Episode 7: How to Handle Bad Days

we're gonna get started in just a minute actually once you're here Zane come say hello to the people we have Zane Burke oh here he is joining us for the next couple weeks he is acting as a intern for wealthy commercials kid is super talented he weighs in at 96 pounds 4 foot 10 inches 13 years old and he's ready and hungry for business welcome Zane to the team happy to have you buddy welcome Facebook at Instagram this is Beryl Solomon for today's episode of the barrel Solomon show we have a very very exciting episode today that I think every single person including myself needs to hear over and over and over and over again which is how to handle bad days you see me here every single day with a smile on my face cranking and rolling and wanting to build and grow but I promise you this ladies and gentlemen there are many many many days that things are not going my way whether things outside of business are happening that are not going my way things inside the business are not going right away or even worse sometimes inside of your heart and inside of your mind it's not always going the right way today I want to discuss how to deal with those days how you manage those days how to move past in those days and how we could continue to build even when hard times are going on inside outside and in the middle all right welcome to the show let's jump right into it today's episode how to handle bad days number one you have no choice ladies and gentlemen let me tell you something you have two options you could either face your problems or you could crawl in a little corner in a fetus position and give up and that's not really a choice you know I had a friend anytime that something bad would happen to him the guy would go to sleep it was the weirdest thing he had a bad situation go to sleep got into a fight with his girlfriend he went to sleep something didn't go his way he went to sleep it was a very very weird behavior and if he wasn't sleeping he was watching Netflix he would watch some Netflix movies to try to escape we all do this to a certain extent whether it's through drugs whether it's through disengaging whether it's through bad behavior or whether it's just not showing up to the game that is never ever ever ever the answer you have no choice but to carry on because guess what who do not choose when your heart stops ticking it's gonna take until God wants it to and if you give up and you go to the corner your problem is still gonna be there when you get up I remember I used to smoke cigarettes and whenever I had a bad situation I would go and smoke a cigarette so any time that I had something bad go on cigarette cigarette cigarette and I thought that that was you know solving my problems but really was just running away and when I stopped smoking the cigarette it's been eight years and God since I smoked I would have to face my problem again so you got no choice but to deal with your problems the other option is crawl into a corner and die and nobody wants to do that you're better than that so number one to handle bad days know that you have no choice but to handle them next push forward there's been so many days that I have been in this office that have been so incredibly stressful that have been so incredibly difficult and it would have been so nice just to hop in my car and go home and just chill and relax sometimes by the way that is warranted but it's 99% of the time the answer is not to go home and give up the answer is to push forward and get up and push yourself even when it is tough on those mornings on those days there have been days ladies and gentlemen where I have been sitting in my office and horrible things have happened here and all they wanted to do was go home and give up and that is not the answer it specifically in those times you have to push forward what separates the boys from the men the ladies from the women in business in life in general is when you're having those tough days to not give up and to specifically push forward when that phone call is hard to do when that decision is hard to do when that smile on your face is hard to do when walking through that door is hard to do that's specifically what you have to do it and it doesn't stay hard forever that initial push forward that you have to get through you know when you start a car for example it's not hard for the engine once it gets at 100 miles an hour but zero to 60 you better believe that that's tough but that doesn't last push forward in those hard days who not give up in those hard days don't let yourself psych yourself out which brings me to my next point tell yourself that it will be okay I regularly lie to myself that things will be okay there's so many mornings and a lot of you probably heard this they've been watching me or following me there's so many mornings that I'll get up and I know that everything is gonna help and a look in the mirror I don't repeat to myself over and over and over again everything's gonna be all right everything's gonna be okay everything's gonna be all right everything's gonna be okay and I literally fool myself and believe because really that's the truth let's be honest here okay even if you look back at the hardest situations that you've had in your life you could honestly say that those are the points that you grew the most think about it right now for a second think about the hardest situation had in your life I can guarantee that you came out a better woman or a better man because as a result from that hard situation the truth is is the end of the day everything does turnaround everything does turn positive everything does turn okay and that's we have to remember tell yourself we'll be okay lie to yourself I say lion quotations because really it's not lying the truth is is that you actually will be okay but the first person that has to know that is you to tell yourself everything will be okay yes next reach up to God this is a huge one okay this actually probably should have been first on the list according to nature there is no reason why things should be okay according to nature you should have been eaten by wild animals a long long time ago according to nature things actually should not be okay it's random the world is chaotic I always say if you take an atheist right what does he believe the world is created by he believes that at some point billions of years ago there was a random explosion from that random explosion broke off a rock and from that rock came the world and from that random rock came one random species that came from the ocean from that random species from the ocean and grew and came into a reptile and the reptile turned into monkey and the monkey turned into a human and the human turned into you all right if you do not believe in God and you believe that everything is random there's no reason why to morrow should be okay because really God is just playing dice with the universe and everything is completely random and completely strange but if you believe that God runs the world and if you understand that God is ultimately good and God ultimately once they give you good not that just he's a good guy and you know what whether you're go to your bed it depends how he's gonna treat you if you believe that he's only good and you believe that he's only gonna give you good revealed good then you have a hope and you have a reason to trust that tomorrow is gonna be okay when you're going through a tough day ladies gentlemen and nothing is going your way that specifically when you need to reach up to God there's an expression that there's no such thing as an atheist in a bomb shelter when they're dropping bombs on your town your city even if you're the big Z feels you better believe you're believing in God at that point going through a tough day reach up to God ask for a little help watch the magic that ensues after that I've seen it countless times in my life most beautiful experience is that Alright next ask for people's advice Will Smith changed my life when I was 12 years old I'll tell you why because he was accepting a Nickelodeon award and I remember he said on stage whatever it is that you are going through currently or whatever you were going to experience in your life somebody older than you wiser than you smarter than you has gone through it and written and you could read about his or her experience you're not the first person that ever entered into the world the world existed many many many thousands of years before you came to it and the same situation it says that there's nothing new Under the Sun there's no experience you are going through that there has not been another person that has already gone through when I'm going through a tough day I reach up to people that I respect I reach up to people that went through similar situations that I'm going through and I asked for their advice how to chart my way through it how to get myself into that mess that I'm in I had to get myself back into a positive frame of mind where I could start building and start growing and leave that depression zone feeling depressed it's always the evil inclination you want to relieve that depression as soon as possible because nobody wins when you're depressed you don't win your friends don't win your family doesn't win your business doesn't win you want to move that depression zone as soon as humanly possible ask somebody reach up ask for advice that's where the power lies alright next yes question cool who is that mohammed peg jew welcome to the show moe we appreciate it Mohammad asks I love that having Mohammed on the show what a good guy I love you moe Mohammed asks how do you balance work and family and I get this question all the time I don't see it as a contradiction a lot of people see it as it's conflicting and contradicting first I have a rule at six o'clock every single night I'm in my house no matter what I'm there to eat dinner with my family I'm there for my kids I'm there for my wife I'm there to take care of bathing them feeding them whatever it is it needs to get done six o'clock every single day I'm home at six o'clock that's personally my balance that I have Saturday Sunday no work family days nine o'clock until 5:30 every single day Monday Friday I'm acting like a complete lunatic building this business and going full force and I noticed that the more successful I am in business the more successful I am in my office and career that actually more I'm able to give to my family not just monetarily by the way which is obvious but more on a spiritual and a contented level when I come home from my office and I've had a killer week and a successful day and I did what I had to do I feel like a million bucks and when I come home I'm able to share that feeling and that that that glow with my family that when I'm winning they're winning they want to see me win they want to see me succeed because they know that I'm gonna be the best dad the best father the best the best husband to them winning and succeeding up my office how do i balance it at home everyday eight six o'clock don't work on the weekends and 9:00 until 5:30 every single day I work like a lunatic so I could provide spiritually materially and lovingly to my family last point in how to get over bad days how to handle bad Dave's know that it is temporary I say this all the time whatever bad situation that you are going through yet understand that your life is a very very very long book and this is a very small chapter and that's all you got to look at is there's a there's a famous story of there's a famous story of a king and he had a piece of paper a message that would make a poor man happy and a rich man said and what it was was a piece of paper that's that said this too will pass meaning the poor man eventually become rich and the rich man will learn to come poor and this too will pass meaning everything in life life is not something that stays a lot of people in a given in a bad situation they think that that's their life and they're locked in at that zone at that moment but life is a movie life is a book you have chapters if you have scenes you have openings you have closing some people unfortunately keep themselves stuck in situations they keep they they stay there they mull it over there in their head they're driving themselves nuts about it you got to get out of that situation understand that this here is temporary and you go back to my second point which says push forward and let time carry you out of the situation let time carry you out and get you out and understand that eventually it's temporary and eventually you're gonna get out of it ladies gentlemen if you're going through a bad day pick yourself up get yourself up know that depression never helped anybody the opposite of course you for clinically depressed that's a different story you have to deal with that on a different level with meds and whatever it is but not everybody's clinically depressed most of the time it's just up here you have to control down here you have to get a hold of and I gave you the six things so just go over them hey you have no choice but to push forward be you got to push forward number three tell yourself that it will be okay number four it reach up to God number five ask for people's advice and number six know that temporary and this too will pass questions beautiful who is that from Aaron Joseph thanks for your comment ledges beautiful 24/7 listen I my life is not beautiful 24/7 actually there are many many days that I wake up and the last thing I want to do is get out of my bed because I don't want to face what the world has to throw me that day so I believe it's beautiful maybe 24 5 but what I'm trying to focus on is those days that are difficult anybody who is honest with themselves and Aaron you're an honest guy I know that you are know is that there's days that are difficult in those days specifically that's when we need the tools to know that a you're not alone be this will pass and see you're gonna make it and don't give up on yourself cuz that's where the magic happens is those people that don't give up god bless thank you for watching this week's installment to the Beryl Solomon show tomorrow we have a very special guest can't wait to tell you all about it tomorrow 12 o'clock Eastern Standard Time you could check this out on iTunes or on stitcher 1 on Spotify or on YouTube Facebook Instagram LinkedIn and I'm even in your head have a great day god bless take care