Rabbi Avrohom Walkin | CHAZAQ CONNECTIONS

[Music] many programs and and events to come for the for the for the singles want to thank of course o Kai um Eddie and the whole sh the leadership of the sh RAB the sh for hosting tonight's event and for partnering with khazak on this event the the as as we know kazak is known for many things with the public focus with the public school outreach program with with over 20 different after school Sunday school programs for public school students which inspires so many thousands of public school students throughout the year and this new division of kazak called kazak connections is um focusing on theim for the for the singles to help them find their match to help them find their Z and the and the program is being is is dedicated in memory of IMA Shalom sh amen and we want to thank of course the the amazing dedicated sh shot the the matchmakers who are part of the kazak connections we havea Angela we have Berta if they could raise their hands let's give them a round of applause for all the tremendous work that they do and we want to thank of course all the amazing volunteers are helping us out at the front desk thank you so much for all your [Applause] help and a after the lecture everyone is encouraged to stay and to of course enjoy the amazing food to meet with the to too with to too and to obviously um to to to speak to the shim and um tonight we have a great honor unfortunately rabita was um some something time sensitive came up so unfortunately the the rabbi isn't available tonight but we have a tremendous another amazing Rabbi tonight we have um Rabbi aam Walkin who is um who is a tremendous um Powerhouse you're to hear him tonight you're going to be blown away a tremendous speaker um he's U he's been involved in in in um the community for over 30 years amazing powerful speaker connects and and really and you'll see tonight without no further Ado right by [Applause] walk thank you thank you Robbie thank you anyway so he didn't tell you the journey how I got to this Podium so basically I got a phone call a few hours ago and he tells me RAB who I am a big not fan a fan of I mean he's like a rebi of mine I'm very close to the family for over 30 something years already last night actually his son RAB actually made a wedding and at the wedding his mother's wife wasn't feeling so well so he that's the reason why he's not here but I was actually at the wedding and um so I'm a big of and I feel bad because to really take his place is not easy so but I I said to myself I wasn't even sure what the event was in the beginning I said yeah I'll give a sheare why not you know and then they then he sent then he explained it to me I said oh okay so I'll tell you the truth I actually spent a few hours this afternoon um buying books and going through them different and I was I was I was really really taken back by uh by what I read and what I saw and I'm going to share some of the things I I read and saw but it's a big honor to be here it's a big honor to be here kazak Tor any time the the singles connections big big for the people that actually um got involved in uh in doing this and it's it's beautiful to see it's beautiful to see people here it's beautiful to see people that you know want to want to grow and and and move forward that's very special I will tell you though I usually make jokes so I'm not making any jokes tonight but I will tell you that if I say something I'm sorry can you please make jokes to keep some of us awake I might be so bad you'll stay away from the noise but I will tell you though I will tell you though that um that I don't want to God forbid if if if I say something that maybe somebody might take the wrong way I do apologize I I did a lot of research the last few hours a few hours and obviously I have my own children and I've been involved with shim for for many years my wife is actually a very big sh M A's wigs and um so she has a lot of connections I actually have tons and tons of people over for Shabbat and farak and uh my daughters make shok they're single too and they make shok so so barash there's a lot going on and with the ab's help with God's help what yes I do yes I do my number will be given out afterwards um no problem so I will tell you I will tell you that you will all find your ziv and will be I'm not saying I'll be invited but I'm sure people here will be invited to share in each other's Sim um so I want to tell you a little bit about my story I actually got married at 21 A2 now was that early Depends for who depends for who but I got to tell you my story of the sh between my story um when I was 17 18 I was finding myself spiritually even though I was from and um I grew up in a very very very Holy Family like robbi walin my father in uh Q Gardens and my brother of Aon who was the rashash here in fak and uh I could honestly say that I myself made over 600 bharian kids religious in my life over and I have over 6,000 contacts in my from all my students I don't even remember 90 I feel bad but I have so so I take it very personal and I take it very you know like I feel good that I'm here to help that you know as many people as I can and especially this Kila and especially the people from kazak so it's a big honor for me to be here but my story goes like this when I was in ER at the age of 1819 I really started to learn very very intense I really got very into my learning and my Torah learning and I was so wrapped up in my to learning that I actually didn't want to get married till I was at least 26 27 and what was the reason cuz I wanted to finish the talmud I want to finish this I was so wrapped up in my learning that I finally my father would say no but um that I actually wanted to um I wanted to just sit and learn that was my joy that was my joy and I remember coming back from merage thr because uh I it was time for me to come back and I went to Sam Shiva in Brooklyn and my grandmother who um who was a very big and made over 100 herself herself actually she was one of those European reant that would go to a wedding and just go over to a girl and say I have a son or a son-in-law a son-in-law I have a son or a grandson I think you'd be perfect what's your number and name so I would actually stay away I would try to stay away as much as I can from you know from from the scene as we say but uh I remember getting a phone call from my mother um one day in Yeshiva and she goes I found a girl for you I found a girl for you a perfect shid do beautiful whatever it was I said Ma I I I'm sure you know already that we discussed this that I'm not dating till I'm 26 that's what I was thinking at the time so she goes no no no you have to I said Ma I don't know what you're talking about I'm not doing it because it's too late that's what she tells me I already set it up so I said okay um so I had to come up with some excuse that's the truth I did and it's funny because I knew the brother very well I never saw the girl but I knew the brother very well we were close friends he was always try to R me his sister all the time when I was in Israel and I had to come up with an excuse I came up with an excuse that my Rabbi doesn't want 6 months he can't go out yet I just came back so I went over to the miror yiva where he was at and I said to him I said you know I really my Riva doesn't want me to go out now he wants me to wait a few months and he looks at me like so why would you have said yes so what I was supposed to tell him that I didn't say yes it was my um it was my mother and my grandmother um so ended up I told my I I said no and I said at least 6 months I can't go out he tells me do you mind if she goes out with other people I said please let her go out with other people and 6 months almost to the night I remember my mother calls me and she says to me so 6 months are up you're going out I said I'm not ready yet psychologically I wanted to learn more she goes it's too late I already made the call and 37 years later I'm here I barash have children 33 year olds all the way down to 17 year olds and Bar so you just never know you never know where your comes from you never know where you could almost be pushing away a but if hasem wants it to take place it's going to happen it's going to happen no matter what I'm going to tell you a little story I want to tell you an unbelievable story I saw there was once a a a bck in Israel that had a terrible you might have heard the story because I'm sure PES I'm sure all these stories have been a little recycled which is beautiful but I'm just going to say the story that I that that that I read there was a story that there was a man that had a terrible scar on his face he had a terrible terrible scar on his face and because of that scar many many girls you know said no to him he went out of First Dates second dates at the most but everyone said no to him pretty much and he was he was at a loss because he was a very good catch he was a big bent Tor I guess if that's what this girl was you know girls were looking for I guess in ER girl where he was at in this neighborhood and people were just saying no to him left and right left and right they were saying no to him he didn't know what to do he felt really bad cuz he was a really a good C but he had a terrible scar on his face so he went toim kki he went toim keski and he asked what should he do soim said to him like this he said the first girl you go out with after this meeting with me I want you to tell her your story how you had how you got the scar on his on your face okay so he thinks to himself you know I don't want anyone to think any girl to think that I am conscious subconscious of my scar so if I bring it up on the first dat it's going to like that's what you know that like I'm not sure of myself but if kki told him to to to say it he's going to say it so he goes with he goes out with this special girl and as soon as he gets into the the lounge the hotel he says I need to tell you something I want to tell you how I got this scar on my face so doesn't say a word and he starts he proceeds to tell the story how he got the scar on her face when the girl heard this she she screamed and she got she was almost like a a scream but she was very excited about what he said and she tells him like this she I want to tell you a story and she tells him over this story she says when I was 17 years old a few years ago I was walking towards the kisil one night with a bunch of my friends and a and a bunch of Arabs came and attacked me they attacked me and they were going to whatever it was they attacked me and some yiva Bak came out of nowhere and saved her but during the saving this Arab took a knife and caught his whole face and she said and I was trying to see who is this person that saved me cuz I didn't end up finding out who he was and that was the end of the story and now I realize that it's you you were the person that actually that saved my life and they ended up getting married and they ended up having children and this is how the story goes so you just never know you never know where your comes from you never know in the most difficult places sometimes things that you think they're not even a match not even a match um I who sends to Yeshua he sends and I want to tell you that I was at this wedding last night actually like I was telling you about and I remember maybe a few months ago this girl actually is a very special girl that I went to the wedding but she was looking for a certain type of guy and her father wanted a different kind of guy and but and whatever it worked it ended up working out to the point that I was involved in the sh and I literally saw Miracles and the father called me up today and he says rebi I want you to know the n and that this came about is unreal and we went through every step of the Nim the Miracles because the end of the day Hashem runs the world and at the end of the day he is who we have to come to rely on so everybody has a sh everybody has a z the question is how when and where we don't know where the Yeshua sashem comes from we don't know where the salvation but there is that salvation but sometimes you just can't see where it's going to come from so it does come so I want to just tell you a masal a beautiful masal I saw the was this family that had no you know they were poor and they there was a lot of difficulties in this particular family and they were ding they were ding all the time to hasem to help them Hashem to help them and Hashem should help them it's only a Mas it's only a parable one day they hear a knock on the door and they open the door and they see seven people standing by this door Hashem sent to Yeshua who are these seven people one of them he asked their names one of them said my name is Joy my name is joy happiness the second said my name is wealth parasa good parasa the third one said my name is strength the fourth one said health and the fifth one said Faith so wow Hashem saved them he got he got somebody from wealth he got strength he got Health he got joy he got faith amazing except as he was asking them to come into the house one of them I don't know which one it doesn't make a difference said we all can't come in at the same time you can only pick one you could only pick one want you can either have joy you can have wealth you can have strength you can have health or faith so the family discussed it for a few minutes and they said you know what we're going to take Faith so they took Faith amuna they took the T the person called amuna and then all of a sudden all the other five walked in all the other four walked in and he asked but I thought only only one of you can come in so they answered that when you pick amuna when you pick faith we all come to together when you pick Faith you're picking all of us when we have a things that we that seem far farfetched for us to get who makes it happen who makes it happen now it's easy for me to say that's the truth it's easy for me to say do I know what people people go through but but I do believe I do believe when a person has true amuna at the right time at the right time Hashem says hem sends not Miracles even but what was meant for you I'll tell you another story that I actually I saw many years ago there was a an individual who was like 30 years old and he used to go to his Reba all the time he used to go to his reb all the time fish he used to go and his re said to him these words all the time he would say to him the thing is very near to you the thing is very near like the is is nearby and it's almost any day now that's what he that's what he envisioned so he goes back home all excited 6 months a year later two years later still not married still not married finally he goes back to this Reber and he says Reb you told me two years ago I came to you I trusted in you I had a in you and the Reb said no okay he's a little shocked he doesn't understand why a few years later he gets engaged gets engaged and it's a big Sim in the community and they make big parties for him and then at one of the Chev his friends decided they were going to make a video a clip a collage of of of Clips when he was growing up from when he was a little boy all the way up to where he is now so they're all sitting there watching this this thing and all of a sudden they took a video of him going to his rebba asking for asking for uh you know for shid and in the video they saw that the girl it was a it was was a type of thing where it was a man a woman they were all able to go together and they saw that the girl that he ended up marrying was standing right behind him and the rebber said to him what did he refer to that the matter was right next to him the Reb saw in his vision but this man didn't know what the rebba was talking about but obviously the rebba must have had a higher uh you know r a certain R KES that he he he saw something so nobody would have put two and two together but because they made this this collage they made this group of of of videos he was able to see how the Aisha was orchestrating how the Aisha was orchestrating now I have a lot to say here I don't want to I just want to just one point and then we'll open up to questions and answers I don't have all the answers I don't have all the questions but if you can you know I like to learn I like to understand and whatever we can do together we'll try to do together so I want to tell you an unbelievable thing that I saw from RM bbam that's RM burb was a rash in the m I learned big sadic big big Torah scholar big mat very big Russa from Europe already he was a big sadic so he went through a lot in his life he had difficult situations in his life whatever we're not going to go into we all have our our own you know you our own pek as we call it and he asked a question I remember was in the para ofev with yadik and he asked the question like this he said y overcame one of the greatest challenges in history that he's given the title sadik he overcame one of the greatest challenges in Jewish history that he was given the title by the he was given the title of sadik what was it the story with with the with the with the other women in in in M but he overcame all the challenges 100% And he was given a title special thing he overcame special thing he overcame what does Hashem do for him Hashem throws him into prison for the next 10 years so he asked a question burb he says I don't understand he overcame one of the greatest challenges that a human being can overcome where he was in the worst place in the world in Egypt in M the worst and yet he stayed pure and Hashem rewards him by throwing him into prison that's a reward that a person gets for that so I remember he said this in yish he said I'll say in yish and then I'll explain what he said so I remember him saying he said like this R he said is not everyone merits to have challenges in his life not everyone merits to have difficulties and challenges in his life and I want to tell you that is a lifechanging gamechanging way of thinking that whenever I say this ver Torah over to somebody there's like almost there's almost like a light bulb that goes off in their head that this is like this is that sometimes our challenges are our greatest rewards sometimes our challenges is what gives us the wings the strength to fly so it's easy for me to say but I I have stuff in I have stuff that I get challenged all the time within life in general bringing up children the right way whatever it is pis it's not the issue but the point is the challenges we go through have a I give us the opportunity to grow the word n comes from the word Ness which also means to uplift uplift to lift our challenges Lift us so sometimes we feel alone sometimes we feel that we're not you know we're not we don't have what we want in life but understand that if we somehow are able to embrace our challenges and we embrace the difficulties it gives you energy and strength and I've seen it in my life energy and strength to keep growing and growing and sometimes that's what Hashem wants not sometimes hasm always wants us to grow he always wants us to to build our wings that when we're ready to fly we'll be able to fly so I give you all the BR before I open up a question and answers I give you all the BR that hm you all should find what you're looking for not just find what you're looking for but to embrace what you're looking for and to be and to be but I do want to mention one last thing I do have to mention this few years ago I had a student of mine now I I've been teaching for close to 34 years in the bharan community in B 34 years ago on Grand Central so I was started to teach when I was 24 years old and my students were 17 so I'm 56 now and I have students that are 51 so just interesting you know like my students are almost my age they're almost my age so it's um it's just it's just a phenomenon and and I love all my bharian students love them I don't remember everyone's name I just was never good with names sadly they remember my name no but anyway but um but so it's it's it's a very personal thing for me to to get involved and and I want to tell you that a few years ago I was faced with something nothing terrible whatever was you know midlife crisis I would say a little bit something that that I wasn't myself the same joyful happy person and I had a student in mind that actually is part of this Kila and he told me a very very very very important CL he said you must train yourself to thank Hashem even in the most difficult times even in your most while you're suffering thank Hashem andbody said how is that going to change all of sudden I'm going to have money all of I'm going to have this come on and then I went and then I went to keski who was my re I went to the STI his father I remember going and I used to go once a year to to get a blessing even the bhha and the BR for like I would go for 2 three days you know and you know I see tell people what is that going to do how is that going to help me just thank Hashem thank Hashem so I want to tell you it's an unbelievable school I know people do school I have two older daughters actually and every type of schooler that's out there they're involved in I mean I come into my house and there are candles all over the house I I can't even begin to tell you all the school she has Shear them 40 times this that they built a coell in my house I don't even know what I just let it be but I I will tell you I will tell you that from the most special things that a person could do is even in the most difficult challenges while you're suffering or while you're in a difficult situation just train yourself to say thank you Hashem for this challenge thank you Hashem for this difficult situation and you're going to see I'm telling you that each one of you different ways you find Miracles everybody has his own miracle that he's looking for or that little bit of a sign that Hashem is with them that little bit of a sign so I give you that blessing the Braha that we should actually be able to thank hash and and and really say it even if you don't mean it even if you don't mean it just say it and uh it really I had a nest I had a big miracle happen to me when I started doing it two three weeks into this whatever it was I thanked Hashem and it was difficult and and M saw N I saw Miracles so I just want to leave you with that and now I'm going to open up for any questions that a person might have so I do uh apologize for uh the length of yes thank you thank you oh wow you see thanking hashm I'm not hasm but I hear you I hear you any questions yes if I heard correctly you were saying that some people you were saying don't have challenges everybody has challenges everybody has challenges no no no everybody has challenges and and as everyone's challenges are different you know somebody would to one person it might be called a challenge to somebody else it might not be called a challenge but um but I just I want to tell you I came here tonight and I I wasn't planning on being I have actually a lecture that I'm giving at 11:00 at night in my house my wife is a very special woman actually and today not it's only for only men yeah and um it's for boys Yesa boys and we're doing AES party actually I should mentiones to everyone you know it says in Nissan we were redeemed and benan in the future so hopefully this will be the month of everyone's Redemption everyone's redemption in this coming Nissan so I give you all a blessing and if there's no other questions I think they should all Rob anyway thank you for the time I am not RAB of no but I did the best I could so I do apologize thank Round of Applause to walk we're thank you walk for your tremendous remarks we're going to encourage everyone to stay we're going to have we're going to have music we're going to have um of course great food there's going to be the shum walking around they could help introduce and thank you everyone for joining us