Farbrengen 2 Iyer , Rabbi Yosef Klyne - kollel Chassidus , 5786

Okay, let's begin with >> usually we go second once we get into >> Okay, I did it. I did it. I did it. Oh yeah. Hey, did it I am I am I am the I am I am I am my I did it. I may itch. I am I am I am I am I am I am I am say I did it. I did it. I did it. Did it. am I the day of the is the day we celebrate It's interesting. We know there was the first base. They asked the fab but he said not bison but bier is going to work. There was a famous fab especially for the baklim from the bakim to recognize that the their special withb and this is theim doesn't just mean the we learning it presently these are the who us all of us we learned in and we learn about so there's a a relationship of there's atmistic relationship with this is what the the of the Fabanga was and the RU of the Fabanga was all about that tom someone who's who's um we know really the word just by the way is not referring to the is the product soim is like a factory it's supposed to produce products which areim so then there's a calledim We're learning to these are apprentices or these are students who are becoming. So um is someone who has to there has to be meaning that he when he walks down the street it's that is he's living a higher a higher kind of life where the is not who he is now this was the spirit of but um this didn't come in a vacuum always whenever the reb spoke about marash it There's always this means to approach things the original approach has to be from a higher place. And as we know this v of the ramarash with pastures had said it once and or maybe more and the kazed it one time there's one maramokim a famous letter of the where he um describes it's actually so this is just after he's left Russia he's just mamish um escaped with the from with the skin of his teeth from um the communist regimes he sat seven times in jail and the last time the final time when was in jail was mish there was a for and he managed to escape and then he's writing like a summary it's a long letter describing everything that transpired from the beginning pes when he began his work under the communist regime and everything that he went through and as he describes it in great detail it says How much when he first began people were excited and there were there was positive feedback. This is in pes and then the next year he called the nifa and called the different leaders from different communities differentet and he was writing to them letters and suddenly he they got cold feet and people were telling them that now's a time where we have to put our heads down and let the difficult pass. This is it's too risky. It's not smart. It says there has to he has to know when yen when he has to be silent and this is the the appropriate time. So suddenly all the support that he thought that he had evaporated and then he starts describing how much he he started working on fundraising and he got the joint involved and the joint committed to big sums of money to support Eden Parnos in um helping with factories and helping Eden. There was also with Yiddish guide and there was Moisim and suddenly um after there was this um opportunity where where it looked things like things were going well there was a lot someone it doesn't say clearly who it is but it sounds like that this was from wrote to the joint and said that the is really it's all political and he cares about and so he lost the support of the joint. So this was again a a uh a disappointment and he's really pulling the curtain back from um showing us behind the scenes everything all of the work we know the the fierce Mr. and ofidim and of the rebba himself. But over here it's like kilo peak into what was going on by the fba himself at at his home how he he rented the office space and he got a few to start working on things to start writing letters and to start going around to different and giving from the bims in shors to encourage that they should be um to open and to build mikvo and then he describes how um got arrested and what a shock that was. You know this is before the times when when it it became um so rugg for people to be taken in the middle of the night and what what an influence this had on him an impact on the himself that his own personal maz was was suddenly taken away and he describes what held him what gave him the to survive all of this and why was he not in spa from all these people which were giving him that now's not the correct time was that he that the lotion is over there and I hold that when I believe that always use the but I think in the letter over there it's upon him this was the this statement of so this was one v of the and took this and he says that this was the of all of the of all of his mus throughout all those years this is like he's writing this this letter now the vart was a vart the reb took this is and suddenly it became that it's not just one v of the marash this became the marash the niggan which we we know as it was it was called the was called that's how we would sing it maybe soon we'll hear will will show us how the the original way how it used to be sung and the changed the name of the he would sometimes mention the he would say it was as if it's no it's one one of the the hundreds and hundreds of that we have from the he said no the Who is the marash? He is this. And if if we think about it, the the amount of and that poured into these words, we understand that is not just one statement of, you know, jump into it, take a leap of faith, disregard. There's a deeper over here and this is really encompasses or encapsulates in one word who the ramarash is and the t that what is the of the as we know the ramar his whole was of and the way from all the lived um all very some of them mamish in poverty but none of them lived with the hashirus like the raarash rash had um rim a few horses and the the it was his home was always full of riches and this was said an expression of this the whole mode the way the dealt with we know that the um certainly the was as we know he went and went he wanted to talk in vner and to deal with the magdim and there were those other of the maggot who held that the sed is to totally either ignore them or even worse than that and took a new path of s it was dealing with masim we're talking about very difficult we're dealing with and then they was dealing with inim themselves there were others followers of other brothers of the the brothers were big but there were followers of inapos and inhadi and others which were acted inappropriately and the whole there's some very sharp mis of was and sometimes there was there was a of there's descriptions in that he had this one who wants to raise their hand just to to show as an expression of how much he's um like not in support let's put it that way of the marash and gave him a strong look and his hand froze and um he asked and there was there was no one home. No would not accept any and this person suffered. Um there was a famous mess with um one of the the Russian government. I think it was from from the higherups. It wasn't just from the within labavich from Peter and they wanted to take the rebashab the rash's son to the army and there was different negotiations and the marash was extremely tough he was adamant that there's nothing to talk about and at some point said and this person died and they he was suffering I think the is that how the said it became twisted and they him to ask and he would not accept. There was a the bit of the as the m that the reb so many times of the um is once walking in lab and the the way the the go over there when this battle team and then the marash said this and the train had to be um was stopped. So the whole system of the train station the um was held up all because of the mar. So there was a mode of it's not just so when we say that the is the it's not um just picking on one thing it's the is saying in one word who is what's the message of the is all this not to say one one that it's in but you is just one story. Um the way the Reb said it then was that was there was um by that he would travel very often. He would travel to um Petorg or to which was again there was one f one famous time when he went to Petorg for the great scholars to deal with scholar but had a different style. He would constantly be going to so once was traveling through Dinsk. Now, Dinsk is was a msur is um what we call a a fortified city mean it's a fortress. It's on the western part of the Russian Empire and this was a city of defense adm if you go to Dinsk it's in Latvia you could see the old mts or the old fortress which was uh Alexander the first built and this was considered a a city which was um really a defense it's on the front lines of the entire empire so this was a city which was because it's full of police of soldiers because um uh there's always a higher alert in such a city the seder in such a city was always kept to to the fullest. So the Marash was traveling through Dvinsk and there was a few copusidim who were there and copus as we know again the first copus the reb there was the older brother of the marash was a koradic there's no no question about it but there were many were copusim who um they in in their mind upon him the the malam moim who should have been is the older son the capister and they disrespected So there was a few they decided that was the they want to they want to play a a trick on the so they asked like this he's traveling through Dinsk and he's stopping the train station. So they're asking him if he's going to be able to say this. Now it was between one train and the other there wasn't enough time for him to come to a shul in Dinsk and to do in a proper way. So they said let's do in the train station. Now they understood that what's going to happen in the train station is that people are going to come running and it's going to become a balagan and marash is going to be the one to suffer in such a city and any balagan um the the culprit's going to be the marash and that's what happened many people came and like said it became a people were pushing and some of the benches broke and windows um got smashed in in the in the train station. And interestingly in the rishimus the way when the fba said this m to theb he said either it happened because of the pushing or it happened means it could be that there was real um uh underhanded over there the which actually went and broke windows but when he didn't say that he just said they played the trick they wanted this to happen but it happened ku naturally and then kum the police came And the police came and the first thing he is he goes over to the ramarash and the ramarash is in the middle of saying a. So the way the said it is that anybody who looked at the face of the marashful he he would become frightened. Now just for for us like we don't have a picture of the marash but we know how much the fba looked similar to the marash. as we know just looking at pictures. So this some of these pictures of the just looking at the eyes it's it's a frightening image. So we could just have in this m so this policeman comes running and he sees saying so head retreated immediately and he went. So the police the chief of the police came and he started asking where's the rebba? So he was taken to the ramarash and the marash was in the middle of saying the mimer. So without stopping the mimer, the ramarash took out a paper from his pocket and he passed it to him and he continued saying the mimer and as soon as the chief of police read this paper so he saluted and he left. What was this paper? It said over there that all police sigh the the open police and s the secret police have to be of assistance to the marash for all of his needs. So this was the style. This was the way the rabb worked. What's the So the way the is that have to work has to be not that you deal with all of the challenges. You never stop is coming. He's saying if this person is has been deterred just by looking at him good. If not so he could be passed a paper but there isn't for a moment whereas has been stopped how is it if you with the with itself theb so it's possible to be all the not only from which are not even from until they become even these people could join and become supportive so just just to uptype the miser over here. What what's the Reb seeing in this miser? It's that there's there's a mode, there's an approach and the approach is um how do we deal with our challenges? How do we deal with and there's always going to be different different issues issues could come from literally people could come from it could come from your own family or different people have needs and sometimes it's good kindness but the mode has to be okay we we'll deal with it in a way the second half of the story is even more powerful than the first half the first half is that didn't talk to him good so he became frightened and he ran away then there is he is dealing with him but while he's dealing with him he didn't for a moment stop, turn around and show him the paper and pot. No, it's while he's continuing to say he's continuing is happening. We'll have to deal what we have to deal with. there's nothing to do and that's the the depth of to deal with things not to not deal with things but to deal with things in a way of so this is a day where we've been given these this is there there's potential in the day there's so much so many so many that I mean there there you could literally um you could probably make a few volumes of that dedicated to being mire these words. So all we have to do is use the that we've been granted. am I am I am I am I am I am I am I am I am I am I am Glory to God. I am Yeah. Hey y'all. Oh, dry fear. Amen. I feel mayy am I am I I'm fine. There's a post which anyone who you if whenever we stop and consider for a moment what's this is what's the big we know there's a seder of inidist there's there's a dug which is coming from PES there's an of disregarding the the issues sometimes he even says that if we're dealing with clippers then in fact we're just starting now in we're learning the what's the difference between being something and dealing with an is that with an isan You're not looking to um utilize to take advantage to see the good in the thing. You're looking to ignore it. You're looking to bring out your own to overpower it and to say it's not for me. So the the what's the bigish now the emmesis that's a very big the whole concept that we say the it's known who's this thet is actually a it's a it's brought that a seder there's a system if you can't go through the regular seder then you have to do a sach If you can't do so you do so a person which is not shy to then there's this option of jumping high and doing so saying it's within say we know that tells us that sometimes a person has to reach a higher place which is because this is the truth or this is really his own truth says something The whole approach has to be from this higher place maybe said a little bit better once explained it beautiful we know that there's a of there's the normal how you deal with things and then there is There's a or if we'll put it into other terms there's jumping over is that despite not having any to anything but the himself and to be because it's then has to means obviously is talking about dealing with with reality dealing with if I have mid or if I have or bringing and into the workplace or bringing it home that that's really what the is so you would think that is a v which has its Where is it? It's to say you know in certain cases so has to be celebrated. You want to if a person has sunken so low the only option is just jump out that that would be saying if we don't have any other option so what could we do we'll have to use this was saying no always in every case is without even considering what the options are always it's in other words even Even when I'm dealing with reality and I am working with the even then it has to be an we don't only use it as a last resort. We don't only use it as a jump start or all of the regular the way we always consider when is the place for for we say no always it's a mode of life there's a and that's what it means without considering any other option this is always my goto always it's why is a it's not it's in within the say we are celebrating just in in in the it's the most counterintuitive you would think now we are back to the week we finished with celebrating Pes we finished with now we're dealing with the mundane in a way that's as important as we know the like it says Madriz and Mizi famous from the that when it comes to you shouldn't jump. The difference between walking up a slope and walking on steps is that every step you walk and then at some point you lift your feet to a totally different level when you're walking up a kv. So everything is every step you've taken is the earlier step. So as we know it's an important you saw ine certainly that you don't um jump to a place where so there is the importance the value of it shouldn't be here comes of that within within of there has to be a mode in the language the way the rabbi said it the whole is but it's all coming from it has to be now this obviously needs to be unpacked how does that work this well let's put that a bit differently we know how to work in different modes as we know there's a mus you come office and you you become talking about or you have to have or maybe learn about and you put yourself you pick yourself up with you get help you pulled into there there's a mode of going and then there's so there's two two there's and then there's The is that no that everything is permeated with dealing with everything has to come from a place of there's something higher. So what's how does this work? So maybe let's just say a little bit on said what's it mean and the way the Reb said it is know that the Reb on the one handb could speak but sometimes with one word the Reb could change the whole chat and sometimes it's just with an emphasis. Yeah. Like we were just learning now in the we're learning. So um it's a famous said that when heben so he didn't hear any claws heard's wife and the tat he hears claws. So when said it sometimes said it like this l when a father is laning so you hear it differently. So suddenly there's a whole new mash in this line just just with emphasizing one word. So similarly over here say the whole of is not negating the mit not being spoiled from others. It's finding within myself something deeper. There's an I, there's an there's a there's the true oneness of the which resonates within me and that's what we're calling out and that's the no just to talk in practical terms. So this is this is the of of um how much the Reb um demanded and expected there shouldn't be a day without learn but when you learn so there could be an approach so let me learn you know every day there's the style of that day if it's a shabas so there's more time so if it's a more of a busier day so I do a little bit less if there's another day so we could push it off and there could be tashum means no coming from the approach of the the truth the pure ideal that should pour into the matas while we're dealing with it at the same time it should be mish that this there's an absolute truth it things are not decided only be um which I'm dealing with I don't start the conversation and saying where am I holding in parosa and inu and then in my place so what kind of limit should I be learning first of all what topic I should be learning maybe I should be learning more very basic things or things to help me work on my midas to overcome my challenges or how long should I be learning or what quality means no I'm coming from a place is what's What does look like? What's normal? And now my day is going to have to work around that and bringing an approach of onen within my own within within working within the parameters of my life. Just going back to this ma that Reb said about this um chief of police approaching the Remarash and the Remarash didn't respond but he dealt with him. This is the first one where who was in this battle the simple policeman who ran away good that's you know just we know that sometimes there's a bashki over here in a way he is dealing with it he's giving him the correct paper where he actually has the document which gives him these rights so why can't you just stop and talk to him normally said no first of all this doesn't stop there's something which has to happen okay so we have to chew gum and cross the streets at the same there's the economy there's something there there's a crisis I have to deal with there there's a problem but the the foundation doesn't change is this is who I am this is what this is what's happening in my day and just like we have certain things which which which obvious is like that you know and that's that's a fact that's a given everything's going to have to work around that what can I do okay so there's a flight and there's different things but so the question is how many things are anchored by us in a way that this is the way things are this is the approach this is the day what what's going to happen there's three a day this is what I'm doing now everything's going to have to work around that it's not like it's not even then you could have how much is my or my the is how much of my day is that there's a certain over here that this is the design of my day is going to have to work around these Just just heard a from he was um sitting by the by the the gate. He had a flight and he was sitting by the gate and he was uh at Gigasen and he was benching and it takes him a while to bench. So they called his name and once twice and the flight took off and he was still he didn't finish benching. So he he was sitting there till he finished benching. So he's normal. I'm saying this is how long it takes him to bench. What what could he do? So we all know what how benching would look like. And also you finish it or you do it you you walk to the plane while you're finishing or I mean you could speed it up. This is just saying a it's a it's a small there are some things which are anchored. This is this is how long it takes me to bench. What can I do? This this is a fact. the these everything's going to have to work around this and the is not that we have moments that's called no sometimes you have this language you know people you know they try doing different things and they say you know what what could I do I have to go well that's the opposite of if if the approach was because all the other options ran out that's called And means there's a certain an approach of things have to work around a a a truth which began before we we tested the waters before the mitsas became and everything's going to have to fit into that frame and that's the spirit all is there's something bigger over here which is we have to fit mold know this uh pava the ramarash that they came to the ramarash he was also I think was traveling in in Iceland or maybe was in pet and a group of pashien if I'm not mistaken these were children or or they themselves were in the cantonists so they were very simple they were taken as young children and they were amaratim was pushed to Eden and they came to the Ramarash and they asked him if he could come and talk to them if he could say for them. So the Ramar came and he didn't say it was but he said for the and the was it began everything that's you have over here is it starts it starts so every um phenomenon that we recognize in our world really has its so for example said there's a lotion intel surpassing was sapassnet is inelt that you know for to dress in a certain way to act with a neighbor to your neighbors in a certain style whatever it is there. So the said that there must be also this concept of sapnish. So what does surpass look like in he started saying seven surpassed yeah seven for and as he was saying this everyone's crying so what were the seven surpassing I'm not sure if I remember all of them but he started that surpassed to be to be invested involved in caring for another surpassed forid to to um see the of his ownness and the mileus of the other. So past to consider the smallest and the better than himself every day. And then he starts saying not to be involved in init to not to see his ownness and to see of others. And then I think the last one was to be involved in even it's probably but now what these words what do you mean so it's not fitting it doesn't make sense so what do you mean if I'm acting that way then it does fit me because this is who I am this is my madre By definition, the word surpass is obey. It just runs out of out of gas as you're saying it. Subassinate for you to act this way. It does. I did it. Well, well, I I wouldn't be doing something which is which if it's not me, then I would it wouldn't have happened. What the is saying is let's start. There's a certain truth in who we are as that. I'm not starting the conversation what you did yesterday or what you want to do now. That's not the that's not who you are. That's not the way this works. There's what's the truth. There's something like he says there's a place in me which is what does look like says what do I look like when when when when every is in in a place and then the if we now we are demanding from ourselves to live in accordance with something bigger. So the the is always there's something there's something true absolute and that has to be part of this conversation part of the dayto-day of the the dealing with stuff. So sometimes we're sitting to learn and the mat is to enhance or better not saying this in a negative way but to to help who I am be become a better so no first of all this because That's that's that's that's where it begins. Now this truth this has to um to to uh express itself or it should should resonate throughout my day. So I'm I'm constantly um asking myself if I pass to who I truly am. That's a um approach. So just we're sitting over here and the the is there is we're looking at a fabin or bier or or every opportunity to to when you say like like it's an escape. It's like we're going to a place which is if that's what you're doing that's the opposite of for that you don't need the message is to deal with things in a in in a way where I'm acting upon it but coming from a mode of wasn't of the mice was with the marash the guy with the jacket and he but he would come with the satuk to the to the I think it was the marash. No. >> Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. >> And then he told him like I you know then finally came with the jacket he said oh I thought it was the fake you over there and when he came by me it was the was the real you. >> Right. Right. >> Um fine. Don't worry it's nothing exotic. Everybody knows it. Say, you know, I be Amen. Low mech. But I be Hey, Lord, Say no. But I be say no. for I have a question. Sorry. >> Hi there. So a question on a practical note if you want are you able to mas a little more what's the actual difference when you're taking something is it the attitude is the what's the in like but like what's the actual difference? Um, okay. So, we're talking over here in a signal about learning, but the truth is in in every area. Yeah. I'm saying sure when it comes to when it comes in every there's always two approaches. You could be working with the mitsas and trying to lift it or you could be first of all considering the ideal. Now what we usually do is we do things in two stages. First we have in our mind what's the ideal obviously that's you know that's where we begin and then we say okay thank you very much and then we switch modes to start take making things practical and this is where it becomes risky because as soon as you switch to start becoming practical what you've really done is you've left the the vision of how things should be ideally and we have to deal with the matas so what you're going to do is find some kind something you know it's not it's not going to not have any relation at all but it's always going to be you know in my little world how things should work means I never take my eye off the ball I'm in in the of this I'm counting the and I'm dealing with specific midas but it's all I'm constantly always never satisfied because things are supposed to be the ideal there's something called you would think that such a thing is like I don't know yeah this is the basics this is the first of all >> first of all we should um look at things the way they are ideally and then >> practically speaking work and it creates a certain frustration there's a certain um almost like constant level of tension or disappointment because it's not say maybe let's tighter up a little bit better sounds like it's we're just closing our eyes and we're ignoring Mits let's just take a leap of faith is a far deeper a more demanding aid It's saying that we are never letting ourselves off the hook. I'm constantly living in in with this vision of what an ideal looks like and that's it's side demanding but it's also empowering. We're being told that you you there's always something which is it's coming from a totally different place that this no I am better than this. I'm better than even what my expectations are for a better version of myself. No, they there's never leave the gishm in what the emmesis no there's this uh I'm just know this always says grew up's feet >> can everybody please mute >> I think there's someone over here with is it possible Oh um he says he was a kid 12 years 12 years old and some point he was called in he was to the manal's office. So the principal calls him in ocean and he tells him that tomorrow morning you should go and meet in his office. So this is like unheard of you know as a kid didn't have the audacity to ever approach a kid like what's so he was there an hour early and he was drain and asking he's supposed to be in he says I called I have an appointment with he's very proud of himself and when it comes exactly I think it was 9:00 he was supposed to go to Rabadikov's office and knock once so he goes and his knees are shaking. He knocks on the door and says, "Yes, Arin, come in." And Rabbi Khadikov had one message for him from the Reb. Basically, he sees Raadikov's table a test with his own handwriting and he recognized that this is his test and something that he didn't learn. He didn't learn what and he knew that this test he failed. And I believe that there was a caviat or maybe I'm the wording was one word. So this is a kid who suddenly got like a a punch in the stomach. Imagine you're getting such a vault from the Reb like the Reb knows what your capabilities are and you're not living up to them. On the other hand, he never got such a compliment in his life. This it's this is in in a way this is like the vertidus when you sayus is coming to give you um to be is positive is far more demanding than sur is saying don't slip further don't make the situation for worse but you are who you are and I'm telling you to you know makearim should have stronger guardrails says no I expect far more from you and just because yesterday something happened you're not off the hook just because you're so what there's still this ideal and just practically speaking yeah there's there's different like what we call different style homes you know there's different standards and every home is different and so we get used to already saying you know in these we're more lax And everyone has weak points, you know, we all we lead homes. So there's we all know what theoretically should look like. But then there's certain things which have just become this. Okay. Do you know this ideal? We know what an opinion's house would look like. But I'm not opinion. What should I do? So so so within my world I could make and I could do practical steps is saying no there's no discounts. There is let's approach the suga every day fund what's normal what's the truth there's there's a deeper place in me which knows the ms and I'm constantly look looking to live up to this ideal and that has to reverberate in in my home has to reverberate in my life in in every area in you know it's there's always we know very well that the certain things in technology or whatever it is things and just because this has become accepted by me except by my family by my by my friends so therefore I know that doesn't look like that so what said no always we approach the whole not only when you're drowning and then you just have to because it's it's become crazy so then you do a mode of and you come running to the and not only in a moment of that's not that's the came after the whole process. No is when I'm starting a normal day I'm always connected that there's something true in the in the in the says which in he says there's two parts there's the picking up the and then there's another which is the the actual bir which is So what's the vert is saying is saying this you would think that is a thing now we're already dealing with we're dealing with says no there's never a moment where we stop of that you also have to have this the It's dealing with the but we're far more demanding. It's not a copout. It's aggressively constantly remembering what the ideal is. Never letting go of some of of the the absolute is are we warming up Rab Cohen? >> Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. So this is the and this is this is the so of of to bring you into let's just go go back we were talking before about the limit this is this is something which is to everyone and it's quite clear in the when would talk about there was always a very strong emphasis on this on being actually in that first base earshin the Reb said what's the way the was that Tommy must give over his to the said how do you give over to the Reb said two things first of all learning secondly by getting other people to learn because learning by definition is um anybody who's anyone who has a an honest bone in his body always feel some kind of hypocrisy or lack of consistency. It's just, you know, it's like we're talking about the in this B versus that B, you know, let me behave myself for one day for 24 hours. It's not it doesn't make sense that I'm dealing, you know, in in the the difference between the B and the it's okay, you know, we're far beyond that or far far before that. So am I the is the way we're saying the there's who I am obviously there's um there's there's a things have to make sense and they will have to reverberate because a person can't live in this contradiction the whole time the question is what's going to give way if we act on him and we say I'm constantly going to continue learning I'm never going to give me learn this is what's going on. This is who I am. This is my my world. This is the waters I swim in. So it when when I do feel the tension, what's going to have to give way is my lifestyle. Something's going to something's going to have to change. And that's the mode of said then what does it mean getting other people to you have to go out into the streets and scream We're not even explaining. We're not talking about the details could help your life and could help you and it could help you in the various areas. No, there's a truth. There's something over here which which we have to recognize. That's the the beginning of the conversation. That's a the the approach. The Reb spoke a few times about what's the so we know the the could be very long but it was a single introduced and it actually not right at the beginning it took five years the first he was the so it's already five years after theus of the of the and the Reb explained because it was such a We know we see that the bigger take time because it takes time for the of the Nazi to come out to develop and as it went on first he I think it was 12 month and then it became longer and longer until we had these massive which lasted more than a year. So what's the idea of a he said the idea of a is that is not compartmentalized. It's not um something that you could take put into your pocket digest it and go home. Noidis is something to swim in. It's something bigger than you. That's the the the mode of learning am anybody who learns knows this this um place in the nephesh of just letting it take you over because there's just more and more and says and you're just flowing you you're being taken on a trip you know it's not a single with a good cash and a it's not something I could take the takes me that mode that the said that's what days he tookim and happens to be that the is probably the most difficult that we're talking about in it's the time when everything started falling apart. Yeah. When when started going was was ofen in Russia was mitzvah basically and this is a time of the and bundist and communist and and this is um within the world was left with a very small group of which remained loyal to him. Many went to capos and to other places and this place of saying is now going to be what was till now. If it's a you could take it was a very mbber and it was there was a beautiful and it was with within and suddenly the marash is saying he's going to there's a in the but on the other hand there's an outpouring of and this is a mode of so when the reb calls the it's not just saying a a Um you know one he said he said take from the really you know who's the one which which the most is the maybe said it once but this is the we know that has a special for the andb you know published his first and um in them. Yeah. And the the told us and Marash the Reb wrote. So this mode of relentlessly holding on to absolute truths something which is which is the world ofidis and just because we're living in and there's there's more challenges and things are different we never lose sight of things the way they are. That's the Okay, another of my am I am I am. Hey. Aha. I am ho I I am I am I am I am I am I am I am I am I am I am Heyo. Heyo. Hey. Ah. I am laum yo. Hey y aaa. I am. Oh my ya. Am I a I believe it's from the Marash. It's all all in the same mahalik. It's an expression as good as good is best. What what's the touch? There's a tea of when it comes to beam where does it come from this art of being innovate. I know who I am and for me this is good. What the is saying is that no, of course it's good. If if it's a a step in the right direction, it's positive. We're not in being on what you did. But don't kid yourself that this is it. We all know as good as good as in other words. Sometimes we we um because this is the the risk the extreme is that because we're looking to be pimi and we're looking to be honest and to make things in in our world and we want to bring to make it realistic in so we start designing in our way and the best starts becoming ridiculous you know like so so the first thing is that no as good as good as best it could you're not up to that yet. But never let go of there's an ideal and this is an ideal that we we're allowed to wish for ourselves. No. So I'm not an opinion. So the the question is is this an ideal or is it just looked at as something is a battle and I don't know it's not in our world. And that's the this this vert of as good is good is best and it's better. There's a a a v I think it's m it's you said this um it was but basically there's a din then they were learning that if somebody makes a to bring a small carbon and then he brings a big carbon so he made a ner to bring a a tipper and and a bird and a he brought a and he's why he wasn't he said something small how how could he bring something big so the said like this whenever comes and wants to bring a carbon for the nobody sits down to say you know let me bring a bird that's not how a ye brings a carbon the first thing he brings a carbon he wants to bring the best so whenever he makes a what he's saying is I'm bringing an ox he looks at his bank account and I can't afford it so he brought it so when he's bringing the ox it is every nether of a began from there is the ideal this is really what I want to bring somebody woke up in the morning and gave a to bring that doesn't make sense that's that's so he never he wasn't bringing a carbon for So you know who he's bringing it to. So you know where he's bringing it to you traveling to the mikdash with a you don't have an option. So so so you're dealing with reality. So this is and this is the mode of how everything you begin. We never forget that what does learning look like? What does look like? what what are things for real and then there is okay so how how am I going to tighten this up but there's always supposed to we're going to feel that tension or that that it's going to be mgish that there's something amistic over here which is and I'm looking to pass myself there's constantly like always says this this he says he was in so many times and a man of he stood by and that he learned from the Reb. But he said the one that he's constantly always comes back to is said that because it's there's everything here. There's a at the same time I hold of you much more than you consider yourself. Apparently you're not living up to it. It is high expectations. There's there's a a lotion of marash before the the stalkos as a forb that was I don't remember when some some some time in the mess I mean foreign means that there's a there's a a mode of first of all remembering what's the truth there was once um always used to say this ma that I don't know if if he was there bishas maybe it happened before the nas upon him the rebu would sit in fabang in in the small z upstairs apparently it was like mish there was just a few people sitting over there was like a kiddish hering the would sit with his talas on his plates and he would sit after ding. This was the fabian we knew that the wanted it and the never missed. So I think it was by one of these fabangans that started the niggan. Now there was a niggan that was mameish favored. This was um this was a favorite niger always used to say that the first time the rebuk sang this niggan and they went to dancing around the whole suka and this was the first time anyone experienced such a fab and after the the ning the reb sat down and started another and after the s So used to say that for him for him his age they would call this the because that that's how this was the that the would sing a lot. So the reb started the that's in the goes in three there's and then there's a the higher foul the third foul is basically the same as the second it's just on a higher note. So the reb started from the third from the second fell. So somebody was sitting over there by the bus and he tells the no let's let's do the properly let's start from the beginning you know said no and the wanted to start the da from the higher note. So afterwards they probably went round to the lower note you know you don't sing the niggan only on the higher note the is where you begin and that's what the reb Hey y I am I am I did it. I am. I did it. I am. I did it. I am. I did it. I am. Hey. Hey. I am a I am Hey y I am I am I I am I am I am heya. I am hey I am there's a mash that and the Reb wrote in heard this from Reb. And there's a like a certain argu that this is a story that the reb told the and the is telling it to theb and the reb so the story is basically that it's actually printed it's a It says in that um had a special for the every day the Marash would walk into the and sometimes a few times in a day would walk into the room sometimes at actually says that every night he would go sometimes before sometimes after but there was no such thing as him going to sleep without saying good night to his father. So one time lasted longer than was but he hadn't yet gone into his father so he waited and after night finished. So the ramarash came in and so to speak complained to his son and he said with the amount of time which is wasted on what do they want from me? Well, he's frustrated with with the the how taxing and how timeconuming is. So didn't answer him and he went over to the bookcase and his bookcase. This is the way the fir said the mice and the way the rebaz that apparently was a bookcase not like in in those days most bookcases it was like had doors to it like more of a a vina fancy bookcase but this was just like a shafer what we would call a a regular bookcase and it had a curtain hanging. So he pulled back the curtain and he started counting the books of that was lying on the shelves over there and he counted more than 30 books. So he this is all so he turned to his father and he said would you have written so many if you wouldn't have been people for answer you're right said this story he added that there were three of over there there was of that he wrote from that that he heard from then there was burim on the um so these are um you know I think the is a little bit different upon him the third was the he wrote and most of the that there were on the shelf was was that he wrote. So in other words, the context of the Ma is that how was there such a now what's fascinating is first of all when the Reb said this the Reb said that the said this story to him the Reb said the story to him and the said this story to him probably in order to publicize it and when the Reb said this apparently the Reb said it like an alote tone. So kilo it was like that the is giving over such a miser about what is you know this this is a very deep sensitive topic that the rebab is telling the fidba what's a concept of what how powerful is and there is also that the fidic is telling it to the reba and the reb said it that yeah this is also and and then the reb is being it's actually interesting think the Reb didn't say this but the Rebba writes that he asked the fir a very strange question but he asked him who wrote these sobba said I had the same question and I asked my father and my father said mash the himself wrote it so I mean it's a very interesting what do you mean that's the whole ver of the m like what's the other option it's like what was the rebba asking and this is a m that the rebba asked the and the is asking the reb this same sh So the the what the is that maybe these are meaning obviously it's that's the whole ver of the but it's so wouldn't have been able to say such if there wouldn't have been but the answer is that no not only the gill of that there was there was right which is like once the has taken over the and he's taking people there's less time. So he said no there's a even in the writing the fact that he could write so much that he himself was the one who wrote it this happened um because of so the spoke first of all you see over here the marash first of all by knowing what to respond and also knowing how to respond he did it of he didn't answer him he asked a question and from the question that was in a respectful way that responded like But then Reb started discussing this m with a depth asked what was the complaining about or in other words what was the other option? Did he did he really consider it an option not to be theim should not come into and get what is supposed to be giving them just you know the the it's a position of the so like what's the what's the sh so the reb had a bigish said no the was suggesting that Maybe he could do the whole thing without what's is we know the whole of of is that um deals with this person. So he's listening to his specific question and he's responding to his to to the the specific issue. So he says maybe this thing could be done like we know that he was through sobb has a way of giving the same so the the frustration of what's so timeconuming and what's nephesh is the is getting involved in the details and being mas to this and that's the cash and that's what answered from da from the and the hisus in the that's where you get the the um this Indian ofid what's so inb was that this is so obviously we don't understand I mean what's it mean but this is the so to speak that but the rebba himself for him to be that that takes a depth in the from the rebb himself As we know mentioned this that there's a concept of arguing with par could argue with him in the m afterwards because by say saying this he's coming from even deeper place it's a where so to speak doesbb access this place of it's through connecting with so there's different kinds of there could be thatbas coming and and and saying the truth that wouldn't be this these these that are lying on the shelf over here are a product of a relationship with which so to speak brings out the himself and that's the the as we know this is um famously the said that what's the not the he wrote Even though they were talking over here about and this is the is the is the made the fact that makes that is the what is a result of this is a relationship to say there would it's impossible for to be written if it wouldn't have come from a conversation. It's a product of a conversation. It's not some it's not locking himself in and thinking through the and anchoring them in and coming to the mas that this is the right the right approach. It's coming because of in pain is dealing with the issue and this is the solution. He's screaming at him and telling him you should be and from here comes the and the same things in the same the the depths of to be mas things of this is coming from a conversation with the ofidus is that there's something deeper going on over here between Now what what does what this means for us is how we learn. So saying before that there's the there's the approach of not learn every day because because I'm to think in the but there's something deeper over here which is you know is a relationship when when when is the pouring This this famous m with that they caught bakim with sorry with with um with basically there were what was the the inhibi was full of it that there was you know scholar or different things. So they caught a group of bakim in yeshiva which had so the reb was actually there not in labage he was in not far away and all of the yeshiva would come every few days and give a report of what's going on. So they came and they said what's happening and they caught they found so was very very upset and was very um like how could there be such a thing so the were trying to be and trying to was to be the just putting things in perspective it's okay first of all there's many other this is normal you know these are the challenges of the day so the rebashab wouldn't hear any of He said, "I'm pouring on them. Every shabas, these are the bakim which are standing and I'm giving them stand. There's a two relationship going on over here. It's not like you you you're like telling me, okay, you know, they're not the best. These are the I saying I'm saying to say when this is this is a product of this is really what the the what's going on over here in this story of Marash. He's he he touched on the the real energy behind whatus is saying it's impossible forb to say so muchidus without having a relationship a slapistic relationship islap means a unique personal individual individualistic relationship with specific in fact we know that was in this way you know we have the famous um descriptions of how wherever the tim were up to in labavich that's where the mamarim So ranat was said because the bakim were in they were holding on that madga and then when the bakim it started becoming more and more um they picked up the level so that's when and this is all a reflection of whereim were holding so if they wouldn't have been so this wouldn't have happened that's that's the uptage yeah so we know how much we know in there how much fab said this so many times that it's It's there's sai complained about people not listening but then there was always you know if there is time if there is interest if there is the the how many of the came as a result because of what someone wrote or a question that someone asked but this is a in the connection between the is that there's there's a inner relationship going on over here of iskash so just coming back to this um why are we saying what we say it's more than just first of all if you want to live higher this is the best avenue there's something deeper over here we know that the address when it comes to when it comes to we know we know this reb this is this is it we care about the reb's cover we care about you know what was just uh was it today someone said you know the the Argentinian president it was called you know this is like a kid there's no lab which doesn't become proud of just you know the when when um some comes this is like this is everything this is what it's all about so we have to understand that that Reb is pouring is for this. It's an expression of this relationship. You can't have an atmistic relationship. You know, we we love the Reb, but then we don't know anything that he said. He's this all of this that Reb is giving us is coming from this place. This this is a once spoke about think maybe spoke about how how you have the why because when when your own son learns there's you know there's a world and the world appreciates the and could be and then there's the totally different relationship or first of all the expectations and there's a different energy there's different going on over here and and you see the the power in it you see such a strong and how difficult it is to sit down and to learn and to learn seriously and to get involved because of because it's a totally different thing it's not stamp someone looking And this is um every he's doing far more than just enhancing his yumptive or making his day a better day or um researching an interesting topic in you have someone over here which is he's connecting to his that's really what's going on. So that's a what's really happening is with with this thisid this is being given is being given to us this is born from this relationship how could we not the expectation the disappointment when not only don't need to emphasize the the appreciation and the excitement and the gishmak that has when we learned is it's it's so it's just to to approach of the is not it should remain it should become the shabas has to be let's think in the what's the is practical and the rebba loves us and theb knows exactly um what our lifestyle is and our daily schedule what is the really expecting think how much does the reb want me to learn how knows exactly my my full schedule of the whole day my week and my and everything and everything that's going on let's begin the conversation that way let's start with how does he look at the whole thing say that once he wants to only once have the experience of looking at the world with way a looks at the world. How does look at the world just the one time once to taste this experience of climbing out of this matas and having the bird's eye view perspective and that's the let's just for once to begin the conversation how what what's the truth what's the Reb's expectations of us when it comes to us learning his Okay, back to the you have to say what kids something. >> Yeah. >> Stay with the is >> Yeah. The truth is what was the in in there was there was some what do you call it um um friction? No. >> Your mic is a little low. Anyways, yeah, this is from the of the um and uh this is this is one of those uh one of those it's you know it's it's it's luckily by the you have you have two sorts. You have the dogim which are like you know think think z1 even though he was a neler not not a dog but you know they were very similar to neonim there's other that are that are that are pedigun that that uh it's it's because it's a melody that's that's that's higher than what than what words could could reach you to feel. So we sing these these nagunim to uh lock it in there. This This is This is for sure one of those Oh dear. N Oh dear. Ao dey Y a dechech. You know, oh Fore! Foreign! Foreign! Oh dear. Oh dear. You know You Yeah. I for anyone wants to jump in, you know. Just one more the when the said this about the of that's way that throughb being that's where the depth of is so the Next the Reb started the Pas. There was no official connection but it was like a a DMA of the Reb being getting involved and the Reb was like um it's not a regular style but the Reb was giving to everyone. Basically what happened is just then there was a lot of guests I think guests from and people were taking say left mus or the reb left kala on his plate or on the table. So people asb would walk out they would grab it and reb started speaking very emotionally like how much this bothers him that it's something that was not known it's a even though the did do this for certain in Poland but the said they can't take away from the if the iser then everything is in this battle so the tulle everything gets lost. So you don't even have the mile of so it was it was the t the way and we're just talking like an example like of the being but had other things to talk about and the wanted about other things but over here this is where were holding and they were getting involved in so this is this was what the whole was about. So says then that those which take because they say that they're not thinking about themselves they're thinking about others thinking about that they should be to take and to give out to others said I also care about the and if I would think that the for them to get this piece of cake then I would also want it there was by and they didn't have and taking there's a lot from the I think the reb mentioned it then also that is when somebody takes there's something it's not so and then the Reb said like this all those who have a why am I insulting them why am why am I um putting people down on when it's supposed to be as like why are we speaking so offensive and the tiny is first of all people which are giving they never cover it so don't be disrespectful to them and so why do you have to speak so sharpb said which says I only know you in other words we have this relationship is a lot of choice so everything that I'm saying all of the expressions of frustration is speaking very sharp is all coming from this depth of a relationship that we have. So therefore is begging don't don't use that but remember the is and because people are involved in so they forget about the because it's really one or the other and there's a choice you know the famous with he asked why did he put in the don't you know and the reb the answered yes you can't be in every in other words if there's an issue in or whatever the reason was that didn't want to put in the t's so in in let's put it in in our conversation there's a there's a of course there's a mile in it and there's a choice to make you can't you can't have everything so getting involved in we're talking about It's the like the Reb mentioned it and the Rebba says he doesn't want to be mazel in this that happened by the but remember the is the spoke was once a p the m was by the that they would have um upstairs by the seder there was a bowl of the alterb and it would go around the table and everyone would take three spoons would take three spoons of soup from it and put it into his on soup and then everybody else would have it. And the Reb spoke once about what it means to take from a bowl food part from a bowl of I mean besides of the fact that the Reb himself did it there's just just thinking about um this and as we know the most tired thing in the world is getting a dollar of the and having a yeah and like spoke in the famous about to of and this is It's it's not stam. There's no one like the Reb who explained what it means something that belonged to the Reb something that still belongs to the Reb or something that the Reb used and as a to these things and just the building of 770 as how important and how dear this was to the Reb just because physically the was there this is all but this is very important said the learning from theb spoke that you can't compare eating from a bowl of the or from learning from it they say we have to remember what's the and this sounds brutal if I would believe that mom is talking like a father to a child I care for you you're the only ones I have I don't have anyone else these in this room sitting by the top these These are my and I'm sharing with you what I really think is our to remember what's the so this is just it's like it's coming from this of the saying what does to ab so to speak and this was a story that the hash told the fikb and the fikb and there there's like some between the lines over here this is a this is not a story which was made for public consumption this is like ab giving over to Rebah what is and over here the Reb is saying what's this in is this there's a kher over here between and this is this is brought out more inus than in in in taking a dollar from the reb than in in taking food from from the plate even though there's so if we if we bringing now we're holding over just the to bring. Yeah. Like there's there's the is the is the and that's what's the is if it's going to express itself not in a mode of say in every area it's going to be that we're going to be and to think to approach when we sit down to write our schedule to think about the what's the who cares and knows and wants my good and wants emotional health. I want to have my and he wants he he cares. There's no that I make that isn't aware of and doesn't care about also and he really wants this and this is the the depth of the energy which there is when sits down and learns of think from his perspective how does the Reb look at this connection of what's happening over here in these moments. So we should take advantage of this on we should make the Okay, but since you asked, I'm gonna I'll I'll give you the a little bit of the history of it. This is a niggan. We'll see if you ask me again to to tell the history after this one. But it's an Simka of Mikvin. But when I was a kid, we didn't call it the Nigan Simka. We didn't know who Mikvarkin was. When I was six years old, it was Mommy, Tati, and Rabbi. That was that was pretty much the the scope of our uh you know, and there was there was there was Betalo, the famous Baky Bassidis who lives in Pittsburgh now, who was back then in Los Angeles also. But I didn't know anything about. So I didn't know he was a Bakasidis. I don't even know if he was a Bakasid back then. Who knows? Him and Billy. That was it. That was the whole scope of our existence. So there was a um so we didn't call it. We called it Yim. Why? Because there was aid in Los Angeles and he would sing it. And and of course as kids we love this. And he would sing this a lot. Maybe partly because he enjoyed it and partly because we would harass him. He had a bunch of six-year-old kids would come to say, "Hey, his real name is redactive for privacy." But sing him, right? And he would of course happily oblige because if this gets the kids excited to sing a niggan and I think I think he would actually I don't think originally he sang it with such an emphasis on the Yahweh, but then later he he head made us happy. So I think he I think he maybe put more emphasis on it. Now you might ask you might ask Well, hang on a second. Listen, if this will be my biggest a of being in good shape, but I still sing it this way. Why? Because it uh it reminds me when we were kids and we were by and we would, you know, and uh and you know, as it's funny at six years old, you're you're you're you're just like the guy who's 80 years old. And by you see that when the kids and and and the young and the old and everybody sings together. Anyways, Hey y I I am I am I am a ho ho ho. Oh my I heard I am I am hold I did it. I b I am I am I am I am I am I am I am I am la. La I am. So if anyone wants to be M of anything says just say one one more V maybe just it brings out the of everything we've been discussing for the past two hours that the Reb said this more than once that the Mahash we know like that the Yeah. So these are the big pes there's very few um which begin but is the big there's one is is but which is the first is a there's Um, so the rebar was you start with and then there's and that goof is it lasts throughout the year. You continue you go through regular you continue regular weeks of the year going through and then you go and into the summer months and it's all of it's of this and that's the of as that throughout when when we are with our feet on the ground it's all coming from a different a a different approach maker. Oh, every everyone's since they let some one person talk and they don't disturb. What's going on? >> Yes. >> All right. You met me this past uh pes here, right? You met >> Yes. Yes. In Detroit. >> Yes. I just I just I'll just tell you one one thing sure since we're on topic of birthdays. >> We we missed you by the way. We missed you in Pittsburgh by the way. I'm glad he enjoyed you but we missed you. >> Yeah. Yeah. Right. Yeah. Me and Mendle go back a few years to me and men. So just very short I just a nice word from a buck I said so I I us I try to take one vitis and I share with we have a lot of Lithuanian friends here you know in Oak Park Southfield and I shared like a nice word from so I told over to a lot of people this year the Reb brings down it's in about how the whole month it's it's a from Zion and Reb is bringing he brings a sugi there from from the tinus that the whole month was changed over of because of the later the birth of Mosherenu. Yeah. >> So there's there's a oneline rashi that the Reb brings down and it says that's the rashi. So the Reb brings the maf and they want to know why is rashi being about pes the whole sugi is talking about why why bring in pesak to the whole the whole the whole story. So the Reb says he says that because because what what why was the whole month changed over to good because of the birth of Mosha and now because of his birth now you have the mock you have the mocker for for you have to you have to have a being born to have to have a that's the so then I told this over to a few buck in the yeshiva yeah and one boy he says Mr. back. He says, "That's great." You know, from He says, "And I want to add one thing in." I said, "Okay, let's hear." He says, "And now that we have the" This was right before Niss. He said, "Now that we have the Reb's birthday of Nissen, now we have the MK for the Ga." That's that's the word. Somebody said only could come up with with a word like that. That's my contribution. >> Okay. Nice to hear you, man. And I'm sure we'll hopefully you'll uh you know do this more often. Very very got my got my right there. Let's see. There you go. See? Okay. Okay. Just to finish off first of all we had a warm welcome to the Gansum. this we're beginning this month with I believe there's 14 new participants in K sevenus 14 new participants that's ali so so first of all for ourselves we should all be ourselves this is already going on it's in a few years and it's going and the the only way this is happening is with everyone's own commitment and we we ourselves and we're beginning now this new suggest that everything this whole discussion of this is mish the spirit of dealing with there's no there's no other way so we're beginning with we should take advantage all we have to do is to learn and to let permeate Go to Mendle. One last niggan.