Chamisha Asar BiShvat The New Year Of pleasure in Yiddishkeit , Rabbi Yossi Paltiel -5784

is Thursday and I was given the topic ofat so stop with rash rash is a funny concept right we know rash from alash is the head of the year what is the meaning of the head of the year the head what's the head of a person the head of a person is not just another organ the head of the person is the whole person and the head have the brain and the Brain you have the Nish and everything meaningful and valuable has to do with the head or to say it in other words when a baby forms the first thing that forms is the head is the nerve center and everything radiates from that and even after we're born the brain gets the Nish it distributes the Nish the brain feels the body it keeps the body together it heals the body it looks after the body that's what the head does so we make such a big deal out of of because we believe that what happens in those 48 hours is a microcosm of the whole year we have indications that used to say that they see the whole year in the 48 Hours of they see the whole year because the 48 Hours of are ahead for everything that's do with the year okay it's an interesting concept one day or two days that is a microcosm is a a miniature version of everything that's going to happen in the whole year and what you do on that day on those days affects the whole year we like really holy we're very serious we don't waste any time we say till him we try not to talk we try not to sleep more than we must try not to eat more than we must because what happens affects the whole year so the M say we got fouras 1 two three four the first is the second the third is and the fourth is which is called for the tithe on animals which is you know what animals are right when a uh a herder an anim a man who's farming animals has Bab one out of 10 is and there's a cut off point you have to separate the animals born before from the animals born after and I'm assuming has to do with the seasons When Animals birth I don't know I'm assuming four days that for four different things are called this day is the head of the year for everything connected to F in the sentence finish the sentence nobody makes any big deal out of nobody eats you know box is a pretty important thing right is the first but the is not is for us we get judged for the whole year and the is that has to do also with with with seeds grain they be their new year is also which is this Thursday is for fruits for trees and for fruits so practically that means that what kind of how tasty a fruit is going to be this year is going to be determined in four days three days end on Thursday the abish is going to decide how tasty the peaches are going to be whether it's going to be cold in Florida and the oranges are going to freeze and the price of ir juice is going to go up and things like this everything is determined on which is a of course a very very interesting concept the head of the year when it comes for fruit so I want you to think about this just for a second what is the Practical reason what is the down toe reason why does anybody know what's the Practical reason why is does anybody know cuz trees go to sleep cuz trees go to sleep right we don't use the word hibernation but that's exactly what they do they hibernate trees go to sleep what happens when trees go to sleep they look dead the leaves fall off except that they're called Evergreen which is an interesting thing what's what sh for an evergreen and another thing Evergreens don't have fruit what would happen after Messiah comes when evergreen trees are going to have fruit fruit so how you going to measure the new year for the fruit for the Evergreens huh it's going to be complicated I'm going to give you a modern day example for that don't have a season they keep growing right you know that keep on growing you can leave in a tree for three years and it grows and it grows and it grows and it grows for is very weird you have to keep two Ras for from it's a very confused because there's no season fruit because trees go to sleep and they wake up they wake up but we don't have even though they woke up because you don't see that they're awake for two weeks you begin to see buds on the trees now in case you live in Brooklyn you don't see buds on the trees on Thursday don't feel bad because this goes by in the trees go to sleep they wake up they wake up says you see two weeks later buds a EST doesn't have a season it keeps on growing so it's very very hard to fix for an EST because it continues to grow and again after mhia comes when there'll be fruits on ever green trees when you get R how you going to figure it just keeps on growing by words there's another example I don't know how many people know about agriculture all the agriculture I know I know from the gar which is not that much figs you know figs don't have a season to a him figs keep on growing they're always growing and this got be certain things to give certain figs are different than other fruits in a way they're like a figs ripen and fall off trees a fig that stays on a tree for a few weeks in plotas an EST just stays on the tree stay keeps on growing gets bigger and bigger and bigger and bigger and bigger I was in the essic store the guy show me essc this big I said that must be three years old no no that's one years old so how big would an essc look Mish the size of a watermelon if you live it and a tree continues to grow so the the technical reason for why is because the tree went to sleep in the winter time and they woke up when they got spring I mean it's not spring yet exactly but it's going towards Spring meaning in the weather is already beginning to get a little bit warmer and um and the sap which went into the ground climbs back up into the bark and goes up into the branches and you start to see Buds and then eventually you going to see leaves and you see buds is going to see fruit that's the technical reason now who cares right who cares what TR for the fruits I got enough why do I have to worry about for fruit is enough it's It's haunting me enough right who cares so again on a practical level it has to do with Matana right every year it just to give truma every year you just to give and every year you just to give sh or the first year and the second year the fourth year the fifth year you give sh the third year and the sixth year you give so if the fruit grew before it's a father the year before if the fruit grew after the year after and what you have to give it comes right is from to the fruit that grows on the tree in the year is part of the sixth year you can eat it the fruit that grows in the tree in the eighth year if it ripens before has to do with the old year or whatever the and it's so it makes a big difference for people who have to keep like these we in America you buy the store the the fruit in the store you know the old joke a guy goes to Israel and somebody tells me you have to be very careful he says don't worry I'm only going to eat fruits and vegetables Whoever thought fruits and vegetabl need a Heir if you're born and raised in America fruits and vegetable fruits and vegetables are bigger problem than meat and chicken cuz half the people don't even know that this den of K and not K they be fruits and veget is very serious is very serious is also very serious these are serious things and it gets very complicated you have and that's where a practical thing if the fruit grew was was whatever the case is that it was sufficiently developed before belongs to last year if it wasn't developed after it belongs to the next year and these are practical things but there's a spiritual side to all is a is a spiritual thing and it's it's a fascinating thing the explains it this way a human being needs to survive a human being needs to survive to survive you need bread but a human being also needs a quality of life a human being needs to have pleasure in his life or her life and I don't mean this in a grubba way in an animal way it's part of the human being's nature a human being needs to have things which he doesn't must have which uses for pleasure and the things that you have for pleasure also help you they help you serve the like it says in t that one of the was asked a question he said I haven't eaten my meat meal yet I haven't eaten my fat meat yet today so I can't answer my brain isn't sharp enough pleasure benefits a person of course pleasure is a tricky thing especially in our Generations where there's so much pleasure available for us it becomes a an addiction it becomes a destructive thing but a human being needs to survive for this you need bread and a human being needs pleasure but this you have to have fruit the rashash for bread is the same rash that we have of Tish for pleasure because fruit pis fruit are consider some the gave us just for the benefit of giving us pleasure you know we say know that youever say that if you see blossoming trees you make a Made Beautiful fruit for the purpose of giving pleasure to people are you familiar with that anybody know that I'm just curious how many of you have studied this page how many times have you looked at this page it's after and before benching huh a bunch of times a bunch of times good for you can't even find the I'm trying to find and it's not right the is not even here the one you want isn't even here huh yeah the that we want is not even on this page it's but there's a that you make you want to come and take you C back there's a that you make forem making beautiful fruit pay noise and I don't know the by heart um forgive people pleasure the made things in this world to give people pleasure and the for people having Pleasures interesting think about it there's a new year there's a head of the year for pleasure there's a new year there's aead of the year for survival for living that's grain and legumes beans seeds their season is from the from the fall to the summer is this they ripen in the spring they harvest in the beginning of the summer the middle of the summer and they're eaten fruit the for fruit which is by definition for for pleasure is now of course you know this that have spoke about this so many times that we say that's thanking hasem for things that you must have like water or eggs I don't want to say meat although because meat is also a pleasure is for fruit is for things that you eat that you don't need that are there simply to give a person pleasure maybe have made things in this world to Keep Us Alive but you need water right so there's two parts you speak Hebrew hasem created people and their needs so that goes for water and for things that you must have and then I'll Co goes on things that created that we could do without and he gave them to us simply to have pleasure you understand it's two different parts of the is a day ahead of the year that gave us for pleasure isn't that interesting I think it's very interesting the most interesting thing about it is I thought wasfia I don't know maybe he he didn't get a copy of the the abish creates a world and he puts in this world things that you don't need to have he put them there just for pleasure now I want to digress I want to get back to the pleasure soon but before I go talk about pleasure I want to go back to another topic okay I'm going to ask you a question you guys learned in high school you're not yeah go ahead I would say absolutely yes and that's where I'm trying to go but don't ruin my speech please okay you're going to be out of a job um you guys went to high school and you learned stuff so I'm going to ask you a question I'm G to ask you a question we know that in biology everything has an explanation everything has an explanation if an animal has an extra claw there's a reason if an animal has a longer neck has a reason a longer nose everything has a reason everything has a reason sometimes we know it some we don't know it right I want to ask you a reason why are fruits so beautiful and so tasty they lightly colored and they taste good why are fruits so beautiful and so tasty now let me give you let me give you the scientific perspective okay nothing likes to be eaten nothing likes to be eaten right animal you try to eat them oh please come and eat me for lunch I was created you should eat me right the there about this know the that there was an animal that was going to the an animal was going to the and the animal knew that it was going to be killed so it ran over toes the the author of The mishna and hid under his coat hid under his coat the animal who was going to be killed and that's the animal is not supposed to know so pushed the animal away and said go this is why you were created and because of this I can't hear you got in trouble for this at 13 years of kidney he to scream so loud you can hear from is screaming because he showed lack of Mercy on an animal that was being taken to it's like so the animals nothing likes to be eaten they made the world everything is eaten we're also eaten you know we not eaten alive after we pass away there maggots don't tell anybody but it happens quite quickly to come eat US unless we sikim big sikim everything is it's a cycle life beg gots life they made the world but nothing said oh please eat me nothing nothing trees create defenses they create uh Thorns they create leaves that are hard to digest every single cre in biology in science you learned everything wants to preserve itself there's one exception to that rule one exception to that rule fruits fruits are big and tasty and they have sometimes honey oozing out of them like please eat me now what is the reason for this so the answer in biology is in science is cuz the the fruit is actually the tree's way of getting itself replanted so the the the tree wastes energy to produce fruit and it makes a big announcement please come and take me and eat me which you the trees don't like the the trees don't say please come take my branches but does say please come and take my fruit why because the animal eats the fruit and carries the seeds in its gut and it goes a distance and it drops it and it has automatic fertilizer and it's germinating and it grows again that's a scientific explanation why are fruits pretty why are fruits tasty they have no defenses because the tree wants you to carry the fruit away right what does the T say a whole another story The aish to made trees to produce fruit that should be tasty and pretty so people should have pleasure yeah so who's right the ti the scientist it's two points of view right if you see the web of as a circle then everything serves everybody every everything we don't see the Web of Life as a circle we see the we of Life as a line turns feeds anded and the feeds so both are true biologically it's true that when you eat fruit and you leave seeds it's going to help the tree re regrow but that's not the real reason made it this way it's a secondary reason the real reason this way is that the fruit should be tasty and pretty for people to enjoy for people to enjoy sounds like a I don't know modern Orthodox for we all a whole day we hear a lesson on ES cafia cafia esaf cafia cafia then you know you for pleasure that's what it is fruits the abish created we don't need fruit you can live on bread as the Russians but real bread not the way we refine the bread and take anything value make it poison bread you can live on bread no they made this this became a new stick in the last 20 years what do they call it sour sourdough bread now the sourdough bread has become the same junk that it's no longer the real thing in the beginning real yeast got lazy so you charge more money and you make the same junky bread became commercialized finished ice you can live on bread but the gave us fruit so apparently the does want us to have pleasure between no no don't do it don't don't enjoy so which is it so which is it huh which is it it's both how can it be both how can it be both how can it be both so so you know the this you've learned this before there's two there's two perspectives one perspective is me don't be if it's enjoy it Hashem said meat is eat ask fruit is tasty eat not a scy enjoy made it for you I have a a a modern Orthodox friend we learned tiny for many years so he brought me up sayi that came up in the tiny class he gets very upset when he hears about people not enjoying gmas he's a wonderful man made the world for us to enjoy what's this business we not let enjoy the world it bothers him it bothers him the whole mus approach bothers him he happens to be an incredibly disciplined man he doesn't understand what laziness means and being overweight means and overeating means he doesn't understand those things so therefore he doesn't understand why a person can't just simply say if abish gave it to you enjoy because he's a by Nature a very disciplined person he's a hardworking man but some of us struggle with that but the says say don't be you know how far that goes go that a who separates from wine brings a a separated from wine or by the way could be a woman also brings a why cuz Hashem gave you wine to enjoy and you decided I'm not going to enjoy wine so you bring a carb for depriving yourself one of the abish pleasures it's only 12:00 right that's a false alarm right or somebody else's alarm okay yeah so so that's one perspective if they huh no wait wait wait wait wait wait let me finish let me finish what's the other side of the coin the other side of the coin is this p you know this also you want to be you want to be pure you want to be holy you want to be closer to make this is kosher I don't need it this is permitted I don't have to have it this fruit looks beautiful I don't need it so these are this is a contradiction in in one part of the tells you don't be from what's the best example what is the best example ofes anybody know very good that told Hashem said not to touch the tree and the knew that that was a lie all them decid to be you know like your teachers extra from paranoid he didn't trust his wife so he told you can't eat the fruit and you can't touch the tree so the pushes against the tree she touches the tree look you didn't die from touching it yeah you won't die from eating it either so Alo made a mistake he made a fence make a fence should not make a fence around the T so which is it and because he made a fence didn't realized that doesn't know what he's talking about she ate from the fruit she gave some of the fruit to him also and we all know what happened to the rest of our history because it is yeah but the the eating for the tree of nil it was going to happen okay don't feel bad about it was wanted it to Happ happen oh that we blame him and so on but it it had to happen it was part of the plan was going to make sure that we have to struggle it wasn't going to make it easy for us don't kid yourself but the way it played out was that was you're not supposed to be that's one point of view so how do you reconcile those two things how do you reconcile the world for me to enjoy plus if you want to be proper practice discipline have selfcontrol control and things that you desire you shouldn't have and so on and so forth right you all know the story withus was a very very big c this is a story breaks other words are do butas are probably not true unless you have a good source cuz they makeus sound like a clownus was no clown he was a deep man very intelligent man was Madre he wasn't he wasn't a little kid who you know tripped over the steps and broke the egg cuz he forgot to come home when he went to the that's that's so ridiculous but there are true the true stories are in the and there story is in the and they ran out of the there was no food left so they went to the Butcher and they asked the butcher for more food for B and he was sleeping his wife gave them the lung which is like eating chewing gum without sugar lungs think about it the the didn't have too much money so when the he got certain parts of the animal as part of his salary he got the brain and he got the lungs which nobody wants to eat in the United States government they won't let you throw it in the garbage so she had to prepare long I don't know how you do it but you have to really really curate you have to beat it and you have to soak it it edible anyway she prepared a lung and she gave it to them to eat and then 10 minutes later she comes running in and she says the lung I gave you is today I gave you the wrong one what happened in between the time that she gave them the lung and she came to L was Tove monus took the plate of L and he put in front of him I'm going to eat the G ofice and he put his hands around it this is mine and they said take a piece and pass no no it's mine anyway he held on to the lung he would let anybody have and the the people got nervous so he started to pull and he didn't let so when he couldn't stop them from taking it away pick he got up and started walking around so they started chasing him no became a fourth grade classroom he's holding the ler they're chasing him anyway they cornered him so he threw the whole thing in the garbage don't kid yourself but this is how the story is written so they said him what's this and they put him on the table and they gave him petch we have food from take it away from us is about the food that's the boys they'll tell you anyway after they finish giving his licking she runs in again and said husband told you she needs stay oh we didn't touch it and now they turned back to a second time said whoa whoa whoa only Reb do this kind of thing and they hit him a second time for but they hit him different the second time than the first time the guys giving him the wax were different people and the amount of pain the wax had was less didn't mind the first beating he didn't mind the second beating he would push it he saved them all from eating and they said since when said you become no it's says it was trust me it was I tried that didn't work for me but the explanation that he gave was when they brought in the lung I wanted it so much and the Al said to me in my first anything which you truly truly desire don't need it if you really really really want it don't need it so when that lung came in I desired I was Lusty for that little lung you have no idea but I saw how much you wanted it I said none of us should e it I threw it in the garbage and he saved them from eating so that's the answer the made the world for pleasure pleasure is a good thing it it's part of who we are it makes us better and what you said I want you to know that in the olden days they used to say that when you learn T and you enjoy it it's a problem our says if you learn T and you don't enjoy it you didn't really learn it you have to enjoy it yeah the proof that you understand I no this myself the proof that you understood a piece of titas that you away happy it gives you pleasure if you learn something in T and you feel frustrated you didn't understand so there's a place in y for pleasure but there's not a place in to become a slave to pleasure and that's the line when the pleasure helps you serve the abish it's a positive thing when the pleasure makes you crazy when it intoxicates you when it takes you makes you weak I I have a weak I have a lot of weaknesses trust me I'm not going to tell you all of them because it's not good that's not good with my Public Image with my private image but I have a weakness for food I like to eat and I like to eat bad food I'm on a diet if you noticed I'm on a diet I have to be in a diet because otherwise I take cholesterol medication it's not like I'm a big sadic because I want to look good for the pictures it's because the doctor said either you lose weight or you take cholesterol medication I figured okay I don't mind take CL medications but my wife doesn't so I lost a little weight I have a diet it's called intermittent fasting it's supposed to eat and I break the diet from time to time but I'm not bad believe me trust me I'm not bad so Thursday night I left Friday to Pittsburgh so Thursday night 12:30 at night open the freezer was a beautiful day Nish a frozen day Nish who does this belong to my wife says you want to eat this now you want to eat this now I said yeah I do anyway I didn't eat it it was a big nest I put it back in the freezer and then at 1:00 in the morning half an hour I said you know I eat that day i' proba be up till three when you when you're my age you guys can eat as much as you want almost but eat I eat one cookie for an hour I have no brain it's Mish that way and I still eat the cookie why cuz I'm an idiot so this is what the t is teaching usfia is not punitive is cafia really it's it's a wonderful thing es cafia is self-control now imagine you lived in a country where there wasn't enough food P not enough food I was in such a country I visited Russia 35 years AG wasn't enough food wasn't enough food see eat you live in a country like I there's so much food to be had the best thing we could do for ourselves is say no you don't you had enough stop eating stop eating it's it's hard to do if you have bad eating habits like I do you you eat until you're plotting you know and then you feel sick why' you eat so stop you should have stopped before I know but it looked so good and I didn't feel full you know that's all the explanations for why you do it scaffy is a good thing so it's an interesting balance and it plays a part in other words you want to be closer to the you need to own yourself you want to be close to Hashem you have to have self-control cuz you want to be close to you have to use your brain the way you want to you have to also not use your brain in ways that you don't want to you have to use your heart the way you want to you have to not use your heart in ways that you don't want to you want to be in control of your body when you sleep and how much you sleep and you want to feel clean and if you overeat you eat the wrong Foods it's a big cycle it's a mess so scaf when you hear from your teachers aafia means you're supposed to suffer but the truth of the matter isaf supposed to suffer is scaf you mean you're supposed to make yourself into a maximum person with a clear head and a strong heart and not a belly that's distracting him or her because it's so full it's SCF is a framework for I I hate to use a psychological term because this I'm not speaking psychology religion for Healthy Living it says that the reason forap is it's interesting I think it's around this time of year maybe the reason for said that whatever you want you shouldn't have and the reason b means what does ta mean anybody lust not lust desire lust right I translate as weakness because that's what it is you walk into the are a problem why it's after hours you ready ate it's you sit around for a long time and the food is saying just have one just sitting on the table just have one you know what's gonna happen if you have one and it sits there you're talking to your friends and you're talking you're hanging around you're so happy for your friend to became engaged and the C are saying just need one that's all just eat one they put the food on you know what's going to happen if you eat one you can eat up the whole bowl and then you're going to feel sick so you go to the next de got the next bow eat those ones up also at least that's what happens to me I don't know maybe you guys have a lot of self-control so T says says teach yourself self-control teach yourself no because the better you have the ability to control yourself the more able you are to again I'll say the psychology to live a meaningful life the more able you are to connect to that's but aaf is only that way if you choose it not if somebody else forces you I'm not going to let you eat candy because I want to do aafia I'm doing aafia for you that's not es cafia es cafia means teaching yourselves the lesson of self-management of self-control so you have this balance on the one hand you don't need it on the other hand they created this world for us to enjoy and it's true created every it's not on that page the game at the end of where it says on trees did you go out into the crown height streets there's about four trees that actually are supposed to have fruit not a single one of them has any fruit but don't tell nobody they fruit trees and if you see the blossom you can make a make payday and beautiful fruit and beautiful trees to give people pleasure and that is you understand it's what about that's the answer is very important but the reason for thisf is and pleasure is important the reason for the pleasure is a a real example that we can all relate to is idea of nice clothes right says used to say that clothing are called covered says used to call clothing honor because you feel differently when you're dressed up than when you're not dressed up it's human nature if a person puts on nicer clothing they feel nicer about themselves a person puts on not such nice clothes they feel it's a fact now it shouldn't be that way but it is that way so this is the the other side one side of the coin is you want to do the you want to make vows you want to make fences so you shouldn't get carried away with tus and the other side of the coin is it's enough but the T prohibited if it's allowed then you should okay so in our lives we have a little bit when you eat bread for bread and which is there's two there which celebrates the fact that gives us food to Keep Us Alive there creates things that are just for pleasure and a person has to figure out what's the balance between two other words we have to work so hard we got to do we got and we're not all to talk for heaven's sakes with 48 Hours you got to say till him five times why be good year they should eat bread the trees but the tree was created for me didn't make beautiful fruit so there should be more trees fruit that people should enjoy that that's what it says in Sid that's what says in says in is the day where we're judge for how much pleasure we're going to have or how well we're going to manage our pleasure interesting huh very interesting very interesting and the balance is this the balance is this for a person to be indulgent it always ends bad it's true it always ends bad you can enjoy life as much as you want you don't become a better person cuz you have more things and you enjoy them you become a better person cuz you own them and they don't own you right the cell phone can either be the ultimate emancipator or the ultimate incarcerator this phone can make you free cuz you can communicate with the whole world and you can look up any G you want and any you want and anything by the way I found a few things that Google does not able to find all the things that I need to find Google can find me he's an anti-semite or maybe doesn't work after 1:00 I needed a few m m yesterday I couldn't find them I typed a hundred different ways it could be an amazing thing and it huh Hebrew I typed in Hebrew what do you I typed in words and they said no spit it out I don't know what you're talking about and then it's so also be a prison it can make you a slave you sit there on your phone and you can't miss out another message and it's so who makes that determination who decides whether this is going to help me or going to imprison me and the answer is I do I do and the way I do is I figure out the correct balance between you have to make fences cuz if you don't have fences if you don't control your life your life will run away with you people get crazy pleasure we live in a age people as much as we think they tell you in the newspaper it's a terrible time to be alive and people are suffering so much the poor people alive today have more food to eat than rich people had 200 years ago it's really true but the world is terrible are terrible such a terrible ter America is a terrible terrible terrible country you come from a different country you come here legally you get sick you go to the hospital you get free medical care but it's a terrible country it's really really terrible it used to be so much better right what was better that if you were sick you died why there was no doctor and finished end of story but no it's terrible it's terrible but in our world our weakness our Achilles heel is Indulgence we want to enjoy it Want to Have Fun want to enjoy it it's a good thing but it's only good if it if it makes you a better person not if it makes you into into a into a veritable animal about a person who just wants to enjoy himself as a as a human being and as a human being he becomes a slave to all this nonsense and that's the balance between someone had a hand raised talk loud like are we actually judged that's what it says that's I modm yeah how much pleasure we're going to have or the tree are the tree was created for you so you told me he was being judged are we talking about just fruits or we talking about in general trees all trees so what do you do with what you eat your heart out be miserable you're doing that anyway you don't need help me with that my job is not to ruin your day my job is make you think what you do with that information we have Customs we have Customs the first custom is no and it's a Thursday so it's like a really good one if we a Tuesday W it would be a Pity two ah I say four pages I hate those pages so that's the first thing then you're gonna go and get new fruit and of course your mother's gonna buy boxer which you can't even bite into I don't know what this boxer situation is um and you get a new fruit you can make a you you think about it I don't think you have to do anything crazy I just I want you to understand what I am telling you says the I'm not making it up I'm not that smart there's a lot there's a lot there's a lot of my and they talk about different themes and this is one of the themes they talk about that this is do with pleasure and the interface between these two you in the middle of your question yeah so is is it a CER for pleasure like how much pleasure we're going to have this year or like for the trees how much fruit they're going to get I think both the primarily I mean there's different kinds of pleasure the pleasure we don't only have from fruit pleasure we have from meat and chicken right when I don't know Al Whatever it is but the idea is the idea is that there's a day with judges what he put in his world just for the purpose of it's it's interesting concept made Fruit not so they should be seeds there's other ways of doing it that people should enjoy that's what this day is yes how doia how do you like um like what's about like processing about having SC and how you get the point ofia without getting carried away you talk to her that's two that's first question you have one second do you talk to Second do you listen to her one two three I don't know you I'm not your it's very very individual it's very very individual but I know for my life how important it is to tell myself no you know I I tell to the girls but it's really somebody that I Le my own life not that I'm good at telling myself no by the way but I say you will learn over the course of your long life that's one of the sweetest words in the English language is the word n o and it's never sweeter than when you tell it to yourself it's never sweeter than when you tell it's you have no idea how real that is so you have to figure out where's the escaf in your life not to punish yourself not to be holy P to be a mench to be in control of you it's it's such a wow it's such a simple idea but it's such a wow idea it really is I want to move on to another point I want to think about this okay on a higher level this whole question of and the about what you need to survive that hasm gave us for pleasure so specifically we we're someplace in the middle right if a person came to me and said I'm only eating bread and water right theba would not be happy about that I want to tell something very interesting a man came to theba who was a vegetarian and he wanted to get theba to Advocate against eating meat there's different reasons people are vegetarians part of the reason is because they don't want to indulge the gar says listen to this people for this you need a drum roll that's not in that's in the anybody speak Hebrew an ignor is not allowed to eat meat why all for themselves the co guys who don't work they also want the best food who works like a dog has to eat bread and water what's the what's the if you can't Elevate the meat then the meat is going to drag you down so if you're the meats can drag it down don't it now last time I checked eating all the meat the only people doing scaf the ones who don't eat it it's not ironic so I don't know too many people who follow that it's not a but it is a if you are you shouldn't have but I don't think in Our Generations the right thing to do is you shouldn't need any tyus I think it'll be wrong it's unsustainable this the low end of the line is if you do isfi and it makes you depressed bad idea if you do ISF and you're you feel bitter and angry because of it then you shouldn't do scfi that's the low end and there's a high end but that's a for sure if you undertake a certain discipline a certain self-control and because of it you're nervous or you're angry or in a bad mood that's the proof that it's not for you so to say you shouldn't enjoy it but on the other hand there is a there is a place where we say you know I will be happier if I would only eat I mean girls and boys have different AAS but yeah for a girl it's half a slice of pizza versus a whole slice of pizza for a boy it's three slices or a whole pie you know what I'm saying okay it's six slices of pizza but is and the person no I don't need this not all probably self control P it's not good for me that's aafia and it gives you Mastery over yourself it does you end up sleeping better you end up sleeping less you have a clearer head during the day and you could serve Hashem you could learn T you could understand your head works but the pizza's beckoning it's right in front of you and the guilt of being uncomfortable because you overate is right now it's academic until you finish eating the pizza and then you wait five minutes and then it kicks in you know what I'm saying but this is the balance right but on a higher level so so this man came to the rebba with the idea that theb advocate vegetarianism it's a true story and I think he was a vegetarian not on health grounds he was a vegetarian on moral grounds about killing animals there's a whole movement like that and and there's something beautiful for it you can't say it's nothing even though they're cucko because they want you to follow them with their cabal just like your teachers want you to listen to them with cabal they want you not meet because they said it doesn't work that way but they can be militant and they can uh spray paint your fur coat and they can call you a murderer all kind of other things cuz they really mean well and in America if you really mean well then you're a good person even if you're hurting other people cuz you really really mean well you really really mean it really mean it I really really care about the trees and the animals so this person came to the Reb and proposed that the Reb should Advocate Reb told him that not eating meat is for for special people the I think it brings the mentioned to him that the he didn't eat meat in very special people didn't eat meat for the spiritual reasons not only because they andway he walked out this man the storyed in the early 1960s and the surrounded him and they asked him what did the say say he repeated him said that he asked the Reb about vegetarianism and the Reb said to him the to gave meat people should eat it after the mble you know before the mble eating meat was murder after a mble eating meat was allowed if you allowed you should have it the idea not eating meat 40 years later that man published a book and described and he writes in his book that I went into the and I proposed him that they people vegetarians and the agreed with me he remembered it the way he wanted it to remember it now why do I believe the and not him because the wrote it down right away they wrote it down immediately that day and it wasn't they weren't personal they wrote down that so and so we know who his name is walked out the Deb's room and he said they discussed with theb vegetarianism and I asked theb what does theb think about said only for people are supposed to eat meat and then that man many years later wrote a book and he remembered what the reab said the way he wanted the reab to say and the rebba said something different unfortunately the that's what got the truth so it creates a bit of a problem a dilemma so of course you can say what do you mean I was there I said I know but you told us then before you had a chance to reconstruct the ne's words and you said that the said that not eating meat is so in our lives it's a very oh I got no time left it's individual I just want to finish with this point what's the Ultimate model for these two ideas that mean that's poll one enjoy the physical pleasure what's what's the ultimate measure of that the answer is that the biggest for them made this food to be to be enjoyed so in other words in Practical terms in things we are aad if there's an area of T that you don't have that you can enjoy in things we are in the things that we're lustful to that we have weakness toward ours that's what we have okay I'll see you when I see [Music]