Farbrengen 3 Kislev , Rabbi Shmuel Lew - 5784

up to you it's up to all of us I'm here now this moment I got to take something in my to take back to Eng you have to do something yourself really really really and he said whatever I can give you but I can't do if you don't do anything nothing's going to happen so now I'll tell you the real story money the real story I want to read I want to read the question you know why because I'm hard of hearing if you ask the questions you can ask don't worry a little am I but when you with this questions it's interactive it's called in English it means that it's we're all stakeholders it's not somebody giving you a brother about [Music] were was [Music] anyway so I want to tell you something here that I [Music] heard but he I [Music] want legendary in and then he passed away was living in London running a business [Music] that [Music] business littleit and on thousands of [Music] people then the said I want you to consider becoming the and the is go to and spend a couple of weeks there and see if you like it go a tri like and if you like it go back to London and spend the next year winding up your [Music] business and then go whated I heard this what happened wasm there was a car accident and his only daughter was killed and left over 11 kids young [Music] months he was already and when I and I was in South Africa I came back on Friday was the last day my wife said came here at 7:00 in the morning she said terrible news but you got to go it's only chance to told me story CU I was in I was in first and laugh he said told me wind up your business so that year he said my business I can wind up in a week with a month he needed that to make arrangements for Ling kids that really took a lot of effort anyway I the mle spoke about what a loyal son is to a [Music] parent a good son is not a son who does what his father tells him to do that's not a good son that you can take for granted a good son is someone who anticipates what his father wants and he does it even if his father doesn't tell him to do it and he said is someone who realizes what the dev wants that have to tell it to him direct he knows what wants from him and he doesn't that's the that's the and to me remind the story which is I heard it himself the ear used to learn yeah you know it should so this is the and he to learn with and they would have discussions also while they were sitting together and they were discussing what is a and he said that's not if a re tell you your Rabbi tells you to do something if your Rabbi tells you to do do something it's to do it activities even though did not tell him to do [Music] it that's what you call a [Music] relation and I'll tell you now about a conversation not it's illuminated from I was unfortunately a city brother andway got close FL with a nephew of mine I sat next to him the I said anytime you want here's and he calls me up and he I have a question here's the question he saw he was preparing for ding like a good Jew looking at the and he saw there a reference to na thear says that there was a heavy between and would it be better for a person to be born or would it be better for a person not to be bor on it's the interesting thing is that's the only one I know it doesn't say which one said which view it just says that they were talking about one said this and one said that and they argued it for 2 and a half years and at the end they reach the conclusion now you born give yourself over yourself it sounds like make the best so I asked him what's your question on that so he tells mebody can question he says what took them two and a half years that's the only question why couldn't they decide that in two and a half minutes work out what you what you're view with two and a half hours and half days two and a half years what's going to take two and a half years question so I told him how much time you have right now he said he's driving from work to work from Flat Bush to New Jersey he's in the car he's alone it's an hour's dri okay so I explain to him a little bit which I'll explain to you in a minute in human term about what it means to love some what it means to have a relationship what do it what does it mean how do you gauge how do you measure that you really are a friend you have a a friendship how can you me how can you prove how can you show what your friendship is how could you know how you [Music] tell what happened what what so I said first of all before you answer a question about it's it good to be created or not I have two bigger questions on the he says what's that I said number one how can you have a suffer if it's good or bad is's a saer which is called and the first the first and the first it says to be born 2 and half years second of all in the same seven the first MIT of the would hasem give you a command to do something which is not good to bring children onto the world the answer is the answer is it doesn't say didn't remember but I looked up what does easy [Music] easy is it comfortable to be born is it easy to live a life on this world that was the question and he says it's [Music] not is it easy or not I have another brother 55 years [Music] ago he me but now my voice will last maybe an extra half hour I [Music] anyway never ever misses A Min three times a day told me later years after to make if you do now on Zoom what a popular kind of a guy know I he came to visit England he just married now he came there and I asked him one question I'm an older brother asking my kid brother he's now 79 years old I asked him one question I said tell me do you have any [Music] friends and he was a very popular person and he says I have plenty of friends but if your question is that if I have a crisis at 3:00 in the morning physical mental whatever I pull somebody up [Music] maximum and I reminded few weeks ago this all I remember from the whole week he SP in eng [Music] that because I thought that that is a fantastic description of what a friend is if you love somebody what makes you love them you have a relationship with someone what makes you have a relationship with them what is it feel you want to write a poem about it you want to draw a picture you want to sit with them the whole day and the whole night yes that's how you describe it that's not that's that's self love of course it's a part of it you enjoy that part and it might be it's it's getting up at 3:00 in the morning 8 hours uninterrupted sleep no one bothers me that's called that's an easy life what happens if somebody need and it's been a tough day and the night before you went to sleep very late and you had a power cut and you had and and and this was not working and tomorrow is a pre day at 3:00 in the morning first need what would you do so if you would do what the person want you to do then you're afraid you're doing what's right instead of what's comfortable I in my opinion there's a third level what level is sleeping 8 hours second level is having a sense of responsibility as Dy I've got to do it I'm a me and notable and the third level is that I was able to help the person who needed and all of that applies in friendships in being a good a good child to parents being a good parent to children and and not what does really want that's not necessarily something with with you do it because you're supposed to do it that's a level that's a very significant level of is to do something because that's what that's what the but there's even a deeper level that you don't just have the biggest possible but you're doing something that you that it's not that your body or your mind or your personality would necessarily want to do that's what it means and for that it could take me two and a half years I asked the guy I told him I said by the way uh what do you in the car for now we can go to work I said you work on Sunday he said no I work for ye yes Sunday no I said do you take the TR the trip an hour each way on Sunday he what are you kidding I don't work I don't of [Music] course say so what are you taking that trip you could be sitting with your wife and with your kids the whole day every day you're doing it it's not it's not something you do when you day off but you're doing it because of a relationship a relationship is what you do which is not say the way to overcome you tell it says I want you to think such and such or to say such and such or to do such and such whatever it is tell them away let keep on pushing him off for five minutes when you push off something which you would maybe want to do but there's a relationship which is more significant which is more meaningful to you than just feeling comfortable that's that's where the sign is of of a h of a child of a friend and love anyway I'm to question [Music] this [Music] down EP [Music] [Applause] h [Music] h I can't I can't get out [Applause] H like [Applause] okay here we go any other questions let me know a good question a completely completely completely different that different from each other the first one is what role should yish be playing in laish today yish language what role should yish speaking yish what role should it play now like most questions have to do with and we has to do with today versus the question is not simple the answer not simple it has to do with the is always does not the probably about 12 13 14 talks about considering even though doesn't use that that language so the question is what Ro what place does have so first I'm going to tell you something the told us my wife and myself before left the next night to England 58 years ago whenever I went with my wife she was my also Al together must have been five six I can work out how many you exctly and used to speak English including to me when my wife was there and and one time they said we should write in in know letter we both wrote a letter together and my wife wrote in English and I wrote in Hebrew and when we gave the the settle the immediately translated a k of what the Hebrew said we were two years in this you walked in and asked my wife do you speak is yet and she said she understands a lot better but it doesn't speak it so well so said it's a shame after two years in and then talking about what to do so the said to her in English I'm going to talk to your husband this and in case there's something you don't understand from what I'm saying you can interrupt that's saying that there's a big m in there's also a story of the re when dr's daughter came with her who to get a from this was very shortly couple of weeks before [Music] and asked are you an and he said yes so she said that's really good because now you'll speak yish which is I know you'll speak with your children and it's interesting they got married and they didn't have children by 2 years and 4 years and 5 years years and 10 years and 15 years but they always had 100% to speak children not just one children at the end they had a son and a daughter after about 18 years children were born in the and um obviously now having said that the question is what Ro thebi suffer when it came to the curriculum he said is more important than learning the if if parents can speak with their children in yish it's an extremely useful thing it's very beneficial it's the language that this spoke the language you can hear has a lot of advantages but of is priority where they spoke WR in the school instead of and and they wanted to teach us to speak yish said they should learn yish at home and in during playtime the teacher when he speaks to the children in recess they speaking when it comes to learning it it really depends there's a tremendous of but is more important than the language not that the language is not important and very very important but in the educational system is what takes priority what I did I T the boys t i i in the boys high school and I thought in the boys ele the oldest class if boys with 12 13 years old and they didn't know you I don't know if but I used to teach them yish songs and meanwhile I teach them how to write as well so they Lear they learn and they learn how to WR as well also has different rules of spelling and writing it's a fantastic thing to know somebody once came by D and the spoke in Russia Russia and he said he said I'm trying to forget that language so the said said I know a lot of languages but I wish I knew more you want to forget a language every language you know is beneficial there's no such thing as a boring language a bad language a language helps you to think and helps you to understand everything that you learn especially if it's yish a language that language has in it Jewish history if you learn how to how to look at the yish word and somebody who knows how to study it will know that it contains the whole history where the Jews were and what they did in all those places I give you an example in yish there's a word that you all know probably it's [Music] I you're going to tell me this so there was a a rabbi called Rabbi Jonathan sax and I was very very close with him I had a she in his room that was first one that I dealt with so over the years we spent a lot of good solid years together so one time he was in my house and he's brilliant philosophy in English I said translate for me the word I into English and he did but it was about 10 words it your philosophical words I don't remember what they were what what it would mean in ter so I said to him that is a yish word how you [Music] know just stop my word and and we all do this all the time ah you're going to tell me this then I'll tell you that is a fantastic language to know but learning that said and he said your parents should teach that or someone else find it a different way many of the teach that's like my things and some of them like there's a desire picking up a language is not as hard as it looks it needs motivation but anyway so the question was what role should it be playing it should be playing a central role but there other it's not the first priority next question you come up with any other questions [Music] WR what should I do if I do not have a and I do not appreciate that the rebba is my rebba oh now that is a great question you know why it's a great question why is it a great question because a lot of people have that question and they don't have the courage to ask it and the only way you can answer is by asking don't give it away so let's take the two parts of the question part number one is what should I do if I do not have a believe it or not this ailar thing he's not saying I don't have a saying I divide the time and I want this that unless you AR with the but the there's a tremendous amount of free thought and you don't have to do it during the time that you have to do you have a c see this you can do without a c a b look speak it through with and look for the areas which fit in with your cup because there's everything it could be that the part that you're learning is either difficult or boring or you don't see it's relevant at this moment in your life whatever it is I promise you the I'm not talking not everyone understand but in intellectual development and cultivating of thinking processes it's always Val but it's not always it says people wrote get bored a change p in the middle change to a different subject or to a different aspect whatever it is change it around so you look for a way and um yeah another is which is helping another to do and sometimes it's helping somebody asked me and they were asking about their own child I don't I don't want to go into the details but one of the things I said is get to your child the question was is it possible for such a child to stay at home at the age of 15 would it be better them to go away I don't know I this person I never you know from ad I know the name I didn't person I said I cannot tell you but I can tell you what I do know a lot about is which issues to factor in what to consider when you're making this decision starting with the fact that it's very healthy for a teenage child to be with their parents unless there's a an issue maybe know know way they can learn whatever it is there plenty of situations where it's best not but one of the things I said is you arrange with your child to learn with someone else and pay them the 15year old let them Le with a 10 or 9 or 8 year old day when they have no school evening as a pay job and that will help them motivate them this was maybe 15 20 years the child is a parent I met the child I met the child in Ro but they were already like 19 20 years old just could you clar so by learning to see this with somebody else here come around here tell me so uh by learning to make a little in the part of that you do enjoy take that it contains the essence of those stories learn things which are more accessible to your level of desire and you'll get something out of it I promise you onee one minute the second [Music] part excellent question forget the all was the second part of the question was what should I do if I do not appreciate that the Le is my le now one of my finished end scho I said look we finished a week early I gave $100 get some money to the kids I said buy grape juice and food and we have a for next week I said ask any question you want so one of the kids asked the question why do I need a re so I said to this person number one I congratulate you that you have the coverage you act in a respectful way an important question as you know it's a question which is good to know what it's about I said in order to answer it I need about at least 10 15 minutes and listen here I'm going tell you a story I heard the story from RAB it happened before I came like 58 years ago this Happ about 60 years ago there was a woman in Stanford Hill in London the very religious neighborhood a f woman that she had a very very serious threatening ill and the doctor said you have just so many weeks or so many months to live just recently arrived in England and he said I can tell you right than ever and she wrote and the re said that maybe said check I don't know what said he certainly gave a brother he certainly replied and vess this woman recovered but it wasn't like a now this woman had a rabbi in the was a and he loved and he did a lot of good things with but he had a on the whole story he was like background not going around asking B he not something I but I know's was sick and he was with his mother Huger and they and it says in and God listen to the of the better stronger more effective is theiller of the one who's sick the one who needs the Yeshua is more potent it's more effective than anybody else somebody else so this Rabbi said this whole me you get somebody gets sick and you write to it sounds inconsistent with that r and somehow that question [Music] reached wrot every single [Music] week every I saw one anyway so here the re answer the way I paraphrase the said going and asking a rabbi to dou to you is not a you say there's a new thing in town the came which is 200 years old it's not even 250 it's in it's in gor the you guys are learning it's in not the not not in the first person in the house people say he's go to says go to so the rabbi has no place no right to ask from the of fulfilling but said there is a says and says the of the person themselves is better than the of somebody else with them and the re said the answer is that a re is not somebody else word B excellent I hir this you know what a r is you know what the fun of a head is did you ever hear of think called the central nervous system we know it we call it the brain the brain is a system which controls the whole body it doesn't do things for you if you want to go someplace you got to get up on your feet and you got to walk that's how you go somewhere if you want to give to you got to put your hand in your pocket and pull out a coin or a bu and give it can't do you are Wai for you you got to put on your own body the other hand a person might be very strong and athletic and fit and have powerful legs for example in the head there's a bleeding in the head and he can't walk that's a a is something which connects the whole body and the whole of Cl is is the body one configuration and there's the's the there's the and the is the the central power of it that's what said with in a different kind of language than the is four by five names says it's not just five names five is the connection with so most people not most people everybody is operating on a fraction of our capacity you do have even do all the Mitzvah all the right things it's not you know it's that's you have a certain level there a level it's not it's not it's it changes everything in a person's life so I said to this student I said you know something you can say you say why do I need a re there are thousands and thousands who claim that they don't have a re and they don't need but I promise you that they didn't hit the if they did it wasn't on the level that they could get with a connection to So when you say how I do not appreciate my don't analyze so much try to work on having a connection to Once came to me many years maybe 30 years ago in New York and he said I feel I'm slipping and I'm telling you he wasn't slipping he slipp W and he says tell me something I can do I said want to connect but this guy was not holding anyone near to in my perhaps unfair eyes and I said to him I bought him a present the big br Engish I ask you one thing every day give one minute two minutes to the and read something to think about something said to that so each person you want to know how to develop that feeling why the feeling is good because it will bring out your he's not be of the and the is going to be very lucky another would be delighted love and was Jew was not even Orthodox and he told I feel very attracted but I don't see myself ready to become a how can I be a of yours I'm not really 100% there and said to him and je who looks in the mirror and says tomorrow better than today I'm proud to P my it's not where you are fact you're looking for it look for it find connection [Music] learning that's what I suggested to this guy today number two [Music] help because consid that person a lot of ever told someone do be a personal favor told to and the third thing is to get yourself a what does a person have to be in order to be my and through a must you'll have a connection to the devil how does it work I don't know but it works I promise number one it should be someone look up to you respect spiritual it doesn't have to be perfect but someone that you look up to not just stop number two someone you can trust to be 100% confidential so I once told this to a student and they said how do I know that I said take them off for more things and as time goes by you'll see you and number three there should be nonjudgment they don't think any lower they understand that every person especially a young person especially a developing person has ups and downs that is life it's a big problem because then whatever you achieve you achieving your it's Sal not something that we trans the price you have to pay to that his Downs as well as UPS not always going so not always going so good you're not always in the move it's not always be simp someone who you can trust they're not going to teach his mental it's the best thing next question kids should be [Music] home the best question in the world you know why because the answer everything I asked a similar [Music] question his question was I say that it's best for a child to be with a parent he said at what age should they leave home and the answer is that there's not one answer I asked the once when I took over as a principal of a school and after I was there for a year and a half I was in New York and I wrote a long three four Page Letter to the with two main I don't know how to do my job and the two things I what was about stuff that learning in the SE shakespare and the second thing was I had to advise people when they 16 17 not all families and I'm G i' like to stay in my school maybe go somewhere else with the school I wrote all these different sides and told me it depends on the person that's the or the want told my suffering that ideally a girl daughter should be with her mother the but that's not the world we're into so they go to they have to understand what's right and what's wrong what's better what's worth it depends on the home I know people with the home life for certain reasons was not healthy for a growing person I know somebody and I know and I know from a friend now he's but he told me that they never told him and this to advise another boy to do a whole roundabout thing to make that person stay not at home CU that was good for him so for that you have to work out with with what's right for each kid ask and the important thing is very often parents or B themselves they think about there's a certain problem in a certain place but with a certain person and they want to solve it and they have a solution and the solution works but the other thing is they solve one problem but they created or two or even one but it's a bigger one the harder so that you need to know situation that anyone's in is doing that 247 that's the when you say hello good morning I got to know every single day I'm and I try to smile this that one I got to know exactly when and who and what to meet theall and say not it depends on the person but the general point is that that the bondage of a parent to a child is very healthy connection that's that's the how that applies what told me by way was I should all I of mine with the words I was your par nobody loves you like parents but sometimes pretty heavy or intrusive or judgmental no you will have alone let it I need it's a healthy relationship anyway am I able to smoke weed if I'm depressed who would have wrot believe or not believe it or not there's an answer from the an English letter whoever it is want to come out and tell me who he is and send me your thing I'll send you the I have a a English letter in a serious way about using getting a spiritual high with LSD with with some kind of artificial stimulant and explain that that's not you know what it says and they ate from the at what was the was gra it was wine and it became self-conscious it's in the mind that self-consciousness they did and as a result they became very knowledgeable quite this they got to War to doing they got knowledge so and explains that the knowledge they had before that was a higher level of knowledge it was a knowledge of their body was just a instrument to Do's will whatever the mitvah was once they became self-conscious they became ashamed when they wer dressed because there was already mixed in in everything and that was so says why did he go and plant Vineyard but he came out he said there was an A and there was a world and it got destroyed and we're got to build it up and we have to do and the way to do it to take weed he didn't he didn't know about weed so he took what he took he took alcohol but that was not real because that was an artificial thing it's outside that's not cool becoming a better person it's not better for yourself it's a high but it's nothing empty zero not because it's zero 20 years lab bad which it is it's zero because that moment itself was not a moment who is the real one sort of went through difficult moments challenging moments doubting moments she asked question she had all this problems it's a sort of she went down and she went up from her side that's what means working with so you're not in the mood so you know maybe that day you leave it up just or whatever but artificial stimul is is not changed and it makes makes it work for the first you I got a cou you st the difference between taking and taking is becomes addictive just as not worth saying one why if it's a bad thing and you only can take three or four whatever it is why take because it can help you not to be when not say I need and this labor and this that it's not a step in the best dire speaking C but when the reab says that's not single [Music] that you were a little boy you went to the school to buy breakfast she R about 75 look every person you have to be honest with yourself follow follow the D of I tell you one thing once it becomes something that you depend it's notth it's not good not good still give a little bit of a take away not it's using as an escape it's not it's not Liv it's not real good life when you're sleeping when you know what happen Green Glass he used to tell a story about Napoleon if you want to know about Napoleon's life come to so one of the stories was that Napoleon used to sleep three or four hours a night and his mother came to him and she said I heard this both we the on the mother came to me she said you're an emperor you can sleep as much as you want why do you sleep only 34 hours at night he said to her when I'm sleeping I'm not [Music] a and Escape that's not life oh my God facing a problem it's difficult forcing a smile because I know we be talking it's going to work out because makes everything work out in the end that's that's limited even though it's not comfortable not a comfortable life always but it's a pleasure deep it's real it's real want to live all these things are not like not because the bad investment for your future which it is right here [Music] in don't take that fter too much never said that in I heard it it depends you want to stay in control that's the not like not like like de with with your issues not easy your friends yourself all the different things next question in a city that is not necessarily the most exciting how do you keep yourself motivated and happy you know what happen in lond and I was telling a story that happened here whatever I tell you story I'll tell you afterwards a story my meting by the BBC and the guy starts screaming he walks across the street that something happened what do nothing happened to me and I happened to hear him but he said it to me I said I promise you when you walk in the street there's a thousand things happening just have a big Mount you got to you look there you'll see the lot of exciting stuff happened when I was in Montreal I wasn't Bor I was enslaved I was enslaved I never really this life a Friday night in the middle of the winter 8:30 he start and then looking for Ain and eating in the W 10:00 at night 9:30 at night it was an [Music] adjustment but you know something when I got married I made a deal with my wife we in ground height you work hard the whole week especially Friday we take a nap and I used to stay in 70 and and come home I I missed it the thing which was most difficult for me I found to be the most Pleasant that CH didn't just suddenly come on walked into it way today I turn off my device turn off my phone at least minimum of an hour before sh and I don't turn it on but minimum of one hour usually two three hours after sh and I feel I'm alive I'm not I'm not my life is not dictated it's not not it's not by something outside of me so I could say a life without a device before Mar you had students coming to Pish how could you tolerate we had a pish in England when chabas ends about 11:00 at night in London manchest later Gat still later in Scotland after midnight and they said how could you tolerate how could you want me to come you can't do anything was once there for and he says the only way you can be stimulated is by pressing a button you're a pretty boring person it's not the enir you got to find something exciting it's people yourself your own inner life fantastic anyway I'm just if I live that's what but I when I'm feeling like I should somebody about pburg a DA living a lot of [Music] Fant it's not because it's simple or it's un complicated it is it's very sophisticated that's how you you have to let it parts of yourself become active there parts that have never never been stimulated never been active never been operated let them work this is a long long [Music] one and um I'm going to give over basically the question is how can I don't me the whole older generation old the judgmental AK how can they demand so much they why do they expect us to be like they were they have to how can they to say like in previous generation the B go the hat and the jacket did you ever and if the B today are not like they were and they have and I promise you plenty of and plenty of it's a choice I I en this of [Music] the I remember they me to came maybe long question and I was sitting there W on the back of the paper plate and they kept me there till about 3: in the morning at the end they said you saw all that what do you want from us so I said who wants to become 75 years [Music] old and and and and it's a much de for his there things that are not there the things that are accessible today that I was give everything to have I was even married and I met up with my wife that I wouldn't go home from 770 before is over in case I can hear a story and I get about two stories a year and you get it every week on J to know what the is doing saying all these things you have to take the good it's a choice the good that's there in your situation whatever it is whatever generation you're living not in a change that's your your working see speculating even in your own life somebody regretting thinking back the St we speculating anxiety for the future good background C stage everything this minute you can make a thousand years is like so we said the normal we say is is like a day says I'm telling you I understand that if you live a thousand years where you live one day it's moving it's a thousand it's not a thousand one life is this today that's what it is but you can do something today that last forever ever for a billion years not just 100 years not a thousand it's in our hand you can do something you can make your life into something which is infinite and you can be bored or boring even if you're a teenager nothing you midle age when you're 45 years old you mle age when you're 188 years old it's a it's a mindset it's a way of thinking look at the world the was always something happened made it different anyway why basically look it's it's very good for this person is asking like what do you at the end of the day and the answer is and the answer is really work with the situation you have is a normal part of life you have to know when and to who decid no to doev and another level it's like I I tell you what I'm really thinking I've heard this many many times over these last 60 years I said you can say any in my office any you want all I ask is you speak to me like I speak to you that's I don't ask anything ask stand up when I walk you don't have to give me any titles any cover just speak to me direct like I speak to you and that's how you have a conversation not generation World Generation the people of all time you look at this and not only that each person in their life you go to different different different periods of your life and even in any one period sometimes in one day there's so many different experiences you have or relationships that you have to negotiate that people you have to relate you working it's exci it's not easy but it's beautiful it's it makes you power and all the things that all the and Authority is trying to do even if it doesn't come across like that is to try to bring out nobody and I'm telling you now that I've seen hundreds of people say and those who have is because they waited till they're 25 years old till they learned the lesson B like wake up in the morning somebody came to me bu got from England and he wanted to get advice how to go into business and not to become a very successful person I got him an appointment with a top top top multi multimillion top of real estate around across the whole lond and he went to him and the guy told him the first thing you have to know you got to get up early in the morning this bu [Music] was you want to be successful time 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also but a lot of it is a is a [Music] drag but really it's it's not always easy like everything you anything that's worthwhile doesn't come easy but that doesn't mean that it's not worth much more they're paying your price you want to buy rollsroyce Alexus you got to still out $150,000 they C nowaday you're patient but you're happy you're proud you feel Rich [Music] so tell story com [Music] and before you I One More Story last week was the looking and on Friday I went to the everybody and I got I went with from England Li bre he's one of the organizers of the of the uh k m in terms of organization and I told tell me a story of the this is in the car going back to CR and I remember when he was I remember his parent he was from Manchester not from lond I remember he was a young boy he was learning in and I know he had stories he very smart and very open he wants to go to learn wants to come to New York and learn and the said not yet but different points related to at the end he said to the can you please be more specific asked to tell what what what you want me to do said I want you to look see this he was about 16 years old want to look to this on Monday and Thursdays and which may so for Monday he was in it's another neighborhood like about 7 miles away he says gives a on Sunday night count that as Monday go to that on Thursday askab to learn with [Music] you green called [Music] and and to me that story was very powerful I'll tell you why first of all first of all because the that the was aware alert to the details that are taking place through all the situations that's happen tell of the week go to this person and which night to that person smile on but secondly and maybe even more to have his personal interest in every every individual direct you guys [Music] different instruments two different channels but you're in [Music] this me was chosen not just by was chosen by [Music] our and he loves you and he cares about you in in a very specific way and he feels for the struggle and for the frustrations and for the hopes and for the unfulfilled expectations of youself and for the simp he feels and Care is there with you at every moment and you see that as an invit I'm telling you now I asked the re before I came here before I came to America I wrote that I'm going to and I asked ever please help me to say what you want me to say and I'm I TR share with you something which I was not expecting to I didn't know about weeks ago I wasn't expected to say it and I wasn't expected to say it 5 minutes ago but I think that's what I'm supposed to be telling you to work on a personal relationship with it comes from touching base learning you work out on your level what's comfortable plus a bit more that's not so how you do one person is learning one person is 10 minutes one person a half hour or three times a week and to help another say a happy word to somebody who's a bit low that day you can tell it on their face ignoring them and try to get a be able to talk with them somebody you can trust and be Jud and you will be that's yeah [Music] yeah [Music] la [Music] h yes Rich [Applause] CL [Music] he when you go to somewhere make sure that you prepare before you go and when you get there say something else and and to me that's really what life is about always prepare me live with something good positive not because of someone else and then when you get to a situation you have to know you know what's what's appropriate that [Music] situation who the par I'll tell you I have a daughter who's married to a great grandchild of her she asked and I know her a lot of children and all I said to her was make sure you look after the parents's great great grandchild he was very very very special and I'll tell you one [Music] story the whole project has people in the whole the whole world is this problem somebody F me up once got from from somebody who was writing a book about from Yale University I think it was from one of the big universities in America they're writing 10 books on the 10 most influential Jews of the 20th century he about and he asked name want to meet I was in America the end I didn't meet I spoke said one thing we were going to meet if I was going to come to America other he wanted to know where is a person where did he get the power to get people in the thousands to give up that comfort zone and to go live in a completely different type of envirment not just physical envirment spiritual everything they said that's a power you don't find that in the world anyway so somebody I heard in middle of the lock down was I he said in the name [Music] of that somebody met a very very real famous and said I have the deepest respect for what he has achieved in the world even though it's not such aella with an army like he has so this told this nobody handed an army they were one over one by one these people they it's not that took over organization okay you have 5,000 people to send them where you want could also be a big time but it said every one of them learn Lear had struggles had spers had cold moments had hot moments and the end was he became focused on doing somewhere whever it's need and people a little bit older like myself remember the times when there was pleading with people to go more than that pleading with parents to allow their children and were not parents people and somebody once heard the pleading with a father who was reluctant for his very son to go Far Far Away Place far away place in those days might have met New Jersey Pennsylvania go Chicago was like out of space that was called far away and the re said and this was the re was a man he was 52 53 years old and this C was 65 years old so say why can't you obey me for what me for me just because you're older than me he said is older than me and older than you and he listens to me this is somebody heard this here's the real version two things I'm not [Music] the two things was 3:00 in the morning it was 3:00 in the morning and there was that night and the's mother didn't like the idea that after 3:00 in the morning which was a regular thing re walks Home Alone even though was okay but you know 3:00 in the morning you don't see you don't you don't see anything so want to she walk by pass with the red go behind about it but that's not g my time came I heard first of all they were screaming at each other they were talking was the other guy was AO you know what AO is 12 million million are not so another year also be much is over from both of us and toer the like Earth Earth of the Earth this is number three inage was [Music] rtal next Thursday like this [Music] I I asked what can I do about the five kardashan after the five really I it was unrealistic me because to me [Music] together after so I wasab had and I was in could get a so I we did I did [Music] a I was bnie Feldman's counselman when came [Music] me you tell you something I the last time I was in C six seven years ago and when he came to he had a lot of opposition of opposition a young guy our chief Rabbi rabbi told me up once he knew he had heating 50 years or something 40 years and he asked him to make a video he wanted and he told me this such a young guy came he said that's only the to take a young person and take over one I [Music] know [Music] support that was was eventually was and the said I owe you commission I owe you commission for looking after person take care of and take care of every person who takes K eventually this [Music] man all hisy so much so he had he didn't have a job anymore and he got a job working in the office of something they gave him a job so should have basic and he went to the re and he said remember when you told me about commission so and then he said yes and he says I want to collect it so the said to him I heard this story from check this ex said my commission is and P told me then this about seven eight years ago that every single one of this man descend by the way but some of them are actually 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father told him my youngest son is getting married tell my son I wanted to come for the wed so my problem was I was only here for a year and three months that's a lot less than two years so I wrote to and I said please ask the what I should do and wrote since your father wants come in was a very visit came with my wife and we had before that a week before came us to go home for one [Music] hour family and was coming in about 6:30 and you looked into the americ into the mosquit understand my wife he's not L he as and he sort of like started walking towards me and we stood there at least 5 minutes maybe 10 minutes was a little right outside right by the entrance where later on speaking one of the things that never asked my wife at that time at two little children you know one was 2 years old one was one year old couldn't go out but shabas there were a few girl families young girls 12 13 15 I don't know from the there the families that we live about three four girls and they used to come every nothing wasn't an official like every so my wife must have written in a letter some stage the so the said who's looking after those girls this week that you're here we after my brother was the after probably I don't remember and asked me that you this the brother was getting married is he the same brother that you used to learn with and I didn't know what they was talking about for the first couple of seconds and really what was I had a care with my brother Thursday night happened maybe 10 times he was going away from I was going away it wasn't that regular and I to me it was like a [Music] and I said yes the said he's still learning so what should I have told the any suggest probably what probably probably that would that would have been a good one if I would have thought of it but it wouldn't be true it wouldn't be honest I said and then gave a big big smile and said you don't want to talk against your brother smile then said I want you to tell this maybe three times certainly twice follow you're saying this without not you talking it's me talking to you in my number tell my as over is over over the p his past whatever happened in the past he asked the and you can get it in Hebrew or yish or English any language is better for you telling me I was staying with my father in Williamsburg with my wife the next morning went up to my brother's room he was getting married that day and I said got some is it really me me before years years he was spoil that enough he got married Liv in B par a while still with China eventually he lived 40 years St and used now he lives in Lake Wood then you know nothing happened then he married off a granddaughter this was three years ago and it was all the isolation rules it was stilling Co so he came to America to England these countries had rules two weeks expolation the the was a very wealthy person very wealthy and they couldn't afford the time to be in isolation with two weeks so he paid for the whole family to come to England he should left to go to America and be in isolation so my brother was in England but I was in with social distancing going out go to school and things but I didn't really go travel at all I was careful but I went to this C was about hours public transport my [Music] DIN and I said to my brother remember said you have [Music] to I'm going to put you in touch with L with I the L with G Thomas and half years this was a few months later he said fine I came home and our family during the lock we have a large family and they all in different even this four that are in London but they're all in different they're more than a half hour from each other and from any one of them and then they're in America California Arizona three Pennsylvania different cities Florida New Jersey Manhattan Texas all over the country so we made a meing of having a zoom of the family for an hour or two every Sunday and start off I would [Music] tell and everyone would say what's happening there the family whatever what's happening so that night was a su I came home and my wife was there on the zoom with the kids and I told them what happened they told me you hear this and now it's about 50 years later and then I'm going to raise him to learn with the l so my kid said to me what did you learn with him on zoom and we started at work was similar to way you know didn't that every week necessarily but we just recently unfortunately he had part of his life after he had a major health problem with and just a few weeks ago we started again and he says he get the T he's in the rehab place he get the T there and uh well the same the the big thing that I tell you that that said over is over three words profound profound profound word because sometimes you don't want to do something you really would want to but you feel that you already blew it you did something really you shouldn't have done or didn't do something you really should have done so just think of those three words forget it everything is today every day is a lifestyle that's really what life is about every day is either if it's one day or thousand years it's nothing it's finished it goes every second the future is becoming the past's no moment ex every second the future is becoming the P he said except by the everything and what it means is that if you connect to the you do something want you to do that's forever that's forever is I heard I the that says I got plenty of time yet just the young guys and another s which says it's too late I blew it a bit I made enough mistakes to my young life and they're both s they're both full the reality is tonight today you can create Eternal that applies [Music] everything tell someone in [Music] advance BR it down there was somebody was the prison the the P you put him at the prison came and said you're in prison but I'm a nice gu going give you one day you can join your community go to that let him out of prison for day this was unheard of 5600 years ago you choose the day that you want to go out [Applause] so Le what what what [Music] they wrot what day should I choose that's how we know the je of wrote back when you get this letter that thing you have a chance now do it now that PS the only thing that exists in this world now you think you going to put something on you'll always push if you say now it's now we want Mia I once a son years old he wanted to go home and was couple of hours in between and I was talking to someone and he's pulling me to to go home said want to go home I said s he says now I say s he says now he I want to go now I said you could go soon he said I want to go now and he said now such a I said when do you want msia he says when we go to the that's the issue now for sure every of something supposed to do the only thing that you know about it is that you're not going to [Music] do the only that's only thing count us to come that [Music] says so said that what would be it's a mentality in other words it's a mentality I can do something do it you do something what be so perfect he want told the ra when they put out the book challenge they said they edited further that never said if you work on it harder it'll be better but more important than should be soon [Laughter] we need speak yeah yeah okay boys no no no no no no no no no call day w oh [Music] no5 minutes [Laughter] I I heard I heard this story flid he said Miami about 15 years ago he I think I think that he asked the he asked [Music] the [Music] repeat can you repeat that couldn't hear can you repeat that you couldn't hear what you said I will repeat it but I tell you it's not necessarily it's something that if you don't know it you can live 180 years and be a chief Rabbi of Israel was was spoke on the phone before minut so two different secretaries of the found me to ask they were just curious to know what it was about and he said look I'm watch other on the phone you can ask the that that asked you want to check he didn't give any name I heard he the calls back that said told the to assure him that is not did not tell ask that [Music] question you what could you tell us [Music] y son's I'll tell you something anyway he [Music] birthday was how do I know what told me a story there's a little boy about 11 12 years old and he went swimming and [Music] grounded sa his life and he said him when I die turned out he found that into it this man has no children and the man said say so he followed this person and passed away Jew and he work be Mar people you know in London him the T of Europe was a business and many other people even though speak and he was a a big big and he checked that I was working with University students I gave him like once I gave a bunch of in an envelope and he brought them back and he threw them down on my desk and saider just about so I told him in a very respectful way much older than me I said can you tell me is there a Bigg difference between and versus and the biggest hind that ever happened in this world which is a bigger separation words it's just like the most make it sound like it's you know just about we g a very good answer he said it's true I'm saying it's you should know that it's prone to get afid and to become as it is now with per another time I asked you all is the background for the story story now then I asked him what why are you so in a respectful way why you always so much he told me a story that heot to the and he told the that he's very much what should he do he said they never told me like that a put it into so he said the didn't give how to get rid of it it's assuming that that's me all this is a background came was very hard [Music] very whatever you want to acheve you achieve and even more be [Music] the it's not saying not saying saying is always depends who you are so we were in the a bunch of you [Music] including [Music] that's at least it at least one other I don't remember at the moment and know there's a war going on it was in sh it's cold London [Music] October trying to make believe that's quiet and suddenly and he [Music] says this was like at that moment like somebody saying what he simp and then the other one nameless says I agree with him who could sleep at night you can sleep at night the fish fog says he was an over father had just passed away a few months before he said it come 7:00 in the morning we can't get a minion together it doesn't look like people have a problem sleeping no's coming in the morning and then mly Li screams he was a very very very and he start screaming he said don't rely on Miracles say till which is itself about and meanwhile middle of [Music] all was coming back from we were already back we had been somewhere before and he's singing he came with guys and sing then told the story that happened in Russia under the commun he was in another ground yes which was learning they still Lear scho somewhere they were it was illegal for big groups together each five places so it shouldn't be too obv to the to the ne who reported to the police they're sitting in the sh [Music] and and in the was talking and but of and he Liv there basic and he he these guys for half an hour and start speing at them what do level said that about suppos to giving you a another I'll tell you to blow you away blow you away I had notion only city I'm not going to say the city because the story is still happen still in the middle city in the United Kingdom you and about 60 years in that City it's a city with not a single stal in those days anyway or black hat probably [Music] know real obv I don't know if any went with yam in their work in their secular work but there was a boy there a young boy and he loved only Rel and he loved and he went to and then as soon as he was able to leave the country when he finished running 167 years old made and he went to have what do they do there they make furniture he went there so young that they designated a couple to be like his unofficial parents look at this must be 55 years ago that came and he was he was he was called up like everybody else and he was one of the nearly 3,000 TI in the that died on and he had a sister his family was just a brother and sister and his sister became very F very very negative not because he died he believed in it he died for his country for his people his religion but she felt that the community was insensitive to the plight of the mother they whether she was right or wrong it's very very likely she was not even right but she fell and she went away from SCH she went away from anything Judaism and anything Jewish she made a business to marry go that's what happened now that gu and that Jewish woman had two children a boy and a girl and then came to that City because there's a campus there he's a campus leader but he deals with the town also and the couple now elderly couple 50 years later this story happened over five years ago 25 years later 50 years after he went there this couple is now older people and they heard so they called him up they told him the [Music] story they called up and they told him about this woman and said look her [Music] up what phone number email Instagram what ti didn't know any any identifying screen name already but he worked hard and he found out exactly who this woman was exactly where she's living and exactly what her phone number is and he decided he's like he go to the house the at 6: p.m. why 6 p.m. because 6:00 whoever works in the day is home and we was going out in the evening hasn't going out made that went to the house he de he can't be waited that 15 20 minutes later come this woman with two daughters and she takes one look the guys with black hat waiting to talk to and she said give me five minutes straighten out the house be more respectable called them in and they said look you have kids you might try to get up she said my kids were brought up zero zero once in his life when he's years old what was it just so you have nothing really on the other hand my children were brought up to be polite so if you get in touch with them do what you want the adults they were in the 20s you want to get in touch with him get in touch with him so got in touch with the son daughter I'm not talking about I'm talking about the son and he he came to him and he brought what's called a term card in universities there have programs and there's three terms in the year in England in the University there's order there's uh one second there's Autumn there's spring and there's summer there no winter and every term respect societies the groups as the university make what they call a term card it looks like this and they'll say order 1984 they'll say kab of cage or whatever is and inside it'll say what we are every every Friday night this turn it's 10 Friday nights one Friday night is ambassador Friday night from the P another Friday a chabas is a Russian chabas all the students from Russia will make [Music] in [Music] this and all kinds of different things a lawyer will speak Jewish future marrying out the another page is all the like every Monday he pizza and every Tuesday lunch and every Thursday is with the re they do a lot of so the ghost his Di and he brings this ter card and he explains to him he says comeone you meet people in the 20 you be a to with young people so I thank you for the card you know I was ever in the Cog he was very polite very nice came Friday night and he didn't turn up second week he did the third week he appeared wearing a coat and coat in the corner of the table nearest to the door the just watching everything [Music] happen didn't say a single [Music] word then a few days later he came to piz something in the week and then he started coming every Friday night I heard the story about six seven years ago m was in for the K and we had a special meeting of all Campus of England including myself because even though I haven't done it the last 48 years but I was the one that began campus work in India 50 55 years so week he's coming there for about six seven weeks and announced Friday night next week I'm not going to be here because I'm going to a conference in New York of thousands of rabis wife will be there maybe they I don't know what what arrang they made and this Bo waited till everybody went home last one mid he said to the rabbi would it be appropriate for me to ask you to bring me something from New York said sure Pro what do you want me to BR he said a picture of the man he which man the man that's on the wall in your house name but do theand definitely can I ask you a question would it be appropriate to me to ask you why you want he say me bring me your card and you're selling me a product you know in 21st century a lot of people giving out cards Street this one has selling vitamins this one is selling a special vegan diet this one is selling alternative medicine this one's got a gym plan a gym everyone's selling their product what they want to sell you as far as I was concerned you came to me it's polite I suppos to be polite I was not interested you just another person selling another thing I I put the program down and two weeks later I was clearing up my flat my apartment and I the throwing it out before I thre it out on the back page there was the the web you link to the web went to the web and then I went to the L on the web and was went on to the was was the man he and I heard him talking and I was very very impressed because he didn't sound like he's trying to sell me his thing he sounds like he's trying to bring something out of me I said wow this is not something you find out with this and I decid I'm going to check it out that's why I came Friday night to check it out and then I thought maybe it's a fluke I came to a weekday thing and I saw this is something that to me and I want his picture when I heard this tell you in a minute where the story is holding up I qu right because I deal with Young Generation we didn't see and my job as a principal of a school is to try to connect with and you ask yourself is it possible and here somebody there never knew even when he asked to the pict never was in a except for a short at age of know what remember it all mother said living in a town you never you go in London going from New York for sure s we never in his life by the way I found it later on part of and he felt that is this was and told the story and I made him turn it over to me personally and I cried because I was M about 6 months later something he said what's happen to this he still coming then I met in the [Music] summer I said what's happen so his picture he said you be he's living in a part of time with all working a town with a very small minority of je the it and he go into his house and there's a wall with a big picture nothing else on the wall I said does he put on fill it he said he has a direct connection with the that's it if I come there if I bring but he is they went by another six months I to maybe two three times a year practical he said he's dating the Jewish girl who he met on the Friday night then more months and the guy got married to that girl Amer and they sent me pictures somewhere he sent me pictures of the they first they check the nearest B was Manchester very very they did all research that everyone is 100% Jewish and you see there a good milion of people with beard black hats and things that whole town doesn't have except and he's got a couple of kids in they Jewish so what why is that story why do I blow your mind because it's saying that today's world with a thousand times less than everyone in this room has with 10,000 times less we can connect you can connect and the ne is the one that will out you not your obligation that need [Music] you here that each of [Music] us is experience a different dimension of living of that you ever would any other way that's my story this is this is the the attraction not tell [Music] stor in all the years it only happened a few times his character a week for the re will call out not I know I [Music] was in the [Music] history people br there's only a few this character one [Music] wow want to oh here we go no they call thank you very much that's true call me up to get when he [Music] off he [Music] called in English up two or three people said all the [Music] people said by [Music] name we going to the airport ta and he gave [Music] like every and my wife went and our son is married to my name you're [Music] taking walked out of his room and he saw this voice and he smiled or something my said stop so said next year the whole family should come unheard of he was child unheard of I was not sure after my wife why whatever happens all of us have to come all [Music] together and he so the said you don't always get it right but this time you did I said the first half of the Cent was true for me for the second anyway so we all came now with came a girl who used to eat family came and then they were they she used to eat [Music] school Friday night she ate by us she ate and I used to walk home BL one week gr St and I said I'll be back in 10 minutes after walk her home he said I'm coming with so I come with so I used to walk with her every week and across the street from her house I stopped and I wait till she went in but I didn't go till M the house this was a Simon when you walk home that way used to walk to across the street and the would signal to the would lock the windows or touch the window locked take away the window shade and and I maybe was a snon thank you very much so I used to walk I this walk and I wait so I and I said to him this is how we used to walk what you know the whole [Music] thing lady he said Who uses the was told W he say how did I choose that I said and he it's in the middle of the street he screamed wanted to know who am I going to be next to and they gave him a name so he went to the town where this guy live nobody heard of him then he found back very very obese terribly overweight and he wanted to watch the guys and he look through the window the guy for breakfast has about three loaves of bread and about 25 eggs and cake and this and that and lunch similar simar every meal they told him they don't make no mistakes so this brother telling me the story in so he asked this guy tell me your life story and this this when he 10 years old he was going on a business trip with his father they went to the forest his father had a big amount of money and G came and they took the money and they tied my father to a tree and they said they're going to burn him he said please don't that we have to because otherwise you're going to you're going to Mar on us we have to kill you but they said we'll we'll let you go if and he said that I will not do and they lit the fire and he burn so this man tell about he burned 30 second and I made that I'm going to eat in such a way that when they burn me they're going to have to wait a little time in other words bite he was taking was every bite he was taking to be to be every single bite that he ever took all that food that's the kind of a guy he wasn't exactly anyway anyway so that girl was like today and my came with her and my wife actually suggested one of who there with the and my I don't have time for it now I'm going in a few minutes you know remind me different time back [Music] whatever I want you to find the that girl said so my came out he's IM immedately he said one minute what were you saying about that and a few weeks later they were engaged that's this girl is engaged I'll let you know what I want for and that's it the next year okay with 74 Tes that you prom me what I want you give to the four people who work on and give each of us a autograph you should sign and I will consider the sh P WR back the answer is back that word all was only special moment special occasion this stand outside and say a few words and give me the which is bigger ever standing out there there were people coming in cars and they thought this is the they parked their cars and they ran right to 77 they standing outside in the beautiful sunny day and at the end the gave there was two said about that already one was and one was this the two was already and they never made Corrections and additions on it and but the so the four TMS did have a sign and in those each of those four and two others who are really on but didn't ask that they got a copy of that which with but not that Rabbi wrote outop from onto a paper and that was a pH copy those six people got that on all other who were there from English speaking count for example for example R for example myself all from English speak country and from England were given that all boys all children like my sons that were born then and not speaking like received a small printed in and the girls were given a dollar for the first year this was less than a year was n months after even then they never that's one time me I never knew till about 5 10 years C he just told me few years ago he was there standing the and the said they didn't what to give so they took out of his pocket his own cop the original original on that P me up again gave it to me he said England words and then he picked up two hands give me a big smile and I told my wife I'm very scared I play I got the play I said it it looked like a goodby that's what I said and the next year exactly year later I had met AAG and I was I was I was three weeks in the hospital and whatever well still here anyway so now so I took this thing Li ofou he was a b and he had a photocopy there for whatever boy he had access to photocopy he he he things he said to me I'll make a c right now got to go to the text he R made a cop I made a copy anyway Engish said I said this to New York and I wanted to be sure that I sent a letter even with money right doesn't get it doesn't get it butal and I called up then I got be the only time I got like and in it was the printed of all the three the printed version and I asked did the RAB personally put that into that envelope and he said yes I said I knew it he said how do you know I said was didn't have the sh no M and it had no no staple in it it was like maybe the first version of that's [Music] that's only 1 o00 [Music] day [Music] show [Music] it's the same story [Music] h [Music] [Applause] [Music] Hal [Music] he a few right ter [Music] start [Music] [Applause] back [Music] but I told him this thing and and because he went to six people went he went from he for one of those themselves two now so a lot of things happened I'll tell you one used to write an article it was called we travel to educate he wrote stories that and then he was writing happened in but then he stopped writing his work became much more and it was every week got the Jewish press so we came in and the [Music] said why did he stop writing so he said now I'm doing but she was very quick she said writing is also do very sharp quick another one liner just one more this I heard leave what and he said he told the it's hard to paint a re without a she shot back the the young people are looking for a re and very deep for do or you looking for a re so sharp I'm telling you very [Music] sharp used to say the takes after his mother not his father father had a [Music] head tell story comes over to me tells me the [Music] first [Music] cheesecake what do you want to meet Let's Get Away who I don't know don't one one of my guys I had the spies always going around giving me information [Music] me how we going to get in say going to come okay I go another go you to the so come to the door or come they says you're talking not me I said exose me who made that up I'm not I should do the talking okay I'll do the talking everything's going to [Music] work is cooked you know [Music] anyway we hit another room we H another room P what he was for was with her what were they talking about did par only what did he say that what what did he say what did what not to [Music] say I she came down she came down so I had I was upstairs so I had to talk to somebody without any anyway I'm walking down the stairs and there was some people going behind me I start walking down boom she's walking in front of me because the woman went went out later we didn't see the woman all together so then I knew going to go into the left and I was right behind her and I knew she's going to go into the left and the re is going to open the door he's going to see me I'm standing up out of shouldn't see guys l no may you move I said he take a look I have take a look was in front of me enies come her up and she clapped up in what she knocks on the door doesn't answer she knock she knocked three times doesn't open the door so she you know there was a handle by the door you know there wasn't a knob on the door I mean you still is there was the a CL what CL whatever you called so she takes it and she put it up in the middle lot of noise she did it any he opens up the door the door she says gave theom he gave [Music] something like that she was noise gave laugh left the door open put on his c summer and he walk used to walk hold arm one step behind I once follow them all right after the second before he wed she was sto the looked ahead and she stop saying I think one time W after the say after I there a Rob in the hospital Manhattan with my daughter is this rabbi's about 95 and he told me that he met the when I first started coming there when they moved here on on the second night of P I think after the sa he he was enged he was married color was some Crown Heights and he met the walking in the streets and he said was going with meet the outside and one time wait a little one time the was late coming home on Friday night she she got nervous came out of the house and she asked the was there today it was very very late much late he expected and he said and he said no so she said does he mind going and checking you know seeing where's and he started walking and end the was walking behind it and they SE theit turning into Brooklyn Avenue so he had to run away so the said you don't leave a woman alone in New York at [Music] night is a long [Music] one not I'll tell you the story take at least at least minimum minutes this story [Music] this will [Music] first the famous story of baby was crying and they didn't hear the the baby fell and the picked her up and wacked her his s and he left and the midd no anything okay this is a story about if I came here for hey I tell the story but since I'm not I tell here now um there was the was afraid that they're going to steal furest far before they had the equal from the court that he can't take any book so they made a m learning outside the he of his apartment the whole time and this B his name is now he's the man is lives in Pittsburgh he was a b and he was learning this was like the summer M probably he went to England for and he came back got asked M he had a very bad C and he was sitting when a horse suddenly comes up and he has a big job of's honey from kabad and he said the sent this up and he says you should have this with te it's part one of the story part two what happened on hat Tavis itself I Knew by the way they knew that this going to be a DI verdict then cuz I was leing the book on Gibble Tav Sunday night and rinsky's son told me don't go because tomorrow is going to be said how do you know he said because the judge left the whole file on this case all the the proofs and the deposition everything was there in the court because he was very busy with a different major major case but now before he went for in December home he sent he took home that file so they understood he's going work on that and come back this and he did but only took them a day to type it up till he gave it whatever so now that day was a car of of marriage to rabsky and he had a settle or he had something wanted to give into so he took it into RAB krinsky next door is putting on his coat so 11 at 10:30 in the morning where you going he said I'm going to the court they found up that they have the verdict so he said uh who's in the car is the roof one more and they took him he went J came out of the Court looked first place looked to the back he saw that you know tued in and he there was a cell phone in the car car phone the old s phones today they're little this was like a big Contraption the car the phone cuz he had to contact when I went to Greenland he called up to the to the mosus in the middle you know from the oil so calls up to office and Rabbi Kine answers the phone he want he says he wants the to know as soon as possible you got the thing so ra goes into and there's a rule with the mus that if if they knock on the door to go in but if there's another M that's in there already you can go in you have to knock and Rabbi Gro was in there working whatever not talking to soab walked in and the re was in learning like he didn't notice so making banging steps walking up to the re's desk no noce he shook around the you what could he do he was there about five maybe seven eight minutes now what he didn't know is that rinsky after he called up the mosquitoes right after that he called up the the brought a big loudspeaker and music and suddenly so the re looked up and he so he said you look C up and he said came out the thing so said tell him when he comes here he should bring it into me right away and then they went back into his sa back in there so why did I tell you the story of the AL the was so you know the you know the the the whole whole Crank that we felt that whole year and a half until the d they ever heard about it it was imately back in there let me know when he comes in that a waste I but when AB was coughing through the mahogany thck doors and upstairs that and he said give him honey I was at pittsbur he lives in Pittsburgh so it was last not this year and he asked me one of the days and I knew the story from him that once brought me out there he Davis and he told the story and he had the honey on the table just about 35 years ago so I told him now this year give you know got get a little tiny you get couldn't make a I I I wanted to save a little bit for my family that was back in the house it was one quarter of a drop everybody it was like the I have this mat years ago come toan you know spe you still about now what you still have now like come to my we look in some years some just notic something there time for one of the years KCK the the envelopes with a nap with you notice it talk about a speck tiny spe but you know something you have label Kap you know label he was in my house he Vis in London I don't remember why if I come home C and and uh he came to my house label label some supp he told me stories told me that when he went to gave and he came out and the T didn't look didn't look something mud about it didn't look like it's with so he opened it up and he started in inscription had a whole thing about the things like [Music] this and I think I remember correctly it had me on the bottom as well so he looked like a and it look like with the used that's why he opened it up so he told told so ask theb he took it back in and he told to the and and he gave him a different one he gave it so told me this story I said are you kidding me I was going with sugar so he said I'll tell you a better story the dev gave him a pack of $100 one bills he took may he came out of and he said it was it was $110 he told me brought it in and he came out with $1 I screamed at it but to myself I said that's why he was not looking for this he looking for you know you have to you have to know what you're looking for you know what you're looking for and you got a letter from the it was they got a letter with those same just before I think I think I don't remember but had those basic I said to him if he's doesn't make a mistake if he's not what's he what's he writing himself I remember I talk father the case was supposed to side that he has to speak to he has to speak to the he doesn't have to go not SP English [Music] iuin it's not L his name is love it's not it's [Music] love I promise you we're going to win what we're going to win I'll tell you a story about Tri they ever called in to give them over to deal with it so the said I should called [Music] in and the may but they you know you guys deal with the things you win now that was word of within a [Music] month daugh Gold was engaged to May and kin's daughter was engaged to and I asked I [Music] asked he said it was not when said that not Snapchat [Music] is he was he was in London and after and he staying with we went out with p and did you consult the so he said they got messages but one time they met the I think it was and the just told he said what told him one point which didn't look so special but it turned out that that was the entirey and that was the letter to Mark told them one focus on the letter to Marx that's what the said Alexander marks what Alexander Marx yeah Rabbi the floor I'll tell you something else you hear that country and there summer there was a woman there who was not really Jewish her grandmother was her grandfather grandfather was a m and she was a cousin of Judge his he had a relative D and she said she they were like liberal Jews but she was very very interested in J and her husband was Jewish was but she said that the cousin the judge said that he was no was not until he heard statement of a remarkable woman and that was the he said [Music] that yeah that was the deciding belong to the books belong to the because my father belonged like that you [Music] said