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Rabbi Kalish
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me then, and remains with me now, but I
also have the Torah of now. So, it's not
like what I learned then, but now. No,
what I learned then was a truth. That's
that a three-year-old learns Torah, and
you teach Torah to a three-year-old, and
it makes an impression, and he absorbs
things. But, I also want to learn it as
a 10, as an 18-year-old, as a
28-year-old, as a 48-year-old.
So, it's not like, oh, it was wrong.
Well, it wasn't wrong at all what I
learned then, not at all.
My absorption of Torah, if it would be
wrong, then we should just not teach
little kids and wait till you're older.
It's not like that. What we learn when
we were little is very, very right, and
very real. The pro- It's not a problem
to have a two-year-old view of Torah. I
think you should have a two-year-old.
You should also have a 20-year-old view
of Torah. The two-year-old thing we saw,
and the six-year-old, and
eight-year-old, it has to be that way.
Hashem, we're learning Hashem's Torah,
and it leaves an impression, and it
moves us, it talks to us, and then we
study it again, and we see different
layers, different levels.
But, it's very, very hard to like
update, not to just see what we saw, to
like be willing to see it new, to see it
fresh, to see it with a fresh eyes is is
a challenge.
I want to I want to study I want to ask
you guys really without an agenda.
Something that like caught my attention
a lot this year in Parshas Lech Lecha,
as I'm studying the Parsha of Lech
Lecha,
and something caught my eye a lot. It's
like hitting me, and it's such an
interesting thing to say to a tzaddik.
The Bardichever talks about it. But, I
don't want to tell you his terets. I
want to learn it. And I want you to
learn it. And I am actually like I think
it's actually strange. And if somebody
has a pshat, I'm very interested.
Avraham Avinu's first nisayon of his
life.
Now, it's not his story, it's our story.
He's our father. Every year has
nisyonos.
And the challenges of Avraham are are
our story of our own Zionists. We all
were
My self is similar by name. What happens
to the tattas part of our story?
And Avram Avinu's first design is a
difficult design and I'm not asking I
want I want to say what I am asking you
who do what I'm not asking.
In the first design he's told to leave
everything he's familiar with. Now
that's a design. I don't ask I'm not big
enough to say what's the big design.
It's a huge design. To leave everything
you're familiar with is crazy.
It's three words. I want to think about
this over Shabbos.
There's many aspects to where we come.
It's interesting the three designs are
to go
your land, my land where you were born,
my base of your father's household.
There's many aspects to the culture of
where you come from.
There's their own hug as the things
you're used to. The guys will see when
you get married and you experience a
different seder for the first time in
your life. It's like very overwhelming.
It's like completely wrong. They don't
know how to do a seder like really not.
You're used to a certain thing. It's
like what? Just not how to do it. It's
just not.
And to adjust to a new world, to leave
the world you're familiar in is a
massive design. It's a deeply
challenging thing.
It's It's It's murder to leave what I'm
used to. To try something new. To be
uncomfortable. To sit in something
different. By the way, you could
physically challenge and still not be
willing to sit in the new thing.
I remember going to Israel and I'm not
talking about being uncomfortable for a
day or a month. Talking about for a year
or years being uncomfortable.
I'm used to this. I'm not used to it. I
I come from something different,
different culture, different everything
different. So, the Nissan of Lecha is
wild to be open to something new. Arts I
share a wreck I'm yet going to show you
something. Something that's out of your
experience, something you won't be used
to. It's going to be something new.
So, to tell somebody to try something
new is very hard. I have found the
Rebbe's Torah.
In the summer you would we learn the
Rebbe's Torah. One of the biggest thing
I learned from it from the Rebbe from
Geisler shlita.
I when I hear things I don't know what's
happening there I tend to run away. My
whole life I called that like Machshava
Chassidus and I ran away.
You know bad that is you only like
learning things you're comfortable
familiar. I'm starting to learn Svarim
that I'm very you'll hear the Reb Levi
Yitzchak I don't know what he's talking
but I'm not running away from it.
Why would I only want to learn things
that make sense to me? I want to expand
a little bit.
You know what you were going to say
about Reb Geisler's Torah? I'm waiting
to hear.
I'm waiting to hear what Reb Levi was
going to say about Reb Geisler's Torah.
That what I see in him, what I see in
Reb Geisler is the willingness to go to
places that are hard to understand and
he doesn't shy away and and if you go to
those places so guys I don't understand.
Okay, cuz so be a little uncomfortable.
That's all part of Lecha. Go to the land
where you're unfamiliar with.
>> [snorts]
>> Now, it doesn't mean but I don't
understand it. I'm not doing so what do
you want to leap of faith? No, I'm
talking about to visit. Go check it out.
See, hear, study.
Tap into things that are after people
hear a shear often they hear a mussar
shear people run to the front to figure
out that they're not that it doesn't
contradict. I'm I'm doing it right. I'm
there already.
Maybe you're not.
Be willing not to be.
Be willing to be in unfamiliar
territory. Be willing for that. Reb
Geisler starts one of the great things
that I've learned from him.
Top of the list. I It's I've learned so
much. It would be hard for me to say the
top thing. It would be up there. I have
a few things that I've gotten from the
Rebbe that have been impactful my life.
This is one of them, Yaakov. He goes to
places that are scary. I don't know what
Like what's happening. I read this I
read this Shema. I don't know what he
means always.
And I my tendency is to run away. I
don't want to go to
the land I'll yet be seen. I want to
stay where I'm familiar, where I know,
where it's clear to me.
You'll see Jackie in your learning
experience. You could expand. You could
learn something new, and new concepts,
new ideas. You could be open to new
worlds, to new vistas.
His Torah is full of that. It's like
And but you have to Yeah Yeah, you have
to not be afraid to be a little
unfamiliar at times.
>> Uh-huh.
That's That's I see he has the courage
to go to unfamiliar places. And by the
way, you end up expanding a lot in going
to unfamiliar places. So, Lech Lecha is
a wild sign. To anybody who say, "I
don't get the sign of Lech Lecha."
There's no question. If you don't get
the sign of Lech Lecha, I don't know if
you're living. We all are afraid of that
which we're uncertain about. By the way,
by the way, I'm very afraid of dogs.
I'm very afraid of dogs. My whole life I
was bitten by one when I was a kid. Took
a chunk out of my leg. I came home
gushing blood. I got stitches. My mother
brought me to the to the doctor. I got
stitches. And I didn't do anything where
I ran by a house, a neighbor, very nice
people, older couple. They took in a
stray dog as a chesed. They took in a
stray dog, good people. I'm not even I'm
not even saying it cynically. That
chesed is a chesed. They took in a stray
dog. Rachamim al kol ma'asav. Hashem is
kind to take in a straight dog. I'm only
saying it's salty cuz he bit me that
dog. When the dog they took in a dog, I
was running home.
What?
I don't think so. I I can't say I
wouldn't have been. It's hard to It's
always hard to remake your life. Would I
have been frightened of dogs? I could
be. A lot of Yidden are afraid of dogs.
I want to express what scares me about
dogs cuz I don't understand them.
I don't understand them. They're so
weird. They're like
and the owner's like he's friendly. It
doesn't feel friendly to me. I mean
honestly. I mean honestly. I want to say
this the Josh the guys in Yeshiva a lot
of guys are not afraid of dogs. I don't
want to say they could be more
courageous than me.
You Have you seen this?
The guys in Yeshiva Rocky Freeman years
ago years ago we were middle of a
football game and a dog ran on the field
and almost tackled the Deutsch. He ran I
kid you not. We were You got attacked by
a dog?
It's frightening. Now Rocky Freeman
walked up to a crazy dog and wasn't
afraid. And you know Shmuel Yakov, he
understands dogs. They're predictable to
him. I have seen guys here they handle
with a dog. Are you good with dogs? I've
seen lonely guys here. They can handle
with a They can handle with a dog.
They're not afraid like they know what
they and they they know how to get the
dog to respond like he makes sense to
them.
If I would learn it like that
Nachum, if we would You know what I mean
Avi? If we would learn the dog like some
of the guys know the dog, so it's not
scary. They know how to They know and
they know what he's doing. When he does
that they do and he responds. I've
watched it. It's not Now to me is out of
control the dog. He's crazy. So I can't
handle him. He's so meshuga.
He's so meshuga. It's interesting the
Gemara Bava Kama said don't have a bad
dog in the house. Don't have a bad dog
in the house. So I was wondering what a
bad dog is. He says a good dog. Every
owner says their dog is a good dog. He's
a good dog. Well behaved. She's well
behaved. Like So I don't know the bad
dog in the house. good dog if it's tiny.
It has to be like
you know I don't understand them but
can't hurt me so like fine with them but
tiny little what? It's his dog it's not
yours. It's a bad dog.
>> [laughter]
>> That's very true.
It means his dog don't have in your
house. It means his dog don't have in
your house.
It's a great a great great you had a
dog.
You had a dog that you had a dog that
somebody else has.
Every
I never met the guy who says I have the
bad dog in my house.
It says not to have a bad dog in your
house.
You
had a dog that nobody thinks it's their
dog. It always means the other guy's
dog. You can never have the other guy's
dog in your house.
Your dog is he's a good dog. The bottom
line is Josh is that if it's predictable
and I understand that it's safe.
New people are scary to us cuz I don't
know what you're going to do.
Predictability like I got you. I know
where you're coming from. I know where
you're coming. A guy once told me
You had a guy once told me he was very
upset at at a relative of his. So I said
he's not evil he's just sick.
So the guy got very mad at me. What's
the difference in evil and sick? He got
mad at me. He's not sick he's evil.
So I told the guy that sick is
predictable. Somebody's crazy it's
predictable what they're going to do.
Evil's unpredictable they're trying to
hurt you.
Said evil's unpredictable. The relative
of yours you know what they're going to
do. It's predictable. Their behavior you
know what sets them off. So they're
they're sick they're not evil. Said
evil's unpredictable. So I don't know if
I'm right.
But, I do know that we like what we're
comfortable with. Every human being
likes what they're comfortable with. A
new person's heart, I know what you're
going to do. What are you going to say?
What are
When I understand somebody, we have like
there's a predictability.
The
So, let the Nissan of Lech Lecha is a
Nissan that Avraham Avinu is given. It's
the Nissan. It's the first Nissan of
Avraham Avinu's life. I have no right to
say this. But, gosh, this is the most
fundamental Nissan of every human
being's life. Of leave that which is
familiar.
Expand. Expand. Enter into areas that
are unknown to you.
I used to watch Rabbi Sonnenschein, my
friend Rabbi Sonnenschein. He would
learn new things.
He wasn't afraid to study new things.
People love Yet, our little kids, you're
going to see this in your own little
children. You know your little kids
going to want you to read this You read
books to your children. Dovid, you're
going to have a beautiful family,
B'ezras Hashem. And you're going to want
to read your son You're going to read
books to your son. You know he's going
to ask for the same book every night. We
can we I like reading a book. Can we
read a new book already?
He wants the same book.
The kid wants the same book because it's
safe by him. He knows the next page. He
knows what's going to happen. A new book
is very scary. Could be a bad ending.
This book he knows. He momish knows that
everything works out well. A new book is
very scary.
Slowly, gently, gently. Very gently.
You'll see. You'll see on your kids,
Avraham, it's maddening cuz you want to
like get to the new book already. Like,
there's a lot of good The children's
book, the ones who like it more than the
adult loves it more than the kid. But,
not the same book. And they want the
same book. Can we I'm like, that book
again? You try to hide it. And every
adult, you end up hiding the familiar
book. And by force, we get to read a new
one.
But, little kids want the same book cuz
they want what's familiar. Adults do the
same things. We have the tendencies to
do the same things. We're afraid of that
which is new.
That which is unfamiliar, that which is
very scary to us. I want to learn what's
familiar to me. I have in Gemara, it's
very interesting when you know a message
and you open the page and it's your
friend. It's very good schmuck.
Like I know the page. It's familiar to
me. It's like safe. Okay, then within
that safety maybe I'll like think of a
new Hadash like a new area maybe a
little. I'm just safe there.
You open that new page and it's like
Sugyas and areas you're like clueless
about. It's very scary.
And Lecha Lecha in the sign, the sign of
the Avodah Shem, the sign of Avraham
Avinu, the one who is the loyal list to
Hashem is leave that which is familiar.
Lecha Lecha Me'aretzcha Me'molad'techa
Me'veit Avicha El Ha'aretz Asher Areka.
I want you to expand to leave that which
you know, that which you already
experienced to be
to be vulnerable in that way, to go
where you don't know, which is
unfamiliar to you. So the sign of Lecha
Lecha, I'm not trying to like be poetic
and any chat of Lecha Lecha, if somebody
tells me and I be interested, so I don't
relate to the sign of Lecha Lecha. Okay,
I don't know what world they're living
on. Anybody that I know I think so and
I'm not like trying to shame anybody.
But the sign of Lecha Lecha is amazingly
familiar, Dovi, and it's the first sign
of Avraham Avinu's life. Lecha Lecha
Me'aretzcha Me'molad'techa
El Ha'aretz Asher Areka, to a place that
I'll show you yet. You're not going to
know yet where it is. You'll see. If you
knew already, then I don't know if it's
B'chinat Lecha Lecha. El Ha'aretz Asher
Areka, you'll yet see it. It will become
familiar.
It will become, but expand a little.
So that's this sign of Lecha Lecha and I
get it.
What interests me a lot is in the
introduction of this sign is
let I was a lot of NASA.
It's for your benefit.
What's Hashem saying there? It's for
your benefit. What interests me, this is
challenging. It's hard to do this.
What's Hashem introducing the diverse
NASA? This is for your benefit.
For your the
by that from Levy Yitzchak Avraham Avinu
was an ever Hashem. He was thinking
about service of Hashem. He was Lashon
if you will.
But what's this introduction of the
Nisayon that let I was a dash?
What's Hashem saying let I was a lot of
NASA? It's for your benefit. It's for
your pleasure. I said it backwards, I
believe. Rashi says let I was a lot of
NASA for your pleasure and for your
benefit. Now, by the way, it would be
good day to analyze what are those two
things and I'd like to ask you that.
What's let I was a and what's let I was
a? What are those two things? Your Hana
and your benefit.
Dovi, what's Hana and I was a?
And what's the introduction? Avraham
Avinu has a Nisayon. He has a challenge
in the service of Hashem. Avraham Avinu
is an ever Hashem and he's challenging
his Hashem. I mean, he's challenged to
leave that which is familiar, that he
knows, to leave that where he's
comfortable.
A serious ever Hashem once told me,
"Life starts where your comfort zone
ends." That's what a serious ever Hashem
once told me. And I I agree there's a
big beginning of that. Go where you're
uncomfortable. Life starts where your
comfort zone ends. That's what an ever
Hashem told me. Let
that's my mission. Avraham Avinu's
beginning is leave that which is known
to you. Expand a little. Venture. Go
out. Expand a little to the unknown.
So, I totally hear the Nisayon. What's
this introduction let I was a?
Let I was a let I was a for your It's a
Nisayon. [snorts]
Now, the fact that it's not Tyvaska
doesn't make it easier to the sign. It's
not the tendency to do this.
What is Hashem saying L'cha?
Lech L'cha.
What's this? And it's it's the first of
the Nisyanus. It's interesting on the
other Nisyanus Hashem does I didn't see
Hashem say this. It's for your benefit.
It was a Nisayon. Nisayon is a challenge
to bring out Avraham Avinu's want to
serve Hashem.
What's this L'cha in the first Nisayon
is good for you?
Wait a second. So it's a less It was It
was meant This is a Nisayon. It was
meant to make it less of a Nisayon. It's
a Nisayon. It's a challenge. It's hard
to do this.
Does it change by the way if you know
it's your benefit? Now it's easy. It's
still a Nisayon. Does it make it less of
a Nisayon? It was challenging.
>> Why does it not make it less of a
Nisayon? Maybe it is. I'm So then Hashem
was making it not a Nisayon. It's a
Nisayon. It's one of the Nisyanus that
Avraham was Where is this that you're
telling him? Is Hashem just lessening
the Nisayon? Let me make it a little
easier, Avraham. I know I'm asking you
something hard.
So could Hashem have given the full
Nisayon not L'cha?
What's happening? What's this L'cha?
This L'cha struck me as so funny.
Avraham Avinu is being challenged and
one of the challenges Lech. He has a
series of challenges in his life.
In those series of challenges, one of
them is to leave that which is familiar.
But Hashem says to him L'cha.
I don't want
I don't own it. I first want to say what
hits me. I'm learning Chumash. It hits
me that it's L'cha for you.
Oh. Oh, so you're not really challenging
me. They're challenges. These are real
challenges. These are Nisyanus about
Avraham Avinu's life, but it says L'cha.
My suspicion, Yehuda. My suspicion,
Dovi. And I I don't know. My suspicion,
there's a rule
There's a rule in Torah we say every
morning, Joshua.
In English, I want to express something
called the mama tsinu. The derech of
Hashem is to tell you something in one
place and to know it's true always.
Yaakov, I suspect on the challenges of
our life
challenges could be do something bad for
yourself.
>> [snorts]
>> And if you do something bad, I'll reward
you.
I'm going to tell you some hard things,
some damaging things to self, but if
you're willing to give me something,
I'll give you something. A deal. Josh,
two people make a deal.
A trade in sports. If you part with a
certain player, so I'll give you a
different player. Now, it hurts what
you're parting. You're parting with a
good player.
When kids are young, they like make
trade. Sports radio. Sports talk is the
lowest form of wisdom probably in the
world that exists. You lose like brain
points. It's
How's a little better? It's a little
better. Sports the kind But people call
up like trade proposals.
So, you call up, you know, why don't why
don't uh Astros send them like this
minor league pitcher and they get Aaron
Judge from the Yankees and give them a
bag of baseballs? Cuz the Yankees don't
want a bag of baseballs. They want Aaron
Judge. Like people propose trades. A
trade is you give up something and you
get something.
So, nisyanus would be easy to frame. If
you give me something, I'll give you
back, Avram.
That Hashem deals and wheels and deals
with a person. Do something for me, I'll
do something back. If you trust him, you
get benefits. I'm sorry, right. So, you
you did something hard for you and I
there'll to good there'll be benefits
back. You give me something that's a
nisaion.
>> You only give up something if you know
that you're going to get
>> Get something better. So, that's how I
could have said is that every nisaion is
if you give up something precious to
you, I'll give you See, you you you're
making a trade with God. That's not a
nisaion nassar.
I don't think it makes a nisaion less. I
don't think it's true cuz it's a nisaion
of leaving everything you're familiar
and
the fact that it's good for you doesn't
I don't think that's mocked in the
nisaion. I don't think it makes it less
cuz you see it's hard to give up even if
we know it's good for us.
I don't think the the lecha is making it
less.
I think the lecha is a truth of every
challenge of a human being.
At the onset of our father's nisaioness,
there's a truth to all our nisaioness.
The difficulties we encounter is not if
you give God something so trade he'll
he'll give you back something good. The
very difficulty, the very challenge is
expanding you. Lecha lecha.
It's not lessening the nisaion. It's
describing that nisaioness are things,
difficulties that when the person does
these difficulties, they expand.
It's not a sugia of trade, give to
Hashem and he'll give you something
back, it'll be worth it. And I suspect
that this lecha is is for all the
nisaioness. I suspect, I can't prove
this to you. It says "alech lecha" it
says specifically on this nisaion. It
makes me wonder that on the first
nisaion he says "lecha" that it's an
explanation of all the nisaioness. I
wonder, I'm wondering with the guys, I'm
not somebody will start arguing, no,
maybe it's not true on this nisaion.
The
first one is an indicator for all of
them. That's that's what I'm assuming.
That Hashem said this Josh, I think it's
an explanation of nisaioness. Nisaioness
not if you're like if you do bad things
to yourself, well, you gave one to me.
So, you gave what Hashem wanted you to
hurt yourself?
The Nisayon themselves are difficulties,
tremendous difficulty, and it's very,
very hard to do this. But, understand
that it's that that it's l'cha, that
what I'm talking about is l'na'aseh
l'tovasech.
What these two things, l'na'aseh
l'tovasech, what are these two things?
Your hana'ah, your pleasure, and your
benefit.
>> [snorts]
>> That I I'm thinking, I'm being mispaled.
I'm not ready to share with the chevre.
What I'm expressing that is interesting,
l'na'aseh l'tovasech, for your pleasure
and your better.
For your pleasure and your better. Very
interesting words, but I suspect in all
Nisayonus that it's not like show for
Hashem, and if you give one up for the
team, then you can get something in
return. The very Nisayon is to do that
which is for your benefit. Now, it's a
Nisayon. It's hard to do even what's
good. Doesn't make it not a Nisayon. Oh,
I gained from it. But, it's an important
understanding of challenges that Hashem
has It It's And it certainly could help
us in all our Nisayonus. I do
acknowledge it can help us in all our
Nisayonus that I get bigger from this.
This is an expansion of me. Hashem is
doing this for me. There's There's a
gain in this for me.
There's a gain. There's an expansion
from this.
I think I think there's a truth to this
in all the challenges of our life,
there's expansion.
And that's That awareness Hashem wants
us to have at the very onset of the
first Nisayon is l'cha.
What I'm speaking about of all the
Nisayonus is l'na'aseh l'tovasech. I'm
talking about things that the challenge
is not could you give it up? Could you
The challenge is And it still remains a
challenge.
But, it's l'tovasech, l'na'aseh
l'tovasech. It's for your own expansion.
This is about your own expansion doing
something hard for your expansion.
That's
interesting me that I shall describe
this is for your benefit.
>> [snorts]
[snorts]
>> I want to have to something we said from
I want to have to with the guys we
express something from
that I want to express to the guys that
the six says
I shall promise I will bench those that
bench you.
If somebody wants good for you, they'll
get goodness.
It was I want to it was very very hard.
Recently there was a lover of Jews and
apparent lover of Jews who was killed.
It was a difficult he loves he had them.
I will bench those that bench you.
I will bench they'll be successful. I
will bench those that bench you I shall
promises those that bench
will have it good.
I will bench those that bench you.
Interesting.
My mom, we were wheeled off the plane.
So interesting how the whole world our
Josh this is the best selling book in
the world. The whole world knows the
tires MS. The whole world knows it. My
wife got off the plane
my wife got off the plane from from
we're flying that my wife my mother got
off the plane from Eretz Yisrael
and there was a person helping my mother
has a torn meniscus. So she was being
wheeled in a wheelchair and they were
supposed to go up to a certain point.
The lady said I'm taking you to the car.
So we said mom said no no no no you did
your job. She said no I want to take you
to the car.
She said I'll tell you the truth. She
said I'm off now. I've done my job and I
can go home.
But I can see no greater people. You're
the people God chose I learned in the
Bible and you and I want to be good to
the people Hashem loves Hashem
appreciates. She mom is told I will I
will
I bench those that bench you. She wanted
to take care of my mom. She said such a
sincerity such a she read the Torah. The
Torah says
I will bench those that I will bench
those that bench you.
Now I want to express that parshat
shabbat when you read the parshat it's
going on Avraham Avinu. Understand what
it says about Avraham is true about us
all. Tosafot says that Kohanim get
benched by Hashem. Are there any Kohanim
here?
Ah Michal. Tosafot says that you get
benched. Machlokes Tanaim but you bench
us. Kadosh Baruch Hashem who benches you
Michal?
So it's one Tanna says
means Hashem saying I'll bless the
Kohanim but one Tanna holds
means I'll back up your blessing. I'll
bless Klal Yisrael. Kohanim if you bless
Klal Yisrael I'll bless Klal Yisrael. So
who benches the Kohanim?
Joshua you're a Kohen?
Why?
Nothing fake about Joshua.
>> [applause]
>> You're Yisrael Joshua?
Good.
Joshua
Who benches the Kohanim?
The Kohanim bench us who benches them?
I'm just coming from Eretz Yisrael, it's
so wonderful. The Birchas Kohanim is
wonderful.
It's nice. Every day you get blessings
from the Kohanim, beautiful blessings
from the Kohanim daily. You get the
blessing.
I think we in Chutz L'Aretz might
appreciate it more. It's a blessing to
live here.
But we want to get back there. We want
to get there and appreciate it daily.
Maybe us Chutzniks could come there and
be excited about it. And maybe people
there get benched. Very exciting to get
benched by the Kohanim.
I always wonder. Sometimes I go out to
wash, then I don't always I don't always
find the Kohanim. They do it very fast.
Here like it's a whole we have it so
rarely, Yehuda. Us Levi'im go out
proudly. We're singing here. We make
like a whole party. Over there in Eretz
Yisrael they run. The Kohain runs
whenever he finishes Shmone Esrei,
depending what minyan. It's not always
easy to find the Kohain's hands to to
to wash.
L'maaseh, Birchas Kohanim, who benches
the Kohanim? Aviad, so Tosfos says based
on this pasuk, mamish this pasuk,
"Avoracham m'vorachecha, I will bench
those that bench you." Says Tosfos,
anybody who benches a Yid gets benched.
So Hashem promises, you bench a Yid,
I'll bench you. It's a very good klal to
know in your life. You bench a Yid,
Hashem benches you.
Hashem loves. He
Einayim Kohanim Yisrael. Let me show you
Yisrael.
You like a Yid, Hashem likes you. You
bench a Yid, Hashem benches you.
Dovid ben Hashem, you'll have a family.
One of the greatest joys in the world is
when your kids all get along.
It's like an otherworldly joy for a
parent. Ask any parent. Ask what it
looks like. Your family's like
farbrenging together. They're like doing
things t'zamen.
It's it's it's a beautiful feeling when
the family mishpacha together. Hashem
says about Yidden, "Avarchem
m'varchecha, I like my children."
And I will bench those that bench. Those
that bench my kids, those that connect
to my kids, those that appreciate my
kids. So, there's a delicious feeling.
Avarchem m'varchecha, I will bench those
that bench my kids. And Tosfos says
that's the source that Kohanim will
bench us, who benches them? Hashem. Why?
Cuz they benched us. You benched us,
Hashem benches. Reb Miller was of the
practice.
Reb Victor Miller would pass by Yidden
and he'd give brachos.
All of us give a lot of brachos. When I
always say, we are bracha is a big
thing. People say, "You know how many
mazel tovs I get?" It's a big thing,
mazel tov. Should have good mazel. What?
Good morning. Good morning is a bracha.
Gut morgen. Should be a good morning.
It's a bracha, beautiful bracha. Good
morning.
Good shabbos is a bracha. Reb Miller
would like have in mind the challah and
should taste good. The mishpacha
shouldn't fight. I have mishugas to
challah and all over your shirt, like
you end up looking funny in the
afternoon. Should be a shidduch should
go well. This the soda should go well.
Good shabbos. Should go well, should be
a beautiful shabbos of shalom, of peace,
of the family enjoying each other. We
give many brachos. Reb Miller would pass
by yeshiva and he would start showering
brachos on the yeshiva. Famously took
his 45-minute walk daily. He'd pass by
the Mir Yeshiva, give brachos to the
avreichim, the chevre akollel, the
rabbonim, the talmidim. He'd start
blessing the yeshiva.
Verbally. He would speak it out daily,
every single day he would give brachos.
He'd be mevarech. It's very powerful,
the bracha of a Yid is very powerful.
And Hashem says about a person who
blesses Yidden, "Avarchem m'varchecha,
those that I will bench those that bench
you." People are in the practice of
wishing good for Yidden. Being mevarech,
should be a good to shabbos.
It's funny, the bus is always in a few
minutes. I increasingly think about
guys' situations when they walk out of
here.
Each guy is a unique situation. How it
feels like for an out of town who
doesn't know who's going to this place,
how it feels like for a guy going home,
what's the home situation. Tell a guy
good Shabbos, give him a bracha. It's
good Shabbos. Mama should go home.
Should be comfortable.
Should be happy, should have friendship,
he shouldn't be alone. Should have a
good conversation with his mama. Maybe
it's good good Shabbos. Mama should be a
good Shabbos. A bracha, benching,
say brachos, it's powerful. We have the
power of bracha. And if Hashem is saying
I will bench those that bench you, means
there's a power in benching you.
It means it means something. And Hashem
kilo, Hashem says I have to pay you
back, means the bracha means something.
So you bench any Jew. I do find that
remarkable. The pasuk's going on Avraham
Avinu.
Shem says if you bench Avraham, you'll
get benched. Ta'anis says that of course
that refers to anybody who benches a
Jew. I find that so cool. I thought we
were studying Avraham. Understand we're
studying me and you. We're Avraham, we
come from Avraham. Biracha d'Avraham,
his son is the feet of his father. We
come from our tata. We're talking about
us.
You just see a simple pasuk. The pasuk
says this like this p'shat, it's not
like Hasidus or because it's also great.
Just p'shat. The pasuk says I will bench
those that bench you. Avraham says
Ta'anis, any single person who benches a
Jew gets benched because Hashem promised
whoever benches Avraham will get
benched. Avraham is us.
I have learned in yeshiva, Eli, the
early years of yeshiva I was close to
the guys, I didn't know the parents.
Today I have, Eli, when I'm so into you
that means I like you parents. You are
you You've come from your parents.
We come from our parents. From dad, from
mom, that's where we come. We come from
them.
We come from them. If you like a guy,
you like his parents. He comes from his
parents. Here we are, it says about
Avraham Avinu, "I will bench those that
bench him is true under bond him." If
you bench a ben Avraham, somebody who
comes from Avraham, Hashem benches you.
I'll bench those that bench you."
Why does it switch the order, chevra?
Says, "I will bench those that bench
you, and those that curse you, I will
curse." Why doesn't it say first, "I
will curse those that curse you"?
Why the switch in order, Jackie?
Says, "I will bench those that bench
you." So, what should it say? "I will
curse those that curse you." It doesn't.
And it says, "And those that curse you,
I will curse." It switched the order.
Yankee, you have the kasha?
Lally, what should follow? If God said,
"I
If it says, "I will bench" as Hashem
says, "I will bench somebody who benches
a Yid." So, what should say? "I will
curse somebody who curses Yid." It
doesn't say that. That would be the
same. That would parallel. Speaks what
Hashem does. "I will bench those that
bench you." So, what's the next word? "I
will curse those that curse you." It
doesn't say that. It says, "I will bench
those that bench you, and those that
curse you, I will curse."
Switched the order.
You want to hear what I think, Wally
Yellie?
You have the question, Yellie?
If it says, "I will bench" God says, "I
will bench anybody who benches Yellie."
So, what should Hashem next say? "I will
curse anybody who curses Yellie." It
doesn't say that. So, "I will bench
anybody who benches Yellie." Anybody who
wants good for Yellie, I like.
"I will bench anybody who benches you."
"And anybody who curses you, I will
curse."
Switched the order. What I suspect,
Avraham, is the bracha. When do you mean
your bracha most? When do you bless
people most?
When you're doing well yourself. If I'm
doing terribly, do I have the power to
want good for you?
I myself am doing bad. It's very hard to
want good. So Hashem says those that I
know are going to bench Klal Yisrael,
I'm going to bench them before they
bench you. I'm going to bench them first
so they bench you even harder. The
better they're doing, the better their
bracha will be. So people I anticipate
want bracha for Yidden, I'll bench them.
This way they'll give you a geshmakeh
bracha. So people who intend to bench
Yidden, I'm going to bench them first.
Who curses worse? A guy whose life is
good or life is bad?
If life is bad, a guy curses wah wah
wah, cuz he's down. So Hashem says I'm
not going to curse them before they
curse you.
Those that curse you nach them, I'll
curse them. I don't want to curse them
before, they're going to curse worse. So
I'll bench the people I anticipate will
bench you, I'll bench them first so they
bench you geshmak.
Once somebody already cursed you, then
I'll curse them. What I want to express
is that when Hashem sees we're benchers
of Yidden, he gives us bracha. So I want
to express something that's a truth in
life. I want you to hear Savi yet.
Somebody who wants good to Yidden, and
somebody who's going to give good to
Yidden, Hashem gives them crazy bracha.
Hashem benches them before they bench
you. They have massive Somebody has big
wants to give to Yidden, Hashem benches
them before.
If somebody has such a want, if he knows
that by putting it by this guy, it's
going to spread to his people, so he
puts a lot by the guy. If he knows I'm
going to give all this to this many
people, so he gives me a lot. Those that
bench Yidden, I will bench before they
bench Yidden, so they have the capacity
to bench Yidden more at Ellie.
So it's a good principle to know that
when we're there and and we want to give
to you, then Hashem gives us bracha
before, so we have the capacity and the
abilities to give to you. Hashem benches
those that bench you.
He gives tremendous gifts. You have
Miller spoke about the capacities of
Avraham Avinu.
Avraham Avinu was like a crazy [snorts]
warrior. A crazy capacity, a famous such
capacity, a speaker, a warrior. He had
massive abilities. Somebody who uses it
for the better of others, so Hashem
gives them Hashem gives them gifts. The
Avraham Avinu
those that I anticipate will be Avraham
Avinu,
I will bench them first. They have more
means to bench you.
They have a better eye in time, they
have a more they're in a certain ruach
to bench. It's a good principle to be
aware of how Hashem operates. He who he
sees is is going to give to his people,
Hashem benches them before.
I want to keep studying parshas Lech
Lecha. I also
We all are traveling today. So, does
anybody know what time the buses are
today?
5:45?
>> [snorts]
>> There's a Rashi I don't want to skip.
There's a Rashi I want to say briefly.
And then we'll There's a Rashi I want to
say. And the Rashi I want to share with
the have is something that it says about
sorry menu that I think is wonderful.
And it could be I'm thinking about
traveling a lot. Traveling is grueling.
Having just traveled, I'm on my way in a
in a few minutes I have to go to pick up
my wife from the airport. Traveling
[snorts] is grueling. It's really
tiring. And Sarai was traveling with
Avram. And the possuk says they're
traveling that they had gone to Eretz
Yisrael.
And then there was a famine in Eretz
Yisrael that traveling to Mitzrayim.
And it says Avram Avinu sees
Hinei Yada'ati, now I know
you fast mar'ot. I know about your good
appearance. Avram Avinu becomes aware of
Sarai's good appearance. Rashi's
bothered by what do you mean now I know?
Says Rashi the following observation.
Rashi says
Min Hagoyim
It's Rashi's Davar Acher. Rashi says
that normally shall you date
Haderech Adam Misbaze. A person gets
cheapened through travel.
The Wolf Pack are the only team in the
league. Every team in in the league play
seven home games, seven road games. We
play 14 road games. It's very hard.
We don't get certain calls. We're not
used to the gyms. It's very hard to play
road games. We play 14 road games. Any
guy who plays knows when you get there
you're like you feel like you just came
out of a washing machine. You're like
spinning. The guys like leaving early.
This way they could like find their
feet. They could walk and they could
feel the ground. That said, it was very
hard to come off a trip. You just had a
guy's elbow in your nose for like a few
hours. You come right to the gym. You
like need to like relax, settle down.
Says Rashi it's normal from the Derech
Haderech, from the from the difficulty
of the trip a person's Misbaze. Besides
but Sarai was different. Amdah Biyofya,
she stayed beautiful.
Avram Avinu said Hinei know you that he
said you're you're an aberration. You're
you're so different. Everybody else they
have to travel looks disheveled.
Looks beaten up. Looks all crumply. And
you after a difficult journey you be off
you stay nice.
I want to ask what is that? What is that
telling us about sorry menu? Other
people travel what?
>> Why does she stay nice? They would trip
they're gone to Israel. Then there was a
famine that someone went to Mitrayim.
They're right by Mitrayim. He looks at
her he said other people after all this
travel would look like just a freak.
It's always funny when planes land
people like fix themselves up.
Everybody on the plane like what happens
on the plane stays on the plane. We all
look like we're like miserable. You've
just been I don't know you're just a
wreck. You've been sitting on that plane
for 15 hours. People in the airport are
like getting new shirts, putting on
deodorant. Like making up the face to
the world.
But it's normal a person is mispaza.
Sorry menu as an oddity she stays nice
on the plane.
And I want to ask the guy sophisticated.
Ellie I want to tell you something just
a a troop shot. What is this? What are
we learning about our mother our mama
Sarah?
Sorry menu which was studying me and you
Jackie. She stays good looking even when
she travels. What is that?
Ellie what am I being taught? The Torah
tells us something about our great
people that our mother. What is that
Aviad? People travel they look
disheveled and
sorry menu stays nice. One of my
favorite rashes.
And I want to express the word words are
very important of ram.
It says I will you take
a direct mispaza.
Now mispaza is a lotion like the Zion is
disgraced. You made a disgrace.
If you I I'm curious how Artscroll
translates it, I'm very curious.
Could be I've seen they've written
disheveled.
Could you pass the English hummus? You
pass that?
I'm curious how Thank you. Thank you.
Thank you. God bless.
It's perfect. Sapristi is good.
They both sapphire. They both sap
person. Close. Let's see what Rashi
says.
Rashi says in the in the way it is the
way of the world normally happens
through the strain of the road a person
becomes unsightly.
So they translate misbazza unsightly,
but that's not the exact translation of
misbazza. Misbazza's has an a bazayan.
Doesn't say unsightly. Now Artscroll
translates people look funny. They come
disheveled from travel.
The real world is is misbazzet. The word
I would use is an indignity.
It's so crazy that we have to travel. I
think travel's nuts. An angel operates.
An angel somewhere cuz they want to be
there.
They want to be there. So you are where
you want to be. You want to be there.
That's where you are. Angels don't live
in our our physical world so nuts. I
want to go to a Hashem in Baltimore. We
should like to me it would make sense. I
want to be in Baltimore. Okay.
That's how it works by the world of
angels. I want to be in Baltimore. Okay.
Now you're in Baltimore. Okay.
We have this in this human indignity.
You got to go places and put up with
that.
It's an indignity. You got to get in
there and and and go and travel and
grind and there's so much I want to be
there. I want to be there.
Now you got to get there.
And a person's misbazz of the Torah
hadera, normally the journey makes a
person so disheveled from all the
frustration.
You wear I see guys, I see people 50,
they look like they're 98.
The difficulties they encounter age
them.
The misbazz they've turned the
indignity, they're frustrated, they're
mad. Thanks a lot. Sorry maynu stayed be
offi. She looked beautiful.
She had a It's a I think to me it's
pashas to namuna, it's faith.
She believed whatever we go through,
Hashem's working with me.
That lacha.
So there's namuna, they're not misbazz.
Sorry maynu, the beauty that she had is
so place of namuna. When everybody goes
through all the difficult things and it
ages them and hardens them, makes them
be misbazz, the indignity of all the
difficulties, Sorry maynu stayed be
offi, she looks beautiful.
Anybody who was lucky to see her Miller
in his 90s, he looked like a youthful He
looked like a young man. He had the
energy, he even had the look of the
youngster. It's a level of namuna, he
trusted faith in Hashem.
It's a level of namuna, that's the
pashas of the sugia that Sorry maynu
It's a physical thing, of course it
expresses in a physical way, of course
Of course it expresses in a physical
way. But the mida
What? What what Why is the beauty that
Sorry possessed that she maintained her
beauty?
How is that be contrary to What? If if
you have an indignity, so that Yeah, cuz
that your person wears that on their
face. All the difficults they went
through, they look disheveled and they
they don't Their whole face expresses a
person who's been through crazy
hardship. The misbazz and then it
reflects on them. Sorry maynu has this
namuna, who has a deep faith in Hashem,
so then all the Torah hadera, she's not
mispaza, she's she looks beautiful, she
looks wonderful, she comes out
to smile like this is what Hashem
Hashem's working with me, Hashem's
bringing me. That's what I think shada
from.
That's what I think to get the
task is for a person to say this is
this is where I need to be.
There's a way of traveling like this.
It's true on all challenges. There's a
way of going through life like this.
There's a way. I wanted to read this
rashi Hashem on Sunday and I shouldn't
say Sunday on Monday we're going to
continue to learn parshas lech lecha.
Have an outstanding shabbos everyone.
>> [music]
>> Guys remember to take stuff in your bag.
It's taking me a while. Jimmy is down at
the pool. Let me take him out.
Yeah, it's a good question. You got to
think about it. I'll go up there. She
maintained her beauty. Why? Because it's
annoying I have to go on a plane. But
she maintained her beauty. It wasn't
annoying for her.
Okay, yes, yes.
Yeah, say whatever the hell you want and
then Jimmy adds to the bad luck he
brings me.
No, it shouldn't have said.
She did it. She was impatient about it.
I'm asking what what you want to
Yes.
She's shutting me down aggressively.
Yeah.
No.
What happened?
On? This guy
I know it's a Monticello.
Any Monticello? Yes, that's Monticello.
Why she said
Yes.
I don't understand what he's trying to
say to me. I fresh meat.
What is baba?
Doesn't mean agree. It's baba. It
doesn't mean like ratchet.
Baba means it's Wait, where were you in
charge?
Return.
And she maintained her seat. What does
he have to do with the nick?
With with with with desire.
Just say. Just say.
Yeah, all right.
Yeah, good. You see you're translating.
You're translating.
She doesn't know. Yes, you are. You're
translating.
Little Island talk.
I don't know if I'm familiar with that
language.
How's it going?
It's probably going to stick me in a
room and keep that back.
Good move. It's a good move. It's a good
move.
Same to you, pal.
You in potion me?
Really? I am towering over you. You
understand that?
No.
You can doubt it, you'll probably
You understand?
Yeah, I'm 5'11.
I'll be I'm 5'11.
Well, maybe you're 6 ft. I'm 5'11.
I wrote 5'10 on the resume.
And then I went to the doctor. And then
she figured I'm 5'11.
On the resume?
I'm not.
I'm not 5'11.
I said it was 5'10.
I said 6 ft. Whatever. I said 6 ft with
shoes. Whatever.
Yes, you know what I mean? Cuz it was
money, so like any guest room that I
have will like I'm trying to get out of
two beds.
I have to go.
I'll be
You don't have to go watch the
I just watched the game.
Yeah, y'all.
Yes, y'all.
Yeah, you should ask. You should ask.
I'll be out.
I swear to god, Nelly. You wouldn't have
been behind Yeah, y'all.
Go to the weight room. Yeah, y'all. Go
to the weight room.
And if he doesn't know anything
I'm going.
I don't even know if you're going to
To answer your question.
How far away is
My whole school for months is putting
up.
Come here. Who is Come here.
Who brought? Yeah.
Oh, yeah.
Korean. I'm like two more. So, around
there.
All right.
You just You just swam at your school.
Water polo? Oh, yeah. Okay. I can come
here. water in my mouth. Oh, yeah.
Yeah, yeah, yeah. I think probably here.
It works so far. Is the dog connected?
Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. Oh, come
on, it's a miracle.
No way.
I thought she was married. I thought she
was married, I thought.
That doesn't look like her. So, we're
talking about
I thought she was married. I didn't even
know she was married.
I didn't know.
I thought she was married.