Rabbi Avrohom Walkin | Powerful Shiur On Yesod & Greatness of Yosef | CHAZAQ

[Music] welcome everyone to the weekly kabura this week's paraa on the kabura is Vos and I will tell you I wait all year to give this kabor I give I say a lot of the same stuff you know pretty much every year but I added a few more D toas that I think is going to be very power on the par but this is a tremendous share and this is a type of share that you listen to even not during parash because the lessons that we learn learn in it and the greatness of yose that we could see from this paraa is something that I think can uh affect us positively um through the course of the whole year I'd like to take the opportunity to thank uh Torah anytime like I always do and kazak uh for everything that they do for all the merious neish that they uh that they do for krol you know all the video and the and the and the sh and the and the and the and the events that they run just to be Mar of course I work for and I go to so many public high schools every single day and I and it's just a big to be able to help all the Eden um that we are able to um this year I want to dedicate to a special friend of mine a special C of Mine He's also my talid name is Dr Iris seety um I'm to learn with him many many uh Fridays of of the year he takes it from his busy schedule he is a very big plastic surgeon in Manhattan and it's a big to uh to be able to talk to him and discuss um the paraa with him every single week it's also his birthday I think he's 30 years old no he's actually 40 years old I was just playing around he's 40 years old and uh bar you know he to bring up many you know three children and they should he should have lots ofas from his M and uh for many years to come I also like to wish to a tal of mine Dr Doctor Who actually had twins a few weeks ago the names of his children are Gabriella Rose and Noah Abigail and may he be to walk them down to and that they should be married to husbands who are B Torah and truly y to you to relli and his Mish I want to start off by discussing the greatness and the of Yik who yadik was and no matter how much I will talk about YF the hiddenness of what ysf really was and the greatness of Yosef would probably take months upon months to really see the greatness of who Yosef was and to even understand on our level the greatness of Yosef compared to the true greatness of yose we probably don't have really an inkling of how great Yosef was um a tremendous share and we're going to go into many many different proofs of where we see the great Mida that yoseph had of self-control now we do know that Yos was a great a big because yov taught him all his Torah tell us that all the Torah that Yosef knew he got directly from his father and his father considered Yosef the forebearer of all the Torah that he was taught so yoseph was really the one that actually jakov gave over the secret theas the the N of of his Torah to Y so y was a big big big besides for his being a big we know that ysep was a big un very humble he always always had Hashem on his lips he always gave hasem the credit for any benefit which he should obviously but he gave all the credit toes for any good thing that happened to him so he was a very humble person he realized that it wasn't him he even said that the selling of the brothers to him he told the brothers the selling of the brothers of him was was that hasem said did it it wasem's it was never somebody made a mistake or somebody had a problem all which shows tremendous Anova tremendous humbleness but I think the the meter that stands out the trait that stands out the most in kazal of who yose was was his self-control yose's self self-control was every time he had self-control we could learn lessons our entire life we know the gorah tells us that if somebody after 120 goes up to shmay and he's sitting standing in front of the bezden and he tells bezin he tells the the upper courts the higher upper courts the Mal whoever is judging him that he had Tas he couldn't control himself therefore that's why he never learned enough Torah and that's why he had other issues CU he was a big Bala he had you know he had so much good in his life he was a good-looking guy he had a lot of money so the malim are going to tell him the angel that going to tell him were you greater and more handsome and had bigger tyus than yoseph no and yet he never sinned once so kazal is telling us right away that if we want to know who is the person that actually um stands up for self-control the one that we learned self-control from the ultimate self-control was yose he was the ultimate in self-control and controlling his desires and not giving in he was so many years in M he was so many years in the in a ter terrible terrible place he was torn away from his father's Tyra from his father he was torn away from the family from the brothers he was torn away from his R and he was sent to the worst place in the world at the time was m and yet he was able to have self-control the whole time he was there but that's just on an overview I want to show you specific details of where we see yosef's great self-control not just in in aaras not just into relation matters but even in his daily living the self control that y had now we do know I'm going to go jump ahead a little bit to par and then we're going to go back to parash we do know that jakov when ysph and yov met Yakov you know what let me actually go through a timeline I think this is important because I worked on this timeline a little bit didn't take a long time but I worked on it a little bit the timeline of ysep Ages in MIT ysep was 17 years old when he was sold when he was sold when he was kidnapped he was 17 years old then he spent 13 years years working for potifa and being in prison which means he worked for potifa one year then he was thrown into prison for another 10 years which were was added another two because he said Zak and he said he said two words to that he should be remembered by the butler to um to parro so he spent 13 years in prison which means 17 and 13 means he was 30 years when he became Viceroy in Egypt when he became in command he was 30 years 17 years he was sold 13 years he was in prison and working for Tia and 30 years when he became vice Roy in mitan now we do know that when he met his father it was 9 years after that so he was 39 years why seven years of Plenty when there was no hunger in the land there was plenty and two years of The Hunger the brothers came down already and then they he revealed himself and then um and then he he met his father so that's he was 39 years when he met his father and for the next 17 years after he met his father he did not see his father that's what we're going to discuss right now it's brought down that yob met yose one time kazal tell us yov met yose one time when he after the 22 years that he was missing that he didn't see Yosef he met him one time and then for the next 17 years that Yosef was in MIT with jakov Y yose never visited his father and kazal tell us the reason why Yosef never visited his father was because Yosef was scared that his father would ask him what happened and he would have to reveal what happened about what the brothers did to him and this would yakob would end up I don't like the word cursing but Yak would be very angry at what the brothers did and who knows what would happen who knows what would happen so even though yakob Yosef was so close to his father Yosef was so close to his father Yosef loved his father besides as father but as his main rebi as his main rebi yob was yosef's Main rebi and yet and yet Yos did not visit his father one time for the 17 years after Yakov met initially with him till right before yov died and then he called down FR man and he wanted to bless Yosef because Yosef did not want his brothers to get hurt unbelievable self-control unbelievable self-control he didn't see his father his rebi but not the to hurt his brothers that his father should find out but tell his father did know what happened his father knew what happened and we don't see that yob actually asked yose where have you been there are no messages that kazal tell us that yob sent messages where are you I met you yesterday I don't see you anymore it's been a week it's been a month it's been a year it's been 10 years it's been 15 years 17 years Yakov and yose a living in Mah and yoseph doesn't visit because he doesn't want to hurt his his his brothers but why didn't jaacob ask yoseph where are you where are you I haven't seen you you show one time and that's it I'm your rebi I want to teach you before I die I want to teach you so in reality Yakov did know what happened but Yakov also had self-control by teaching Yosef self-control what does that mean that yakob was teaching yov knew that Yosef didn't want to come for that reason so the rebi was teaching the talmud as well as the talud was learning from his rebi not to have that self-control cuz that's the meter that symbolizes who Yosef was incredible Yakov never asked Yosef why he didn't visit him because he knew he knew that y so therefore he was building Yosef for every day every month every year Yosef didn't visit his father in reality he was being built and yose knew that too yoseph knew that his father didn't ask him because his father was happy that he didn't meet him to ask him so the Rev and Ted relationship was taking place even though they weren't together unbelievable self control of Y let's go a little further into and then we're going to go back to jakov finally calls Yosef over and what does he do he tells him please bring your children over I want to actually Yosef brought his children over to be blessed but Jakob has calls yoseph over because he's about to die the mria went to Yosef and told yoseph your father is sick and he's on his deathbed do you want to come see him right or Yak sent for him so ysf went I think Yosef went himself actually right he went himself his father didn't even call him correct and then he was told that Y is coming didn't even ask for yose right before his death bed because he was still building him yose felt he has to go to his father now with a fry man manasha so what happens yov starts by telling him please don't bury me in MIT please don't bury me in MIT it's not a good place I want be buried I need to be bu he go through a whole here tell us why he went back and forth but he tells ysf like this when I came from this is what he tells passed away on the road we were close to the land but we were not in the land and I buried right there on the road not even knew about and is being buried on the road right he B so Rashi says like this I didn't even enter right wasn't that far at least she' be buried in I know and even which was close by and I know that you have it in your heart against me which is pelic that Yos still has this in his heart that's what Y is saying you should know I buried her there on the way for a reason she should be for a help to her children when is going to send during the to they're going to pass by and they're going to stop to D there they're going to stop to D there and she's going to dive into she's going to see her children on the road and she's going to dive into like it says in the a weeping wailing sound is heard which is is crying on her children and answers her this you're crying there's going to be reward for your crying there's going to be reward for your crying and your children are going to go back to their boundaries so lost in this Rashi possibly three interesting words which is what I want to focus on yov tells ysep like this I want you to know that I buried your mother on the road I buried your mother on the road and you should know that I'm sure a 17-year-old boy that loves his mother like Yak like like yoseph did he protected her from ASF he loved his mother it's his mother they yov buries her in the desert it not like what you have today houses and and stores even in L over there looks pretty bad but but of the people that live there whatever except for the Jews that live there but it's it's run down but it's not like it's not like empty and here he buries it like in the Cav I hate to say it even like I remember when I was a little boy and I saw a cowbo Cowboys and Indians where where somebody dies on the road and they just put like in the sand and they put like uh like whatever pieces of wood over there to to to say this is a place of somebody being buried but and then Yakov continues on the road now Yosef at 17 should have asked his father you know AB I have a question for you I'm not trying to you know I have a question not because I'm questioning you but I just need to know why why are you bearing Ru my mother on the side of the road over here and just continuing right but you see from this that yoseph never questioned his father that yob has to tell Y and this is the three words I want to tell you I know that you have in your heart forwards I know that you have in your heart against me still that still bothers you it still bothers you that why I buried raal on the side of the road your mother and I didn't even bring you into ER which was nearby and I didn't bring it to the I know it bothers you so let me tell you why yob says I did it which again lost in the words you see the self-control of yoseph that he never questioned his father why that it still bothers him yov knows it still bothers him and he never asked his father innocently why just give me the reason even at 17 years old when it happened ABA why are we leaving mommy in the side of the road here we're just digging a ditch and we're putting her here unbelievable self-control of Yosef not to question his father unbelievable self-control from Yosef not to question his father so now let's go back to yakob why did jakov not tell him because yov knew that yose's greatness was what self-control yov knew that Yos is going to need for the rest of his life to teach us what self-control is so he was building yose till the very last moment when he's about to die when he's about to die he was teaching him to so why is he telling him now why is he telling him now CU now he's asking yoseph to do the exact thing that he didn't do for him for his mother I need you to bury me in don't bury me here bury me in Mar the exact opposite of what yov did for he's telling to do for him so we see an unbelievable lesson in an a lesson in that contradiction is already too much for a person ysf can handle everything I'm not going to question my father but when it comes to me asking you to do something that I myself don't do that's already too much for even yadik therefore we see that our greatest mission in life to in at least when we're bringing up our children when we're dealing with students is lack of contradiction is the worst thing you can do the lack of contradiction is the most important thing if you're going to have contradiction in what you do that's the worst thing that can happen so even yadik on his level couldn't handle the contradiction according to yob but you see unbelievable self-control again from yadik you see unbelievable self-control from yadik unbelievable self-control so again we see self-control from ysep we see unbelievable self-control from ysep we see it again that he didn't visit his father we see it again that he did he buried rimu on the side of the road and Yosef never complained to his father even though it bothered him till this very day it bothered him Yosef so yob was building Ys ysf was being built again and when it comes to contradiction yob had to say now let's go back to Vash in Vash I want to show the greatness of yose self-control when it comes to in Aras when it comes to women subjects regarding women and and we see an unbelievable things here we know that yose ran away from Po's wife we know that he was put in prison for it right um so we see unbelievable things regarding that now the PK says like this there's a PK that says when yov was already told that y was alive by the brothers what does it say the rav I want to know if this Lush and RAV I didn't look into it yet I should have looked into it before but this Lush and RAV Yak the other that it says the word is whenu tells as I have enough yes I have enough and over there he ASA said to call I have oh I'm sorry actually he says he had a lot but he had I just want to know what the word RAV over here means but let's not discuss that now but again like I said I don't know what RAV means I means plentiful amazing special ra it's it's enough that old y that Ys is is alive let me go and I want to see him before he dies I want to see him before he dies now the word is very interesting because there's no re yob doesn't have to give a reason why he wants to see his son the reason why he wants to see his son is obvious because I haven't seen him in so many years I want to see him why does he have to use a lush and before I die had no idea how long he's going to die according to at this point yov should have lived to around 175 he lived to 147 for different reason because Yakov was asked by par we'll get into that next week's para but what happens is that Yakov officially thought he was going to live to 180 175 like because Kaz tell us that you lived gar teaches us that a person lives close to the age of his father therefore lived 175 because the T teaches you he shouldn't live to 180 so he shouldn't see asov but really he was supposed to live to 180 but because of Asa he lived to 175 you shouldn't see the evil of asov and and we know that y lived to 180 right right and therefore what yakob should have lived within those two um either 180 or 175 so at this point he was what he was 130 when he met Yosef he was 130 years old so he still feels he has another I don't know 50 years according to thein yet he says let me see him before I die no I want to see Yosef because he's my son that's question number one then it says that when yob finally meets yose it says something very beautiful it says everything T says is beautiful it's says y appeared to his father what does that mean that K teaches I looked in different that y actually stood erect almost waiting for his father almost to inspect him yah love yose that yph actually stood erect as if he's the king he's the vice Roy hug your father no he stood erect tell us he stood keep but he also stood so his father like almost like a soldier when the officer wants to in ECT if he's dressed nice and if everything is is in order he walks by him and he inspects him yoseph stood erect and he stood there he appeared before his father he appeared before his father why because his father wanted to see something what did his father want to see it says I can die this time what do mean this time I can die what's this time because in reality he died in a way emotionally he died spiritually to a certain degree he lost R KES for the years y was so that was more of a spiritual emotional dying here he says he's referring to his dying physically so what does he say he says it says and also I just want to let you know that y he's called yob the whole time that y unbelievable he's called yob the entire time that ysep was missing from him if you look in the paros it says when he finds that ysep is alive it says that right before that it says their father yov he's called yov why because without S without Ys he's he's still yov why was he able to fight love and asaz teach us because he had Yosef with him when he had Yosef he left his father-in-law's house because now he has the power right B it says bov and B because of the of the Tor and self-control and Rus of Y yob felt he can fight asov and there he was given the he can fight the Angels now right he can fight La he fight the Angels because he had y with him right therefore without Yosef living that he thought yoseph was missing he's always called yov but here the PK switches when he finds that that y's alive listen to this it says before found out and his spirit rose the PK changes and back to is old ysep because now that he has Ys he's back to being the K of that he could fight those evil forces because of the K of Y just wanted to throw that out so it says oh I could die this time now I will tell you I know you make these videos I want you to do me a favor make a clip out of this particular piece in other words there will be an entire piece but I want this is going to be fantastic what I'm telling you everything else was fantastic also but this is going to be really special says like this is tells to ysf again I'm repeating it I can die this time what does that mean physically I can die before I died emotionally now I can physically leave the world in other words I'm ready to leave why I can die now that I've seen your face that you're still living so yob tells y I can die now now that I see your faith that you're still living so the caser really is is here is why why does the PK why does yov have to say now that I've seen your face what does the face have to do with anything all he could all all yov could have said is that I could die now right that you're still living now that I see you're still living I could die what's the what's that I see in your face what is the addition of now that I see your face so I saw I saw a few unbelievable things on this my brother who I always call for any Shila I have I used to call my brother Aon my brother Aon zon w z I used to call him for hash for every Shila every PK every medish and he would answer me now that my brother is not around I actually call my younger brother who knows way more than me way more than me he knows where everything is he has an unbelievable head and he literally on the spot he tells me things you're sh me this that he's always on the spot he always answers my call which is also unbelievable because I don't answer always people's calls but he always and if he doesn't answer right way I'll say can I call you back in 2 three minutes and he calls me back and on the spot he always answers any I always call him so he told me a beautiful also on this but I'm going to tell you the first trout that I saw that I learned why does it say his face because if yako if yose would have sinned minutely minut even a little bit in MIT he never would have been able to look his father in the face from The Bu from the embarrassment of letting down yov he wouldn't be able to look him in the face it's an expression that people say look me eyes look me in my eyes and tell me this right in other words a guy who's honest today people could look at people's faces and just lie blatantly out to them but in the olden days you know what I'm saying especially with sikim it's hard they won't they won't look at you if they're embarrassed they won't look at you if they're embarrassed for something soob tells I could really die this time right now that you came first of all to inspect you stood there you stood there confidently that I you could I could be you could be inspected but now that I see your face that you're looking me in the face now I can die now I knowing that you're still living spiritually that you're still living if YF would have sinned minutely in M he never would have been able to look his father in the face so yob now sees your yosef's face he says that you're still living not physically living but that you're spiritually living now I can die in peace knowing that my legacy your is intact unbelievable about Ys believe about ysep my brother added to this he told me two things number one he says to me that how did Jakob ysf not sin there there's a gar that tells you y almost went to sin says he didn't almost sin but there if if he went there to sin or he didn't go there sin when he went to the house so according to he went to sin and he almost sinned he almost sinned but he saw he saw what the vision of his father he saw his father's face tell us therefore he he saw his father's face almost like a gift to yoseph because of his self-control Hashem rewarded him that he can have a last minute of a reprieve where his father's face will be shown and he will stop himself so therefore if yoseph would have sinned he never would have been able to look at his father in the face why because that father's face was what could have stopped him and if he would have sinned how could he look that same face how could he look at that face so the fact that his father was and his father knew this that he saw that obviously and that's that what happened that he never would have been able to look at his father in the face cuz his father sent him over the yeah sent him over aasa that he could watch over himself that he could watch over himself unbelievable then my brother tells me something from the that I think is unbelievable like I always say everything says is unbelievable everything that's in is unbelievable I just it's unbelievable like the other unbelievable things you see and then I saw it actually from Burn Bender Bender actually brings down burn bound that he said it to him once also cuz I saw it in his book he a very tremendous book WR by Bender ones I always look at it every week it's good and stories and really really really power I love to read two books on uh I go to 40 different SP far 40 every single week on this year to know what not to say also to know what not to say but I always go to his to farm to just see what he says to get an idea and he brings down my brother said it from the and he goes back to the question that we had of why did yov have to say that let me go down to see him before I die before I die let me go see him that's what we asked 10 minutes ago we asked that before in the beginning so he wants to say like this maybe brings it actually down from the but he says like this that Yakov knew that if yoseph overcame the greatness Yus that that happened him in he knew that he would never be Z to see Y in yobu with his toyra being an a father of the of the of the one of the a yob felt that yose's greatness would be so great that he would never be able to see him Ina so he says I need to go down he wouldn't be Z he wouldn't be Z I need to go down before I die so I could physically look at him because I don't think I will ever see him again Inaba because of his greatness of self-control he felt he wouldn't see him again in unbelievable unbelievable I need to explain this to you that when a person has in his life when a person has challenges in his life when a person is being tested in his life and he overcomes nus he's on such a d he's on such a d that even a felt that he won't be in the same level and that could be what it means when it has to go through not neb but is challenged with so many challenges and he overcomes it to a certain degree to a certain degree not that he's higher level but he's in a different level different level whatever that means is M him is he higher level not a higher level it's hard for me to believe that he means he's on a higher level but a different level they get different you know different rooms in but listen to this Yu was scared that y had reached such a d of self-control in MIT that even yakob with all his self-control and even with all his suffering would not be on the level of Y and therefore he would never see him again not in the next World and only in this world so therefore when he saw his face he said I saw you've not sinned right and you're still living but I got to see your face I got to see your face one last time at least one last time unbelievable and I want to tell you to me if you know I I I have a Chase account Chase bank account you want to check it up you can check it up but pun intended check it up but anyway um I have a Chase account account and they ask you questions when you start your when you actually make your account online at least you know security questions one of the questions I always see is who would you like to have met in your lifetime and always without even thought process I write yoseph that's what I write so if you ever want to go into my account one of my security answers is yose just just Hey listen it's nothing to take I'm just kidding have everything I need YF I always write YF why not because he was so good-looking I want to see how could goodl look can a guy be but to see someone that was so good-look and the self-control that he had in his life is so powerful to my life to to know that somebody out there many times when I was growing up many times I was challenged not that like like that but I had my challenges in life and I always when whenever I overcame my challenges it was always the yo the thought of ysep being in MIT away from Tyra away from the aice being in a foreign land kidnapped torn by his family hated by his brothers sickest place in the world M yet he remained sadic what a lesson what a lesson for us in this Gus what a lesson for us that don't say I'm in Manhattan I can't control myself don't say I have a iPhone and nobody's in my room I can't control myself don't say no one's looking I can't control myself don't say for a few moments only think of Yosef the same way the vision of yakob appeared to ysf try to now if say you what y he knew what yov looked like but the stories of ysep you can paint a picture of who ysf was so you don't need to physically see yose's face you need to know his actions so that yose that y should be an inspiration to everyone in the world of self-control and that's why in the gamor says in bz Shalala when they ask a person why did you sin why would you why did your tyus take control you'll say they're going to say no you great greater than yadik were you greater than yose and look what he did so he's yose no it wasn't one time it was all the time yose understood he has a mission in this world he understood that his life is going to be a legacy for the rest of clol I need to be on top of my game I know that my actions are going to affect clel one day I know that I can't do this to Hashem he always had Hashem on his lips the greatness of ysep I'm just scratching the surface of who ysep was believe me when I tell you I'm scratching the surface who knows the greatness of Yosef the fact that he didn't send a message the fact that he didn't complain to his father about ra the fact that he didn't visit his father the fact that he forgave his brothers the fact that he didn't send him the fact I mean this is unbelievable stuff you know how many times yoseph cried when his brothers came to him the PK tells us how many times he left cuz he couldn't handle it anymore but he knew the brothers have to go through this I'll go I'll I'll go back in I'll go back in forget about my emotions my brothers who threw me away way I don't care I'm going to I need them to get forgiveness unbelievable unbelievable so I want to end with that I want to thank you all for listening an amazing share yes or not is that the most is that an amazing share and it's not me it's toyra it's understanding it's going through processes of understanding who our were who who our who our are you need to not just read about it but you need to internalize it and when you internalize it you change you actually change you actually grow because it's not something abstract that you read in a book it became part of you of everyone to self-control tiis money eating whatever it is self-control self-control unbelievable because when you have self-control then you can then you can have a K in your life if you don't have self-control then you're worshiping the thing that you have no control of so you're not even worshiping Hashem you're worshiping the thing if it's eating it's that if it's drugs God forbid it's that if it's looking at improper things it's that you're in control whether it's a cigarette you're it's controlling you you need to be in control and I give you all a br that we should work on ourselves and be Zen not even to come to yose's level but to understand the level and that alone will protect us have a wonderful shabas everyone