Chanukah candle lighting for school girls by Rabbi shulem ber Levin, 5783

the mother says in Shabbos a the main was that each house the father of the house should Light One Candle each night the ending tomorrow says each one of the house lights one can go foreign then the first night Delights one candle then he adds one candle out each night till date night is eight candles that's how we do so in the eighth night each one of the family lights eight candles so it comes out sometimes it's dozens and dozens of the candles says tasters that's not says if you yourself want to light candles not your family members then you add one candle each night but if one ever one of the family lights candles and then in the eighth night it's going to be eight candles for each one you'll never know it if it is because there's a lot of people oh because it's date night so therefore even if you are you don't need to do that each one of the house should have eight candles and that's how it's past continual let's say let's see what the Chicago says how many candles do you have to light the Lila Horizon because if there is a lot of the Bison each one would light a lot of candles it's going to be a balagan and you wouldn't know what it's for we do done that we don't do that we each one of the family members The Boys Light the first night one candle and second night two candles so if there was eight people in the house so the eight night will be 64 candles even though taste Fest does not explain that way even though we they don't pass like that but we do that why because that's the rambam we just explained how The Taste Fest is learning is not learning like that as we see in the rambam Hilfiger yes each one of the family members adds one candle every night and that's why that's how the Ramon is that we don't do like you say the intimate of Rich are in alaf shiv based after the dinner it says there are more the yes embryo the call so that's why we do it we do like the ambam express actually it's very strange usually the rambam brothers lived in Spain in Morocco and then in Egypt Texas was in France we'd ask another usually are passionate like tastefulness here we see something strange foreign that they are not adding for each one a candle there are more baskets like the rambam which is asphalic so the Tas in topheres points out this point that we find here something strange foreign but that's how it is here so we are made like the rambam that each one of the family members adds one candle every night so what is for us important this so we are speaking now about girls sliding girls are not lighting they rely on their father in the house why it says if I'm a logging the last line habonim the sons it's enough that her husband or her father is lighting candles for her right there does it mean that the corner was made only for boys and not for girls no that's not the case let's see what the gamara says again the Gamora says in Shabbos so the dentist for them just like for men so why are they not lighting and they are lying on their father so according to thesis everything is clear because Jason says that even Amah mahadrin only the father light scandals and ever it's enough for everyone so they are relying on there father just like cases explained just like the pascals even though the boys Anna had them to do each one one additional candle because it's for them so they want to do it in the best way so they do it like their numbers just like their Vegas Shabbos that we discussed last time that this is a mystery that girls are mainly trying to have the screws of doing that another voice just the same thing is it's mainly for the boys but not mainly for the girls the free of of nearest Heineken of dares Chavez is for the boys and the girls the same thing making it is just that the girls want to have a snooze of native sharpness because it's part of funny so they are doing it in the best way the boys are relying on what the mother of the house lights for them same thing is by chronic it opposite way each one of the boys wants to have his personal partition participation in there consumer Denise and the girls are relying on their father and not only it's the Avid according to this is relying on that they are lying on their father so what does the gemara says it's their obligation to that's for a girl the transform where she lives and it's her obligation to lie the candle Hanukkah just like for boys she can say that it's not our Mitzvah the kimono says that ladies are just like men and in the same time in hog him he says for themselves they rely on their father foreign she is relying on the husband but she has the obligation so if she rents a room she learns in school and she rents her room so it's her obligation to light candles and if there's two girls in that they run together room then we have the other Gamora that we have already discussed last time that your mother says that when I was in school in Shiva I gave a puta to participate to have a should visit I couldn't lie for myself I had to remind them on the owner but I I need the participation so I gave him a puta to participate the same thing would be here if there is two girls that rent apartment or a few girls in the apartment or a room they have obligation to light Khan again candles just like somebody else they are not separate they are not Potter from the here for the of the midst of nerus Hanukkah so what does it mean that one girl has to give a few cents to the other girl after light she should have a partition participation in that candle just like herb Sarah said that I gave I gave a few pennies to the owner of the house that he should participate me in the candles actually she doesn't have to give any several day we already discussed then Shabbos and chronicas the same Demi so when the same thing is also by Shabbos when the bahren they have they have to give they have to have participation in the characters that the lady of the house is sliding so he says he should give a Pluto Martin one of the girls with lights the candle of Hanukkah has to give to the other candle to pick it up into part of it but they both have the application of lighting hanuki candles and they don't have to give a Buddha if she gives it to her to pick it up and to be there so now it belongs to both of them and one like one gliding the candles for both of them what do you mean give it to her to pick up because when I give it to you and you become yours when I give it to when I pick it up for you it doesn't help he has to be change of hands so you have to pick it up and then it becomes parallel it becomes yours but then it's not then it's not mine anymore I gave it to her no you gave her participation like Donald Trump says she actually Val advice so now we are both owners foreign again so she lights for me too so I don't have to give any more because it's my house somebody someone likes candles already according to that when two girls went apartment why do they have to light candles let them tell their parents to get them packed in the candles that they're fighting at home and then it's um already like I'm lighting I'm having a participation in the candles that is in my house not in my dorm just like abzada says foreign this diminutive someone in my house lights candles for me perhaps later it helped why did it help because I'm the owner of the house so when she likes candles um part of it belongs to me let's see what the router rabbit says in semen race summer gamer the second line foreign was the owner of the house so that was enough but if it's only a girl she's not the owner of her on her own house so when there is candles he still doesn't belong to her they'll have to get the candles to somebody that should pick it up and should be there for her but even this is not enough when obsera he lied on the candles in his house he had candles hanuki candles where he was at they lit the candlestown so then it's enough if someone in his house had candles for him and his sister Kansas here but if he doesn't have the let's say a girl is traveling and she's going to be on the trained all night so she'll tell her father have me in mind and see that I should have a participation in the candles that you like Hanukkah at home she should do so if she is traveling the whole night but that's not enough we see foreign so in any case if there's two girls in a dome in apartment that they rent they have to light your candles but walking by the candle so she could give head to here to pick it up there participation in that and then she has sliding but she can't avoid it what daylight in the house is not enough because where she is she needs to see the lighting of the candles if he was away because he where he was delighted so he saw the candles but it's not his so in the beginning he had to give participation but after in his house they are lighting candles from his own candles so lighting for candles for him from his own money is already in the house here where he is he says sliding candles so both together enough so therefore if she is staying in a in a dome it's not enough for the light from here in the house yes if there is no other choice let's say she's starting on the train all night so she will ask her parents at least they should light for her but she doesn't see the candles she has to see them being lit yeah as they're as someone is Middle letting them or I don't know maybe not maybe it's enough if you see the light to to let that let them lighting yeah right because I I always thought I have to be home when my father likes to cancel it certainly better but if you settle on the lighting in the candles it's maybe also enough for what it says permission we don't have to pay to we don't have to give money to our father to be no but your father has to have time so he has to give it to someone to pick it up for you you should have to participate in participation in that candles that's the yes made an equivalence between um many males want to like living I really because they feel like that's their source to girls going to like candles that seems much more strict for women Arabic it's actually mahadron while many girls letting candles is completely based on a Heritage yes so usually they find a way out and we'll discuss now what is their way out and what's the better way but the best way first we discuss the main Tacoma The Immortal says girls also have and they they have mercy family says that they're lying on their father or their brothers whatever but if they are in a dorm it doesn't help because they have to see a light and they have to participate in the right so the best thing is that one of the girls likes candles and she gives it to the Hollywood to pick it up and she has a participation in that that's the best way because at this point they're not really like in the family unit because they can rely their father but as an individual wise their friend like it's not 100 for their friend to life for them if the girl that's one of the second night too even a decent says that you don't have to each one so we go by that so the girls rely on that even without it there it's a with the mental issue basically if they want to be mahada according to thesis it's only a Hindu and they are not looking for special Hindu so they're relying on their father and that's what it says as if I would know him that that's the meaning they should rely on that I don't know if it was a letter it was like it it was definitely from the river and it was on second and hug and that why why does this mean I've exist I said women it's because um so why daughters why should they be part of like more than a son and um I think everyone just they don't want to be different than their mother so if their mother's not lighting they don't want to lie it could be but at least we have they have to be yoitza they had they they are not doing the mahadre but they didn't didn't have to be the answer so if they're in that house there was no problem the problem is when they stay in a dome then they can't they rely on their father then they have to light candles that's amazing today could be why wouldn't right yeah when I was in the door we gave up like I lit the candles because I would like do it at my house also but then like the girls gave me a puta but I don't know if that's like the game guess what they if if they are where you light the candles yeah yeah um why was everybody was there his wife like it because she was alone at home he got married he's here we continue learning initiative and Caleb and she stayed alone home so she had the light candles I think he should lay in his dorm and she would be like to him but if he is Lighting in his dorm and in the house nobody is sliding they have to they have to let the candles in the house but let's be fake usually now seminar girls or they do many places they go to the principal's house and it gives them latkes or something like this and he lights candles for all of them why does it help it helps because they if since she gives them latkes so they are his guests no one there his guests so they can rely on the candle lighting of the principle just like Shabbos the boys they never liked candles for themselves if they go to eat by someone they are his guests and they are lighting their candles so they're relying on the candles of the of the of the lady of the house so same thing here they go to this principle that he lights candles and he gives them something to eat so they become his guests and then they rely on him like just like when they are home but this is not so simple it's a complicated way to rely on that so we'll discuss today what's the what's behind it well we'll see the best way is just like we said performing in the in the dome one girl should hide all in the dome could be in the in the dining room if there's a dining room in the in the in the school in the seminar so one girl could like the candles for everybody that's the best way but if they're lying I'm going to the principal will discuss the details it's not so simple let's go back to the camera says and that's why had to participate with the Proto foreign a guest if a guest comes to my house he also needs to if it's been the girls of the house then to my base each base means it includes all dignity but if the girl is just a guest so the mother says Russia that a guest also has to participate in the in the candle lighting so she would also have to give a photo we don't do that because we don't do that and Shabbos too when Shoppers are in Shoppers we go to somebody else's house so the boys are not tight in the campus and the reason is because yes Russia says Arsenal is a guest but wrong links from Russia government is foreign if you are a guest you don't have to asanoi is not that you are a guest so now it means that you stay there and you have your own food if you're staying in a dome in a hunting apartment each girl has its own her own food one is not a guest by the second one that's what we discussed till now that each one has to have a participation in the nerganica but if you are a guest and it's good enough that's how we rely The Voice rely on that and sharpness and that's why the seven against when they go to their to their principle that she that he likes for them yes he says so but it's still not clear because even when he says that means that you eat by them not now you're someone you always eat by them the same thing that says in racial gimmel the line before the list I will emu song not if you just come for a meal but we are a line given on that even if you come for one meal just like we see the boys from Shabbos the boys for shelves when they call to eat by someone they don't like the candles they rely on them because they are Israel so that same thing to get also have a lying on when they're going to the principle if she gives them something to eat latkes or cookies or whatever the coming guest and then they relying on his candle lighting what's the next candles for a girl besides to see candles if you are in a separate place it's obligation for you to light candles if you have let's say home by yourself the father went away you have to light candles that's why I'm saying his wife she was homophone she has to light candles if she is in a place that she sees the candles then she needs participation then she gives a few pennies or he she picks it up to have participation in the candles that's if she sees the candles but here when they rely on the guest they just becoming like the family members of the principal because they are guests how do they become the guest because they had to eat a lot killer cookie it's very strange to say that by eating a lot of cookie you're becoming you are their guest but girls are usually relying on that because they don't want to go light candles for themselves they never do only Shoppers they do so therefore they rely so they say that's also enough it's not simple we have too much both say it does not help not because you're not a guest even if you would go to the principal's house and your light candles there you would not be it you could start your house issue base has to be your place yes Shabbos candles it's because it says because the house meets the person all right not by Girls by by girls at the seminar is born again usually if you have a castle and where did the light candles so the light in the world says the Tas and the Morgan of Rome it does not it's not your house you are here now to eat to have her husband to have a meal but that's not your house [Music] boys a family is going to their parents for Miller and Hanukkah so they want to light the candles by the parents house he say no it's not your house let's see what they say let's see what the Magna promises and let's see where the task is that you have to light the candles views that you are always eating here so it becomes your house by temporary you eat by a friend's house so hard like the boys that they say because this is not your house the same thing things says that does that's not your house so the problem in going to the principal's house and to become his guests that when he gives you a cookie even if he gives you a full meal not the problem is that you are not a guest you may be a guest but that's not your house you have to light the candles in your house so they say it doesn't help when you go to a friend's house it's very difficult to do that because let's say bakasana what would we do if between the capital of or between the hoopa and the soda they should call each one should go home light candles and then come back to the home usually it's hard for people to do that so they light candles where the Hassan is says the Morgan of arm and the touch doesn't help it's not your house I wouldn't help that that's what they're eating they're eating now but not always so it's not you become in your house when you eat one time if you eat one time in a restaurant it becomes your house it's not your house so says the Morgan of Rome foreign you can't light the candles by your friend same thing says the task that she is you are here for a few hours and then you go back home this doesn't become your house ancients forever there is no sin common sense to say that you should light candles and like not the basic because it's not your house so it's very difficult to do it the proper way if it is a person or if you go to a friend for a meal and Hanukkah or anything else it has to be in your apartment where you stay over the dining room where you eat usually but it's hard so the people are relying on the fact that when he gives me a cookie to eat I become his guest I want to give him a cookie tourist that becomes my house which is very not common does say it's not good but it's difficult that each girl each apartment should light candles for themselves or they should all come together in the dining room and one should light candles for our own so they're lying in that but it's not simple foreign but what if their parents at home like for them like a magnet then the candle and then they just see them on the ball but I don't know I don't know but but because when you're seeing the whole probably has to be also in your house I don't know it could be it would be enough because it's daylight for you and your house and you see somewhere else could be it's not the lighting in the hole even have a bracha if it's no one's out if you light in somebody's house which is not your house you cannot say that's what the drum and the Morgan apartment does say unless someone says different but usually there's relying usually on the government does unless there is simple or says real places that he proves not like what they say so usually we rely on them and they both say the same thing that they say means where you live not where you go to East to eat for a meal or to to for two hours so to do it the proper way is difficult could be your way is correct could you seal the candles and the lighting for you so they have to pick it up but I don't know most of seminars you should know better than me don't usually seminars go to the principal no so what do you do he comes to the Seminary to the dining room that's good that's good if if if sometimes oh if he eats them sometimes then it could be considered as his not when it comes one time no one in his house and one in his house and one there is only for those that light candles in the show cancel the show this is then you go home you light again with the brother but if you decide that this is your place so in the house one of your sons could light oh your wife yes that's that's Papa that's that's no if he's sometimes there there is no problem it's not being the lady yet they're not the answer for the house it should do it just like when you light in the shoe you still have to lighten the house same thing if you light in the street you still left it's like a shoe therefore some some when they lighten their street they that mean her before like it should become like a Shoal and in the shoulders that you could light with the Brotherhood what's the point of lighting in the show like in general I mean obviously no it says it says that the building is different than in the house in sure we don't lie the candles in the door collided by the by the call by the wall Ensure we don't like the candle slow lower than 10. we will hide it high and there's some other differences in show you always like the cancer they should stay in the and the length from mizrach to myref why is it on this because when you're doing the show we want to come remind ourselves of the candles and the Visa makers which is not only to the the meaning of and the issue basic just like the best therefore all these three things are like can be some English amazing she used to be on the wall when you come in and in the left not like this so therefore we do that in the show too and the dorms right on the downside of the show in the land and it's higher so therefore it's a separate Tacony it should be something to remind us of the candles itself not only of the mess of the letters but if if he goes if the principle goes to light candles in the dining room for all the girls then hit his place so he creates it with that he can say about her then at home only on his wife always one of his sons so they only started lighting a Monera in shows after the hormone yeah much later it's at the condo much later than this tablet yeah they didn't do it right then