will always be with us. Someone asked me, "So, how many kids now do you have?" I said, "I always have eight kids. I will always have eight kids. She is my infinity. She's the eighth child. It's not my she will be always a living thing. How fortunate it is for everybody. Everybody came together as one. Rabbi Paris Steinberg when he came to my house, he said, "Rabbi Nissan, this is not your Shiva. This is Shiva. The whole Jewish people are sitting Shiva with you. Don't feel like it's only you. Only you going through this. People came. I don't know. I don't know. I thought maybe that my sons maybe some No, people just showed up. I said you don't know me, but we heard we came. We wanted to give you Makah coming to be to give you offer of condolences during the time of Shiva. And how fitting it is tonight of all times that we gather here in this beautiful hall of young Israel of where we have many here, many bar mitzvah, everything. How feeling it is that I have pes who I've known for many many years. We did our first Shabbaton almost 25 years ago Hudson Valley Resort when it was still alive and looking much better than it looks now. And we had a beautiful Shabbaton and the rabbits in Chrome was been my wife's teacher when she went to Sherak and she was she is continuing to be my daughter Aviva Rafas when I over there and we're a big family did the breath of my grandson my oldest grandson also Abro did the breed of my nephew you David and what a small world together we're coming and unfortunately I don't know if Rabbi Chrome remembers unfortunately we were together at Auda convention I came over with my wife to the to Rab Cone and to Rabbit Chrome and we said I'm sorry Rab Cone we won't be able to hear you Friday night because we have to go back to Queens and little do we know that what happened may you when you continue to inspire others and on a great note I'm very happy to say that my daughter with the filot of all gods from all over the world uncles from Australia from Austria from Israel all over the you guys all prayed for my daughter and she's doing very very well [Applause] yes she's worried about her missing teeth but the dentist said don't worry about it we'll take care of your missing teeth. It's unbelievable. Nim flow the miracles that have happened. She's sitting in the front and she didn't get hit on the head. She how you know she had the right side broken arm and and some couple of teeth, but she didn't get hit on the head. It's unbelievable. Hashem, like I said in the beginning, I thought I lost both my daughters, my two girls after my six boys. Hashem for Hashem's reason we don't know why we accepted the we accept it because this is this is the works of there was a famous thing which we done I will conclude to wrote down we know that we one of the questions that everybody's asked is when is mashia coming is The only onra we say we don't say we don't say the only prayer if you look at the only prayer we say all day three times a day only for your south Asian do we really want mashiach so the famous question the asked the question is if mashiach did not come during the time the Rambam's time the Rashad those people who they are the people who are let us continue learning Torah why would Mashiach come in our generation where we are so far removed that's a question that bothered me if Mashia didn't come so many times more there were more Torah more Torah people who are doing so many flaws my Z my great great-grandfather who's buried in Haram next to the where it says on his he was he died in 1911 and it says came to visit my grandfather's grandfather when he was awake all the time if Mashiach did not come during his time. Why would he come during our time? Why would he come during the time of who am I? It's a good question. And the gives emotion. He says, "Imagine a giant big, huge, tall guy. But no matter how tall he is, the mountain is a little taller. It's about 2 feet tall. No matter how much he tries, he cannot go over it because he's 2t. All of a sudden, he takes someone who's a dough. He's a small guy, two feet. He puts him on the soldier on the soldiers and he says, "Let's go now. Let's go over it." And now they will be able to cross the dust shall. The fact that we had my grandfather's grandfather, the fact that we have the Rambam, the Rashi, and everyone before, it's only telling us that Mashiach is on his way. We are at the equ. And I for sure sought them because my daughter wanted Mashiach because she really wanted to see her above. She said, "I want to see my grandfather." And that's why she's buried in next to my father. Aba Papa, I know you hear me. I know you're with me. I always say to myself, what would you do if you would be in my place? There are times I want to do something, say something to people I don't like, but I am reminded of you. He always told me, John, don't argue with a foolish person. We don't know who's the fool. If you argue with him, then you might be the fool also. And my father used to tell me, if someone spit at your face, just look up and say, "Wow, where is it raining from?" Guys, spit at my face. If Hashem didn't want that spit to hit your face, it would have never happened. And if it happened, don't ask why. With that, I'd like to introduce my mentor, my storyteller. Every year at a good convention, I know why they let him speak last Friday night. Friday night, nobody's going to stay up till 11:00. But when Rab Pesak speaks Friday night, everybody's going to stay up, including myself, including my wife Pesak. I'm deeply grateful to my dear friend Robbie Abof and all the officers of Kazak for inviting me to come here tonight to this tremendous crowd to speak to all of you. I'm so proud to be up on this podium at this podium without a doubt I must have done 50 brristen over the years over the different button and I'm proud if any of you are people that I did the bris for or for your family I thank you for your confidence but I must say also if I did 50 brristen I ate 50 bagels and locks back there as well so you know it was always a good day I just want to thank also The Balsam family they sponsored part of this riff bas Mrs. Bolson's family helped sponsor tonight. We have come here tonight on a night of contrast. The first contrast, we're now in L. L is the end of the month, end of the year. But L is also the beginning of the time of Chuba. 40 days of Chuba from beginning of L to Yum Kipper. As a matter of fact, I wrote this book which is called the mag which is available outside afterwards and this talks about the 40 days of elyra. So on one hand it's the end of the year but at the other hand it's the beginning of a time of chuba. That's the first contrast. There's an amazing p that tells us something that shows us the fear and the awe that we should have of these days. The p is an it says if a lion roars wouldn't you be afraid is spelled alf it stands for rashur hash. If these days are roaring or shouldn't we be afraid? So that's a beautiful way of understanding this Pik. So many years ago on night already passed away he quoted this and then he said something very interesting. He said, "You know that actually um on the past summer he had taken his children to the Bronx Zoo and they heard a lion roar and the kids weren't afraid. They were running to the cage. They wanted to see it." So he said, "What do you mean? If a lion roars in the Bronx, if a lion roars, nobody's afraid." And he said, "The answer is because the lion's in a cage. And if the lion's in the cage, nobody has anything to be afraid about. And when he said that afterwards on Ashaba, I saw an amazing that we say if I if we put in a cage or behind an iron barrier, then we're not going to be afraid of these days. So that's what we ask that the that cage that barrier between us and Hashem should be removed. So we should feel that awe of. So that's the first contrast. L the end but the beginning of cha there's a second contrast. The baba once said something amazing. He said, "You know what stands for?" That means like this. There's some people that in let's say they'll look back at the past year and they'll say, you know, I dabbled with the minion all the time. I learned I gave I was nice to people. So what did what did they have to do in the next year? They have to go up. They have to be even better. It's true. They were good, but they have to be even better. And there's some people they look back at the past year they didn't always d with the minion and they didn't give stuck the way they should and they were nasty and they didn't learn the way they should they didn't d the way they should. So so they looking back at the so again it's a contrast some people is they're looking to get even better than they did last year and some people is they're looking back at the they have to improve. So that's the second contrast. And here in Queens, we have a third contrast because of the beloved Nissan family. All of us know that tonight is the bas and yet so that's we're engulfed in sadness. As he said, Rabbi Steinberg said it wasn't the Shiva just for the Nana family. It was in it was a Shiva for the family of Clustro. And on the other hand we have a night of hope and as was mentioned my wife was the teacher of so we have this contrast. I once were engulfed in sadness because of the passing of but we have that hope forem. Now I just want to tell you that I spoke to people about Raisa and I want to tell you a mida that she had that I think is so important for all of us to adopt in the month of El and the next 40 days from Elo until and that was she had the mid of Vatronus. She was alo vatronis means to give in and not to cause arguments. In other words, sometimes people say something against us and we want to get even. But if you're a vat and you're able to look away, it's a tremendous tremendous. And she was able to look away. If anybody ever said anything, she never got even. She never got into arguing. She would rather walk away if anybody did anything against her. And that's a tremendous me. And I want to tell you there was a drought. There was no rain. And they asked Rebel Lazar to daven and the Gmorra says Rabin and it still didn't rain and then it said Rabbi Yaka ded and all of a sudden it started coming great. Some people said, "Oh, you see is greater than says no no not that was greater but he had a mido and that mido caused that his feelings should be answered and that is he was a vat and he was able to be to look away." Now, we know there's so many people who say something against us, our families, and and we want to get even, but if you're able to look away, if somebody doesn't want to look away, how in the world are they going to survive? Cuz then Hashem won't want to look away. We all have done things that we're not proud of. And we want Hashem to look away from those things. The only way Hashem will look away from anything that we did that was negative the past year is if we have that mid that we are willing to look away from other people uh who have done something nasty to us. And like this Hashem would also look away at anything that we did. And so we have to adopt for us the mid of Alisa to be a to be a vat. Now I just want to say something regarding Aviva Braha. You know we're all ding for her as her father mentioned and Cla is diving for her. Now I just want to tell you what said every day in we say is the compassionate one. His never ends. We're always hoping for you. So Schwab and his genius said, "What is the word mean?" Everybody says kina means we're hoping. But he says kav is like a cord or a string or I would like to call it a rope. And he says and based on what he says I would say we have a rope of hope is that rope of hope that aid could always have and if a person has that hope that's why only after do we say Allah why can we say Allahim because if aid is connected to Hashem with that robe of hope anything can happen the whole miracle of puran happened and we say all when Jews thought everything was over. But being that we have that rope of hope of connection to Hashem, then we could say Allah and that's what we hope for. Of course, she had very very difficult accident and she needs miracles as the father said miracles are happening and that's exactly what we're hoping. And I want to say also I don't know how it is by but by we say theem we switch it around three times. Why do we switch it and say it in different ways and the answer is because when a person is looking for salvation many times it doesn't come in the regular way. It comes in a roundabout way that you wouldn't even think about it. And I'll give you an example. For example, let's say you know somebody sends their son to a yeshiva and there is and it turns out that the guy ends up marrying his kusa sister and how many times does it happen girls want to go to a seminary and they don't get into the seminary that they want to. They get into another one and they're very upset and then it turns out they married their roommate's brother but that's not the seminary they wanted to go into. But that's what And therefore we know that that needs big and so it's not going to happen in the conventional way. It happens in a roundabout way in miraculous way as said and that's exactly what we're hoping for in that way. Now the topic tonight the topic tonight the way Robbie gave it to me before everything happened was coming home in that that was the topic and of course you want to come home to Hashem so what is what is Hashem's home and that's what I would like to talk about for the first part of this talk in it says my home you want to come home I'll tell you what my home is that's the Ber that's the that's every is a mdash every is a mdash every is a mdash and that's what we have to strive tonight every single one of us as we work from the 40 days of we have to one of the things that we have to improve is to improve our so how are we going to do that. So I just want to tell you certain things I would never ask you to do these things unless I do it myself. But I believe with my whole heart that if you do these things your dying will change and you'll dine better. And the first thing is to have your own sitter that you underline expressions in it. When you have your own sitter, you come, let's say, you can't take a sitter off the shelf and underline an expression that impresses you because it's public property. You can't deface public property. But if you have your own jewel that you have your own sid becomes your friend that's talking to you every day. I'll give you an example. One of the words that I have underlined in my iso every morning in halal in the halalucas we say hashem is the one who heals a broken heart. We know so many people even in this holy bes have broken hearts and hashev is able to heal the broken hearts. So when you underline that at once say what are the first letters of those words is hal that's the biggest praise you could say on somebody so when I see it in my s under light I'm beginning to realize I can't say I think about it every day but many times I do that life is not about you life is what could you do for other people how could you heal so many people how could you give to other people so many people are broken So if you're underlining your s your s that s is talking to you and that's how you improve the ding by underlining certain things that mean something to you and it teaches you how important those things are. Now there's another thing also you see says that when you're ding you're supposed to add words in your own language. For example, in RIU, we know so many people that are sick. So, I have a whole list of people that I doubt before. Add words. Talk to Hashem. As Rabbi said before, talk to Hashem in talk about talk about the you may have done and you want to say and you mention some of the ae and that's how you improve your ding because ding is a conversation with Hashem. So, it's not only that you underline in your own sitter, but you're supposed to add words to your ding. And not only that, I want to tell you a great story that when you look at the sitter, you're supposed to think of double and triple meanings in the words. Now, I once heard a great story about Abramski who was the uh Rashisha of Slav. He lived in Bayan. One time somebody said to him, "Rebi, you know your neighbor, the Reb is very sick. He needs a blood transfusion." So he said, "Okay, we have to D for him." But he said, "You should know I d every day that I don't need a blood transfusion." He said, "Where do you d every day?" He said, "You also d except you don't realize it." Now listen to what he said. Hashem make it that we don't need the present of boser like flesh like a heart transplant or lung transplant or a kidney transplant or um like in um a transfusion. So I remember I asked could you have that in mind? So he said, "Of course, if it made sense, so when you see certain words in DNI, it could have a double and triple meaning." And I'll give you an example that happened with me after I had the stroke. I couldn't move my fingers. Now I'm able to move my fingers. I couldn't move my pinky. And now I began to realize kufim has now a new meaning. Kufu means Hashem straightens out those that are bent. So normally it means those that are bent over, Hashem makes them that they can walk straight. Do you ever think about the fingers? If you can't move them, that's also like a kafu him. So that's way how you think about something more in the doubling. It has a double and a triple meaning. So I'll tell you a great story. A guy came over to me once. I was in a restaurant and he says to me, "Rabbi, because of you, I got a nuke shot in D." I said, "Because of me?" He said, "Yeah, don't for remember you told us that story about day mas." He said, "I'm in the food department." And the says, "Hashem gives bread to the whole world cuz his um is forever." He said, "Imagine a guy wants to eat a hot dog. So, what bread is he going to eat for a hot dog? He eats a bun." Right? Now, what happens if a guy wants cheese and locks? He's not going to eat a bun. He's going to eat a bagel. What happens if he wants a schwama? He's he's not going to eat a bun or a bagel. He's gonna eat a lafa. And if he wants falafa, he's gonna eat a pa. So look how great God is. He gives us all kinds of bread for any type of meat, right? So I thought it was adorable, but I didn't underline it on my sit up. So like I say, try to think of double and triple meanings. And like I said, psych is one of those meanings. Now I just want to tell you that I want to talk about small things. We spoke about which is major things but you know the mit the mit was he lived in the time of the when the lived in the mit was there and he said you know what chuba is chuba is different than any other mitzvah for example let's say matzah you're supposed to eat matzah pes if you don't eat a kazayas matzah so that's it you weren't you weren't m kind of mitzvah you didn't do it in its fullness and let's say suka you didn't eat a kazay in So you want to kind of mitah? He said, "But chuva is different. Chua means to return." So any way that you return, even a little bit, if you do a little bit of the mitzvah more than you did before, that already is chuva. And that's what we have to do. We have to take little things that we weren't careful with. And you become a little bit more careful. And that's what chuva is. Chuba means to return. And if you take one step, that's one step closer to Hashem. That's one step of chuba. And that's why I want to talk about certain things that maybe we're not always so careful about. Now, I wrote a book. It was called from sorrow to celebration. And from sorrow to celebration, it was about the three weeks, the nine days and tishov. And you know, the book was in a sense very sad because it talks about the saddest days of the year. And I wanted to build it up, make it a little bit more positive. So I looked up in history the passed away in the three weeks was Rabbi Yashv Rashi Raboi Gazinski and and other people like that and their result and I saw a fabulous story about that result that I want to tell you affected me and it should affect all of us. That result was able to look at your face and he would see exactly what you did wrong and with the tik that you need. So of course if people came to him they were able to do chuva right away because then he was able to see exactly what was wrong. So listen to this. A guy came to his house and he was walking very stiffly. So the Arizal said, "Are you in pain?" So he said, "Yeah, my shoulder hurts." So the Arizal looked at his face. He said, "I'll tell you why your shoulder hurts." He said, "Why? Because you're not careful of my he said my what has that got to do with it?" He said because the man says take care when the dealers you die in as soon as you wash your hands and you're supposed to bet you're not supposed to talk out. So the guy said I always live in after um I wash my he said you can't even talk in ter that's a half sick and take is tough cough pay and co is cough tough pay. So because you're not careful in the take of of that's why you have pain in your shoulders and that's something that I think that we should all be a little bit more careful about. First of all even women should be washing and as soon as you wash right away you should start veging. Don't talk don't don't start singing or the don't worry about what the kids are doing. They'll be texting right after takea and that's something that we could all start being careful from tomorrow. Whenever you wash on a bagel or whatever whatever you wash on bread you have to be very careful. I want to talk about another thing that we should be a little bit more careful about. Again, these are small things compared to, but these are small things that we can do chuva in and how we can make a little correction and that is keeping your feet together. I want to tell you what Mosha says about those people who don't keep their feet together like one during shimanas. There's some people that keep their feet so wide apart you can kick a field goal between them. But that's that's not how you're supposed to dab. You're supposed to dab so that the heels and the fingers of the feet are supposed to be together as one like a mala and writes that if a person doesn't do it even if he's rebi even if he has and some of the they like a triangle only the heels are together not the fingers are together says don't let the man d for the even if he's following his rebi take him away from the Could you imagine? It's an if you want to look it up. And he says, "Even if people d like that." Now, you'll see people don't always d with their feet together. But from tonight on when you dive, don't forget to say, of course, but you got to keep your feet together from the heels to the toes. not like a triangle because that's not keeping it like like like the ma. Now I want to show you something very interesting. You know there's a medish that has a mus There's a medish that has the the medish tells us that there's so to speak as if it's a mus between Hashem and CL Israel. The prophet says you turn you return to me and I will return to you. But we say to Hashem, you take the first step. So Hashem and so to speak, we say Hashem, you take the first step. But we but Hashem says to us we should take the first step. Now if you notice the Gor tells us in that the world was built like a hay. And what does that mean? A hay as you know has a ceiling on top and no floor on the bottom. Why doesn't it have a floor on the bottom? Cuz a person could fall all the way down. There's no end to how far a person could fall. But a person has to know that you could always come back to chew. But that's what that door, that's what that little space on the side is. A person can always come back to chuba. And so that's what the hay is all about. And that's why the Gmorrah says that the world was created like a hay. And the truth says it's so amazing that the fifth in is hashu. That's five. That's the fifth. Hey is a letter of chuva. It begins with a heash of and it ends five and five is 10 and that's the and that's what we have to be as careful as we can you know during these chuba and that's the of that's the one that shows us you know that that's the of now I want to tell you about another thing that nobody ever talks about and I think it's very very important and I'll tell you some unbelievable stories. The Friday night suda is one of the most important vehicles of msura that we can give over to our children. When parents sit at the table and a father says on the para he's giving over his ashkas of what he feels the are of the para to his children. a Friday night suit. This should not just be stout conversation, just kidding around. I mean, it's a wonderful time for families to get together, but a person has to know that um that uh that's a time when you could give over and not only that, but even the inanimate objects on the table have a meaning. For example, inf says that the bread, the kala has to have a cover. I don't know if you know why. Do you know why the kala has to have a cover? And the brings it that the past the bread shouldn't feel embarrassed because really if you have bread and wine middle of the week, you have to make the on the bread first. But tonight you're making on the wine first because the kdish. So the bread could feel embarrassed. So listen to this sir. Abdavid le was the father of Rahan. Abd was one whose daughter he once said imagine a father comes home from sh and he sees the table wasn't set the way he wanted with either the dishes or the napkins or the silverware and he says something to his wife and he embarrasses his wife or let's say a kid comes home from yeshiva and he doesn't say the terra the way he's supposed to say it. And what happens? The father scolds him in front of everybody and he doesn't realize that the cover on the kala is teaching him don't embarrass anyone. Don't embarrass even an inanimate object. How much more so a child or a wife or anybody at the table. You have to be so sensitive to the people around the table. So I want to tell you an amazing story that happened many years ago with Rabio Desler. With that we'll close. Raul Desler who was the was a great sadik and his wife Luma she died on a Friday and the next Friday was going to be the first Friday that he was going to be alone with without his wife in all the years. So his tom came and the tom started setting the table the way they set it every week and he put the bear on the table and reba said take away that beak. I want the becca that's on the shelf and the couldn't believe it. Why does the revi care what beha is on the table? you know that's that wasn't that important but whatever it was he said revi I would like to ask you something after the meal and after the meal he asked the revi why revi did it make a difference what bear I put on the table so listen to what he said he said I want to tell you a story that I never told you before he said from 1941 to 1949 I was he was the head of the ko gates rap had called the old desa to open up a k in gates and that's where he was in gates and in 1946 the pornov came to gates and he was so impressed with the old desa he wanted him to be the mashia in pornovich but he couldn't go then he came two years later in 1949 three years later in 1949 and that's when he was in pornovich and inra and when he came to he found out that the shashir of the is bigger than the one that he was using. So he went to a store and he bought a bigger bea and when he put it on the table the first Friday night his wife said to him why did you switch the bea we've been using a bea all these years now what was so special about that bea got that bea fromkiinski was the goa the and he got it from salis was the grandfather of mo's's first wife salisa and moisa used it all the years. So his wife said if it's good enough for it's good enough for salanta it should be good enough for us. So he saw that she was but she felt bad. So he put away the and then but then he said to the so that was in bias but and she had on her side. So therefore that's why I felt that should overrule it. But now that she's not here anymore, it's not an issue of I feel that the has more of a value here. And that's why I wanted to change the so we see that the Friday night table is a time not only to give over but even the things on the table could have an influence. So that's the brah that I want to give everybody that we should know that we come in and we come in and we have 40 days of chuba and we have to remember that the world is like a hay. There's no end to how far we can fall. But that door is always open for chuva. A person should never feel bad of what he did. No matter what you looked at, no matter where you went, what you said, and what you did, you could always do cha. That's what the hay is all about. Hashem should bless each and every one of us that we should be able to fulfill our potential that's the biggest braha every man woman and child that's going to be watching from kasak it's all over the world to any time and that's really at rabbi shabat that's when I met shin co yakov the first time and ruben kakov that's how to any time started from that chalus so we thank you so much and uh I don't know where my aid is but he's usually behind me. Oh, here he is. He deserves a tremendous thanks. Please give him [Applause]