CHAZAQ's Torah Talks #132 Rabbi Boaz Bardea - The Main Lesson of Chanukah

best copy machine in the kids whatever they see in the parents that's what they will behave and if you don't don't keep and you go don't bring the light of kanuka to your house the darkness will be in the house so we have to choose between the light and the Darkness and if somebody wants to see Sim wants to be will sit in the head of the table and you see his kids married and grandkids and Grand grandkids yes to start now [Music] welcome to Torah talks kak's Tuesday night program with special guest we have with us RAB all the way from berlyn how are you thank you thank you very much for joining us we be discussing as we all know we're in middle of kanah the main lessons of Kaneka but before we do the topic graab you give our audience a little background of yourself and the great work you're involved with h first of all welcome thank you very much for having me of course kak I said once that the zaken in the Torah thear says it's not old it's somebody that he has a wisdom and thear says it's it's a it's a hinting in the word so the ster ask okay right so he said where is the it's missing it's only is meaning the word Z so he's saying there is no Anyan in the world beside the because everything that you buy is not really yours you're going to one day he's not going to be yours you a going to luse it or you're going to leave the world but he not real Kyan the only real Kyan that you have forever is the so that's why it's enough but giving away a lot of wisdom and the big to be here um I was born in Israel grew up in Israel and then I came to America to learn in Mir Yesa was the student of and after after I got married I was continuing the Mira and then I got went to the SM program by RAB doid Feinstein I learn seven years inad YF with leading with Rabbi oeri rabuel and the rabbi from the surian community and after I finished the smik program I open my own Sho in Brooklyn and then a year later I open a k P which is basically making to they're getting from Goldberg ofid and um the getting test and we had more than 100 rabbis coming out already I have a to get to know them and they're doing amazing Ando and a lot of at yes a lot of good good really good Rim they coming the study they going and they're getting SM and they're going to spread the Torah and that's what I'm doing the last 15 years and try to teach them the direct them as much will give me and I was that's here that's amazing work that the rabbi does like I said say firsthand and we're discussing uh the main lessons of kanuka so Rabbi what is a main lesson that we so in order to understand the main lesson of kanuka we need to figure out what was the decree and what what is our what was the war all about and different from puim the am trying to kill us physically to destroy and kill the Jewish nation and physically there's not going to be more Jews and the respon of it is not was it going to war the respon for it was going to praying and the stair says T Al and fast and dve and cry to Hashem because somebody come to take to hurt you physically according to the Torah you need to pray to hem and it's the hand of a to do CH andem will take care about it however in kanuka in the different they didn't try to kill us to destroy the Jewish Nation physically they didn't care they will be Jews they just wanted the Jews will have the culture of the Greeks to to be like them and uh what was the culture of the Greeks the gar says the Greeks is yeet yeet is sounds is a word of beauty H now the world is really beautiful theh creation and the human being is is really beautiful but we know as the Jews that all the wi in this world is uh only ER tools and uh something that you could work with in order to go and to be more Rani spirituality to go and for use it for the to do for the next World there is no meaning to uh to to materialistic if he's not he's not make it use it for the Tora because is going to make you far away from and there was a big argument in a lot of Jews says okay what's a problem we're going to go we're going to be like them I'm going to stay Jews but we know slowly slowly they're going to lose it and there was a a s it was instead of praying like in puim they went to the war physically war and with the with the guns and and to go and fight because you're trying to make me like like someone that I'm not to lose all our T this is a real war it's not in the end of anymore some somebody's trying to convince you to go in the bad Direction it's a worse could be somebody call somebody to make make a sin and to take it away from the direction from so this is cause a big big a and the felt it and they went to the war and the Greek tried to make the the body sport the all what we see today in the culture that everybody run after the gash food physicals physicals and uh you know in the we light in kanuka candles what's so unique about candle the candle is made from physical stuff oil and the the weak but come for it something light is something spiritual spiritual so the the physical makes it spiritual and that's a n our n is spiritual and our goof is physical so we eat e pizza with donuts and by this our is alive how it could be once you take the GM and for the gash makes the so that's a purpose of the gash the materialism is the purpose of of eating is in order to have a strength to work and that's that's a candle and that's the the the weak and the the oil it's a it's a it's a it's something physical in order to bring light light is something and Yan compared to Darkness to why because he use everything only for no light only for physical so therefore basically we have to make sure today we live in this society that that without decree they trying to take us and to make us become like them and it's very very dangerous when you don't have midash when you don't have a a connected connection to Torah to bab it's very dangerous because you're going to they're going to pull you out very easily to be exactly like them and America people they're very loving and they're going it's called in Hebrew I'm so sure in English also hug beer hug yeah when they when they be hug you is going to kill you with a lot of with a lot of love in in not not like in the Greek time was decrees but the the meaning was the same either with decree or with love but the purpose is and I see a people come here from different countries and all of a sudden they become Americans they they dunin Donuts they bring the news newspaper New York Times and the all the thinking and everything become like a and and and and and it's amazed that that to be able to put you we we says inter which mean I went to buy a phone and tell without internet there no such thing you cannot buy a phone without internet because they want you to be in their culture they want you to be connected to the net and once you're not there they they're going to pull you in all kind of ways and you see slowly people that become like them the the the they love the gash physic the physicalities and they come connected to it and once you become connected to it you're going down and down and down because our Rabbi tell us that you're never going to feel satisfied and this world compared to somebody drink salty water that he's going to come thirsty more and more and rler says you always run after something that you don't have once you have it you need something else you have 100 more so so so the reason so the so the war was become not like the Greeks and by by by here we're standing in in America in 2023 and we see all what's going on and and how the go and the the the the culture of a that to take the gash to H to look to physicality that everything is is money everything is is pleasure everything is running away from is no if you want to have physicality you could have but you have to use it for something something uh with with wisdom something with and I see people today they're so connected yeah you know somebody told me Rabbi I can't don't talk to me I didn't have my coffee you know so who is become you you your coffee is is your owner so that's that's what's going on and in schom in the houses in the kids and and and we're going to lose Shalom the B if you're not going to be connected to bet midash connected to connected to so the main way not to be influenced is by connecting to Torah to learning M they say Noah by Noah AR that somebody was outside died right somebody goes inside the ark he' be able to save and even there was an animal called you too big to go to the thear says how come that this animal will stay alive says they put the nose into the window which mean even if you cannot go fully to bet midash at least you put your nose and breathe a little bit from kazak from from classes for because otherwise you're going to be out the is no h boundaries he's going to take you and you're going to see you're not going to believe yourself where low how you could low you you could go down what do you tell person Rabbi that unfortunately is watching or listening to this and he feels like he already fell what do you what do you suggest to such a person the failing is not a the failing is a way of life it's not says which mean the person will fail person but he gets back he gets back and the trying to tell you and Tock give you y make you give up hope give up up give up up why he wants you to put down once you fell the most you know in the diet I know people only diet and then H they wake up in the middle of the night they're hungry and then said okay I'm going to eat only one potato chips and then they eat potato chips then finish still okay I fell already so let me finish the back let me and then and then that's how and and that don't understand that if you fail it's okay it's not okay but it's not it's not your job now to H say okay let me f fil more if somebody lose th000 not going to say okay take another thousand yeah he's going to fight and he's going to come back and the telling you don't you can't do it you can't do it to be me the person but the evation wants to make a person give up hope and we have to make sure do that and we have to make sure not to do it and every small every small even if the you did small is so much so much dear and important for everything that you do a little bit because our job in this world he says person born to walk to toil and once you toil even if you didn't succeed in that let's say give you an example let's say a person wake up in the morning and he speaks and he and he prevent himself and he's not saying it and 1:00 again he come back go go say and he doesn't say and then in the night through the all day all the time to say this in 9:00 in the night he fell and his his friend wake up in the morning he had a sem and he fell right away on the morning do you think in the eyes of hasem they are the same totally not why in the result are the same the result both of them fell but in the eyes of hasm doesn't care if you fail or not hasem care if you toil if you were toiling for all day and you fell in the end a different story because Adam says we to and they to but they're going after the result I I study for test in University for three months and I got 33 and my friend study for the test one day and got 100 he is successful he's going to get the Mark he's going to be succeed because he got 100 this guy 33 doesn't make a difference how to in in the eyes of hem is totally different don't don't make a different what Mark is the Mark will come the main thing it's a main thing is effort if you try to to become good and to try to fight even for one second then you fail you get you get reward on it because AEM is he wants you and and I tell give you an example from the real life if someone if someone will come to his wife on Friday and will tell listen I know you like uh pink roses so I drove all the way to Long Island and to certain Stone they have the best pink roses but they were clothes and then I came I so I drove from the Long Island to Brooklyn to different store and over there they told me this they sold out W and then I went to Queens and where he was close the store I'm sorry I didn't bring anything do you think you you your wife will be happy or you will say oh you didn't bring anything she will be very happy she will say I can't believe you drove all Long Island all the way from me and to Brooklyn and you come back even though you didn't bring nothing but she says how how how much he loves me beautiful he went so so all around just to bring me a rose that's what hasem wants from us he doesn't wants from us you bring the rose in there do bring doesn't make a difference but if you show I care about you in mad we got the Torah some some think we did a contract what's a contract you do you get you do a you get get home no we didn't make a contract contract you do was your contractor and you want him to finish and go home you did Covenant Covenant breit which mean we are one we have to feel each other wants to see if you feel me if you really there to do what I said and even though you didn't succeed but see I see how much hard for you I know how much this generation is hard and is so big and so great and need a lot of test and so much and people have so much and test every second what the previous generation didn't have for years we have in every day and hasem see this and we have so much opportunity because every test is opportunity in Hebrew it's so Ness Miracle but is also NES in Hebrew is mean flag Banner yeah flag which mean every n every test you do the n and you go higher and flag you go higher and higher every time and that's and that's what we have to know that the the biggest failure and biggest uh a is to be connected to the Greek culture culture because they're going to they're going to hug you and take you away from the direction of and you see people doing crazy things they be able to stay online for three days for some show they they be able to go to drive two hours for Restaurant and they and there's no meaning to it I I saw one time I came from Miami I saw when you go out from the from the airp plane there was advertising on the on the this uh SL sleeve yeah yeah so what they was book your next vacation you just left you just because they know you go you come back sad because it's not it's not the Sim that we're looking for the Sim thear says one of the shim the bed the oil it's sh K we've said yes so the say ask what's the says one of the one of the opinion he says there is a certain chicken there is a certain chicken it's called Ki and he far away in the island and from this fat of the chicken they making the oil and its oil is a bad oil what's the meaning to us in thear meaning island is mean uh places that pleasure places of of H exotic Exotics so you think you're gonna get the best oil and the best Sim and good things and something straight like the candle will be good and the light will be stable by going to this Islands by going to this vacation says no this sh Ki is basul is jumping is only maybe maybe will be happy for a moment and then you're going to be sad the only if you run away from the Greek culture if you be connected you go to class you come out so full with with with wisdom every time you do something for AEM you toil you're going to be happy real happiness internal internal real deal you see these guys go to the war in the Israel they're willing to give the life you see the Sim on the face Sim the happiness that come home they feel to do something so great and every time you open you open G you go to class you you come out a different person well there's a lot of real Sim and not sadness what this culture bring us and true that the world is beautiful but if you don't use it to Torah to something R spirituality it's going to be the biggest curse and that's what you have to come out of kanuka the main lesson of kanuka is don't be like the other cultures to be a ye to be a Jew and to be proud of your Judaism exactly and that's what we went to the fight and if you don't believe it don't celebrate kanuka that's why that's why we went to fight that's why the Kash was fighting not to be like the not to do whatever the does we have to do the opposite one of the um the G Villa once V he said that if the there is a custom to put flower and shs in sh he says not to do it why because the G does it so he says don't do this there is in this at one of the greatest Rabbi in 100 years ago he said you're not allowed to make weding in shoes why because it's like the go go doing the church you don't do doing shoes today we have certain because the community and all other things but in Israel for example no one does only in the whole no one does in sh because everything that the Torah give us so much and the rabbi is not to become close to them the Rabbi says you're not allowed to eat Bish go cook something even if you cook an egg you can't eat it what's wrong no no if you're you going to eat his egg you're going to be close to him you're going to come to marry his daughter the thear says you're not not allowed to eat pakum the bread of a you you can't eat you can't go alone with a on the road so much isim you can't take a aircut from the so today we are lenient in this haircut but I'm saying the the over and over the wor what was bother them so much don't be close to him you can make with go in Shabbat in order to carry new in your backyard you need to do if you have a if you have a neighbor you have to do a with it you can't do it with a why because you don't want the kazal doesn't want you to live next to a go and the rambam says you're not allowed to live in the city if there is church in the city they're not allowed to live in this city today we in the Exile we went far but I'm saying that's what the Torah the the Tor was so concerned the Torah repeat on over and over and over again to be far away from the go because the influence is so different than us they always busy fun what's a fun there is no Hebrew word for the word fun you know it's no translation for it the saying kef but kef is it's Arabic word it's not it's notes I didn't find I looked for the word fun it's not it's not no it's not because a person might hear this and say I understand Judaism doesn't promote having a good time so I always explain that of course we uh always encourage you know the best food to eat on Shabbat on Shabbat a pleasure to have enjoyment so just to clarify that point fun fun is is is a is a meaning it's it's a to do something with no point with no goal and that's you could go play basketball because you you uh you you exercise you playing you clean your hand you could go to restaurant because you want to clean your hand you want to eat good food and then you have ability to be in to walk to walk to but if there no meaning you go to the Yan games you scream like a crazy what what what is it what is it I I go to sometimes in the road on the and see the metti and you see 100,000 people they're screaming I said they're there instead of killing instead of drinking but but but what what you have to do with it you could watch sometimes okay but not to be the Greek culture part of your life and and uh this is a very critical for you and for your kids because if you be close to them your kids would be 10 times more close to them and you see today how how how it's hard to take away the phone to take away the games people so connected to the G you see them they're they're connected they can't talk the the husband every wife she wants a normal husband she need to send him to sh T she need to make sure that he learn otherwise H is going to is going to be far away the yet will not land him to to have shalom in the house that to not to have not to have family and then they become sorry and the wife becomes s and all the family will collapse but if they have connected to the Noah Ark they have connction to Abraham yob thear says that yudah YF was sold to thep to the Egypt and ren put him in the the pit to save him what kind of saving you put him in the pit with scorpion and snakes so it's better for him Shalom to die and not to go to G to Egypt to be Egyptian in 17 years old and to lose everything all the Tor and that's what yov was scared when he heard YF YF still alive he says what does he mean he says what happened to him he left 17 years old he met a guy 17 years old take a penth house in Manhattan and he has a Mercedes car down all his money King and he's going to stay at Jew what the chances so that's why aov was scared what happened to my son did he stay religious did he stay in Egypt when he saw that chariots the Chariots the meaning that the ysf H to his father I I didn't change I stay your safe I remember what we learned last time that was the last topic was the last topic learn together so he says become alive because because the the spirituality the the all his ears from whatever he learned in his parents house even in the biggest tum of MIT the biggest place and that's why we here today that's why we 2,000 years we have a galut we still be able to work fill in and keep Shabbat and we still here if it wasn't keeping the Torah there was no Jewish Nation we were like I don't know all kind of nation that disappeared was moment in history and that's it where we are a few Millions we are here strong Tora what because we kept the tradition of the M from father to son father to son father to son with no question asked and everywhere they were in the in the Exiles in Russia in Morocco in they was keeping the Torah father to son and you have to know everybody has to know he has responsibility in his shoulders if he will not giving the Torah to his kids and un make sure he's cutting the tradition of 3,000 years on his shoulders 100% 3,000 years on his shoulders so have that's why we have to make sure that we not become like the Greeks and we have to fight it if you have to go to war we go to going to afan what is call strikes and Ries and this we cannot let Shalom to become like the go so that's the main lesson of Kana is not to be like the Greeks and we have beautiful words by the way words of inspiration we have a and Torah talks one final message for us so I think that uh that uh the candles the light of the Torah should be in the houses everybody should bring this light of kanuka to his houses because the only only thing they could keep our kids and our families together when we go what you learn and what you stud and the and bring it to your house bring the Tora to your house make sure that your house is clean from all the bad things that not coming inside if you're going to see a guy walking in your house in 2: a.m. in night you're going to be scared you're going to be what he doing in my my living room so if you put somebody some machine or TV or things that ruing the of the house your brain it's like KES your house is kesim your kids whatever they see whatever they absorve they they are best copy machine the kids whatever they see in the parents that's what they will behave and if you don't don't keep and you go don't bring the light of kanuka to your house the darkness will be in the house so we have to choose between the light and the Darkness and if somebody wants to see Sim wants to be will sit in the head of the table and you see his kids married and grandkids and Grand grandkids he has to know to start now it's not going to start then if you will not bring the darkness the the light you're going to bring Darkness Shalom the kids will go each way marry who knows what divorce they don't see nothing they don't see Tor they're going to go far away we have the the mitvah the the and the to bring the light of kanuka to our homes and our homes will be K and will see generation of generation continue the tradition to go back todash to light the candles in for those beautiful words of inspiration of want to thank of our listeners of kazak tour talks Tuesday nights 8:30 p.m. Eastern Standard Time 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