Find Your Match | Rabbi Yisrael Yakubov | CHAZAQ

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So of course we give out give an amazing fuzz and of course tonight of course we thank Ari and shad and event of course give a round of applause for tonight's event of course and we thank of course of Hillrest for for hosting tonight's event and a fell and then Rabbi Schnow and the entire show for always being such great partners with Kazak and and tonight we're we're turning hope into reality everyone is hoping to to to to come out of dark to what what may appear as darkness to come into the light. And I think just um one story maybe that that brings that out is that there was there was he did say this this story that there was that that the king he wanted to marry off his daughter. So he he put out in the the newspapers he puts ads everywhere. If if anyone climbs this certain mountain then then you you have my daughter and you can marry her. So what happens is one brave guy just said I'm going to do it. So what does he do? He goes out 6:00 in the morning and he goes out. He's climbing and climbing climbing. After 7 hours he keeps on going and and he's about to pass out and and and what happens? He's about to turn around. His friend calls up. He says, "What are you doing? You said you you said you told me you promised me you're going to do this." He said, "I can't do it. It's impossible. It's it's thousands of feet." He said, "Trust me, the king is is a is a is is a trustworthy king. And if you and if you if you if if he gave you the challenge, it's possible. It might be difficult, but it's possible." And what happens? He goes he goes another 20 ft and all of a sudden the the there's the there's a piece of the mountain which was an elevator and took him all the way up and and he was able to marry the the king's daughter. I think it's a great um um parable for for for finding your match that that everyone is is is trying is doing so many different people are dialing they're putting their everyone here just by coming tonight to hear and and of course so we um everyone should we should be successful in finding their match and and right after this year um um there's going to be more food in the back. So, everyone should definitely stay for that. And there's our great great scoop to call upon rabbi who work inspires so many thousands of people through his clips who who came all the way in from Toronto. Let's give a big big round of applause to people. Thank you. Thank you. Okay, welcome everyone. It's an honor to be here again. Same place. I don't know if it's the same people, but I assume lots of you were in the last time when we were talking about what to do on a date and how to date, what to look for. That was the last time. Today, they asked me to speak about a mystical topic. People like mysticism. We want to get married and there's few ways to get married. There's the regular way to do your to do your efforts, physical effort, right? To call people that you know and tell them, "Hey, you know I'm single. Let me know if you know somebody. Let the family know that I'm looking for somebody." making your resume today is already uh going into certain sites and put your uh yeah your information your picture this is the regular effort that we do to find the mch and it's needed of course it's needed it's the same thing as when we go to work you can't say oh god is doing everything Right? So I can sit at home and know, you know, God will send me the money. It's true that God will send you the money, but God also wants you to do something. There is a reason why Hashem wants you to go and work. You have to create a vessel. A vessel you can create with the physical effort, but a vessel you can also create with a spiritual effort. And this is what I want to talk about today. How can I do something an effort but not a regular physical effort that everybody do coming to those events and putting my information everywhere and doing that whatever everybody does. There is something else that we can do that can help us to find our match. And I'll tell you a secret. It helps more than the physical effort. People call it zulot. What is gula in Hebrew? Anyone knows what is gula mean? >> Huh? >> Oh, so gula I even I don't know how to translate it because I don't think there is a translation to that word but I'll try to explain it. First of all, gula can also sound in Hebrew. Those who know Hebrews, gula is purple, right? something sag is the purple but is also something else. Yeah, is also something that you do that connect you to the source of abundance. You want a certain blessing and that blessing you get from heavens. you get from Hashem. This gula is something that you can do physical sometimes a prayer, an intention, a meditation, maybe an and a a physical action that will connect you to the root of abundance of blessing and then you will open something that is blocked. It could be in your financials. It could be in your match zebu. It could be in anything in life that is closed that your mazal that your luck is closed and you need to open it. You can do it with a physical effort like going to work or talking to people and making connections and you can do it with a spiritual way. It's called gula. The same thing is in the uh health um area. People that wants to beem healthy, we can do a physical effort to be healthy and we can do a spiritual effort to be healthy. What is a physical? You go to the doctor, you take medicine, you eat properly, you do whatever you need to do. spiritual effort. You do something that connect you to the root of the blessing and then God gives you healing. You open something, you change something in you that will bring you, that will bring you blessing of health, of wealth and also to get a match. So ze you can get with a physical effort but you can also do something spiritual. This is what zula means like in few in few words. Yeah. So it's also purple but it's also a spiritual way of getting a blessing from God. Yeah. There's a known joke Israeli joke. He said that some someone came to the rabbi and he told him I need a shid I need a you know I need to find my match can you help me please the rabbi told him I have his gula for you says no rabbi I don't want I want blonde you understand what goula means I don't want purple I want blonde zula means something that you do that is beyond beyond the physical world and if you ask me okay but how does this gulah work usually I cannot explain it to you it's a spiritual way now there are also gul that are not they don't have a source now it's something that if it doesn't have a source if someone very very spiritual and holy didn't say it this goolah doesn't work this gulah usually works because of two things one the person who brought this goolah needs to be a big scholar of Torah that understand in the spiritual worlds how things work and how to open blockage and how to get a blessing in a certain area of life and you write it down and you do it and it works but gula also work because of a different Because a holy man wrote it down. A holy man came up with a spiritual way, a remedy to get something, a a recipe to get something. And Hashem has a rule. says in the when a righteous person makes a statement God says I have to make it happen and that's why we're so confident with and I'll tell you the truth in my little experience I saw so many people that were following certain gulot and they mama got what they wanted and they got it big time. Now there's another thing that we have to know about zulot is not the main thing if you make it my main effort of getting married I just do I read certain chapters of tim I read certain prayers I do certain things spiritual to get what I want that's not that that's not what Hashem wants. Gulah has to come on top of the other things that you do. You have to do a physical effort and you also have to be connected to Hashem because the more you're connected to God, the more this this gur works. It's something that can really really help each one of us. And I think that if you will do that those who wants to get married and I assume here everybody wants to get married almost this is will open something and you will see a certain change that maybe you didn't see before. So today I want to give you a list of spiritual things you can do to bring your spouse faster to meet her or him and all the things that I'm going to tell you it's all from our sources. I don't say anything from myself and there are certain gulot that people made it up and they have no source. I'm not going to talk about those gulo today. And by the way, if you hear someone tells you, you know, a lot of times people send things, if you say this prayer 40 days, you will get something. Sometimes it's right, but a lot of times it's a madeup sigula. That's why it's good that each person will have a rabbi that will ask him, "Rabbi, is this has a source?" I don't want to waste 40 days of my life for doing something that doesn't really have have a source. So today I'm going to give you things that are written in our holy books and I hope to get uh good comments good uh feedback later one month two months that everybody getting married before we start I'm going to build a lecture today we're going to make it ping pong women and men. Okay. Is gulah for women is ga for men. They say ladies first. So we're going to start for women. There is certain things that are more for a lady that wants to get married that she needs to do and there's certain things that a man can do and it will help him to get married. So we're going to give a lot of information today. I met it would be right that each one of you will have a paper and a pen to write all this gulot and to do all of them. Yeah. But we record the sh you can see it again or if you want to write it in your phone it's fine with me. You know one time I had a I had a shu in to in our community and in that shu in that class I was giving a lecture first row was a girl she was sitting in the women's section in front of me with a phone all the shu all the class she was on her phone was years ago and usually I judge everybody favor ly but at that time I don't know why I felt like so why did you come to my class if all the class you're on your phone what's the point of being in my class that's what I thought to myself yeah I didn't get mad or something but I just thought that that thought came up to me after the class she came to me and she was reading from her phone all the questions she had about the class and she told me that she summarized the things that I said then I understood you have to judge favorably everybody this is was my uh my lesson from it but since then I don't you know people that sit with phones in my class I'm fine especially if if you want if you want to write it down no problem this this is we're going to give a lot of information today a lot of healthy information so we will uh uh say different good for men for women to find your match from the sparic rabbis from the Ashkanazi rabbis and if you want to write it down you can write it down if you want to watch it later if you want maybe if we have it here I don't know if we brought maybe we brought it I think my wife brought it the uh we have a QR codes you can uh u connect to our group and we will be sending all this gulot written in that group for those who want it, you know, for the lazy people that don't want to write. Okay, let's let's start. And uh at the end, I have a I have a I have a surprise for you. I'm going to do something that is brought down in the Cabala books that whoever is going to hear what I'm going to say at the end of this class today, just hearing it, it's already the best to get married. So even if you don't do the things that I'm going to talk about, just hear what I'm going to say at the end and that's already push you toem get it very very very fast. So if it's not Hashem, let's start. The first thing that I want to say it's for women. I think I mentioned it. I'm not sure if I mentioned it if I'm not mistaken last time that I was here. Maybe I just said a little bit about it. But you know the women, one of the mitzvot, one of the commandments that is very hard for women to do, it says in the is to uh host people. A woman after she gets married, it's very hard for her to host people. And there's a few reasons for that. One women want the attention of their husbands and when someone else come he's the center of attention and they don't like somewhere in the subconscious mind I'm not saying everybody but they don't like it that's one reason that the Torah says second reason they say that usually okay we can see it who takes care of the of the of the guests. >> The women the man also helps and he does certain things but doesn't matter how much he's going to help who's going to do more >> the woman. And she's going to take responsibility for everything. And it's hard. So sometimes the less uh you know headache the better. So they would not love to host. Usually men will love to host more than women. Why? They don't need to care take care of all the all the things. They also were perfectionist women. So everything has to be perfect. And if it's not perfect, she doesn't feel well. So it's going to be more hard for her to host. The other thing is the third thing is women like privacy more than men. And if you host someone by the Torah, hosting has three levels. Eating, drinking, and sleeping. If you do that, that's like the ultimate host. It's a mitzvah from the Torah on a higher level. If he sleeps at your house, now when someone sleeps in our house, what happens automatically? We lose our privacy. Someone else is here. And usually for women, it's more sensitive when there's no privacy. So the Torah says automatically they want to host less and it's horrible says the Torah when a person does something above his nature God works with us measure on measure you did something against your nature for Hashem for the Torah for God Hashem says I also have to behave the same towards you and do something beyond nature. Do you know that finding your match is beyond nature? Says that it's hard for God. It's hard to make a match. The same way is it hard to make a miracle of opening the sea. Opening the sea was only one time during history. And until today everybody talks about makes movies about it. Every match is like this. Hashem says so definitely that you will meet the right one for you. It's beyond nature. You want Hashem to make something beyond nature fast right without mistakes. You also need to do something beyond nature and measure and measure. God will do also the beyond nature what you ask is your match for women one of the things that is beyond nature is to host because we just explained that it's harder for them says he was the rabbi of a sadikazi rabbi but he was very into and he said there is This a gula for a woman that wants to get married. Before she find her match, she has to say between her and God, Hashem, I accept upon myself that when I get married, I buy one bed or a room if possible for guests. I will get one bed for guest to sleep in my house. to host them for Shabbat. I say it and I will do it. Accepting upon yourself such a thing says open something spiritual. It's it says in heavens that will remove blocks and will make sure that your zuk will come faster. That's first that says and this is by the way a lot of women did it and they saw a salvation at that year for men there is also not a similar but also connected to a mitzvah. Do you know in Torah there is a similarity between the sun and men and the moon and women? >> Do you know that back then in the days it says in the Talmud women were every women they were connected to the moon cycle. Women have a certain cycle. That cycle was connected to the moon. At the timing of the moon, everybody had the cycle. After later, after certain years, it changed. The moon has a straight connection to every lady in the world. That's why it says in the Cabala books that if you, let's say, someone that is married, you should remember that man after you get married. Someone that is married, his wife's uh feelings, mood is very depend on your blessing of the moon. A month that you bless the moon, we have we have a blessing, right? That once a month we go outside, we look at the moon when it's clear and we say, we say blessing. This blessing on the moon that you do when you bless the moon, you basically make the moon stronger because what happened to the moon? It says in the midash that the moon and the sun they were in the same size when they were created in the fourth day of creation. Then the moon came to Hashem and told them, "Hashem, how can it be two kings for one kingdom? Someone has to be you know the uh authority the the the the captain. So Hashem says to the moon fine so you will become smaller. And now we have a captain we have he made her smaller. If you go deep into this midrash all the differences between men and women are all hinted in the sun and the moon. So when a man bless the moon, he raises the power the spiritual power of the moon which affect directly his wife or his spouse that's still not his wife. What happens is that when you bless the moon now okay you can say rabbi I know so many religious people that bless the moon and I also bless the moon and nothing is happening. Where is she and where is the moon? You're right. But blessing the moon, do you know what says when you make a mitzvah and you make it without happiness, the mitzvah doesn't really work. Means after you're going to go to heaven after 120, they will tell you, "Oh, you have a check mark. You you did you did a blessing of the moon." But any influence of that mitzvah, any abundance, any blessing that needs to come to you because of that mitzvah would not come to you if you bless or you do a mitzvah without without happiness. It's a rule says it in the introduction of his book. It means that if you bless the moon, but you're not happy when you bless the moon, you're not going to get the effect that the raises brings your spouse faster or make your wife stronger. So there is a condition to the mitzvah says if a person takes upon himself a man, you you want to get married? Yes. Here is a goolah for you once a month. bless the moon and make everything you can to not miss this blessing because we have only technically one week to bless from the seventh day of the of the month up until the 15th day of the month. That's the time. Sometimes during the winter is very hard. Why? Because you have a lot of clouds. You cannot bless the moon when there's clouds. There's this famous story with Baba Sali that he was very careful in this mitzvah. And one time every day it was cloudy. So the the congregation told him, "Rabbi, do something. We have to bless the moon." So he took his hand and he did like this. All all the clouds went away and they blessed the moon. This is Babas. I tried it also one time. It didn't work. >> Have to do it once or every day? >> Every month? >> No. No. But like seven days or once? >> No. No. Once. Once. You're not allowed to do it every day. Once in a month during those seven days, the man has to bless the moon. >> What? >> I said the men. This is for men, not for women. Women don't bless the moon because they are affected by they don't bless themselves. You understand? That's a mitzvah that a man has to do. If a woman wants to bless the moon, we're going to tell it's it's not for you. It's So blessing the moon with happiness. I remember in my yeshiva the rabbi after blessing the moon he started to jump and get everybody to dance. Now I never understood it why you don't do other things. We have so many mitzvah that we do. I never saw him on on on I don't know shana dancing with the cha. I never saw him on even dancing with the but after after the he always was still telling us let's sing and dance. So one time I asked him and he told me this exactly told me you are all guy you are all in the yeshiva you're all single I want you to get married very very fast and it says gulah to bless the moon with happiness after you do this dancing you're happy and this is will help by the way as I say I told you before the blessing of the moon helps not just to get your marriage faster you continue after you get married. I made a a a an experiment in my in my community. I told few guys, I want you to tell me sometimes they miss the uh the moon, the the blessing of the moon. Tell me if there is a difference in the reactions of your wife towards you, in her a respect that she gives you, a month that you bless the moon and a month that you didn't bless the moon. You can clearly see it. It's like a how much like a miracle blessing the moon, blessing your wife. By the way, for women, yeah, there's also an option with blessing the moon. I'll tell you what's the option. You have a father. It says in the books, I saw it in one of the books of Cabala. A daughter has to go to her father says, "Aba, I want to get married. Can you help me please?" "Of course, honey. What do you need? Money?" "No, no, Aba, I don't need money. I need something else." Why? Can you bless the moon with happiness, please, for me? And after you bless the moon, can you just ask just after you bless the moon, can you say, "Hashem, please give a good match, a good shid, a good zoo to my daughter." And I saw in one of the Cabala books that they say if possible and your father knows a little bit of is is good in meditations also, man. If you add this meditation after, it's a lot more stronger. This is one of the names of God that opens this blessing of of of zebuk of of of finding your match. I'll tell you the name. I'm not allowed to say it this way, but it's a very very easy name to remember. You can write it down on your sidup. Have it in mind. Just look at it. After you do the blessing of the moon or before you start the blessing of the moon or your father, it will be in a different level. What is the name? It's alf and vav and hey. It's one of the combinations of the name of god. There's different combinations of name of we know the yud and hey and vav and hey, the very famous one. There's also shem al and you and but this one is e that's how we call this the inalistic terms name e alf hey he vav and hey just write it down it's okay to write down if you don't throw this anywhere on your sidu write it for your father says bless the moon and please think about it and then ask for me say my name to get aid that's it very soon after that you'll get the ring. >> I I this is one of the very very very strong I even remember in my yeshiva that those ones that were actually dancing they got the very good very very fast. Let's go back to women. Even though in this men I also gave one for women right another gulam you know it says in the Torah there is a very very very famous midrash that say that God says who does before I pay him. What's that mean? So there's few interpretation to this midash. One interpretation is like who did before me? Yeah. Who can do before me to ask for a payment? It means God says to us, let's say you put a muza in your house and now you come with a claim and says, "Hashem, I made a mitzvah. I just put a muza. Can you give me I don't know. I want to win the lottery. I want to I want a zoo. I want to uh I don't I I want my business to succeed because I did a muza. Can you pay me for that?" Hashem says, "I already paid you. It's prepaid." What do you mean? I give you a house. You cannot claim now, oh give me reward FOR MIZUZA. YOU GOT IT ALREADY FROM BEFORE. YOU GOT A HOUSE. You cannot say to Hashem, "Hashem, I put fill in today. Please give me a good deal. I want $20,000 today. Give me a good deal. Give me to close the deal because I put fill in." Hashem says, "You cannot ask with this claim because I already paid you for that fee." How? I gave you a left hand. That's a payment for all trillion in your life. You know how much it cost one one hand today? Huh? There is a price. There's a fake hand still cost a lot. Hashem says, "I paid for you already." That's one interpretation of this midash. There's another interpretation of this mid that says it that that explains it differently. If you going to make sure that you pay me before I have to pay you. If you do before me, I have to pay you. What does that mean? Do the opposite. You don't have a house. I go to the sofur. Um I want a house. I want 10 rooms. Okay. Also, we have kitchen this that that give me 20 mot the most uh high quality that's possible. I order 20 mort. People ask you why you order 20 m. You got a house. No, I don't have a house. So, why do you do that? I take the muz and I'm going to tell to Hashem, Hashem, I already bought the muzz. I don't have a house. Can you get me the house? Hashem says, "Why? You did the mitzvah before before you even was obligated. You made it before me. I have to pay you." That's is to get a house. Buy highest quality. Show Hashem I bought it before. Pay me. Same thing works with the zoo. Same thing works with the zeon. when you get married. I did a hoopa yesterday. The the uh katan one of the one of the uh steps in the hoopa that he has to do he has to take a talit talit is a big uh you know tit and he makes a blessing on a sit and then he puts it on himself. Now why does he do that? because he needs to say a blessing of Shiranu. Shiranu means I'm happy that I have a new something, new wife. He got also got a new um I guess uh uh suit maybe he has a new house, different new things. So to fulfill the obligation of all the new things to thank God he takes a new that for sure we need to bless on that and he had in mind all the new things that he got. So this is one of the steps you need it in the hoopah. It says in the holy books if if a woman if a lady will say okay I don't have a husband yet but I want one. So, how can I do before God? I will go to the Juda and I'll buy the best tit maybe maybe even I'm going to get someone that will make the tit himself to make it just higher quality, not the one that the machines make. And I'll get the tit and new tit. And then I'll come home and I will hold this seat. And I will say, "Hashem, I got a tit for the hoopa. But I have a problem. There's no uh there's no room. Please get me the one. I have the seed. I already have it." Now, it's not funny. This is this is how you should do it. If you pray to Hashem with this simplicity I did before you I GOT IT BEFORE I had a group Hashem says I have to pay you the money I have to pay it back now a lot of people heard about this gulan I'm sure and I know you got you got to teach it already >> no I have a question >> oh okay yes >> isn't that the same concept of manifestation. >> Sorry. The whole room >> of what? >> Manifestation. >> What? What do you mean by that? >> She's manifesting the guy before he before he came. So, is it similar to what you're saying? >> She's saying is it is it manifesting? Is it that? >> No. No. This is something else. This is you are with this is a relationship between you and Hashem. You tell Hashem, "You gave me a commandment." Usually who buys the talit. >> No, >> the girl. >> She buys the talit. >> So she says, "I'm doing it before." By the way, I know a girl. You know what she did? She bought a kala dress. Mama, >> she bought a cow dress. She didn't have anyone. She was not dating even. And she said to Hashem, "Hashem, I'm so sure that you will give it to me. I trust you. I'm already prepared." You know what this do in heavens? It shows your am shows your faith. >> You have to buy oral. Talit tit is the small one. >> That's what I'm saying. >> Yeah. Talit the tit is the strings. Talit mean is the big one that he that he puts on himself. That's why do it. Now a lot of girls what they do they get the talit they put it in the house and that's it. No take it from time to time. I would even do it for every day >> for 40 days. >> Huh? Who you give it? >> No, you keep it for your husband. >> Future. >> Your future. Who you buy it for? >> I don't know. >> Again, maybe I was not clear. Maybe I was not clear. >> In the hoopa. One second. In the hoopa. In the hoopa, he has to bless the talit. >> Who gets the talit for him? >> The wife. >> The wife. She is doing it before she found it to say to Hashem, "Hashem, I'm prepared from before. Now you have to give. I already did the mitzvah. Now you gave me the katan. Now you give me the blessing on it." >> The blessing that he said doesn't matter. You can make it nice. You can put a fancy whatever fancy uh how you call this uh thing. Whatever you want for him. But get it. But what people don't do, what what what what they usually don't do, they don't pray. Take the pray to Hashem says, "I have it. Give me the >> give me the >> So you go to a Judas and you get it and then if you can take upon yourself once a week, every day, take the in your hands." >> So you said also, right? >> No, I I just gave it. Yeah, it's right. I was in I was in Moscow recently. I said this gula to one person in Moscow, one of my friends. The guy literally bought maybe 45 m. >> He says, "I want a big house. I came I came. I came. You know what a house he has? Five uh >> five floors. He has a He has a elevator in the house. >> He told me Rabbi Desbula worked. >> True story. Two months ago, I was there. But he took the and he was praying to >> he was thinking, "Give me the house." Give me the house. says, "Look, I can't tell no to him. He did it before me. >> Just do it." This is a another thing. Ah, this one I like from what gave us a present to this generation. Without a man, I don't know what we would do. Those who are a little bit familiar with the teachings of Aman, he says like this, it says gulah for a man but the women also can use it but it's more for a man. He says like this. If you see that you don't you try you do different you do effort and you see that Hashem for whatever reason delay your uh uh finding your match and you want to get it as soon as possible. There's something you can do spiritually that will remove blockage and will give you the blessing. What is that? He says there is aim number 100 is a very famous 100. This is it is a very short one. Now he says look this is has a very interesting sentence. It starts like this. Yeah. It's a uh it's a song of of of things. That's the four first words of the tailing. Now if you will take the acronym of is what word we get from that acronym. What is what is laws of Torah? Says, but read it backwards. Read the backwards. What you going to get? The bride. So he says there is a reason why is it like that and there says three things. First of all, thank you Hashem. A person that thanks Hashem, Hashem gives him his wishes fast. the more you are thankful to and you don't you don't uh uh complain like the para that we read last last weeks the complain of the of the spies the complain of kashm doesn't like complain hashem like when you thank when you thank Hashem he give you what you want but then if a man will learn on a daily basis. He says it is gulah to get married faster. Now we can learn a lot of type of Torah. We can learn mus ethics. We can learn cabala. We can learn mishna. We can learn gumala. We can learn a lot of things. But when you learn hala every day the hala becomes hakala and your bride is coming to you. That's why one of the big suggestions for men you want to get married fast accept upon yourself every day say two minimum minimum of the minimum after you put your say to buy a book of you I have a lot of you can buy you can buy It's there's different books of there's even online read to you will get the faster if you can add to that also saying this that's even greater you learn the you get the this is forbidden I want to give you is ga for This is a very interesting unique zula. I doubt if you heard it in your life. This is from the Benghdad. This type of that people like this is like a things that are mysticism. First of all, the sayim that's the book of life. We sometimes take this book for granted. Okay. I read all salvations, all blessings in one book. You can literally get everything with even things that you don't deserve. But there are talim and there are there's different timing for everything. Benish brings a secret. He says for ziv for for for finding your match. What should I read? So he's very clear. He says like this six, write it down. 127. So 124 and 127. Okay, we got six chapters of says the banish every day read six chapters of and then if you can add also the song of the song of the opening of the sea it's in every sidu if you don't have a sidu it's in the para of balaf you're not going to miss Because the song is written in a different form in the Torah. It says two columns instead of straight. This this song right after the read it then says the take an apple. Here is the interesting part. People like apples. What should I do with the apple? Take that apple. Now apple according to Cabala is a fruit of love shalom bite peace at home all those things apples has this energy says that men and women that they don't have a good relationship if they will eat apples together their relationship will be warmer will be better apples are very very mystical >> green apples He says that you should have apples every Shabbat on your table. Eat together with your wife. It's going to make you >> what doesn't matter. Red, green, yellow apple. >> Apple is an apple says the Benish take the apple after you read those chapters of take the apple cut it to five. >> Yeah, I know it's five. It's not like symmetrical but okay. You will find a way to do it. Cut it to five. Make a blessing slowly and eat it. After you eat it, ask for finding your match. He says you'll see miracles. This apple things I'll tell you how does it work. What is sigula? This world is a parallel to the heavens to the upper worlds. When we do different actions here, even though we don't understand what they do in the parallel world, it does something. Apple in this world symbolize a certain higher level, a certain energy in the upper world that the cabalists know what. And when you want to awaken up a certain energy of blessing, you have to take a certain fruit, a certain a certain you do a certain action. And then you awaken up that power in heavens and it comes back to you. That's the secret of magendavid. What is mandavid? These two triangles. The first triangle is us in this world. Whatever we do is goes up awaken up in the upper world. And then there that energy that we woke up comes down to us. That's the symbol of of of the Jewish people that all we do here affect the upper worlds and comes back to us depend on what we did. So the capitalists know what to do even though it's for you. It sounds weird. How does the apple going to help my zebuk to come? How this is going to help? Because this tale and this apple are awaking up certain powers that you don't understand right now that says gula. >> Sorry. >> I don't know. I'm not the banish. Now the thing with gulot that most gulot are not explained. It's like you go to the doctor you say doctor I have a yeah I went to the doctor not long ago. I had um my uh ear was pain the ear. I went to him. I thought he's going to give an antibiotic or something. He said it's an allergy. Said are you sure it's an allergy? I feel I I have a sore throat for already few days. Then it came to my ear. He says yeah it's an allergy. It was hard for me to believe. So I told him what I what do I need to do? He says you have to take uh some drops. You put in your nose, but it's in the ear and my nose is okay. No, no, you put it in the nose, it's going to work on the ear. Trust me. Okay. I trust the doctor and he knows better than me. He knows the the the physics of you know everything how it works. I don't ask questions because if I'm going to ask question the doctor would need to sit few hours with me and explain me how all the uh how does it work and he's not going to do that. Same thing with goulas. Gula it's a spiritual medicine. How does it work? The professional people though those are the experts they know. He tells you five cut the apple to five. So you you better cut it to five. Why five? Five symbolize something all the levels of your soul. So this is also a good okay it's already very late and I have a lot of for you but I wanted to tell you also something that will help each one of us to get married. So first of all also there's certain times during the the year that are more strong for prayer for ze for example when it's raining do you know when there is rain the prayers are stronger when you see raining what do you need to do pray with your own words give me my soulmate the prayer will be a lot stronger sometimes to do things that are related to helping other people to get married. Open your maz to get married. If you know a family that they they have a hard time to make a wedding here in Israel, doesn't matter where, and you give them some money, measure and measure, Hashem says, "You help them to get married. I'm going to make you sure that you will get married faster. Sometimes someone that got married, anything they touch, anything they do that is connected to the marriage, if you will participate in it, it's also open your mazal. For example, you were in a wedding, they make a blessing on a cup. What should you do after they finish? Go up the stage, take the cup, say, drink a little bit. It's opening up to get married faster. The the some some Jews they have custom to hold the above the the katan and the kala. If you can ask to participate also to hold a head you have the hoopa you will be blessed also with the hoopa that's the school but I wanted to tell you something today that I think will change now you will not see how it change now but I believe to what our sages say and it will just open your mazal to get married. There is a rabbi from Bob you know there's a lot ofish groups there is satir there is vision there is kabad there is pres there's also bob the babov they have a lot of big the big righteous men one of them from and he said like this he said that there is a certain story that if you hear that story just hearing that story or telling to someone that story that story opened your luck to get to find your match just hearing or saying that story. By the way, there's there's a similar with hearing a story also for healing. One time his daughter was sick and she was very sick and he came he sat beside her and he told her I'm going to tell you now three stories that whoever hears those stories get a healing. All the doctors tried to heal her, nothing helped. He came, he told her those three stories. Hashem, she got better. She came out of the disease. There's certain stories of righteous people that just hearing the story give you a blessing of something. And I want to share with you one story that says if you hear it or you say it to someone else, you will it's to get married faster. So here is the story. There's a rabbi his name is was the rabbi from aa is very close to in Ukraine. He was a big rabbi. He had a lot of students. One of his very good students were was a person named Shal. Yeah. very typical Ashkanazi name back then from Rivash. Why Rivia? Because he was born in Rivash. So they called him from Rivash but he was living in Apa. He born in Rivo was living in Apa. He was a big big scholar student of the Rebi from ATA. The problem is that he was very smart. He was very knowledgeable in Torah but he didn't have money. He was learning all day and he didn't have luck with money. Even the works that he used to do didn't work. One day his daughter, she became already in an age that she needs to get married and they start to worry. Nobody wants to get married to her because they are very poor. And back then to get married especially if you have a daughter, if you don't have money, good luck. in the Ashkenazi world is very very back then was was known that if you have a daughter you have to come with a certain amount of money you know all those and especially if you want to get someone that is a scholar of Torah you need to have some uh you know a way to handle the expenses of the new couple that don't that can't because he needs to learn Torah and he was in a big problem he told it to his friends all the students of the rabbi from aa his And then and they told him, you know, we are businessmens. We don't have so much money to sponsor you, but we have a good idea. You know, soon there is the flea market in broad. They had a business flea market there. Everybody comes to broad to sell different merchandise. We also going to go there. Come with us. There's a lot of rich people there. There's a lot of good families. and we will dress you up like a rich man somehow we'll get you like you know a nice room in a hotel and you don't do anything yeah we do it in a condition that you don't do anything let us take care of you finding someone for your daughter fine he said okay I don't have any other choice nobody tells me another way so I'm going to do that with you he went there And they promote it as if the rabbi, the hell from Riashov, the big rich man from Riashov. He's here and he has a daughter and he's looking for a shid for his daughter. And all the businessmans, they heard it and they started to come to see, you know, maybe we can make something. And one of the very important families of B, he came first. He says I want to meet the the rich guy because he heard that there is a very rich man his name was there was actually a person like that but also his name is like this but he doesn't live in anyway he comes start to talk to him and he tells him um listen uh I have a son you have a daughter this is our family. He told him a little bit about himself and he says, "I heard about you. You're very respectful man in I heard about you also. I'm very interested." They spoke but at the end they say, "Listen, maybe let's make a agreement." Now, back then they first make an agreement between the families, then they let the couple to meet each other. That that's that's, you know, old style. I'm sure you heard about it. He says okay I think we are a good uh you know our family your family very good match let's make a a document that we say in the document that your daughter and my son will get married uh but can you bring a certain amount of money so he says how much he says listen I think he gave him a very very big number because he's rich, you know, they need to do fancy weddings and fancy house and everything. He never heard this type of, you know, amount even. So he looked at him, he's like, I mean, God willing. Now he understood THIS IS LIKE, OKAY, IT'S NOTHING. And then he tells him, B, we also need a house for the couple and this is cost like this. Can you sponsor that? Take it upon yourself. He thought, you know, like people say, you know, like no promises. They feel like, okay, no problem. We just And they made a deal. After they made a deal, now the custom was that the uh groom's family gives some presents, some you know uh uh um valuable things to the to the family of the of the bride. And then after like a month when they're more serious, the bride, they send some uh presents for the uh for the groom. So he already gave him some, I don't know, gold, maybe other things to take. He took it and he went back. He went back to his learning. He went back to he didn't know what to do later after. He was trying to somehow collect. So he asked few people of his friends can you go collect money for me you know I need to get married my daughter and I promised a lot of money and okay but you know they they collect pennies the the money that is written there is a lot more but he did his he did his effort all of a sudden after one month they see that the guy is uh not responding it doesn't bring the you know like the custom is to bring also some uh presents for the bride. They don't get any presents. Don't get any any letters. So he sent a letter to who? To because he thinks he's from but he's not from he's from but because his name is from he sent a letter for to which was a actual very rich man. He gets the letter and he says, "Hello, how are you? We remember your daughter, my son, this that what happening now?" He doesn't even have kids. He thought it's one of his enemies that want to make fun of him that he doesn't have many kids, you know, and sending him letters. He threw the letter to the garbage. After two weeks, he see there's no response. He sent another letter. He see the letter again, throw it to the garbage. It's not for me. I don't have kids. This family didn't know what to do. They decided, okay, we have to go all of us to the mother, the father, the son, the groom, they go to they knock on the door of the rich man. He opens the door. They see the guy. It's not the same guy. He says, "I'm so sorry you're not." He says, "I am." He says, "Oh, but there was someone that was talking as if it's you. I think there's a fraud here." He says, "Yes, listen. I know. I got your uh, you know, um, letters and now I understand why you were sending it, but it's not me." He was so mad. Did you know what to do? His wife told him, "Listen, we are already here in Ria. It's very close to where my grandparents from. My grandparents were big righteous people. Let's go to ATA and go to the cemetery. Pray in my uh you know my grandfather was a rabbi. We'll pray there. You know maybe we'll get a Yeshua something. They go to AFA. They get into the cemetery. in the cemetery there's one of the real one collecting money for him and he says please I'm collecting money for for a bride that needs to get married the rabbi he hears from he's like he goes to the guy he says he says can you donate he says I will donate how much you want just tell me where this leaves. He tells them I mean if you want to talk to him he's all day in synagogue. You can just go to the synagogue you'll see him there. He goes there. He goes in. He see this with very poor man's clothes. And he understand that it was a fraud. And he says, was it why did you tell me that you he was so mad at him? He says, "What is this? Now I see you're not." And stood up says, "Oh, my future uh In-gl how are you? You came to our city. Come over for dinner. And he's like didn't even respond to him. He went back to the rabbi of the city, the which is the rabbi of this man. He told him, "Rabbi, there's a frog. This man he was wearing as if he's clothes as if he's rich." And he told them all the story. I want a bin. I want a court to tell him that he has to pay back all those uh presents that we gave to them and we want to break the uh the agreement. We made an agreement. I want to break it because it's a fraud. Says, "Okay, we have to call him in. We have to hear what he has to say." Now, in the meantime, this goes home, tells his wife and his daughter, "You don't understand who is here. Remember I told you that I made a shid the in-laws please prepare something for them to eat. Is his wife says what do you mean eat? We don't have anything to eat. We have he said but nothing. He says we have only one chicken left. We have to chef it. Says okay so at least one chicken. Let's make a soup. You know important people came. So his daughter says okay fine. I'll take it. I'll do it. She heard their katana is here, you know. Uh she took this chicken and then the chicken ran away. So she goes after the chicken and it runs and runs and runs and then it goes into a place that was um destroyed. There were a lot of houses that were destroyed and nobody go got there, but the chicken got inside and she even didn't pay attention. It's a dangerous place. She went in and there was a cave there inside and she went in just to get the chicken because it's the only chicken and the katan is waiting and then she see where the chicken is. There's few golden coins on the floor. She's like wow. She pick it up and she see more golden coins and she picks it and says she see a whole like a bucket with golden coins. She took everything. She forgot about the chicken. She took everything. She went home. She says, "Aba, you don't understand what happened. Look, he says, he took few coins, put it in the pocket. He goes to the court in the court says, listen, this man says that you had an agreement. You said you're going to pay this and this. You're going to pay also presents. You're going to do this. Do you have all this money? says, "Of course." The after looks at him. Are you sure? Hey, I know you. Says, "Of course. Did I lie ever in my life?" Says, "No, I know you." Okay. So, what claims you have the other side? He says he's poor. Look how he looks. says what it doesn't mean if I look like this it doesn't say anything I said in the agreement that I'm going to pay so I'm going to pay it doesn't matter how I look says the says listen if he says he will pay we cannot break the agreement agreement has to stay agreement he took few golden coins he put it on the table and he says rabbi this is for you for the for the courts I pay it and when it comes to the right time I will also pay the rest of the things and they got married and everything was perfect. This rabbi afterb always had this coins in his drawer just to remember this miracle that happened to this man and the rabbi says if you hear this story it is gulah to get married so that's why I shared the story with you and you know at the end of the day we have to do our effort Hashem decide but by doing a spiritual effort We can bring it a little bit closer. We can bring it a little bit easier. We can make it work on the right way on the easy way and with those with keeping the mitzvot with having this faith why he got the at the end he had faith that Hashem will help. I don't worry people that worry they don't get it. People that walk with faith with their Hashem gives them all the time. How do you have a when you do what the say when we do what the rabbi said to us? He said this but it doesn't make sense. It doesn't make sense what he says like apples this that how does it help? I have if the rabbi said it's going to work this faith simplicity will bring bring you all the blessings in life. So I want to bless all of you will give you will give you to be liked but all the people that look at you on the date and everywhere else will give you success in what you do. Whatever you say will be heard and people will want to do and I want to bless all of you with to have finding your match the right one that you'll have peaceful happy lovely life together with and thank you for organization and for all the people that organized this lecture was a pleasure seeing you everybody here and next time you come with your spouses to avite lecture together. Amen. If you want to get this gulot written in few days, we have the cards. Yeah, we can you can bring the cards here to the rabbi. You can give it. There is a QR code there. You can uh uh you can uh um basically connect to our group at lined in few in few uh days. We will send it there.