Farbrengen 10 Shvat Part Four , Rabbi Yossi Paltiel 5783

foreign [Music] the king involves himself in the tactics of work Kings dominance of the tactics of War Kings are busy with the governance they're busy with everything if there's a situation where there's a war whether they desire or they don't desire it so it's delegated the King has people who are trained and skilled and experienced to engage in Muhammad when you have a Muhammad where the king understands that this war you cannot lose so he engages himself but there's a good source for this there's a good choice for this I think it's in the repose father was able he had a blavik's father at Birth his name was near Zalman but he married a girl whose father was awesome [Music] but when he got married he took the name Baruch because his name is describes him sitting on a train and he said no we're sitting on the train Mercedes off the top of their heads 15 minutes he was in the Bible quite a bit he got married a second time in labavage he was very close to the neighborhood he was older than their first cousins they were first cousins first cousins first cousins once removed they're very close it was Adam Godel and I believe he he wrote to the Sheamus he wrote a journal which he gave the video that's been published you could buy it it's very very interesting and very interesting because there was his mentions of the rabbit as a little boy and um one of the most interesting part of this regime is description of what the develop was saying during World War One there's some very interesting details over there that are not printed anyplace else he was in the house by the devnishment and he heard things and he wrote them all down that are not tempted his child they're not printed any place else but one of the one of the things that I think it's written there I think I'm not sure you believe me you believe that my memory is not what it was I think it's there the rush of the fighting with the Germans at the Eastern Front they never did not want the Germans to overrun Russia he wanted Russia to remain Russian in other words um he certainly did not want us to become Communists but at that time that was not on the table he didn't want the Germans to defeat the Russians he went to the Russians to win the same thing without the level Napoleon you could read the lashes in the series that I hope the king himself will get involved in the tactics award the king is Nikolai and he was an inbred fool and then a typical attention people knew he was a fool understands I hope he gets involved in the war and he explained why not because he's smarter than the generals but he push it brings along a bigger mouth and the rabbit says I hope he'll get involved in the war he'll bring a bigger Malik and there'll be an opportunity a chance that the Russians would defeat the Germans now the end of the story was he got involved and they lost anyway but this was that I hope the case at the top gets involved because he brings a bigger mama he's the malach so this is a martial gosh me for Matt lahavelin Alabama and it's a story about a man who has a kitten he has a Vineyard and you have to be misaka you have to remove the stones and you have to remove the weeds you have to take care of the kitten and he's busy taking care of somebody else's he's going off to find somebody else's problems that he's fixing them and his own kid him kind of me should lay later he neglects his own Vineyard he takes his own so it's a muscle the muscle is it's a it's it's a big instead he's busy helping everybody else and Karma Chalino himself foreign the rabbit came here the three they're gonna became here that ABBA came here was he was busy with with talks and Tails with magazines for little children he was busy with to teach children how to read and write in Yiddish he was busy with with the never wrote a curriculum I never wrote a curriculum they found it they printed a curriculum grade one till grade eight the curriculum what their children in the first grade with the churches of the whole curriculum foreign came to this country and I I heard from people who remember the moment he rolled off that ship he didn't give himself a second to catch his breath he was stood at me he had no people he had no money and no connections and no nothing uh foreign America has to be what the old country was first of all the only thing that matters is Yiddish got it and second of all besides for you describe there is nothing as Avia today that was his dream that was his his his vision His Wish and he busied himself little kids you know how many kids were in the whole of Babaji Yeshiva they fit in one picture against the firewall of the oxidism 70 25 kids 30 kids and that's what he did see this but what was he doing in America he's worrying about it and you read the stories and you hear the the anecdotes you hear what happened one Sunday morning he said one Sunday morning and said I want you to go to the Tamil and adds each talmud to give you an hour by hour account what they did from the time they left Yeshiva Friday afternoon until they came Yeshiva Sunday morning that's 12 hours 24 hours and another 12 hours and another eight hours it's 36 plus 8 is 44 does she give an hour by hour Reckoning American you understand Friday afternoon we play baseball Friday night we had a good bull session he wanted an hour-by-hour account of what they did and it wasn't beautiful and every boy had the right a dog and the rabbi wanted to see it now the river didn't make any comments he didn't have to make any comments he just said that Russia next weekend see to it that their hours are spent more responsive imagine you're not talking about Yeshiva with a thousand kids it was 12 boys 20 but it was nothing but he put himself into these little candles because the dev understood that the future of America depends on this foreign spent exorbitant amounts of time and courageous on things that traditionally were done by a malamute a school teacher himself was concerned with these things the Debbie said once in a fabrina could ever said to him or he said to someone I cannot go to sleep until they put the talks and Tails into the mail for a boy in Australia there's a year that lives in yerushalayim and his name is URI kaplun he's a grandson of of vitigation the message of Australia biography of his grandfather it's called that it's a beautiful book and he writes nicely it's an English it's a good read it's really worthwhile it's a it's such a remarkable story you read it you don't even see how remarkable it is so uricable writes the defeated episode he cannot go to sleep or they put in the mail one issue of toxic Tales to one boy in Australia and I became writes I know that story is true because I was that boy he was a little boy this is the late 30s the early 40s I'm sorry and the theater said that you put in the mail the talks and tells for the one kid in Australia was going to read Jewish kosher literature rather than today for literature to the other children were reading the the dedication of the Barbarian to things that are not in your name because this is the Thai market you should know for every story we know there's 100 stories we do not know the rabbit was not a marketman the more you hear the more you can't believe it the devil was involved in the individual on a day-to-day basis not only in the 50s and 60s in the 70s and 80s the river was involved in the decision that smallest is made on a day-to-day basis he he showed an interest and he in get engaged especially after a small shettle made a Shabbos that ever wanted to know about it and he read about it and he asked questions about it and there you we're slowly hearing not the big Stories the big stories we know but the idea that they're ever concerned himself with the individual activities of a particular in a tiny place and there was nothing too small there was nothing too small for the rabbit to personally engage in I want I want to talk to something okay and God should forgive me for saying something which is very terrible I actually did a terrible thing every bit what I want to talk about okay and I want to talk I want to talk about I want to spend a few minutes talking about we're amazing the amount of time that I may have gave to this the story with service Hashem where for years the devil would meet kids as as often as once a month and Stand and Show where all the kids are playing around there's a command of it and talk to them like as if they're soldiers in an army and they're all listening and some of the kids are sitting in the front and trying to write what the devil says though the kids don't know what's flying and the rabbits Hashem in the early years of Hashem that ever met the children once a month and he talked to them the kids weren't listening but the devil was talking to them and they never obviously understood that they're hearing the nishamad the devil was so concerned with so I just I want to speak for a few minutes because if you want to talk about the river and and I guess you could say this to us foreign he did that also but that he did like you understand between between his which was concerning himself with our base management I want to speak I want to speak so much time so much time to the idea you have to raise your children and it's it's it's something which is always a topic that should be talked about they never talked about always on shoes but it's an appropriate Target where you chat it's something that has to be said that has to be said and has to be said and has to be said the recruit is as follows the old country the street raised your child the street the street in this battle was so pure that the street raised your child a Yiddish Kint grew up in a Jewish Home he walked outside of the street all he saw was by his neighbor by his friend by his family so the the involvement of the parents and even the involvement of the Muhammad did not have to be with such attention to detail because the child was surrounded by the child was around everything holy the street was holy I've heard that this place is an attitude which like that now it used to be like that but it's not that way here they never spoke about this many many times in America the street is not Kosher we all understand and we send our children to school and they're sitting on the bus and they're sitting in classrooms the the tests that the children face and the hardships that the children deal with the exposure to all kinds of tests that in the shadows simply did not exist and and the answer to this side the answer to this is very intense now everybody is very worried about the children's mental health and it's a good thing children have to be mentally healthy and we're so worried about their self-esteem and worried about them being happy and too many of us are afraid to say a word and the kids grow up and they're they're spoiled and they're they're a lot of self-esteem but self-esteem doesn't necessarily mean that they have good self-image sometimes they're very selfish it's very important that our children should be healthy I'm not saying that he could abuse children you have to raise them and raising children means we can't assume that they'll figure anything out by themselves a child does not know how to wash negovas unless you show a child does not know how to say maid I need unless you show him a child doesn't know that he comes out of the bathroom he has to say unless you teach him and a lot of times we we we just assume they know why I know so of course he knows it's not so children know nothing and children need to be taught everything and it's it's so critical for parents to approach of their children with a sense of the truth is unbelievable urgency unbelievable intensity but if you show urgency and intensity you're making kids crazy so you have to keep that all inside but there needs to be the idea that you pay attention to every little detail and every child at a different age is in a position to learn different things and different children age differently if you can't bring your child to shulk if you can't sit still you know bring each other show when the child is able to come to shoulders and expectation he sits next to his father and he Dobbins I listen to Keith and you you together with your bellobuster it's it's not a two-man job it's a hundred man job but this is for sure if you're not getting you and your wife are not gonna agree about it it's going to be a disaster the simple the simple statement the children are not going to be and from because they're living in an Allah I am sorry because we demonstrated them that we personally we personally care very much that the little details of Yiddish kite are important a child is playing and his yamaka falls off you don't have to scream at the kid you don't have to hit the child but the child has to know that you care foreign it's a little thing a child walks by his friend and his friend has a bag of chips and he gets permission from his friend he puts his hand into the bag he pulls on Three Chicks and he pops him into his mouth he doesn't make a brother it's a little thing and again you don't want to get upset you don't want to get angry but you want to be made some live the abish they gives us children that hate and we should know how big abracad is it's the biggest brother in the universe the biggest Block in the world is children it takes us our whole lifetime until we're after five years verse 10 in this game and ten in English to see you know this is Kinder the greatest gives us and we have to raise them we must teach them how to be Jewish we must teach maybe Jewish each child at each step of his development parents a father and a mother together they sit and they think it through they try different things with a child you try something with your child like you say to the child take negravasa and then you see that the child is not old enough because he spills it out so you wait three months and you try again but every step of the way we raise our children we show our children how to Daven by example we take them to show is not a playground so mothers could sleep shout this morning I'm sorry for speaking dividend a position um this is how I believe tip can't sit still and show in my opinion he stays home and you say to your little boy little girl I this is an idea that I tell many people and it's a simple fact of life the way works works is that everything you tell your child is at an age where he doesn't need to know it yet in other words just like you hear the tradition that a boy is two three four years old and his mother tells him that when you're gonna be a big boy you can order Yeshiva and they're going to become Atomic and the kid calls he has no idea what the title is but his mother told him it's going to be a big boy he said he's already in his own imagination and his mother sings to him that is to give an example for this idea that minute you saw today so one of the examples that I would bring is that the mothers listening to the children lullabies Tada is the best describe every stage is about you teaching your children what they need to know before they need to know it meet La Marshall you have a little Maid down there and she needs to learn about sneez which is a big Messiah you don't tell me about sneeze when she's nine which is two and a half when she's three that you're gonna grow up and you're gonna be as pretty as Queen Esther and you're gonna wear clothing like Queen Esther because yeah and she clowns between Esther and when she becomes a little older and it becomes a real issue it's already in her mind established that this is how she is and here's the key there's no fight there's no fight when parents are raising their children and they're fighting with them they already missed the boat if you want your child to listen to kiss a table and he doesn't want to the reason is because you introduce them to clear satara when he needed to listen that's not how it goes you don't have a child you're going to show when he's the age of going to show you tell him he's going to show two years before and you say when you're going to be big and you're going to be able to sit next to your father you're going to sit next you can go to school and you can sit next to tati and tat is going to have a seated and you're gonna have a seated and tati's gonna dive and you're going to Daven and when the child is always about to go to show he goes to show because he knows about show from an age where he had no resistance he had no fight he had no issue with it so when he becomes of age it's a natural progression he goes to show and they say between every Union you want your child listen to him you don't tell from now on listening is a data no no no no you tell him before in a month from now when you'll be big yeah just because then I'll give you an example which is a bit uncomfortable but it's also a very very real example today a lot of parents struggle taking their children to the mix of the boys to the maker how do you take your boy to the mic will you tell them before not when he's old enough to go to me but he knows before he's gonna be big he's going to be like Tatty he's going to go to the mixer and then when he becomes that age he already hears about it he knows about it he understands what it is to some extent and he goes to make every stage and has this way and when the kids get older they become adolescent they become teenagers after them it's the same thing whatever you need your children to know they hear about in their home before in other words but in order for this to happen you and your wife have to consider the most important thing in your life of your children but if this is this is how I describe it every family every home has a conversation that goes on from the moment the couple gets married until daily days this conversation is to a great extent certainly in the early years of marriage steered by the parents what you talk about when you're in a car going to a trip what you talk about that you shot this table when you talk about it the Shabbos a regular weeknight dinner is is a conversation that parents need to direct parents need to always not make it so intense that the children feel stifled you talk about regular things about fun things as well and so forth but the parents always go back to Indiana and every opportunity the children hear about from kite and they like I said before they don't hear about the fromkai they need to know now they hear about the film kind they need to know tomorrow so when they become that age it's a dove that I push it this is doesn't happen by mistake you don't raise good kids because you had muzzle the cloud everybody needs it after the Shema yeah we need to talk about but one of the biggest mistakes you could say is it's not up to me it's absolutely up to you it's not up to you only but it's up to you so when you're raising your children you and your wife have to make it at every opportunity that the children should know was the most important thing to you you should know I have a grievance against my father what's the grievance when I was a kid I wanted to go on trips we always want our trips 2 33 o'clock the Zoo closes at five the trip is an hour we left at two o'clock everybody else was out of the house at eight o'clock in the morning and we were kind of amidstv I remember one supposed to go on a trip my father sat down to lentanya and I was so angry with him but he learned his Tanya and he finished his Tanya and I was angry I thought he physically pushed him so he wanted to go home anyway I said top you know we finally ready to go on the trip so he told me straight it's important for you to know that it's not that important I guess now I'm not saying you should do that to your children I'm not saying the children is different generation the children are much more sensitive I'll get sued for being uh mentioned but this is father and mother no good at the Children's with good food because you have a beautiful bedroom and they should have nice things and everything like that but it's not as important it's not nearly as important as Taylor and mitres [Music] and this we give our children in every minute of our day and our night we give it to them in our words we give it to them in our actions we give it to them in our attitude When the Children See I grew up with a mother who on average benched two or three times after each meal she drank a cup of water do they make abandon first yesterday one beneficial second band of questions as I grew up I also make beneficials two or three times after a cup of water it's a big Cafe but this is this this is what I remember the the the the the this the earnestness and the seriousness of Yiddish guide we live in America Hashem we're not living in America in the 1940s and he was the 1950s and 60s I'll tell you a story I think it's it's a long detailed story and I'm telling the whole story to pick on one little Nuance the story is that once a month once a month every month for maybe 30 years or close to 30 years Don Hall of the Yeshiva would go into the deputies once every four months they would be joined by Dan holler from Montreal who was the whole of Montreal the palace and I think every four months when the holiday went into today but they would also go in so one day I mean Handel walks into the basement and it goes off the civilizerkin who is unfortunate and he says to him you gotta take us to New York and you don't tell him what to do he says I have to take I don't do anything he says no no we have to go why he tells the truth that every four months on hold of Montreal joins another we have a regular driver and the driver got sick we need to get to New York now well so he negotiated I'm sure he he took good care of himself whatever the negotiations were maybe it wasn't Financial he made sure that he got something for it and he took him anyway they come to New York Yankees starts at nine and it goes till tenth an hour zurkin is sitting in a bench an old wooden bench those wooden benches were made for one reasons for those who don't remember the old benches I've done the seventy they would push it splinters glued together waiting to be unsplintered into your horizon they were the whole bench was splinters ah I have a lot of stories with those splinters 770s benches it's part of the history of 770 was the Splinter it's very important you have to get a stat from 770. anyway he's sitting one of those benches the door opens and how it works out over them and he goes to his car I have to drive back to Montreal as soon as they walk out of the rabbit he sees this episode yet something's not right anyway they go on 770 to get into the car I'll be handled sitting in the front I think it was maybe just for your green glass and creamer and handle maybe just three and they're sitting in the back and no one says a word it's covered not only no one says the word they're not they're looking they don't want to make eye contact they don't look at each other anyways driving it's a long trip and no one's another word because I'm coming true then anyway after two hours of driving he pulls into a rest stop and he Parks the car and he says I'm going out of the car to the Visa covers just want you to know that if you're gonna sit like this for the next six hours you're gonna sit in this parking lot I'm not taking you I can't take this what's this business the sitting in the car they're not they're not only entertaining with they're not making it's like as if you have three corpses three cadavers anyway he goes through what he has to do he comes back and says it's he sits down and they need that food and he's a nine before dish we're not moving anyway so after a long time go I'll tell you so they go in and he'll tell us what happened they went into the river and at some point they read this there was quite a few another members I don't know how many it was I don't know who they were but somebody in the anahala started to speak with Arabic politics what that means with those who don't understand what politics means politics means favoritism is in charge you do exactly what he says you don't give advice he was giving to them advice he had an interest he either liked somebody or didn't like somebody so he was sort of explaining to that but that ever really wants to do what he thinks was given Aces like this so they never interrupt him those men finish so I tried to do everything my whole approach to this is I followed the way that everybody behave that's why I behaved he says in three ways I'm different this is number one you have guilt forget about no money he says I need I can have this is the 1970s early 70s I can have tonight on this table five million dollars in cash number two the damage is in um if needy could ever wanted America to be a place of Tita not a place that people learn to tell you a place of Tata and he did not Merit to see it I see it and then the devil says about people who could talk to him meaning they would not today yeah right there's two missions look I said watching again foreign what's the second one there's an evil situation you can speak to people and they're not going to have theirs they're just going to listen I have no one to talk to and therefore this ended that was the end that was the that was the same password so that's why they walk out like that so the lab is had three things the theater had no money and I have money they never wanted to see Americans to see it and they don't like people to talk to and I don't know everybody tells the story the most important part of the story is the punch line but I don't think so the second part that every old zen as a medical center more complicated I want to explain to you the the previous this is it's it's it's important but it's important people learn Tate in America and they were going in America in the 19th and 1920 that are bigger than many of the Russians today people learn data but America was not a muck container and the people who started Taylor were not beneath Theta they were students almost every Yeshiva in America almost every should not be saying well you brought him something learned and they prepared themselves to go to college it was an accepted part of the Yeshiva life there were two types of yeshivas yeshivas that were College Prep that you was not College Prep but the rubham the way of Yeshiva looked he looked like an American who's studying talmud this was true not just in the 40s it was even during the 50s and it was even during the 60s meaning to say there was a lot of yeshivas there was a lot of data but it was America the way people saw themselves even people who were beneath Tada it's different than Europe it's a subject it's a Leeward it's a it's a academic thing the idea you know what they call in the culture the black hat what's the black hat what's the black hat the black hat is yesterday I am different we're different the black hat in the 50s and the 60s yet people who sat and learned all day and all night but they look like Americans because they were Americans the idea that we're not Americans We're Young took a very long time to break through in the 70s today wherever you look from and to a very great extent the fight of the guns of Health our life is Terror our life is but we're hidden it wasn't that way even in the 60s it began to you began to see all over America that the Yeshiva doesn't just study tailor he looks like Aisha and he thinks my business is stated do I have to work to support my family maybe I have to work my life is Taylor rather than this is something that I'm doing for a year or for two of a three but in a way that's part of of a life that has other priorities other interests this is what the devil said but that ever wanted what we call a Locus they never wanted the the attitude is it took a long time [Music] to stop needing to be in both worlds it's a long time ago it's a long time ago it's 50 years ago it's 60 years ago it's seven years ago but it took a long time to say I don't care what America thinks um and this is it and that's what it ever meant when he said in the early 70s he says and I think he meant then wherever you look there's Taylor and it's Taylor it's not Taylor it's real it's real real real Tater I'm sorry I digressed okay we want to raise our children like this we want to raise our children that this is our whole life is and we have to understand that it's not gonna happen by itself I dive into many many years by the police station he lived in Montgomery here and he he was an interesting Jew he was like you're caught in the time warp he could have lived in in times the time it's a very interesting you know and I spent a lot of time with him he was very nice to me we spent a lot of hours schmoozing and he was telling me once he was complaining I was complaining foreign we give our children what's important to us and for some parents what's important to us is a lot of fun why because they feel like when they were children they didn't have any fun for some parents they give their children that they shouldn't be stressed out by school why because they were children they were stressed out by school some parents everybody has their head bonus right my children are not going to go through what I went through everybody says that and they end up being worse than their parents but that's a detail yeah my children are not fine your children don't have to go but that doesn't exempt you from raising them you don't raise Jewish children by protecting them from abuse you have to protect it from use and you have to raise them and raise them you have to teach them you have to teach them Yiddish guide at every stage the most important part of the teaching is you and your wife's own conduct the most important about the teaching is they see how Shabbos looks and they see how pesach looks and see what it means doubt meaning see what it means they see how important these things are to you they see what the heck is you know what it means you eat any food you go into any restaurant it's kosher children learn from what we teach them that I've been said this many many times America is different than the old country you cannot expect your children to learn anything by themselves you have to teach them everything and you have to do it without your name parents even teachers but parents for sure it has to be all love all love but you can not say it because they don't know they're going to take it and I'm telling you the the the real foreign everything you want your child to know tomorrow you're telling today if if you come if people come to me all the time Rabbi my kid is 13. he doesn't want to dive in the show of course it's not I can't say to the guy I don't hurt his feelings he said of course not you never spoke to me about David angel s the child hears about true when he's so young it's not even a question you should go and then when he's able to go it's a it's a special thing it's a show foreign I do this for a living I say this speech every day again and again I'm not have any speeches she doesn't have a clue what life is just an article a boy gets married the girl gets married there's still a clue what life is and then they Bishop blesses them they bring a child into the world that's it life's over that's it finished ah you're never ever done parenting from the time your first child is born I'd say Carla Davis you're a father your mother your teaching you're teaching my example and if you have to grow up in order to do it you have to grow up in order to do it but you have to teach your children Yiddish guides Yiddish kites Yiddish kite what does the rabbit care about the rabbit is very happy when your children all match it's beautiful the picture says is very happy that your children are going after school to learn music and to learn dance and to learn art and to learn the exercise and I'm not saying that these are bad things did Epicure that the children should hear that the most important thing in their home and for their father and for their mother and therefore for them is Taylor Mitzvahs Yiddish kite it's not complicated it's really not complicated I spoke last song with a group of people they came to the oil and they invited me to speak to them these people had lists of of uh of uh of shopping I need a hatane they had a list of everyone had a list of all the things happened in heaven and it works people come to the oil for one simple reason it works if it didn't work that wouldn't come people come all kinds you'll have to go in people come to the rabbit day and night the oil is full of people they're coming there some people come because they want to be connected you come when something is bothering you um you listen to what's up if they wouldn't go home they wouldn't come again please check me out you're all here because you have needs this is who the god amethyst is is so not in your world you know the other said in the first moment the first Bible the clowns you are coming to a heat that has he has no obligation to give you Muslim if you don't do a Mitzvah because he is he lives in a different Stratosphere different universe and you come to in Vegas they're very important things right and and represents man I heard that somebody once complained to that man the feeder kit was very very warm and the lab was very mouthing stick come on whatever this is somebody wants some very close to them who was you know he was a friend is a little bit distant and the devil without hesitating said to him you're complaining do you know what I'm giving you I'm giving you so much good you don't even know what to do with it let me said to him again as I said to these people what does he want everybody came here with a laundry list and there's a whole list of needs and they're good needs just do them a favor do it he's a nice debit he doesn't give broadcast conditionally he never did and never will that ever does make conditions and when the Devil Makes a condition it's not because he wants to be difficult it's because he never said once I'm telling you the reason this person is sick you want the child to have a recovery you have to start keeping cushion it's not a deal it's not this you can handle it I it's not conditional it's not a Mecca foreign that we should raise our children with a little bit more of the value of America's America's Niche and this is our life is the yiddescribed from beginning to the end and everything in between we're living in America and there are many of us bless them and they're quite well to do we're not torp we're not not even in America do you understand this is and they want to enjoy the material Bounty that the Amish they gave them and they're entitled kosher it's honest but never allowed to be to the extent like if she doesn't Apostle and you trampled on the whole business parents have to understand that we want good yiddisha Kinder it's not going to happen by itself you can't trust the schools not because the schools are bad because you can't trust anybody that hotter than the king did a Mr and a Mrs and a husband and a wife after like the neighbor says their children all the time and they have to constantly if you have little kids trust me you don't got problems when they're going to be big you're going to have much bigger problems but if you invest now you push it will in all likelihood not had those doubles but you have to invest you have to decide that this is the most important thing in my life for children the amount of time that ever spent with kids is not normal you're talking about course they never told them to change his name and you listen to them you struggle he was like he was like God will be Israel in a different Deliverance is a God will be strong that had never given about which is the biggest thing in the world that strike one and strike two yeah it was it was an incredible person and the accomplishments that this man is unbelievable it's not to be accomplished he would come to 7-7 I remember I was a boy I wanted to see personalities when I was a book in Yeshiva when it came to remember the fact that I would look for this I would look for the people in the Bible that you were ashamed of us I remember I went to look I wanted to push it to look at um in the world in 770 he was a scoop on the dresses he was he was a shmate that's how he felt about himself and I I I I wanted to see epis there was nothing to see a DW you saw came to the river more often than you think it was not quite often he was a big man he's a great man and he was a Salesman she was very well respected was very well known and uh could see them in him had a funny relationship at the gavalganisms he in 770 he was namish people elbowed him I watched it he was a small little man he wasn't a big strong guy elbow garnished it was like he was a great man in the 770 he was a nobody and this was that they found him a place there was a stickle say then during davening I remember we were standing like nothing but during I mean he wasn't appreciated he stood behind the dead but I don't think of it always was but in the later years behind in heaven and he has a book but then having yourself as a book which he calls and that's exactly what it is it's not about the rabbit it's about and one of the things that blows his mind is the children here's a picture of the devastating you can't see the devil because whatever's back is to the picture and all around and you have to know him he was about [Music] the first lived in ideas what happened if a little kid came next to him and bumped into him he was my problem what happened if little kids sat down at the next table and started to play Hamish looking for the pays and the bays and the samas and the upside down Outlets to get 2 000 points they Disturbed him again and that Abby is surrounded by children they don't disturb them they don't bother him there was absolutely no generation gap the kids sit around that ever and then every so you know a child wants life tied that it happened shoelaces to each other he he was the kid you sit on the devil's Table after that they made Xavier they could sit around but a child took this from one shoe and this is I don't think it ever been down any untied shoes he got out of the shoulder whatever it was and it was decided that the kids kept it under the table what they were to do with their child they shot him the commit ment there was The Leverage you begin Makai to Children the the massive the mermaid of of the dead materials Hashem I was already about after Bar Mitzvah but the guy's just a couple minutes younger the rabbit is Dancing with the kids by itself they never gave unbelievable questions to the children unbelievable characters because I don't need you to say this that I want to look at Titan who have heard about Abbott with little kids did not see children in the Babbage they never brought kids they didn't bring children they didn't bring women you come here and it's that everybody's never for us because everybody needs him and he needs to give what he has to give to every single Jew we are parents we're a father and a mother we must if if you want a take away from your trots go home to your wife and say we need to become more conscientious about not nervous not angry like a rabbi once said in a speech don't become OCD but we need to start appreciating that our children need to see from us that this is more important than the vacation it's more important than the house in the mountains the most important thing is tato mitzis and we have to work together with our spouse to to find ways of planting seeds in our children when they're little that as they grow up that they get the message of what we what we value not what we want from them what we value what we consider important and if we teach our children that this is what we value when they'll grow up they'll value the same thing and I I'm saying this with guns Nemesis I I wrote a I wrote a list of speeches I don't know if I'm going to get to all of them yeah okay I don't agree with that I it's a very appropriate topic for fabrina and your child to speak why because did I ever lived there foreign children about any Yiddish kids than anybody he was so nigaya and you know the Debbie used to ask when he would meet people brother Christ and he would ask them how they imagined their children and he wasn't only asking because he wanted to criticize he was trying to find maybe he could learn something from them and he could incorporate it into a different model so he would have hundred years were not allowed to be young when we have our children even though we all have a chosen more young that's how there is to be the world we need to take responses when our kids are small we need to decide that we are going to make the you can call the equipment our home ye described the kids have to hear it and the kids have to see it the kids have to experience it and I am telling you you will never fight with your child about any issue if you prepare him the bar mitzvah doesn't stop when he's 12. you understand if that's what he dates he starts preparing his mama when he's 12. the business relating is I don't know where that comes from but you want your child to learn somebody's twelves when he's a little boy he hears what I eat is and then when he turns that age it's a natural thing but if until he's 12 years old you don't want to mention it to him and all of a sudden boom now you have to do this because it's not going to look good in the bar mitzvah the the balabatham are going to come and you're not going to buy me that's not what this is about it's about raising our children so I'm raising our children can I say something from all what you said the last time from everything that you said the last 50 minutes and continue please I'm fine but everybody is taking home and telling the wife now this Chavez I'm not taking the children to shoot so I want to say something told us okay this is what your computer said and this is the headline of the family again no more children in children many many times when the children cannot behave or cannot control themselves we should and this is the reason why you said in such a case they should stay home because it's not that because they should go to school but in a maybe even a majority of the cases the reason why some children are not behaving or controlling themselves we're sure that's because they don't ever look high from their parents or the parents should work hard the father should work hard not to talk I'm diving to walk out to Daven to walk out to sit down in every time in one place with a cedar to drive whatever again and the child will follow what he is doing so not stay home and I will continue talking ensure and doing nothing foreign [Music] there was no place to sit no place to sit the Avenue starts ten he finishes 12 30. and he behaved for a very long time after case I dated toads most of he became restless and I'm screaming at him babe fat up sharing anyway I got upset at my own son it was like and I'm walking home from show and it hit me do it yet you take a two-year-old to show in 7-7 is no placement to sit I remember I'm sitting down on the floor portion are you mad at it and hops and timeless so I came home to my wife and I said to my wife how big is up and the gate and show if I never can dominant my wife said today because so he stayed home through six or seven and and that was the language in other words I'm not telling you our philosophy is so I I personally had this experience and I had this Epiphany shake that you bring your two-year-old to show of course it's not going to behave and he behaved better than all two-year-olds he was a signature kids he was a very sincere so I didn't take him until he was six or seven on the biggest bus I know I mean I never had a problem with any of my children they sat next to me by davening but he said Taylor I don't think my children what I'm saying is when you take babies to shoot there's a place where you should know they never spoke about it I could be you and I had to be safe in my whole pill people don't know this the rabbit did a groundbreaking he doesn't did a groundbreaking memories foreign [Music] a month before and apparently behind the scenes by the very very important people there was what they're going to rebuild 770 they had plans to build from Houston Parkway to Union and from Kingston till I don't know where they wanted to buy all the properties and build a uh what to do with the space and apparently that saw that the Rebecca that they should make a lot of offices and then I said the home blessed as mummies do not trust me go get the tape and listen for yourself mothers have that place to put carriages children have to have place to run around and play are there because that today you bring girls into the men's section I don't know for what age but past three Rebus said that so you could bring me rice to be safe to what I'm saying what I'm saying is like this is my personal experience and this is what I have raised my kids children come to show when they can value show before that they hear about show controls a special place and show you go to when you can dive in because when you take little children to show and show becomes a playground when they grow up it doesn't become ice playground because they're older to them the show is a playground to me it's common sense now I understand there are homes there are couples where the wife's attached maybe the candidates but that's not every home is very very much individual but the sheets children come to show to Daven not because you're mean to them and you're hard on them because that's what the show is for you're teaching them what a show is and I think personally and it's like an undesirable yeah you bring the teach the children when you're going to be old enough to dive and you'll come to show and then when they're not open up you'll go to show and when you can't sit anymore your system will take you home because they sit into our room life in the show is is not a good thing and this is how you teach the kids this is what this is what I was saying the first day is [Music]