Farbrengen 20 Av part one , Rabbi Yossi Paltiel - 5786

So this is his father. The mic works good. Oh, very good. [cough] Better. It's good. >> It's good. It's good. It's good. The um it's the Reb's father. So um this was an occasion every year that the Reba makes a Fabangan and the Fabangan had a unique priority, had a unique center. There's actually a where the Reb said a yard site is a made him always seem and the whole revolved around the sem in the early years for sure and the way it was explained to me is because in there's a possibility that a person has the yard of a parent you should fast like that there are people very who don't fast a lot they're not fasting for but on the yard of their father and their mother and some of them I'm not talking about them they fast on the yard of their whoever their was people fast on uh the the passing of a great person that had a connection with for obvious reasons um when a person in in in in the old world which is so unfortunately lost. They didn't use the word die. They didn't even use the word pass away. Pass away was already a second mad. And you can hear how the Reb talked about it. They say as a felt that was the expression that they would use when someone would pass away when somebody was missing when somebody's space was emptied. That's the that's the spoke about this about the that we say by the name of it says in that is if you know how to do the complicated math if you do Hashem's name each number times itself is 10 * 10 and 5 * 5 is 6 * 6 and 5 * 5 186 which is it says I don't know this from it says >> so it's the name of the but there's many names of why would you say when you go to because that's what's felt that there's an empty space felt someone is missing someone who was there is missing that's how they used to speak in the olden days felt so when somebody's missing there's obviously a sadness at least physically missing. So you fast and of course we always know [cough] [clears throat] that fasting is never suffrage. It's not about feeling pain. It's chuva. [clears throat] A fast is always connected to every fast is connected to chuva. So when you have an an event as the Reb calls it which makes you pay attention to the earnestness of life and there's no phenomena which soers us more to the earnestness of life than a loss than an absence than a missing. So it's a day for cha. So people fasted by by the was a big a big just like we know about that he said that histo There's a big especially connect if you ever they had a list of yard sites and they never said they never said old they had a list of yard sites and every day of we didn't say the said once that he asked the previous reb about this. He asked the previous Reb why we say on a yard site because a yard site is a it's a and I'll explain in a minute the difference. So the previous Yiddish of course which means in English there's no more appropriate date to say meaning it's true that a yard is a but practically a yardite is a is a is a loss and it's an opportunity to do and why would you miss it? Why would you miss it? So we say so is a reason for it's a reason to fast. So the deb wanted to make everybody happy. He wanted to make himself happy which was very hard to do. So he made a if he made a so it became a for a different reason that the would whenever there was a every was every was every besides all the other times the made I I this is before my time but people remember it when the rebba lost his mother when the rebba lost his mother the rebba was extremely broken you saw his brokenness more than on other occasions and the Reb was not planning to at all. The Reb was not going to if it wasn't Shabas at all. He wasn't the got wind of the fact that the Reb was not imagine the Reb was not going to because it was a noble and the were there were people around then who could go into the Reb and say what needed to be said and went into the Reb and said must. So every single made the entire year of for his mother he made a every single one if it was a weekday made because otherwise he felt to the child that he has to fast not allow to do it because he's a novel anyway. So is a reb's father and the fabang was defined by fabang was defined finished and he he made a what we call a pilpadin and this was how he commemorated the yard I guess on a technical level this is how the reb got around the question of fasting but when the made to see him it was it was what they Obviously, so the Reb referred to as meaning there may have been other things. There may have been a there have been other things but the was defined by nigland of the yardite. This was true of was true of where the rabbi had for his mother for his father also of course the yard of the so he would make a seal. This is the trademark of and it started in the Reb lost his father 1944. He wasn't yet Reb. So the following year 1945 the rebang I mean I don't know how they announced it but uh the crowd in 770 was not particularly large but when the rebang people found out about it I'm imagining and people came not necessarily people had interest in hearing what the rebba had to say and in those years before the rebba was reb and in the early years of the rebus the fabangan were uh really very scholarly, extremely scholarly extremely of the whole revolved around the and the would talk about it from a thousand different angles. There was it's the a lot of them are printed a lot of them are lost especially the from before we don't have the could be tough maybe was was right was a very very complicated but the in those early years the whole was you know later on the the situation became the became very public and the rebba could not afford to sit the all night and talk niggler. He would have loved to the would have loved to spend the whole night look at it because the deb was talking to the whole world especially after the was on cable television. So the still made but it was not nearly with the same expansiveness and limitlessness that it was in the earlier years had to concentrate more. There was one dedicated two in the early fabangas you could you could listen to the tapes you can see the films even in some cases um the whole was dominated by it's a yard site and this is how we that's how a person commemorates a yardite [sighs] I'm making don't worry nobody should get nervous it's not because I don't want to but because I'm not capable of um I just I'm just sort sort of giving a little bit of a sense of how the Reb looked at the yard. This people tell stories. Every story that people tell is true. Certainly not. And it's certainly not true in every detail. There's, you know, the stories grow beards and pis and knickers and alazak and the kapatas and tribals and overcoats. But the is the rumor is and again I wasn't there I but people say it's very believable. that the left Russia to get married. The Neb was in Russia. The Reb was in Russia and he was obviously very involved >> with he was very involved with the activities of but he was also very involved in his in in his father's raon and the rebba left Russia because he had to get married he was engaged to be married to the rebbitson the feda left Russia the reba left Russia one of the most interesting little stories maybe it's not so is that the tish of pas 1927 everybody went to you know people were afraid to go to the fba because if you were seen with the it was dangerous for you and dangerous for him but once the made the decision to leave the country the said everybody should come there are many many many members of an who who saw the once in their life and it was that they were afraid to come to feed but there would not be another opportunity was leaving. So everybody came to us to torra it was was a very special the the of 1927 theat left Russia the day after he left he went through I think he went through Finland theb wasn't there the went home the rebba was not by the he went home to his parents and he spent tish with his father and his mother and the rebba's father that describes that how the Reb and his father could not stop dancing. [clears throat] Could they have known this was the last time they would see each other? It's very hard to know, but they certainly knew that leaving Russia then was a very very serious thing. and the Reb and the Reb's father, if I may use these were they were a lot more but they were and she didn't handle any situation. They handled it with soba's mother described the sim that there was anyway the next day left. If you if you know the map, Lenad is right on the top of Russia, right? You can see if you look out your window from the Lenard Hotel, you can see Finland. You can literally see the other country is in the south. It's it's a it's a it's very very far away. It's maybe 1500 miles away. It's very far away. So left, he went straight across was Finland in a train or a ferry, whatever it was. that Eba had to travel through the whole of Russia and um his father and his mother accompanied him when they left when he left Russia. So his father traveled a part of the way and his mother drove with him till the border. It took several days till the border and the Reb's mother told the most incredible story about the Reb on this train trip when he was leaving Russia for the last time that there was an overnight train. It was not there was a train they traveled many hours and did they ever get up in the morning or whatever you slept there trains you know how it is. Yeah. And you go on an airplane with these are we don't even think much about this but you didn't worry about negas and walking damus if you sleep overnight on an airplane. So I don't know what kind of sleeping did they ever get up in the morning and he put on this film in Soviet Russia in 1927 and the Reb's mother panicked. She she apparently never seen this and she's speaking to herself that he's leaving the country in a couple of hours. Look what he's doing. The Reb stood up. The Reb's mother told the story. She was a witness. The Reb stood up. It was a bak. They put on his film and a bunch of a bunch of stood up and circled the Reb to create a wall of bodies that nobody could see what he was doing. And they stood around the Reb for the duration of his ding. And when the Reb finished his ding and he took off his film, the sat down. Now you explain it. What was going on in the minds of those go? Huh? What [laughter] was going on in the minds of those and a group of they made a wall of bodies that nobody should see. And the Reb's mother is watching this fell. It's a it's an incredible story. But the Reb left Russia and he would never see his father again. And of course it would be many many years till he would see his mother. Almost 20 years he would see his mother. And the rumor is the is that the reb would say to his mother years later said to his mother, "I'll never forgive myself for leaving Russia and leaving you alone." This is a story that they tell. I I don't know the source but this is a story that they tell and all the people who are older than I am remember could not possibly be his mother enough he felt so he felt like he had a debt that he couldn't pay as long as his mother lived showed her incredible incredible incredible respect and he gave her so much time. And again there there is an understanding that part of that was the fact that the left parents in Russia and anything the Eb could have done to honor his parents was by the Reb. The biggest thing it was it was there was there was no constraint on the Reb's desire to honor his father to honor his mother. And if you were around Labavich, you know that as the Reb's nas went on, as the years of the Rebas continued, the Reb started to treat his father almost like a Reb, he would include him in the list of the in many very earnest circumstances. And the Reb didn't do it because he he because it it looked good. The Reb didn't do it because he liked his father. The Reb did it because it was em you know the Reb [clears throat] the when the Reb included his father in my where the Reb include we used to sing if you remember by the big and in way back it was only Rash then became also all the other we would do what we call today we sing the sing's father and the wanted it the has a meaning as we all know [snorts] that bosani he mentions all the you know This bosani every year the reb would say a Toyota from each this is also a story that's interesting the very first basili the reb started with alterb he started with alterb this is Wednesday night shabas the made the first of many surprise fabangans a surprise faban then meant he walked out of the shaw after musf and literally five minutes later he walked back in it wasn't it wasn't it wasn't 1:30 he never walked sat down he came into the sh sat down If if you were not fortunate enough to be in sh you missed it. And the Reb said another mid and in that mid he included the bash in the bash and the mag. And he said the rebba said that when I said the I [snorts] started with alterb the reason I started with is because when I got married the said the previousbis and he invited all the to be to participate in the wedding and the only went back as far as the al so I decided also that I should and I'm saying my m the first mime and the was inviting the through the tas and the stories and the I started for the then I thought about it I said why shouldn't I include the mash I my personal feeling is that the had a couple of visitors that they came and they said the bashant and the mid not that decided to include the said excuse me we don't we don't belong here we have over here so from then on every basili the mention all the remain forget and in the second 20 years he mentioned his father was a part of the way that operated he said oh he mentioned a and the rebba didn't do this because of some extraneous reason that did it because he felt that his father belongs in that company the's father belongs in that in that that's how the rebba behaved and there's there's many examples of this where the reb included his father with and he was happy when we did. So this is it's an opportunity. It's I read some place I read in a few places in the early years. It was hard for people and not it took a long time. The young people never had a problem and young people don't have any problems. Yeah. >> [laughter] >> But alter had a hard time with the fabing and including the among it was hard for them for whatever reasons. Um I read in a again I don't know if these things are trueis they could be true that gave theb sent a message on his father's yard was a real mashabad and he uh he made and he sat and he said the reb about his father but I haven't met him but I know his son I know his son and that was the I know his son that was the so one of the many many things that mentioned was that is 40 days before you know just like is already the beginning of of the new year there's also sources in that 40 days before has a special connection so they mention Where's the M la La lie. Y I lie lie lie la. 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