How to STOP caring about what people say?

it's a natural tendency for people to want to be liked the problem is if you're gonna try to be liked by everybody then you're not even going to end up liking yourself instead of caring about what every Tom Dick and Harry has to say about you or think about you or judge you choose for yourself a closed group of people that those are the opinions that matter to you in my personal Circle my wife my Rabbi my best friend and my coach are the only opinions about me that matters everybody else could go fly a kite and that's how you stop caring what everybody thinks about you by really caring about what a small group of people think about you