Being Liked for Who You're Not

To me, when I speak to you, what I'm trying to understand is what is the suffering that you experienced that allowed you to have the profound insights that you do. Cuz I don't believe you, and I asked you this the last time we were on. I don't believe you that there's no major There isn't a kernel of catalyst suffering in your life. Whatever that That was my beginning. What I'm saying here >> like I you just started like you were just talking about being more authentic, and then you gave me like a little compliment, "Oh, you're so authentic, and your your success hasn't changed you." And then you're like, "And what's your deepest pain? Let's go [laughter] there. Let's go straight there. What's Cuz you I know you're hiding it." >> No, you're not hiding it. That's what I find so amazing is that you're able to authentically connect. You're able to authentically empathize, and really people's pain and suffering with their going through. You're You're not just mirroring. You You understand what they're going through, and I just find that you're able to both be so outward-focused and uplift, and have this core that is not [snorts] getting swept away in this modern world of virality. I I I'm trying to understand what you're doing cuz I don't feel like I feel like I need to learn how to do this. I'm not doing it well. One of my deepest pains. Top three or four pains. Maybe even could be top one or two, but for sure top three or four pains in my life. Is the pain of not being able to be my true self. Fear of of being rejected, and intermingled with a complex sort of um oh, I figured out how to play the game. I Now I do know how to mask. I can make people like me. And then the self-loathing for participating in that. And then even worse, the even deeper feeling of rejection that you can get people to like you for your false self. You understand? Like, what's more painful than being hated for who you are is being liked for who you're not. Even more painful. More devastating. So, that's that's the answer to your question.