Rabbi Dovid Goldwasser - The Domino Effect of Kindness

Good evening everyone. Welcome to tonight's very special shar event. We're all gathered here in unison for in memory of a very special person of course Mrs. Toby Ghwin Kazak young of Weststead Clara Klein adult education committee. We thank everyone for joining us tonight. Of course we thank the young Israel and entire leadership of forashem being such a place of Torah of inspiration of kindness. Let's give a round of applause to the brahashem. Such a place of s. It's an amazing place that second home for so many people. Um we're in the community and of course um um we uh somebody's watching on Zoom. We're visit we're of course missing someone so special to us. Our grandfather Mr. Charles Gashin who's watching on the zoom right now. Of course, we has hundreds of people around the country who work Hashem, are ding for him, are thinking of him or are taking upon good deeds, acts of kindness for him. So, of course, we we're thinking of you and uh we we hope next year um that that you're going to be sitting in your famous seat, row one, C1, right over here for for for next year's share. And of course, we want to thank of course Kazak, an organization that that um that that Mrs. Toby Ghwin with her grandchildren are part of myself and my brother. Um the organization that organizes Shirum in different communities hundreds of Shirum give inspiration to people of all backgrounds and Raashem has helped transfer over 2,000 students from public school to yeshiva and has over 20 different programs for after school and Sunday school programs for for public school students. So Raashem and um to uh to to introduce to to if if somebody in the room might might not know who she was. I think there's a there's a mushell I heard recently that I think can really um take uh give us a glimpse into her unbelievable meaningful purposeful life. There's a there's a there's a mush I heard recently did says that that there was a teacher and on the first day of class she said to her students I'm going to teach you the the numbers one two three four up to nine. So what happens after two weeks says to the class, "Okay, fine. We're going to make a We're gonna we just completed that's how to celebrate with the ice cream party." So one of the one of the innocent children comes up and says, "Wait, we missed one of the the numbers." They said, "Which one?" So they pointed on on on the on the board. There was this thing there was a circle. I says, "What's that circle?" She's like, "Oh, it's just a zero." Said, "But you didn't teach that." So what's the value of that? Like what does it what does it mean zero? Does it if you have zero apples, how many z how many apples is that? Nothing. How many if if you if you have zero deaths, how many how many is that? Zero. They said so the the child said, what's the point of a zero? So So the teacher said zero in and of itself has doesn't have value. But if you take a if you take something of value and you put it next to it, that not only does it have value, but has exponential value. You take you take a one and you put it next to a zero, what do you have? It becomes 10. It has 10 times the value. Take a two, you put it next to a zero comes 20. That if you that that that that if you take something of value and you put it next to a zero, then it has value. And and we know that anything in this world, a physical world, I mean, person's sleeping, they're eating, they're relaxing. Okay, fine. So maybe how much value is that? But the the he says that a person always has to do whatever actions they're doing, they have to do it shay, they have to do it for Hashem. How does a person eat, sleep, exercise, um relax? How do they do that? And it could be a mitzvah. Well, how is if they if they have the right intention, if they have the right mindset of why they're doing that action, then throughout their entire day, they can they can they it could be a mitzvah. And of course, um um Tobiin, she in in the ways you can think of spiritually, she would be the first person on chabas morning ding. and she would muck cavor set place and she would dive and she would and she would do and she would she would learn and okay fine so that that defines a great person but really what what what what was so special about her was that was that her everyday actions she took it and she had a deeper meaning behind it. She was she was she was part of this walking group and and not only was she doing it for exercise but really the deeper meaning was was that some people have clicks and they don't want people to join their group. She would go out and try to include new neighbors, new friends, join them in the walking group. She she some people they have wine, they have flowers, maybe they don't use it for the right reasons. And what she do whenever she found out a new person on the block, she would take the wine, she would take the flowers, knock on their door, and say, "Welcome to the community." So, she's taking the the the things which might not have value, and she and she putting value into them. And um she she was definitely known as a sch smoozer. And some people maybe they're smoozing and they're saying maybe lashhara things maybe they shouldn't be saying. But what did she do? She was always networking. How can I set up a set up a single set up a couple? And of course um the the the ripple effect of the kindness is that one of her grandchildren at and and uh and her daughter Rachel they run the shadows over 3,000 people who are part of item for the ripple effect of kindness. And um so of course her her motto in her life was was was that she lived not only for she didn't live for herself she lived for others. So of course um everyone should should to should take upon one small deed something that they could take upon themsel and then we could they could be a great aliyah for the shama and of course um so somebody who who lives that lesson of not thinking about themsel always thinking how they can impact Israel not only in this in the shul and the community and all and had such a close relationship to um to um to the family and know knew our grandmother for over 20 years. Um, let's give our let's it's all rise cover [snorts] for Rabbi Galler the show >> Robbie got taller since last year everybody every year I regret the last couple of years when I introduce our speaker and speak about my dear friend Toby Ghwin Shalom I always forget to do one thing which is to give a shout out to Rabbi Ibof round of applause >> [applause] >> and to mention to Betty and to Mickey and to Charles who's watching and the entire Mishbaka what an incredible Kawak he is. I don't know anybody. I think that he mixas possibly partially fib when it came to me. But Rabbi literally runs around seven days of yum vala organizing shurim and programs and making sure the kazak has the funds they need to be able to do the great work that they do. It is mamesh's heart and soul. So really Robbie, thank you so much and what a nas it would be to your grandmother to see the incredible work that you're doing and kakavo to you for all your amazing work and thank you for the opportunity to share a couple of words about your grandmother b to hopefully uh tell us tonight that Charles as you're watching all the should be shima for Charles my dear friend it was a great to have you by wingan on Wednesday uh for the for the year we miss you so much here tonight and everyone in the room you probably can't see right now but they're all smiling as you love they're all smiling and dabbing for your fault the smiles and the felos are all shayim god willing for rafua for my dear friend Charles sometimes a speaker wonders if they can say the same thing every single year by any occasion would people actually notice I see some yeses and some nos I'm not really sure sometimes same jokes same stories same diver Torah shalom. But the truth is that when it comes to Toby Ghwin, I can say the same thing every year and with full confidence know that it's Miss Cabbell the very same way. Different Torah, different context, but there was one Mida out of her many amazing meidos I want to highlight tonight for a few moments that both captures who she was and who our speaker tonight is as well. The great Mashk of Lakewood Yeshiva who passed away only a year and a half ago I should say in his matim had such a simple but profound on something we say every single day. I love the the moments that we have to find simple thoughts on we say every single day we never really thought of so much before. Every Jew is imbued with a love for Torah and a love for everyone loves to learn, loves to do kindness for others. And it's really part of our DNA. It's part of who we are. And that's because Hashem at Matra at Hari decided to give us that set of DNA. He gave Mosheros and when he gave them to Ben Israel, we took upon ourselves not just mit but also a way of looking at life and a way of behaving in life, a perspective on life to live and to love Torah and as we say every day in and to love doing. How did Hashem do that? The answer is the phrase right before that in the Hashem did not just tell us keep Torah and love. You know what he did? He simply stood there with a certain glow, a smile if you will. And the Jews understood that from that glow and that smile we should love Torah and love. For Solomon said there are certain people who tell people to do other things. Act this way. Walk this way. Do this way. Do this mitzvah. Do this min which is important. We need teachers who are great at teaching by their words. People are gifted with words. the gift of gab verbally it's wonderful but there's certain people in life that have the gift they can teach by saying nothing and just but or phem with the glow of their face they could just say it all just watching the way they smile watching the way they glow they can say nothing and you know exactly what you're supposed to do with this incredible simple but So beautiful really gorgeous insight of Ralman Zatzal. We can really capture my dear friend Toby Gwin. I always tell the family this the amount that she was able to get done in terms of doing for others. We all know I can tell you stories from here until tomorrow morning. You've heard some of them. There are so many more that haven't been told. It'll be told for many years. She was able to somehow inspire her family who literally yala as we heard a minute ago whether it beim learning taking care of our seniors in the community are always thinking of others. But she didn't instruct anybody. She didn't tell her children, her grandchildren, her family, her friends, her community, you should really do this, really do that. She simply had a certain smile and a glow and a look on her face that told the entire story. You want to be good because Toby's glow made you want to be good. She literally use or pane the glow of her face to teach so many people myself included. And we are so ever grateful that we still have the zikaron, the memory of that glow of her effescent smile in our minds. And she continues to inspire each one of us, myself included, to want to do for other people because her glow inspired us to do that. And it's etched in our minds. I know it is mine forever. So as she continues to inspire us, the bra is that her glow should continue. Her smile, her love for life, her love for and just that smile with the glow, the pan that she had, the radiance that she had, she continued to inspire all of us to continue to do for others that she so wants and so wanted for so many years. And that's the greatest way we can carry forward her legacy, her beautiful legacy of going forward. Somehow by the stars aligning, the Iba family found the perfect person to be able to address us each year to give the message of Hajas panim and or panov, a glow, a smiling face, aridians. I did not know until he came here to the shul for the first time. We become and if there's anybody who has that very same effervescence for life and has a certain pon they can literally say not one word although I hope you will tonight rabbi. I hope a few words at least but he can literally not say one word. He could stand here and smile with his glow. I would just say it all. I couldn't think of a per more perfect individual a refined individual to be able to represent Toby's amazing glow and love for life and and had him than our speaker tonight by Debas. So please rise for the the main talk of the evening as our privilege and covet address us tonight about the topic of continuing Toby's It is a great zus for me to be here, a great privilege. Mosherenu was worried about one thing when he was leaving this world that Cla should be like a son, like a flock of sheep ro that does not have a shepherd. That was the only thing that Mosher Rabenu was crying about. And the medish tells us that the roer, the one who conducts the sheep, the one who leads the sheep, who leads the flock, cares for the flock, nurtures the flock and make sure that they get where they need to go. Yiddi Hargaler over the past years I came to see the great Roets that is here. He's a person that far beyond far beyond our understanding is seem to everyone [clears throat] and in a very very special way imparts great lessons great midos great I only can say to him a true the says make for yourself a ra the miri says make En sure that your Rav has everything that he needs and his family in order that you should have the greatest hashbah and the greatest benefit from him. The kahila I know appreciates very much and tremendous for the ra continue. an individual that impact on this world on this gahila and beyond wherever she was at. She started jewels. They started all different types of organizations and NCSY and Kiru and made sure wherever she was that she made a Rosham. She made an impression and I just want to say something very very small minor maybe. Where did she get it from? Why can't I be like that? Why didn't I start wherever I'm at? What? Why am I not being madness every week? Everybody coming in. Why don't I run with a bottle in a flowers in a beautiful bouquet? Why don't I could I could I believe because she started much earlier than many of us. At 13 years old, she had to be the one in the house that cared for her brothers. She was the mother 13year-old. When you start at 13 years old with a heart full of love and caring, when you get to be 20 or 25 or 30 or 35, you just have that growing all the years getting more and more and more. Very quick thought from Renos Fifle. He says, you know, there were a lot of moim, a lot of miracles that we learn about. A Ramavino walked in the fiery furnace and walked out. A Ramavino smashing down all of the idols in his father's house in all of the miraculous things. But what do we read about with Aramino? He was Mahnar. He was waiting outside in the heat of the day just to be able to bring strangers into his house to give them food, to give them drink. And he didn't care. Anybody could come in. Anybody whatsoever. And the medish tells us that before they left, he would try to say, "Please thank the one who gave you the food." And when they would thank him, he would say, "No, not me. Hashem, Hashem is the one that gives us all food. The amount of Torah that Toby brought into this world is amazing. The amount of people that she brought closer to Yiddish. You move into a new community and uh you know it's like uh those first few moments the initial uh it can make it or break it. You move in somewhere and they don't care and they sit in the back. Not with Toby around. She knew how to bring everybody in in the proper way. That made a great difference. So says, "So why don't we read about all the moes and we just read about something that you and I could do to bring uh or to bring guests into the house." The love of that Abraham had he said because greater than all the miracles all the wonders all the things that everybody goes wow wow factor greater than all that is simple and I think that's the reason why Rabi the indigo the person that has given to all in cl a figure to look up to and to learn from who does not stop thinking about the cloud. Doesn't stop planning. I don't know what you guys did to get him. I mean, Mr. Ab was he must have always been like that from the time he was little. But the amazing thing is that he has an effect on everybody. He takes over program after program after program from beginners to people to adult to coll to all types of individuals from all different backgrounds. That is certainly a result of the upbringing from his house. his mother and father, dear dear friends, people that are always into the cloud and doing anything that they possibly can. They're wonderful. The whole family, everybody. And I have to say, my great great You did. Charles, you that you're not here tonight, but next week you better be back. It is h What shall [snorts] I tell you? I miss when you are here and I'm able to see you and I'm able to talk with you and you give me a few good words. I remember I was once in the community and you walk quite a distance just to come over to say hello on Chabas. It meant the world to me. Feel good and strong and healthy. Come back. We need you [snorts] >> to begin. I would like to just uh quote you for one moment from Shimos Ben Ley. The names of the sons of Lei, Lulos, [clears throat] Sam, Geon, Ukahas, Umeari. We read about these great people, the sons of Ruv. However, the sons of Shim. However, only when it comes to the sons of Ley do we see in order of their birth their names. The Shalah Kesh asks a question why why don't we have the names for the other and he says the following because shvet ley were not in mitzim they weren't oppressed in mitim ley however wanted to share the pain of his brethren he was not he didn't have the oppression of the shibbid he was not subservient however he felt bad clsel is feeling the pain. Claw Israel is under the gun. Claw Israel is having all types of oppression and upset. So how did he feel the pain? He gave his sons names so that they should constantly remember the pain of the brothers and their sisters outside. They'll be a stranger to land that does not belong to them as a moer. The teeth of the sons were set on edge. the upset that they have inariu. And they embedded their lives so that they who were not affected directly by the Tsara would always remember always that their brothers were suffering, that their brothers did not have it so good, that their sisters were in pain. they would always remember by the name that they would carry throughout their life. Furthermore, one's name is very important. I I tell you the truth. I got a question. Rabbi probably has it all the time. I got a question. A young woman, not so young, came over to me. She says, "I think I would like to have a change of name." She tells me. So sometimes a person, they didn't like their name so much. Every name is beautiful. But so I said, "Well, everything's okay. I thought Shalom, a name we only know one time." She said, "No, I think my masle's not so good in a certain area, and she'd like to change her name to change her masle." So I said, "Well, what's your name?" She said, "Braha." I said, "Don't change braha. Keep it. You got a good muscle. Don't worry about it all. But the name of a person is something so so important. I want to tell you name. It's important to that people know your name. I like when people know my name. Uh I went to Arat Israel and I had the great privilege to give a shir. So, I came back to the hotel, beautiful hotel, and I come into the lobby, and the driver wanted to ask a personal question, and I spoke with him. There was a group of people that were like uh standing maybe 20 feet away, and every few minutes they kept like looking back and then they were saying something, looking, you know, when you know that they're talking about you. You know that feeling? I get that all the time. No, this just I knew that they they would come looking. So I thought they must know who I am. This is very good. I was really proud. The driver leaves. One guy comes over. There's always one in the crowd and he says, "Excuse me, we're having a discussion like an argument. My friend said that you're a freed but I said no no no I think Golwaser or somebody is his name. Could you say a few sentences so that we could tell your name? Your name is important. Here we see that the name that they carried throughout their life was a name of caring for Cla for always remembering their brothers and sisters. That is our life mission throughout all of our lives just to care about another ye. In fact, many are macab on themselves to accept upon themselves before we start the daily morning prayer shak before we start. We're mab upon ourselves the mitzvah that you love your friend just like you love yourself. here uh something fascinating that we learn that both Mosher Rabenu and also David Aame had the incident with a sheep. Mosher Rabenu if you remember there was a sheep. He was a shepherd and one of the sheep ran away. He ran after that sheep and where did the sheep go to? A brook of water. And he went and he said to the sheep, "If I would have known that you were thirsty for the water, I would have carried you on my shoulders and I would have taken you to water." The great Rabbi Yetsukor, the great Vorer asked a question, how did he run after that one stray sheep who was minding the flock? Everybody else was left unguarded. Says the Vorer something that is amazing. He said, you know, if one stray sheep is allowed to get away, then the whole flock is in danger. Mosher Rabenu knew this. So even that one sheep that strays, he runs after. The one young person that was not positively impacted in some way in Yiddishkite and begins to fall away have to run after them. You can say, "Well, but what every everybody else, what are you going to do?" You have to run. If one gets away, one boy, one girl, one man, one woman, everybody's in danger. We are responsible for everyone. That's the that an individual has to worry about throughout their entire life. The two great as well cared for each and every creature. The medus tells us that he used to take out the young lambs and put them in the tender grass so that they could have the right place to graze. The older they didn't have teeth yet. The older he would take them to a different pasture with all of his greatness, the shirish, the praises and all that he did. And yet what was he worried about? He was worried that the lambs should have exactly what they needed. That was the greatness of a leader. That is the greatness of you and I that were able to be seen live to care about the next person and to see that they have all that they need. during the Holocaust. Uh during the Holocaust there was a uh incident amora. Two brothers. Two brothers in the Holocaust. Both in the same concentration camp. Two brothers. The Nazis knew that the enemies are approaching the combined Allied forces. So they wanted to move everybody deeper and deeper. It was freezing cold. It was snowing. And they moved both of these brothers. One brother couldn't take it anymore in the middle of the night. Anybody that slowed down was in deep trouble. The Nazis just kill him. No question. The brother said to his older brother, "I can't take it anymore. I'm just going to fall in the snow. I can't even walk anymore." The older brother said, "You can't. You fall in the snow, they shoot you. That'll be it. Finish. You'll be in the snow." He said, "I can't. Sorry. I can't do it." The brother went, took his arm, put it over his shoulder. The brother that didn't have any kawak left, that didn't have any stamina, had nothing, began to carry that night his brother. But it's difficult to carry only one. There was another yeid from somewhere else. All of a sudden, that yeed, a stranger with a with a love for took his brother's other arm and put it over his shoulder. They both carried the brother the entire night, both without strength, both without any kak until the next morning. The father would often say this story only at the pesak seder. Aside from that, some of the played, some of the the survivors of the Holocaust, they didn't talk. But this he would say, he would end off by always saying, "My brother unfortunately did not survive." But that other yeed, the one that carried him throughout the night with him, I wonder what happened to him. Always wondered the father. Aside from that, during the year, several times he would have flashbacks. They would be somewhere and all of a sudden the father would begin to steer like into space. During that time, the family knew he had flashbacks. Leave him alone. Don't say anything. He's got the moments. And that was it. Okay. The years went on. They were invited in you to a beautiful wedding. Beautiful wedding. All of a sudden, the wedding was on the top floor. They had to go upstairs. The father because of all that he went through in the showah in the holocaust found it very difficult to go get around but steps were the worst of the worst he begins to go up the steps and his son sees that he's not going to make it to the ka tell a sherid tell a Jew survived the holocaust you can't make it up there no way no way he'll ever listen to you. No way she'll listen to you. The son saw it was very difficult. So he took the father's arm. He put it over his shoulder and he began to carry the father up the stairs. But you know it's difficult to carry only one. Another yeet, a much older yeed comes and takes the other arm of the father over his shoulder. They begin to walk up the stairs. All of a sudden, the father starts staring into the distance and the son becomes impatient with him. Tati, why lama? Wh Why the flashback? Why now? It's a wedding. A kala. Everybody is dancing and singing. Why now? The father looks at the man on the right and he says to him, "Younka, do you remember me? Gadena on the right was the same man that at that time 45 years earlier carried the brother out of the gates on Moz." The son told me over the entire incident. I made it a little shorter. I told the son of Torah backim that should be it's like you can't get rid of somebody. You know sometimes I don't want to say it like a collector and you give him a little bit and then he start following you down the road. you're defunifas right they they run after you like they're pursuing you so we say it should be rodeave us it should come after us the opportunity to give to do another favor it should run after us so the question is why the answer is because we don't know what the does for us we have no idea a person gave the stuck what we walk away with, how our life was improved. Maybe I needed a tikun. Maybe I needed somebody to help out at that moment. Like we see in the Talmud that the little bit of money that the little can save us from who knows what. Hashem knew I need a kapara. So what happened? I did it. Uh fascinating. Shila, I live in Flatbush in Brooklyn. I didn't make it to West Hamstead. It's like, you know, you have to be Zoha. They left me. Oh. Anyhow, Landals Landal Shul. It's It's a Minion factory, a beautiful, beautiful place. Shul. Anyhow, I go in. A guy stops over to me and he says, "Can I ask you a question?" He says, "Yes." He said, uh, the collectors come. It's not like in the old days when they used to go like stalker. Today they have this little, what do you call that thing? >> Yeah. Yeah. Just It's a little square. It's so cute. A little a little thing and you put your credit card or whatever it is and they charge you up for it. You have it out here. You don't have it there. I'm sending them over here tomorrow. Okay. But they have this little thing and you just you put a card and you do it. So the guy wanted to give $18. $18. That's a very nice uh nina, you know, for people just coming around in the shaw. You give a dollar, it's nice. You give a coin. Whatever you give, it's $18. I would consider him pretty good. He had a little uh mistake. He typed in $180 180. [clears throat] When the mash saw the 180, he started dancing in his place like it never 180 like it was, you know, it was the biggest day in his whole career. He said, "That's so beautiful." And he started giving him all the brahos. The guy sees 180. He almost falls back on it and faints. He didn't know what to do. He came over to me and he says, "Yileno Rabenu. What do you think? I gave the 180. Should I have cancelled the transaction, put in the 18? Maybe you'll give him 20 because it was supposed to." I said, "No, I think that the numbers were minimum." Hashem said 180 will do the trick. You're 18. I'm not sure. Sometimes it may require a little bit more misesh. If you gave the 180 as we say on Kaneka, you light more candles each night the but you don't light less candles. He said, "Oh, I feel a little bit better after talking to you, but I shouldn't go." I said, "No, no, no. Leave it. Leave it. Everything will be good." Hashem, what was that? It was something that sometimes a person does not know the beauty of the things that happen. I did. I don't know if you ever got and you you did for somebody and then when you were finished, you got it. You did and then after they got upset with you, they got angry with you, right? So you say, "Well, I have to do the to begin with if someone's going to get upset with me." It's all a test. It's all a test. or you try to help somebody and then they ask you for more or the person whatever this situation is it's because it's so huge to do or to give charity to give stuck there are a lot of times that there's an is that is involved in the middle of it and you can never tell never know I I must tell you I have uh the great zahus living in New York in Brooklyn to to be able to take the subway. Great SL I take my tillum along and guy once offered to come every morning with me. There's a big guy. He offered to come on the train with me uh to just to make sure that I'm okay. A man comes on. The most incredible thing, a very thin person, stringy hair, taller person comes with a violin and he's playing the violin. He leaves his case out on the subway and you give some money in the case. You enjoy the song and you live it. Anyhow, it was only I saw him late at night. Monday nights I came back about 10:00. I would see him on the train. He would play something whatever uh you know Beethoven or Bach or whatever and I would always give him something. A guy was coming back with me and he saw me give the happened to be this guy was on with the the violin and I put something in there and he said, "Uh, well, are you supposed to give? I mean, you know, he's not Jewish." I said, "I don't know. He's not Jewish." I didn't ask him. He's a fat person. He needs Mishua. I look a little bit Jewish. Maybe it's a keshashem. But then he said, "But there's some kind of a law." Yeah. Panhandler's law. I don't know what it is that you shouldn't give money to people to go. You can do anything you want on the train. Anything illegal, I promise you, you will never, no one will ever say a word. But if you give him a little bit of charity to somebody that you could be taken in for I said it's okay. I'll take my chances. But thank you for asking. in Yom Kipur. I'm on the train coming back home. 10:00 he comes in the train. I was so happy. He plays beautifully. Comes in the train at 34th Street. This time he takes a look at me for one moment. I thought maybe it's an accident. He takes out his violin, plays kidre from [snorts] the beginning to the end in such beauty. You couldn't a richer, more beautiful, more perfect kit would be very difficult to duplicate. When he was finished, for some reason, he looked down on the ground. I went over. You can believe me. Whatever I had on me didn't matter. I put it into that case. You cannot tell. Person comes on the subway. So, we think I should give him the dollar. I shouldn't give him the dollar. Maybe it's a shy dollar. Maybe it's too much. Who knows? He's going out to buy drugs with that dollar. No, he's going to buy something not kosher. No, no, no, no. A person has an opportunity to do a What would Toby have done? How would she have treated the guy with the violin on the subway? It is chances for and I thought to myself, who knows? the the balance is up in Shamayim and they're being weighed ma who knows maybe Hashem sent that guy on and had him play kij when nobody else I'm not sure that the other uh nations appreciated the ker but he gave him my signal maybe that was the kapara one little thing could change the whole den in the whole judgment of a person. We don't know for what the reason that things happen. It is impossible for us to know even at the end of the para kazak just yesterday it says that the eyes of clusra were closed and the mafia asked a question everybody knows that Jakov had to descend to mitim and spend the years down there because they needed food because he had to come to see Yose because the whole reunion and everything but what happened afterwards why didn't everybody just go back up to Israel. Why didn't they go back to the Holy Land? Says the great Mtorshim because their eyes were closed. They weren't supposed to see it. They weren't supposed to know. There was a reason that they should remain there. In life, there's a lot of reasons that we don't know. I want to know everything. Explain to me why this happened. I want to know why this didn't go according to why the way I thought it's going to go. explain to me why I had that little Tsara or why this person in the family or explain to me that and I want to know it but I don't have to know it because I know that Hashem has a big plan much bigger because Hashem's thoughts are not our thoughts and Hashem does every single single thing in this world a such great razor sharp precision that it would be very difficult for any of us, for you and I ever to be able to second guess. It is impossible. I can't figure out Hashem's ways. I can't. But I know one thing for sure that Hashem constantly is looking for all of our good for the good of Claw Israel that is sent to us is unreal to feel for another person. You can't sometimes help out another person. You try, you want to do something good for them, but you can't. But you could feel for them. You could feel you could see them. You could say, "I try to feel your pain." You see an onie, a poor guy, right? And the poor lady out in the street and you want to give to them sto. So you take out whatever you have. You give it to them, put it down and you walk on. You want to get away quick. You get a few brahas. The Talmud tells us we get a few brahas. If you stop for one minute and you say to the person, things will get better. I'm happy to see you. I didn't see you for a while. Is everything okay? How you feeling? It must be cold to sit outside. Hashem should help you. Things should get better. You shouldn't have to collect. You stop and you say those words. You almost doubled your brahus. Everybody says, "Give me a schooler. I want a schoola for this. I want a schooler for that. A schoola for all good things." And by the way in this all everybody agrees is one of the biggest schoolos for rafu and for all good things to bring somebody into the home to feed them. You want a great schooler. Next time you see a person needs stalker offer to them a few words. You can never tell what the is that you walk away. However, always to feel for another person. Whatever they're going through, even you think they put themselves in that situation. You put yourself in that situation. You made your bed. No. A person may not be able to help themselves. Maybe they couldn't control it. Maybe they were overwhelmed. You put yourself in their situation. You walk in their shoes. And then it's a the great saddic the bluj blabb he lived in burough park he was a very very kind man tall man majestic majestic face he was in the concentration camps a few it happened to be when he came to America they made in h Manhattan bial stalker which exists today stalker my good friend Rabbi Ram there was a rabbi there for many years sadic Rabbi Rah so it's a historic sh they have tours that go through it and and uh it's beautiful anyhow they made a huge cab a reception for the great blush rabba that was coming from the holocaust to New York a survivor he came in thrones of people came and they also wanted to hear his speech He gets up, he gives a speech and he talks about what happened during the years in the war. He talks about the Mserus nephesh, the self-sacrifice of all the Jews during the war. And he mentions all the different things that happened. They kept close to Torah. They kept close to the mitzvah and they learned whatever they possibly could. When he was finished, there was a great rabbi. He was a leader uh of the Agoda. His name was Moreno Rabyakov Rosenheim. They gave him the title Moreno. It's a very special title only given to specific people. Moreno Rabyakov Rosenheim. He comes over from German Jew refined person. He comes over and gives an envelope to the BJB. He says to the bushba, "This is for you." The bjabba said, "What's this?" He sees there's money inside. What's this? He says, "It is the minig in our place that when there is a speaker, we give them money for the drussa." Robbie, did you hear that? We give money for the druss the said I tell you the truth it's a very appropriate mig it's a good mic it's a good custom however he says the following what happened during my Josha I talked about the pain in the tsar of our brethren of the Jewish people The med says something very interesting concerning the Makkah of Dham, the plague of blood. We learned that when the waters of Mit turned to blood, so even the water that was in the cup that the mitri was holding turned to blood, only Ben Israel had the water. So the mitzim had to pay for the water in the hand of the Jewish person in order to be able to drink. In that way, Ben Israel according to Rabio got rich because they had the water and everybody had to have the water. So they paid that was a beautiful thing. However, there's a different idea. There is another mandar. No says a reason that they got rich. Everybody knows that they borrowed. They borrowed gold and silver. Why? Why is there two different day how they got rich? Whether it was from the blood or whether it was from the riches that they borrowed, the gold and the silver. The buzzer said because it's not the mida, it's not the characteristics of ben Israel that they should make money off of somebody else's sar. Someone else is in trouble, someone else's pain, someone else is upset. We don't make money off of that opportunity. Even when the sara is from our oppressors, even when it is so to speak the enemy, the bush said, "I cannot take money for this when I'm talking about the sorrow of my brothers and sisters. Would you ever think that I would want my paraso to come from that place?" I think that this is a a very special limood for all of us because the truth is it is thinking about the next person. Thinking at all times when we have a chance to do something good for a person we should take it every opportunity little or big. Some sofur says sometimes they come over to you and they ask you can you do this and this favor and you say uh I'm sorry there is a person that does that favor there is a shot I can get you the telephone number or yeah no there is somebody that helps with I'll get you their number there's a committee on it says no do not pass the bach if they came over to you it's a simmon that you could help. The fact that they're coming over to you, it's not like it's just arbitrary and it happened that they asked you. You could help, you could do it. If they're asking you, it is a simmon that you have the to help. When people come over to ask us, even though we have already a lot on our plate and we help a lot, but Uli, we have the key that they came over to ask us that we may be able to unlock a door that up until now has been closed. It's hard to know. We can never tell. It's already a little bit late. I'll just be Messiah to there's a Torah from the BM. It's alluded to in some of the whatever a person does. We're doing it for ourselves. Somebody comes to us and they ask for help. Yeah, I'm going to help out that yeed. I'm going to be nicer. Little do we know that we are helping ourselves. We don't realize it. I gave stuck over there. I can never tell what it's going to bring for me. I can never tell if I'm most for someone else. What that is going to come back to me in the future. Not a shila, not a suffic. It will happen. Mida mida. Hashem acts measure for measure. I extended myself for that person. One day I might need that same extended hand and it will be extended for me. You can never tell in life what will happen. You can never tell. Any time when a person tried a little bit harder, the individual that they helped will inevitably some way it will come back and that person will be helped as well. It happened to be that uh there's a ye in Aritz Israel. Whatever goes on, a person always says Gamsula to he did not have a lot of masle. He didn't have a lot of good luck in his life. And he tried different parnosas. He went from job to job. didn't go. Okay. So, he ended up to be a driver. He got a car, his own car. Wasn't the greatest car. He got his car and he would take people wherever he could when he didn't have a job, didn't have anybody who hired him out. He would go to the airport and sit and wait to take somebody maybe home or to the hotel, whatever. He would wait. A wealthy businessman comes out of the airport, flags him down. He's in a hurry, and this man, this young man opens the door for him, says, "Please, inside. Where do you have to go?" And the man tells him, happened to be, it was a very hot day. They began to travel. He's on the highway driving. It was a little hot and the air conditioning wasn't what it should be. It was a little shock. The wealthy man began to get a little warm, took off his coat. He uh started away. The guy, the driver was nervous. This was not his usual uh Mercedes, I don't know, Lamborghini, whatever he rode in. It was awfaka car. And He was wiping his forehead. All of a sudden, the man went. He couldn't take it. He started rolling up his sleeves and then he wiped his forehead. As soon as the driver saw in the rearview mirror that he lifted up his hand, he wiped his forehead. The driver got pale and began almost to faint. The guy in the back saw it and he said, "Pull over. Pull over. Get to the side of the road." He gets the side of the road and he says, "I I'll get you a drink. Maybe it's too hot for you. What can I do for you?" The driver said, "No, no, no. It's okay. It's okay. I'm all right. I want you to know one of my jobs that I had I worked where they made apple juices and cider and I was there just to look over the machine. It was a lowcale job just to the big machine where they would put the apples and they would be cut up and they would be turned to juice and I was the one that was in there. One day I went to look over because I thought there was something that didn't belong in there. I thought maybe there was just an object that fell in. I was supposed to be quality control. I leaned over by accident. I fell in. The blades began to cut already my shoe. I was screaming, yelling at the top of my lungs. I was the only one there. The machine was going. All of a sudden, one yeed came in and the guy slept me out. He saved my life. I would have been. We became good friends. We had a casher. What a kesher was so great that I always noticed that this guy was sad. You know, like if you're having a good time or you eat a good dinner or you're learning something, you smile. No, he didn't smile. You don't want to intrude on another person's life. But he was my good friend. I said, "Why are you so sad? Why?" He said, "I tell you the truth. I was a very young boy in the Holocaust and my brother was also in the Holocaust. His number was 8863. My number 8862. I never saw him after liberation. I don't know whether he died. I don't know whether he died after. I don't know anything about him. But I always wonder every day and every night what happened. This man who he saved from the apples put that number 8863 everywhere. He put on the refrigerator. He put it in the filling bag. He put it wherever he was. He wrote it in his spare. He wrote it in his book 8863863. When the man in the back seat rolled up his sleeve to wipe his head, he saw 8863. He said to the man, "I would like to take you to your brother 8862." They went instead of driving where they were going to, he took him to the kibuts where his brother was. in that reunion was something heavenly not from this world. Whatever a person does, whatever a person thinks they're doing for someone else, it's as said, whatever a person does in this world, we're doing it for ourselves. This beautiful kahila, the kahila shines, the moradas shines. It's a full of it should come back to you double and triple and quadruple be a lot of sim and a lot of good burus in the community in Claus. Amen.