CHAZAQ's Torah Talks #179 Rabbi Yehoshua Goodman - The Greatest Life...

we get distracted all the time nonstop nonstop there's a couple that finally got away went to a restaurant We're Alone quiet personal time great alone time I know it took 15 minutes until he's on his and she's on we can't compete we can't that couple when they were going out the husband sneezed and she texted him bless you so it's a crazy world we have tools that can make our life much easier and we've taken them and gone perhaps way too far and we don't have time for anything cuz we're so busy saving [Music] time and welcome to Torah Talk's program with special guests we have with us all the way from from welcome thank you very much for joining us great seeing you once again we're going to be speaking about the greatest life an exciting topic but before we do that for getet a little bit background about the rabbi and the great work you're involved with I grew up in Hillcrest over here not far away went to IQ MTA After High School then married um I am yeah thank AEM um IA for struggling boys in the ne Israeli boys that haven't found their place in regular Frameworks and thank AEM we try and help them get back on track amazing phenomenal great and uh yeah whenever the rabbi has to come to the New York area I told the rabbi please let us know and he comes to the to the gives us so we really appreciate it we have to do more so Rabbi how would you define the greatest life and how would one achieve it um I think that the greatest life is connecting to hm connecting to hem we see hasem doesn't you doesn't me hasm created the world just to give and to give and to give is good and wants to give and to give and to give like this very popular song I understand in America as well oh you of even better and even better and even better hasm is just looking to give and to give and to give and to give and to give question is if we let hm give to us or if we get uh distracted and more distracted and more distracted I know the people that I've seen that were most super saturated with Sim with happiness with enjoying this world we in my opinion disagree we're people full of Torah the more Torah the more they enjoy themselves the more satisfied they were yeah for sure more satisfaction the less it seems to me that that's just the greatest life he just connecting to hm and his Torah more and more and more there's a med the the verse says I think in the soul will never be filled the meses tell us that it's a parable to princess who grew up in the lap of luxury with everything that that means and she ran away and she married a simple villager fine now he tries to give her a meal oh he's trying to spoil her oh my wife this is food you know what I was eating in the palace let's go on vacation where you going to go this is a vacation you know where I was going you know what I was doing when I was in my father's house no matter what he does for her he can't fulfill her she she's used to a different level completely the the the parable is that we are all a soul from upstairs we came down from from next to in upstairs and now we're getting and we were connected to the greatest greatest Pleasures in the world and now we're you know okay great I can enjoy this and I can enjoy that and I need to but it's not going to satisfy me it's not going to give me wow this is amazing oh I'm so happy I'm So Satisfied it's enjoyable but not more than that and the more we're connecting to in his Torah it seems to me the more happy we are more satisfied we are the more we're enjoying our stay in no this world 100% so the greatest life is connecting with hm the way to achieve connecting to hm is by learning the holy Torah and that is how we connect to but what would you say Rabbi Goodman is a roadblock something that holds people back for being able to achieve the greatest life and to wait I'm sorry what one second I'm sorry we get distracted all the time nonstop nonstop there was a couple that finally got away went to a restaurant and it was so so happy great great great great great after maybe we're alone quiet personal time great aone time I don't if it took 15 minutes until he's on his and she's on we can't compete we can't that couple when they were going out the husband sneezed and she texted him bless you so it's a crazy world we have tools that can make our life much easier and we've taken them and gone perhaps way too far and we don't have time for anything because we're so busy saving time and we end up just not going anywhere and we're stuck and how can I enjoy spending time with my wife if every second what I'm sorry what what what oh you're here oh I'm sorry what I go to pick up my kid and um uh sit down buck up buck up how can I enjoy anything if I'm totally distracted how can I enjoy learning every second wh well thought I may perhaps also a parable someone goes to basketball game goes to go don't go ask whatever fine and the whole time he's listening to the Yankee game on the radio or not on the radio anymore for you know 20 years when I was growing up right so he's watching the Knicks but he's listening to the Yankees how's the Knicks game you can enjoy the Knicks game if you're listening to the Yankee game but if I have now Mya my whatever I'm talking to my kids I'm talking about my kids are getting in the car soorry I'm off limits now then I can hopefully hopefully enjoy my kids if I'm off limits I can enjoy hopefully talking to my wife at a dinner table the family is sitting down finally connecting talking without distractions hopefully hopefully I can enjoy if I'm sitting learning with but every what what what how can I enjoy the gamor if every I'm being constantly constantly distracted there was a rski that's tski J doctor has un speaker at the big kak really amaz so he has many many many swarm I think over 80 um put out over 80 F in his lifetime and he something someone went to see a certain rebba and they came back and said what was the most important thing that the rebba did while you were there and the answer was whatever he was doing at that moment I'm here I'm only here I'm nowhere else I'm not what what what what but but but but everyone feels it everyone feels it there's a beautiful line disconnect to connect well we disconnect from the phone and we able to connect with the family with the with with God whatever it may be so yeah a very big challeng very nice a big big yeah it's it's unfortunate but a lot of it we bring on ourselves because I don't have limits I don't leave my phone in the car and then I can't what if what what if what okay the world is not going to what do they do before the phones how do people manage and live right I I couldn't take you know get on the subway and go to wherever because I don't have a phone and then no one's going to be able to reach me I can't it's true it's true it's true how they survive but uh it's it's uh a very helpful tool but perhaps we've taken it way way too far why can't I just leave it in the car or leave it here and I'm talking to my kids so I'm off limits but but someone's call okay I'll call them back world's not going to collapse in the next half hour okay I'm leing everyone will know that in the morning I have a I'm learning Torah I'm off limits and don't get me afterwards after one after two it's so the biggest distraction the Rabbi says is the phone is we all know it we all know it it's impossible to enjoy what I'm doing if I'm constantly constantly and then that that way we're not able to live the greatest life and the way to get live The Good Life Is by learning Tora and we're not able to learn T because we're always being distracted so a person should try to have set set times and no matter what this is going to be from this time to that time no one could call no one could distract I'm going to connect to B leave the phone in the car nothing's going to happen leave the phone at home what's going to happen no no no I need okay as one that lives and helping and his children how does one give others the ability to live the greatest life what would the rabbi suggest I think orski once I think said positive Torah experiences positive toor experiences giving mus doesn't really help and just talking doesn't really help but create positive Torah experiences come let's learn something let's go to this amazing Shir let's do this let's do that let's sing let's have a an on positive Torah experiences though other side you know the vation has plenty of things that look sweet and right afterwards they disappear but to to counter it with positive positive Torah emotional spiritual experiences the more last week's Torah talk we had of Chris the guest house Freelander he said something very very nice that the RAB ra would see I think something along lines that they would see that the father or someone have his kid come to SCH and say go Davin or go learn the rabbi said no no no no no wait wait don't D don't Lear come here come here come eat come drink once the ate once the child drank then he automatically went to DAV and to learn so the rabbi suggested the same thing positive Tor experiences and invite others for the Shabbat table which is the best cure of T out there uh they see it they experience it at kazak we could say the same thing that we have all these kids and all these programs for for public school students and uh and people complain oh wel how much food you guys order and buy and spend and this and that but at the end of the day what is their language through we get them through the stomach in a sense that they come to the programs once they're there once they're satiated then we fill them with more Tora [Music] more it's a whole Revolution beautiful beautiful I'm sure the the rabbi has I'm sure you have similar uh experiences with the boys to me one of the other wasur were in his backyard he a house and then we're behind his house and his daughter big sadik makes fresh cakes every basically every afternoon o' just to to give it to the boys to give to the boys fresh warm there's a cont it's very true sometimes the ad of not doing things for the sake of Heaven you know you know helping people and and getting them in the doors and it'll become they're going to be do doing things for the sake of heaven so Rabbi loved every single moment we have aak Tor talks which is a final message for our broad audience um I just maybe share something that I heard from of nans from Victor n in The Old City course said an amazing mush we think that the Y har is telling us the evil inclination come come come enjoy this world and forget about the next world that's what we think right but the no the inclination is trying to destroy our stay in this world and to destroy our stay in the next world where does he start he starts which is easier it's much easier unfortunately to destroy a person's future the world to come than it is to destroy this world so he starts and as soon as he finishes this destroying a person's future world he immediately gets to work over time destroying his stay in this world that's what says I'll prove it to you bring you a proof how what's what's NS proof take a goat a goat was born if anyone seen a goat he's first few hours he can't do much he's just lying on the ground after a few hours he gets up and starts walking around few hours put a baby goat a few hours old next to a 40 meter 40 100t Cliff he looks he knows that's dangerous he knows to be careful a goat after a few hours take a baby after 6 months 9 months starting to crawl almost walking put him next to a cliff 40 M 100 ft he doesn't know how to be careful who's smarter a human being or a goat what happened says the goat has no he has no evil inclination pushing him off the cliff every human being has an evil inclination trying to push him off the cliff until the AAR can he's busy destroying our next world but as soon as the aahar finishes destroy destroying our stay in the next World our future he works over time to destroy our stay in this world I think I don't know perhaps we look around them we can see what happens to people with Al Tor how much do they enjoy their stay here how much did they not and when I was in or over here I went oh on believable place I'm here try and be there as much as I can now when I'm here there were two older gentlemen who used to come in I think suits and I think ties they say they were retired they say that they saw the and they were sitting there learning like two young and you see when a person doesn't have Torah they retire what do you do I get out of bed what don't we do today what don't we do tomorrow it doesn't end it's so sad they could have been enjoying themselves just like everyone with Torah but if a person has Tor he has this world and when we don't have Torah perhaps that's a final thought there we we think that they just trying to give us this world no no no no they just trying to destroy this world and the next world he starts with the future as soon as he's finished destroying our stay in the future world he destroy tries to get us to lose our stay in this world powerful message just to add from uh last week's par where it says that save me from the hands of my brother from the hand of he only had one brother why does it say so the very powerful very simple that the could be like an as of very straightforward don't do mitvah but some you could camouflage himself and say that he's your brother and he could tell you listen like brother don't get out of bed I'm helping you I'm interested in you I want to help you so thear could be very very very very dangerous and we have to be extra careful from that and every single one of us should take this message to heart to live the greatest life a life of Good Deeds we want to thank RAB for all that you do for said the jewi people we want to thank all of our amazing podcasts uh people that have hosted it many different platforms with us shout out to our friends at Tor anytime.com and also to daily giving.org 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