Nittel Nach Event with Rabbi Chaim Dovid Zwiebel, Rabbi Chesky Kauftheil & Rabbi Ilan Meirov

[Music] oh me oh [Music] [Applause] ereptov welcome thank you very much you guys practice a little you get out of school for this anyways welcome to everyone and it's a uh a covered gut though for me to be here for schuster upon him and uh at this time this is the sunday night of course will be the fifteenth year's height of ramanakam rahul ravioli and 15 years goes by quickly but in terms of accomplishments what the islam has done that we have amishnas this island and it's something that i don't think ravanakham would ever believed but he'd be very proud and he would say if this is what is my legacy that i've done right and the islam is living his legacy because rebecca was an educator i remember one story rebecca he believed in education discipline doing the hard work no shortcuts and he was the head of the graduate doctoral program in yeshim university and aminaha was taking his doctoral courses through rabinacham we all know revan akam is a very very friendly friendly man sharp as they can but this mono thought reverend would give him a week let him pass to get his doctorate so we could call the doctor and let him just slide by i remember ronaldo saying to me what do i have i have my cleanuk my learning this is what i do and he wants me to take a shortcut i can't do it something is not in me so when he looks down at the island and he sees what's going on on the second floor and he sees the effort the work that's being done it's something that as being his students being a son i just could say one word to the islam borough park thank you [Applause] just thank you tonight i asked my rob this morning give me the definition of a scholar what's an oscar what what a community-minded people what does it mean and he said to me go to the pasha monsieur bainu mosher venu he saw a midstream hitting a jew he got involved he saw two jews fighting he got involved he saw a burning bush he got involved that's an oscar you get involved in the community you see something you say something you do something that could always be but you understand what a cries is i always remember my father teaching me arthritis and it was something that you did it because it was had to be done and um you did it with like you know the first time i was i remember it was 35 years ago and i was asked to be an abode and i told my father and he said you're gonna like this more than any of your basketball games okay he didn't tell the whole truth i still like my basketball games but the idea of be able to do something to make a difference to be something wrong do it what is to be a later when moshe albano comes in front of the snare and it's burning the famous the sparkle says take off your shoes why take off your shoes you know you take off your shoes you walk barefoot you're going to feel it you're going to feel the pebbles the stones you may even cut your foot who knows so was the idea the idea was very simple if you're going to be a leader you have to be a leader and feel it and always understand where you are and what are you doing it for very interesting [Music] i was involved in my children's yeshiva and i was involved with my children yeshiva my daughter was in the yeshiva and she was having a she had a tough time in school and my wife was very concerned you said find out who's going to be her teacher next year because if we know who the teacher is we'll see if it's matin for her it's gonna be work out she had some learning issues barack hashem now she's a mother of number of children she has a doctorate but hey back then it was a tough struggle so i found out the teacher was okay my son when it came time to him my wife says to me again could you find out who david's teacher's going to be i said no i can't just why not because he doesn't need it but he might have a my bad teacher okay then that's the way it's going to be and we'll fix the situation we're part of another one when i was my daughter honest a problem is one thing but the reason i'm involved in the yeshiva is not because of my son it's because someone has arthritis i remember we had a board meeting and there was a system in school that if someone wasn't doing something right he got fined he actually paid two dollars five dollars for not wearing a tie becoming late they had this system and one of the parents was complaining how could we do that how could you have that that's it's can't be it's not right as you know discipline in the school in yeshiva is the most important thing there's no discipline it's hefcabel so but here's this person who's making this kind of plea this kind of uh this this big argument and then i saw why was he making his argument because his son was fined his son had a thing so he says and he's a lawyer he's very connected he says and we have to have a committee say fine we're going to have a committee we made a committee he goes and i want to serve on the committee he goes no you cannot be on the committee why not because you have a personal endeavor a personal problem this is a seaborn that sibor has to be done in a way that's transparent the right way with no sticklers and that they know we have in our issue in on yeshiva we give out scholarship a lot of scholarships millions of dollars people can't afford it someone said to me could you check out my scholarship i said no there's a committee they handled if you want me to ask the committee to review your scholarship oh i asked him to do it again but i can't step in what i mean you can't you're the treasurer no no no there could be no protection when it comes to something like that it has to i don't have to know it's joshua and straight one of the things that we haven't beyond from our rebbe should be well his family has taught us you do things straight with no husbands to be involved and to get involved in the islam is an arthritis i tell everybody it's zacharias to be a beyonce it's a jew of christ why because we have a writer who learned from his from his ida how to do middles they used to say emotions that's all used to say you wanna learn me those go to beyond a rabbit how we act reflects on our rabbi i remember the first time that mastadov and schneid he was 17 years old at the time he pulls up to avenue k and east 18th street it's the first time he was going to drive the river from redmond ahm's house looks at him and says do you know what you're doing [Music] you're driving claudia's trial you understand your responsibility i feel here tonight as we look to become leaders let's tell stories you know rabbi's weibo who give us really he he's he's on the front lines he's been in the front lines but what he's going to say is that archarias of what the tough kid is and for us as beyonce i feel because we have a rubber how we act sacrifice how we go i said the story last time was here and it's nice to repeat it i have a very good friend he worked he was the managing director of a brokerage house from eu and one of the new recruits for the new employees comes up to him they've heard the story before he comes up to him and he says a very simple question can i wear a yarmulke a kippah and work simple question you boys are probably saying of course you can why can't you it wasn't always so simple that took some another time but he asked this question you know you know what my friend answered him yes if you understand the arthritis how you wear that yarmulke is how people are going to see a from jew lives you don't make jokes you don't double park your car and rock somebody in you act in a way that affirmative is gonna be judged when i was in ninth grade i was in ninth grade at hebrew academy of nassau county hank out in west texas and we were going to take a regents the test but we couldn't take it on yeshiva we had to go to the public school so we walked to the public school the regions was at one o'clock it's a biology regions and they called us down we thought we could have a review on the test the rover he didn't give us a review nobody gave us a review on how does one act when you're gonna walk into a room and you're gonna be wearing a yarmulke and they've never seen an orthodox jew that's how you're going to act now that was the muslim didn't care what grade were you in the bible regions but how are you going to be seen by the rest of i said again i'll say it so i until you get sick of it is an apparatus from the from the example that was set by the avos before us so tonight as we understand the idea of becoming a scanner to be leaders if we get involved we see a burning bush we see what's going on there we have to remember the acharyas we never could leave us as who we are and yes it's important to get recognition support to do it but how you're seeing is what it's all about how you act so again i thank you for the opportunity and we have a number of speakers coming up and i'd like to start the program because rabbis zweibell yes rabbi zweibel from the good of his royal who has been so kind to give us a sign yeshukaya thank you very much mr edelsberg for those beautiful words uh and um what can i say a preview of some of the thoughts that i wanted to deliver as well so yes the difference will be that tonight i get to practice my yiddish a little bit i don't often have the opportunity to speak english we'll try tonight a little bit with the bishop i grew up on the upper west side of manhattan and the biannual clause the rebels the foreign [Music] by the way he spoke english to us he seems to say that i have organic soil in my blood in uh is foreign but this is this is this is for me i'll also depart from my yiddish presentation for just a moment to say especially to rabbi who i think we will be hearing from a little bit later you see here where are you oh there you are okay very good thank you very much i don't know i don't know if the story over my ear of in this community is going to be discussed at great length tonight but i have to tell you it's an amazing thing this is a yid who comes from the bukharan community in queens we know very little about the bukhari community here in borough park i hope tonight there's going to find out a lot more about the bakkharan community uh in queens these are our brothers and what is being done with them is a remarkable thing through the work of rabbi meirov and his and we're going to hear a little bit about tonight but i just wanted to say it if part of the theme of tonight's program is claudius and our eyes to the cloud the cloud certainly is there there are many different protem that make up the cloud one of the beaut um has its own responsibility its own special kunas its own special role to play but it's all part of a kanye's role and that's something which we have to always remember and rabbi mahirov and the work that he does with the bukharan community is something that we should hold very very precious yeah thank you robert for inviting me to uh also here tonight robbie bistritsky to you and olga from the west side and uh hashem here we are together from the vote i rave him push it we touch it arrave him we are all responsible for one another yes especially the is the fate of every eat what what's what's this elbow [Music] the whole is greater than the sum of its parts right each individual is quite the solution [Music] a a relationship with the state education department new york state legislature in america and i've been born in the state education department the new york state education department for sergey commissioner donald nolan it's aggravating the assistant commissioner that's actually the number two person in the state education department and zan mcsayer has given higher education higher education minds no high school from the federal regular from the federal government in washington in a post-secondary institution this highest new high school talker in our mission college was high star college as as as lots of understood the gazettes from the new york state education department as this is a this is a school which is recognized by the states in the state education department the assistant commissioner as our brief was fascinating a college was his was this is recognized was that it was new york the state new york state uh and i can't as this is our college sort of shareable besides because the address is do and do and the in this can the mention was then and this was after him and then get the mention the next day he writes about him in the the the a hearing in the united states senate and the hearing was about corruption in the pell grant program the pell grant program is the program tacos banker and guild for the colleges in in america in uh the united states senate the committee on education from the hearing is given devoted to a college of judaic studies in um department with commissioner nolan and stafford home debrief husband ken and as as insanity anakin uh i'll talk college do in new york so rabbi sharon called up assistant commissioner nolan and that dungeon rabbi you know i trust you more than anybody else in this world you you are full full of credibility by me but we can't continue to do what we used to do okay i can't give i can't give you the letter after the hearings on capitol hill in the united states senate and what was what came out of those hearings said commissioner nolan and particularly with respect to a school of judaic studies we decided over here in the new york state education department that we need certain documentation and we need to come down to the school for a visitation and we need to do all kinds of different things we can no longer just take you by your word nuclear phone call at my angry infancies office of share and ether [Music] was this was our secret weapon the reputation the shem tov and yes from the pell grant program in a hearing of capitol hill in my life a cloud of shash this is versus this is yes [Music] a new amendment in the state regulation with the state education commissioner richard mills rick mills in uh next movement at kim khan new york and new york city drinking a cup of coffee together appointment office it so rick when did you come into town came in from albany he said i came in last night oh really where do you stay overnight when you come to new york to the city i stayed in the brooklyn marriott really it says and you know he said i saw something very interesting i said what was that he says i went down after i checked into my room i went down to the lounge to get a drink whatever and i looked over at a certain table across the way and i saw that there was a young man wearing a dark suit dressed up very nicely and across the table from him was a young lady and they were having a very serious conversation and then i looked at the next table and there was a young man in a very nice dark suit having a conversation with the young lady and i looked around the whole room and there were six such tables that this was going on so i was getting a little nervous there i said to him so so what did you think of this rick he said at first i was a little bit taken aback but then he said i thought to myself that's the way it should be this is the way it should be done the problems we have in this state with education with children children are growing up without a father they don't know who their where their home is they've broken families they have all these kinds of situations they come into a world there's no sense of responsibility by their parents and that's why we have all the problems that we have in the state a community like yours says if this is the way you start your families through such serious conversation and so on that's that's the way it should be done that's the way it should be done [Applause] the regulation was what is so sometimes when people ask foreign defended from from the jail came in and i read those same and he says now [Music] the side out or else bringing in is as as we will have esteemed for the qualitaka as a medville episode for the clown the best of egg off the thing for the quality voting everybody should be registered to vote everybody should vote then more attack lagoon heights is it's a in a brief la muscle the the state education department dolores he gave him the the proposed regulations for your vegan media and yeshiva's hindi fed sick thousand briefs to all the suffering institute thank you very much [Music] oh is i [Applause] oh [Music] is foreign [Music] [Applause] yes [Music] [Applause] is [Applause] yes oh [Music] oh [Music] hello me [Applause] we oh foreign me [Music] hey is oh [Applause] oh um [Music] boy oh boy [Music] oh [Music] boys bye [Music] [Applause] [Music] oh [Music] is [Music] [Applause] yes [Music] is foreign [Music] oh [Music] [Applause] we have a number of questions that we feel the panel could address and i think the first one is someone uh that would like to ask each to say and before you say introduce yourself and tell us something about yourself the first question is every leader has a role model and how has he impacted you um my role was first of all my father was a tremendous aston a movie what miami called unfortunately a working heart of an answer and made his whole terrorist muscle he actually made another [Music] that was focused on respecting others everything that we did in our house was acceptable except speaking english or speaking badly about another that was unacceptable that was like the most the biggest known house so from this point of view my parents delay [Music] uh [Music] many many things one of the first lessons i learned from uh came on one of the first days that i saw it working he came into my office and he doesn't pay any attention to me whatsoever but he starts looking at all the pictures of the world and starts stranging their mouths and he turns around and he says um [Music] my name simple is in queens and if there's a certain person i look up to when it comes to scuttles and why i learned a lot from generally it would be someone that's totally new someone that's been around the block but for me believe [Music] at the age of 15 i would see how we would run around just doing simple testing for people running around to see how he can promote [Music] that partial papers uh giving that food for the baby 15 years old 16 years old so i was i was astonished by his behavior and by his desire to do good supply as well and that's what will push me to do what i'm doing you know seeing my other brothers nothing happens by after vodka robert mcgrath when i was thinking of this question i had a story that i wanted to say to the younger light here and you said so approximately 25 years ago i was in kennedy airport going to erich's role for pesach and who do i see i say reply and brim there's little satchel i say to my two sons both of them are like 10 once one was 12 and one was eight they say boys there's rev high and brim go cake a satchel they run over my son david is a little bit of a wise guy you know dad he's like rabbi breyer i go what do you mean he's a ground kisser why when he gets to eric's israel he gets on his knees and he kisses the ground he goes over takes his satchel in the airport i didn't see it was one of the most i would say very quiet kavira me ever going to meet very quiet very successful and just a goddaught entire and government good on every single may know his name i'm embarrassing he's not here his name is ruby shrum ruby strong comes over to me in the airport and this is someone who could have anything he wants but he says to me how do you know the copyright and grab replying britain's bag and i said very simple biannual see them stick together but what impressed me was what impressed this this ruby shroud and maybe you'll know him you're telling the story i don't feel different because i really don't know him that well what impressed me is what was important to him and what he did our next question gentlemen gotta get back this thing is this is uh okay we have a lot of young people here what will you tell this younger generation to encourage them to get involved in the needs of claudius royal and we'll start the opposite way now from a gentleman from queens [Music] number one the evidence is it can be very intimidating sometimes depending on what cause you're getting involved with there's a lot of price a lot of responsibilities uh many times you do things you always get criticized so number one if you realize the ones [Music] a lot of difficult cases i was actually at turning point is going to be missy and barkington has rebated they always told me he let me not work his bedroom beside the budget don't worry about the criticism if you're working really what you have to do you got to go forward because there's so many in younger classrooms new fresh blood to get involved with so many different uh matters of concern so a person has to realize if you have the authorities jump into it have a rough guide to you you'll see tremendous love but the one i think we have those people beside us is a lot of like on variables though just because you are icing the target seaboard doesn't mean you're pumping from your fries at home it's a major problem [Music] but before flies don't need to help you why don't you need your help too so i think this is this is probably the biggest tip i will tell you number one is not to be deterred by failure or by criticism do what you believe is endless and how to guide you up [Applause] what i say will be a response to the question but i'd like to offer an observation which i think i think is correct and it troubles me sometimes people say that the young generation is empathetic they aren't really here they're all interested in themselves of course because of course their generational issues and [Music] so i get a lot of physical bright future in terms of uh [Music] is [Music] and this is [Applause] so one of the things i think is really important is um young people understand that and they turn their whole focus on the business and as if business is some kind of separate world sometimes i talk to different people and i bring up some ideas is he says [Music] so the important part that a lot of people and i'm talking to people that are in business very often or just young people who are aspiring to be with they keep on thinking for people that are out there they're special they to create a wonderful i don't have any spanish i've talked to a lot of business people that are successful young people they do deal with the real estate in my country and i sit down and i say we're sisters so i can [Applause] and i show them what it takes to do a business deal in order to do a business deal to get one real estate deal done what you have to go through in terms of your appraisals and lead lawyers and actuaries and engineers and architects there's so much that they have to go through everything costs so much money so much people close deals and i sit down and say do you know if you would take 10 of your money but not only [Music] house will be fixed all problems there's so much trouble going on today so many dealers and wheelers and buyers and sellers and and and designers and all that the goal is because they think that's important and one other big message i have for business people especially when they talk to me they say well but you're also business are you working so hard you're an aggressive business yeah you know something that you should master local you need money in order to be able to accomplish things that's how the world works so yes you could be in business and you could work hard for business and like i said before to work hard and work straight and work airlift but then in the end of the game in the end of it you know what's going to be important like when you come to shaman you know and risk he took i don't feel like you're always so afraid you don't want to risk you taking it take business same amount of risk and pointed towards [Music] almost towards uh kids in in queens that's saying about that you may be able to change the world so that's the message to young people is to just don't look at yourself as incapable of every person is capable of changing the world you know why because if not it wouldn't be very small that's my [Music] or is it something else and then you see something you see something that looks wrong finally [Music] in all of your work the three of you are very much involved and you see a lot of problems you get a lot of phone calls what do you see as the number one issue the front burner issue for claudius rail to attack go after so he'll run by his weibo rank the issues very hard but i think the most important thing is [Music] maintaining and preserving [Music] the um status of our children our future diaries um pick one issue ultimately the question is are we fulfilling that foundation mission that we had [Music] [Applause] or [Music] they don't feel like they're making it and therefore they feel a little sensitive maybe because of worthlessness and that's what kind of pushes them up and their father throughout this study [Music] so i think we have to maybe uh make every single child every single dog or every single girl feel valuable for whatever they're doing they're good you know i'm saying insurance is not very where it should be zero [Applause] is giving that attention and love for every single child unconditionally i'll tell you this a quick a story uh uh there were two people from my opinion in queens they came to me in their early 20s mid-20s and uh and when when i heard your story many of you probably heard it as well but because we definitely heard about it but they were both in public schools in public school and they went to a little after school program and then uh a certain insight into a good trip before a certain [Music] in that time period eventually propelled these two buffers and today they're running probably the biggest you should go with that wall touringtown.com [Applause] [Music] [Applause] [Music] over the past four or five years [Music] will fall between the tracks [Applause] [Music] you know issues out there um i'm a big fan a disaster happening right in our neighborhood that can be fixed literally a couple of dollars so that's an incredible thing i encourage you to help support um on the other hand i'm also very concerned one of the things that started me off on this quest almost 18 years ago was i i come from a cannibal actual [Music] them today they came to my house and shoppers with cameras and they played this process i'm working um but i started walking that when i came back to america and i wanted to work here here and i started looking at what's happening with india and what i found was that the friars were getting so much infusion of the moon and then the activity even and getting a lot is [Music] my kid is going to failure he doesn't talk about this but he knows interesting stories about the powershell and even has a lot of digital mixes because he's not connected like it's like knowing and feeling simple also a lot of the blood of focus was around you know teaching kind of teacher pushing for children to allow the channel but told me something very incredible and i only learned this when i was 18. [Music] when i was younger that was obsessive ruling [Music] that the question is what's an intelligent and safe way to use technology [Music] which last [Applause] business people were going into the right there wasn't something kosher them to look at as a option we started focusing on as he's saying that [Music] accepting not to be accepting what it is [Music] uh [Music] there's a lot a lot to do and i always say to people um and that there are four kinds of people in the world some people don't see any problems because the time because [Music] but then the fourth kind of person said [Music] if you're a person that wants to do something that doesn't have a complaint that has an idea that wants to roll up this piece and shoot a little bit who says call me come to me after we talk with you and i'll try to see if we can do something i think i thank you all i think we should have one last story from our own piano representative this is 1947. some of you might know this but it's good repeating the year's 1947 the south arriver coming from europe and he's spending the first shabbos and he comes out for he comes to the lower east side 247 east broadway you heard the story at all okay he comes out and river comes in and he says everything is going to be like the aldehyde i'm doing everything like the out behind the analogy says to him impossible ef you can't do it no no no no no i'm doing it give me a brother says you can't do it gives him a bracha goes on his way the next day he calls him rub his throat love a shovel says to his son rub your throat gives him an envelope full of cash two thousand dollars and says to him take this envelope looks at him and says i don't get it yesterday you were so against this idea and today you want to give him money i have one more question for you where did you get two thousand dollars from we don't have that kind of money the rebel looks at him and says i came in 1928. i also said i want everything like the out the heim but i saw it was impossible i couldn't do it but i knew one day someone's going to come i'm going to meet him and he's going to be able to do it i met that person yesterday i've been saving five dollars ten dollars every week so i have the money to give to the person who i knew could do the job take it to the saka rabbit the idea of the story is that's what was saying be prepared but recognize once you someone who's bandwagon you can get on and really be mad with him recognize greatness as our rebbe did and don't get into ego is that he's crazy he's that but understand the match thank you good night