CHAZAQ Chanukah Inspiration: Growing through the Month of Kislev - Rabbi Paysach Krohn

tonight we've come to talk about how we should change I'll tell you something very interesting I saw something that the word nephesh of course nefesh means soul and we want that our souls our nefesh should become closer to Hashem and this is the season for it you know why because nephesh is spelled non-pay shin and i saw and swaram that snare which is candle pay is Selah which is wick and chemin Shin is oil so it's amazing that as we approach the yontiff of Chanukah we have something that we can improve our nefesh that our neshama should come closer to Hashem and usually when I speak about Hanukkah I end with this thought but to me it's so exciting because we are in a show where there are many many great Sephardic people here and so I want to tell you something that rub Avada you're safe once said and he said you know what mushiya stands for you wouldn't believe if you never heard this you would not believe it write it down and tell it over in school and tell it over in your homes mushiya stands for my leakin sham - you may Hanukkah isn't that amazing only he could think of that and that's so great so now we're talking about improving our nephesh the Nair the Cielo the Shemin and we're talking about mushiya bringing mushiya and that's my pleasure - americana cup so it's very interesting that you me Johanna V the prophet yo-yo in Parekura olive passing to Zion he compares Chloe Israel to an olive tree and two olives and he says like this is run on the fresh olive tree you fait period has such beautiful fruit your favorite oil Cora Hashem Jemaine Hashem has called Claudia Israel the olive or the of tree and why is that so the Meldrick ensure Moyes tells us something very interesting why did hear me on na'vi decide to call the jewish people like olives and for those of you taking notes it's in chamoy raba lama 12 para climate love ice olive and it says like this and i want you to try it tonight when you go home try it and if your kids are not up tomorrow before they go to school try it and you'll see an amazing thing call Hamas Kim is Arvin's epithet you take a cup and you mix many drinks let's say you'll take orange juice and you'll take soda and you'll take water they're all gonna mix all together but if you add oil to it you know what's gonna happen after a few minutes the oils gonna rise to the top and that's what I want you to do it in front of your children it's not voltage fits because it shows them a great lesson that we are Jews and we are mixed in the world we're living in goalless but we rise to the top we have to learn how to make our nephesh rise to the top that's what you Maria was telling us that Hashem called us as eius olive oil because just like olive oil doesn't mix with the other oils with the other liquids I should say but rather it rises to the top that's exactly how a Yid should be as well and then double rocker it says another thing call Hamas him or the Moravian all the drinks that we said before that you could mix whether you mix soda and orange juice or grape juice or water they all get mixed up and you don't know which is on top and which is on bottom of a hash Eman not only does the Shemin separate but it rises to the top and that's exactly what we want to speak about tonight what can we do each and every one of us in this month of Kislev as we prepare for Konica what can we do that we should rise ala nefesh to the top and you know something governor Miller into hilum when he blesses Claudius RAL when he blesses every Jewish family and this is the bra that I want to give to everyone that's here tonight and to everyone that's going to get married Natasha and build a family and to anyone outside our base of marriage tonight that's gonna hear this and tour anytime or whatever it is throughout the world when there huh your children Casillas a sim should be like olive plants and their doctors you know why because you can't mix an olive plant with another plant it's not gonna grow together the olive remains separate and not only that olives are always fresh and vibrant and that's what we want our children to always be fresh and vibrant and excited about you - skite they're many people by the time they get to their 20s and 30s are they're so bored already and they're not excited anymore they're burdened down with certain things in life that's not how a year is supposed to be a year should never be burned out you should always be excited just like the Cius is always fresh and it's always vibrant and it's always in season so I want to tell you something very interesting all of you know and that the first Gomorrah in Shas is my sector Barajas and right in the beginning of my sector bravas there are many many commentaries that give an introduction to the gomorrah they give an introduction to all of shots but the materi what he did in his safer which is a brilliant brilliant safer on the miss after he gives an introduction to life and he tells us an amazing thing he says every single experience that you go through if you go through a wedding you go through a Shabbos you go through a yontiff you go through a happy occasion or hospital I'm a sad occasion you have to change you have to grow everything that happens to us I sure made it happen so that we should grow from it even the fact that we're all here tonight when we leave here tonight was supposed to be different than when we walked in and you know what he says he says if a person doesn't change after a hog he doesn't change you have to pay so he doesn't change you if the shoe is so silky so Konica then a person costumes like a donkey a donkey carries wheat in the wheat season barley in the barley season oats in the oat season and it remains the same donkey if Hashem gave you the opportunity to go through an experience there's a reason for it so that you should be able to grow so now we're in the month of Kislev and we're preparing for Chanukah so we have to learn the lessons what does a shim want from us what are we gonna do here now and this year tough Senayan class in 2017 how are we gonna change this Chanukah how should we approach Konica and see how our nefesh could get higher so that we are safer to see mushiya on our time so I'll tell you something that I think to me we're gonna learn a few lessons but I love this lesson you know there's Amaka locust is an argument in the gomorrah between bay Shammai and brazil oh they shall I says that on the first night of Hanukkah he's supposed to light eight candles on the second night seven six five four three two one on the first night we know that we still have eight days left to the holiday so we light eight candles then there seven days left to the miracle six days left five days left but that's not what we do we do what Hillel said and what I like is not only what Hillel said but the reason that he gives and the reason that he gives applies to every one of us and he says like this he says the midst of Hanukkah yo Marie shine mudlick 'his and the first night as we all do we light one McConville Allah from the first night to the second the third Moises viola we always add and we go on it's the lesson we have to learn tonight a Yid always has to grow every night before you go to sleep you have to ask yourself how did I grow today what did I do that was special that I'm better today than I was yesterday because of hospitals somebody doesn't grow than they're going downhill nobody ever remains on the status quo that's what the villain going tells us every day you gotta take a step higher and I'll tell you something amazing many years ago there was an a good Assisi royal convention and it was a wonderful person a great person who I'm very very friendly with his name is died in Hanoi Aaron trow a genius of a person a great British accent a dying otama Holcomb and his spot to speak was much as Chavez now unfortunately that year the program started very very late so he didn't get up to speak until way after midnight and he's a smart person you know how long can you speak after midnight people are tired it's a long shot as many speeches you know many meals so he spoke only a very short time but what he said in those 12 or 13 minutes was something so powerful that every single time without fail that we meet and we've met in his house we've met in his show we went away for a Shoppers together with his gala we always talked about that thing that he said that night within 12 minutes it was great and I want you to remember it and you could look it up in the plastic it's in Boresha slaw made plastic off a last week's parsha and what happened is like this the Torah tells us vahik a yoga raquel I see a safe when Raquel gave birth to a safe fire Myakka Jakob says to love one shall Hany now you could send me now I can face the world so the shame is Schmoyer who was a Hasidic Rebbe his father was a such of Arab here's a question just because Yaakov had URI safe now he's ready to face the world he had Yehuda Yehuda all the Jewish kings came from you who done so why wasn't that good enough he had LaVey all the Cuyuna mandela Veeam they came from Lavy so why wasn't that good enough all the tamerica harmon come from you saw her or from shimon so why wasn't that good enough and the shame of chinois says it has to do with the name you know what your safe means more more never being satisfied with the status quo and that's what Yaakov was saying to loved one once I have a child who will never be satisfied with the status quo he'll always want to grow higher and higher and higher that's the kid I can take with me to goalless that's the kid that's the one that I could take with me and I'm not afraid to face anyone because he's always gonna grow so tonight we're getting ready for Chanukah moisture for hila more and more yay safe is the reason that we can face the gullets we can face the world because we're always trying to elevate our nefesh nefesh named Sheila chemin that's what it's all about how we can improve what should we do more so I'll tell you something very interesting I believe that every aspect of life we can do a little more too many women here who say to him every day now some say one Parekh some say five whatever you do maybe just add one more there many men here will learn homage they learn himesh or Tana or Gomorrah whatever you learned in the month of Kislev add another Mishnah add another plastic do something a little bit more you learn with your child and I'm a big believer of father's learning with their children and mothers also you learned 5-10 minutes every night learn 12 doesn't have to be that you're changing that from now four instead of five you know 135 notes too much small increments go higher and higher and you know something you know what the hobbits hiam says and this is what we should do the hobbits Higham says f every single day you should do a hasit for somebody else how about tonight let's start a spiral notebook and every night before you go to sleep you write down a favor that you did for somebody else now I'm not talking a husband for a wife a wife or a husband that you got to do if you know it's good for you I'm talking out of the house I'm talking out of the house then you'll see what a carpool is then you'll see what it means to make a telephone call to a lady who's in a nursing home then you'll see what it means to drive an old man to show or to call a single mother whether she's a divorced woman or a widowed woman and she's home with a number of children and you're in the supermarket and you call her up and say listen I'm here anyway how can I help you many times we forget about the single women nobody should blame them we don't know what the situation is it's nobody's fault it's not our business at all but one thing is we got to help them because it's not easy being a single parent single father single mother whatever we got to invite them we got to care for them we have to sympathize with them never never criticize because you don't know what you would have done in that situation but one thing is for sure if you're in the supermarket and you could call somebody who's home and can't get out that's a tremendous lesson and the cup of time says every single day you got to do a hasit and every day you got to learn something and I believe that's for women too I'm not saying hosta shown that the woman should learn to daf of course not but there's so many things that a woman could learn Hill has brought us she could learn Mooser here who's conscious there's so many things till until now home is just so much every one of us every single day we should learn something I just want to give you some examples what does it mean when somebody wants to do a favor I know a lady in Washington Heights her name is Rita slam what's she's an elderly lady and she told me this story that you will literally be blown away by this story it's just absolutely amazing there was a woman in Washington Heights who was close to 90 her husband died so of course she sitting Shiva now unfortunately this woman who was sitting Shiva she never had any children with her husband and her husband was the last one of his brothers and sisters to remain alive so she was sitting alone she had no children no brothers and sisters and her husband you know all his siblings had passed away ready so a few elderly women including mrs. lamb Watts went to pay a Shiva call went to be Menachem ovale and she told me in the middle while she is sitting there a couple walks in from borrow pump nobody knew who they were and the couple starts asking the widow some questions about her husband they were very nice and very sensitive after a few minutes the lady said to this couple I don't know you but did you know my husband so they said no so she said I hope you don't mind my asking but what are you doing here you know you don't know me I don't know you and you didn't know my husband listen to what they said you could faint they said we get to homo diya every week and in hammoudi a-- there's an article there's a list by mrs. Kim mrs. Kim has a list of all those people that are sitting Shiva she said me my husband we go through the list if we see anybody any place in New York that sitting Shiva along we go to be Menachem oval have to stand up for people like that you imagine the head and the concern they don't even know these people but we're all brothers we're all sisters so we don't want me to a favor you know what that meant to that lady that somebody cares somebody who didn't even know her cares that's an asset that's beautiful I'll tell you a story that happened in our shul I'd have him by rabbi teitelbaum where the Rebbetzin thousands for many years before she went out on her own right with her husband okay so it's a wonderful place and this year on Purim if you remember there was a snowstorm okay and you know everybody came to shul anyway of course and in our shul like they have in many many shoals they have something that's called base Meldrick of motor Hayat sadiq and what that means is that fathers or grandfather's come with their sons and grandsons and they learn for a half hour or an hour before Mincha which is let's say about two o'clock and then afterwards hour of rubbish Levantado bomb he sits up front and all the kids come with their costumes and he gives everybody money he gives all the kids money for him gelt fine now we have a guy in our shoulder comes from england only a guy from england could have a name like this Nigel Nigel Collins okay he's a client a lovely lovely guy uh Nigel Collins is a great photographer now nobody asked him to do this thing that I'm about to tell you but what Nigel did is absolutely incredible he came to the basement of more kyotonic with his camera and after Mensa when the rabbi was giving money to all the kids in their costumes he took two or three pictures of every kid by the time everybody went home and was getting ready to wash for the sue that's Purim everybody in the shul had an email with a picture of their son and the rabbi isn't that amazing that's amazing it is just unbelievable that's me I'm Clarissa Royal that's a person who didn't have to do what he did but he did it because he's very very special and that's what Claudius Rahl is all about so you do a high set every day before you go to sleep you look in the mirror you're gonna feel great about yourself you can feel great because you did something more because you weren't living only for yourself as a matter of fact is an expression a three word expression that we should all remember there was a great Sadiq his name was not behind vulajin er he was the first one to make a yeshiva he was a Talmud of the Vilna Gaon and he wrote a safer called nefesh ah Haim very difficult safer say from philosophy they found Jewish thought but the introduction was written by his son rabbits hawk or a bit salasi was called and in their Abbey its hawk vulajin her rights that my father always used to tell me he would criticize me how come we don't get involved in other people's problems you gotta help other people and then he said you know something I want you to remember these three words LOI Lots my never oh you are not created for yourself you were not created that you should become rich and famous every one of us here and I know many of you you have talents it's a little girl here another way she's sitting but she's here she's a great artist my suka every year is filled with all these beautiful things even tonight she brought me some of this she is right she sorry we can't get you on camera or whatever but she always makes these gorgeous decorations that she brings to my house ever took us tonight she gave me something for Hanukkah already very special every one of us has talents but Hashem didn't give you a talent so that you should become rich and famous Hashem gave you a talent so you should go out and help somebody you're a doctor you're a lawyer you're a negotiator you're a speaker whatever you whatever talent you have you go out and you help other people that's really what it's all about so the idea of doing more and helping and encouraging people I want to tell you a great great story about encouraging people in the concentration camp in Bergen Belsen many years ago in the early 1940s there was a man his name was rubbish raga Schmoyer schnitz ler everybody called him rupture melka he was a Sadiq a wonderful person and it was right now at this time kiss life just a week before Hanukkah and he was telling everybody don't worry we're gonna be able to light candles we're gonna be able to have a menorah or somehow we're gonna light lifts here in the barracks and everybody thought he was crazy how could that be it's impossible and some people said he's just a nice man he just wants to give everybody encouragement and he would say you'll see you'll see now Milka unfortunately had a terrible terrible job and in the concentration camp when they gave a person a job he had no choice he had to do that job otherwise he'd be killed and what his terrible job was was that after people were gassed to death they would pile all the bodies on a flatbed truck and he would walk alongside the truck to make sure that the bodies didn't fall off and he would walk on a track I saw this track I saw where it was and he would take the bodies into the crematorium and many times he would cry because he knew these people that were being put to be burned into ashes was terrible was just terrible and one day as he was walking every day he walked the same path back and forth from where the people were guests to death and then along that track and the grass and the ground and he would go to the crematorium one day he almost slipped because there was like a little bump in the earth now that bump was not there the day before and he couldn't understand why is this bumpy or who what how did this bump get here and then he figured out I'll bet somebody's hiding something in there and he was very curious and he decided that at night he would go out when no one was looking to see if there was something underneath that that piece of Earth that had like a lump like a little bump and sure enough he went out and you will not believe what he found he found little strands of cotton which made him think oh my goodness somebody's putting wicks here and then he found little tiny cups and then he found like a little jar of oil who in the world put that there but you know something to me the greatest part of this story is that he covered it up and he left it there you know why because he knew obviously if somebody hid it there they're gonna come back and get it so even though he could have been the hero he could say you see I told you we're gonna have oil on lights and here we are but he didn't do that but everyday he watched as much as he could to see who was gonna come back for that little bit of oil and the little jugs the little glasses and the wicks nobody came back for them now it was an hour or two before Chanukah and he realized nobody's coming back so he ran out he got the wicks he got the oil he got that little jug and he brought it back to the barracks and the people they were crying they could not believe it they could not believe that he really had oil and they were able to make the broker he made the three brokers and the people were crying and trying to sing quietly saying more so nobody could believe that such a thing could happen and every single night they lit those wicks that was obviously in December of 1944 and 45 they were liberated and he went back to Hungary he lived in a place called Becca shaaban he was known as the chopper Rove was a very very holy Jew and eventually he moved to Eretz Israel and people used to come to him for broca's to get blessings because they knew how holy he was and then one day in the early 1950s he was able to get out of Israel and he travelled to America and he went to Williamsburg to see the satmar rebbe reb yo-yo town Obama and the reason that he went to the sapna Rebbe was not only because the satmar rebbe was a big Sadiq but the satmar rebbe was also in bergen-belsen and so they had some common stories that they shared they hadn't seen each other there but they knew that they were there and they started talking about all the different things that went on in bergen-belsen and then the Safa Rebbe said this he said you know I always felt bad so the chopper off said to him rabbi Schnitzler said to him why do you feel bad he said you know I bribed a guard and he let me hide some oil and some wigs and little cups and I was liberated Huff olive kiss lay four days before gives life and I always felt bad that nobody used those wicks and rubbish Milka said Tim Reber you can't believe what I'm about to tell you I found them I found them and we used them and they were both laughing and crying at the same time and the satmar rebbe said look look how once again in kislev hashem made another miracle with oil in our time and i was so moved by this story i wrote it up and i told it in a little DVD that's called living lessons i have a son-in-law Haniyeh kramer who has a company quorum multimedia if you go on coal rom multimedia or if you go online and just press living lessons Pesach Crone Konica stories you're gonna see that story it's done in animation and one night I get a call from a guy in front of my hymen Itzler and he's crying I said I am what's wrong he says you don't realize that man I'm sure Milka that was my grandfather I had no idea my father was sitting here in the hospital with my father he had no idea that that story was known and now it'll be around forever because it's written in a book and it's on a DVD but that's what happens when you try to give please look that's what happens when you care about Yiddish em makes it that you're able to do such wonderful special things now there's another aspect of Hanukkah that I think is so important and that is we know that when we say henares hallelu after we've lit in the candles and we say it also in the shrine and syrup we use this expression k de la hoya dice ilaha il-allah shim ha ha God Oh to praise and to say thank you Mijares means to say thank you and lauhala means to praise and I think that the idea of saying thank you and the idea of Prayer easing people praising ash em praising your spouse praising a husband praising a wife praising your kids praising people who do things for you that has become a lost art many people don't say thank you anymore we take everything for granted I'm a very very very big believer in saying thank you even somebody who Dobbins for the almond even if he's getting paid but he Dimond you didn't have to come for the ammad the about Kure and what about the lady behind the counter in the bakery or everytime I'm on a plane I go up to the pilot you can't always get to the pilot today but today you know he took me up I don't have to tell you what could happen right a bus driver whatever I'll tell you a great story that happened with me I was traveling to Toronto and I don't know if you've ever been in Air Canada terminal in LaGuardia Airport it's like a semicircle and you walk in through security and then you go to your gate now I don't know why my gate is always the last one always the furthest one from the terminal I remember one night my wife and I were coming home from Atlanta and on my ticket it says terminal you know gate one my wife says haha look at this tonight well gate one of course an Atlantic gate one is at the end right that starts the other way so if you're traveling with me you're gonna go for a long walk for whatever more secure for sure but anyway Hashem loves me thank you so now so what happened was I'm waiting now at the gate and we're almost about to get on the on the plane and all of a sudden everybody's tuning around because there's two security guards that are coming and they look very serious now when two security guards are rushing to get to your terminal something is wrong and everybody is frightened is there a terrorist on board did they find out that somebody you know it's got a bomber what's going on here anyhow everybody's waiting to see who they're coming over to and they come over to me not-so-pleasant everybody's watching right me too terrorist right and I say gentlemen can I help you and the guy takes out a phone and he says is this yours I said officer I always carry my phone in my right pocket we've a in my pocket right pack up my shirt my jacket my pen I don't have I don't have my phone I take a look that's my phone I said sir how did you get my phone he said I don't know where you're traveling to but you had so much stuff yes three bins of stuff you only picked up two and in the third one was your cell phone I said officer you know I can't thank you enough you know I got 500 numbers programmed in that phone if I would have lost it I'd have to sit and reprogram 500 numbers you know and I thank you profusely and then I don't know what possessed me to ask him this question I said how do you recognise me there's 2,000 people on this terminal I thought for sure he was gonna say you're the only guy wearing a black hat that's what I thought it would say that's not what he said he said do you remember what you said to us when you pass through security I don't know what I think he said you looked at both of us and you said thank you gentlemen for being here I feel safer that you here he said thousands of people walk by nobody says thank you you said thank you we were gonna find you if you were the last guy in the terminal now besides that's to give them don't they deserve Thanks would you like to have their job you'd like to smell 5,000 pairs of socks a day right kind of job is that right but somebody's got to do it okay fine you're not gonna believe this about a year later after the story happens the guy comes over to me he says rabbi Crone you will not believe what happened because you know I tell the story every place he says I was in Kennedy Airport and I was in Air Canada and I remembered your story so as I'm going through security I stopped and I said to the security guard in Kennedy Airport in Canada thank you sir for being here the guy says to me oh you heard the rabbi tell the story so let me tell you you a lot of thank them even if they're not from a Canada Southwest American United whatever but the point is when you say thank you you validate someone and when your wife makes suffered you say thank you and when your husband brings home a paycheck you say thank you don't say uh-oh say thank you she shocked right you have to say thank you you have to say thank you you tell take anything for granted and you know something there's a plastic I always used to see rubbish on Sherrod run say and I try to say it many times and that Post ik is who do wash em cheater Eve Keely Alan Costin you should practice that you come home and you see your kids brush em they're healthy and they're playing with each other hug the lash MPT of Killian I'm consoling you come home you got a job dilash mq acutely ill on prostate you have a spouse that you love you wash em cute of curio I'm hustling you're allowed to say that plus ik 10 times a day and get used to saying if you know why because then you become close to Shem because then you realize that Hanukkah is a time la jolla day so ah ha well and for every little thing that we have we have to thank gosh em tonight where's Erin I can't see him because the light is blaring but Iran who's filming tonight is one of the guys filming tonight he was in my house about two and a half hours ago and we made another video for a totally different organization on a totally different topic there's a new thing you should try to get it into your schools everywhere straight this is a new organization their tea stall is called mihashi voice' rush a voice the elevator they're trying to teach children about a Munna trust in a sham that's what they did the first Turkish my speech tonight that's going to be in the schools Andres rightish today's was about the goodness of Hashem all the good things that a sham does and many times we don't even think a sham for everything that it does I'll give you just a small small example and maybe we can do something special from now on when we bench we all know apples are red bananas are yellow and pears are green and grapes are purple give us seen anybody paint an apple or paint a banana or paint a pair who painted that who made that Hashem did that you ever go to one of these beautiful stores like Aaron's or seasons and you see the display of fruit is gorgeous Hashem could have made every fruit should be brown or white or pale or gray someone has chef did Hashem did something very special he made food pretty now if you close your eyes and I gave you different bits of food you would be able to taste the difference you'd know the difference between ice cream and sushi and pizza and steak a chocolate mousse and watermelon and cake the taste of food but you didn't have to make that food taste who makes it taste only a sham right and besides we're all here tonight every single one of us and anybody who's watching all over the world that's only because the food has nutritional value so food you ever think about it that's three things an appearance color taste and nutritional value now watch this from tonight on it or tomorrow when you bench let's keep those three things in mind but pain what I said over alcaman what saying grace beautiful food Hashem didn't make it all just bland gray or brown or white what's the huh said the tastes so delicious we all love certain foods I told all people you know all the kids that are watching I can't stand barbecue chips okay my kids love barbecue all these you know whatever all these sharp sharp foods whatever it's not my taste I don't know where they got it from but whatever kids love that right that's something to be great that's and leng ramen we're only here because we have because we eat food today because we could exist so maybe let's make a new Karbala from night on not only are we gonna do a hasit every day my syphilis not only I'll we're gonna learn something every day my Sephora but how chorus at O Eve we're gonna say benching carefully and when we get home tonight and our sitter will underline these three words but pain but I said over Aukerman McCain is with graciousness with us it is kindness over Rahman with compassion and we'll think of those three things of food the color the taste and the nutritional value Oh imagine that your child comes over to you and says mom or dad thank you so much for the jacket that you got me for the suit that you got me the shoes everybody loved it well you'll love that kid you want to give them another pair of shoes right we're all a shams kids when we say gosh em thank you for the taste of food for the appearance of it for the nutritional value what do you think I shams gonna do it's gonna give you a better job tomorrow you'll get a raise you wouldn't even know where it came from you know where it came from from saying thank you because Hashem is a father and when a child says thank you to a parent the parent wants to do greater things I'll tell you another thing what we could all do from tonight on every single one of us without fail some people will do it five times a day some people will do it 10 times a day and that's saying oh she ought sir you know think about I gotta tell you this you won't believe this you know rabbi tats a genius rub me a Cuba tats he said something like this how do you save the word skin in Hebrews anybody know or write how do you spell it iron love race is there another word that you could make with those letters I involve race right blind iver blind so now what did I shall make it that the same letters that means skin means blind you know why Rabbi Ted said a genius thing cuz the skin blinds us to what's going on in the body imagine if we didn't have skin and I could see your heart and your lungs in your colon and your kidneys and your blood and your veins are we go crazy but we don't see it and because we don't see it we take it for granted but for Hashem I don't see anybody here in a wheelchair I don't see anybody here on a respirator everybody's breathing everybody walked everybody talked everybody ate everybody's sitting comfortably that's wonderful that means that the whole body is working when do we ever get a chance to say thank you touch him you know what we should do tonight not only do it I said every day not only learn something every day and not only bench behind Bahasa to rock him let's try from now on and I've been doing this for the last few months I would never ever ever ask anybody to do something that I don't do stand in one place when you say our Shiites are just stand in one place how longs it take nine seconds somebody told me they have a sign over their bathroom actually it says not Phyllis Adara because you know many people when they're saying I see Oates out there walking out to the car they're getting dressed - doing ten different things stop and thank our Shem for your body thank gosh em that everything is I'm gonna tell you something now that if you never thought about this you could go crazy from it do you know what the Vilna coin says in his safer well he didn't write - safer on the sitter but he said these things and they wrote it and they called it the sitter how grow the only bra ha the only brought that we mentioned the key sacred aha the highest the chair in heaven only by Asiata all of you do laughing he said give Idaho why did we say about key sake if I dare hot we don't say if I show you we don't say by Magilla we don't say by matzo we say it when he go to the bathroom it's almost embarrassing to even talk about this topic but you know what he says I'll tell you what he says something so amazing and it says like this that we have to know that even from that high place I feel Oh me show me even from Dan odd place in the Keisei avoid marcia al Devoran Shalem Kayla Shan takes care of us and these mundane things so if we want to try to live and see mushiya Muttley Keisha - you make Hanukkah we have to learn the lesson of Hanukkah the lesson of Hanukkah is la hoy Desna hallo say Thank You Tosh em thank you for your house for your spouse for your job of course none of us have everything and many times we focus on what we don't have but we have a lot of good stuff we're living in a great country all the people who came from Russia they'll tell you how Great America is they'll tell you that they can take their children and bring them to schools leadership schools that's what Kazakh is all about that's all we have to help them to make sure that every child goes through this is cool but you couldn't do that in other countries and we're doing it here we have to thank gosh mu don't take anything ever for granted I just want to tell you one more thing and then we'll review and end with a great story one of the great Tammy - ha ha mom who wrote on the shots was in Morocco his name was Rob Hitchcock Alf a see he came from Fez Alf se Rob Utah golf a see the riff and every Gomorrah every single Gomorrah in the back you opened it up you have the riff it's one of the commentaries now it's very interesting I remember when I went to Morocco we were going from Morocco we were going to Spain and we went through went to Spain and then to Gibraltar and that was the exact same trip that the riff took because the riff was a great Sadiq and a die-in a judge and he once ruled against a very wealthy person and that wealthy person threatened to kill him and the riff had to run away and he was on that boat from Morocco in Tangiers to go towards Spain and while we were on that boat I told the people this story and this story is brought in one of the commentaries it's called the she Tomoko vet says in Bravo comet Sadiq Bey's are in bays 92 B and it tells us an amazing story there was one time when the riff was not feeling well and he needed warm baths and he had a neighbor who was a wealthy man and he had like a Jacuzzi type of bath so he said to the great rabbi come rabbi move into my house you'll be able to take these warm baths and you'll be healed you'll see they're very very soothing and the Rif moved into this fellow's house he was there for a little while and he took the baths every whenever he was supposed to and he got healed a few years later unfortunately this wealthy man lost a lot of money and now he had to move but he had to sell some of the things that he had so listen to this he goes over to the roof his neighbor the rabbi and he says rabbi listen I gotta sell this jacuzzi could you do me a favor I don't want to cheat anybody could you come and figure out how much it's worth so I'm gonna sell it for a decent price I don't want to cheat anybody and you know make so much money off someone if I'm not supposed to you know what the Rif said you would not believe the riff said Loy are doing the LOI or yerba merit says that I cannot rule on this bath I cannot judge it you know why because I gained from it the fishing and they seemed even I gained from it and if I underestimate its value that's a lack of saying thanks to that bath who says thanks to a bath but you know what the Rif is teaching us in the gomorrah is teaching us even something that's an inanimate object something that has no feelings you have to be grateful to it why do we kiss the sitter you know why because you haven't from it it's wholly a person should never throw clothes on the floor because clothes we all choose our clothes because we feel that defines us and the Gomorrah has an expression biro dish ocess mean a a well that you drank from like fish typically don't throw a rock in it just because you drank for the world what if the well has feelings no it teaches us something even in animate objects that's what we know Moshe couldn't hit the ground remember he couldn't hit the ground by the Markov kingdom because the ground the ground really protected him when it accepted that mid street that moisture killed and he couldn't hit the water because the water saved him when he was a little boy so even for in annamund object your car your car shouldn't look like a sloppy mess you know why it's not nice because it's not respect to the car itself how do you like that now I'm gonna tell you a story I know you're not gonna believe one word of this and I don't want anybody to do it because if they do it will collapse all on you but I'm still gonna tell you the story but you have to be on a very very high mod raiga in Muncie there was a great Sadiq his name was rabbi mordechai Schwab Rev shimmy Schwab's brother his son told me the story he told it to me three times because I didn't believe it the first two he said that after he finished wearing a suit let's say Ward a couple months or a year a year and a half or whatever he just didn't throw it out he took it off he folded it he put it in a plastic container and he spoke to the suit I don't want you to speak to suits if you speak to the suits were gonna call out Salah but he spoke to the suit and listen to what he said in Yiddish - hasta me goodbye Dean you served me well imagine that and he put it in a drawer it kept it there for a few months and then again he took it out and then he put it in another back package whatever and then he put it out now you gotta be honor my Drager to talk to your suit but the point is a person realizes that everything that a sham gives us that's why Yaakov went back for those small jugs and some say that was a jug of oil that they used in the base on big gush so of course he went back for it cuz he probably knew that it was so holy everything that you have your snood your jacket your scarf your car everything have to be grateful for everything have to treat with dignity so let's review everything that we said and we'll end with a great thought let's remember here Mia compared to Claudia stroll to an olive-y we said a few reasons because the olive oil never mixes tonight try it with a few different quids show it your kids don't forget before you go to sleep take soda orange juice and olive oil and see the olive oil will race to the top and if you get in trouble call me I'll take care yeah okay always be vibrant the children should be vibrant just like olives but nettle Casillas a sin let's remember that's when you're safe was born Yaakov was not afraid anymore because he said yo safe means more and if I have a child who always wants more I'll be okay in goes what do we do more like the hover time says do a high said everyday let's be like that couple that was so sensitive to that woman who was sitting Shiva alone let's be like Nigel took his camera and took pictures bill nobody asked him each and our own boy we got our own talents take your talents and use your talents let's remember what our beautiful Volusion has said that his father told him Loyola arts my never you were not created only for yourself let's remember to be myself or Hylas too and constantly let's remember that great story of rubbish milk and bergen-belsen how he wanted to encourage the Jews and Hashem helped and through the satmar rebbe that he was able to get that oil and he was able to make that miracle in bergen-belsen let's remember to say thank you Tasha la hoy de sal hala what do we do every morning what are the first words that we say when we wake up money then we say thank you say thank you to your wife don't be embarrassed say thank you to your husband don't be embarrassed of course a wife has to make supper and of course the husband has to bring in money but they work hard it doesn't happen by itself don't think it's for granted that everybody has a job and that everybody's got a house and that everybody's got a family and if you have that thank gosh em that's what my dear is all about saying thank you saying thank you not only to people but to inanimate objects in your mind obviously you're not talking to the suits yet let's remember we can say thank you - em for our bodies bye ashie outside maybe we should stand in one place from now on and when I said this over a lady said to me don't we say annachi I'd say EF shelah married Kalama was standing so let's stand in one place and let's remember what the groin tells us kisi ki waitaha that's the only one that we say that Braja and we use ki sake of Idaho let's remember to thank anyone who does a favor for us no matter what whether it's a taxi driver the pilot the lady behind the counter whatever it is let's remember the riff was afraid to evaluate that jacuzzi that warm bath cause he thought if he underestimates it that's a lack of our corset ieave and finally let's remember that which the Gemara tells us biro - a system in a a well that you drank from like Tichenor bacala don't throw a rock in it so I want to tell you now a great story the first part of the story is very painful to me because this was a great woman that I had the source to meet in Manchester many many many years ago it's got to be at least 25 years ago her name was Roberta Hobby walk shop she just passed away now but she had MS and she went through a very very difficult life and I remember the first time I was in Manchester I was about to go in to speak I was gonna go to an auditorium and speak there was a whole group of women that had gotten together with hundreds of women and somebody said to me you've gotta go in to see this Rebbetzin one fortunately has MS she's a brilliant woman she gives you a room and she asked that you should come to see her how could I come to see I'm on my way everybody's waiting but how could you say no to a lady that's in a wheelchair and she's got MS so I come in there's 25 woman sitting around her dining room table because she's gonna give them a shear she wasn't in the room yet and then they opened up the curtain and they wheeled her in and when they wheeled are in my heart fell because she was a young woman in her early 40s she looked so vibrant but she was paralysed already she could should you just move her hands but she couldn't move the rest of her body and she started telling me that she's writing a book about her difficulties and she said to me please write me a letter for the book now I had never written a letter for anybody's book and I said look you have such big tsadikim here in Manchester ruff Sehgal and I understand how brave that comes to visit you let these tsadikim right I I can't write a letter I'm not on that level she said please I listen to your CDs your cassettes it wasn't those days and I read your books please write me a letter are you gonna say no especially 25 women are sitting there so I figured this now I'm gonna say no I said listen you know I haven't read the book yet and I'm just about to go into speaking tomorrow flying to London when I get back to New York send me the book send me the manuscript if I like it I promise you I'll write you a letter I figured from 6000 miles away I'll be able to tell her no on the telephone but of course she was smarter than me she had already printed out the manuscript she said here it is right here okay so I said okay good I'll read it now when I got on the plane from London to go to New York and I started reading it I'm telling you I was crying it broke my heart all the travails that she was going to do I think the saddest page in that book is her daughter's 8th grade graduation and she writes how an 8th grader of course looks beautiful and all the women look so nice they're all so proud of their kids and she had to come in never with a wheelchair and her daughter's embarrassed to her and she's embarrassed for the daughter it was just awful that she had to be wheeled into that graduation together with all the other girls and the mothers but then there was one sentence that was in that book that literally just made me stop now wherever I go let's see if it's true yeah of course it's true I always carry this except on Shabbos I always carry a highlighter I always underline great expressions even if I'm gonna throw out the paper in ten minutes I always underline great expressions I wanted there's a writer there she can tell you that when you read a good expression and you underline it and makes an impression it stays in your brain somehow she wrote like this now she wrote this expression it wasn't her expression but listen to this it's a it's a life-changing expression because it teaches us a lesson and the expression was like this any fool can count the seeds in one Apple but only Hashem the highest power can count the apples in one seed think of that any fool can count the seeds of one Apple you go home you open up an apple you count four or five seeds but only Hashem the highest power can count the apples in one seed you plant the seed you have no idea how much can grow from it and that's the final lesson for tonight you plant the seed of friendship by doing acid you plant the seed of connection toccatas vertical by learning something extra and Hashem gives you the blessing that you can learn 10 times more you plant the seed by showing a curse at AVM and Hashem says my child you're saying thank you you appreciate me I'm gonna show you I'm gonna appreciate you from one little seed of a mitzvah from one little seed of hesed just let that one little path of Shemin a whole miracle developed eight days of miracles that was still celebrating to this day today was only a little oil but that was like a seed for the future and that's what we have to plan tonight we plant seeds of has said we plant seeds of Torah so that we should be zelicah that our nephesh the nares of sealer the chemin should be elevated so we should see mushiya motley Ke$ha - email Hanukkah let us hope that it should be a source for the Nifty and all of us should be able to be elevated and see Messiah on our time thank you for inviting me and thank you for listening [Music] [Applause]