Between Sefardim and Ashkenazim: A Mystical Perspective - Torah Ohr Mi Sam Peh #8

the yeshiva dotnet and focused today here we're at the end of the mind mark and to autumn to details not such details but tuna could has two points first is despite them in Ashkenazim then he mentions at the end and the second is the iris and the Calum the earliest have tell you in the Calum of Tacoma so if you look uh page 103 nuna Bay's column to 103 last paragraph I read it last week but it was part of the bigger structure so we didn't focus so much and I just want to point out a few in yharnam here a few points one two three four five seven lines from the bottom none base column 2 or page 103 the Lehane beautiful and cherish necklace ride the Varanasi Emma Varga Willa Brock whom you've had this nation mark of the fill and Shailaja cover image alkane min expired shallow Levada this video Lucia II Absalom Hampshire Komaki Fajo rockin Azam Smith Allahu ta ala muhammad sallah he's talking about here the mouth the power of libera speech in the writings of the result as he says of earlier and preached i am it says that in a midst for this two parts there's the Mitsuo and there's the brock of the Mitzvah the mitzvah itself as we know there's been hot area at least many mitzvahs the Baraka is not minute Ida doesn't say anywhere in homage to make a broth you have an exception you have breakfast at Ida the blessing before learning Torah coucher Marsh a makarov oh godö volcano you have business a Muslim walk out of a serve water move a rafter for most of the blessings that we make from it service besides learning Taylor is not mine our toilet it's marijuana gazelle and chicken as a gorilla or sometimes later were mistaken for different every Mitzvahed so Bravo villain has a bra Kalani act feelin this has it so bracha food has its profitable some it's with this burger Sun and this birth let's say dot you put on a mezuzah make a broker before because comics you make a brach I'll be your comments before you eat matza you make a brothel Achilles Matson before you blow chauffeur oh yeah here sure if we make with smart college driver before McGill armature McGill what's the concept of the broker she said that the result says in its high am that the Mitzvah generates the our enemy and the broker generates the iron Marcus as he said key is right before this argument he have a LARP a massive penis or Marcus the breath that comes from the mouth comes an earmark of so there's two elements in the midst of this de mitzvah and is the brach of the Mitzvah but this far diminish callosum is an interesting argument about Philip do you make a broker on tefillin that you put on the head everybody holds you make abraca before you start putting on film so the sunrise was you want to Lonnie asked Philip the question is it's not clear in the Gomorrah the gomorrah says that you make abraca on shall Rajesh but the argument is the maker brookhouser are only if you were MOFs it meaning let's say you spoke in between two and juliana to lunch on ocean so now the second midst of the to lingerie shoes a new performance because you made a have sick even if you were supposed to make a have said you have to make a have said you're not supposed to well let's say you or whatever reason you may not have sick mea sh'mey raba yeah bar who etc or for another reason you made a have set you used you interrupted the to through words so then everyone holds you make the second brach omits wistfully but what if you did it make absent do you make a second bracha so this is a mccoy kiss of the Spider Man ice cream on the way they interpreter Kumar there will Gomorrah all the way down to the Shulchan Aruch and they Rama the spire them hell you don't make a second Rafa we make one bro that's the meaning of all this fire them and those who follow mimics fire do not make to Broca's until only one unless they interrupted and Ashkenazim I'll knock that way you make a second broker always I'm interested to learn as I mentioned the price can bring that are my brings that because the second is so strong the second shooter has a lot of powerful authority so you should say borrow shame quite Muslim fourth after the second blessing because it's a Shosh brothel of at all so that's just to be marksman according to the slider but Ashkenazim is they make two separate bronze at first glance it looks like it's an argument at a tight rikimaru Porsche in maracas and a tight rhythm are when you're making a second brother and already did a shine to my argue how to learn the Gemara it's not so clear so what seemed like that it's more of a technical argument how you touch a good mark this one has this but like in all arguments there's layers and layers of the depth so here the ballot Anya says something the smart dominican osman doesn't start with a technical disagreement about how to read the line comes from a much deeper place and therefore they read the lines and they get more a different and it's true about all the arguments at shots you'll have containment on my right I'm arguing do you say this logic or do you not say this logic do you learn it out from this particular you're not learning out from this posture do you die from the extra hair you don't - in the extra hey do you touch Bashar Bashar when you're going to sleep Bashar book so when you're sleeping the Kamaka etc all these types of questions so on the other one couldn't understand the other perspective they have to argue the truth is that most of the arguments or all of the arguments they come from a deeper place there's a certain mahalik a certain perspective that at Anahata and i murder had been mela he sought a certain way this is the Demario often says list schita say there was a and the is not just a technical it's a in many aspects of life we spoke about this a few times and that's why you could have a time I'm going to argue about of 50 different things but they're all connected even though the issue is different but the idea is if you up string them back to their abstraction if you remove them from their particular lavash from that particular incarnation you go back to then who could you'll see that there's a there's a mahalik and that's where the Gomorrah is some market to always attribute a statement to its author right on my robbery beer me every time other people say wasn't a beer me it was a clear merriment and not only who said it in whose name he said it and sometimes they'll be an argument right four generations back he said it in his name in his name in his name but somebody says no he said it in this person's name why is it so it's not just accuracy that of course but it's also whose school it comes from where does it come from whose mind that comes from this is true about all McCoy person in chocen Mathias in halakha among who shine among acronym in general always yeah yeah and we all know this in our personal lives when people argue about something yeah they're arguing about a technical thing but they're never arguing about a technical thing they're arguing of the window the window shades should be down or up if the lights should be on or off yeah if we should use this room of that rooms if we should go here or go there and it will have their reasons those reasons are the tip of the iceberg and if you go back you'll see that the reasons come much deeper reality which helps because then you could see it from a more broad perspective and sometimes also grow and look at things from a different perspective what's the new code of the ballot Anja brings out here that a broker of a mitzvah has to do with an earmark versus an opening me what does this mean there is the light that comes from the Mitzvah that's called opening me that's the light the energy that is internalized in the person whether the person is learning Toyota or saying bent or benches or saying SHM are giving stockist we're putting on a mezuzah or lighting Shabbos candles are listening to the chauffeur we're giving stuck it to a poor person to doing somebody a favor or Davin a saint Krishna whatever it is every midst of the 630 minutes was it brings a certain or a certain light into the world and into the purse the haha that comes from your words doesn't have do with action and many mitzvos are mixed with my sees whether I'm eating Shabbos meal our meaning in a Sukkah I'm listening to the chauffeur or I'm shaking or lulav or I'm putting on tefillin but the broker is always enabled words that's how you say a broker and the broker brings her market or markov is always on earth that is transcendent it's above it's above paneer paneer me means that which fits into the character over the person it's it's internalized that's what spinning me it means the ER that goes into the premise of the caelian the kala is massive it's consistent with that our mark of is the ER that transcends the vessel it's more super conscious or subconscious because it's not limited to the vessel of the person it's higher or Michael that's what it's called mark of mark of means it surrounds above but it doesn't mean physically in spatial terms that it surrounds above it means that in token it transcends what the person could consciously be aware of and the broker paced abraha is an invitation to that earmark of the mitzvah what's the connection to deburr why do you why the brofist is the resources heavily a pair now Sabrina Sarah Marcus the heavily appa the kids are we see that speech words have a power then it's very powerful and you'll see it well Tanya says it didn't turn a it actually pushes mashaallah you see it for example somebody who's teaching you could prepare shear we learn to social on this summer in the mind over a pillow you could be teaching and you prepared a Shen you know it this happens all the time to anybody who's involved in this type of work while you're saying it as you're saying it somehow new ideas emerge that hours and hours of preparation of thinking about it of learning it of harvin in it didn't give you somehow articulating it in words even though you would think it's the last phase this should not be the main thing the just afterthought and after understanding and after experience and after motion and after cognition and after processing inside now you're just saying it de Bourgh touches a place that is very deep in a person words which is real reason for this is we learned then in the mind member of Hilla no it's siphoned with callosum that de Bourgh which is the first stage where it's going to somebody else outside of you touches a place in you that you're unaware of and it elicits a new force of energy or clarity or depth that you couldn't precipitate and have before on your own this is just the chaos of the book and you'll see every person while they're teaching not always but very often as you're saying it there's a new insight a whole new perspective a whole new depth that you didn't even realize before yeah yeah it's also true that when you say it to yourself it's more powerful than when you think it to yourself right that's is it because that when you're forced to articulate it even to yourself it's much more powerful like sometimes you have to say something yeah don't just think it say it say it say it to yourself and you'll see or you'll get stuck I'll challenge you to make it clearer because to get it to march over to Dipper is a very serious journey it's it's a serious journey requires a lot of symptom requires a lot of articulation so that's also true and that's the first reason why dipper has this power because it articulates it it forces you to structure it much more my shove is still elusive you know you could think and everybody knows when you daydream yeah if anybody is daydreaming you can testify right now in 60 seconds you could cover something that it takes two hours to say rather than your daydream you could travel to Australia you can come back you can accomplish a lot of things you can have 20 business meetings in your J dream of one minute now say it or who that takes a long time sometimes you think you know yeah yeah yeah yeah exactly exactly so dipper challenges you in that sense and therefore it elicits more clarity it demands more clarity like what are you really trying to say the same is true with writing people have it's very interesting you can have a valdek idea write it down and you'll see very often you have no idea there's nothing here to write because writing demands from you a real clarity similar to Dib or you have to articulate it as a sentence yeah if they read it like what am I saying am I saying something am i repeating myself how do you say it why is that this doesn't belong here this belongs in the beginning there's something however even deeper that happens when you speak to somebody else that's much deeper here you have the element of notes so from between loss on that by sharing it with somebody outside of you not in you you're not saying it to yourself something gets touched in you that you couldn't have before that because soft call serve the deepest essence comes out in the relationship with the other and therefore that the DeBoer brings forth a gush a current ah what's the word a torrent a flash floor the flow of energy from within in the same idea that's much deeper that's called our maken so the heaven had deeper creates on earth it channels it helps you tune in to an air mock-up of the Mitzvah come - can as Amanda slide them and they say it's Phil and Phil yards we could make a bra what about the Philips Irish cylinders the Gemara says it's caduceus and greater than shell yacht that's why you change - oh yeah - Irish you don't change so rush back to show you add you don't put because cylinders Phil and Suresh is considered more holy than thrown so yet we first put on tefillin so yeah then your foot and your put on for one servers in the morning it's brought in a locker you say it's brought in Pais camp yurts are over verify so many people buy oats are oh they kissed valincia yak burrito chef the kiss tefillin so no it's interesting light is higher than darkness but here that Phil and Shelly a desire and the toulon satisfied shot full of salacious version but the truth is you could have any seed in the words Yeats are over in affection or it is associated with the ith Syria and her was associated with Berta with Bria Bree is higher than its Sarah the answer of course is that the darkness here is much higher than light the reason its darkest because it's red sends the light and therefore translates into darkness it's like when the teacher is communicating a profound idea that is beyond your Calum it translates as dark and it's not because it's really dark but because my vessels are too limited to appreciate it too therefore I call it darkness I'm in the dark so sometimes I'm in the dark because there's no light sometimes I'm in the dark because there is so much light and I just I can't grasp it sometimes somebody tells you more than your Calum can grasp which may be the greatest favor for you but it's called darkness because it's like I'm confused I'm overwhelmed I'm overwhelmed doesn't mean I'm overwhelmed I can't I don't have the Calum for this I don't have a way to filter this and channel this into my identity so you say it's Syria is light buddy ray is much higher much more subtle much more divine much more infinite so to speak its harshest try looking at the Sun in the middle of the day look at the Sun what do they say the light is blinding yeah it's dangerous for the eyes it's not good light is blinding I don't understand the point is yeh do not look at the Sun directly not because there's no light there but because there's too much light for your retina for your eyes to to to appreciate on the contrary who liveth can damage it the light becomes blinding the light translates in darkness to the point that you you look you close your eyes in other words the light causes a certain question I can't see this as too much I turn away you said earlier is still in Chile and buried at Ocean it's filling so rush it's much deeper it's much higher the question is can you make a bra consolation she says - callosum holds this minutes fired is they can't be moms in that market that mock if there's nothing for you to do let it be it's a mocking that your your words cannot get in touch with it's too profound whenever you could make a broker it means that somehow you can access the market the film Suraj is two of a deep market for you to access that's why you don't make a broker - can i zoom hold that you heard the Mohammed you could be at mum sure it could be there of course arguing also what type of mock if it is if it's a mock if that my words can access on some level or it's a mock of that I can only be silent the Kaylee for it is inactivity silence in the end of the man with the REM disease says that Simmons of mitzvos lysosome it's recess a mitzvah sly sister are considered deeper than Mitzvah so say why because mitzvah says say you can do mitzvahs lysis you can't do you could just remain silent and that silence touches a much deeper place than activity action because there's two types of passivity there's an inaction that comes from passivity you know just don't do anything and then there's an inaction that comes from from from from a recognition on or from strength yeah silence silence sometimes comes because I have nothing to say and silence sometimes comes because there's so much to say and words are going to ruin it or or it's just there's no room for words here there's nothing to say it's not that there's nothing to say but all words are going to limit it are going to filter next Mitzvah slices as deep in them it's recessive there's expression the Gemara says and Broca's some of you just learned it Phyllis our mistress McCleod cos if Phyllis iris how hurtful as iris ruse might have is an obligation or might of his voluntary so we say the Washington the Rambam is her hidden akka who however hi sister Sharon I'm saying today already Jews accepted it as a favor but essentially the Holocaust Phyllis iris ruse like this would be assured him calmly when I'm Leah loads Tula's harvest IVA short Phyllis average of shows them because of this from Gamliel lost was dethroned from his position brothels of Zion may be sure says its resources favor well Tanya says Mira's in a way is deeper than chakras America its Yakov Aveeno it's based on McNish Ashley she its burry fascia its witless iris however means if you're obligated it means you can do it through this iris ruse means it's voluntary I can't obligate you because it's not something that I can put the responsibility on you to bring forth here again on that surface it looks like might've is resource if you want yeah if you want not on a deeper level because it's beyond the capacity of a person to do you see a pattern of Ashkenazim versus fired them what's the pattern when it comes to mock of the spire them say let the mock of be don't bring it it's not for you to touch that can Azzam say no if either muhammad hasaan market for home and if I'm not mistaking I think the ball tends not to say something about the breakfast of film Schiller she's also giving a certain perspective about the souls of smaranam purses the souls of Ashkenazi and I want to be mean this makers confuses a lot of people already knows it comes a pacer yeah so some people who love rice for whatever reason but they're crazy about rice like I wish I was aspiring if I was as far thee then there would be no history of kidneys because kidney is which means the prohibition on rice and other legumes similar to rice happened in the Ashkenazi communities were precisely in Germany France that area in the Middle Ages the ten with 1100 so I think the first sources we know is through Massa dashing a little earlier 1112 hundreds maybe early thirteen hundreds and it didn't go it wasn't in Spain it wasn't a Portugal it wasn't in any Sparta communities you know therefore this fighter Shara Bonham never made it on the Ashkenazim and it's already a time after the Sun Hedren so there's no zero at econo that applies to all of Chloe's snow after the Sun garden is dissolved it's not like the Tucanos that were made in the Gemara or in the mission that applied everybody there's no juicer Hanukkah is not for me pour them is not for me but there are a lot of them in hug you ID the ID Kabbalah Shabbos just giving an example is it that kind of embarrass all familiar the memory so you see because they didn't do Kabbalah Shabbos even though that's a phenomenon the Kabbalah Shabbos Tucker took over the whole Jewish world but the yarn is a few places where they don't do Kabbalah Shabbos they go straight to bar who okay it's not it's not it was at econo from later say that so it looks like almost a technical thing that in Germany or France the rice the rice fields were right near the wheat fields they used to get mixed it was a very normal to comment we've made a lot of sense describe them didn't have it yeah they don't have it the same is true with all the McCoy cos inspire them in Ashkenazi you grew up here you grab it but then the question really becomes it's a thousand years later just because I have the Mazel that my stay there was as fired me and you say there was an Ashkenazi yeah we're living in the same community the same name but in the same realities and therefore out sort of call our donors this is the Union so you can say yeah this is how it works I'll people in me is it's not like that it has to do with uh neshama it has to do with a soul that's what you see here the spider-man on Ashkenazim and you could see it but Mukesh that by the side them there's a certain Indian of Mach if that's more than my gosh canasa - can assume were more vulnerable to enlightenment to the logical structures of Europe because their souls what's the MS of Maca from pinning me right you know that there was a vitamin Ashkenazim Ashkenazim are very much they like to understand things for good and for bad together yeah I went to a Bristol the day of as far as ridership Ernest yeah and I was thinking this would never happen an Irishman a socialist now there's a bris everybody's quiet they wait for the baby the baby comes in karate Marlborough Harbor they finish Mazel Tov Mazel Tov Mazel Tov Mazel Tov yeah that's fine - a bris the baby came in everybody sat down on the floor they was screaming and hollering and crying and dancing and giggling there was a certain freedom of uninhibited this expression you can either have a very hard time with this go to an Ashkenazi Jew please go to our chicken house it should show versus fact this is show so it's not just a cultural thing that's true but it has to do what's them dove mcafee enemy Markieff is an ER that's above you clemmy's honor that comes inside of you Ashkenazi and believe you hilum Laham shock they want to have some control over the Ermakov - they believe they could they could make a Baraka for Suresh despite ability no bracha for Suresh let the Mac of be it's completely above you you seen in the concept of a Munna with spider-man Ashkenazim what's a Munna and one is a certain surrender to that which is transcendent fresh callosum it's difficult it's at least more difficult comprehend and analyze and dissect very very much to the point of mishegoss would inspire them I don't mean to make generalization on every Ashkenazi every Friday and there's an onion and it is a my lenders are my lenders so when it comes to her locker the difference is five American Azam it's not a technical thing the technical thing is one layer of it it's rooted in the sherry shove the nationís of how you relate to the energy of the world and a love a loo this is the value and this is the truth and this is a true and here's a classic example for this abraca czar Marcus Phil and so yeah there's a lower mark if filling generations are higher mark if despite them say there's no way you could be at monsters just put on the trill do not make a Brucker it'll become part of the first bro and to Ashkenazim say is the hill again if you made I have sick you have to make a broken chord everybody and that's good Nasim say you heard of Muhammad it's a type of market that they tuned into it's obviously a michael acres what type of microphone is that itself is the argument but they tuned into the mock if that we could somehow access it caught they're not monstrous it of course it's their spin of course we're not racists here when I'm asking now Zack races to replace our mock okay me over the sous-chefs Allah Hamza Carmack of all the mock if is you can't be at mom sure my words will only disturb it they will encumber it they will obstruct it they will create a Kaylie for that which is not a Kaylie even in mock if tis different there's a mock if we learned in a mindmap as I say Brock remember this mock if our car if a Mac if our rocket right there's the mock-up of abortion is the mock-up of bias although voice is also beyond you might Alice doesn't have to go into me doesn't have to be exact measurement it covers you but it's still some relatable to your body certainly other garments a bias a house yet could be a big house it's a completely different market in Markov itself do is Mike if from that are your own and then there's my kid for him that are completely above like we all know there's my kid from there's things that are very very intense but we have some inkling into it and then there are my kid from that are completely even beyond recognition like you may go your whole life and not know this part of you this parts of your sub cuts you psychological languages parts of your subconscious that somehow filter into your consciousness at some point or another at least a glimmer of it both positive and not both ways but then there's parts of you that you just you know you clueless and it's maybe good that way because it would be it would be too much there's certain things you know your brain just closes the lid this is not coming to the fore it's a different level of Marcus it's just a different level of Marcus so this is the McCoy go subscribe them and Ashkenaz him that he brings in if I spied them you see a lot of schoolís you see a lot of brothers in a phenomena dove by spider-man out of a monastic him right you see by spied them very strong yeah you so by spider most of the Haskalah of Europe the Enlightenment of Europe didn't affect him the same way reform conservative judaism didn't hit the sparta communities why not what's reform reform is we're gonna reform judaism we're gonna make it we're gonna make it beautiful we're gonna make it work some of them had very good intentions they felt in germany of the 1800s the first reformed rabbi was a man named Abraham Jacobsen to Zeta a let same last name I think in Hamburg he opened up in 1800 or 1808 the first reform you know what the summer I Bonham called Cathedral yeah with the organs and the choirs and the rabbis dressed like we got lock him and the sermons etc right a lot of them had good intentions they said listen there's a new generation Napoleon destroyed the ghetto we have to fit in we want to be good Germans anti-semitism will cease you got to change things you got to make Judaism that makes sense it works it fits into the culture take a Spidey to reform synagogue run away maybe he won't do things on Shabbos that you have to do but if he taking me to her soul takes me to the real thing don't don't manipulate it huh ya know if you had a off I'm saying but it was it was ground that was more fertile it was more fertile for that type of of change because it has to make sense it has to be internalized which has tremendous Milas you know there's - Ashkenazic way of learning and the Sephardic way of learning also very interesting sometimes Ashkenazim will go into the world of pill pool in ways that slide them will not do it resin will make themselves crazy right don't analyze and dissect in ways that's fire them often so different not feel like listen Phil is very different so the no cigars Phil okay so this is already much on a much deeper level but the changes of gnosis far the no Sahaj schemas are all connected to the difference in the summons of yeah inspired goofer there's a lot of massages here he's bringing out one Lakota that you see about how they dealt with market fascinating it could and because it's like a different neshama so then that can sometimes you need a different operator it's not a bad or good so we say a low relative really this is my focus of your showing him it's not a low relative relic um hi there's a good in Emma's in this and animus in this you go through all the arguments between spider-man Ashkenazim it does not begin with a technical thing if they lived here they lived there and therefore this happened and the rabbi decided to be masculine and he decided to be Michael and they decided to because you get to eat rice for pace if you have to get a prescribe a shellfish Lucas you know quid pro quo you can eat rice but you can't sleep a whole level we can't eat rice but we could sleep till two days before issue some somebody once told me says he wishes he could swap he would give up the rice and he would love to sleep all level today Baraka Shem disc in wasa dashka Nasim have the cake and eat it too for those who are martyred quinoa they make sushi with quinoa not a lawyer daya ok some telling you they make sushi with quinoa Mason so those who are matter quinoa plenty of people are not taking one so that she can awesome have the cake and eat it to end on to siliceous in the month of that wall okay they were getting away with murder again huh the world of poetry by the Svartholm was incredible credibly more powerful than Ashkenazi if you study Spanish jury yeah most of its greatest post scam a lot of them were also tremendous poets and it's incredible to read their poetry there's three books called coal sheeter w hood the Haleiwa no doll AV was considered one of the early had our table you darling you wrote to say Franco's re and this the poetry nevermind that Vanessa and a flamer even if lemme Ben Kabir oh my seven Ezra the this fired them they had this the sense for poetry and so again you could say they were in Muslim country then before the Christians took over and the Muslims were much more cultured and much more developed and they were into architecture and mathematics and philosophy as the Rambam himself says and the rambling was influenced by it it's all true they lived in but all of this is part it's not a mistake it's all part of the Providence of the journeys of their souls and the missions of their souls I'll give one example that I heard once from the lubavitcher rebbe he said it in the name of God earliest sir all I think the Ostroff forever austere forever writes it and it could be even earlier but I think it comes to me feel you'll be feel mayor of Astaroth sir Marian haha ma'am I think I saw it once it was absurd oven and Varsha I think we're five holes and also says it they never said it over from previous good I hope fascinating thing so very encouraging he said that it's no one by - canasa they're a banal Gershom is called more a hog oiler the light of the Gaul was the light of the Exile why is he called Mariana gala because he was the light of the exile he lived in Mainz Germany the 900s the ten hundred and he was considered Irish her post scheme of Germany is called more ago but the question is why would did he get this title the light of the exile did ah she didn't get the title the Rambam didn't get the title the mahabhava Gennaro's didn't get the title the bane regression was certainly big was the title the light of the gaas she said I've been eager she made to talk honest to famous talk honest among others one is can divorce your wife pal carajo how logically you want to get divorced you give a get kaduche in has to be my doctor she has to have consent again you could give you want you want you know what maybe I should stop that there's no such a thing you don't give her a divorce because you don't want coz he felt that this is one of these Huaraz that I could be misused just like with crucible right because I understood the story to spoke in a very idealistic fashion a man doesn't get divorced unless it's but I've been aggression so that people have moods and men are men I'm not gonna elaborate at the moment so you realized yeah yeah I got a deal with them you got a deal with them this is an important distinction people don't realize Toyota speaks to a very I D often to a very idealistic person a very idealistic situation just like crucible which comes to me tell you forgive your debts and then your hello says nobody's gonna lend anybody money tikkun olam etc these types of things so be negation said there's no such a thing your wife has to agree I don't want to be married anymore I want to be free yeah that's what men want guy comes to her oh he says it's will I get I want to get this screaming was that very volition you know the custom of the Manish time he discovered America you think you're the only one who has an issue so many guys have said no way she has to agree do situations we're best didn't can force him for sir - I said she married suddenly situations where people are just behaving in a very destructive or abusive this functional way and how luck is going to intervene okay that's one tack on second to kind of integration made no polygamy we can't marry more than one wife now Toyota allows polygamy it never encourages it of Rome was hesitant to take a second wife Yitzhak never took a second wife Yaakov only took a second wife because he was deceived Adam never took a second wife it's not the it's not the path but it's permitted polygamy's primeira negation prohibited it these were two important economist of the Ashkenazi he prohibited it for a thousand years he made the Toccoa in 948 it ended in 1948 just for the record yeah 1948 yeah the beginning of Evan Hazzard boys came in around one beginning we have a NASA thousand years not to marry two wives ended in 1948 cuz he lived in the 10th century 948 of course in 1948 Ashkenazic rabbis agree that it's good the good idea to continue not everybody married two wives so at first glance it looks like okay I called a very important economist a mitigation understood if you can have some buyers with one wife you're ready ahead of the game let's not bring in a second wife to the house just figure it out with one wife and you'll do well right everybody knows there's people with one spouse one husband one wife enough challenges another one to go to therapy so you have three therapists for yourself and for each wife it's hard one wife is good one husband is good enough for the wife one wife is good enough for the husband but the truth is discipline Amir there's a much deeper layer to this pisaq in the nine hundreds the persecutions of the Christians were becoming unbearable and the rebus said the consciousness of the Jewish people was shattered to the point that the Christians would always say God chose you and he abandoned you this was one of the big things the Christians would say God chose you and he abandoned you threw you away he divorced you look you're the chosen people look who owns Europe look who could kill you whenever they want the Pope owns Europe Christianity then owned Europe therefore it means that God chose you and then he rejected you why because you rejected him according to their story and he chose a new people where navigation said you now let it divorce your wife without her consent it wasn't only up sack on earth like every Hollow her it's our walk in heaven as well it's a truth of cosmology no no no God can do it without our consent with a wife we never agreed ok so the Christian said one more thing he took another wife he didn't divorce you he took another wife ah Dan Cielo he took his favorite wife you could sit of and we've sweaters and make cholent and he took another wife where negation said he can't take another wife the security negation wasn't just a second halacha have a negation was my arugula he brought the light into ghosts he made the Jewish people understand that the relationship with Hashem is as powerful as intact as meaningful and as real as it ever was even though there's darkness but no she has to ask for no Theaster they shouldn't think for a moment that the relationship is compromised even a bit if the same marriage is the same love as a hearty love Heston or I have us clueless eyuth it has not been diminished a bit even if it's a challenging situation and many sometimes challenges they don't understand they shouldn't think there was a divorce or that there was a second marriage i'm zhu yet salty little osseous a Poirot me but hurry stroll a half the Eskimo Mirage hem is unchangeable there has some Isaac and it's true and every party's personal life sometimes a person goes through his different challenges the worst thing is to think that you're abandoned you were thrown away you were cast away this all the Tom's mal symptom and all this talk made them and all their Swan him if there's one that could that they don't stop with with this in the could this rub a negation gave the Jewish people Morocco these two our losses weren't just technical or works about marriage that too of course important a locust not to minimize the tract but it was also a light that he brought to the Jewish people this is was brought she said what about the spire them inspire them ever got this she said by this fire them they never had to have him in that car abandoned them so I've never had half a minute and tack in those generations you couldn't compare the persecutions of the Christians to the persecution of the Muslims now reality has changed the other way right our problems come from the Islamists fundamentalist not from Christians but then in those generations the Muslims not all but many of were extremely much more tolerant much more accepting it's the Christians that had this fanaticism which is produced in the Rambam himself had to run away from Spain and so forth so thus far the communities didn't have this level of persecution that Horst within them this feeling of abandonment and neglect and therefore they didn't need this to come so this again has to do with different neshama see okay stop continue tomorrow they'll be a sheer image Sasha same time have a wonderful day everybody tomorrow night Tuesday night here is no right here twenty their own identity it's true it's also true you see it it says generations hakama that when you get angry you shouldn't speak why because by the words you're gonna say things and sometimes the words can also increase the intensity of the emotion when you're quiet it's a biggest cooler to quiet things down when people get into an argument and they answer it elicits more anger from themselves very often no it is it is it is it's important or not yeah that the deeper brings out deeper emotions it's in a positive also the person says I love you you articulate the emotion it brings out deeper emotion and the same is negative when people are angry and they talk it sometimes it's like stalking the flames it's it's pouring kerosene on the flames you have to sometimes just turn away and be quiet little simmer in you but it'll relax you're not feeding the starter you're not feeding the this class is brought to you by the yeshiva net please help us continue the classes make even a small contribution at triple w dot they ueshiba net / donate you