Hashem’s Love Behind the Pain | Rabbi Yitzchok Bistritzky | Tisha B'Av

Thank you to Rabbi and to it says that tishab in the afternoon is laid msiach. Mashiach is born. It doesn't mean just the general mashiach. It means that by each one of us each and every Jew there's a latest mashiach in his heart. And I think it's very a part thing to say that Kazak and Torah any time are part of bringing Msiah by reaching out to so many so many that hear the Torah and so many that they take out of public school to bring to the which is probably the most important thing to be doing nowadays. Hashem should help all of them and they should be and they should be able to to continue what they're doing even more so with the with the full with the full strength that Hashem gives them. So in the last uh day I read a little like many people do read about the history of Kalisrael the many pains and challenges and surro that am Israel experienced in the days of gullis and one of the famous times of pain and tragedy is Spanish inquisition. So I noticed something. We all want to give the greatest model to our children, right? We all tell our children you should grow up like Ravady, like Ramosa Feinstein, like Baba Sali, you know, we always try to teach them and tell them stories of Gdali is to give them the rats, to give them the will that they should want to be like them. And I think there's a mistake going on. I have a question for you. Are the Moranos heroes or not? The Moriranos of Spain, were they heroes or not? Now, we're not coming to we're not coming to um you know to talk anything bad about people, right? But the answer is no. They are not our heroes. The moranos of Spain did not do what the Torists told them to do. The heroes were the 300,000 people that left Spain when they were given the option of converting or leaving Spain. Those are the heroes because they did what the Torah obligates. When a person is given a choice of converting to Christianity or of being killed, he is he is obligated to let himself be killed. And that's what we have to give in to our children and ourselves. We should be ready for that. You know it says that when a person says twice a day or four times a day if you say by what should a person be thinking says the rajbah one of the he should be thinking that if someone is going to give me the choice of bowing down and Christianity has the same den it's I will be I will let myself be killed. And that's something that prepares us and ingrains the amuna. And that's the amuna. That's the real amuna. That's the foundations of of yiddesh kite that we want to bring into ourselves and our children. So I think we have to have our priorities set. I was just you know I was reading it and I was thinking you know like many you know they have these books about the morals and all types of stories and I'll show the whatever they do but if you look into the you ask the look into the of those days there's it's a different picture entirely they came afterwards they didn't want to take them in they did take them in they have to get malus for all what they did you know it's it's uh it's not posh I'll tell you some stories about some heroes and I'm going to read you from book that's called Those Who Never Yielded. I don't know if if you all heard about it, probably some heard about. There was someone in the World War II, a young man that was born in a secular home, totally assimilated home in Vienna. His name was Mati Leeman. And Matti Leeman was was in 1933 when there was the anelus. Mati Leeman was called in his top top private school. Someone called him you dirty Jew. And that that guy probably has a lot of scar because that turned on Mati Libman to become a figure in Poland that we that was re reverted like Mubad like everyone looked up at him. And you know how old Mati Liebin was when he when he became religious 15 years old. But Mati Libwin was a genius and he had a a a lofty soul. And when he became religious, he went to Lublin and he became one of the greatest young men of the generation. And when the war broke out, he arranged like groups of Geridum, young Gera boys that they made a revolution against Hitler. What was there the revolution? The Nazis used to come into a town, into a city, into Krakco, into Warsaw. Everyone had to have a working card. Whoever didn't have a working card, no rations, right? They went against it. They They were not mites. They did not have anything. They didn't uh um write themselves into a list. They were totally revolutionaries. But what did they do? They went closed themselves up in a room and they learned and they dab and they made hideouts and some yidden raman used to give them to eat but when they didn't have to eat they starved and that was mati libman they used to call them the matistan matisio's people matisio's men and I'm going to read you a couple of stories from it in short my older brother Nafulli this is someone yo Bernstein he was a he who lived here in New York. He was a diamond dealer and he's writing like this or he's narrating. My older brother Nafulli, he managed to jump out of a first floor window and escape. Fal, the younger one was imprisoned along with his comrades. They were put through all sorts of hellish tortures because they were so well hidden that the Nazis thought when they caught them in KCO, they thought that they're from the underground. So they put them through all sorts of hellish tor hellish tortures in order to make them reveal the secrets of their underground. They were beaten bloody after one beating. The wounded bleeding lads met for a moment in a carer in the hallway. Mosha Liss who knew the Jewish calendar by heart quickly called out to my brother Fal. Tomorrow night we begin to save a saint tal. Those were the types of boys, young boys that we were talking about. They caught them. This is a different town. And they caught them. They caught a group. I know very little about what happened to my crown raids after I left them, the one that survived. And they caught them. And on Sunday morning, a tremendous they brought them to the to the plaza with a whole they had a big slaughter. A tremendous slaughter took place in the ghetto at Peace Plaza. Obumira House, the chief murderer ordered his men to open machine gun fire on all the men who had been flushed out of their hideways. Aram Kleiner, however, had something else to worry about. Several weeks earlier, his wife had given birth to the fir firstborn, a son. The 30th day from the child's birth, the day when a Jew is obligated to fulfill the commandment of redeeming the firstborn, turned out to be the very Sunday of the awful slaughter. Aram did everything in his power to fulfill that mitzvah. That means he was running around when there was this great slaughter and he had nothing else on his mind besides being mahim the mitzvah of and that's a hero that our children need to hear about. And then there's this famous there's this famous 17 boys a group of 17 boys. I don't find it now inside but I'll say it I'll just say it outside. There's the 17 boys that were caught and they were put away in prison for a longer time and then afterwards they brought them to Plaso camp. I don't know if you people read read up on the Holocaust. It's important thing to do and they were brought to Claso camped and in Plaso camp there was someone a terrible terrible Russia. He was called Gaus Geho. And he brought them and he asks what are these people? So they told them their talmudists because when they came to be killed they let down their pis and they came with their beards and pis and they had 17 boys. So they they said oh the talmudis give them a half an hour to pray. He was laughing. So they had an unex unexpected his damnut an unexpected chance and they went and they asked forgiveness from one another. And then Y is Rosenswag, one of the boys, asked permission to speak. And he was given that permission and he didn't speak long. He just spoke to his friends and told them we're we're being given the opportunity to be mim the mitzvah of keshm. We have to do it. Everyone should be put in sim into their hearts. and they started dancing and they danced to death. They danced until the time was up and they started shooting at them and that's how they were killed. So they are our heroes. I'd like to speak a little about being everyone has their challenges and pains in life and we have to know how to accept it and how to have amuna and strengthen ourselves and I feel that just like it says that sukus is sukus is a time that we collect sim for a whole Year pes is a time we collect we collect freedom of a whole year is a time we collect a of for a whole year a of for a whole year. The nine days is a time that we collect amuna and and to teach ourselves how do we ex uh how do we accept the hard times? How do we find that nakuda that point the ray of light in the hard time? How do we accept and find a ray of amuna in the hard times? And I think that would be the lesson of the nine days. We all know probably by now that the 22 days from Shivas until tishab including tishab is connected the 22 days of the yamim fromash till after the first day of which is considered in this says that the greatest day in the year is so the first eight days of the first eight days of the nine days is kged the eight days of sukkot that's mansenu which means that the eight days of darkness and of hester ponim and of that we experience in the nine days those days ini that's just on the outside just a masquerade of it's a masquerade of darkness but really inside there's light in these eight days and the greatest day which is tishabove and that's why when Mashiach comes tishabove will be the greatest yontiff and if tishabove is going to be the greatest y when mashia comes that means that now it's really there we just don't see it but it's there the greatest light that's possible is yov so I think that that's the key to understand on our personal pains and our personal challenges the key to understand it is from the nine days. And I think that the first thing is that a person has to realize that everything what happens is really a message from Hashem. Everything what happens is just a message from Hashem. And the Gmorra says like this many pe many people are learning. Now it says like this we mentioned him in the kennus today by the rug malus one of those that were killed because he taught toraim and he wasn't allowed to according to Roman law so he was killed on the with they burnt him together with a safer now this went to visit Benisma and Benisma says hey I hear you learning tora why you doing it? So he says, "No, I have to do it." Okay. But then afterwards he asks him asks, "Am I going to have or not?" Okay. So what does say you talking about someone that was to teach to the masses? So he says, "Do you have anything to show for yourself?" She says, "Yeah, I had I made a mistake and I used my money that was put away for Purim. I used it for and I didn't take it back. Once I realized my mistake, I let it go. I didn't take it back." Oh, that's what happened. So, it's really it's really a little hard to understand that you're talking about someone. I mean, this this is something that could happen to all of us, right? I mean, sometimes you mix up a couple of dollars. Oh, okay. Let it stay for charity. Let it stay for sodaka. So, what's this thing that that So, I saw brought down that it just showed he he wasn't ready. He was he didn't want to give that sodaka. But since it happened, the mixup he understood that even something that happens as a mixup is not mikra. It didn't just happen. It's something that Hashem is sending in a message. And once saw that you live your life like this that any small thing that happens to you any big thing that happens to you is a message from Hashem. If you live your life that way, you're a benum. I saw a friend told a story from Raelve. So he said rebel said that he was a small child in a town paltova in Luania and he comes into shul he lived in the town and he walks into shul and he sees they're saying till there like you know the rafters are being lifted they were saying to him with such a reesh with such feeling and emotion the people of the town plain people so he asked them right away who's sick what's going on the child asked someone who's sick so they said no one's sick so what What happened? There was an earthquake in Japan. There was an earthquake. So, so what happened? So, he said that means that this of Hashem, Hashem is angry at something. And if Hashem is angry at something, it means us. That means that a message to know that whatever happens to us is a message from Hashem. That is step number one. Step number two is we have to realize how Hashem we'll never realize it. That's the truth. We'll never ever realize how Hashem loves us. But even take the day of tishabove. We all know that when the Tus came into Shakadashim, what did he see? The kuim were upon him. They were facing each other. Now at the worst time of tragedy that Clal Israel had it was connected what's because let's say for example there's a a doctor that he's a surgeon and he has to operate on his son and he's in the middle of operating on his son and the anesthesia something goes wrong and the son is screaming and crying. Does he love his son? He's cutting. He's cutting further. He's cutting. But does he love his son? He loves his son them then more than he loves his son when he's playing with him at home. Because the rahim of a person, the of a person become gets revealed in tough times. When I have to do something tough to my child, that's when it gets revealed. when Hashem had to be the mikdash and send us into gullus it would the was revealed theava and that's the lesson of tishab to remember that when hashem does something to us personally as a y as an individual and it looks like it's a terrible thing happening just remember hashem is operating on you he's doing something for your good. He's amputating a finger to save you. The Reb, he said he was a child. He walked into a bank and he saw a person coming in and taking out a bunch of bunch of money, cash and giving it to the teller. And he said he felt so bad for him. He has to pay so much money. He felt so bad for him. And then he sees a couple of minutes later someone comes over to the teller and the teller sends him to the manager and the manager gives him a whole stack of cash and he was so happy for for the person but he said I got a little older and I realized that the first person was putting his own money into the account and tomorrow and the next day and the next year he's going to be getting interest on it and he's very happy about it. the other person that had to take it was a loan and he's going to have to pay interest on that and it's hard for him to pay back. So the rakmonus is really on the person that had to take a loan and not on the person that was able to make a deposit of so much cash. So too is the same thing by us. Sometimes we have tough times. We have to realize that it's not always the way it looks. It's not always the way it looks. Sometimes the the tough times are the times that we're really gaining. We're really gaining out of that. If be it money, be it even from the children, sometimes we have some from their children. We don't understand Hashem's. But we have to realize, we have to have a we have to remember how Hashem loves us like no one else. You know, sometimes you have the you're knocking on someone's door, you ring the door and it's light. You see there's the hole in the in the door and it's there's light coming out. But when the person comes to the door to look at you, it becomes dark. So too is it by Hashem. Sometimes it's dark. That's when Hashem is looking at you even closer. I saw someone once came to a big sadic and he told him how bitter it is, how hard of a life he has and how tough it is. He's having so many problems. So he told him, you know, take a bottle of Brumen. Take a bottle of of bourbon. Right? It's not sweet. It's bitter. But someone who understands Brumin, someone who understands bourbon knows that it's good bourbon. So too sometimes life is bitter but we have to realize that the bitterness sometimes is good for us not sometimes it's always good for us we may sometimes you realize it down the road but many times we don't realize it but we have to believe it and we have to internalize it I saw a story that there was a person that uh in Israel that I think it was that a a snake bit the person and the they rushed him to a hospital and they were able but he became unconscious. He was three weeks in the hospital and they hashem he was saved. So he comes after the three weeks and he goes to the doctor and says you know I really want to thank you for all that you did for me. You saved my life and the doctor says you know you have to bench go. So he says yeah I know I have to bench gas. Yeah you know you have to bench go. You don't know for what. He says I want to tell you something. They found cancer in you and we decided first we have to be metapel with the snake which is an immediate danger and they put in whatever medicines they have to and then we started being metapel with the with the cancer and believe it or not it was healed. We saw that it it was healed. It became healed. What happened? The poison of the snake healed the cancer. It was like it was like treatments but it was the snake's poison. The of the snakes's poison. I don't know exactly how it works but that healed the cancer. So what started as a terrible tragedy really brought about a a great for this person. I once heard from he says that a person starts the day many people start the day with a coffee. What do you have a coffee? You have coffee which is bitter and you put in sugar which is sweet. You have milk which is cold and you have hot water which is hot. It's say to Hashem, I don't know what my day is going to look like. If it's going to be a bitter day, it's going to be a sweet day. If it's going to be a hot day, it's going to be a cold day. But whatever it is, everything is from Hashem. Everything is great. And I trust you, Hashem. And I spoke to I was speaking to someone on Friday uh elder sick man and he tells me that there was a story I thought it was a marshall he tells me he remembers it happened 40 years ago there was a truck that came to a tunnel and what happened was it said on the thing you know limit of 15 ft and the truck said okay I know I'm I'm just about 15 ft I'm almost 15 feet so I should make it but you know not every place in the tunnel was 15 feet. It was like just and he came to a place where got stuck and everybody was trying to get the truck out. How do we go? We go forward, you go backwards. What do we do here? Until a young guy came with a mic solution. He said, "Take some air out of the tires and you'll take some air out of the tires. The truck will lower itself." So I heard this I saw someone writes this as a mush that the same thing what when you have a problem you have it there's an there's a solution be mak yourself lower yourself a little take the air out of your tires be yourself to hashem say hashem I don't understand everything I know that what you're doing is good for me I know that I don't have an understanding and take the air out of your tires is throw yourself in Hashem's hand. This beloved says means I am to Hashem just like a child that that sucks from the mother's breast. Now, a child that sucks from the mother's breast is a small child, right? If you're going to call him up on his tiny phone in his ear and you're going to ask him, "Where are you? What are you doing?" say, "I don't know. I'm with my mother." And you'll call him a day later, or he's traveling a trip, and you call him 10 miles later. What do you Whatever you ask him, where are you? What are you doing? What's he going to say? I'm with my mom. That's what he's going to say. Because he's small child that is totally dependent on his mother. David says to Hashem, "Hashem, I'm totally dependent on you." We have to feel our heresim should be a total dependence on hashem and I saw a story that happened in World War II. I don't most of you maybe many of you have heard of vice he was someone that uh he was someone that did a lot for for the in the war time was himself captured and he was put on a plane to Awitz. There was no deceiving. He knew exactly exactly what's going on. And he knew that as soon as he gets to Oshwitz, he and his wife may be the um saved. They may be put into camp. He was supposed to be killed right away. He had an order to be killed right away, but his wife may be saved, maybe not. The children that were with him will definitely be be killed right away. So he spoke to his wife and he told her like this. I want you to jump off the train with me. I want you to jump off the train with me like this. You'll have a chance of being saved. I the children will be without their mother for an hour or two. Okay? But you're not going to save them anyway. They're just going to because if you're going to come with the kids, they're going to kill you, too. So, you're obligated. Alra, you ask someone else who anyway is not jumping on the train. Ask them to hold on to your kids to be with them at the toughest moments of their lives. But save your life, a human life. I just want to tell you something. When he came to America, he saw that there was a shas that was printed in the war years. He couldn't get over it. You could have taken that money and saved a Jewish a Jewish girl of three months old. What are you wasting money on a shas for in the middle of a world war? Human life of a of aided was more than anything. So he explained to his wife, you got to do it. And he always he used to tell the Tamid Nitra, everyone should go with a with a razor in their with a knife in their shoes and they should be prepared. If they put them on the train, they should be able to cut out. So he got on the train and he cut himself a window to jump. Now, and he has an agreement with his wife that they're both jumping together. Now the train had when it's going very fast, it's hard to jump, right? It's very dangerous. So what do you do when it comes to a curve? When the train has to slow down, that's the right time. And he knew exactly, you know, what's happening. So he made up with his wife, that's when we're going to jump. And the train uh curved and it made the curve and what happened was the child who was standing right next to the mother fell on his on her on his lap on her lap. And is saying, you know, I'm jumping. You're coming after me. And she said, "I have a child on my lap. I can't take a child off my lap. If the child is on my lap, I can't take her off." And that's how she went to Owitz and was killed. I saw a Talmud of his rights. We say to Hashem, "Throw yourself on Hashem's lap. You'll show throw yourself on Hashem's lap. you'll be able to tell Hashem, don't throw us off. And that the more we're dependent on Hashem, the more we we internalize that everything what Hashem does for us is good, we more salvation we'll have and the more Yeshua will have. I'll just finish. I saw from this is a contress from Repimea Zberg and I'll just finish. He says he writes over here or that he said in the Tory that he spoke shall he he wrote that they should everyone should be misper so it's in Yiddish and I'll translate it he asks in in we should scream from the depth of our hearts tat which is father father have mercy on Gel very very very fast. How many years will we still be in exile? How many years will we be in gulus admosite? Till when is this going to h is going to happen? So let's allow from now's the time to be is here. There was latest we should be to see it. Amen.