HaRav Ovadia Yosef ZT"L 12th Yahrzeit Event | CHAZAQ

Good evening. Welcome everyone to tonight's very special event. We're commemorating the 12th site of Raba. Of course, we're have great inspiration tonight from the renowned of course tonight. Of course, I thank of course Torah for partnering on tonight's event. And um just a quick word um wrote this his yard site is always around the the para paras Noah and there's a there's a connection definitely a strong connection the connection so I heard something from Mansour he said that that um you talk you look at Noah of course we know there's a famous rashi what does it say it says that Noah was a was it sadic right so I'm saying that's that's what the pak says so if you look at the rashi so according to one one interpretation It's like a it's a positive thing that even though he generation which maybe we're doing the right things he was still a but the other side it's it's um it's a contradict it seems like it might be a contradiction because maybe it's saying it's not such a positive thing like it says Noah has to make for himself the the ark. What does it mean for himself? Like he says like for the the lul of the on the first day you have to take it for yourself. What does it mean for him? um that that he was supposed to go out and lead and lose some sleep from his eyes and and go out and lead the people, but he didn't do that necessarily to the utmost part. He was so he he was supposed to lead the people, but instead he didn't do that. So what he had to do, he had to go out and lead the animals and and and and spend an entire year of doing that. And and what does it say when he leaves the ark? It says he has to be commanded to leave the ark. Hashem says leave the ark. So maybe you don't have to be maybe you doesn't have to be commanded to leave the ark but Hashem was telling him leave your philosophy of being confined and only only caring about yourself and your family. And of course um um of course was a person who was one of the greatest Torah scholars of our generation. But but of course he wrote so many amazing but what did he do? He closed the the the book the safer and he went out and gave Shirim and did so much kiraov and impacted millions of people around the world. So of course um that's where we're here tonight from from uh um students and personal recollections of of of the great rabbi from from students and people who who are very close with him. So it's a great great call upon the or [clears throat] I hope everybody can hear me without the mic. I don't know if it's necessary. [clears throat] First of all, thank you for the introductory remarks to uh to Rabbi. I was not z to see to meet him to to speak to him to be slapped on the on the cheek by him as many people were. But obviously I don't think there's a person that's in this room or in Queens or probably in the world, Jewish persons certainly that had could say I didn't have an impact from him. Whether you like him or you don't like him, everybody was impacted by I just begin with this. There is a mitzvah to be must to eulogize a person who passes away. It's already 12 years later. So our eulogy is not to arouse tears and crying because time has already passed and some of the pain has already left. But the mitzvah of is not just to cause people to cry. probably I think there are two reasons for the number one because we want to show appreciation for the type of person that he gave us especially when it comes to sadik. It says the hashem sort of looks at the entire history of mankind from beginning to end and he plants sadikim like a person has a garden and he plants trees. You go every five feet, 10 feet. You throw another seed, another seed, another seed. And you do with a you know you want to have have over here an apple tree, a cherry tree. Each one a specific reason why it has to be there. And this type of a tree. Hashem also plants in generations. He waits for a certain generation to come. And he says, "Right now we need right now we need right now we need and our generation was amongst many other to say thank you to Hashem to giving us such an unbelievable tree that produced so many fruits. We have to we have to eulogize. We have to bring out the beauty, the greatness and the uniqueness of this person." And the second reason probably what most people are familiar with is to learn from the person that passes away. Every person that passed away, every person has something that he did that you can copy that you can emulate, things that he may have said, things that he had that he had and one would think is not any different. A person can learn a lot from him. But the truth is those that read anything about his life, it's kind of hard to copy anything about him. I read just yesterday to refresh my memory at the age of six or seven he already knew many Mishna by heart I was not there I don't know if anybody was there Mishna by heart by this age of six at 9 or 10 he was already writing he had a notebook with kushim and very difficult makas at the age of 12 he's already in a yeshiva yeshiva for 16 17 year olds he was learning side by side at the age of 20 he was a dian at 24 he was already sitting on a bedin at 27 he was already a chief rabbi in Egyp Egypt like this is a timeline that I don't think most people can copy. This is not a type of a thing a person could say you know I'm not at 20 yet but I can be a dian by 20 could be but probably it's going to take a lot of work. So to say that I will be able to learn about him and therefore copy his midot sounds unrealistic. However, however, I don't think that's what the intent of is to copy what the person the person passed away to copy his midot and his mas to him because somebody like him just the things that we described was just to store a scholarship. He had unbelievable is he had a tremendous warmth. There are different types of those that lock themselves in a room at learn. There are those that go out to the public and speak. There are those that are that are able to give you know direction to the masses. Rarely you have somebody who has all three. That was he was he was a man. He was a beautiful dan. People love to come here and speak even though he was speaking to simple people. He was an unbelievable dan. So to copy those things is going to be kind of hard. But I saw an explanation that I think maybe answers this. the we have a uh it's a also brings this that says that says I created the and I created the medicine the antidote for the which is learning Torah says clearly once made such a statement the only way to defeat the is through learning you can do other things in addition to learning but if you say I will do other things but not learn says you're fooling yourself. It won't happen. You have to learn plus maybe other things as well. One of the star students of Salant, he asks, he says, "We have another that says if a person always should make a fight between his and if he wins, good. If not, you should learn learn to it'll help you win the if he wins good. If you still didn't win, if that helps you, beautiful. If doesn't help you, you score. You should remember the day of death. That should help you. So says, how could it be? We just said that Torah is the antidote. It's the medicine. This is the silver bullet. So what does it mean? If you learn Torah and it didn't work, then do something else. It's impossible. You have to be able to do this and and win the So he said a very important he said a very important principle. He says this gulah the word magic is the wrong word the special quality the supernatural quality the Torah has to fight the it's only if the person understands the importance the the value the preciousness of the Torah a person could be sitting like this surrounded by books all around him he could be learning the maybe he's going through all of all of shas he's doing z all sorts of things but it doesn't appreciate doesn't value. He does it, you know, everyone does it. Why not? But he doesn't value what he's doing. He says he's not going to be able to extract the energy that he needs to fight. Therefore, the says if a person learned Torah and it's not working. So, it must be you're not understanding what you're learning. You're not understanding the preciousness what you're learning. Readma, it says over there. Today, Hashem gave you these words. The Torah has to be in your eyes like you just got it. Somebody got a personal letter today. Imagine you get from the from the governor, from the president, and you look, you see, wow, it's a real letter. This is not a print. This is handwritten, and he's talking to me. You would be very, very excited. Number one. Number two, you'd be very, very careful. You'd want to know what every single word means. Even if there's some things which are scribbled that you don't understand, you wouldn't just say, "Ah, whatever." You would go over to people say, "What do you think this means?" And if a person would tell you, "It's nothing. Don't worry about it." You say, "You kidding me? The president sent me a letter. I'm just going to say it's nothing. I'm sure you had a reason why I put that scribble in there. There's something there. That's not just the will help you fight the you'll understand the the importance of learning. He says if that doesn't help you remember the day of death. Why the day of death? Because on the day of death, not death itself, on the day of death, which means the day the person is going to be leaving this world, all of a sudden everything becomes clear to him. the millions of dollars that he had, the different real estate that he purchased in his life. Maybe he has a whole wall with uh, you know, diplomas and all sorts of things. He says, "I was the best at this and the best at that. Worldrenowned here." What on the last day of his life? None of this matters. His accomplishments no one cares about. His money is going to go to somebody else. His real estate is going to go to somebody else. He'll realize very, very quickly the only thing I'll be able to put in inside my pockets is the and the Torah that I learned. I helped people. I did. That's it. That's what I'm taking with me. So if he says if doesn't help to you understand the of learning, think about the day you'll be leaving the world. How you going to feel then? That'll help you understand and appreciate your learning and then the Torah is going to give you that boost that you need to fight. Now why am I saying all this have to do with tell us the following? They say that there's such a concept that if a person is the word they use is he gets up to eulogize but he's lazy. What does that mean lazy? He's lazy when eulogizing or they have another word if they call it somebody who is somebody who's eulogized but not like the law. They say this is a very terrible sin for the person who is doing the eulogy. So I saw an explanation wrote down the following. Many times when a person gets up to eulogize a gadul they were speaking about eulogizing Yeshua Sha David great great great people in Israel what tends to happen is they say this person was like where we started at the age of five he knew this and the age of 10 he knew that and already at the age of 15 he was a gon and after that he learned all day long and all night long and he was only involved and a person after such eulogy says to himself how am I going to have any connection any relevance to this? It's impossible. This person is like floating in the air. He's a mountain. What can I take away from this? All I learned about him is that he's a giant. He's a malik and I am so so far away from him. He says this is called a person who is eulogized. He says this is an explanation of what it means somebody who is it means to say that he's he is eulogized you emphasize his greatness but there's no he says what does that mean what do you want me to do about it what am I supposed to take away from this if all we talk about is about the greatness of the person about how unique he was and how unbelievable he was and there'll never be another one like that again. So, a person is just going to give up on himself and say, "I'm not going to be like that. I'm already 30, 40 years old and I'm behind. How am I going to catch up?" The point of the point of the eulogy is to bring out those great points that the rabbi had that the man had, but at the same time connected to us to take for us to take away from it. And that way even though we're talking about his greatness and he is very very far ahead of us but we're trying to bring it down to our level to see what we can learn we could take away from it and this is going to be also our to show hashem thank you so much for giving us such a sad I don't want to take too much time I'll just mention two points which I saw that was said about at the time of the one of Shivot in their bell praki roshiva panovich. He had his very special connection to they were friends for a long time. His son learned to be shiva. He said the following. He said throughout the seven days of the shiv I heard many people say aba abba. They called him father. We have it says that when he saw a pass disappear from he said a my father my father people referred to like this aba everyone called him a father. He says I want to understand what this word aba means. tells us that if a person has he sees a lost object that belongs to his father and to his to his to his teacher the lost object of his rav of his teacher goes first. In other words, if you have the time right now the energy to only save one and the other one will disappear. You go after the one that belongs to your to your teacher says the why. What about says the difference is his father brought him to this world. He fathered him. He brought him to this world. He gave him a a body and his teacher takes him brings him to the next world. He teaches him Torah. And when he passes away from this world, this is not death. This is going to the next stage. That's the next life. That's the higher life. So therefore his rebi his teacher has preceded asked the question. He said that means if a person helps me to live or [clears throat] teaches me something he now has the title of father or teacher. He says when you walk into a doctor's office or into a pharmacy something hurts you go to the doctor and say listen doctor this hurts that hurts and he tells you listen what you should do is take this medicine. Did he just save your life? He did. Without him, I wouldn't be able to live. He says, "Now, does that mean I have to call the doctor Abba?" The doctor brought me to this world. If a person I was stuck in some page, a person was passing by. I said, "What's bothering you?" I said, "This thing." He says, "Oh, this means this. Now I have to call him now Rebi." Because every time, you know, he he taught me this thing. He says, "No, that's not enough to be called Abba and it's not enough to be called Rav." The difference between a doctor or a pharmacist on the one hand and a father on the other hand, and certainly it's that way for a teacher to his to a student, is that a doctor, you come to him and you say, "I have a problem." The doctor says, "You have a problem. Here's what you do." Now, if you walk away and you decide not to listen, what's the doctor going to do? Nothing. It's your problem. I'm here. I'm ready to help. You want to take my advice? Take it. You don't want to take my advice next. I have somebody else waiting for me. If a father sees that his son is suffering, he tells him, "Son, please, I'm telling you, do this." And he sees the son is not listening. What's this father going to do? He's just going to say, "No, it's your problem. I have other kids to worry about. Yala, let's go." A father will lose sleep. A father will get upset. He'll get stressed out. He'll plead with his son and say, "Please don't do this. Leave me alone. It's my life." He'll say, "No, what do you mean? You're a part of me. You're my son. I can't let you go." The father, he says, does not just give to the son. Doesn't just give life. He's mos himself to the son. He gives his own life to his son. The rebi also he's not just there to give you some information and then he leaves. He's ne until you know this thing. And if you don't know it like the tells about he had a student that he had to repeat 400 times. He saw that he didn't understand after 400 times. He said what happened? He was nervous. I said I was afraid you're going to leave. I wasn't focused. Again another 400 times. That's says that's what makes somebody into an abba and that's what makes somebody into that was the that was the quality of that's why people called him aba it wasn't because he was a great teacher he was a great teacher but he was somebody who was nephesh it wasn't just I'm here I'm going to give a lecture everyone will clap and I'll leave he cared he wanted to see that people are growing he cared about is like a father cares about and when he heard there were people suffering even was not in other countries. The person shed tears. I don't know if I shed tears about things that happened in New York. And you have a person who's not connected. Maybe something's happening to Jews in Argentina, in France. It bothered him to a point where he shed tears. Why? Because this is my children. This is not just some other Jewish person somewhere else that this happened. That's abba. That's number one I wanted to mention. Number two, this I heard from this this afternoon. One of the Torah is somebody who carries the burden together. Which means to say if you want to acquire learning besides reviewing, besides learning out loud, besides understanding, besides learning in a yeshiva with etc, etc., you have to be a person that's no that's caring. You see another person that's down, you come over and say, "What's going on? Can I help you with something?" And you see the person is happy, you're sharing his happiness. Everybody asks the question, "What does this have to do with learning? How is this a quality that helps a person to become a better learner? If you go to college and you ask them, "Who are your most successful students?" They're going to tell you the ones that care the most about others, they'll tell you the ones that study the longest, the ones that have the thickest glasses, the ones that they pay for extra tutors, not the ones that care about others. That maybe happens to be true. It's true. But how does that correlate? Two answers that he quoted. One was the [clears throat] said because the the goal of the entire Torah is that should be united amongst ourselves and together united with that's the goal. He says if you're learning Torah and the result is that you're able to see the other person as a part of yourself and to seem as a part of your you you accomplish the goal. If you're learning Torah and you see everybody else below you different from you and your learning is just to show how far ahead of you are everybody else you're not accomplishing the goal. The goal of learning he says is the only way to be the only way to be united is to care about other people. That's one thing and certainly had that it wasn't just about the learning. He wanted to see that is was succeeding in every single area Shabbat whether it was soldiers it was politicians it didn't matter who came the person was a or somebody was a person who was looking for aid a person who lost a job he wanted that all of should be in whatever it is that they need to do that's tremendous the the other explanation that they give is because a person who is learning Torah part of The success is you have to be a person who's a giver not a taker. What that means is a person who's learning a difficult suggest topic. Let's say a rabbi has asked a question. I can tell you from personal experience people ask questions. I have many modes depending on how many how much energy I have. Sometimes I'll open up a maybe I'll sometimes open up a bet. If I'm really really have a lot of energy in the morning I'll go through other sources. A person who's lazy, he'll try to remember what he said last time. Maybe look up one book or two books and that's it. Why? He doesn't want to give to the Torah. I'm busy. I want to do other things. A person who's a giver, he'll continue investigating until he gets to the bottom of the matter. He says the only way for a person to become a real giver, somebody who is not lazy, is to invest himself into other people. If all my life is about myself, so my learning is going to be the same way. Whatever is good for me, whatever is easy for me, wherever I feel comfortable. If my life is not about myself, my learning is going to be so deep is going to be fundamental. And my relationship with other people is going to be also very fundamental. I won't just say good morning and say it's probably okay. He's he's fine. I'm going to find out from the person what's going on. Why don't you look so happy? Why aren't you smiling like yesterday? This als he had a tremendous together with everybody knows the stories they say about him learning throughout the night. We heard from different people that when he came once to to deal New Jersey he was staying in someone's house for Shabbat. They had a walk-in closet. He asked them if there's a place that he could just leave the lights on. They told him kakam there's only one room and there's the light and there's a bed here. You going to turn on the light? Your wife's not going to be able to sleep. So he said what about the closet? They said the closet it's a closet rabbi. He turned on the light in the closet. He was there all night learning. That was Torah. And there's other stories of such of such things that he did which other people would say this is this is crazy. How could a person love learning so much for him? This was not it's Hashem's Torah. I want to understand it to the depth. That same quality he used when it come to caring about other people. It wasn't just oh the person came for next. He cared. He really wanted to see each person come out with a smile on his face. if it's something that he could do about or maybe he could den for the person he was all there at the same time and at the same time is just two things that I wanted to point out. I'm sure there's many other qualities should give us the ability to appreciate and to not copy but to translate some of these things for ourselves to understand how our responsibility towards our learning is and our responsibility towards our community towards our family that it shouldn't be that my life is only about me and the closest people around me but to see the whole community the queen's community the New York community and am as a whole to see all of us as coming through the ros. Amen. Thank you for your great inspiration and for of course all the amazing work you do for the community. Roashm you have the great great such a great God is such a great rabbi joining us tonight. Of course such a great but of course is cares cares about so much every single person in it's a great great to everyone please rise chief rabbi It's really nice. >> [clears throat] >> My dear friend, >> it is a great pleasure, a great honor for me to come and see the new synagogue, the newet that put together, established just recently. This should be very successful. This community should grow and expand. uh for what he does for the community throughout all year but for this event specifically arranging it putting it together everyone should follow's footsteps yeah this is one of the points that we should speak maybe about to speak about we can sit all night long and the next day and the day after we're not going to we're not going to be able to finish to speak about him. Everyone heard a lot about his gonut. He was a genius person. He knew the entire Torah. The Torah was speaking to him is are speaking up for his and I'm telling you that the is not telling about the whole specialty of his dua although he wrote so many and the are full of information and depth that uh the knowledge and the and the depth that you get from his farim it is above and beyond what our generation no one else can compete with what we have in his but his real Torah was much more than that. He did not expose in his fim is true. So yes that's everyone heard and we know all about it. The ra was mentioned his love for Torah. His love for Torah was also above and beyond what human being can can have in our generation. Usually you need to attract people to learn. You need to convince people come and learn. you to to to pull a child come come I want to learn with you. >> For him it was the opposite. >> If you if you want him to stop learning you had to pull him away from learning. >> The the the default situation by him was learning. Always learning. Always learning. Glued to the Torah. From very young age. He was a six years old when he started to learn Gmorrah. And he was glued to the Torah in a way that he was to the extent that he used to forget to eat. Forget to eat. Forget to sleep. Can you forget to sleep? You're tired. You fall asleep. Many times I'm trying to learn I fall asleep on my on my on my chair. You fall asleep, you're tired. By him, the love to the Torah was to that extent that he used to forget to sleep and forget to eat. And if the his wife was not on top of him and making sure he's going to eat, he would skip meals like No problem. Why? Because Torah, that's what spoke to him, nothing else. And I had to be on top of him to keep his schedule. He had a very very busy schedule, but you need to pull him from learning to keep the schedule. That was the first specialty of and yes we should try to learn from that and and try to develop the love and the connection to the Torah because that it is something you can develop. It is something you can work on to have a connection with the Torah because Torah it's not an object. It's not just a book that sits in the in the ark in Torah tora. It's Torah. It's a life says which means the Torah is getting insulted from us. If we not learning Torah, especially if a is already in front of you and if it's open and and and you're not learning, the Torah gets insulted. It's not an object. Torah, it's alive. And the opposite. If a person is giving his life to Torah, So says in what does it mean the Torah itself goes to Hashem and asking from Hashem to be given to this person. the utmost level. So yes, this is the level that achieved that the Torah was working out for him. I I saw it many times when the Ra used to open a in one cha sometimes he quotes 400 500 sources in one chuva one answer. You know how long takes just to open the seur to get to this to the to the to the point he's talking about it back and forth where is it that page this page he used to open a sephair and I saw it with my own eyes a few time many times always you used to hold the sephair never open it like this used to hold the sepher this way put his fingers open it right on the spot where he was supposed to have maximum one page to the right or one page to the left that was it never had to go back and forth almost never. Yeah. The Torah was catering to him. The Torah was working for him. So that's a tremendous for a person who's for the Torah. And yes, as says, if if we would feel if we would taste the the sweetness and the pleasure taste of the Torah, we will go crazy about it. And that's what the RA had. The RA was crazy about the Torah like like nothing else spoke to him. You could not attract him with anything else. If you give him a million dollar to spend an hour to do something which is not involved with Torah or teaching or helping someone, give him a million dollar. No, he would drop it. with no hesitation and and and prefer to learn those this hour instead of taking the money endless love to Torah that's something we should work on and develop and give it over to our children that's number one number two but the was focus a lot focusing a lot and and and for it it's he did not just sit was sitting learning for himself of that he loved the most. He loved learning but he took himself away from learning to go and teach and that started from a very young age. Not when he was a chief rabbi and he had a car with a driver and then a helicopter taking him from one place to another and everybody's serving him and he used to walk with no cars at a very young age from one sh one synagogue to another synagogue giving sh over here and giving sh over there and sometimes five people 10 people 20 people not a big crowd but he was more nephesh and many times to people who are very pursuit they didn't understood his level of dora Did he understood the depth of Torah that he was reaching to? And he was sitting and telling stories and telling jokes to people and once one of the asking for you're wasting your time. You're telling jokes. You're telling stories to these people. What's going to what's going to come out of it? You can sit there and you write another volume of your that's that's going to be very helpful. Everybody needs your Torah. And he said, "No, these people also needs to know Torah. What's going to be with their children? If they're not going to know Torah, if they're not going to develop connection to the Torah, they're not going to understand, they're not going to have love for Torah, they're not going to send their kids to learn Torah. And I remember growing up in I remember the crowd this Friday crowd in this the general crowd there's not that many not that many bivot the general crowd who working people working hard working people and their children many of them send them they send their kids to to the public school it's which is worse than America worse than America and they grew up to become what did He do. He took the parents. He was sitting with them teaching them Torah. They developed love to Torah and then he was convincing them send your children to Shivot and doing that for so many years all over around the country. He raised a full generation of Benra and nowadays let's say let's takeet mus. One of the bigets in in you ever visited in did you? It's a mustaf you must go to. You go to goh. No. Yeah. Messiah was rais the great great father who came from Bkhar and built this sh in was a great sadik. This is the the most active shard shul in the world. most active shar in the world and many there you can have from net till very late I mean the whole day and then from from the morning till the night is nowadays but I remember was not not found you couldn't find and if you walk to Messiah 40 years ago people used to wear short short sleeves short pants and sometimes sandals, open shirts, a chain. That was the crowd. That's the crowd. You see you walk today to Messiah, everybody's black hat, suit Ben, Shivot, Benim and all of them, it's the children of those parents who 40 years ago used to be used to come with the open open shirt with the chain mand chain. Yeah, that's what happened. The Ra was taking them and teaching them Torah and they developed love to Torah and they sent their kids to Yeshivot and he raised a whole generation thousand upon thousand upon thousand of Bentora and he used to say from my jokes that I'm telling now more Benra will come out of it later on. So he he he it was mo nephesh for him the natural thing to do is learning that's what he loved the most. what he wanted to do the most. But he pulled himself away from learning going to teach others and not to teach in a deep level to that he can enjoy but telling story also used to say also not just but also in telling the stories and telling just to attract the people and to develop love for Torah in their heart and we see the result The we should learn from that too because part of his nephesh and especially in the past 30 years he established what everyone knows this the sphardic he said I have one goal my goal establishing this nua is to build more Jewish religious schools for sari That's my goal. I care the most. I did all this and it's involved with a lot of edicts and politics and and shaming and all kinds of problems. It's worth it all for me just so we can build more Jewish schools for the safari children and we see many shivot many schools talking about the orthodox yeshiva schools here in America especially in Queens we all know the story what Hazak is doing. Yeah. So many Bhan kids are in public school. If the Rav used to live here in America today, he would go every evening, every day, spending hours going from one house to the next, going from one shoe to the next, just convincing people to take their children away from public school and putting them in yes. And this is not just his mission. This is his heritage. This is what his mess to us. what we should learn from him. It it is our responsibility not just responsibility. So we have they do the job and we can relax. [clears throat] It's each and every one of us. You have family, you have friends, you have neighbors, you see them going to public school, you go, you talk to the parents and the RA used to say, you speak to them the first time they're not going to listen to you. The second time they're not going to listen to you. Go become their friends. Make some jokes with them. Be nice to them. Smile to them. Talk to them again and talk to them again and talk to them again. And eventually it's going to work and you're going to succeed to take their children away. You're saving them a shamote. You're saving their life. You're building the next generation. There are so many Bkhan boys, Bkhan children learning in public school. It's to save them from public school, taking them to Shivot. It's to save their life, to save them. is to build the next generation. If we want to learn something for for us, for our community, this is one of the most important things that we should learn from him. But I want to speak also about over there was a giant ina. And everyone knows that most complicated things that was coming to But they referred to him. He was the the final ruler on most complicated things. Topics of auno, topics of all kinds of comp complications, marriages, other kinds, financial disputes, every very heavy duty topic, they address it to him. And he was the ruler. He was the pose. He was the pose of our generation. But now there's many young many not that many but some young rabbis they didn't knew him as much they didn't learn by him they didn't know his and they allowed themselves to disagree with him to to argue with him to to it's okay to disagree but you have to have solid proofs you have to have a a lot of knowledge and depth deep understanding in order to be able to disagree. I'm not saying it's not possible. That's our Okay, his father, they were arguing with each other all the but you have to have a lot of knowledge and a lot of in order to be able to argue with someone like him. And I want to bring an example. The reason in on Shabbat, if you have mixed food, few kinds of food mixed in a bowl. Let's give an example. You have almonds and and and and nuts mixed together. And you don't want to eat the the the the nuts. You want to eat the almonds. So everyone knows ber what's ber? Ber take the food from the from the good from the solid. And you take the good from the not good. But it's there's no solid over here. There's no shells. There's no there's two kinds of food just mixed. And you prefer and you choose to eat one of them. Are you allowed to remove the other one that you don't want to eat? That's an argument. Let's say you don't want to eat the nuts. You want to remove the nuts from the bowl so you're going to be able to eat the almonds with no interference of the of the nuts. Yeah. want to have almonds pure almonds that's an argument it's argument among the it's argument also what is saying so many years ago used to have a it's not a used to come out magazine like a journal he used to publish um articles articles and he wrote about this issue and he says it's a You choose what you want to eat. If you want to eat almonds, you take the almonds from the nuts. You don't remove the nuts from the almonds because once you don't want to eat it, it becomes it's considered as absolute. You don't remove that. Remove the food. And he brought a few sources to that. And then many years later he wrote the and he writes over there also it's but the sources he gave in parentheses two sources let's see two sources some rabbis and among them not not to be disrespectful to anybody but they allowed themselves to argue with him said oh was wrong was wrong. He got it wrong. He made a mistake because says it's mut. It's an argument between it mut says it's mutar and in here in Queens actually in bet we learned this about four years ago and we were learning the gam with the and I was showing the how all these rabbis were argue with him. They were wrong. They got it wrong. They understood the Gar wrong. They understood the Raam wrong. They understood the wrong and they missed out so many. They did not quoted they didn't saw even this that says the opposite of what they say. I think you remember that. No, you're nodding your head. You remember this? There are some of the we were learning that together. And also I wrote a booklet about it. Let me show you. This is has above 40 pages. I I published this for this year your site of over there. Yeah. That talks about this one topic. This is above 40 pages here. Just proving how the knew everything. He missed didn't miss anything. And other rabbis who argue with them, they got it completely wrong. And it proves step by step with a lot of depth and the list of that support his shita it's maybe over 20 and those who argue with them they quoted two three sources that supports their opinion but these 20 on the other side the majority of the says it's a among them is says you you take what you want to eat. You don't take what you don't want to eat. Among them is among them among them. Many Many let along the all of these all of this says it's a so they found two three says it's mut and you can argue on that too and they allow themselves to argue with yeah you see we found this he found this sephur wasn't any sephur that the did not learn wasn't any sephur that he didn't know. You you are almost never able to surprise him with something. You can come over to him. I found this truth. Look, look, look. I found you always. Yeah, I know. I know. I saw it. I know. Once he gave a shower on one topic and one of the over there says, "What you saying now? It's against I give you the list have 20 against him. You could not surprise him. He knew everything. [clears throat] Once Bashi's brother was a guest by my house. So we we sp we spoke about the of the previous generation. So I told him how what do you say how you define? So he said as follow. He learned what we learned and also what we didn't learn. All what we learned he he learned but also he learned what we didn't learn. Can you argue with him? And you never argue with one person. You argue with the army. He always comes it doesn't come along when he says something. It doesn't come along. It's my opinion. It comes with the whole army. Army of you can argue with with you can argue with. Can you argue with the whole army of Yeah. So why am I talking about it? We should have the we should have the when we sometimes we hear oh yeah said something about other he says something else with all the respect we love all of the and we respect all the but when it comes to conclusion of we should know the truth that most likely he knew what they knew and he knew more from what they know. And if he rules on something, you can be solid. You know that you have a solid bone to rely on. If you go other opinions, you also might have what they rely sometimes, but it's usually on a minority side or on a all kinds of other complications. So accepting the rules of in our generation which is broadly among most of the safari communities around the world not just in when he was very young the the the rumors were that Babasali said that in not when he was a chief rabbi way before he used to go to Babasali Babasali used to rise for That's what Babasali used to say when he was young. We our generation had a great that really built the safari community in Israel and around the world. He lift up the pride of the safari community. It was neph for the safari community. He never neglected nobody but he focused. He focused on the has they did already. They built and did they were not missing the safari community. We were missing we had hardly any shivot. We were hardly any schools. We had hardly any institutions. And he got up and he didn't say oh I sit in my corner and I learn and observe to whoever does whoever sits and says you're not first you should be you should do if you do then hashem gives tremendous and you can be very successful. So this is something that we should learn from him and you know is an example. He's a role model that everyone should follow. Yeah. To to do as much as you can. Don't just care about yourself and about your family and say okay but we good. My kids are in shivot. I'm good. I did. I'm going the right way. Don't let our brothers and our sisters fall away. Run after them to save them. You're returning was talking about returning an object to its owner. How about returning an object to Hashem? Hashem lost many sons. Where are they in public schools? Where are they in the streets? That's those are the sons of Hashem. If a father is losing his son, Hass shalom, God forbid, is he's is going to give all his life to to find him, to bring him back. I heard a story of a family or their their son went on a trip to India and they didn't they lost connection with him for a week. You know how how much tears they they shed. You know how they could not sleep. They could not eat. They were going crazy. They they called the whole world. They got to the president of United States of America. We lost our son. We we need help to find him. But Hashem, he was found a week later. He was okay. But if a if a parent loses a son, he's going to turn the whole world upside down to find him. Hashem lost so many sons. Those are the sons of Hashem. That's how looked at it. Those are the sons of Hashem and we need to save them. And it's sometimes in a few words, sometimes with a smile and couple minutes, you can save us. You can save an sometimes it takes longer, but we have to make the effort. We have to take it upon ourselves. We have to feel asaf said that's how was it's my problem those are my family he looked at everyone like he's my son this is my son this is my brother whoever came to him for help you he never said go go find somebody else I'm busy go find someone else never returned anybody I remember a story many years ago in our neighborhood inim the middle of on middle of the night some uh troublemakers they set a fire in one of their apartments was a big balagan the police came they were investigating and then couple days later they took a yeshiva boy they put him in prison accusing him that he turn he he set the fire on on this in this apartment that's the specialty of the Israeli police after a few weeks was the reality was he had alibi He was sleeping by the time the fire started. Two two hours before he was already sleeping this boy. But that's not the point of the story. The parents were broken. They took the child, nice sweet boy, put him in prison with criminals and they knew he didn't do anything wrong. He was a nice good boy. So they went to over there. He didn't he didn't say, "What can I do for you?" I don't know. I'm not a lawyer. Go to a lawyer. He wrote letters. He made phone calls, tried to find the right person who can help them to get their son back. He's nice boy. In the end, the truth came out. It was cleared. This boy was cleared. This is a story I'm telling you maybe 35 years ago. It was cleared. He was a good boy. He never did anything wrong. The life of the whole family turned upside down. Took a nice boy. They put him in prison. But they went to and he put his put himself in the front to try to help as much as he could to get this boy back. That's how much he cared about each and every person. We should follow his footsteps to care about others to care to care about the community as a whole in general and to try to serve Shamote as much as we can. We should try follow his footsteps love to Torah. Develop the love to Torah. Are you developing love to Torah? First of all, you need to get to know the Torah a little bit more. If you don't know the Torah, you're going to love the Torah. Yes, we love to giving a kiss to from the outside and then it goes to the But if you really want to love the Torah, get a little bit deeper into dive in the Torah. Find the sweetness in the Torah. Go after the don't let him rest. You have in your community, don't let him rest. He's going to be happy. And we're on another show. We want show, we want show, we want show, we want show on this topic, we want this topic. Teach us this, teach us that. We want to we want to fill this sweetness of Torah and give it over to the children also. Amen. How long it's going to take the other speaker? >> How long the other speaker is going to take? 10 years. Israeli tremendous words of and the great that the RV gives to all of us. Um our our continuing with the program we're next speaker is uh Rokashem uh speaker full of energy Rokashm it's a great organization called Milot um Ra Mor bandel kazak should say a few words. I think that when I was preparing my sh since the rabbi also was in when I was in it. I think that maybe I was something was coming with because the rabbi needs the my words of that's exactly what I prepared almost not the yeah but just of making [snorts] this of course I want to just be mim and say it's it's an honor and a pleasure to even to be able to speak about I remember as I was growing up as probably as long as I can remember and I wanted just to be mim over here I never had the merit of meeting but my whole life as long as I can remember I felt an attachment and a love to that I cannot explain my brother the rabbi in California I one time asked him how could it be that I have a connection to a person I never met in my own entire life I love him like he's my father I love him like he's my If man would call me, I would fly to any end of the world to be there for him, to do anything for him. I live like this is who man was teach us the way water reflects off each other and that mal loved every single Jew in the whole entire world. Automatically we don't have a choice. We're going to love and we're going to see how specifically it connects to not not for no reason when I be called and said we're going to do the this week. It was not not for no reason. I'll tell you why. In the beginning of the par it says that took he took his wife and his nephew and all of the wealth that they amassed. And it says over here and the soul that they made in at this point don't have any children. What souls did they make in comes in the that any person who teaches Torah to his fellow's son? It's as if he's his own son. As if he made him he created him. And therefore all the people that were in when they took them, it's as if they created him. They were their own children. As if they were their children. And the continues further and it says any person teaches another person Torah as if he created the word of the Torah itself. And more so than that the continues says it's as if he created himself. Why? Cuz like said and like in the last week the son said about his father that one of the there was three that his father had. First thing first was love for the Torah like the rabbi said. The second thing was was to bring back the fore to take back the laws of and the third thing was more so than anything but he was willing like the rabbi said not that he's willing to let go of learning to go sometimes you would go two hours on buses sometimes you would go on a bus. Imagine now you're sitting on a bus all [laughter] sitting down on the bus for two hours. Of course he brought but he's sitting down on the bus for two hours. Yeah. And we're going to see for how many people? Not for 300 people. A stadium matt stadium 15 people. Not going to come people who just regular working people working guys. Nothing to do anything. And we're going to see in a little bit how both of his sons asked him why are you doing this and we're going to see in a minute before we get there I want to just make one more the rabbi spoke about he had to bring all his and when you give us heav know everything says the that a person who learns to order to teach it it is for him to remember Torah and therefore because went out of his way I mean of course I didn't say this that BECAUSE WENT SO FAR OUT OF his way to teach the stayed with him on the other side of the coin they learn they learn it against him that if he was in the he wouldn't says of course if he was in this door for sure of first thing first you have to ask a question how could we impossible how could it be that he learns negative says and he tells him he tells him also that tells him that's comes and says that when left he built an altar for hem and then he cried out to when he saw that there Hashem tells him tells him you're foolish when I told you I was going to be that's when you should have cried but now after everything is destroyed now you're crying and then maybe now we can understand says you know why you wouldn't be at the door because old job was what to bring Jewish people closer and that was he brings in a story he said in this week's He said, "I never went anywhere without my father." He says, "As long as I can, I don't remember praying in the without my father. We I'm just going to say this is to give in. We have nets all week. Shabbat. We don't have nets." So we come to do nets says, "Who is going to pray with the children?" Who's going to pray with the children? You're going to pray nets. What's going to be your children? Who's going to pray with them? Who's to take them to? And therefore the to do nets. Until today, we don't have nets in innovation because of the children and we'll see in the future what an impact it'll have. The father wants a big he goes six o'clock in the morning. He comes back at 9 and the kids didn't go to sh. They didn't get the candies. They don't get the sweet taste in the mouth of says my whole life I remember everywhere I ever went I went with him. Says one time he says that man had a ingrown nail caus him a lot of pain. So his sister would come and bandage it. One time in Shabbat was walking with man to 20 minutes away to give them a 15 minutes. So comes with him. He sees that man is walking in pain. Now he says that when you when was walking to you couldn't talk to him. He was just preparing. What am I going to say in the shoes? Can't talk to him. only on the way back maybe you can be squeezing a few words in between you know doing on the way there don't talk to can't talk to him on the way back tells him you see you're in pain in the house you walk 20 minutes they give a 15 minutes and walk 20 minutes back 40 minutes of walking 15 minutes you and not to you know I was looking around the room I didn't see any black cats I didn't see any in the room and his father tells him I'll tell even further. You want to know who these guys are? They start praying at 7 if the goes a minute after they'll take them outside [laughter] and after that they run home to quickly and then they go to the shook to go hang out with their friends. If that's the case, how much more so why are you going to walk ALL THE FOOD FOR THESE PEOPLE ARE GOING TO THE SHOOK TO PLAY? HE SAID YOU think I'm thinking about them. I'm thinking about their children. And this story I heard from the himself. This is a story I heard from the mouth of the person who said of the story that he was says that his father used to take a 2hour bus ride the I believe to give a sh to 15 older men old guys 15 15 of them. Now don't tell me we're talking about when he's already maybe in the beginning 15 15 older men 2our bus ride to give them a No, like go give a shoe 300 people. Why you give a sh 1500 men? He goes, "No, no, no. I'm not thinking about them only. I'm thinking about their children." One of these people went to the he got inspired from like always tell them send your children to Shiva. He had a son and his son had a son. And when his son who wanted to send his son to Shiva in their neighborhood didn't have a good shiva the grandfather who wished to learn by told him send your son to go learn and he did and you know who that grandson was one of the biggest one of the biggest the biggest outreach build a building people and everything he does comes over here to America 200 200 people I personally Who is that a prodigy of going two hours away to give a shoe 15 older men because you don't know the outcome of your actions. Now, of course, not everyone over here can give. Maybe everyone can. But you would be surprised how the smallest action in the world, even just sending a text message to your friend, what are you doing tonight? This is why don't you come? Hey, why don't you pass by? I personally know a guy texted a 14-year-old boy who grew up at traditional and his older brother who was 17 at the time. Why don't you guys come to Shu on Wednesday night? 14 and and no back and forth. You know how it is to pull the kids to come to this back forth back forth. He finally convinced them. Both of these children became both of these 14-y old kids, 17-y old kid became man. The kid, the guy himself, working guy lives in New Jersey. And from two text messages, two phone calls, everything that comes out of these children, their children, their children, children says when you person not only the says over there says that when you are it's as if you did the says not only you did the every mitzvah that comes out of him and his children and his children's children, it's also in your bank account. Now alhamd said over in that one time he was sitting down he was learning with and you know when you're learning in deep there's a little bit of you know ish back and forth he said that they were screaming at each other and afterwards looked at and he smiled he hugged him and he gave him he told them this is what I live for this is what I live for I don't enjoy so much giving the I love the who's obligating me to go don't go he doesn't think I only do what I enjoy You think I only do what I want to do? I do many. Hashem wants for me to go give the sh and you don't even know what you can do. Calling one person telling him come to you don't know what will come from him. I personally have one guy that I know me. I'm I'm nothing. It happened to be I resonated what David said about the learning because I got my way of learning but we have to give but I met one guy maybe at this point I want to say seven eight years ago. Guy came straight from the army to do religion. I look at him I tell him you have a big I just came from came out of the army. I came to America I came to to enjoy myself. What do you want from me? I told him me and you are going to learn oneonone on Thursdays. Thursdays during the day you pick a time you're going to learn this guy went from being nothing to do with religion today you see him black hat suit married everything possibly imagine children not because I did anything just from one conversation with him tell me hey let's go come learn spend two minutes you know how much you can achieve and how much you can accomplish by texting a person telling them come to shoot how much you can accomplish by texting a person hey what are you doing tonight come and every outcome that'll come from that person is in your email bank account every outcome And I want you guys to know as said before they said that nothing in the world is sweeter than there's nothing in the world that's sweeter than to the whole entire world. When you bring a person to not only come and learn, you're giving them life. It's the sweetest thing in the whole entire world. And with this I'm going to finish a story that maybe most of you maybe heard if you listen to the from last week David and if you didn't then all my it was only worth it for you to hear this one story of man David says that one month before man passed away in the doctors came into everyone who knows man had a lot of back pains they came into the hospital room and told him man unfortunately the the it got so complicated situation you will no longer be able to sit up and he walked they walked out the room looks at his son who's only him and only them two in the room. He tells them it's true or they're saying they'll never be able to sit up and run again. He says unfortunately to our suffering that's what they said started crying bitter tears said if I can't learn to what am I don't want to live in this world and tomorrow if I cannot learn take me a month later understood the concept of all reality that we're here in this world with one agenda with one job the Torah is the essence of a reality If you learn it, amazing. But don't be a person. No. Bring a friend with you. Bring him to the sh. You don't have to be the one who speaks. It could be a text message. It could be a phone call. It could be the littlest thing. Who knows if the person that you bring from him will come out. The next biggest you don't know. And one phone call. It's the easiest thing you could do. How many have in the neighborhood? We have our but no you don't have you're not missing almost every night you can find a to go to almost every night and all you have to do is pick up a phone and look how much you have to gain who wouldn't do it who wouldn't do it so I implore everybody over here this is what we have to learn from first thing first the fire for the this is the essence of our life and the second thing is that if you have opportunity to bring a person make sure you go and get him don't let him go don't let him go no I'm not coming no I'm not coming you're coming no I'm not coming I'm coming to your house. I'm going to pick you up. I'm going to be outside. I'm not coming. I'm going to be outside. He's honking the horn. I told you I'm not coming. I'm outside. I don't care. The I'm not I'm not leaving. I'm not leaving until you come. The guy says, "The guy can say no." He doesn't know how to say no. Okay, I'm coming. What can I do? Tell him, "Look, what's the big deal? Come eat some sushi. Drink a little bit of tea." Anyways, the rabbi's funny. He's going to say a few jokes. He's going to laugh. Everything's going to be okay. And then you're going to go. I'm not going to kill you one hour of says, "Okay, you know what? I'm coming." And then this guy comes. Wow. He gets so enlightened and so inspired and next thing you know his children become I mean whose married is that? The guy who was honking the outside not only to part of our lives but also to bring people closer to this creation. And it was all created for us to bring each other each other and everyone closer to powerful words. The inspiration continues. We It's a great great to call upon the RV gila ov goarita. should have a couple of stories used to be the still the inet is still the used to come once a year to America to collect for the Abraim in the co. We have for more than 10 years. He used to come once in Queens in my house. He used to come sit in the house. He was in when mentioned. So he was there and they gave a sh and himself he brought one of the says there was there's no run like this run in page in the middle of the shoe you know to get into argue it's not fair so there was a over there I'll bring the himself next to him. I have the open. You take the tell the close the put in giza. Put in the gniza. Give me another. You bring another. You open the g. Okay. And you open the g. You tell the here. This is the happens to be that was missing one page in the clear. He was giving and he says one of the over there he says there was another says they like to some people come to the not to listen. So they come to the sh to say something. So when the the rabbi spoke so the other go to another place okay another place was standing when you enter the first one was right behind him. So the rabbi that argue with in the middle of the he stood up y go to bring the now I'm going to show his mistake. He go to the to bring the so they go whisper in his ear to embarrass someone in public. It's it's easy to embarrass someone. He whisper in his earbud down. This says that was mistaken. Thear was in another place. The rabbi come to prove our you want to pull the so it's easy for you to embarrass finish the shoe everybody go to that rabbi what did he tell you what he told me he told me that he it's not easy to embarrass so I put the back but he go and he bring who was mistaken the other person didn't want to embarrass him not that he want to embarrass mention that used to stand for Queens used to come to Queens. He gave a remember today is in his inot. He gave a house. So when he was there he saw that standing for he's standing up for what you standing so people stand for. I don't stand for him. says he was there standing for I stand for a people that we can understand that we can understand this is the generation to have 400 sources in one place. He was tell another story quick. When he was there, he went those days as used to be called a a vehicle called Subaru. Today, Subaru was a is a is maybe a racing car. He finish. So when he wanted to go to the other place, I'll find you somewhere to get to. There was a guy in a car. I'll take the RA. He look at the car window open AC. Okay. He take him in the car. So the the driver before they get to the destination every time you used to come to driver asking the driver asking the driver what do you do for you learn but what you do for I'm not giving which you do for he used to say what is what you do for others upset he went back story this was the story upset so before they reach the destination What I can tell the sitting in the back and I'm doing in Shabbat for boys. So I'm asking what you do for others. YOU'RE DOING SO MUCH. I'LL GIVE YOU a you want do for others. We don't need for that basic in life. Who was gd? He wants to say rabbi says we sit from here till who knows when. It's not going to finish. I want to say something that was out of the maybe the topic. I was in Israel many years ago and I asked a question as an innocent I came to Israel. What is the sentence the the title? What's the meaning? So we used to be in we were staying over there with friends. So one of the I'll tell you something just to understand what vada his head was with many people came to Israel from all over the world. The chief of used to be the used to be the after was to be when they came from all over the world. So they came from Iraq with the banish high in Israel used to be the so many used to follow the came and he says there is a a something that is a lack a lack of community if commun communication communication what is the lack of communication brings that the old generation used to have one opinion one mind we used to think it the same you ask me a question I are the same. We understand the kadesh in the same level. Later on the generation became to be different. So each one start to have a different opinion. How many they have? They have one generation later more than three other. What happened? One generation pass. How many we have today? who who can count. So the wisdom that he had is like this. He says let's say for example I bring another example two friends are together. How do you know who is a friend? Usually they need to be similar. One guy is stingy. He go to the restaurant. How much is it? How much is it? H not for me. I'm not hungry. I'll take water. The other guy come. How he order the food? You look at the prices. You see the most expensive one. This is what I'm order. What? This doesn't matter. It says $85 must be good. That's what I'm buying. They can be friends. They never can be friends. They don't match. The law of it doesn't go together. They can one guy likes to learn who stories. Give me It's not going to work. I need to be like you in order to communicate to be a friend with you. We need to be the same. I want to come to eat by you. I need only I only I can eat by you. Can I eat by me? We're too different. When we are too different, we are too far. Close to one each other. Thinking so we can be friends. There is a rumor in the street that said tell me who your friends or tell you who you are. They didn't come from nowhere. There is a source someplace for that when he says I don't know what is a to bring the it's not that we need to go and follow the of only in Israel and out of Israel as faradim that we accept that they were outshot abs behind Mind it that if we all going to have the same with the same rabbi, we can be together going to be together. How can I be together? If I follow one book and you follow the same book, if I'm stingy and you're stingy, I can be friends. If your eyes are open and minds is open, we can be friends. If AmI will follow one book of alah one book one way of ala this is what he wanted one book of alaka one way of alah everybody can be one why because we share the same way of thinking the same way of learning same way of when I want to go to your suk I know you're not going to count on the and you're not going to count on the you're not going you're going to count on whatever I count because this is my rabbi and your rabbi How deep it was his thinking when he fight for the not of that follow people going to follow the that people will think the same way of thinking we can be together today you go to anybody can any person no I'm going this way no I'm going this way I cannot be with you you cannot be my friend couple of years ago they changed My my my to understand we can be we came from all over the world is to live in Israel. All the Jews. Look at the Jews. When we leave Israel, everybody became to beite. Think you take all the Jews, six, eight million, put them in a border like this. Let them live together. It's a lot easy. If we are together and we we share the same way of thinking, I can be your friend for eternity. I never get upset because of you. You never get upset because of me. that he wanted to put in the minds and the hearts of Israel. I'll finish with one quick story in he gave a spu when he passed away. There was a boy in yeshiva that went to do for you. So the balabay the owner of the kala the the father of the kala he wanted someone that learned Torah. That's what his daughter wanted. And the rash choose one of the boy. Amalo, you're a nice boy. Yeah, she do for you. Go to the shid. He went to the shid. When he entered the house, he start to chat with the father of the kala. He forgot that the kala is in the room. It was 11 p.m. He tell the other father, "I'm sorry. Why I forgot I you cannot date my daughter is 11 p.m. It's too late. I'm sorry." He go to his daughter. I chat with the kan and we forgot about the date. Thank you. Not for me. Please, please, please. This is what I wanted. Please give me another chance tomorrow. Okay, tomorrow. He came the day after the same katan same yeshiva boy came over there and he goes to meet with the and he start to chat with the father of the kala he gave him a cake he gave him a tea he wanted to do we do we done they start to chat he forgot about the kala she's waiting she's dressed makeup everything she's waiting for the date her father speaking to the katan pull they forgot 11:00 tella not for me to I'm sorry I can't help you I can't help you I'm sorry I cannot help you anymore Well, okay. But come tomorrow. I'll try to convince. If it's okay, you'll meet her tomorrow. If not, we'll chat couple of minutes. But you come. No, no problem. You come the day after. I'm sorry. I can't help you. She's not interested. Make sense? Of course, it makes sense. If our daughter goes to and forget that she's in the room, how about I ask from the father of the kala amalo? I need couple of minutes with her. You have a a private room I can be or some one place I can speak couple of words. Yes, why not? Sure. Why? But she's not dressed. She's have a pajama, you know. Sua pajama. Of course, no question. Can she have a pajama? I'll ask her. Well, they want see me with pajama, no makeup, no nothing. I'm not sure. Please couple of minutes is here. Okay, Aba, no problem. He enter the room, he sit and they chat. They speak a couple of minutes. And he goes out and he go to the father of the we just propose and we get engaged. Does that make sense? How about I the katan was [clears throat] that's how we got married in three minutes with the kala in the room. three minutes in the kala in the room. He went inside and the father of the kala asked how did you make it? What was it? I told her one thing. I told her give me I'll promise you give me from I promise you so many single so many go to date with nonsense in their heads. So many father have mishuga and stuff in the head with a black hat with a yamaka they go to shim they do the fing but they have mishuga in the head they go to buy jacket if it's not dolce gabana it is not donar and he's not ug and he's not that and he's not that and he's not that and he's not that he's not buying we destroy the kids and the next generation with our ends people go sugar I don't say don't buy brand. You have a nice coat that cost $600 and this coat going to last for three years, buy the coat. But if you buy the coat with a brand and the jacket with a brain and this with a brand and you need to match your socks to your tie, you can have a hat and you can have a beer, you can have everything, but you're not really religious. You're destroying your misha. You're destroy your kids. You destroy everything that you work for because your son gonna see when you stop on the traffic lights and he look at the Mercedes next and he tell his son this is a Mercedes XBW engine so and so this the son sitt in the back abas so knows the tooth and the rash about the merces. Wow. When the sun grows he want to know like he want to be like abba being in bet midash doesn't mean much changing the ways we are and build the the mish with the beautiful and and sources of Torah and not to bring the nonsense of the street we don't need to have hugo or dolce gabana to tell me who I am I know who I am I don't need this brand to be in the front so people going to appreciate me. I can appreciate myself without this brand with a $50 jacket and pants that we buy in 3450 and we happy. Raady went to give a date for three minutes. He gave a shidu for his kala and he got married and he have beautiful generation until today because she was healthy in the head. You know what to ask. We need to learn from that we are married but we need to be sure that we're not destroying our hands that gave us and to raise them the proper way with very very careful very careful today generation not to bring the street to the house we have so much to say the Amen. Beautiful.