CHAZAQ's Torah Talks #163 Tuvia Sablosky - From Ultra Secular to Being Observant

riton Esther young rice was the one that ignited a flame she set set the fire she said thank you for coming back tell me your name I said Tommy great what's your Hebrew name I said I don't have one you got one when you got your bris I said I didn't have a bris she said you didn't have a bris I was told I had circumcision in Einstein hospital and I started explaining how my mom passed away and how she'd been cremated and she looked at me and she turned white she goes we don't create we've got a lot of work to do here you have to start learning humh you also have to get to fill in you have to get a proper Hebrew name and you have to have a proper bris two three nights a week I'm I'm busy now learning cuz I knew nothing when you get sure to fill in I'm going to give you a Hebrew name so she thought about but she goes your Hebrew name is going to be tuvia tell Rabbi yosher that will be your [Music] name and welcome to Tor talk kazak's Tuesday night program with special guest we have with us tvia sablowski welcome from Brooklyn so good to see you so nice to see you Rabbi TI is a very dear friend of kazak and we're going to be discussing a remarkable Journey from secular to observant and uh you know reab AKA he became observant at the age of 40 but we have right over here toia that became observant at the age of 50 so that's very inspiring and can you tell us a little about your upbringing tovia sure sure Rabbi thank you for having me always like to do things partner with hako and many levels so my name is I was actually born as Thomas Allen Sosi in Philadelphia I was nicknamed after my grandfather who came from outside of Kiev in Ukraine with his father my great-grandfather in the late 1880s to Philadelphia uh and they wanted to come to America and become Americans they were running away from the pilgrims in in Russia and Europe and it's interesting because they were asked to go to narst toown which is a suburb of Philadelphia to start help start the Jewish Community there so that's when my father grew up there and went to Villanova College not a very Jewish College not a very Jewish area and basically my family just assimilated same thing with my mom's family they came from Europe back not as early but they came in the early 1900s late 1910s um but both my parents grew up they born in America and they grew up as as American Jews secular secular um they belonged to a reformed synagogue called Ro shom which was we were in the suburbs so there's a Suburban uh station that we used to go to but the main synagogue was on Broad Street in Philadelphia one of the oldest synagogues in the United States so back in the 1860s around the Civil War is when the reform movement started in Philadelphia started in Philadelphia really in the country and May in the world um so there are many many reformed Jews in the Greater Philadelphia area grew there and went elsewhere and that's what I grew up with and yeah there was no yish kite um and and the first thing of jewishness coming to my mind was when I was 5 years old in kindergarten and my parents sent me to a Christian Quaker prep school called William Penn Charter School founded by William Penn in 1689 one of the oldest prep schools in the United States so on the first day I'm on the school bus and taking me home and I see one of my parents' son's friends Freddy man and he said Tommy how are you doing I said great how was the first day great I said I'll see you tomorrow Freddy goes no you won't I said why not because it's rashash Shana I said okay he said we don't come to school on Russia Shan I said why not because we're Jewish I said Freddy am I Jewish he goes yes of course you're Jewish you're not coming to school tomorrow in rashash Shana wow that was really kind of my one of my first wakeup calls that I was different that I was wasn't like all these people I was going to school with that I was Jewish wow so that was really the start of it and my parents I had great family two older sisters they're still here here both my parents are not here um we grew up middle class to Middle upper class we belonged to a very nice country club I had everything I needed um but what was interesting is my parents wanted me to to really be like a real American boy they wanted the school I went to I wor tie and jacket that was one of the things my dad wanted and uh but it was a very goish school there were very few Jews um I was known as I was people knew me as the Jewish guy I probably had more fights and got picked on more than the other Jewish kids in the class because they just I don't know what they were doing um in seventh grade was really a turning point um because I spent a few years getting stronger so I could fight off more battles and I played football so in seventh grade was the first first game of the year and I was on the the first kickoff Squad I'm running down the field and this big guy six foot plus guy knocks me out seventh grade totally knocks me out and my mom used to come to all the games and and that she was late that game and she got there and her friend said you missed all the excitement you missed all the excitement what happened Tommy got knocked out oh cold so her mom by that time I had woken up and and she looked at me she goes I told you football's not a Jewish sport it's not a Jewish sport that was the end of football that was the end of really full contact sports for me I did many sports so Sports play a big part of my life so I started coaching kids in soccer and playing tennis more tennis and by ninth grade I started getting really good in tennis and one of these kids that I met in my class also Ling back to seventh grade one of the first real anti-semitic events I and fights I was in in seventh grade this guy named Scott he wrote on the chalkboard a very derogative term and form a govern and then he wrote the same term and soski is the same thing uh very negative word and that was fighting word so I flew across the the hall I beat the guy up and nothing happened school didn't do anything I didn't do anything but that was it I defended myself and felt comfortable with that in ninth grade he was the same guy that took me to a country club where Jews were not allowed to go no one could go except White anglish SE and Protestant people could go there as members but you certainly couldn't be a member if you were Jewish or black or you just didn't fit into their community so I he took me there I don't know why it's the same guy that was calling me anti-anemic names and he took me onto a squash court and we played squash for the first time and I came home all excited because I love playing the sport I told my parents I was playing squash they had no idea I was talking about they never heard of this sport before and it was a very Global sport founded by the British and they went around the world playing squash and in the elite schools in Philadelphia like i' had gone to and in all the IV League colleges and the relay College they played squash so I started playing in ninth grade and I started playing on the varsity in 10th Grade by 11th grade I was number one in the school and by 12th grade I started playing in National tournaments for juniors and I was number 10 in the country well very interesting so that was and what was really motivating me I was beating these guys at their own sport sport m i was beating them and that really was the fire inside to beat them this is how I fought them through beating them and that this continued on to college continued on to college I got recruited to play Squash um so one thing that that God gave me was to this the skill of co- calling and networking I love to co- call you know yes and networking I loved having big network not technology networks but networks of people I've always done that um so I started cold calling the the coaches at Harvard Dale Princeton all the Ivy League schools doing my research who had the best squash teams where an opening would be and at Penn where I grew up I was introduced to the squash coach there and he started training me with the team so I had an inside there so on the weekends I would write a letter mail it because we didn't have emails and boxes back then and I'd spend weekends going to the different campuses with the squash teams as their guest and at the ended I end up going to the University of Pennsylvania well and that's actually where we did an event not too long ago y with tovia and uh the question is how did you become more observan how did that happen this was back in the 20s I'm talking about that fast forward um I ended up continuing to not lead much of a Jewish life um the other thing my mother told me was that she wanted me to marry a Jewish girl wow so like don't play football but marry a Jewish girl but why you send me to you know I'm Jewish but he sent me into a very goyish environment so my mom passed away I got married during that time period and my first wife was not Jewish she came from Korea when she was 12 years old one of the first families to immigrate from Korea to the United States so I have a 25y old daughter who's beautiful and uh we got divorced in 2004 in 2008 when my mom passed away I was very very close to my mother she was the closest person for me in this world and I was really missing her but I was always interested in searching personal development spiritual things and side to side I would take a couple personal development courses the course I took was called L Landmark Education which is is Advanced spiritual work and there are a lot of lost Jews like myself in that work I was a lost Jew at the time so I walk into the class I'd already taken some classes with them many classes and I see their many Je je girls in the class so I said for my mom's sake I'm going to look for the prettiest girl in the class Jewish girl and ask her out on a date so it didn't take very long to locate her she was up from greatneck and came to the city and uh I asked her she'd like to go in date and we're talking and she goes yeah I'd like to go on a date with you I said great what would you like to do she goes I'd like to go to a Torah class sounds great kak event wasak had heard hak yet I never heard heard of Tor never so I said great I'll meet you so I met her at this big synagogue called KJ on the upper side off of Park Avenue in 85th Street and I walk in and this lady approaches me and she said are you here for tonight's Tor class I said yes I think so she said great I said are you single I said yes she said great are you Jewish I said yes she goes I'm the assistant Matchmaker I have all these ladies here we have a crisis going on I know what was can I introduce you I said well I'm actually here on date tonight but if it doesn't work out I'll certainly be in touch with you so fast forward I'm sitting with my date and this person's speaking and they're talking about that week's para which I know what a par was and anti-Semitism which I knew within 10 minutes a light bulb went off in my brain and that that was the moment I started becoming observant wow that was the moment and that woman this gives me so much start to interrupt you know we organize all these events and Torah class is and lectures and you know this is going already kak 18 years and many times in the beginning stage you're like you know is it really affecting is it really having a change but just like tovia just said it's like a light bulb all of a sudden today everywhere I go even this morning this guy comes to the Min to the shore and uh he looked familiar a little bit but he basically says if it wasn't I wouldn't be religious today I wouldn't be keeping Tor I wouldn't keeping and it gives me such such inspiration you know he went to AR STW to Israel because of an event because of a lecture because of the inspiration he got but continue please amazing so at the end of that evening it was just like I was blown away and the person had written many books so I wented to buy the first book that they had written so I actually bought it with me today called the Jewish soul on fire by written by rabit Esther young who spoke for many times many times Al a blessed memory yep and I had her write to my daughter because it was going to be her birthday oh wow and she wrote may God be with you and be happy to 120 and she wrote on the your Daddy loves you so you should know that I also have life as a test uhuh sure and uh when she spoke for kazak I was either dating my wife or engaged or just recently married basically I had her do it for Leora and uh and my wife and uh we still also have that incription which again it means a lot you know when a lot of these rabbis and rabbitson that they write these books and they they do a a some sort of a you know for lack of better words autograph it's not really that but more of a message in in the book with their handwriting it means so much more after they passing AB absolutely so rabit and Esther young rice was the one that ignited a flame she set set the fire the Jewish so many I have so many people that told me about that and it gives me a lot of also the fact that she did a big event in Madison Square Garden and there was thousands of people there it brought a lot of people awareness of Judaism the H organization yes yeah exactly so her daughter speaks for us Rob in SL young well her other daughter I think daughter-in-law yaf rabbits and yafa young race yeah amazing people it's it is that was the beginning of your journey to Judaism beginning so that week I had to take a business trip from flying from JFK to San Diego I was going to San Diego and on the flight I'm reading the book I can't put it down and I'm not a great reader I can't really pay attention that well but this one I'm just fing through it and someone Taps me on the back and I look around it's a young guy and he wants to know why I'm reading that book so I explain to him next thing know he's a young kabad couple he's playing toilin on for the first time flying from JFK to San Diego and F to fill for the first time wow so I ended up finishing the book I loved the book and I called came back and I called the lady who had taken me to meet the Ritson and I so I'd like to go you know another date with you and she goes I'm really busy blah blah blah said no problem I said I want to go see the red bitson all right if I go by myself she said absolutely so I went back and again it was a really very powerful class and afterwards I went to see her but there were maybe 30 or 40 people waiting in line so I heard she stays until the way hours in the 1 2 in the morning to to be with the people to and and I just didn't have the patience to stay so I just said to the line I'm just going to wave to her and next I know and she's signaling me to come over to her half an hour later I'm apologizing to the people inline because the rabbits have wanted to talk to me so in that conversation she said thank you for coming back tell me your name I said tubia not tuia Tommy he said great what's your Hebrew name I said I don't have one she goes are you Jewish I said yes your mother's Jewish yes your father Yes I'm absolutely you got one when you got your bris I said I didn't have a bris oh wow she said you didn't have a bris I said I was told I had circumcision in Einstein Hospital when I was in the hospital when I was born said that's what the Jewish boys did like me in Philadelphia so we're talking and she's getting and I start explaining how my mom passed away four months ago and how she' been cremated and she looked at me and she turned white and she goes we don't cremate Jewish people don't cremate she goes we've got a lot of work to do here you know first you have to start to learn you have to start learning humh I'm going to introduce you my son Rabbi yosher young race please start learning with him you also have to get to fill in you have to get proper Hebrew name and you have to have a proper bris okay I'm I'm open to everything it was very connecting so I started learning that next week with RAB boy osher I'd come in and learn homish with him and I'd go see the rabbits in one or two nights a week so two three nights a week I'm I'm busy now learning because I knew nothing um when I met with the rabbitson that second time she said when you get your to fill in I'm going to give you a Hebrew name so she thought about for a little bit and she goes your Hebrew name is going to be tuvia tell Rabbi osher that will be your human name so this is in September I go there for high holy days which were amazing because they would rent out the most beautiful hotels H and the young R family and that's how I started becoming observant which was extremely powerful so so so inspiring wow so Rabbi yosher kept telling me asking me to come visit him and his Yeshiva in Brooklyn so I thought they had yeshivas in Brooklyn so finally in January in uh 2009 few months after me the young races I went out to Conley Island Avenue and I see this big building I'm thinking wow I know they had nice property in manhatt but this is this is a big building this is serious I walk in said Rabbi OSHA I knew you were doing well but this building's he goes we don't own the building this is my issu but this is where I've gone my whole life it was high in Berlin oh wow so that day it was about zero degrees out it was a beautiful winter January day I felt like I was in back in Russia and Rabbi yosher took me into the main sh to introduce me to different rabbis and that we could learn and I literally thought I was back in the 1800s it was such a throwback so after we learned for about an hour he said it's time to go get your to fill in with Rabbi Pinkus which is a very famous store on Cony Island Avenue we walk in we're talking to Rabbi pinkis Tu needs to Tommy needs to get to filling and in walks another Rabbi and Rabbi ooser youngr says by pesak cron you're just the man we're looking for he goes do I know you he goes yes you know me you know my mother you've spoken with her rabbits and young oh yes I remember you I remember you but why do you need me he goes well I were introducing my friend Tommy because Tommy needs to get a proper bris he was circumcised but he needs to fill in Hebrew name proper bris wow are you available he goes well I usually am not here I live in Queens but I just need to come and get something special done for my to to fill in he said but in my in my truck I've got my toolkit I can go out and get why don't you Rabbi OS go get some wine and cake and we're going to do everything here right now wow so Rabbi pinka says well you can use my private office in the back of the theill store so the next thing I know I'm sitting here with Rabbi pesak cron I don't know who who this gentleman is and he's doing what he has to do and I said I didn't know what to give him but I had this great chocolate box of chocolate after I said do you like chocolate yes I love chocolate I said please have these great chocolates so we walk out and the next thing I know everybody it's busy Sunday morning everybody's in the store and they're gang around dancing and then Rabbi OSHA said okay we have to give to the Tommy his Hebrew name so my mother said tuvi is going to be your he Hebrew name so from that day on I stopped being called Tommy and Thomas that's it I have it on my license but aside from that that's been put put away wow his Divine Providence happening to be there at the time and doing the bris and taking care of everything and putting a Jewish name well Y and then rabbitson young R called just and she called RAB said where are you I said I'm out you're not going to believe what's going on I'm con is I'm Robie Pinkus is TI in store Roby uh PESA cron just came in Tommy's now tuvia he got his bris he's getting his to fill in the rabbits and par is this par shos who was born in par shos MOS Reno what did his mother call him tuvia she had many names but that was the name his mother gave him that's I said that's well that's really interesting because this is when I'm getting it right now pares and and what was moshe's wife's name that was his mother uh saora sapora so that's right this was right after New Year's Eve and I was dating a young lady who was the assistant to the rebbit not the same one that introduced me by then that was done now I'm Da a new lady and I took her out New Year's Eve and what do you think her name was sabar saura wow re assistant I'm thinking well I'm getting my feeling I'm getting a Hebrew name I'm I'm getting my bris and they even gave me a wife wow amazing this is unbelievable so my life has actually been leading like that ever since starting to become Observer wow and that was the moment the rabbits I I must say I must confess I guess for Lu better words I know tovia for quite a number of years coming to kazak events and lectures and you know different stuff we've even organized a few things together I spoke for in your community what was it uh yeah yeah yeah yeah I never knew this story this is like this is mindblowing this is crazy this unbelievable very inspiring I want you to know I have like the chills like I'm trying to okay it gets better it gets better it gets better so the riton said you have to get married your first marriage doesn't count that's right because you have to marry a Jewish girl and you and you have to do the mitz of having children one boy and one girl so now I start and how old are you at the time sorry just around 50 wow okay just around 50 now I'm divorced for four years now and I I'd like to get married I like to I like being married um so I start the dating process which wasn't easy because here I am coming out of left field and they want me to marry an observant girl not not just any Jewish girl good observant so my apartment I lived in the upper Upper West Side was not there was no kroot or anything I didn't really know anything so I made a decision early on that until I get remarried or get married I'm not going to spend a shabus or a Yan in my apartment I'm going to go someplace I'm not going to be by myself in the wrong place wrong community and that's what happened I had a bag called the blue shabas bag so the first shabas was out by the young races Rabbi yosher invited me to come out there and then I met a gentleman named Steve Steve Eisenberg I think you know his brother lives out in the five towns so I called Steve because I saw he was a leader for an international group that did lots of things together and lots of you know suas and all so I called him I want to introduce myself um I'd like to come and join so he's telling me about this he goes by the way how old are you I said I'm I'm around 50 little he goes this is for people in their 20s and 30s you're too old for this sorry I can't help you and we're talking he goes but maybe I could help you do you ever go to shabas meals I said well I've only been like once or twice but I would love to go to shabas meals he said great I'm going to start sending you for shabas and you're going to report back to me every time you go and let me know how it was so Steve Eisenberg started sending me to these very well-known families on the upper west side and that was really the next level again and after several months he goes okay you've passed that test now I'm going to send you out of Manhattan I'm send you to M I'm sending you to a rabbi named Rabbi Beni and katco who you know very well of course Shabbat shabbat.com so I get out to take a bus M tours up to Muny never been to Muny before never ever Muny and I walk into the rabbi's house and they just have a baby and his wife said do you like children I said I love children he goes here have a baby I can you help they have a big family his shabas table I think set 80 people I've never seen a t table that was phenomenal shabas wow thank you Rabbi clco and we've been friends ever since and he's a very good friend of kazak and he speaks to us all the time and he's definitely an inspiration and uh tiia I got to tell you you're very inspiring I I must say now now many people watching and listening to this um they're considering to becoming observant you know that's what kak does we we work with a lot of people what message could you give over to such an individual that's thinking of making the turn find good people who are committed to you find people like yourself like the rabbitson who really this is what they do they want people to become observant and they're trained in it and they have much experience it's for me it's been just a very clear pathway that Hashem sent me the right people right from day one and continues to every day send me amazing people that that put me on this journey powerful 100% friends and friends always better to have two than to one connect with others so many organization so many good rabbis rabons causes that are already willing able to help uh is there any one personal story that sticks out that strengthen your belief in Hashem and God um there's more than one story but one that sticks that one this one's really at propo because today is my father's y first above oh so we are pre-recording so so my uh so my father passed away on in 2018 on Friday morning it was the first above and my sister called and she said dad passed away I'd see him a couple weeks ago he lived at this point not in Philadelphia he lived in Bethesda Merlin and uh I knew what that meant what did that mean that my dad was going to be cremated and his body would be donated to Medical Science and that would be what would happen so how did that occur well my mother and father had made an arrangement that they were both going to be cremated oh wow so from the time I met the rabbits and it sent me on another journey to learn about cremation and why Jews Buri and don't cremate and I started doing a lot of research and then I ended up getting remarried moving to Brooklyn and I met a rabbi Rabbi holsberg was one of my first rabbis in Brooklyn and I was telling him about this he said you need to meet a gentleman named rabbi Zone from thead Association right here in this area and other people started mentioning his name so I finally gave him a call we started talking and uh he was coaching me I was getting different people who coach me on on how to speak to my father about not getting created and had also speak to my family about we don't very it didn't go very well for years I was speaking with my family about that not being created but that was what was planned that was done everything the will was taken care of so that when I got that call and I basically gave up because it wasn't falling it was falling on death fs and rabbis son said just have a relationship with your family don't bring it up anymore let whatever happens happens so when he passed away I called him up and uh I told he passed away and that he goes what do I do he goes you don't do anything I said okay he goes you don't sit Shiva you don't rip your clothes you don't say CSH you just go on now and have a good shabas and they're like okay W so later that evening um a local Rabbi who you know Rabbi pearlson our dear friend and his his rabbitson came by to say hello see how are you're doing and uh so I explained what happened and what I was told and I said I and I'm not saying CSH I'm not ripping my clothes not saying sh and reinson said you're not going to say Kish for your father I said Noe I was told no ksh and she kept saying you're not going to say kaj maybe three or four times so it's just like went into my brain that night the next day there was a bar mitz Rabbi hburg SCH and my friend had just lost his wife his son was gting bar mitz so the two of us just had a cryfest wow um and then Sunday morning I woke up and for whatever reason Hashem put me in my head asked my sister I'd like to see the will I never saw this will my parents will so I called her up and she goes well I haven't actually seen a few years let me send it to you so she sent it to me I said send to our other sister too so I get that on Monday morning I'm reading the will and there's nothing in there about cremation oh wow or or anything it was a will that was written back in 1984 that my parents would be buried the buried the estate would pay for it but there I was told there was a change in the will a few years before my father passed away that I would not be involved with the will or any of the decisions my sister would be the trustee and she would take care of everything so that's what I knew so when I got that I called up my wife I said right through this will there's nothing about cremation here so she asked me different questions I'm going to like pretend that I'm the judge test you to see if you could pass this I she told me said I called up rway Zone I told him the same thing he said I want to test you to see if you were in court what would happen so I'd already been testify my wife so I passed and he goes okay let's go find the body let's go find the body so this is Monday morning he passed away that Friday morning 1 of of and uh he put together a SWAT team starting in Philadelphia that went into Maryland a rabbi named Rabbi deid Kushner who really ran the SWAT team in list I happened to know him interesting I'm not surprised amazing guy he was like Superman on the spot uh he brought in the chief Rabbi from yeah Chief Rabbi from Maryland and the head of the kadua association ever kadua Association in Maryland and we were now on a hunt to find the body wow so that night Monday night my wife said why don't you call your sister and ask her what's happening where's the body so I called she going the bed early and her husband said she went to bed early and okay so I called the next uh then my wife said why don't you call him back and ask him where so I said do you know where you put the bike said I don't know I don't want to have anything to do with this I'm a doctor but this is you and your sister you take care of this I said any idea goes well maybe such and such a place so I call such and such a place and they're not giving me any information I kind of smell like they know something so I said to lady look lady I have information that my Dad's here if you don't tell me I'll be there tomorrow morning I'm driving down from New York with the police and I'll let them handle it so either let someone tell me what's going on or or I'll see you in the morning 10 minutes later I get a call from the owner of this facility Mr soski don't worry the rabbis were here they took care of it everything's been taken care of nothing happened to your dad no one touched him and you can have him but you have to have a release because your sister's a trustee so said to my wife I'm driving down to Marl and this is Friday Tuesday night so I called bra by his own I said we found the body he goes oh we actually found it this afternoon I said why didn't anybody call me because we were really busy but we we located the body so it was just interesting that we've been spend hours still looking and then we both found the body um so the next morning I get in the car I'm driving down to Philadelphia and I asked my wife is it all right I have to do whatever I have can do it can be like Rambo she goes do whatever you have to do I'm driving on the Belt and uh parking lot I'm stuck in traffic and my sister called and she said how are you doing great and she goes what did you do I said what do you mean what I do she goes what did you do I said about what about that I said I didn't do anything she goes well the whole thing got cancelled your rabbis came in and they cancelled everything and then it's silence I'm just sitting in traffic and she said whatat would you like I said I want our father's body and to bury him that's it nothing else silence and then she says you can have the body two conditions one you don't sue me or anybody in the family I I'm not interested in s any but I W fight and two the burial plots Mom and Dad have in that Cemetery we want them I said not a problem you can have those plots so she said I'm going to send you an agreement to sign the agreement and I'll do the release so I get the agreement on Wednesday morning it's a very long agreement I normally wouldn't sign this kind of agreement my wife said let's just sign the agreement we'll deal with ramifications later sent it back to my sister and we need to know by 3:00 release is done that we can get the B to get the body so we can bury on Friday before noon so I S back it's 11 o'clock don't hear anything 12:00 don't hear anything 1:00 people facilities are calling different people David Kushner everybody wants to know what's going on I don't know it's 2:00 2:30 several people were on the phone were waiting at 2:55 the facility says a fax is coming in right now it's the release you can have the body otherwise we have missed the whole thing because the body had to go from Maryland be cleaned and taken care of t t and brought to Philadelphia for burial by 12:00 noon on Friday afternoon wow what a what a what a story Rabbi D Kushner said tov meet you there I'll take care of getting the body I'm going to drive from Philadelphia tomorrow I'm going to get you meet me at the cemetery I'll arrange for a minia 10 men that I'll have a ccial burial I said great I get a call from him 7 o'clock on Friday morning to there's an issue i' had be in the hospital one night one of our our friends and family lost a child and I couldn't go to Maryland except I sent another team there they're getting it you meet us at the cemetery so I'm driving down from New York and there're different rabbis I'm friends with very close friends in in Lakewood I'm telling Rabbi Farber he's keeping watch I said can you come I don't know I don't know he never tells me if he's coming or not but when he ended up showing up was Rabbi Farber Rabbi freedan who I stay with all the time when I go to Lakewood Michael Balman who's very well known like the three of them came for the burial and the other person from my family was my wife's son who was Rabbi in Dar with Rabbi vender he drove down from Far Ro away nobody else from my family was there plus the 10 men at David Kushner so my dad had a proper burial Proper jur Burial and when I was driving down on New Jersey Turnpike I have two of my peruses I used to learn with in Manhattan one in Muny one in tck and they're just we're on the conference call tuy what do you think because they've been hearing about this story for a year how do you feel how do you feel I said I'm happy join F and grateful that I'm driving to go bury my dad that's it nothing else happy joyful and grateful and that's how I really think about every day that I just want to be happy joyful and grateful that I became an observant Jew and I'm connected to Hashem and connected to people like you and hak and that we're partnering up to do them more and more to to rescue the Jews in America to light them up like the rabbitson let me up and that we bring them back because there's maybe 10 15% of us observe in America they thought 20 but not even that there's so many people out there like me who would love to learn but they don't have a pathway so we have to keep doing what we're doing we have to open it up we have to bring different ways for people to to be touch mve and inspired like the rabbitson did with me and you're a great person who does that frequently so let's keep doing it together you're an inspiration this is amazing this is unbelievable and I have a request for everyone in the world that's watching or listening do yourselves a favor and Inspire others be mizak Inspire the masses send this to your family your friends your neighbors your co-workers that could use a little bit of a boost because this is so wow so inspiring so we have a custom in ha Torah talk program a final message uh for our broad audience final message is is marry a good spouse whether you're male or female find someone who's serious about either growing or learning wherever they are and match that up with yourself so when my I was introduced to many many women and I finally met the woman I married from a big hus family from bur Park in Williamsburg and uh she's really my spiritual life partner and at our wedding the Ritson came Rabbi yosher young race was the S kadan but me the Ritson she put me on the on the rocket ship it was my wife that turbocharged it so it's my wife and I are available we talk to lots of people we want to help CL so she's available for people that would like to speak with her I'm available and uh we just want to do more and more for strengthening the Jews in America and cl Israel amazing toia you're M LLY and inspiration and uh like tovia mentioned we have big plans we have big Visions but uh it's not a one man show no no one could do everything everybody could do something it's a beautiful line no one could do everything everybody could do something so we need more of Army want to build a bigger Army we want to get to more involved with kazak he's very much involved with even more and we need more people to get involved there's a vision of getting a global Unity event get everyone together United inspired make a difference change the world make the world a better place so can I comment what we're doing on that yeah please so last night aired we're doing four podcasts B shamb every other Sunday starting last night um light to unite is our theme we W to educate people so we're having one prominent Rabbi and one prominent businessman every other Sunday we just had Rabbi PESA Chrome yesterday you can see it on YouTube with so again this is being aired on uh next Tuesday so I'll meet out with the with the dates uh but we'll we'll we'll announce that okay and then on this is all leading up to Sunday September 29th is the actual virtual event at 2:00 in New York 9:00 in y of which our objective is to have as many Jews observant non-observant in between light a candle light to unite light to unite so this is the day that we're announcing that Jews are unifying here in America to be one group together and to fight it's right before October 7th which was s which was a month it's it's it's it's it's the week before and it's really it's it's Sunday before rashash Shana amazing amazing so whoever wants to get involved with that big Vision please uh do get involved and uh let's change the world make the world a better place toia once again thank you very much bless you give you to continue being yourself and others continue on the Journey of T wow what an amazing Torah talk we just had uh toia sablowski uh so so so inspiring uh every single Tuesday night 8:30 p.m. Eastern Standard Time kazak T talks with special guests uh kakor cq. glive special thank you to all the platforms and podcast players that host kazak tour talks with a special shout out to our fans at ton time and also a special thank 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