CHAZAQ Event with Rav Shmuel Dishon on "Believing in Yourself"

now I really would like people to participate and answer there's a Min by and Shalom someone leaves the world they have to say kades right you say 12 months 11 months the children Sayes the Americans The Real Americans from 50 60 years ago who almost didn't know anything about yish but kadish in the out of town and was packed you know why they wouldn't miss to say and the me to say that's that's a given okay people think that kadish is a prayer for the dead for the for re sh if you have a SE the in English or in Russian or in any other language and you look at the explan of the translation of the word kadish there's not one word there about someone that died all it speaks is about that his name should become Holier and Holier and Holier in all the worlds and all over what does this have to do if someone dies you know how long that M goes close to 2,000 years in time from the mishna already they used to say childish we don't know exactly who made the words of Kadesh but in thear already we have the the words of Kadesh says when didn't say kadish then is very very happy about it so what's the between saying shadish Shalom someone that lives the world what's the connection most people really don't know they say because it's a and they should do it even if we should do the minim even if we don't understand them because all the minhagim have certain Holiness in them and that keeps that keeps us going I'll tell you how far it goes we never know what can save a person even from losing his am they used to be I don't know every has its own way of making CH but they they have a different way of making CH than we do and I remember when I was a little kid I was born in the Holy Land Israel we had a neighbor far and he used to put hard bed eggs in the Chon they still do it yeah okay and uh I remember it tastes very good I used to go every shabas to my neighbors to get an egg and was taste very good okay so there was ne ne you cannot say in English just like you should not say in English there certain words you don't you don't translate so there was someone who was about about about to leave the Jewish religion and become a whatever his mother tried to argue with him didn't help she told him you know he had an appointment to go to convert his mother told him you know next week don't come to the house cuz I'm not going to give you he used to love the eggs from the chant I'm not going to give the eggs what I'm going to lose The Edge from the CH I'm staying I'm staying Jewish we don't know we think it's a small thing so a Minh is very very holy and we have to keep the minhag kadish Unfortunately today is becoming less and less but I remember 30 years ago I had to be once H in Albany in all man New York and Adam Shak is there I couldn't believe the sh was packed but you know what 90% of the people came to say kadish they came to say kadish which was very nice and there was only way there was a minion do you know in Midtown Manhattan there's a sh I think it's called vadio City sh or something on the day when you say every hour there's a minion and the whole day people come they put on the they say and they go back to work so why what's what's the kadish why kadish the whole F of the kadish is just saying one thing that the name of should become Holier and greater greater and greater higher in all the worlds in all the worlds why do we say when someone leaves the world so I explain to you you know today there's something called a spaceship spaceship I remember you don't remember do you remember the first day when someone when they first flew someone out in the spaceship it was Russians the Russians were the first and that's when Kennedy got very very nervous and the American started to try to catch up for them the first was a a a Sputnik Sputnik Garin in many Russian cities there's karian Square I was there Karan Square for him first time but then America C up and they went to the Moon I'll never forget he was the middle of the summer and even though everybody we got phone calls from all the parents of priest being a monitor of Tov to see a human being stepping on the moon it was history some said it's not true it's only a show but uh there are people that say until today it's not true but in reality they landed on the moon and I remember couldn't believe a human being is going to land on the moon okay if there will be a possibility to go out from the space not physically but spiritually to go out of the world today you have picture you have beautiful pictures what they took from the spaceship you see the whole you see the world you see the globe you see the Moon you see the creation of what do you think we'll see if would be able to go out of this world in a spaceship spiritually I want you to know the first Sputnik when they left the Russians him so they made a joke the Garian made a joke it looked for the malim and he didn't find him you know what a bit sad said they couldn't see they didn't he he didn't find him but they found him and they protected him a Jew too if not he wouldn't have come back you know what you realize one spaceship exploded okay now what do you think would be what would be see I want to tell you what the Z says you would see four letters UD hey and V and he but those letters are not written with a pen with written with human beings all the Jews in the world even if someone doesn't observe anything he doesn't keep anything he forms the name of know even in which letter they are we say so it's all one we we represent we are the ambassadors of Shalom if someone dies there's a chip of the letters right I don't know which one but maybe in the maybe in the maybe in the maybe in the so Shalom lives this world there's a piece of the name of that's lost so we are we we we we we we are Mis that that pece should be fulfilled so we say the name of should be refilled again because now there's a piece missing and that's why we say kadish some lives the world but what do we now I'll tell you a story and we'll come to what I want to say there was a very big in L his name was maybe you heard about him very holy was was came to this country to America and he was in that and that son-in-law really took care on the Hool because his father-in-law was weak a little bit and suddenly his father-in-law lost his father so someone came to ask should we tell him or not he said no don't tell them because if he he there be no one to run to R the so someone asked him but what's going to be with Kadesh so he said there are certain people that say kades certain people do kades he he does kadish 24 hours a day what does he do ises sh what's kades he is mades sh he said my my son-in-law 24 hours a day he say he doesn't say Kadesh he does Kadesh so it's more important than saying certain people come to which is good also they say certain people do Kadesh you know what why we are here on this world for you know we don't think those things theim says every person should ask himself what am I doing here what am I doing in this world took a part of himself you know every one of us has a part of in our body shom everybody should live for 12 years how do I don't know you how do you call the people that handle people after they die yeah what is me the holy Society why are they holy Society because they are dealing with something holy because the body of he is Holy why is it holy because it had sh do you know SE it's holy who made it holy I made it holy so I am certainly holy if I can make it what is as to is parchment there was a cow and you took a piece of the skin of the cow some skin you made shoe from phy you made a from who made a I did I have such a I have such strength you and I we take a piece of parchment and we say four words that minute it becomes holy you take in and you write who takes it I take it so I take the ink and the part and I made but do you know that Shalom if there's a fire and and everybody wants to save the right Mitzvah what's more mitvah to save a life of a who is in the sh or to save the SE T tell me you tell me of what y y before the holiest day of the year and the building collapses and you don't know you think someone tells you you know I think there is someone there ye then everybody has to take off the talit and run to maybe the ye is alive why why are we so holy cuz we have a cuz we represent on this world each and every one us who are we so first and foremost we have to think about ourself of some not who am I what do you mean who you are you have you you you and I one word that we say you know what one word of can do one word of it goes to the sh and he says if someone answers I'll give you proof how important it is give me proof that are very holy do you have a proof look how the Satan is trying to stop it if it wouldn't be so important the Satan will not try to stop it but he knows he knows words go to the sh I'll tell you a a story it's a story it's a beautiful Story Once the B to took the not one sound came out everybody thought maybe the Satan is in is in the they used to be times they used to say not one call there was there was a big RAB who D the de so he go over by the Asim you know we cover the head with a talit you know that so he went over to the B took off his talit told them now it took he went beautifully so he asked the re what happened why is it when I was covered with a talit not one sound came out when you took of my talit I went he said you don't know when you were covered with theit the Satan thought who knows who is thead so he tried to stop you but when I took off the tal says him he he nothing let him goes easy it's a sign it's a sign of something someone someone must told I have no for is making me sugar it drives me crazy I am no and any says I think I'm nothing you know the sometimes when he wants you to do bad things he says you're nothing you're nothing you're nothing you're nothing only when you want to do CH says oh you know the you did are so big but okay so that b is a boy he was a with me in he went to the says I am nothing I'm nothing nothing say tell me something tell me the don't tell me a lie does the still come to you oh every day I want to ask you if you see a truck standing then you see four gangsters coming with a gun and the make a hold up what do you say the truck is garbage or it has money of course money who makes hold up in a garbage talk say if the still comes to you then you're not a garbage talk if the still comes to you wants you to do a then he knows that you are a money truck who makes a hold up on a on a garbage truck nobody you know why knows every mitvah that you do can turn over the world I'm telling you it says in the Zoros one amen one amen don't undermine amen what's amen says that one amen can turn over the world first of all the says when when we say and he's happy that we say and you know why he's happy because he knows better than us how difficult it is today to be you know and I know that today to be a real real good Jew is very difficult the whole environment the whole street is against us with there was never a time that it was so difficult to be m m i mean really really really there were times my grandfather my wife's grandfather came to America 110 years ago there was no one who was sh Shabbat no one were his best friends became it was if someone kept Shabbat they fired him the East Side in New York East Side Manhattan was jam-packed with with clothing of people that they were thrown out from their apartment there was no welfare and if you didn't work in shabas you had no you had no job they threw you out every every Friday when he left the job he said goodbye shabas he did not go to work and when he used to come Monday morning to the to the job the guy unfortunately a says told them inish where were you shabas where I was shabas I was in sh with my children other people used to say I didn't feel well no I went to schol and I ate CH with my children and the boss who was himself and wasab got so angry that he threw him from one time 26 weeks every every week he looked for a different job every week he look for a different job it's very hard and what but every say shat he told his children you know I want to tell you a fact and I'm telling it to you and to myself someone asked rosstein you all heard about rosstein why is it there were a lot of people that kept shabas Shabbat and their children didn't keep shabas you don't know how difficult it was in America those days says you know why those parents that when they came on Friday night they were happy and the children saw that they were happy so the children said if they if it's good if if keeping shabas makes you happy then want to give shabas but if the father used to complain oh so hard who knows what I'll do Monday I I'll have to look for a new job so the children said who wants it I tell you today the same thing if we come if we come home and we bring to our families and tell them it's so good to be a then the children will do the same thing nobody to be wants to be associated with something bad and truthfully it's not so easy I want you to know the MS the I know that some of you come from uh the former Soviet Union I I the first time I went to visit but I went to a different part of the Soviet Union was in 1970 oh they KGB used to follow you every step every step but I saw I saw ye I'll tell you what happened I was there and suddenly a ye tells me you know the Sho was unfortunately full with the KGB so he tells me tells me quietly the only place where they didn't think to follow you was in a MIT so indivitual in Mas was a MIT so I went with him he started crying I remember his name his name was Canon with he has feeling his son has feeling his grandon is becoming mitz he's ready to give me everything he has in his house I should give himing for his grandson so I had I had a big what should I do so I'll tell you what happened those days there was an a line it doesn't exist anymore do you remember used to be an line pan P American used to be the biggest Airline he used to leave 4:00 p.m. it used to leave the airport in M they flew to Denmark they were there for 2 hours and then they came to New York the same night so I said if I give him my I'll D today tonight I'll be in New York in New York I have no problem with but the feel was so it was my but then I said to myself all my life and I'll wear my feeling I'll think of that ye cry to me to give him his feeling so I was afraid to give it to him I told him listen by in the do used to be 2:00 and I'll leave this fing on the side you stay next to me and you'll take it so I thought I'll never see the f b b but 10 years later I invited CH and I go over to the CH and I stand at the CH someone comes over to me f my B and he shows it feel you remember he wanted to give it back to me I don't want it back but you see someone was ready to give me everything he has he says come to my house take everything you have you want and it fill in and in those dark days the but he could not feel he couldn't feel you know yeen Jews are compared to hot to hot B egg the more you the more you cook it the harder it gets hard the more you cook it but it gets harder they tried so many so many tried but you know the go the philosopher say the biggest secret in the world how come the Jews are still existing they don't know nobody knows they still what how come there still Jews on the world oh yeah we went through so much we are the smallest nation in the world 15 million unfortunately and you know we gave the world so much if you take the average of people who get who got the Nobel Prize 22% we should be 1.9 billion that's right and we gave the you know what the first thing that we gave the world they they look like human beings we gave him the tanak tanak we gave him they they Humanity unfortunately this week is a is the birthday of a Jew that we suffered from him so much still was a Jew so now we have problems so I want oh it's it's late already so I want to conclude with one thought it's not my own it says in the it says just like you believe in Hashem you have to believe in yourself believe in yourself that I'll tell you I spoke to a psychologist he's not so smart but uh no no really some of them are smart he's a he's a tepish so so he comes to me he's a Jew but he's not not from at all so he asked me tell me the truth he calls me over quietly do you believe that the the young door the Young Generation keep all the the and you know but and that says the majority of course it's hard but they try to keep it I don't believe it so I said listen to me I understand you but I want you to know something says why do you believe cuz God is fair God doesn't set anybody to a war if he doesn't give him the arms and ammunition a human being can do such a terrible thing he can send someone to the war without you believe hasem is going to send us to fight such a difficult War without to give us the arm ammunition you know why some fail because they don't believe in themselves if you believe that gave you the strength of course we fail sometimes that's why there tra if we would believe in ourselves that who gave us a challenge did you hear about him was a bit sad say certain people have all the excuses I can't do that and I can't do that excuses there's Boys in in school if they don't do well in school they have excuses and some of the excuses have really really good excuses but at the end of day they don't know anything they have good excuses they can't even write the book 100 excuses why I couldn't do it so he'll write a book but he will know I tell you D I have a talid a student of mine when he was 16 he lost his power to walk never he lost his power to walk he can't walk and everybody thought it's his end of learning what will be you know what he became the biggest must in Yeshiva there was once a snowstorm and the Yeshiva starts 9:30 9:25 a car service came and with two canes and cres he came to Yesa but hasem paid him back you know why nobody thought he'll ever get married who's going to take him he got married that that wedding there was a dry eye when he walked to the she's also like that everybody was crying from excitement but the doctor told me to tell him I don't want to to go into long details that his ability to have kids is almost as good as he it's not going to be and I spoke to him he says what if the doctor says 4 months four years later I asked him where will you be in this summer so he became red in his face he says we expecting the baby and I was Inon R Shimon when he took his son when he became three year old and he carried him with two crotches up to the mountains now he has four kids he's almost going to marry off a child you know why cuz he didn't lose Faith should have said I can't B I can't tell what should I do and he learns till today sits and learn b s you know why everybody said what's going to be with him so he said you know what's going to be with him I'll sit and learn everybody has I did not I didn't find one person yet who doesn't have problems in life if you know someone please let me know but I didn't find them yet you know one person in the world who doesn't have any problems I didn't find him yet every the question is what do you do with it do you use it as an excuse or you say it's a Ching I'm going to overcome it I knew a lady in Russia she she lived in the western part of Russia and you know when she had to go to the mitvah she broke the ice they are they are all type of people now we have some more people that James I'll just end off with a beautiful story and it's a baseball story a baseball story before your times when you before you were born there was a a baseball player that made the Kem in the whole world how many of you remember Sandy CET you remember him Sandy CET was as far je it was a picture huh you know if you goally Ping On keeper is not such a b AA because they they f as an AR he could have find the hat but he had a contract that said on y it's in his contract shabas and you know what Happ happen world serious and the game were tied three and three and the deciding game was on y keeper and the team was ready to pay him you know how much an extra a bonus $1 million you should play on your people I remember it the headlines in the paper Sandy Ain play on keep the whole world so the manager of the team said Sandy what can you do for us so Sandy became very serious he says I'm going to pray for you he said pray he says God you don't think that God is going to listen to a prayer of someone who is ready to give up a million dollars not to play on on y keeper he prayed for them and they won and they really believed and I don't want to tell you a sad story it was an Israeli player who was bought off by a team in Spain know in is is almost the whole country is closed it's closed the airport is closed the regadio station is closed and his parents beg them don't play on Yip and Spain threatened them is not going to play he's going to lose the contct unfortunately he didn't listen to his parents and he played and he lost the game and since then everything started going down for him playing s is it such a big you should find maybe a hat sendic CET could have find the Hat I know different story of someone who became was unfortunately saw it's a whole long story the next time I'll tell it to you but you see every one of us has a certain inside our heart there's a pure pure pure pure point and what I said in the beginning we how job in this world is to realize that we are the ambassadors of our I don't want to go into it I'll give you something to think about a big Gentile philosopher asked why do we hate the Jews why do we hate them what did they do to us what did the Jews do to us so he said people hate their conscience and the Jews are the conscience of the world we tell them how human being should really look you know there was Darwin a scientist who said that we all come from from the monkeys you know that right Evolution so said darwi would have seen the he would realize that face cannot come from a monkey he never saw a real a real face he judged by his own feelings and will in if he will see the holy face of the he would realize this can't come from a monkey so you should know in the whole world is like that they were when they used to walk the streets I know I know sadik in Switzerland when he walked the the street all the gr used to stand up and look like that for him and when they used to fight with one another they used to go to him he should tell them what to do because they all they all know he you know the the neighbors the gr used to steal his cow so he should run and get it back so he should step on their soil should help us we should be to be the ambassadors of we should believe in ourself we should be to each and everyone should be helped with what he needs oh you hear the amen did you hear theen you see you see should be everybody should be help with what he needs call to