Rabbi Avrohom Walkin | Surviving & Flourishing Through One's Personal Exile | CHAZAQ

[Music] good evening everyone good ER shabas thank you for joining us on this weekly kabura uh we are actually starting a new safer saer sh the second safer of the five um of of the Kish and there's so much to talk about to be honest so much to talk about and M we'll get into a few different but like I always do like to thank kak and to anytime for what they do and for the Torah that's being done through them I also like to dedicate this year to a very big God a bigad who we lost this past Tuesday night we matom one of the old the last of the Mas as we say he was a European Mash he was an American Mash but he was a mash for all and his wisdom and his and his Godless and his will will will not be replaced anytime soon so I actually have um I always like to start my shurm with a story and I will start a story within a moment and it will be a story regarding Rio Solomon that I uh I heard many many many years ago and then I will actually say a uh T thato gave over once and I think it will be a tremendous tremendous M for him but the truth of the matter is he should be a m for all of us because if matu was from not only a different generation but he understood today's society he understood Kindel he understood adults he understood the world and he was just he was the M of so he will be neb sorely missed and not replaceable as I mentioned regarding the story there was once a a very big r in Lakewood famous R I don't remember his name and there was nifter and he left he was n very young and he left over many children I me eight to 10 children and one night when people came to be there was one particular night where all the RAS of lak would went at the same time including the mas and there were a lot of other R there this was a a very wellknown R in Lakewood and they're all sitting there and talking to the other Yim that were sitting there the the son-in-laws the sons that was that were obviously sitting the son-in-laws that were standing around and they asked you know they were talking about the nifta Thea but re mat Yu actually asked one of the younger ones where is how old is the youngest child in the family the youngest son so look so they told him he's around seven eight years old and maio continued to ask where is he right now where is he right now so they said that you know he could only sit for a few minutes obviously but right now he's in the kitchen eating supper playing with some toys so Rio said can I go speak to him so he said of course so all these Ras were sitting and talking to the obviously the the people that were Aus and Rao proceeded to go into the kitchen he made sure that you know there was no anyone around there and he and he asked if he can speak to the boy the 78-year-old boy so he sits down next to the seven-year-old boy and he asks him he says how are you what's what's with you how you doing such a difficult time right now what is your name he asked him what is your name so the boy said my name is Moshe so maio said is that what you call your friends call you so the boy said no some of them call me Mo so if mat said so Mo my name is Mattis yahu and your name is Mo do you mind if I call you Mo and the boy said no I would like it if you could call me Mo it's my nickname is what my friends call me so Mato said fine then ra maio proceeded to ask him about some of the toys that he was playing with and you know which ones he enjoyed more which ones he enjoyed less and you know to tell him what each toy does and the boy felt very very warm that this this GLE not that he knew what type of GLE he was but was discussing his toys everybody was so involved with what was going on the last few days that they you know they didn't give him the proper attention gave him the proper attention then R Mato says listen I have a piece of paper here and he writes down a phone number and he gives it to him and he says can you put this piece of paper on your fridge so the boy said of course I'll put it on my fridge what's so special about this phone number so he says this is my personal phone number in my office in in my house this is my personal phone number in my office in my house and I'll tell you what I want you to do with this phone number he tells the boy I want you that whenever you come home from Yeshiva and you have a question in the you're learning in the reading of the Sid that you're doing whatever you're doing in class you're having a difficulty I want you to call me cuz I want to be the one to answer your questions and then he tells the boy he says then when whenever something bothers you please call me up I want to talk to you about it please call me up this will be our personal you know Kus sha our personal one-on-one that we and you are going to connect with and then the boy tells him but but rebi you're probably very busy you're not going to be able to answer whenever I call so maio told him he says listen you tell whoever picks up the phone in my house that even if they say I'm bus busy and even if they say I went to lie down or even if they say that I'm with people please just tell them that Mo called and I will am call you back as soon as I can or I'll take the call right away but please let them know that Mo called and I will ad come to the phone or I'll call back right away this is a sensitivity of a m of a real M this is a sensitivity of an God everyone in the is involved with the with the with the with the son-in-laws they were R they were but it takes a certain individual to actually understand that there are little children being affected here too therefore if Mato understood that it's not just catering to the older ones but it's also catering more specifically to the younger ones who sometimes Get Lost in Translation get lost where people are take them for granted one of the great stories that I'm sure going to come out of mat Z and I'm sure there'll be books and books written on from different various everybody has a story I'm sure that's going to talk about the greatness of whon was now I want to mention and this actually has nothing to do with the paraa but I always use it when I go into public schools and I'm dealing in kirov whenever I'm dealing in kirv I always like to use this within a few weeks with the with the with being and it goes and it talks about the actual not that the Torah needs to be proven but it goes about the authenticity of the Torah how you know how we can prove to certain degrees how pure and and and and and right and not just right but Howes the Torah is written and how much the Torah is written obviously years ago and obviously how everything is in the Torah today so if Mato brings down actually from Sha we know that by We Know by there's a verse from that says behold he stands behind our wall um watching over clell from the window so the mash asks a question why does it have to say when I say that's so Mas ask a question like this he says why does it have to say behold he stands after our wallon is looking through the window automatically if there is a window there has to be a wall around that window so obviously it's not the wall that it's talking about in the beginning is not a wall where the window is so he brings down the medish which says that this wall refers to the the Cel that what that that wall as he stands behind the wall of the is looking through the window refers to the mikdash where the windows would give light out to the world and not the light would come in which means Hashem would look out at the world and the carbonos whatever a was done would protect the outside world so there's a wall and there's a window which refers to the walls of the betam mikdash really and that's the windows that's the windows that it's talking about so he brings down a a sh that says these words unbelievable words it says he says that's where he gets it from and this walls of the coel will never be destroyed and we know that the medich was written thousands years ago yet thousands yet the medish actually goes on to say that what that the K will never be destroyed now that's a very big gamble he says because through the years they destroyed the B mikdash they tried to destroy they destroyed two of them they the was everything was broken down constantly and not only that countries for years tried to get rid of the coel what did it take to get rid of the coel just knock it down knock it down take take the way they rammed the the battering rams that battered all the all the you know the walls in the base I'm English get rid of the wall and what the what benefit to the gam it would bring a put a dagger in the heart of clra could you imagine that we were in Earth's well imagine hundreds of years there was no wall and they made a passageway instead of the wall straight into the ne into the mosque over there into the into the Kash where it used to be you know how many Jews returned because of that wall you how many people in AR stroll even night even now all day and night are going there to cry out out their heart the easiest thing that could have been done by the Arabs by the countries of the world by the Turks is you knock down the wall and it it affects clell for generations and who knows where we would be today that wall is a place that we go from all over the world ye didn't come and they find their Roots why didn't the Arabs ever break it down soio Wants To Be Ma but he brings down other places that when the kazal tell us that the wall will never be destroyed it it becomes mazus it becomes a fact that no Nation thinks about it no Nation could do it possibly because when the kazal tell us something it stays forever therefore by the fact that kazal knew KES that it will never be destroyed and can never be destroyed and the fact that they put their stle their stamp on it that becomes msus because the Torah dictates and not we dictate what the Torah means and he brings down another place very interestingly he says there's a few other places that it mentions that this is around till this very day and another place is y Shalom the hand of Shalom that Shalom put a memorial for himself easily could have been broken down by many Jews who were anti of Shalom or the people that wanted to destroy it because of what he did to D yet still exists today because it says which means till this very day but there's a third place and I tried to show this to my public college guys when I deal with the college students you know cuz you know and the older High School boys K is is was actually surrounded for Generations by a by a uh by Arab cemeteries now why the Arab cemeteries around K Rao CU they mistakenly think and it could be there's a there's something to it that when Messiah comes because C CU ra ra man who cried for her children and Hashem answered her that there will be reward for your crying it's almost they feel that the Messiah the Messiah will somehow have something to do with coming from K ral's place also and therefore they feel that he is a Coen well tell youi who was from pinhas right or he was pinhas right that a Coen can't go into a cemetery so they mistakenly think that if there's a cemetery around then the Messiah can't come the same way they actually put cemeteries around certain gates in but near the B MD there's cemeteries there because they heard that that Messiah will be coming to a certain gate they planted um they planted they put their dead over there that that Messiah won't come so I have a question for youu was the enemy of theim of the Arabs why Abraham was the forefather yesal was next in line and his wives were next in line right they were the wives of isal and the children and the the grant so Y is an enemy unless they believe somebody said that they believe actually's buried in y's tomb that's what they believe that's what I heard I don't if that's true is that true do you know you know if that's true or not I heard that by cver they D there also because they act like that's where your SCH is buried I'm not sure but that's what I heard is that true you know that fun I don't know why I don't remember that I think I might have heard that but the bottom line is rly made for sure is an enemy why don't they just break it down why don't they just break it down destroy Bomb It Up dig it up all the years they had it because the p says the PK tells us in the in braas when she's that this is C till this very day and whenever it says it lasts forever which is fascinating because the easiest thing for them to do is just uproot C and then we don't even want to be there and look we we we control it now and we D there it's it's almost unbelievable how Torah dictates I don't need to bring you Ras this every letter of the Torah could probably bring you a r but this is something I heard um fromat yo and I just think it's very valuable and I use it to prove how Torah dictates and not vice versa so that is regarding that is shall have obviously we don't need to wish him Al but that he should look down on us and give us BR from wherever he is and he should be a m for us um now back now to the par um I'm not going to get involved how the yeden became slaves because that alone is a very fascinating story obviously and how it came about that yoseph and his brothers were so held in such high esteem and we fell to the point of being slaves and we do know that everything goes through KES obviously he runs everything and he decides everything so when the Jewish people one of the simple answers or the basic answers or one of the answers is that when the Jewish people when the brothers passed away I think shav Ley was the last of the brothers to pass away the the Eden did not have the leadership that they used to have and they started to mingle with the with MIT they left Goen they started to become friendly they used to go to theaters which I'm not going to discuss it happened to us many many years ago in in in Europe but I it's not for me to discuss a very uh sensitive topic like that of why who what when where but when the eeden start to mingle Hashem needs to somehow send us a message whether it was by by the story of p with the story of and the Jews were friendly but this was more where the Eden was starting to assimilate not talking about marriage wise but just dealing wise and they started to pick up a lot of the the the Egyptian uh Heritage even up to doing a even though kazal tell us there were four things that ye did never ever no matter how far they fell and it's funny because we do some of it ourselves today um without you know trying to be Mak and Isel but four the things that they did not do even till the end of time until they left M they did not do which is very fascinating they never gave them non-jewish names so anyone that has an English non-jewish name I'm not here to judge of that constitutes that but they never gave non-jewish names whatever that means they never changed their language the they only spoke lashes they never spoke Egyptian they spoke only Hebrew very fascinating a third they never dressed like them which means they kept their dress code of Aid you know today well I say that when people we dress like non-jews to the point you know with Like Rappers and stuff do that constitute that I'm not a posc I don't know but we never dressed like them and the fourth thing is they never spoke Lush and horror and they never tattletail on one another so they actually remained close to each other through the entire Exile and because of those four different mid toos that that they kept Hashem said I will one day take them out and there were other things also but Hashem saw that there were the foundation was still there even when they fell to the lowest level of to anyway what happens is they're mingling Hashem causes them to have six children at one time Hashem causes the Egyptian who they thought likeed them at one point to start to hate them and that's that's been our story through our history that when cestr starts to mingle and thinking wow we're getting close to the non-jews we're getting close to the gu they're loving us we're one of them that's what hasem has them turn their their whole to 190° they turn around completely where they um where 180 de right 18 190 which one is it 180 180° correct 180 degrees that they turn a complete around that what that they hate us they go from loving us to hating us because when you think that you are going to get close to them and you're going to for them and you're going to be good to them you're going to benefit Hashem says I'll decide and when you start mingling I have to stop it now why 210 years there's different reasons why but that's how it started and obviously we went down to Egypt uh the stories BYU thatu on his level was was you know did certain things that caused it says his children to go down but I don't want to discuss that now so P didn't know what to do now kazal tell us that whether he was a new king or an Old King what if he was a new king that didn't know Yosef you know how could you not know Yosef it's like being neb neb NE being in in Russia and being a communist and saying you never heard of Stalin it's like Cavo being in Germany and not knowing their major leader yoseph was a major leader in mitzraim he was the the one that saved mitzraim so what they forgot about him what power never heard of him it's good question according to one that says he was a new King that did not know yoseph yoseph is in their history books the brothers are in the history books but according to theat that he was the Same Old King andus ra and Rashi but according to the second that he was the Same Old King that changed his decrees what happened here he was the Same Old King he got kicked off his position he got kicked off his position because he didn't want to harm the Jews he says how can we hurt the Jews how can we attack the Jews you know what they did for us so it says tell us that for 3 months he was thrown off his position and he realized it didn't benefit him being like he'll he'll just change his attitude he'll start disliking the Jews but he didn't know what to do so he called three people he called now it's amazing because he became the worst of all the MIT the one that changed his position actually became the worst but um especially during the maros but it says that he called three people and the people he called to find out believe it or not if you never heard this to discuss the Je Jewish problem was Bellum who we know IV who we know and yra who we know vum we know was the famous uh in the pares balock and Bam the famous sorcerer the famous non-jewish Prophet that tried to curse the Jews and he was a very very smart man I we know was someone whether it was a fictional character According to some CH or actually he lived in the times of MIM and years later or the story of e actually took place in MIM according to he was the one that suffered many many sufferings and his book is called job and uh he's known for his suffering the theum of i as people say because he had a life of tremendous suffering because hem was testing him and he's known he's known for a person of of suffering the book of suffering of the Book of Job the book of e and then there was Isel who was moso's father-in-law those three were the ones what should we do about the Jewish Problem billum decided kill the Jews slay save them punish them do whatever you got to do I kept quiet cuz he was scared to say anything and Y decided to run away which means he showed that he didn't agree by running away kazal tell us that bam what was his punishment for this years later years later after the the gas of MIM ended and after he was in the Jews were in in the desert right they went to the midbar Eve was billum was the one that got killed after he gave BR to he got killed in a war it says kept quiet I'll tell us he got killed with a sword kept quiet he was he was judged and he went through all his life and he had children that were K he had a family of people that sat in so asks an unbelievable question he says like this I don't understand B what happened to him he lived for many more years and then he died 1 two three with a sword yes it's bad to die years later but it was much years it was years later and it was a swift death 1 two three got killed with a sword a all he did was keep quiet and because he kept quiet he because he was scared what happened he had just Su him his whole life suffering his whole life y ran away so he was merited he decided I'm going to have to leave my hometown I'm out of here I'm just you I'm saving myself by running away which meant don't do it so he asked I got the worst of all the punishments B got killed one two three many years later he suffered his whole life imagine suffering lives of almost Cavo of being in a Holocaust in the concentration camps every day for 70 years 70 years of and look at and and and you know not four years of a holocaust 70 years of being the worst suffering kazal tell us how could it be that IV got the best of the the worst of the deal so one answer I saw is that keeping quiet is sometimes worse because bam had was just a Russia he didn't know better which is terrible I knew better yet he didn't open his mouth okay very very um difficult answer uh to understand but I want to go his answer which was that we don't appreciate and understand and I'm not the one to talk what it the value of living means that even though IV suffered tremendous suffering but at least he was alive at least he was alive we don't understand says what the greatness of being alive even with great suffering is and we have to work on that so even though I had y but he says he did live and living is the greatest gift even with suffering and he brings down a Rashi I forgot where he brings down which that it says it says what can a living man complain I knew it years ago what can a living man complain about and Rashi says that if he's living you can't never complain because you're living and brings a r from it says says in one of his in his Psalms he says gave me tremendous but he doesn't even use he says suffering upon suffering hasem has done for me but he didn't cause for me death was singing a praise to Hashem that he went through the greatest of suffering yet he still lived and I'm not the one to talk believe me I'm not the I don't want anyone suffering and Shalom I'm not telling you suffering is not a terrible thing but I'm just telling you that wants to teach us that DAV was not complaining that hasem gave him suffering upon suffering no on the contrary that Hashem did not cause me to die as a compliment and a thank you T so all the greatest of suffering with the compliments is still greater is still greater okay so that's regarding V now I want to go now to something about shiff and pu it tells us it tells us that parro's first decree was what was that the the the Jews must be slaves the first decree was slavery that was the first decree what was the second decree that the Jew Jewish children the bo should be killed thrown into but which one the male the male children now how did that happen how did that happen par was told by his astrologers that there's going to be a child that's going to be born and this child is going to one day it be a male child and one day he will take out the Jewish people from from M and he's going to one day put bring parro to his knees by being such by being the taking out the Jewish people but he saw in the astrology that he will be killed through water he'll be punished through water so they took it that the Redeemer is going to be born any day now and what's going to happen he's going to die through drowning he's going to be punished through water so they made a decree that all male children must be thrown into the river into the Nile and of course the the Egyptians enforced it what happened mosha was born during this time and um and she was able to hide him kazal tell us for 3 months then she put him in a basket put him in the water and then Believe It or Not P astrologers came back and said we see somehow in the stars that he was already put in the water and we don't have to worry about him but little did they know that he was in a basket so what happened Bacha comes along saves Moshe brings him to the Palace she was converting to Judaism that's why she's called B bem she was coming under the aices of of of Cl being into their to their nation and she raised him in para's Palace but par had no idea that Batu was Jewish and she obviously wouldn't have allowed it and neither did he know where this child came from Basia said she adopted a child why would he think this is Moshe right so we see an unbelievable thing that when a person can have all the idea has in his mind of how things are going to be done but at the end of the day hasem his will will come to fruition his will will ultimately be the will of what happens what will be what will happen and therefore not only didn't parro kill the Redeemer not only didn't MIM get rid of that P that that individual but he was actually brought up by parro himself un unable the same person that parro wanted to get rid of he was the one that had him brought up unbelievable now I want to go back to something very interesting when the Torah discusses Y and Miram who were the midwives the Torah gives them two names y's name was shifra and Miriam's name was Pua and they were given these two names because y would would beautify the baby and Pua would would almost be like poo poo poo she would actually sing to the baby which means lull with the words poo po po po you know almost like so therefore they were given these names now it's fascinating because was a Nava Miriam was a NVA they were prophetesses there were only seven of them Esther SAR Rifka Raul I think Le Leia um Miriam and and Esther and then dvor I'm not sure which one wasn't I'm trying to remember which one was it but they were only viot and yet they are known not by in the Torah but the Torah actually identifies them by shra and pu why who cares to beautify the babies they they CP to the baby noal the Torah is teaching you that the AAS what is the greatness of a mother what is the greatness of a mother is not is not the prophetes that they wore but how they took care of the children the way they took care of the children that is what the Torah wants to identify them and that is what the Torah wants to show of what the greatness of a Jewish mother is the greatness of a Jewish mother is when they actually take care of the children but not because of the greatness of to or the year Shay so that was something very very powerful I want to mention that a woman's greatness is not so much of how her Torah but how she brings up her own children how she takes care of the children at home um so that's one more thing I wanted to mention now I want to tell you something very powerful amam was the leader of the Jewish people at the time amam kazal tell us never sinned in his life we know B never sinned in their life his in his life we know benishai never sinned in his life and we know also amam never sinned in his life and there's one or two more B am father of yesi does anyone know any other two I forgot them but they there were a few people that never sinned and they were three of them Aram was the godar of the Jewish people at the time and when he found out the decree that all male firstborns mosha was she was already expecting you with Moshe at the time but after that he decided that because of what's happening to the Jewish children the boys no everyone should get divorced from their wives no one should live with their wives that no one should have children and therefore the woman we w't actually have these children end up dying so everyone followed am's path and they divorced their wives Miriam who at the time was seven uh 8 years old seven 8 years old right she was seven or 8 years old she approached her father the godar and she tells them whatever she called them daddy ABA not daddyy I don't know what you called him P She says you know that you're in a way more difficult than Hashem than parro cuz parro only decreed on the males but you're decreeing on the females too because of you there won't be girls what right do you have to take away the opportunity to have girls secondly every Nish that gets born even if it's killed right away it goes straight it goes TOA so you're affecting children from becoming from going TOA see your decree is worse than parro's amam listened and he said she was right and he made another it says and has made a miracle it looked like she was young again and hasem was officiating over this whatever that means like almost like and he remarried his wife and CLA did the same thing so the Bal mus want to say something unbelievable they tell us that the greatness of this Gad wasn't that he that he was able to decree and that people listen to him the greatness also of amam was that his little daughter seven eighty old daughter gave him M about what he should do and instead of telling her that that doesn't mean everyone should tell their father what to do but instead of saying no mind your own business don't I'm not going to listen I'm the godar who are you you're a little kid no amam heard what she said accepted what she said and changed and even changed what she said and changed what he did and he remarried wife the K of a the of a is to not just listen to the gim above him or to the rabbis that are on his level but to even listen to a child his own child a young girl but if she made sense I'm going to follow it and I don't care what people are going to say in the future ah look am had to get M from his young daughter 78 years old and he listened and he listened unbelievable unbelievable how the Gad if this something that's emth and truth I don't care who it comes from I don't care who tells it to me so that's something I want to mention and now I want to end with something very powerful there's so much to say about how yeah we know with the burning bush and and then and and M running away and how the MIT there's so much here it's unbelievable I mean every letter of the Torah has a lot but I'm telling you now I could honestly personally probably and I'm nobody not as big but I could probably give a Shear for seven eight hours what I know now just on the parisha from what my history of learning the parha I can definitely go through every that I know for sure that I can get 45 7 8 45 minute lessons so let's say 6 seven hours right now myself without even stopping it but I have to end in 5 10 minutes less 5 minutes but I want to end I want to end with something very beautiful that I saw it says that when bataa came to the water a nest happened what was the nest her hand should not have stretched as far as it did was she a rubber woman then her hand stretch all the way like I don't know superheroes that their hand stretch she made an attempt to try to get to the basket what attempt me standing here trying to get almost across the street what no she tried she made an attempt andal teach us because she made that attempt Hashem made a miracle for her which teaches you that you don't have to finish you need to start you need to show Hashem that you're opening that the needle and I will open to you a greater than what you've done the fact that she actually made the effort to try Hashem had her hand stretched so you need to try that's one thing but what happens listen to this what happens she says a child was crying she stretches out her hand she gets the basket she opens the basket and what does she say she says it says she had mercy on this child and she said this must be a Jewish child so again she heard a child crying she had mercy on him this must be a Jewish child I want to tell you something unbelievable here like all the Tor the B says that the child that was crying over there what that he heard the cry was not mosha Raben the child the crying of the child that she heard the Bal says look it up he says it was not it was not Moshe it was Aon hohen who was standing Miriam was watching over there Aon was nearby and he was crying why does the balat say this because the balim says the gria of n is Aron the gatria of n is Aon so he holds that who was crying Aon so what's going on here iron a Cron's crying she sees a child and then she has Mercy on him and she says it must be a Jewish child so listen to what the B they say over from the Bala T listen to this what happened she sees a basket but she hears the Cry of an of an older child like a three-year-old I with three at the time so she the sound of a CH coming from a baby's basket a little basket so she turned to look then she sees Aon H coin she takes the basket her hand stretches miracle and then she sees Aon a coin standing there crying and she realized this must be the child or relative or brother of our of the child so listen how he learns this she sees a child a child was crying she had mercy on the one that was crying on who on Aon she didn't have mercy on Moshe it's a child baby she had mercy on him and she said this must be a Jewish child cuz for a child to cry for his brother in such a manner it must be a Jewish child because only a Jewish child she said can cry like that for his brother therefore that was Aron who was standing by according to the B Tor on that child on that child she she felt bad for him and she said if a child can cry like that for his brother it's a sign M this child must be must be a Jewish child our mission isn't to just send packages which is incredible I've gone to ER three weeks ago to help a little bit I'm going again a miss hasem we were right here when we made the call for the ticket right going another uh 9 10 days 8 Days Shabbat Mia doesn't come I hope he does and we all will all be on the flight together and don't worry about the kosher meals everyone have kosher meals but anyway and uh I don't know who's getting business class I don't know who's getting first class but we'll be all right but I um I'm going in M it's important to do missions it's important to say to hel it's important to to to but it's important to cry it's important to try somehow to feel the pain to feel the painu when he went out and he knew who CL that he was a Jew and he went out when he was 20 years old he got came mature he got to the right age when he became a man he went out to see his brothers and he would carry the loads on his back and said I wish I could take your place V he saw what do you mean he saw he he felt it he looked with his eyes but he noticed and he felt their pain we need to somehow not just say ah another Soldier died NE and then we go to a restaurant that night not say you not to go to restaurants I'm telling you not to enjoy life and I'm not telling you not to enjoy your family but we must feel their pain and everybody on his own has to find a way that he can do that I I do it by going arell every few weeks every every month and a half two months I hope to go not because I can do a lot cuz I want to feel my the pain of my brothers and when you're there you feel it a little more even though you don't see it but you know you're there you know you're there you know you're there everybody on his own can find a way that he can do something or ask your raban what can I do to feel the pain not just to C not just say not just to send money but to actually feel the burdens of your brother Aon and cried and what was the S of a Jewish brother when he taka cries for his brother and he feels his pain and I give you all AB BR that we should not have pain anymore and we should not have to feel the pain of our brothers but till we do the pain we do feel should bring the Gula closer shabbat shalom everyone