building the third temple in Jerusalem: The process of redemption and the coming of the messiah.

[Music] some welcome to practical spirituality here in the old city of jerusalem Venetia torah over looking at Temple Mount just wondering if you can hear me from that microphone over here you hear the microphone I'm tapping it oh great tell me if you want me to tap it in and in the future I could tap it any time let me make a breath on my water both I thought I know I know chuckling you big boy yeah all right so just please if you're if you're watching this on Facebook share it if you're watching it on and like it obviously and you can get it to land every time I go live if you're watching on YouTube please subscribe and if you're watching this and listening on tour anytime subscribe as well and and if you're interested in more people hearing these words during the media club yom tov media club calm yom to media here we go so so we're holding right now in the nine days and these are the nine days before the destruction of the temple of jerusalem which is literally right outside this window you can see the destruction of it and and we're in a particularly broken state right now when a broken state and and not all of you are necessarily feeling so broken which is really good because I mean I spend like the majority of my life not in a broken state but I help a lot of people in a broken sane I want them not to be in a broken state and I do my best to keep people from being broken and I kind of become an expert in helping people repair themselves but today we're gonna talk a little more about embracing brokenness because that because and in a way we really are quite broken and and it's and it's a time to be aware of that and be acutely can acutely present to just how broken we are and perhaps one of the best ways to do that is to go through the priority list of God you know God has a priority list there's a party list of God yeah it's uh you might grab me that sitter up there right there there's a article sir okay so you'll see there's a party list it's the brown one there there's a priority list that God feels are you know top priorities and we actually repeat this list three times a day and and I think you'll get a sense of how broken we are if you just hear the list real quick yeah I know a lot of you didn't want to come in here and find out how broken you are which is you know tough luck you know it's like get into the times you know literally right behind me 200 yards behind me I would show you but I think I would the cable would come out of the wall that's keeping this phone going is the Temple Mount and it's broken and the Jewish people are are extremely broken I mean we're extremely broken like embarrassingly broken I mean I I have to say that I spend a lot of my time a bit humiliated humiliated as a Jewish person like just bring just a random example is politically politically the State of Israel has been you know built by secular people who are not interested in God not interested in Torun I understand value systems that are eternal and they're not interested that stuff there they're really quite socialist and and kind of atheist by nature and you know that that's who founded this place that's who built this place that's who runs this place I mean that's that's what's going on now that's a good example of broken right that's pretty broken to have to have that be our situation does that mean we all don't have gratitude what do you think gratitude or no gratitude I wouldn't say gratitude on three one two three attitude yeah gratitude comes into play here we've got highways we got hospitals we've got yeah army you know defending that there's uh even the the the people you'd call cooks in the government have dedicated their entire lives to give the continuity of our people and and even though you probably think they're all like always bending over for Western Allies you know you know meaning you you since they have no spine but you should know if there was an existential threat they would just say to hell with America literally they would just say to hell with America if we an existential threat and us France Britain or any of those other allies out there wanted us to kind of lay down and die even the biggest yellow-bellied Israeli leaders which is all of them would suddenly their belly would switch colors and they would they would fight like like lions and we ruthlessly - and they would even preempt it they would even preempt it with that even they wouldn't wait around for the existential threat to send its first threat they would actually just get the job done and let America you know work it out work out the aftermath so so so again there are wimps and how do we know they're wimps who can give me the biggest example of what wimps our government are nope no takers come on it's like the most obvious thing in the world you have to remove the board in the wall behind me and know how do you see what wimps our government are imagine your local shul imagine your local school gets god forbid burned down by arsons arsonists and and you're like yeah yeah you're put together a whole fund and yeah we're gonna rebuild the shul we're gonna make it even nicer we're gonna like do this whole thing and then the local city government official comes to your door and says we decided that uh we're not rebuilding your synagogue like you can't rebuild your synagogue you gotta jump even leave it like that he's gonna leave it okay the synagogue of a city like the Jewish people is a place of Prayer what do mean we're just gonna leave it you don't just leave it you can't leave it you got to build it and you'd never know when whatever to consider that even remotely normal and this is just being citizens of a Gentile city but here we are citizens of a Jewish state with a Jewish government in a Jewish army and we leave our Temple Mount in ruins and we have a mitzvah every single day to rebuild it every single day according to Rambam we are supposed to be heading over there with hammers and nails and saws and drills and and you should be like you should have like a bunch of two-by-fours on your on your shoulder heading over to the Temple Mount to get the job done now our government was concerned that it might not be so well politically received to do that you know there might be a couple angry Muslims does the rhumba mention that you don't rebuild the temple cuz there's angry Muslims I didn't notice that little phrase there you know who's who's running this place you understand like so yeah first of all all of this should have been done a long time ago when the world was going on we had our second chance in 67 we blew that chance and that was the big chance was 67 when all the Arabs ran and Arabs no more Wars you either win it you kill the other side or you lose and you get killed except they were fighting the Jews and when the Jews win they may say oh come on back and come back to your homes and let's all be friends and like let us build schools for you in the hospitals and like you know they didn't realize what war with us it was like so they actually emptied the place the place was empty and and the government said come on back and and we've been going through hell ever since yeah and it would have been understood by the world now today it's a much bigger deal so it's a much bigger deal to just go rebuild the place anyway that's one example but there's another major example this is just another one that's just obvious is that with everything I just described of the leadership of Israel and obviously you know we're Jewish people are a tribe that does have certain faculties and and do believe in a creator and do believe in the prophecies and we believe in all the stuff that the state doesn't believe in so you would think that if we were having elections that every Jew every Jewish male with a yarmulke on his head and every Jewish female who's you know at least covering some of her body would be in absolute union unanimity in in who to vote for such that Torah would have some kind of traction in this that would be like the most obvious thing in the world you know that would be that would make sense right I mean don't we all have that in common that such that if there was an election and there would be for sure one candidate with his constituents and there would be a unanimous vote amongst all Sephardic Jews all Yemenite Jews all all Persian Jews all Ashkenazi Jews all acidic Jews all its waning Jews a full-on agreement amongst all of moroccan jews but what we see is the exact opposite is that is that the the votes torn to pieces because because everyone's looking for their slice of the pie and we are we are I don't even want to say these words but we're we're basically the same as the secular when it comes to when it comes to unity and our allegiance to Torah seems to make zero difference our allegiance to the prophecies our legions to God our value system makes a no difference when it comes to this and this is real real slicing of the pie of Israeli tax dollars that are not gonna hit everybody who thinks Judaism is important they're just not gonna hit hit the important matters of our country so anyway those are a couple examples of how broken we are on the local intermediate version but when we when we look into our three times a day prayer I think that we will also get that get that feeling I'm gonna switch straight to I'll do it really quickly is just the the mugging a vote is is just talking about our forefathers and and that our forefathers are the are the archetype for behavior and Abraham's for kindness and Isaac its caucus for discipline and and Yaakov is for kedusha and Torah and stuff like that okay this these archetypes are just you know like we're even that's people in this room er like we're like stretching to to somehow like meaning of like I don't know if Jacob were up there with ASA in heaven and they were both deciding like who is they were going through all of us in this room and they're like trying to decide who was whose is whose grandchild meaning are you a subs grandchild or you Jacobs grandchild in there they're just going through the mix like to see who and hope they kept the snapshot while you're in class right now and you hope it don't check the snapshot maybe in some other situations you can get in during the week or when you're out of Israel like situations you can be in but we can all be in full-on a sub situations no it's not that simple obviously meaning uh if I if I mountain-biking you know and I'm like racing down the mountains and all the muscles are flexing and I'm like you know I just you know slamming my bike down and down these hills of Jerusalem the I mean obviously a so it's gonna be like that one's mine and Jacobs be like he's actually mine but he's a bit of a hybrid yeah and then he's mine he's mine I mean they would have a tug of war over me you know because I'm kind of doing everything together but uh but a lot of us would have found ourselves in you know an ASIS court a lot of the time and so that's the beginning that's the first of the blessings as that allegiance this the second one has to do with with fixing things so it talks about it talks about resuscitation the dead I mean I'd be nice for super lost loved ones which is all of us supports the Fallen right there's people here who are in a fallen state and we at least know people in a fallen state heals the sick yeah there's hospitals filled with people right now and people deal with all kinds of illness releases the confined there are people in both literal confinement all the way to just you know constricted consciousness there's um whatever and then the last one is the sanctity of God which is you are holy your name is holy and the Holy Ones crazier every day is are we really in our holy state like are we really experiencing holiness and the answer is yes and no yes we're experiencing holiness and as much as we're dedicated to holiness and know we're missing huge amounts of what it takes to even be holy because just for example we don't have the red heifer that purifies the Kohen that we can actually do the stuff that that purifies us meaning like let's just say you blow it on Shabbos and you made a mistake on Chum it's just a mistake I know no one here would ever break Chavez purposely but if you accidentally broke Chavez so you're not so well right now and therefore you head to Jerusalem like like let's just say someone blew in on Shabbos I don't know what they what did they do they they poured hot water over leaves to make a tea and wind up cooking the leaves and there this blew it like I just poured hot water over leaves I just cooked cooked myself up tea now obviously they can't drink that tea so there are the teas out but they also will have to get to Jerusalem preferably as soon as possible and they actually bring a sheep to the temple and slaughter the Sheep you imagine if you had to slaughter sheep every time you blew it on Shabbos yeah it's like and by the way no one was blowing it on purpose no there was no such thing as blowing it on purpose because I mean that was just such a huge deal of it no one did anything on focus on showers it was only accidental and if someone did something accidentally they would they would just bring a sheep anyway we're missing that holiness the next is the Nexus for wisdom I know a lot of you came to this class to hear a rabbis speaker to hear me speak but I go to someone else and when I'm in his presence I'm kind of it's a bit humiliating to call myself a rabbi when I'm with him because because the the differential between his Tara and my Tara are demonstrated you in a Gentile and and whenever he talks about his Rebbe you sense the humiliation that he's currently called the Rebbe because if we had any idea who is Rebbe was it would be the distinction between a Jew and Gentile and his rep you felt the same way in his rep you felt the same in his revery about this so the first thing we're asking god for which of these is a whole list of God's kind of goals these are God's goals that we asked three times a day the first thing we're asking for is to get our heads on string hey we just need to get our heads on straight and and oh my gosh we there's so many times we're supposed to ask questions when we don't especially interpersonal stuff just this this last two weeks I witnessed a family crisis that was so much toxicity tuk-tuks nad toxicity knows no one knows for sure toxicity toxicity so much toxicity that people are hurt probably forever in a lot of the emails multiple people are hurt probably forever they'll probably never get over it now Hannah Hannah I've been more involved at the beginning I would have noticed that it was in three weeks that I noticed every three weeks this stuff comes up in different homes different families where things get like things get toxic and all of us carry something that Eckhart Tolle calls a pain body you know the possible use seminars are I call it the inner negative side that the new it's called the misery comfort zone but all of us carry a certain amount of pain inside of us and it feeds off other people's pain and in during the three weeks we're in the height of our pain and our pain can gather together with other people's pain and we can create a drama that that is so toxic that the that all kinds of people get hurt irreparably so and and therefore it's really important during the three weeks is to to keep it light until after the three weeks if it's really such a big issue that needs handling let it be handled after the three weeks but don't don't go into don't go into a major dramatic adventure with loved ones during the three weeks that's that's just not a good idea because everyone's paying bodies are at their height and paying bodies feed off of other people's playing bodies and you'll notice if you're in a grouchy hood you'll find someone grouchy to have a gripe with and you'll move like you'll just love being angry at each other for a moment it could be a total stranger by the way you'll like magnetically find a grouch in your most grouchy state and that Grouch found you and and you're both gonna perfectly feed off each other and like who knows what you know road rage or something you know and anyway but this particular crash-and-burn drama that happened this last two weeks it literally was from the day that three weeks started had they asked a rabbi one question one question had they just sought the insight of a rabbi not me but I didn't have the I I was privy to the situation but I I didn't have the insight they needed only they needed someone big and had thick just gone in one big round by the way in the end someone did go to a big rap and in one line the whole thing was over but all the hurt is heard stuff like and there's and I know the nature of the hurt it's kind of the kind of hurt that an apology it's not gonna mean anything you know what I'm talking about like where someone said they someone said something that you know is like a real gut anger at that person and you could apologize for saying it but you're never gonna get out of the fact that they now know how you feel so what's the point already you know what's the point of apologize it's just gonna reopen things so it's better just to leave in it just you know pure you know just anger anyway so that's insight and all of us need to ask more just gotta ask don't make your own mistakes in life you know speak to someone who's answered this question a hundred times and you may think your questions unique but the same people were really good at answering questions from from past cases they also generally have killer instincts for fresh cases and so and nails have fresh eyes and they're also quite wise and they're also dedicated to God and also God knows that you put it up to them so they're now gonna have sea otter dish Maya you know the term see out the dish might means divine assistance cuz think about if you put it up to them the question now God's gonna send them the answer because you're kind of put it over you put it in his court and he doesn't know what to do but his instincts are gonna kick in straight from God for the right answer so that's the first thing is insight second one's pretty obvious when I there's been a lot of time in that and that's teshuva that that all of us have to do to show and if some of you think you're a fully observant can I remind you that the garments of your soul are thought speech and action so like you have actually have your actions worked out I'm not sure you have your speech work that you may have your speech very dad I'm not sure your thoughts are worked out you understand those are the garments that you wear in this world notice the garment said this is a different class I'm not gonna go into it but you send up your garments every night they can go to sleep which is a good reason to do tissue of it on your bed bed at your bedside like sit on your bed and like and do the four steps of Juba which are stops a regret commit and stop what you're doing which probably if you're already sitting on the edge of it you stopped say what you did to God regret what you did what does regret mean if I had the clarity then that I do now I would never have done it that's regret if I had the clarity then that I do now I wouldn't have done it that's regret and then commit and just I'm never going there again now you may go there again 24 hours later but the likelihood of yous not going there having done those four steps is much higher than ignoring those four steps now when we go to sleep at night we send the garments of our soul up and our souls garments go up and have a little judgement upstairs while we're sleeping and so it's a good idea to clean off your thoughts Beach in action it's also a good idea to keep your thought speech in action pretty clean during the day so that you don't have to do this whole process you know in any major way you know keep yourself keep so pretty clean idea but that's a Shuba and and just one more thing about chavez is that is that your clarity of purpose your clarity in your life is gonna be much stronger if you're clean with God you want to be clean with God and and if you're having trouble being clean with God you need better peers and if you don't live amongst good peers so then you have to put something on a scale the price of having good peers versus the price of not having good peers so meaning your soul's eternal and you say you know I mean people are like what do you want from me Manomet University of Arizona you know where's that in Phoenix or something I'm Phoenix Arizona like I'm like the only person I know who even believes in God you know and I'm in the middle University like what do you want from me and the answer is put it on a scale my soul is eternal your bodies in Phoenix you know you're in the wrong peer group what would it take for you to be in Phoenix and be good how could you be in Phoenix Arizona and be good at the same time the answer is well I'd have to be in a very good environment for a period of time till I get enough strength to be in Phoenix well how long would that period me I suppose probably a year a year of the right environment I think I could probably keep Shabbat in Phoenix Arizona and keep kosher yeah it's a year ok we'll go to the registrar's office and tell him you want to defer a year but then I'll be graduate whatever 23 so what it's Souls eternal graduate when you're 23 keep your soul alive and keep the keep that soul keep yourself alive and just put yourself in an amazing environment for a year and then go back and finish your degree or transfer to New York East Coast colleges have observant people in them and they and you can be in a somewhat kosher environment in East Coaster college okay that's in about you the next one is forgiveness that one's two scariest I don't want to talk about that much just because how are we ever supposed to ask forgiveness I mean they you know when you did something to somebody so then you can ask forgiveness but how often do you even know how often do you know and how do we even know the impact of our the things were saying at a Shabbos table I mean you just never know and and very few people have the courage to pull you over and let you know you know I was I was a what it's another good point maybe not maybe just ask forgiveness like God forgive me for all the people I've wronged and hurt yeah you can you can when we ask forgiveness every night in Sh'ma but to ask forgiveness may they all forgive me in rebuttal own we ask them for forgiveness - don't do we ask that they should forgive us anymore no we are might hell we forgive them yeah yeah you better hope everyone's doing Yom Kippur cut there is a line on Yom Kippur actually that I forgive everybody that's sorry the no one should forgive me I think there's a line that that wherever they are they should forgive me whatever the point is is that there's all this hidden lack of forgiveness and we never know I gave it a var Torah at a Shabbos table in in what happens is I'll do a Chaba tone and I'll do like a big dinner and then all the donors will who donated the you know the guests the scholar residents will like have a lunch together yeah we're the rabbi's there so they asked me to give it of our talk I give it to our time and I perfectly offended everybody horribly and I just could and when they told thank god someone pulled me over and told me the next day which made me just feel terrible on Sunday someone like say by the way guess what happened at lunch and there was just no way I could have known this but this particular City and this particular people had a unique situation take place and they all got badly hurt there in that situation they were all kind of injured people and and somehow the that waste Parchman might've are tyre was like salt in the wound right there and that's that's what I that was my DVAR Torah at their meal it's like know what wait and I was like do I asked them all for forgiveness she's like the lady was just like no like I just leave it you know just be another another you know mark on your soul you know for having heard all these people during lunch but it was seriously like what are we supposed to do you know just put duct tape on our mouths you know and hide it's so easy to invert ly hurt somebody that's forgiveness the next is redemption and hey what's up table for two you guys want to quickly jaw see yourself so they can sit together guess not okay what's up guys welcome where you from you look like you're from Miami or where'd you get that and man that's why you're here probably you know yeah I'm Curtis I don't have no guitar right now even if I did it's the morning the temple yeah my fingers are ready to play guitar you know the world about bridge has changed because I used to play all three weeks nine days I played the entire time and then well it was almost like I could count more days I played during the three weeks for secular groups because you played for them if you're if you have a secular group that the difference is gonna be the joy of a concert you know with Jewish a Jewish concert then you know you play all the way to all the way till tisha Bob you don't plan to Shabbat but there are those who would even play into Schumer I personally wouldn't in the I haven't played during three weeks of like in like ten years now because you know that was about the heyday of outreach ended in like 2008 and so and I haven't like held a guitar during the three weeks not 10 years but years it's been years like I know a lot of people want to like pretend the cure of movement still where it was and but it's like that's a that's a serious marker if these fingers haven't hit the fretboard you know doing the three weeks of mourning the temples so you know times have changed by the way people are still becoming observant they're just not wearing backpacks you know why would you put on a backpack and travel across the world when you can just go to Google and ask every question get every counter-argument like it's all there yeah so there's I'm not sure less people are becoming observant I think it's less because it's not that wave of excitement and stuff so it is less because there's no wave it's all individuals but many individuals are becoming observant today through the internet you know because all the research is there everything we ever talked online and and you have all their counter-arguments are right there and you can hear believers big and now you can go your navy to speak and you can make your make your you know place your bets so anyway the next is for the next is free sorry the next was for redemption and and that is like is how many of us really care I mean do you really want Redemption first of all to be no reward for good choices when the Jewish people will be redeemed it'll be so open the miracles will be so open that you can't really get reward for good choices it's kind of in a way it kind of neutralizes what you're doing here we need for you to do the right thing now it's like very meaningful if you do the right thing when everything's like you know all the lights got turned on and it's like clear God's right in your face you know in the God's presence is like coursing through your veins doing the right things kind of a joke you understand it's like a it's like it's like not cutting off your own toe thank you you don't get reward for that no one wants to cut off their toe so do we really want Redemption and if the answer is yes I mean do you guys really want Redemption yeah who said yeah you said yeah why do you want it yeah there'll be no more pain that's beautiful why else okay yeah like you may be doing it and getting all the reward there's there's millions of people out there who are or you know they're just not even on the right page it's it's it's gonna be very different when Redemption comes things will be very different and and the but it's gonna be super cool and it's gonna be super holy and I mean I think all of us have experienced this if you ever been not all of you obviously the sim girls in the back haven't experienced this but and you shouldn't experience this at least until temple times but anyone who's been to like a major rock concert if you've been to a major rock concert like I'm talking like 30,000 people at like a rave or something where it's it should be fairly techno and there's a beat that's playing and everybody's moving to the exact same vibrational energy there you know enough time that it's undeniably powerful and and you don't want it to end it's just like the it's you you don't want to end there's a unity there's a clarity there's a there's a a knowing that there's an there's an ineffable 'ti meaning there's a words can't describe it in fact even when I'm saying bright means very little to the same girls in the back but there are certain people in the room nodding and smiling and but they can't explain it they just know it it's just it's it's one of those things that's called noetic where there's a knowledge of it that you can't describe and and these things exist out there they usually don't have my feet says and that's a divider between the men and the women you know which is a shame because I think the Jewish world could use a couple experiences like this I think it would be really good for us we do have our experience but but only the casino generally get that experience and that's log bowling there by rebbi shimon bar yohai we do have this vibrational day with you know tens of thousands of people it's really it's really close to three-quarters of them they'd go I think it's actually the biggest party on earth the last I checked there's no party bigger than that it but but it's cuz it's spread out all over I mean that I think the biggest dance for almost like I think holds like maybe 20,000 people at once which is still a lot of people and the findify is pretty pretty intense there anyone here got to go experience the vibrations of Loch Bomer this year you got you guys got it yeah did you get into the Vice did you get it not everyone gets it some people are there and they're just like oh man like one more person steps on my foot I'll go kill somebody you gotta force them to the vibes forest in the ice but did you ever catch it divided you didn't really yeah so that's a big partner okay now anyway but even though we'll lose free will the vibrations are gonna be really something special really really special and it's worth it it's very worth it and and I like what this nice lady said about ending of suffering because that's if you're not suffering so then maybe it's better you get the reward but that militant but but billions of people are suffering and wouldn't it be good if they weren't even if it meant you don't get as much word that'd be that'd be nice yeah right so so so I know what you're saying someone else mentioned that to free will isn't what we're actually feels what you're doing here but it's not what God created the world for God created the world for connection God create the world for connection you were brought here for your own little video game of freewill so on an individual level you have your freewill and you got this like kind of scorecard you're you know you're in the US they have these exams called scantron scantron exams it's multiple guests you know whatever time and these multiple guess exams I know you call the multiple choice but I call the multiple gas and the it's a multiple guest exam and you take this lead number two pencil and fill in the little bubbles so life is just oh this is just a way to sit for the u.s. to save money on people grading your tests they just feed it into a computer which holds the key to the proper answers way for those people from America you know no I'm talking that if you don't that's what it is so life is this really really long scantron sheet and you're making choices all the time and you got to fill in the right bubbles before it goes into the Machine which is when we die when we die then your sheet goes in to see what the right answers were for all the choices that you made in life and I'll just have you know that justice Ayman it should just be said that the thing that is the hardest for you is the one you came here for the thing that's hardest for you is why you're here a lot of us the one that's hardest for us is exactly the one we don't do and we're like God what God would understand God would understand some girl told me that God would understand that she must only wear pants yeah she must only wear pants and and because I don't know what her hell scene was but she she she had an issue with skirts okay whatever but God God won't understand we don't know if God put us here for that and we actually do know that probably your biggest test is that and where do we know this from where do we learn this from what okay a random I mean that that's an extreme archetype of the ultimate ultimate sacrifice is this son Isaac you know what else gross windows from so I'm gonna tell you where we know it from most people don't know this it's an amazing thing what do we say right after sure maestro we say Val Hough de is a shimmy Luke F huh but holy Bob huh you shall love God with all your heart and all your soul and what's the last one Odessa and that should raise a red flag the word mo death huh why because my ode is a is a it means a lot but it's a it's an adjective yeah then my ode means more or very very it means very means very like if someone asked when did you think of it you might say it was Tov but if it was very toe it was very good you'd say Toma owed so it means very and I think there's even another grammatical term for an adjective like the word very does anyone know the term for the word very it's got it is it's not just an adjective it's got another special term in the grammar I forget but I'm asking the wrong crowd sometimes when I see this many people sitting I'm thinking like I get all my answers here like like does anyone have a battery pack to charge my phone no I know I'm oh she hasn't right there so I I love numbers cuz there's always you should know this by the way anything you ever need if they're like 50 people around just just anyone have a credit card try that when you get to the checkout stand so the anyway how do you love God with your very and you'll see that like the the art scroll sitter like this sitter will say with it'll say your resources but it does not mean that the word mo does not mean resources you know I promise you you go to Hebrew all pun there never no one's gonna tell you resources is the word mode and then they add that at F ah Mayo death ha love God with all your mode so what do you think that my ode is love God how do you love God with all your very so you know the answers it's loving God with with whatever you very very very much don't want to do for God that's your very it's like exactly the place where you draw your red line its meaning where you draw the line with God that's your very and different people have different various you know some people have it well I don't want to mention it so people don't feel medically I shouldn't have mentioned pants earlier also but they rarely do stuff such a thing but the the the whatever is the very that we likely are saying to ourselves that God would understand this cuz he knows how hard this is for me and meanwhile no you're a whole point of your life here is surrender you're only here to surrender I mean anyone noticed that at the end of your life you have to surrender everything like everything the car the house I mean you have to surrender your loved ones you know we'd always think about the pain of the Holocaust most of it is the surrender that we hate and yet all of us are heading straight like run a combro in a conveyor belt that's literally gonna dump our bodies into the ground and our souls will go up and we're gonna lose every single thing we have and everyone knows here like you lose something during the day no you can go for videos your headphones or something disappears it's a different day yeah it's our day you know the sunglasses are gone and you just and you know they're really gone cuz you got off a bus and they're just on that bus and the bus just drove off and it's the rest of your days marked by that and meanwhile every single one of us are gonna lose every single thing we had up now for some of you young people who like you all look like question marks to me right now just think about your feet are on the ground then your body goes up to your you know to your back side and then your back and then you know you're all sitting there like you all look like question marks when we're gonna marry where am I gonna live what what am i oh well we do financially what's my what's the health of my overall life could be how many kids am I gonna have you know what I'm saying it was like question mark after question mark after Quinton what's gonna be my career you know you're like you're all a bunch of question marks and you know it's gonna happen and throughout your mid to late 20s like beginning 20s to late 20s is you're gonna turn every one of those your all your question marks are gonna get a go-to they're all gonna go to chiropractors not that I believe in chiropractic but yeah they're all gonna go to chiropractors and they're all gonna become these very straight what exclamation points this is who I married and this is my career this is my car and this is my city and this is my neighborhood this is my sunglass and this is my watch and this is my you know this is it and then there's people who meet who reach to reach what's your name Earl Earl's age and then you read it Charles age and all of a sudden all your exclamation points start like you're kind of looking at your wife going like who the hell are you you know and and you're looking at your car and you're like what I've been driving or whatever you don't say people turn 50 in and I'll tell you Harley Davidsons are safer than Affairs so at that point you buy a Harley or something and the you buy a Harley yet Earl don't buy all right that's both are dangerous okay so anyway this is by the way this to me is one of the best reason that it's not the true reason but one of the best reasons to become fully observant doesn't you why hurt young because it is so painful it's so painful to hit your 40s and 50s and have all your exclamation points become question marks I mean it is really hard to it's hard times it's a existential crisis that I know when you're young you think of well okay I'll deal with that when it comes but know if you have any way to prevent it I promise you prevent it you should prevent it and and what's amazing is that that tour doesn't necessarily save you from it entirely but because your value system is so eternal and so like committed in it so like the Shabbos will just get you through it you know being part of the observant community will get you through it the fact that you still pray three times a day with those same old guys you know it'll just you can ride through that period of time you're not just some Island you know you're not this this isolated life experiment of choices made years ago that had where everything's turned into question marks again you understand you're you're part of something so much bigger and so much more solid that that you are you're really doing great but by the way all of this life Kryten life what do we call it what midlife crisis sorry all that midlife crisis with parental to our discussion because all of our exclamation points are going right off a conveyor belt at the end of our lives because I know it looks like you're the one getting taken away but really everything is getting take away from you if you think about your own perspective you know when you die it looks like we're great when we know someone's dying we feel like they're being taken away but what do you think they're feel right they're feeling everything they've everything they've chosen everything they loved everything that was important to them at least in the physical world but it's being removed like it's literally getting taken out from under you the carpet is gonna get ripped out from all of us from out from under all of us this is why you'll notice that great people in like let's say something random a 19th century early 19th century art and literature you know the classics like the best the best of them all so if you go to the best let's say the best writers of early 19th century which are really some fabulous fabulous authors you know the 1800s was just in literate in Europe's literary tradition it's like some of the best writing and you get sentences that are paragraph long and it's the biggest adventure that one sentence that you're just you're touched and you're moved forever having read that sentence that was like literally this long a paragraph this long single space and I mean it's just amazing stuff but when you go into the biographies of every single artist every single musician every single composer every single author when you go into their biographies there's always a brush with death there's always a brush with death check it out go read the biographies of all the greats there's always a brush with death either a sibling died a parent died they themselves almost died someone died and they saw the end of the conveyor belt right in their face when they were kids and so they put on their running shoes as kids they got busiest kids they didn't they didn't have this giant kind of nebulous bumper bump buffer zone where like you get to pretend like nothing's important you know something that this is a luxury that our society has afforded you is to not know what the hell you're doing for ten years meaning somehow between like 15 and 25 yet is grace period where you get to say yeah I'm a total screw off and and isn't that neat and everyone's just like you enjoy the years you know you you want you want a lame life low ten your ears off what makes you think that blowing off ten years of your life is gonna make a good life for you afterwards you you need those ears those got to be solid years but but in for example in the secular world from eighteen to twenty-two you are completely and utterly off the hook but many of them let you off the hook even after that for a while because you're not sure what you're doing yet and the people you're meeting also we're not sure when they were your agent so you're still kind of look and sadly many people get to their 30s you're not off the hook anymore people you got to be able to show something at that point and so but it gets exponentially harder to show something for yourself if you've been blowing off the previous year's it gets it exponentially harder to pick yourself up then and therefore taking of ten-year vacation is never a good idea I press that I can't even take a three-day vacation okay I can take three days but that's my max I got I basically my wife had I go on vacation and I see it's gonna be more than three days on the fourth day I'll schedule a class I don't care if I have to teach a bunch of Buddhists in India but I've got to give something by the fourth day I can't sit around and sunbathe for more than like three days you know I'm all talked out you know my wife and I are like we're like in heaven everything's great day for like I've got to contribute something there's the planet at that point and yet many people have been given off years where contribution is is not even considered of really a very high value during those years and you don't have to contribute anything to society you get to you get to be in this kind of sponge mode which is cute and sweet but it's the yeshiva community also lets you sponge for a while but uh but there's a lot of men I need a lot of men who learned in Cola they got married they learned in Cola but I met a lot of men who are 25 years old in the observant community and they really don't know their contribution is because they've been riding the wave for years and years and it's gotten too late for them and they're also under trained under trained in the professional roles and now they're gonna have to hustle and that's why you meet so many her ad black hat Jews in New York New Jersey and other areas are hustlers by the way they're great guys when I say us I don't mean meaning that whatever they have they don't wear houses is there they're you know they're doing property management are there they're building and they're doing great stuff but it's but it's almost always you know hustling now the next is is healing next step is healing refuel and and I don't think I need to discuss that much but they but obviously there's a lot of people could use a healing and and we can be much more sensitive to them there's probably people we should be visiting and there's probably sick people we should be helping I got to pick up all of a lady's stuff today lady walking with a cane dropped all her stuff and it was just kind of a yard sale and and I got to be the closest one to the situation and do something for some lady who cannot bend down and no but there's people out there that we know that our ailing and they need phone calls need support they need a visit and the and and many of them need to be healed and and we can help them in some way or another and there's also there's no physical element that doesn't have some backup that's psycho emotional component and a lot of us have work to do on that you know for some people in this room they probably think it's normal to catch a cold once in a while you know right right if you consider that normal to catch a cold once in a while not a big deal okay so almost everybody it's not normal you never have to catch a cold ever you just don't get meaning okay once a year like once a year maybe catch a cold prescription medication a couple times years normal no one's raising their hands now after getting busted on the last one no it's not normal you don't you shouldn't if you're having prescription medication more than once a year I suppose twice a year I don't know what the numbers would be but you got to work to have your stuff because because these are especially your age you should be just a lean mean fighting machine you know you're you're just you should be so invincible your immune system should be you know really at its height right now especially at your ages but it should stay that way well into well into your 50s I mean you should basically forget your doctor's name and and like you don't even know your medical Carter's after well I'm really really super fit I just thought what time it is work I'm Way over time what's going on here what is it who's teaching it sure I just looked at the clock oh my gosh show them everybody the rest of the rest of the requests you'll just notice if you go into the rest of the requests that we request every day in our silent meditations you'll see that we're deeply wanting on all every single one of them and as much as we're usually you know holding in a very nice space in this class and this week is discussing where we're broken and if you're look into each one of these you'll see we're just like totally shattered and one after the other and we got a lot we got a lot we got it fixed please God may we fix it soon in our days