Bond With Your Son

a father comes to me and he says my son doesn't want to spend time with me i'm like well what type of time do you offer your son to spend with you he says i always ask him to learn with me and he never wants to i said oh yeah a lot of kids don't like learning with their father what does your child love he says i don't know he loves sports i said why don't you go horseback riding with your son once a week he says that's not education i want to learn with him i said one day but first bond with him so he tells me i cannot take responsibility for such a sin to waste time of torah and go horseback riding i said i have an idea when you die and come to heaven and they'll want to punish you for going horseback riding with your son say it was rabbi y jacobson's advice i know you're going to paradise i'm going to hell anyway so they'll add this that i told you to go horseback riding with your son it's not the end of the world in fact maybe that will be my paradise you know nothing about your son you know nothing about his life you know nothing about his interest you know nothing about his heart you don't have a child you have an imaginary child that you created in your own image that's not your boy why don't you learn who your boy is because you don't want to learn who your boy is because it's not the boy you dreamt about well guess what life is about reinventing yourself every day for what god wants [Music] the yeshiva.net