Rabbi Paysach Krohn | 48 Hours Before Rosh Hashanah | CHAZAQ

[Music] good evening day before two days before sh they have the that we have the RAB P we have okay we have long long very long here we know the rabbi we enjoy the lectures sped us and even saw today there is a book don't know theab know in Israel I saw a big bring there is an America Rabbi P he bring story from the rabbi maybe I show the RAB afterward last night I saw so now day before and this isent she passed away last year so and everybody take himself little bit for the speak today and we hope this year will be better than last year [Music] after you know this year I told the people I don't remember year like this year that people ding so much every should go till him it's never happened I I was traveling I went to Canada reason any shoe i d few shoes after ding nobody go away stay set healing all the world of course has listen that of course definitely could be not so now we need to me a little bit ding then will come completely with the Masia first and foremost I would like to thank raita for inviting me to come to speak to all of you once again at a very very important and difficult time of the year I would like to thank K mayor who's the one who actually made the calls I appreciate it and we thank rabi yov who runs kazak and runs Torah any time and is responsible literally for Torah that is filmed and shown literally all over the world without exaggeration last year Torah any time had 12 million 12 million hours of Torah that's learned that was filmed by all the organization ations from Torah anytime it's just incredible this that they have just last week I was in London and I was giving a new talk on Sedaka and I felt that it was very important that it should be on Torah any time believe it or not they had somebody in London that filmed it and you could go and you could watch it it's called charity and the community and it was filmed in London so Torah anytime is literally throughout the world we've come this year to rashash Shana with great apprehension with great trepidation which means fear and with great hope we know that last year on rashash that was when Hashem decided that October 7th was going to happen R Hashem decides what the future of CLA is going to be and we went through a and that was horrendous and that shabas all of us remember it was for us it Wasim Isel because they have it the same day and all of us heard Rumblings everybody heard something we didn't have technology on on y so we didn't know exactly what was happening but we knew that something was going on in Israel everybody knew that even on sheras and so I want to tell you what happened in the Yeshiva and Waterberry on that day on that day which was as we said there was a fellow by the name of Ley yok Stark now Ley yok Stark is part of triplets at that point he was 22 years old he had been born in a Israel and when he was 19 he decided that he's going to come to America to learn Torah and he came to the isiv of Waterberry when he was there only a year he got a call from his mother and his mother told him that the Army called him because he was born in Israel so he's an Israeli Citizen and that he has to go to the Army so he came back from the yiva in Waterberry and he was in the Army for 2 and 1/2 years he became a sergeant and then they told him that if he wants to continue in the army they would pay him because he was a very good Sergeant but he said no I want to go back to America to learn in the Yeshiva and so he came back to the Yeshiva in Waterberry and now it was or for himim and he heard everything that's going on he didn't hear everything but we knew something was going on and so he went to the RAB of the community and he said should I call ER Israel I have to call my commander maybe they want me to come back he said don't call now you call tonight when it's finished y for you because you keep only one day and don't make the call in the base Med she'll go in the dmitory where you have your phone don't be on the phone in front of everyone and call your commander and see what he says so at night it was Sim Torah already and everybody was dancing and he went out to make the call and everybody knew that he was calling his commander in Israel about 25 minutes later he came back and his face was white and was pale and everybody looked at him what's going on and he started crying and he said over thousand people have been killed already and my commander said I have to go back on Monday morning and there's a war going on and everybody was so shocked and they did the most unbelievable thing they gave him a t and everybody they put him in the middle and they walked around him singing is that slow sad song and they were crying because they thought one day ever going to see this guy again he's going back Monday to all the killing and the wounding and the stuff that you can't even say in the B medish and the hostages are they ever going to see Le again but then when they finished singing and walking around him they didn't want that he should leave on such a sad note so they sang a song which is a fast song and they danced around him and then he left he couldn't dance he was an Israeli as I said y was over for him and knowing what was going on in Isel and knowing that was going to go back to Israel on Monday there was no way that he could continue to dance and sure enough Monday he flew back to Israel and he came to all the killing and the wounding and the hostages and it was just absolutely frightening now we know that those people who were at that Nova concert not one of them was religious not one and we know that NE so many a were done by those people that were there and the question is how do we look at that NE they are our brothers and sisters that's how we have to look at it and you know I want to tell you something a very interesting G and the tells us in and the tells us that Hashem says about the Jewish people vain you are my sheep the Sheep of my pasture you like one person and then the gamar makes a statement that some people when they learn the gamar they can't believe that the gamar said this it sounds so racist how could the gamar say this but we're going to see a great shot the gar says Adam you the Jewish people are called Adam a man a mench but the are not considered mentioned the are not considered what what does that mean every person whether they're Jewish or not is created by what does the mean Shapiro and others explained the gar in a beautiful way if let's say here in New York we would hear that a sh in France was desecrated or burned we would feel pain and if a Jew in Mexico hears that a Jew in Switzerland was hurt because he was a Jew he would feel pain but what a in Dallas care what happens to a in New York what a in Holland care what happens to a in Chile we are Autumn we are like one person if it's one person if his knee is hurting then the whole body is hurting when his hand is hurting the whole body is hurting we're all them we like one person and that's how we have to look at it Because deep down every one of them wants to feel close to Hashem and I want to tell you a story that happened right before the holiday of pesak this year Rabbi yo Yakov gibber a dear friend of mine who was a in boka Florida he took 25 people two weeks before y he took them to Ed Isel and he was going to go to the front where the fighting is happening and the soldiers are there to give them and then he was going to go to the North and South where all those people had to leave their homes and to give everybody and he came the first day he came the first day and he came to the soldiers and he spoke to them and he told them how proud clausell is of them and after he finished it was a long there was a fellow with long hair a long ponytail his name was to and to came over to Rabbi gibber and said Rabbi can I speak to you privately he said yeah of course now by this time Tom was wearing a kipa because you know he knew the rabbi was there and he said Rabbi I want you to know I was at that concert and I saw my friends getting killed I saw the parachutes coming down the drones Kamas coming and shooting and killing and I was terrified I knew I had to get out of there because I couldn't save my friends that they killing and sh shooting was all over the place and so I ran I just I didn't know where I was running I just ran wherever I the furthest distance I could and I saw a forest and I ran into the forest and there I saw a ditch a ditch is a huge hole and I jumped into the ditch a ditch was 5T deep I bent down to make sure that nobody would see me and Rabbi he says I was there for 5 hours and I didn't move until the shooter stopped and the crying stopped and the yelling and the screaming stopped and then I climbed out of the ditch and I got out on the road by that time 5 hours later already Israeli soldiers had come down from the north some Soldier took me on a highway and I was able to get home but he said Rabbi I want to go back to that ditch I want to go into that ditch and I want to say shay Isel because that's where I was saved would you come with me and Rabbi gibber said what's the question of course we're going to rent the bus tomorrow and Rabbi gibber huged them and cried with them because he saw how much the boy wanted to feel close to Hashem and Toma told him Rabbi I haven't put on myin in 10 years I'm 23 I have my T for my Mitzvah that was the last time I put on my Fillin would you come I'll take myin and we'll go by the ditch and I'll say shma Israel and Rabbi gibber said of course what's the question and the next day he hired a bus and about 10 of the 25 guys went down together with them and sure enough he knew where the concert was and he showed them where he ran into the forest and he walked with all of them to the place where the ditch was and then when he was standing outside the ditch Rabbi Giver gave him a pair of tiit and they put on his filling and then toor said Reby I'm afraid I'm afraid to go on the ditch would you come with me and said of course and slowly they both climbed into the ditch and they both cried out and they said and the only other thing that Tom knew was he didn't know the first para and of course all the 10 guys that were standing around they all said the para of Shima and RAB brought out the point so many many people in a Israel so many people around the world ever since October 7th they want to feel a closeness to yish they want to feel a closeness to Y even though they never had it before and not only that not only do they want to feel a closeness but now that in America and in all over the world there's such terrible anti-Semitism coming from the colleges from Harvard and yeah and and Penn State and all the Colombia terrible and so wherever a Jew goes there's terrible anti-Semitism so Jews want to come back and that's what our Aras is to do what rabka does to do what kazak does to do what T any time does to reach out we all have relatives that are not religious second cousins third cousins neighbors that are not yet religious workers in our business office that are not yet religious but Jews want to connect and that's our job this rash we have to make up our minds as the r mentioned not only to DAV harder than we ever D before but to make our commitment to our brothers and sisters in Isel and all over the world now I know many of you here were not here in America in 1976 there's some people I see Americans they were here 1976 so let me tell you what July 1976 was in America that was the birthday it was called the bicentennial if you remember that and when I did your grandson right I gave him a red white and blue yamaka cuz everybody was celebrating the birthday of America in July 1976 but what some people don't remember is something else that happened in July 1976 there was an Air France plane that was going to Israel and it stopped off in Paris it was going from Israel to Paris and it stopped off in Athens and it was hijacked by Palestinians and they took the plane to a place called Uganda in anbi and at that time the head of Uganda was a man who was a maniac his name was Idi Amin and Idi Amin said he was going to kill every Jewish person that was on that hijack plane everyone and everyone was terrified cuz he was crazy enough to do it and the plane was surrounded no Jew could get off they took off all the go and the Jews were stuck on the plane and in Earth Isel they decided they're going to have a y a Day of Prayer and said decided they're going to do it in the mirror Yesa cuz that's a very big building and it could hold a thousand people and the place was packed with young men with children with balab with K the place was packed and everybody was waiting for abitz who was the rashash of Mir at the time he was very elderly already that he would come in through the back he would come up front and he would talk to the people and then they would say toim the place was packed and the tension was very thick and they opened the door Rim walked in from the back and he saw so many people and he could feel the tension he started crying he sat down and a thousand people just listened to him cry he caught hold of himself he walked up front he kissed the Ares he turned around he looked at the crowd and once again he couldn't get a word out of his mouth he was crying and finally I know two people that were there that day and both of them told me the same thing one of them was a fellow RAB mha zuker who is a great M today and the other one is RAB yudi RAB El's son who is now the rashash Sha in Philadelphia Yesa they were both there that day and they both told me said one sentence to everyone before the tillum the sentence was D as if it was your father or your mother or your brother or your sister that's on that plane and that's how we have to do RKA mentions that wherever he goes people are saying till him but you know that we're not saying this till him we're strong as we said it in the beginning right after the war started because when you do something every day and you do it three times a day so it gets dulled you get used to it but you know maybe we have to think about one soldier or one woman who's hostage imagine if it was your sister that was in a tunnel imagine if your father was either on the front or also was a hostage how we would D so we don't think about everybody think about one person if you could get the name of one hostage or name of one person and dve in with intensity as if it was your father or your mother or your sister or your brother was there and that's really how we have to doin and so many many people ask this question what can we do to make it so to speak kab that Hashem should change his mind and so that this rashash the decree would be better so I'm going to tell you four things and then we're going to go to a different part of discussion but every one of these four things every man woman and child that's here tonight and the tens of thousands that will be watching on Torah any time I believe every one of us has to make a cabala that means we have to make a resolution we have to undertake to do these four things in a certain level in the level that's fitting for you now the first thing I want to tell you is there's a gorra in Mak and the tells us the gorra is describing what it was to be oel oel means when you go to on either P andus there was so many people that was so crowded people just were standing and they just shuffled along there was no way you could walk a regular way cuz it was so crowded now my wife told me that she experienced that my wife was in Israel during The Six Day War and she told me that during the sixth day war in the seminaries every place they were listening to the radio to find out how the Israelis were making progress you know they had wiped out the Egyptian Army the Egyptian Air Force and now they were going towards Yim and every time I say it I Cry the guy the radio announcer was screaming AEL beo AEL beo we have the cotel and everybody was crying because when did they have they didn't have the Cil in years and now everybody was going to be able to go but of course the Army didn't let everybody go the first days the first day that everybody could go was Shas and my wife tells me that a morning there were tens of thousands of people as if the whole earth Israel came to go to the kisel and she said she walked through the Arab neighborhood the people were just shuffling along and the Arabs stood there they were terrified they were terrified they wouldn't say a word to the Israelis during the sixth day war and everybody came towards the K but you know what the gor says over here an amazing thing the gor says that our feet was standing in the gateways of listen what theor says what caused the Jews that they should be able to stand firm in war who's talking about war here oh the gamor is telling us is not only talking about that it was so crowded it's talking about the soldiers it's talking that they have to be firm on their feet to win the war me G who helps them that their feat should be strong they should win the war that's because they're learning T that's the reason that the Israelis are winning that's the reason they're able to go into Lebanon and do all the things with Nala and do all the things with the pages and the radios it's not only because of their Brilliance it's because people are learning and people are learning Torah and that's what every every one of us here has to undertake tonight from now on at least till the end of the war we have to learn a little bit more than we're learning every day maybe learn an extra mishna obviously the women are not learning gor but you learn a you learn you learn every day learn something more than you were doing till now and think about it it should be a for the so and that and that's what the is telling us their feet of the soldiers will be strong because they learn Terror in yam that's the first thing that we have to undertake tonight and what I would like to say to all of you is that every person especially the men could take a part of trra that becomes theirs my father shalam he was a mo for many years he was a big and he once said a very interesting Insight in the second it says you have to have a desire in the Torah of you should learn day and night so the simple meaning is the gor says when you learn the T it's hasem when you learn it and you know what to say becomes your T my father added additional and I put this p on his grave site on his mat you know what he said every person has to love the whole that you become an expert in for example let's say you become an expert in or let's say you become an expert in well let's say the women become expert in the of the kitchen or bras imagine you make a study you become the expert in bras one day we're going to have to decide what bro you make on an ice cream sandwich right and one day we're going to have to figure out what's the right bro on sushi so you take that aspect of or the kitchen and you become an expert in it that's what that's what my father did my father learned so much but what he made his expertise was the field of Brit Mila and he knew every saer that was ever written on it I remember when I was a teenager and I went to Israel he sent me to the Hebrew University I should go to the microfilm library and microfilm the old now today they're printed I should M the old because he wanted to learn them every one of us has to take a of that's ours that's the first thing the second thing all of us here that are parents all of us here that are grandparents and the girls m here who will become parents eventually I give you all a br by poor of you should find the right ones every single one of you so and there're single men as well but I just want to tell you that all of us know that when we do something for a child and the child says thank you we feel good but what if you do something for a child and they don't say thank you you feel terrible you're still going to do for them because you love them but when a child does not have a child doesn't say thank you or feel grateful it hurts the parent and so I think that Hashem who is our parent also feels bad if we don't say thank you so I want to give you some examples of how you could say thank you to Hashem a few times a day the first way is when you say as after a person goes uses the facilities we say as now if you think about the words of aser it talks about the whole body we have a heart we have a colon we have kidneys we have esophagus we have brains Eyes Ears you ever thank Hashem for that somebody once told me that you have to remember is not you know that means people say and and they're walking to the car they're diapering the baby they're texting how long does it take to say ASAT 9 seconds so I would say from now on when you say as and tonight if you're 50 years old or more you're going to say it more than once right we know that right so then stand in one place and you know something I once told this to a thousand women and you know one lady called me up she said Rabbi cron you're right doesn't it say sh that's excuse me that's part of the that we should stand in one place and think about the words think about the meanings and be grateful to Hashem for your body I don't see anybody here on a ventilator or respirator or a wheelchair bem we have to thank Hashem that we can do all these things that's the first thing the second thing that I think that we could be more careful in as far as saying thank you is is when you bench you know something we say these words all of you know these words by heart what do they mean right we say what does that mean I'll tell you what I think it means means with graciousness food is beautiful Hashem could have made it that we all would eat white vitamin pills and we would be healthy but Hashem didn't make food white vitamin pills for some people kiwi is gorgeous some people chocolate mousse is gorgeous or sushi okay I'm not a sushi person but you know some people love you know Sushi or a good-look steak or you know sweet french fried potatoes you know that's those are pretty so that's the first thing Hashem does a favor for us he makes food look good that's the first thing the second thing is the Taste again Hashem could have given us pills like those people in the astronauts you know what do they eat pills up there they're not eating all regular food but the taste is delicious some people love pizza some people love hot dogs so think about all the different tastes that's is the appearance is the Taste and is the nutritional value of food if we didn't have nutritional value of food you be dead in 5 days so that's a way of saying thank you in my S I have these words underlined so that's one thing is tor each of us has to undertake a little bit more Tor and the second thing is that we have to think about being grateful to Hashem for what we have our bodies and of course the food that we have the third thing is what RAB was talking about saying toim why does Thim work you know why Thim Works cuz David a had the roughest life that you could imagine DAV he was rejected by his own Brothers D was rejected by sh sh wanted to kill him and not only that D had three sons that were irreligious and they wanted to kill him and two out of three wanted to kill him kind of life is that but he had he never gave up never and that's what a yid never gives up never gives up and that's why we say till him no matter what the situation in life is and we all go through difficult situations that's what it is to say toim let's make sure that we say toim every every single day I'll tell you what I do again I would never ask you to do anything that I don't do myself I say five chapters every day you know why five chapters because 5 time 30 is 150 like this you finish it every month now I know in this sidium they have different sections but to me it's confusing but you know you say five a month you know it's a 10th day you got to be up to chapter 50 you know it's 20 days you up to chapter 100 you know so and if there's some that are bigger or smaller you work it out t thank you and the final thing it's every single day every man woman and child in this room should be giving staka you know why cuz the torat tells us saves from Death not only your own death but the death of the soldiers the death of the people in Israel and let me tell you something most people don't know this and I don't know what the Min is here in to I don't know but I'm just telling you what it says in and for those of us who pray every day if you say when you say this [Music] sentence we start a person is supposed to give three coins wealth is in your hands and so what I do is I give 26 Cents and another dime or a nickel you don't have to give 26 Cents you could give three pennies but that's the time to collect not during when you're disturbing everybody but when you you and you say those words you rule over everything and money is only in your hands that's when you're supposed to give the those three coins why three I think it doesn't say why three I think because because of those three words but that's really what we should do every one of us a little bit more t a little bit more thank you to and to [Applause] give I want to tell you another thing that to me is absolutely fascinating many of us know of the great sadik who lived in Spain May theam was a great sapharic Spanish sadik and he once said something about the word elul what does elul stand for and you know what he said you could write it down you should be beloved by Hashem who is above the L you should be desired by those people who live down here in this world but I want to show you what it means to be beloved above and be desired down here below so many of you may have known of the great Mas in Lakewood who passed away just a short time ago ra Solomon the most wonderful caring sadic of a person who loved everybody and everybody loved him so listen to this beautiful Story one Friday night after he came to Lakewood from Gates head he was standing and people wanted to say good chabas to him so there was a long line and there was a little boy 12 and A2 years old who stood online he comes up to the rebi he says gabas or he didn't say shabbat shalom but that's what you say here but he said gabis and then he said rebbi can I ask you a question so raat said yeah of of course so he said you know I heard that the circus is coming to Lakewood and I bought a ticket to go to the circus but somebody told me this week that the M said it's not appropriate for a from boy to go to the circus but I bought a ticket already am I allowed to go so Rio was holding his hand and he said young man if you're asking me my opinion I got to tell you the truth I feel it's not appropriate for a FR boy to go to the circus so the boy looked down he was a little sad and he said okay rebi I won't go and he was about to walk away but R maio was holding his hand and he said to him we're still friends right and the little boy smiled and he said yes Reby we're still friends now listen to this 6 months later Rao was driving in Lakewood and he he had a driver and he says to the driver pull in that Shool he said what's going on in that Sho he says come with me you'll see he comes inside it's the night of that boy's Bar Mitzvah could you imagine and the father and the boy they see the Lakewood he's coming to the he wasn't even invited they can't believe it they run over to him thank you thank you thank you for coming and then the father says to him like why did the come you're so busy he said I would like to speak can I say so they said of course theid wants to speak of course what a question so the M gets up and he tells this story he says I just want to tell you what happened six months ago Friday night in sh the B boy he asked me a question about coming to the circus cuz he already had a ticket and I told him not to go and then I asked him if we're still friend friends and he said yes so if we're still friends doesn't one friend go to another friend's B Mitzvah that's why I had to come imagine that that's greatness he didn't have to do that he was busy till 3:00 in the morning giving advice to people but a little boy might feel bad still that he spent money on the ticket for the circus and the rebi told him not to go and he didn't go oh he came to the B Mitzvah that's worth everything that's what it means now listen to this fabulous story I was in s Paulo a few months ago in Brazil and I spoke in different schools different shs and Saturday night there was a malava Mala so you know at the malav Mala you sit around the table and everybody you know is making conversation so I asked the person I said what's your name so he said my name is denal sonnenfeld I said sonel are you related to reld who used to be the rabbi of the old city in the early 1900s inim he said yeah that was my great-grandfather I said wow that's amazing you know I like to write stories and tell stories maybe you could tell me a great story about your great-grandfather that nobody knows he thinks for a moment he said I'll tell you a great story and the truth is it is a fabulous story which I've told and of course printed and listen to what he said he said many years ago in the early 1900s my great-grandfather Abel his wife passed away so his daughter-in-law sha everybody called a sha would come to the house every day to see if she could help her father-in-law one day she's in the kitchen and rabim says I think I hear a lady crying in the courtyard could you go outside and see I think I hear somebody cry she says of course I'll go out she goes out and she sees it's a yemenite woman who in Israel was called the keset keset means a washer woman and what she did was she would come into this Courtyard she would take everybody's laundry and she would wash it and then hang it up and then in the afternoon she would come back and give everybody the laundry and that's how she made money to buy food for her kids who are waiting at home she had no husband she was a very poor woman a widow and that's how she made money so sha goes out and seees she's crying she said why are you crying she said I'll tell you you know this is how I make my livelihood by doing the laundry I didn't realize today is rodes and it's and they're telling me that Orthodox women don't do laundry on rashes I didn't know that custom and I certainly didn't know it's rashes I already paid the babysitter to watch my kids and now if they don't give me the laundry I'm not going to have any money to buy food for my children so Shaina runs into and she tells her father-in-law the lady is crying because she's the laundry lady the and nobody's giving her the laundry because it'ses so listen to this Rim says do we have any laundry in the house so she says uh yeah I think we do he says run out right now tell her to wait a minute we're going to be out there in a few minutes she couldn't believe it she runs out she says to the lady don't go away just stay here my father-in-law said you should stay here she comes back in and R and her are putting together a basket of laundry and RAB says okay we're going to go outside now we're going to give her the laundry so she says but what about rashes don't the the F women they don't do rashes they don't do laundry listen to what he said he said helping an Alman helping a widow is a din in the Torah oh not doing laundry on rodes is a Minh the Torah law is more important than the minhag bring out the laundry they brought out the laundry and then all the women brought out the laundry that's somebody who's who understands the priorities who understands what's important and doesn't make a at the expense of somebody else a poor woman in almana now I want to tell you another story that happened with Rabbi gibber it's not an easy story to listen to but we are going to see greatness and we are going to learn a fabulous lesson one of the places that Rabbi gibber took at the 25 people was to the biggest Hospital in ER it's called T has tell has is such a great hospital that a number of years ago Newsweek magaz azine had a survey of the best hospitals in the whole world and came in ninth it was the ninth best hospital in the whole world now and today because of the war they have a whole floor that's dedicated to amputees amputees means those people who lost limbs some soldiers who don't have legs or the soldier lost fingers or a hand or a knee terrible terrible what do you say to a young Soldier that's doesn't have a leg anymore and they were trying to figure out you know to give kuk to these people and then they saw by one bed there was a 70-year old man sitting with a regular suit without a leg he didn't have a leg and so what happened was that thank you so much they were they went they went over to him thank you they went over to him and they asked him excuse me sir what what are you doing here you certainly didn't come from the Army you're too old to be in the Army listen to what he said he said 50 years ago I was in the um kle war and he said he lost the leg and he thought that was it it was over but then after he got out of the war he was able to get a job he was able to get married he has children he has grandchildren he said I come here every day without my leg to sit by these soldiers now I have a prosthesis a prosthesis means a false leg but I don't come here with that I want them to see he says that he doesn't have a leg and he comes to tell the soldiers that their lives are not over could you imagine how great that is a person comes there every day without his leg to show those young soldiers that life is not over what a beautiful beautiful way of AAS Isel and I want to tell you a lesson that I learned from this I learned from this wonderful person that every single one of us here tonight has challenges and many times Hashem helps and we go through the challenge and if you went through a challenge and you're successful you have AES that means holy obligation to put your arm around somebody and say listen I know what you're going through I went through it and I made it and if I made it you could make it and I want to give you some painful examples somebody for example who was divorced and was living alone for a while and then they were able to get married and now they're happily married so they have to go over to other people that are single and divorce and tell them listen I know what you're going through I went through it and if I could make it you could make it there's some people that didn't have jobs for months and they were wondering how they going to put food on the table but eventually they got a job so if you know somebody who was sitting home and embarrassed to come to show cuz he has no job you got to put your hand around them and say listen my friend I went through that I know what it means not to put bread on the table but I was able to get the job and if I was able to do it you're going to be able to do it and I'll tell you another thing which is painful for me to talk about I was in Woodside Wood Lake Village a few months a few weeks ago that's a bungalow colony in the mountains and I can't after Ding A guy comes over to me I didn't know who he was he says RAB Crone I need you to do me a favor I said what is that he said his wife just died she was in her 40s he said I have four teenage daughters and I know your father died when you were 21 and somehow you made it could you please talk to my daughters and give them of course what's a question I told them and we went into the other room and I spoke with them and I tried to make them feel good and tell them what it was to live with a mother a single parent for so many years and what they have to do and what is Hashem expecting of them but the reason they came to me was because I went through it you can't go over to somebody who's never gone through that and asked them to speak to daughters that are anyone here tonight anyone here tonight that had to walk down to their wedding without both parents remains an orphan forever and every Thursday I give a to all these teenagers who lost parents and anybody who is a yam or wants a bro on Friday over a thousand teenage kids get this broa how did I get to do that cuz I knew what it meant for a teenager to live without a father I'm the oldest of seven I was 21 my brothers and sisters were teenagers so I felt that sensitivity and if you know anybody that's a single parent there's a wonderful organization called sister to sister that I'm involved with and you know somebody's a single parent and has children I give them a br there's over 2,000 kids who get that br you could get it there's no charge whatsoever you give me a number I'll put you on the list every Friday 2 o' you're going to get the BR whether it's a child of a single parent or yasam or Y but that com because it happened to me the first part about being a yasam and so anybody who has that situation make sure that you see that others who have that situation that you helped them now there's another thing that I want to talk about when we come to rashash we make commitments and resolutions and decisions and sometimes you have to make a decision even when it's very tough but you have to be strong enough to make the right decision and sometimes you only get one crack at it now I want to tell you a story that everybody knows all of you know this story but I'm going to show you the way the which is on P and it was written by the ones who wrote the mishna except it's not a mishna it's called a br br means outside so it's outside the mishas and I'm going to show you two words in this story that you will just be amazed everybody knows the story about RAB AKA he was walking by a brook he saw a rock that had a hole in it how could a rock have a hole in it so we all know what happened he asked and people said you know the water was Dripping and dripping and dripping for so long that but finally it made a hole in the Rock So Raba thought oh my goodness water is soft and it can make a hole in the Rock that's hard so the Torah that's strong could pierce my heart that's soft right again water is soft and it can make a hole in the Rock that's hard so the Torah that's so strong can make an impression on my heart that's soft we all know that story but you know what the mishna you know what Thee the says in that story one time one time he saw it he didn't see it every single day for 5 years and think about it he saw it once and he said I got to change and that's what we have to do sometimes we hear something and we know it's the right thing don't be afraid to make the decision and you know there's a second thing in that story that I cannot believe but of course it says it so of course I believe it I never knew it it says Raba had a little boy I didn't know that and you know what it says him and his son they went to K K1 to kindergarten and they said rebi teach us T imagine re give had a little boy I didn't know that and he's telling the rebi teach us TOA one time he saw it so I want to tell you about a decision that I believe that we each have to make every single day but I want to tell you a story first about it many of you know RAB Friend R friend is a great and Baltimore and every Thursday night he gives a in and and then after three4 of an hour he teaches and then sometimes he'll tell a story so he once told this amazing [Applause] story what happened was that a person from Manhattan came to visit Rael Brisa the brisar ra Sal now we all know the salic are geniuses they don't forget anything big so they're sitting and talking this gentleman from Manhattan and he's talking to ra to ra Sal the bruar and the bruar says to him what are you do what's your profession so he said Reby I'm a lawyer in Manhattan okay 5 minutes later the conversation goes on and the brisar asks him again what do you do and the guy was surprised he just told him five minutes ago that he's a lawyer man he said Reby I'm a lawyer in Manhattan he said I know you told me that 5 minutes ago but that's not how a Jew answers the question he said rebbi what do you mean he said show bring me a y the prophet y from the Shelf now listen to this we all know the story of what happens in y y's on the boat right and the boat was about to sink but the rest of the boats are sailing fine there's no storm there's only a storm around this boat and the sailors they know it's because of somebody that's on this boat so they go over to Y and they say why is this evil happening they said what do you do you know what he answered he said I am a Jew yes and I Fear God and the Holy radak WR underneath you know what he says as soon as he said I Fear God that was the answer what's your job you're not a graphic artist you're not a lawyer you're not a doctor you're not a diamond salesman you're not a real estate agent you're a yid all these other things are way you make money right you got to bring money into the house but what's your job you're a y and you have to to remember that and every single one of us whether you wear a keep or you don't wear a keep on the train when you're driving where you wear a snood or no snood big sh little shael baseball hat front in the back whatever Mets Hat Yankee hat makes no difference they know you're a Jew and if they know you're a Jew oh that's a very important decision when you go to the bank and the teller says something to you you can't be nasty or you go on a plane and the steart or steart says something you're camping that they know you're Jewish and especially today with so much anti-Semitism yeah I can't make a you don't just represent queens or to you represent CL Isel that's a decision we have to make every single day now listen to this Rabbi friend a few weeks later said he got a call from a stock broker he said Rabbi I was listening to to your speech and I make deals every day on the telephone with stocks and sometimes they're a little shady but you know what after you said your speech I made a paper weight the paper weight means it holds down the papers on it I had two words written down it's not a bad thing to put on your phone every every time you talk every time you do business every time you drive just remember that decision now listen to this in Baltimore there was a re Ina his wife asked him to do certain errands on Friday afternoon so he was rushing from place to place one of the things she asked him to do was to cash a $500 check so he goes to the drive-in Bank you know we have them in Q Garden Hills as well and he gives the teller you know the guy behind the window and the guy gives him like a little cylinder he puts in the $500 check the guy puts in the cash in an envelope and he you know he leaves the bank he leaves that Drive-In area he didn't check we figured the you know the bank knows exactly what it's doing and he had 100 different errands to do he comes back about an hour and a half later to the house he gives his wife the envelope she opens it up it's $5,000 she said she said what is this he starts counting he says Whoa We just got rich by $4,500 she said what do you mean we just got rich it's a mistake you got to give it back to the bank he said no it's a go mistake charum you know maybe I don't have to give it back she says what are you talking about he says look I'm a re in the Yesa I'm going back on Monday to the Yesa I'm going to ask the rebies what they say he goes to the Yesa on Monday he comes back Monday afternoon from school and his wife says like this I don't even want you to tell me what they said you're a yid and you're going back to the bank tomorrow to return the money now all of us on this side know and the women on that side talk like that we're going to listen we know that no choice okay sure enough Tuesday morning he goes to the bank and he returns the money Friday afternoon he gets a knock on the door he says sir who are you he says can I talk to you for a minute he says yeah the guy says to them I want you to know you saved my job I who are you he said I'm the bank teller who made the mistake they fired me yesterday they fired me because they realized that I made a mistake and they had no idea how they're going to get the money back I and then you came and returned the money oh then they see that it was not that they were going to lose the money they got the money back so I got my job back so he said I just want to thank you and I want to wish you a good shabas he said you're Jewish he said yeah I'm a barkarian Jew but I'm not wearing a keep I'm not religious but now I understand what religious Jews are all about wow and that's a kesem when you realize you're an i you walk in the street with pride you don't walk with your shirt sticking out you don't walk with your hat backwards I don't care who you are you're year you're a royalty you're a princess that's a decision that we have to make every single day what time is our be what 10 10:00 okay so let's review everything that we said and we'll end with a FB abous lifechanging story thank you for the Water by the way so let's remember we're coming to Y with great apprehension we know that last year Hashem made the Gaz of October 7 and what happened Sim all over the world let's remember we have to dve even for those that were not religious cuz they are our brothers and sisters and we have to feel their pain we have to do four things Tora as we said to add something to the Tor that we're learning whether it's a A mishna or the second thing that we have to do is to say thank you to say thank you when we say stand in one place and especially when we bench the third thing as we said this to say to him and the fourth thing is to give every single day just remember from our own death and also the death of the soldiers let's remember that we make decisions we make decisions every day and we have to be as said let's remember that beautiful story of RA mat Solomon who went to that boy let's remember what R zel did he brought out the laundry because he knew she was an ala and that's AA and not doing laundry ones is only let's remember that that's a decision that we have to make every day when we drive when we walk when we dress when we talk because you cannot hide the fact that you're Jewish it's written on our face and if that's the case we have a big Aras in everything that we do to be madesh sh Shay so I just want to end with this fabulous fabulous story in Lakewood a number of years ago they decided that three days before y of PES they're going to close all the elementary schools because like this the Rees would be able to help the wives cuz PES is a very very busy time they didn't close the B medish but the elementary schools they closed so now it's 2 days before Yan and a fifth grade rebi comes into the kitchen and he says to his wife you know they gave us off is there anything that I could do for you so she says you really want to help he says yeah of course she says if you could get the kids out of the house for 4 hours I'll be able to bake and cook and clean and he's said what in the world what was he going to do with 4 hours for 4 hours with the kids in Lakewood but you know that's what she said she needs so then he remembered that Newark Airport is only an hour away from Lakewood so if he takes them to the airport they were little kids they were never in the airport so that's an hour there an hour back now he's got to he's finished already two hours now he's got to figure out what to do with the other two hours but then he remembered that in Newark it would have an air train now an air train means it go from United to Delta to American Airlines the airports are so monstrous today so when you get off and you got to go to another terminal so you take a train now in Atlanta the train is underneath but in nework it's overground so I figured I'll take the kids on the train there's no charge you just got to pay for parking and like this they'll see the planes taking off and landing and you see the Jersey Turnpike and it'll be wonderful and he takes him on the train and the kids are sitting in the front car and and they're going to seeing the whole Airport planes up planes down Jersey turn bike terminals it's m they having a great time after two hours a pilot gets on the plane gets on the train very neat looking guy with a tie and a cap and a uniform and a suit and these Pilots they're wonderful people especially the guys who come from down south and they go over to see six kids he says uh where you guys flying today so they didn't know what to say so they look at the father and the father says actually sir we're flying nowhere he says nowhere he says you see we're religious Jews and we have a religious holiday and it's very busy so my wife asked me if I could take the kids out of the house for a couple hours and like this you know she'll be able to bake and cook and clean and we're just having a great time together and the pilot got very serious and he said young man I want to tell you something he said I've been a pilot for 25 years there's not a major airport in this world that I haven't landed in he said two years ago I got a text from my son and he writes me dad you're always so busy you never have time for me you never came to any of my birthday parties you didn't even have the decency to come to my graduation and last week was the birthday of your first grandson my son and you didn't come do me a favor take my number out of your contacts and he said two weeks later I got the same text from my daughter he said young man I have flown everywhere but gone nowhere you told me you're flying nowhere but with your kids you're going everywhere and I want to repeat that he said young man I have flown everywhere but obviously gone nowhere you told me you're flying nowhere but with your kids you're going everywhere and that's the final decision that we have to make before rashash the future of claw Isel is our children the most important thing that you can do is spend time with your children RBA once told me the great Mash in Israel I once asked him what should I tell parents he said tell parents they got to give their children two things time and love and then my son asked them how much time he said as much as they need and that's what we have to remember nothing is more important than the future of CLA and the future of clo is our children and so I just want to end with this beautiful thought the pin Amo tells us if a lion roars wouldn't you be afraid you walk on Main Street right you walk on Union turn you see a lion roaring everybody's going to be afraid Al you know what it's say for R and these days are roaring shouldn't we be afraid and you know what I answer we can answer back because that's what bam said about the Jewish people we can stand up like a young lion we can Elevate ourselves it's true these are days of trepidation these are days to be afraid especially this year for but we can answer we can answer with making a decision that we do that we can answer and the new year will be a great year of and and only wonderful things I just want to tell you that I wrote a book it's available a manual of selling it in the back it's called has fabulous stories about available in the back thank you for inviting me and thank you for listening