Rabbi Dovid Goldwasser | Achieve Greatness | CHAZAQ

good evening welcome everyone to today's very special programed by kazak theel westate clar CL adult education committee want to thank the Young Israel of course being such a place of Tor in the community a second home for so many people in the community today we have a great honor to hear from Then followed by goas Sir um tonight's um Shear is the second annual yard site event for Mrs Toby shom being sponsored by the ab laer and per families in memory of to and I think if you want small small if you want get a glimpse into the life of Mrs to G I think you can relate it back to the holiday that we just had a few few weeks ago holiday of khaka so if you look back into the story of khaka what do you see you see the Greek they want to destroy the Torah and people shouldn't keep the Torah so what they do they they made enactments that if you keep the Torah then you're going to be killed on the spot so what happened obviously a lot of people naturally they're not going to he the Torah anymore so what happens there's a few is there a small group of Kohan of rabbis they say we're we're going to we're going to do something about it so so if you can imagine you have a few grp few a small group of rabbis and they're going to go out and to defeat the Greek army that's like if you take take if you take a few rabbis here ketki some of the amazing rabbis and they're going to go out and defeat the US Army is that even physically possible so maybe not so it's like it's it's like if you have if if you go to a bad neighborhood and you and you and so sometimes you might want to cross the street because you might get hurt I don't think it's ever happened in world history that that there's a that there's um rabbis that come out of is and everyone's like okay I got across the street I don't ever happened before so so these group of people have what they had they had this Mantra they said we to go defeat the Greeks but they had a mantra they said I am a makabe what does that mean they said I'm going to do my best and has will take care of the rest and they went out and they and they and they defeated the Greek army so what happens they go over they run to the B of mdash the temple and what happens they they see there's only one jug of oil so they said we're going to use our Mantra we're going to light and and see what happens and of course that that they were successful and of course that the lessons of kanah aren't just only relevant thousands of years ago but of course to our everyday life that that that they were trying to they were trying to fight the darkness and they brought their light and that's what um M gwiin was that that that she had darkness in her life her her mother passed away unfortunately when she was 13 years old we could imagine such a tragedy and what did she say she said I'm going to fight that Darkness I'm going to bring light to the to the to to her life and um Toby when she was sick of course she had surgery the first thing she said when she woke up you would think she's going to say were there any complications from the surgery how am I doing what' she say did my husband take his medication so when someone moves into a new neighborhood there's there's always a frightening moment and I am I going to move into the neighborhood this Darkness am I going to blend in do I have friends so what did she do she wasn't on the official committee but she took it upon herself and and and with with her with her husband Mr Charles G my grandfather they said we're going to go and we're if we see as a neighbor and move into their house that we're going to bring them a bouquet of flowers or give them the cake we're going to shine the light into the darkness and of course we all have to take the the lessons of to be into our lives and to say we there's darkness in the world there's darkness in in the entire world we see anti-Semitism and there's assimilation we to say what are we going to do about it so of course we should everyone should be active in the community like like Toby was of course involved in different commit the young of course so many different amazing Committees of young is people should join of course people should get involved in the work of kazak I think it's AO that her yard site was was yesterday and what was it was it was shabus kazak so so so of course kazak organized different sh programs communities like tonight is on the Forefront of public school Outreach and over 20 different um 20 different locations since 2017 has transferred over 1700 students from public so everyone should get involved with kazak get involved with the get involved in whatever aspect that you can to help the Jewish people and we want to thank ra goas for for for joining us and for being so close to the family and all he does for clra of course he spoke on the SCH he spoke on the first yard site it's aak tonight speaking on the second yard site than of course and um introduce your a gall we could be a three-hour dress show but I just I'll just sum it up in two words he car cares he cares about every family in in the youngest of West Hamer in in in the west Hamer Jewish in the west hamster community at large the Jewish community at large and of course he's a great torist scholar and and and of of great magnitude and the only thing that's great that is Toral wisdom is his is is his care concern and that it does for everyone so it's our great thank you the eulogy was beautiful truly touching I can't wait they actually after for 120 I'll begin by saying tonight that um I think we're going to put Robbie in charge of every event for the schulen community uh because I'm always amazed yeah he can clap clap rabbie speaking of somebody who cares he puts the heart and soul into every single event for kazak I'm standing back in front of the sign and speaking of kazak he's a person with Incredible strength and fortitude Robie is kazak he a force to be reckon with and um there's no greater n for certainly for a rabbi in Rabon or for a community and and most certainly for a family for a grandparent or parent a sibling to watch somebody like rabie who does so much for CLA as rabie said he's involved in every aspect ofak and Outreach and just organizing sh and what and I would I I know very little yish but I know two words I use so often it's halit it should continue God willing for many years God willing Health Rob for organizing tonight and being such a a dedicated Force for col iue I want to also thank Echo the thanks to the entire IO gwin lcer perkal families for tonight's she um it's truly overwhelming the truth is that sometimes I walk up to a Podium and take out a little piece of paper with an envelope is scribble Scrabble on it to read an introduction when I saw the title last week of the sheer tonight achieving greatness and I think about who we're having the sheer for I don't need any notes Toby G was not just of course um a beloved mother and grandmother and just friend to so many um she was a friend to us for those who don't know we started together in Jamaica States back in the alheim Jamaica States or lansman or lman Midland Parkway Midland Parkway and um just to frame a thought about Toby Rashi has such a profound Insight the Torah tells us Moshe that Moshe grew up we're reading it in this week's para and Rashi points out what other ma point out K point out which is that we already read early that this child MOS grew up so we have two within a peric of each other so you can't grow up twice so how do you do that soash says one means he physically grew UPA the other one means that he grew up in terms of leadership character and just the kind of person that he was he was ready to take the mantle to be able to lead CLA through his meeting toos his dedication Toby was not a guttle in terms of her imposing figure she was a sweet soft kind person she loved people she wanted to make shim for everyone she wanted to befriend everyone she wanted to do Hospitality for everyone and it was she was just a giver and a doer her Godless was in her in her physical appearance her Godless was in her character her leadership heridos she taught by example like Robbie said she moved in here she could easily retire and she became the mayoret of the community she wanted to run Hospitality committees andum committees and visit people organized programs and I think Betty you took over the uh the mantle certainly certainly yes she deserves a round of applause as painful as it still is to not have told you Mona she really was such a force and such a friend to so many and such an influence on so many like myself but to watch her family continue to fulfill her wishes and wants through their incredible MOS Hospitality organizing events that's what she would would wanted and and I'm sure she watching from above tonight this crowd here tonight getting such incredible NAS from all of you sitting here and just knowing that all of you are continuing what she wants to host people and to help people and to give to people with no questions asked never a question asked just a giving kind loving person so mem should continue all of you in good health to fulfill her wants and wishes to continue to be certainly a source of inspiration to our community Young Israel of West emad and the greater West emad Community but to continue to be such amazing giving people as she taught you all and um and to Charles just a personal note um I know how painful this is even though it's source of course having your family around you but as a source of and comfort just to know that they are continuing her amazing Legacy I know it gives me strength I hope it gives you strength as well to continue and enjoy them for many years God willing to be consum in good health with Charles's unique positivity I mean if you know talking about character I don't know anybody in my entire life who's so positive the nurses are still talking about you in the hospital and the rehab that who is this guy I get why is he never down why is he never said unbelievable unbelievable and to segue for a moment if we're talking about somebody who had Godless as Rashi says in terms of their stature and their character and their MOS toos it is such an appropriate speaking of appropriate to have a gold here with us he's a person I actually just met a t da as I walked in the room I'm not going to look in her Direction l i embarrass her but um but quick but when uh when she said I'm a student I'm a you saw the glow on her face everybody who listens to and has the pleasure to be in his presence had dress upon his glow his countenance and learn from him has a certain spark and a glow to them because he himself radiates and he gives off that or hat to everyone who listens to him what a beautiful appropriate should have somebody like Toby who both in their own way have given not just achieved but have given greatness to others that's the commonality between the two of them so without further Ado please it's our great honor and pleasure in the this evening to have the amazing privilege to hear [Applause] I humbled by the rl's introduction I can only say that AES what a great privilege it is that the Rita that R is our Rabbi Moreno arav the satar the great rebi of satmer one was approached by a young man he just had his first child first baby comes to the satar Rob and says listen I have a great-grandfather that was a very nice person a very good person I was thinking about possibly naming the new son after my grandfather great-grandfather satarov said it's a good idea then he went on and said but my wife she also has a great-grandfather and he was a very good person and his name is ruven the satarov said that's a good idea he said however there is another person in the family and I really like his name and he's going on and on and the Gaba got very upset why are you bothering this great Rabbi with a question about naming and going back and forth and telling him one name and another so the satar rebi answered the following in the H back in Europe one had to be a rabbi for the streets and the father atata at home here in America a person has to be a rabbi for their home in a Tata a father for the streets for all the people West Hemstead they lock out they have a rabbi who's not only an outstanding scholar not only an outstanding his is the personality the Torah personality not only the mid not only all that he brings but he's also a Tata should be drink up every word in every moment that you can from the Rita this evening within the time that we have I would like to outline four ways of getting to Greatness I would just like to mention so much can be said about to shom so much it is almost uh it's endless all the good things all the different ways that she impacted all the various things that she was involved in it was like that she was insatiable to do and it's a fascinating thing that we read in we bestow bestows the the person that loves to according to their actions according to what they ACC to the evil according to that person's evil the says why is there a difference between both and he says the most interesting answer he says because by the is by the woman that does the woman impacts so she does one there's somebody here this evening that Toby took under her wings that helped her and brought her to the and Contin afterwards yes she made the yes she helped her down to the but all the things that will continue to go on Far after she has left this world kimal it keeps on growing it keeps going and going the pyramid why because that is the result that is the benefit of a person that cares to do without going into it reos says why is it thato when you read about those Paras we don't read about all of the special Miracles we don't read about walking into the fiery furnace we don't read about breaking down the idols in his father's house all of these things that we learn only we learn from mad but in the what is it say waited outside he wanted to AR him he wanted to bring them in he wanted to help them ainu wanted to wash their feet he wanted to prepare the best meal ainu cared about being MV about bringing others in that was the main thing that rosle says is in the Jews life not the great Miracles not all the stories that you hear the simple CED that a woman lived in this community and others in touch everybody and was a symbol for us was a was a living example of what everybody should do what Hashem Ms from us what Hashem requires from us that we should be our best that is growth that is development that's power the entire Mish the whole family I I feel like it's my family it's like borrow a family they're incredible people each each and every one of the members they're they're unreal their warmth their understanding Robbie I mean he's like my boss whatever he tells me I got to listen to he's amazing he only cares about the clout if you want to know AES if you want to know one who inherited I would say it's Robbie of course each member of the family but Robbie he doesn't stop night and day he's uh he's one time he came into a Shear we had a shear and queen somewhere so he said uh Robbie why are you getting your coat on we just started he says cuz I have to check on five other places and he goes from place to place to organize activities on the same night it wasaba it's a it's an amazing thing I believe that the seeds that were planted during the years the very fruitful years of Toby's life are still BL blossoming yielding pus year after year and to her to her dear husband Charles May did he's my my good friend he walked the other week I don't know how long in order to come to AER and always uh comes and gives me gives me he's a backup he gives me encouragement but can you imagine the tremendous encouragement that a husband has to give to a wife who spends her time for the community who gives up his personal time who doesn't care who sends her out to continue to do the greatness that she does in the community Asus what a beauty her daughter her son in the whole family it's it's incredible should continue on she was somebody who left her Mark in this world and continues she did not leave this world the people even after they go from this world they're called living called living even more than during the times that they lived her life is with us the fact that she touched everybody the fact that she gave us the example and things are happening now because of her she is with us I I could talk all night but I just want to end there was a great sadic great great sadic great mikal he was great in talud and one day he died great sadic whoever wrote the mat they wrote The Monument they put and then wrote another word then it said mace died and they the year that was it wrote the Mata put the Mata erected it on the cev that night the one the Mata creter the one that wrote out the mat had a dream came to him in the dream and said why did you put there the word died the person had the dream was shaking he didn't know what it was he said we continue on someone that lives a good life someone who lives a life faithful to Hashem and does and has a a mark on the community and changes the community for the better they continue to live on I want you to take out that name in the dream he answered back the one that wrote The M how could I put mace he he wrote put right above it in between L did not die the man woke up early in the morning he's shaking immediately he set out he went to the Mata he added the word L did not die Toby gwin L she's with us this evening the first that I would like to begin with is uh we just were speaking about Yakov yobu 22 years AV difficult mourning mourning over yadik his favorite benim the one that he favored the one he gave the that he cared so much about he heard that yadik finally was still living after all the years that he was in s that the that the divine presence departed from him and after he saw the AAL after he saw the wagons that were sent for him by yose he realized that he is alive and he was filled with so there the says how great my son Y is still living I will go and I'll see him before he dies before yobu dies the medish ask the question what does it mean r o yfe what does it mean r o yfe and the medish answers the answer is so fantastic the of Y was even greater greater than my own choices of all the forefathers says that yoseph was greater than me shikat sarus he went through so many troubled times he went through so many challenges rough and Rocky Roads whoo and he still stands in his righteousness yobu said right now I know yose passed me he's much further than I am he got to a higher madrea all the all the commentary said how is it possible perhaps he was greater in this idea that he still held on he was implacable he was somebody like the Israeli Army doesn't matter who comes at them from anywhere all the different armies everybody's afraid to fight not Israel they should stop fighting right away it should only be peace for everybody and we should be but it's unbel believable you think about it for a moment yadik was like that he didn't care it didn't matter to him he went through the M didn't care he begged his brothers he he went down he fell at the feet of all the have mercy have mercy they wouldn't have mercy on him his own Brothers turned away they put him in the pit snakes and scorpions he didn't care he came out then they sold him to the how could you do that how could you sell any Jew let alone your own brother they said he's our Flesh and Blood how did they sell him and sell him to them who were we won't even talk about it the low level down to MIT sold as a lowly slave y sold as a slave ases potifar frames him liable and then he sits in prison 22 years yet all of that time he was yobu said I was B because I was upset departed from me y he was happy Yik he didn't care he was able to last it out it didn't matter to him was always together with him says the the great Sader the mere fact that y retained his Sim his his his his faith inem and didn't care what life had to throw Adam he didn't care the curve balls that he received in life he didn't care how many times he got a clap how many times he was knocked down how many times his brothers turned their back on him he didn't care he didn't care about any of that because he stood strong with Hashem says the AER that was greater than all the things that Yakov a was able to do in prison he didn't d one time with the minion in prison how many mitzah he was able to do how many mitzah he was not able to do because he was confined yet the mil of in that knowing that every that happens happens for a reason although we cannot see the back end that we don't know everything that's going on we have a everything that goes on in life is for us eventually we will be able to see it everything that hasem does is for the best and sometimes we will not know it for years we pray that we'll be able to see it quickly and that we'll know a plan for everything but the truth is that all that happens a person has strong amuna during the good days enduring not so good days we should only have the best days in the world everybody here it's such a beloved kahila I have to tell you I've been here a couple of times just the conversations I've had privately and with the people and just the theor in a general way it's a blessed tior it's a community that is so strong always growing the best MOS it's it's unbelievable what does a person do they begin to understand that all the things that happen we accept Shalo we accept with pure faith I just was contacted by a very great sadic re rivin he lost two sons Leno two sons October seven sons won a soldier one not 100% from he happened to be at the festival I had rabam in my house twice and he just called me up and he says reab I just got the biggest in my life I said what he says we are writing a safer Torah for the two boys his two sons I'm just telling you right now you give my you give me your word that you're going to come when the saer Torah is completed I said you you got it be my biggest my biggest zus to be together with you that's that's knowing he lost two sons too smartos nice exact he was maabo shortly afterwards he was in my house and we ate together and we had a long talk we're able to understand the way to look at the events of the World Through The Eyes of Torah there was an older man Aid living in Morocco bamin Cohen bamin Cohen bamin Cohen he had one thing that he did all the time all the time he always tried to help anybody with doing a anybody he could in the town of meus in Morocco he had one dream to go to ER Israel he wanted to be there it's a lifelong dream didn't make it even towards the last days that he lived he still wasn't able to do it and and unfortunately he passed on his son lives in France his son thought to himself I could be M my father I got money I could do it they made the levah already in Morocco however his son said we'll make a p we'll get the Aon we'll take it out and I'm going to pay to get to erit Israel so finally he will have hisam Dre at least he will be there in AR is the son spent a hone rub a lot a lot of money paid got all of the permits all the licenses all the arrangements that had to be made thousands and thousands of dollars secured a place in harim a beautiful place M for his father arranged the whole and it was Unreal they went they took the Aon from Morocco to ER Isel people heard about it that the son had arranged that the Aon should come to fulfill the father's dream of finally being in AR Isel people came from all over you know people you know is they come out they come out in the good times they come out in the not so good times and they all came to levah the chief rabbis Safar and ashaz both came to show honor on that day on that day thei was finished everything was done and of course the son was quite satisfied with what he did few months later happened to be someone from France met the son and he said you know I just came back from a TI in Morocco we went to the sikim in Morocco all the different sikim we were in meus and in fact I Prayed by your father's grave I was by his K he said no I'm sorry you're mistaken my father was taken to ER Isel he said no no I'm telling you I was praying by his grave I was by the C he said I don't know what you're telling me the son of bam he was moved he's not there I promise you I was very clear it's not a dream I was there standing by the cver and I put in AA for you the son couldn't understand what went on so the son said I better investigate he goes to Morocco goes to meches checks out exactly what it is sure enough he goes to the Kev and sees that the Kev is intact that everything is there there isn't a question it was never touched his father is there he calls the kadish begin screaming he couldn't help himself what's going on I paid a lot of money you got the all the permits there was a tremendous Laya if my father is here then who did you [Music] take kadisha made investigation and they found out that there was another ye in that b with the name bamin Cohen they took that ye and they were the of the mace and they moved him to erit Israel the son decided what could he do he had the money he arranged now that they should make a p for the real father bamin Coen and got all the permits the second time and made all the arrangements and had to do everything and finally it was on the day this time it was a Lev sanua quiet it was more modest no Fanfare everything happened as it should they took him they made theur and everything was okay everything happened however the son wanted to know what was going on here why was it it that such a mistake that is highly unusual to make how come it happened why didn't his father go and why did that other man end up in har what was revealed is something that the M bem the believer can take and add to their anim more kav every single day there was a bamin Cohen who lived in Morocco bamin Cohen was a person that was mes for one Mitzvah he self-sacrificed for the Mitzvah of theum Whenever there was a wedding he came he was he danced he did Somers he stood up he walked on his head he would bring things in whatever he could do he always raised the level of sim people look forward to him he wasn't married didn't get married but that Mitzvah he held on to his whole life said take one Mitzvah and make it yours take one Mitzvah and specialize in it that was his Mitzvah when a and would want to pay him or they'd want to thank him he would say no I don't want that you should thank me at all I just ask one thing it's written whoever makes a Rejoice they are it's like they build up one of the ruins of after 120 years he says I want to be to be in to be in that Cemetery so that I can see the that I built give me a he would ask it's your special give me a br that's all I want for pay and they would give him a br he wasn't ever discouraged he always had great in the Bor when his family would say stop we are so poor we could never afford to go we couldn't afford harim are you kidding me they would tell him why don't you stop already he said because I have I have trust in the B and Hashem Hashem will stand for me because he knows I was always self-sacrificing for the and now outside unnatural outside the laws of T it was that bamin Cohen ended up in harim his lifelong dream when a person understands that all that happens in the world whether we understand it immediately or whether it takes us some time and they have they sayem you're My Father I trust you Hashem doesn't matter whether today there was a mess up it doesn't matter whether today there was a little bit of a difficulty in my life I know that in some way it was good whatever hasem does is good and believe me in many many different ways we are able to see the actual good that happens a second area and be talking a second area which is so important to grow is the power of M when a person will be able to be mo a person can forgive the next individual not to hold anything against another person there was a incident in the tud it's in yuman RAV had a complaint against a certain butcher the butcher insulted him we are not allowed to insult anybody we have to be very careful about an insult any type of onos calling somebody a name that they don't appreciate even a nickname a name that the person may not uh appreciate maybe they liked it when they were younger but when they grew older they didn't like I had a good friend he's a a big His Name Is Isa and he went to learn in AR Israel he became a ro there but he was a great ball player very great ball player and they used to call him because he always would slide in to make the know baseball you slide into the plate they used to call him slider so uh you know it's good when you're younger they call him slider I went there to so I visited him uh not last trip the trip before and there he in the co you know Ro K and all the guys were there so I came and one guy came from the old days from our Yeshiva days he wanted to come along with me I should have never taken the guy he I took him with me so all the COO guys are standing around they want to hear like we're going to be mafal and toyra we're going to start telling like you know a deep Shear to each other all of a sudden Theos comes in all the guys are standing around and my old friend says slider how you [Laughter] doing anyhow so what happened was uh rub had a complaint he insulted him the butcher didn't come to apologize if we insult somebody so we have to know it's hard to do it I must is I have to do it no matter how hard it is I have to humble myself not by text not group text are you me 2,000 people you don't have to bother I'm sure you are no you have to be to go to the person say I'm sorry I I am wrong I will tonight say that I'm sorry to you please forgive me find it in your heart however he didn't come he never came the great RAV and he never came never worried about asking M that's like an open account it has got to be settled M we don't leave open between yeen I tell you the saddest thing I was walking in Flatbush in Brooklyn on Avenue it was shortly before uh yum Kipper I was walking down there's a very nice woman uh a member of the Young Israel on Ocean Avenue she doesn't walk anymore but she used to come from her house and she sees me RAB goas RAB goas how are you I said very good how you doing she said uh excellent but you know it always bothered me it's like before yum Kipper and my brother and I we didn't speak for seven years I was very surprised because this woman is very proper lady I said seven years you didn't talk yeah well he didn't call me I said well did you not want to call him he is the one he is the reason why we are not talking I said to her you know I have a lot of respect for you I look up to you you're one of the people original people in the community why don't you call him you you think I should I said yes before yum Kipper maybe the whole reason that I bumped into you was just that we should have this conversation call him up he's your dear brother doesn't matter if he did this or you did that it all doesn't matter it's all MSA whatever she said okay must be that she called him up that night I get a call on the telephone so RAV I can't thank you enough you have no idea I call my brother he is leaving now making gah to ER Isel I don't think we will see each other another time however he's going to come over over to my house tomorrow I thought to myself what if she wouldn't have made the call so R went and he started to go to the butcher because he wanted that the butcher should have a chance to ask Hima he wanted to present himself to maybe that it would be that the butcher would say uh will you be M me so he started to walk around unfortunately the butcher was sitting there and he was uh doing his work with a certain animal the butcher raised his eyes and he saw him he said to him are you ABA ABA means like a could be like an older person or Rabbi go away I have nothing to say to you while he was doing his work there was an accident that happened and all of a sudden one of the bones flew hit him in the head and killed him rabitz pger the K or asked a question okay so the butcher didn't ask M but what did he do so bad that he deserved that he didn't live anymore ritsa said when someone reaches out it makes it easy for us to do chuva makes it easy for us to ask M makes it easy for us to reinstate the Friendship makes it easy for us for brother and sister to come together father and son mother and daughter and then they deny the opportunity then the ones is compounded then the punishment is compounded because we had the chance it was presented to us in the same way it's difficult to do Chua but Hashem sometimes makes it easy for us an incredible incident happened by one of the kir organizations in Queens there was a group that went off off the Der it affects every Community went off and happened to be it was yum Kipper AR yum Kipper and they were looking for a hotel to stay at whatever they were doing a group looking for a hotel to stay at all the hotels there was a convention in town all the hotels were taken there was one hotel that wasn't taken that had availabilities that was by the Jewish Heritage I believe foundation in Queens that does a rer program they came in the rabbi in charge saw them and said good wow gar it's good to see everybody all these people that came that were off the Der so-call off the Der they stayed for yum Kipper they came to kidre they heard the doing some participated some sang some of the nunim some sat down and talked to some of the rabbis so you could say it's random they just happened to be in that part of the country or they just happened to be that there was a convention at that time and during the convention they were took up several hotels no Hashem provided them with the opportunity to be able to do chuba that was what was most important and so in our own way the way that we show our power is that we take an advantage we take advantage the offers a Shear go we take advantage there's a tillum group go AAL go all of these things are meant for all of us to be able to grow ourselves every opportunity is not by random just uh happen to be happen stance that we got the opportunity it was was earmarked for us that we should notice that we should take advantage of it and develop there was a a a young man in Ben BR unfortunately he wasn't mat he wasn't too successful and uh he really didn't have a place to stay anymore he outgrew the Yeshiva there was a very fine babus a very fine man that decided to keep him he said you can stay by my house I haven't extra room by all means the man came he said you could also you want to eat by us eat school to be for many many things aside from a Mitzvah that is greater than we can ever ever imagine taking a person in giving a person a sleep a place to sleep person a hot shower give a person food even m in your car you bring somebody in you give them a little bit food anywhere it is huge huge is the I saw written by R Steinman somebody came to him and they needed a rafu for something we should all be well and strong 120 years saids so tell me why don't you be it's a big big schooler so this man he took in this unfortunate AR this young man and he had him stay by his house and he ate there and he gave him a room like off to the side one day the a walk up as they say on the wrong side of the bed he gets up and he says something not nice to his host the one that took him in the one that gave him for free the one that gives him the food the one that cares about him and he says to him something not not nice the host couldn't hold himself back he answered him he put him in his place he didn't mean to but after all he's doing this every day for him and now you're going to go and rebel against the one who helps you don't bite the hand that feeds you the guy heard this the a couldn't take it he's sensitive look what he's going through look at the nios the challenges he has in life you see some of the people you think that they're tough they're not so tough you see somebody collecting outside and you think you can just go past them and you know sometimes a person could say something not so nice to them how do you know you think they want to stand there you think they want to sit and and uh collect from people it's not simple it's a hard thing they never have to do it because that's just what they're they're doing they're not mug maybe to go to work nine to five maybe they're just a victim of circumstances so when this young man heard that the balbus put him in place he said I'm out of here he left quietly he never came back it's one thing when a person has words but if you don't see the individual again that hurts when you know that the person left because of you how do you ever come to grips with it how do you ever say it's okay naturally the man felt very bad he scared him away person that he doesn't know where he's at where he'll get his next meal where he'll sleep that evening he felt very very bad however on the other hand he wasn't the one that started up with him it's that young man that said something to a person older something that was not nice something that he didn't have to say so now why did he do it it was his fault babus the one who was the owner of the home he thought okay what can I do you can't uh you know you can't please everyone as they say only clowns please everyone and he let it go he had a daughter that was not read a in a long time to read a is the biggest Mitzvah in the entire world theam said if a person is looking for a and CH they want a big the easiest way is to go into put people together follow in to's ways get people try whatever you can do make a it's the most important thing in the world a lot of people are waiting and they want believe me I made a sh and I it was a mistake and I made a sh pure mistake I made a sh I'd be happy to share it with you afterwards if I could make a mistake and make a sh anybody could I I really mean it it was such a a major mistake it was unbelievable you can't tell it's hard I once made a I had a I made a and the guy came to the sh he was unbelievable was a wonderful man something happened between them it was on the telephone and I thought it was going to be like the greatest sh the man came to me and he said rebi I know you try to do good things everything this was not one of them this is not a I couldn't understand what happened and I couldn't get to the bottom of exactly who said what one year later one year later I decided Chev you knock you down seven door I went over to the young woman and I said listen would you mind if I try this thing again she said you could try but I don't think he's going to say so I went to the guy I'm going to tell you just tonight since it's a close crowd here uh I said it was my fault the whole miscommunication was my fault I want you should be me she had nothing to do with it it was on me alive out forgive me he said okay I said you want to show that you really forgive me he says yes Reby how you go out with her believe it or not they went out the was so good that that the father said we would like to pay I don't charge but the father said we' like to pay double because Not only was a good between the couple but the get along so good they feel it's also a I don't like to argue price you know but fantastic everyone anyhow he has an older daughter this balos and she's not getting married people try people try to know what maybe could be an e not that we know know not that we can always find out but sometimes a person can start to delve into it the wife the a says to him maybe maybe you insulted him maybe he couldn't take it even he started up with you maybe he couldn't take it maybe it was too much for him he couldn't hear it it's the guy Al together it's a shame look what he's doing look what he has to do from day to day he knows he can't afford to eat he knows he has no place to sleep he would be on depart bench why don't you find out where he's at the man found out after a lot of checking he got to the bottom of where he's at he got him on the phone one half hour before K nidr one half hour the a picks up the telephone the man says to him I want to apologize May from the depths of my heart I was dead wrong and I want you to know I Didn't Have A Moment's Peace and before yum Kipper I hope you could find it in your heart to forgive me hears it and he says you're calling me you're calling me I never thought you'd want to talk to me again in my life you're calling me on arum Kipper insignificant ific me and you're such a good person they both talk to each other he said perhaps onus I'm going to come back to BR I'll pay you a visit if I can they both wish each other a good y a they got off the phone yum Kipper that man cried balos cried he waited that long to ask M he went and told someone who's unfortunate words that hurt and were unkind and he saw how humble that young man answered him back he cried he did a few extra Ales that day M OA who knows what tips the camel mioda what swings the pendulum mioda what makes the balance of MIT outweigh ofum Kipper the phone rang in the house of this man something happened it didn't happen not one year but more than one years nobody called up for the daughter a was on the phone I have a suggestion for your daughter I'm not sure but it sounds to me very good immediately don't wait don't wait you have a chance to do a Mitzvah take it right away the young woman went out right after yum Kipper in those special days between yum Kipper and sukus it already looked good it was progressing he gets a knock on the door the a shows up they hug each other the a phenomenal said that when he came back to B BR and he went to DAV in the letter where the great s Tor where used to DAV every day he went there a man walked over to him and asked him are you still available are you single and he said yes she says I may have a suggestion for you a person can ever tell to be even you think you got every good reason not to be M I have the reasons I got my reasons I'm not going to forgive and I have a reason and that's all and I don't have to ask anybody ask the r ask the r it's a Shila it's as big as Shila is if you can eat the meat by a certain place it's as big as Shila as are you allowed to take something that was sent to you by accident can you keep it can you not keep it it's a bigger shil m in the E mosha of the great G RAB mosha Feinstein there was a person that asked a sh in M he would have to spend $20,000 to gain forgiveness to get M and they asked the great go should they do it and rosha said you're getting off easy by paying the $20,000 and it tells the entire story in the chuba in the respons of what happened we have a few minutes okay uh one more part uh one more part for everybody and uh there's a lot of liud I wish we could uh go on and on but we'll make it quick but don't rebel against hem don't don't rebel against hem why B is what did they do they were afraid anim the Giants remember they went out and there were giants and they were afraid to go to the Holy Land because they saw all these things happening and there were levas loo all different things happening so they didn't want to go they were they had a so there Al don't rebel against hem Ru ask the question just because a person is afraid I mean we're allowed to be afraid uh some people have a little bit P some people have am we work it out but just because a person is afraid does that mean that they are are they rebelling are they rebelling against Hashem certainly not I could be afraid says Raa an unbelievable he says the following if a person is afraid of a flesh and blood it will cause them to forget they will forget Hashem we know that there is a in the is a person's afraid I'm afraid of this I'm afraid of that person I'm afraid Hite I'm afraid what they're going to say it's a snare it's a trap that a person fear sets up a trap however the person that trusts in hem that person will be protected by and the maim all explain what does it mean that they give a mes that they set themselves up and they ins sne themselves us is because when a person starts to be afraid cabalistic they are moish they weaken they weaken their muzzle in a certain way here a person's strong and they go in with a and they go with they can face anything but when they start to be too afraid they could wear down their good muscle wear down their protection yes when a person has and they believe strongly that individual has the power to be to stand through all of life's challenges then don't go don't worry about nothing because they know Hashem is right there with me the worst place in the world it says in in who did they find in they found Hashem walking in geham Hashem walking around in geham Hashem says I will be anywhere says the following words a Jew never despairs doesn't matter what it is in what area in health in parosa in life in relations andas it doesn't matter doesn't matter even the person sunk to the lowest steps and they did the say that cha doesn't help shom they should know that there is no there is no giving up at all Hashem can help anybody there is no such a thing as giving up on life Hashem can help us and take us no matter where an individual is and there is an entire uh two paragraphs speaks about it's worthwhile to see it we don't have the time tonight I'll be the person that wants to be powerful the person that wants to work on themselves work onun work on if somebody did something I'm G to get angry at that guy going to get angry at that lady they did it they cheated me out of some money okay l or get other money people take it hard the guy in cedur told me I can't get over because these guys that took me for the money and he's upset true it is very upsetting however help us greatly the one that believes they know they're going to be able to get past the storm they know that they're going to walk tall they know that Hashem has their back and if something did go on and they did lose a little bit if somebody wasn't kind to them they spared them a bigger ones a bigger punishment I believe that Hashem is working for me and for you at every moment the great rutner the used to say rub the Ruba mainly Hashem conducts the world mainly meaning all the time just I'll end with a small idea was a young girl a girl noos have strong power a young girl young teen and she was escaping from the Holocaust escaping from the Holocaust they told her run you stay here you're goner maybe you could Escape maybe you could reach the forest maybe you could get somewhere so she ran and she ran as fast as she could she couldn't go any further she had run so long and she was not used to it she was in m to run all of a sudden she sees a big house and there is lights on in the house she needed to get some water she needed to be able to rest she didn't want to stay and be discovered in the street so she went and began to knock on the door all of a sudden she begins to scream I'm a Jewish girl could you please have Rus could you please have mercy on me all of a sudden the door opens and she sees there a Nazi commandant with the boots he said to her with a glare in his eyes you saved me a lot of work you came straight to me you came straight right here into my Rus into my hands she realizes it she fell back there was a wall she fell back on the wall then he said but wait a minute how did you get down that whole path how is it possible the dogs didn't tear you apart I have vicious dogs all guarding it how did you get past them she didn't know she didn't see any dogs she would didn't have a presence of mind to see the dogs but they did not approach her the Nazi said I don't know what you are I don't know what kind of a a magician you are but I'm going to tell you something tonight you're going to stay here this evening in my house and you're going to stay here on the floor tomorrow morning when I'm going to be able to witness it you are going to walk down that whole path with all of the vicious dogs you're going to walk down that path if you walk past all of those animals and you're able to survive the walk and you live I take responsibility for you you will live till the end of the war I guarantee your safety he leaves her she's on the ground in the hallway she's crying and crying and crying she realizes she has one thing left we always have a person can D no matter what she spent the rest of the night saying any toim that she knew any song she knew B off by heart she said it all in the morning the Nai came down get up she gets up opens the door take your walk he pushes her out from the door she begins to walk down the path carefully trying not to take her mind off of AEM walks past all of the vicious dogs not one dog came after her not one dog barked not one dog moved they stood in their place she made it the Nazi for whatever reason kept his word put her in an orphanage until the war was over the girl grew up to be a great rabbitson the rabbitson of rabes the great sadik and mash a person that lives with am has a power has greatness you and I have that greatness inside of us you and I have the power to be able to stand strong to to go through life to be we should all have many many good news for everybody and beem we should already hear that all of the hostages be freed come home safe and sound take and all of the all theim they should all be protected strong and healthy and come back and all of us will be together Young Israel West hem said will have a beautiful building in y and I hope they'll invite me still over there good evening everybody