Behar: Why Tanya is the Most Relevant Book for Our Time

So, welcome everybody. Thank you for gracing us with your presence. If you could put your cell phones on vibrate, please. There's one source sheet. It's double-sided. And a few pictures today. You can retrieve the source sheets on the yeshiva.net as well as the shear itself. It live streams there and it stays there with the source sheets if you want to get it later as well and have it on a computer. Today's class is dedicated in loving memory of Miriam Mera Bat Helen who recently passed away on the fifth day of year dedicated by her devoted husband and children to Masatsura but hakayim. We are very very sorry for your loss and may her soul continue to be a source of light and love and empowerment and blessing and inspiration to you and the entire family and the community and all of the Jewish people. Amen. The class is also dedicated by Carol Akolika in memory of her dear parents Shalam ben binyamin Halevi and Barl Basdavid whose yards are on the 26th day of year and the 27th day of year and year. So Carol dedicates this in loving memory and leishmas her beloved parents to and may their eternal soul remain a source of tremendous inspiration and blessing and empowerment and all abundance for you and your family and all of our people. Amen. And we should merit the great prophecy of Vanuaf Mish Mamish. Amen. Today's class is going to be divided by hashem into two parts. The first we're going to be dealing with a a Jewish law which at the surface will seem very technical because it is technical. It can also appear tedious in the sense that you know sometimes just say I'm not a business I'm not a business person. I'm not involved in all of these transactions. It's basically a law about how transactions work. how business monetary transactions work whether it's a sale or a gift but it's an acquisition and at the surface it's nothing but a very physical concrete technical that governs civil law according to the Jewish perspective much of hala deals with that transactions partnerships sales acquisitions obviously if everything goes smooth everything goes smooth but it doesn't always go smooth that's going to be one part of it and it's this week's para para bahar which discusses the laws of acquisition when somebody sells something and buys something. But as always, we are going to hashem discover how this seemingly just technical law about monetary transactions which would seem to relate only somebody who is immersed in that world of business or just wants to learn it and understand it really is a blueprint for life. Like everything in terra it exists on so many different levels. So every law has the body of it, the physical concrete idea of it which is like the basis of it. But it also has deeper dimensions and layers that when you uncover it, it is really a psychological idea behind it, an emotional truth, a spiritual energy behind it. And what seems like a very technical law about transactions is really an entire um belt on Shaolong. You know that word world perspective. I don't know if anybody uses it old German Yiddish. A world perspective on what happens inside of our lives. As you could see the title of today's classes, why Tanya is the most relevant book of our time. How to live at peace with yourself. We're going to be also learning one of the most fundamental themes of one of the most classic works in the world of is known as the Tanya that was written by the alterb rab of leyadi in the 1790s was published in 1796 and this connected to parah really opens us up to this reality what does it mean to live at peace with yourself everybody knows that life is filled with vicissitudes and Every moment there is what's called stimula and reaction. There's something coming in. There's input and there's output. I'm seeing things. I'm hearing things. I'm feeling things. I'm picking up things. Some of us more than others. Some of us more sensitive than others. Some of us more anxious than others. And then there's how I respond to it. But every person responds to life in so many different ways based on their makeup, their composition, their background, their nature, their nurture, their inner system. What makes the difference between a regulated life and a disregulated life? What makes the difference between responses that allow me to live with more meaning and joy and serenity and calmness and connection and responses that can have the opposite effect? What is it? Is it just to have good discipline and control? Some of us felt that way. You know, we try so hard to do the right thing, but internally I'm sometimes a mess. And then some of us learn to shut down our internal selves. It's like I don't care if you're a mess, you know, just be a boot, just be a foot soldier and you're in a boot camp. Life is a boot camp and no haba. You'll eat kgle and sit on the couch and drink your ice coffee. Yes. Are stuck in sight. Yes. And are stuck in sight. Right? I don't have to explain this to Jewish moms thousands of years. The pillars of our of our world of our planet. A person was born to toil. But what does that really mean? What does that mean? So let's begin with this and develop it. And uh if for the first few minutes you're feeling bored, it's a very good thing because you'll be able to have empathy for all of your boys because I'm serious now. Your boys sit in yeshiva for 10 15 some of them 20 and some of them if you're sponsoring it 30 years depends on the situation and much of their time they're learning Gmorrah. And much of Gmorrah is talking about these types of these types of concepts. Now when we uncover it, the ideas behind them are brilliant and divine. It's God's wisdom. And yet we will uncover the spiritual and emotional significance of it, which means it's not just divine wisdom. It's also extremely relevant to one's daily life. So let's begin right away. Look in your source sheet. We have it also in English. So everybody could follow. I'm going to read the first few paragraphs. Please tune in. Torah law stipulates a person cannot grant ownership over something that has not yet come into existence. This is known in as shalom. So if a person sells the fruit that his or her tree is expected to produce, didn't produce it yet or a house right that I will build or maybe I'm going to purchase it next year. I mean the sale has no legal validity. Let's see the source. Rambam 22 chapter 22. I want to make a transaction. I say I have a field. This field is going to produce in six months. amazing grain, wheat, barley, of course, organic. It's amazing. And I want to sell it to you now. You give me money, we make a contract, I sell it to you. Is it a transaction? It's not here yet. If I if I sell you the field, that's a different story. I didn't sell you the field. I sold you what the field is going to produce. Elon what this tree is going to produce an apple tree a kiwi tree a palm tree what it's going to produce the dates that it's going to produce or I have a beautiful cow here she's probably going to become pregnant and I'm selling you the baby now but there's no baby yet there's no fetus there was no acquisition here there was no if I sell you a tree you see in your first picture there's an apple tree if I sell you an apple tree, you have a tree. If I sell you the apples of an apple tree that are on the apples, no problem. People buy apples all the time. You take the apples and it's yours. But I didn't do that. I sold you something that doesn't exist yet. I sold you the apples that will be here hopefully in 6, 7 months, 8 months, a month. There's no legal transaction here. Why not? The reason for this has to do with the nature of Kenyan acquisition. Aic term that refers to the point at which the ownership of an object is transferred from party A to party B from Dra to sprint from Yankl to Zelig. The method of Kenyan varies. Payment to the seller, drawing up a bill of sale, transferring the object into the domain of the buyer. But the bottom line is the act of Kenyan reflects a change in the object. Instead of belonging to A, it now belongs to B. Since a kenyan relates to the object itself, there can't be a kenyan unless there is an object in the seller's possession to which the kenyion can apply. You understand the idea here? So an example, let's say I want to sell you a house. Okay? A million dollar house. Gavaldic. It's a beautiful, beautiful house. You saw the house. You're sold on it. Pun intended. I'm going to sell you the house. We draw up a sale, a contract, a deed. I want the money. We bring in the lawyers. There's only one technical problem. It doesn't belong to me. It belongs to my neighbor. I say I say, "No problem. I'm planning to buy it from my neighbor. I'm planning to buy it from my neighbor and I'm going to sell it to you." What is the guy going to tell me? No problem. When you buy it from the neighbor, let me know and then I'll buy it from you. I can't sell a house to you now that belongs to somebody else. Doesn't work. I I could I could say whatever I want. You can give me all the money you want. I have to give it back to you. The money has to go back to you. Why? You can't give somebody something that's not yours. How do I sell to somebody your house, your car, your computer? It doesn't work that way. Your gown. If I have it, I can sell it to you. That's if somebody else owns it. What if it's not in existence? Exactly the same thing. These apples are not here. They're just not here. They're going to be here. Sell them to me, but they're not here. If I sell you the tree, then it's not a problem. You got the tree. Whatever grows on the tree is yours. That's fine. I could sell you an apple tree in my garden and you own the tree with everything that happens. But I didn't sell you the tree. I sold you the apples to sell you apples. They have to be existing so they could be transferred to you. Now I could make a nether. I could make a promise. I could say when my tree produces apples, I'm making a nether a vow that I'm going to give them all to poor people. I have to do it then. But it's not a kenyan. There was no transaction. Right? If I do hat if I enol my vow which people can do is say I didn't realize I made it there's so it's not a transaction it's not a legal transaction the apples don't belong to the poor people once the apples are here and I give it to the poor people now you could do today from today if I sell you a house and a month later I regret it unless you're very very nice and you want to you know redo the transaction it's yours so the idea is that nothing can become the ownership of another person unless it's existing Makes sense, right? As you see in the next paragraph, a person might enter into a commitment to deliver a certain object to his fellow at a future date, but this remains a personal obligation rather than an actual transaction or acquisition. And there are many legal differences between a personal obligation and an actual transfer of ownership. If I make a personal obligation, I have to do it, but I can also get out of it. Like is a process from which you through which you can enol your vows, right? like we do by many do it because that's why we say because even if I'm making a commitment I don't want to be obligated but if I don't say I have to do it but there's but once the transaction happens it's a whole different story now it's actually yours and this can only happen once the object is in existence and this applies to everything if I'm selling fruits that don't exist or even a gift I want to give a gift to somebody of apples but they're not here yet. But I make a contract, aar, I give it to them, a commitment. These apples don't belong to them. Sorry, you can't transfer ownership of them that doesn't exist. Or I have a sheep and I know it's going to produce amazing wool. So I sell to you the wool. Sorry, there's no wool yet. It's not a transaction. What's the practical ramification? After the wool grows, I could say I don't want to. It's done cuz it's not yours yet. Right? I could reneg on it even though I said I want to do it but I didn't make a nether or I made so I could reneg on it. The same is true with a field a farm uh a cow that's going to become pregnant and have a baby beautiful once it has a baby you could sell the calf but the future is non-existent. Okay puts it in these words. If I sell the fruits of my palm tree to my friend, I can regret it and cancel the sale even after the fruits have grown. Why? Because the transaction is meaningless. It has no legal validity. When did I sell it to you? When they were non-existent. It's like selling somebody somebody else's house that's not in my property. The fact that I didn't sell the tree, I sold the fruits means nothing happened. So even in six months when the fruits grow and you come to me and you say, "Give me the fruits." And I look at the dates and I'm like, "No way. I don't want to sell these. It's fine. I don't have to. I have to give you back the money. If you gave me the money, of course, I can't keep the money. But the fruits have not become yours." Granted. So now there's a question. Is there a way of selling something that doesn't exist now for the future? Is there a way for that or it's impossible? Can I sell you something that's not in existence now? It may be in existence in a year, in two years, in 10 years, maybe in 6 months, maybe in a week, but it's not here. Is there a way? Or maybe no. There's no. If I want to sell it to you, I got to sell you the whole tree. I got to sell you the whole farm. I got to sell you the whole cow. Here's the cow. Give me a,000 bucks for the cow. If the cow has a baby, it's yours. But I can't sell you the baby. There's no baby. That's the question. The answer is there's one way. What is it? So, let's look at the next paragraph. However, there does exist a legal way for the buyer to fully acquire something that has not yet come into existence. The future fruits of a tree, for example, short of purchasing the tree outright. In the words of my manes the rama, a person can sell a thing for its fruit. A thing for its fruit. This is not considered to be selling something that has not yet come into existence since the thing exists and he's selling the fruit producing aspect of it. This is comparable to one who rents a house or field to his fellow where he does not grant him the thing itself but rather the use of the thing. Let's see the Rambam inside. I can sell you something, the body of something, the essence of something for its production. I'm not selling you the thing itself. I'm selling you the aspect of the thing that's going to produce fruits. That's not called selling something that doesn't exist. You know why? Because the actual thing is here. I'm trans I'm I'm I'm I'm I'm giving you I'm selling you the part of it that produces fruits. If I rent a house or a field to my friend I rent you a house of mine that's for 50 years even for a 100 years. What does that mean? You can use the house. Can you expand the house? No. Can you destroy the house? No. Can you sell the house to somebody else? No. So what does it mean? But you could use the house. I rented you the house to live there. Enjoy it. It's not yours. The whole house is not yours, but it's yours in the sense that you can use it. Here, too. I sold you. I didn't rent. I sold you a farm, but I didn't sell you the whole farm. I sent you I sold you the aspect of the farm that produces grain. That part of the tree that produces fruits. So now I didn't sell you the fruits. I sold you the tree that produces fruits. So therefore, it's a good it works. That's what he's saying. I give you a gift or I sell you a field for its fruits. Maybe for 10 years, maybe for the rest of my life. I may sell you a sheep, but I'm not selling you the whole sheep that you could go and eat it and sell it to somebody else. No, no. I'm selling you the sheep in the sense that you have the right for everything that grows from the sheep. So, I sold you the sheep with certain rights of the sheep. Just like when I give you a house, I'm selling you the I'm renting you the house to use the house, not for everything. Here, I sold it to you, but I didn't sell you the sheep to do whatever you want. You can't check the sheep. You can't give it to somebody else. I sold you that what? That you have rights in the sheep for whatever grows. The reproductive element of the tree. I gave you the reproductive element of the tree. So, yeah, you can't destroy the tree. You can't give the tree to somebody else. It's not like I sold you the whole tree. I sold you the aspect of the tree for the fruits. So here you have a interesting way how I'm selling you something that doesn't exist yet, right? I'm selling you the fruits, but it works. Why? Because I didn't just sell the fruits. I sold the tree for the fruits. So it's not a game because I didn't sell you the tree itself, but I sold you the tree for the fruits. Let's see the last paragraph. Just as a person can purchase half a tree or one branch of a tree, could you buy a half a tree or a branch? Of course, a person can also purchase a certain aspect of the tree, its productivity. The tree itself has not been sold, but a part of it has which part? The element of the tree that reproduces. Thus, there is an object to which the king might apply. The future yield of the tree is now unequivocally and reversibly that of the purchaser as opposed to a personal commitment of limited legal value. So if a person contracts to sell the fruit that this tree will produce, he sold nothing. But if he stipulates that he is the next side selling the tree for its fruit, the buyer acquires ownership of all the future fruit though the tree itself remains the property of the seller. Somebody wanted to ask something. Okay, that's probably a risk that any buyer takes unless unless we made a deal about that. If there's let's say a drought or f I mean yeah I mean that's risks in all even if you Yeah, right. I'm selling the future. You're saying what happens if there's no future? So that's a question that the buyer and the seller have to discuss. You know, maybe he's going to want less money. Maybe he's going to want to give less money because there's a risk. Depends how deep the risk is. Maybe he's ready to take the risk. Maybe he makes a condition that if this doesn't happen, you know, I want to cancel, whatever. These are already the details of how to create the transaction in any situation. In any situation, even if I sell you a whole farm, so you're selling the tree. So there's three different ways you can do it. Selling the tree, right? You're selling the tree, but not the whole tree. Meaning you can't go and gift this tree to your friend. You can't go right and change the tree. It's still my tree. What you could do is anything that grows is yours. Why are we calling it a rental? Sounds like a rental. It's not a rental because it's yours forever. It could be forever. It's yours in the the reproductive the reproductive aspect is yours. 10,000. You can call if you want to call a rental, you call a rental. But the point is a rental is usually for a certain amount of time, right? Say a year, say 10 years, maybe there's a lease for 60 years. That's true. But but but but this is this is essentially this is essentially for eternity that whatever this tree will ever produce or it doesn't have to be for you're right, it could also be for 10 years. All the tree all the fruit is going to produce is yours. You can call it a rental, but I'm not calling it a rental because it's a sale in the sense that it's the other person's for good if they made that condition unless they did it for a limited amount of time. You're right. If it's a limited amount of time, it's a it's you could call it a rental, but it's the idea of a sale that this is absolutely yours. In other words, I can't come back and say, "Oh, I like these oranges. I'm taking that for myself." No, no, no, no, no. The tree is yours. But the reproductive aspect of the tree, I like the wool. No, no. This wool belongs to me. What do you mean the wool didn't exist a year ago? You sold me the sheep for the wool. The sheep did exist. Caprena. Why would somebody do it? Push it. Push it. You You want fruits? You want all the grain of my farm. You sell grain, right? You sell grain. I have a farm that produces grain. You come to me say, "I want to buy your farm for a million dollars. I don't want to sell my farm. I like my farm. I love my farm. I've lived on my farm. My father lived on the farm. My zeta lived on the farm. I love my sheep. I love my cattle. I love my chickens. I love waking up 4 in the morning with my roosters. I don't want to sell my farm. But you want I'm not interested. I'm not selling grain. So what do I do? So you say, "Okay, sell me the grain." Now the grain is not here. I can't sell it. You want a legal transaction. So what do we do? We make this deal. You say, "I want to purchase the farm." But what aspect of the farm? It's reproductive aspect. That's what I want to own in your farm. I don't want to build houses on the farm. I don't have a right to do that. I'm not selling the farm to somebody else. But whatever grows on this farm is mine. And we make a sale right now. And it belongs to you. Why does it belong to you? There's no grain. Cuz I didn't sell you the grain. I sold you the farm for the grain. You see what your sons do for 15 years? A few hours a day. You're getting away with a few minutes. Yeah. future. Yes. Yeah. You're basically in secular. Yeah. Yeah. You're basically selling the future. Okay. Re not recess is a little later. Recess is later. You're going to have you're going to have a long recess today because of your behavior. And I know that the ADD is kicking in. How is this going to help my marriage? What's withim? What's with my stress? I came here because I had anxiety. this morning. I'm really not interested in buying a farm. I mean, I would love to buy a farm. I wanted to live on a farm, but my husband was not fond of it, and it just didn't work out. Huh. Yeah. Right. So, the the question is what type of sale is it? What what what are they buying? Or they may be buying the property. So the property is here. I could sell you a property. My prop I sell you this. I can't sell you this property. But they just let me use let us use. I could sell you a property. The property is there. That's what people do constantly. They're selling you a piece of land that exists, right? But just like I can't sell you a house that belongs to my neighbor because it's just not mine. How can I give that to you? Selling means giving something to you. It's a real transaction. has certain properties that they want in that house. That's true. So we may make we may make that deal like somebody may sell one floor of a house. People do it. I sell you one floor of the house. That floor is yours but it's yours for good. Say one second. What about the second floor? The second floor I keep. Right. People own one floor and somebody else owns a second floor. In Brooklyn this has happened for many generations. At least in the good old days. One person owned the basement, one person owned floor one. One person owns the floor. Here I'm not selling you that. And at floor one, you could do what you want. I mean, you can't destroy my floor, but you could do what you want. So here too, in in in secular toms, it would be I'm selling something for certain rights of it. I'm selling the rights, right? The you have the rights of all the fruit that this tree is going to produce, all the grain that this farm is going to produce, all the wool that this sheep is going to produce or these sheep are going to produce. This is the point. This is also the point. This is to go. There's disappoint y'all. That's interesting. Interesting. I hear when kana I hear interesting. It's it's it's interesting question about kana. Okay. You're asking a deep question. How could Kana tell Hashem, "I'm giving to you, right, for the rest of his life. He's non-existent yet." She wasn't even pregnant. Number one. Number two, even if he is, it's a deeper question. How could you promise something about your child without asking them? I mean, when he's a child, he's a child. But one day, Schmo is going to become an adult, right? She's going to become an he's going to become an adult. So like what type of I'm going to decide what you're going to do when you're 25 years old, 35. I mean you're going to have to decide. So that's a big question about Kana and their actually asks it and it's for another Shia. It's a very good question. It's a very interesting question. Not only that became a nuzer because of this was a nuzer because of his wife's commitment. His not his wife, his mother's commitment. How could she do that? It's a very very fascinating question. Yeah, it's a good question. Yeah. But I don't want to go there because it's mama. Okay. But remind me before because that's when we read the story of Kana. Yeah. But it's it's a fascinating question. Okay. So let's go step now. We're going to shift from legalities to consciousness. Are we good? Yes. Okay. Thank you. I am for the shift. Okay. In terra there's two aspects. There's what's called nigla of terra and pmia. Nigla of terra means the revealed or concrete aspect of tra. Like this law is a classic example. It's about fields, about cows, about trees, about fruits. It's very concrete and it's relevant if somebody wants to give a gift or somebody wants to sell something make a sale how to do it that it should have a legal authority according to but every as we said has pia means the in inner inner soul of it just like you have a body and you have an inner consciousness they're both indispensable to life a soul without a body can't live in this world it's just pure consciousness a body without a soul is missing its life its inner vitality its animation So in also is compared to a person. So every has like the concrete physical manifestation of it how it applies to practical day-to-day life whether it's laws about matzah about fillain about chabas or about transactions. And there's also the pimat the inner core of it the soul of it what it represents on a deeper psychological emotional spiritual level. what we just learned. We're now going to shift and see how this becomes a mirror in life. Now, let's understand something. We had three different possibilities. Possibility number one was the best scenario. I just sell you the whole thing. Leave me alone. Baraka, take the farm, it's yours. Take the cow, it's yours. Take the tree, it's yours. Then we have no problem, right? It's yours. Whatever happens, it's yours. Fruits, grain, corn, whatever happens, it's all yours. wool, calves, babies. It's all because I sold you the thing itself. We had the other extreme. I sold you the future of something that doesn't exist. That doesn't work. It doesn't work. It's not a sale and I could reneg and back out at any point, even after they grow. And then we had the intermediary track. What was that? I didn't sell you the whole tree. I didn't sell you the fruits. I sold you the rights in this tree. of the fruits. I sold you the aspect of the tree that produces fruits. I sold you the reproductive dimension of this tree. In other words, you have rights in this tree, not in the fruits. You have rights in this tree. What rights do you have? That whatever grows is yours. Those are the rights you have in this tree, in this cow, in this sheep, in this farm or whatever is producing something in the future. When we think about we have a p in when we think about what is avoid hashem what is what is the essence of yishkite it's really a a kenyan it's really about acquisition the word kenyan means acquisition to acquire acquire one of the first names that's used for hashem and isim what does he buys the heaven he buys the earth who's the seller means a buyer Hashem acquires heaven and earth. He acquires heaven and earth by creating it. When you create, you have a patent, right? People create something, they have a patent. This is theirs. God has a patent on heaven and earth. You know why? Because he created it. If you create something, you can get a patent on it and make a lot a lot of money. I know uh a grand a somebody from the family of the one who invented pinball machines. You remember the pinball machines? Yeah. that used to play and it was a tremendous success and Ada anytime somebody uses a pinball machine there's a revenue that comes to this family member because of that he came up with this idea the eld when the Jewish people come out of Mitzim when they cross the sea they sing and if you remember over there there's a very interesting pock about the Jewish people if you take a Look in your next sash this nation that you have you acquired [Music] them. God has five acquisitions in the world. Heaven and earth is one of them is what does it mean? He has an acquisition of Israel. There's a mission in kadusha. The woman is acquired. What does that mean? It's a form of marriage. It's basically discussing how marriage work because marriage is an acquisition. The husband belongs to the wife. Wife belongs to the husband. at the end of I was created to serve my who's my doesn't mean my buyer referring to Hashem but he's called not my creator my kina what does all what does this all represent it all represents the idea that essentially the purpose of creation is that a person makes a kenyan makna the person takes themselves and everything that belongs to them. Everything that belongs to them. Every person has themselves and everything that belongs to them. And I acknowledge so to speak. When you do a kenyan, either you're acquiring it or you're allowing somebody else to acquire it. It's like gifting you my house, gifting you my farm, gifting you my watch, gifting you my garment. But this is a form of kenyan of transaction. So when a person takes their life and his machnet allows Hashem to acquire it, they give it to Hashem that's called a and Hashem then says what does this mean in life? Basically at the surface it seems like you know when you look at things just externally the natural instinctive experience of life is to see the person to see everybody themselves as separate from infinity as separate from main I'm alone I'm fragmented maybe I'm even broken I'm lonely I'm my own little creature and I make the best out of it what is the point of avoid hashem to reveal the truth what's the truth the truth is you're never alone anoid mulvad There's nothing outside of the oneness of infinity, the oneness of Hashem. Every one of us is part of that. You are a ray of the sun. The ray is not separate from the sun. The ray may come very, very far from the sun. The sun is very, very far from us. But the ray is always connected to the sun. The ray is a continuum of the sun. The ray comes into our home. It gives us beautiful light. We're appreciative of it, but we know that it's always connected. And every ray projects and radiates the luminescence and the brightness of the sun brightness of the sun in its own unique way. And the rays never compete with each other. They never get into a war with each other. Like who are who do you think you are? Because the rain trusts that the sun has enough light for everybody. There's no way you can steal my light. This doesn't work that way. There's no way. If I think you could steal my light, it means I'm not in touch with my light. I'm in touch with my darkness. Huh? Very good. Your my thunder. Maybe you could steal, but not my light. And probably even the thunder I don't think you could steal. It's an interesting fact. It's an interesting fact that the sun produces in two seconds more electricity than our planet is going to need for the next 500 years. In two seconds, the sun produces more electricity than our planet, our entire planet is going to need over the next 500 years. And two seconds, not 3 seconds, 2 seconds. So that's even the physical sun. The rays are not worried about you got the light. It's infinite light. The ray is privileged to be able to shine that light into this home, into this field. And these rays are responsible for life. Without it, we couldn't exist. They besides vitamin D, they give us heat, they give us energy, they allow all produce, they allow warmth, they allow energy, they allow our planet to support life. If the sun, God forbid, would decide to go on vacation for a week. And certainly for a few weeks, summer is coming till July 4th, I mean from July 4th, it's kaput. And that's why we thank every day we say we're very thankful. Now, this is even the sun which is a creation. The sun is a creation. It's an amazing creation, but it's a creation. When you think about the creator of the sun. So you're talking about true infinity. You're talking about true aip. So the idea of hashem is to recognize I'm not alone. I'm not separate. I'm always part of an I'm always part of the oneness of hashem. And every moment I have the ability to live, breathe, demonstrate and embody this truth. practical terms it means that my thoughts, my words and my actions I am I surrender them I give them over to Hashem as we say in the song of Sunday. So this is the idea of this is a nation that you what does it mean you them that this is a nation that lives by the creed that every moment I have an opportunity to realign myself with Hashem simply to connect myself to become part of Hashem's domain which means my life is part of you it's part of infinity it's not separate it's not broken it's not alone it's not detached I'm not like a little creature trying to survive in my own shell I am mock you just like when I give a house to somebody now it's yours in this case it's not yours like another person it's the yours which is everything which is Hashem's oneness so when we say the Mishna says in kadushin I was created to serve my ki my creator my acquirer what does that really mean it means that serving Hashem actually is a form of kenyan it demonstrates that hashem is my ka literally my ka so just like I take my house I take my farm I take my tree. I take my cow. I take my suit. I take my glasses. I take my computer. I take my phone and I gift it to somebody. I give it to you. What just happened? You acquired what belongs to me. That's what happened. So whenever a Jew takes, I take my thoughts. I take my words. I take my actions. I take my body. I take my mind. I take my soul. I take my heart. I take any part of my life. The words that I'm going to say are words that I have ownership over. I can't force you to say anything. That's your body. But what I'm going to say is mine, at least to a certain degree. And I consciously choose to give these words to Hashem, to give these thoughts to Hashem, to give these actions to Hashem. So basically, this is this is the nation that you acquire. s I choose to align my life with the source of all life. The ray to go with the sun is not a challenge because the ray doesn't have any other identity. The ray never says, you know what, I think I'm separate, but I'm decide I'm going to acquire myself to the sun. I'm going to give myself over to the sun. It's just natural. But in life, it's not so simple because our consciousness could go in so many different directions. Oh, if this is the purpose of Yiddishkite. So now let's see that there's two different ways of doing this. There's giving Hashem the tree and there's giving him only the fruits that are going to grow. It's a very very big difference. What's the difference? There is giving the tree to somebody and then you own the tree. Automatically you own the fruits. But what am I giving you? I'm not giving you the fruits. I'm giving you the tree. That's one way. It's called kenyan hagof. You got the thing itself. There's another way. I don't want to give you my tree. What do I want to give you? Only my fruits, but my fruits are not here yet. So, I give you something in the future. What does this mean in in life? What does it mean to give to Hashem your tree? Adam, a person is like a tree. What does it mean to give to Hashem the fruits? What's the difference between a tree and fruits? The tree is the essence, the source. A tree has roots. A tree has a trunk. A tree has branches. A tree has leaves. And then the tree produces the flowers and the fruits. The fruits are the outer production of the tree that other people can benefit from. It's fascinating when you know the world of botany that for what happens to produce just one fruit is magical. There's a whole internal mechanism that most people don't know about. We don't even see the roots. But when you put in that plant, that plant itself Yeah. when it starts opening up and it's literally like a baby kicking in this womb, right? Part of the legs kick downwards and those are the roots and then the legs kick upwards and those are this this the the the saplings that start coming out from on top of the earth and no tree ever confuses the two. I don't know how they know it but they figure it out. They're born with doctorates and in botany I mean they have so much information. The roots know exactly what they needed to get their water and their nutrients and they develop and develop and the whole tree and after years and years and years finally ah the the fruits are coming the figs are coming the dates are coming the kiwis are coming the oranges are coming the peaches the plums etc. What is that in a person? We all have our internal self and we have our fruits. The fruits are what I produce in life that other people can enjoy and see and benefit. By the way, every tree has a mechanism. When a fruit becomes ripe, it changes colors. Why is that? It's almost designed to say, "I'm ready. Come and join me." Another interesting thing is when a fruit is ripe, it loosens its grip. It's much easier. You'll see if you try pulling off a fruit when it's not ready. It's a little harder to to harvest to tear off. When it's ready, it like loosens up. It's almost like telling you I'm here for grabs. Come enjoy me. Make and enjoy me. It almost changes colors. It's usually everything is green and then it becomes so much more colorful like it become starts dancing. Now it's time for a relationship with you. In a person's life, the tree itself is your internal makeup. That includes roots that nobody sees. Sometimes you themselves don't see your roots. Who sees their roots? The roots includes my entire subconscious self which is most of our self. And that's where most things are happening in the roots. That's what you got to know. That's the roots. The roots are invisible. But the roots are where I come from. What really motivates me beneath everything. And I may live my entire life without ever seeing my roots. Because you can't see your roots. They're very, very invisible. That's how they like it. They don't like for anybody to see them. If they start being exposed, they're like, "No, no, no. This is not for me. I remain under. But I'm responsible for everything, but you're not going to see me." Then we have our trunk. That's more of our conscious personality, my inner feelings, my inner emotions, my attitudes, my perspectives. We have our branches. We have we leaves. And then we have our fruits. And these are actually our words, our actions, the conscious thoughts that are much more visible and external that make life on the outside happens. Your conscious thoughts, your words, and especially your actions and your behaviors. Those are the fruits. And here we have two types of people. We have those who give Hashem the tree itself. And we have those who give Hashem they can give the tree themselves itself. What do they give? They say, "I'm ready to give you the fruits." What's the difference? Giving the tree itself means the tree is yours. Automatically, whatever happens is yours. What does that mean in a person's life? So, if you'll take a look here, you have the this picture. Okay? You see the picture? Dedicating your entire tree. You see dedicating your entire tree. In the book of Tanya, the Balata calls this model the saddic. Your brain, mind, heart and body, your animal soul and divine soul are fused. We all have this in some parts of our lives. Take a look at this tree. You see its roots. Here is a Jew who says, it's not just says, who experiences life that my entire self is one with infinity. The ray experiences itself is nothing but a channel for the sun. Sometimes it can even experience itself the way it's inside the sun. That's like experiencing yourself the way God experiences you. In that sense, my entire life, my mind, my brain, my heart, my instincts, my emotions are acquired by Hashem. I'm yours. I belong to you. We say that's a very deep state of consciousness. It's not he's not focusing on the fruits. Automatically the fruits are yours. If the entire tree, the roots and the trunk and the stem and the branches and the leaves and the flowers belong to you. Of course the fruits belong to you. Of course my thoughts and my words and my actions will just stem. They stem from inside. So if the inside is yours, the outside is yours. If I sell you a house, whatever is in the house is yours. I mean, unless I take out the furniture, but I'm saying when I sell you something, whatever it produces, it produces. Houses don't produce, but feels produce. So that's one model. That's one model in life. But then there's another model. The model is whoa whoa. I don't have I'm not I can't give you my whole tree. You know what's happening inside of me? There's a lot of messy stuff. All my instincts are not sacred and holy. There's shame. There's guilt. There's anxiety. There's fear. Some people are dealing with everybody has internal challenges. I can't say that every part of me is perfectly aligned with hashem with infinity. But you know what? I give you the fruits. Not the tree. Not maybe sometimes some parts of the tree I'm happy to give you. But certainly certain parts of the tree they're mine. But the fruits I'm happy to give you. In other words, I want to make sure that my behaviors are consistent with your will. Not my instinctive thoughts cuz that's internal, but my conscious thoughts, my conscious words, my conscious deeds. Let's see the next picture. Dedicating the fruits. Always changing. No guarantees. My actions, my words, my conscious thoughts. It's always a new struggle as I do not deal with my inner stuff. I only do the right thing. In the first picture, I gave you the tree. In the second picture, I say I'm giving you the fruits. That can only happen when the fruits come. What does this mean? What happens when the fruits come? You know it says about So Rashi says told us these are the children of tell me his children's name. So says the offspring of the righteous are good deeds right the gmorra says mitzvah the fruits of a person's life are the good deeds we do that's what grows from us that's what people see that people can enjoy people get benefit from it it's good deeds that benefit us but they also benefit everybody around us so those are the m so what's the difference between these two people, the one who surrendered and dedicated their tree to Hashem and the one who only dedicated their fruits to Hashem. So, let's give a few illustrations. You don't have to raise your hand whether you're model one or model two, but internally it's good to reflect on this. Okay? And it's, by the way, it's never black and white like I'm all this or I'm all this. There's different parts of our lives. In one dimension I could be this. In one dimension I could be this. One dimension my fruit is dedicated. Another dimension no no not my fruit but my fruits. So let's say for example there's a juicy conversation of gossip or slander. You know one of these good juicy conversations. It's like the real stuff. You know the roots the roots are coming out not just external stuff. The good juicy stuff. Especially if you have the misfortune to be on social media for whatever reason. you understand this? Or it's around my Shabbas table or it's just a conversation with a person, my family or my friend and so forth. The first Jew, the first Jew who didn't only give to Hashem their fruits, they gave the tree. They're not even interested. It's not even an it's not even a trial. It's like the conversation doesn't tempt me. It's not like a struggle. Should I go into this conversation? Should I answer? Should I not answer? Should I watch the video? Should I get involved in this conversation around the table? It's like it's so it would be like asking me to eat. Forgive me. It would be like asking me to eat glass, asking me to eat fertilizer. Asking me to eat you'll forgive me excrement. Like why would I do that? I'm going to vomit. Like give me good food. It's not even tempted because their self is just refined. I'm in a pure place. I have clean energy. I'm not going to engage in this conversation. It's too it's too dis I right away feel you know people who are sensitive they eat certain foods they get nauseous like why would I eat a food that's going to get me nauseous just explain that to me so it's not even a temptation so here's a classic example of somebody that their inner character is extremely is much more refined these types of conversations simply are not attractive to me whether it's gossip whether it's slander whether it's tailbearing whether it's just idle unproductive talk and so on and so forth another example would be saying a lie saying even a white lie why you late stuck in traffic of course I'm stuck in traffic I also left an hour and a half late right I'm stuck we call it white lies for some people it's like a struggle should I say the truth should I not say the truth should I exaggerate should I dramatize but that's only if my tree is not dedicated if my internal self is divine why would I want to separate myself from infinity by saying a lie even a white lie it's so like would be like telling the ray you know I think you should detach from the sun for a few hours. It'll be good. The ray will say, "What?" You know what happens when I detach from the sun? So for such a person, it's I'm not should I lie? Should I not lie? Should I lie to her why I couldn't come to the I had a flu. I had a virus. I had to go to the hospital. I almost had a stroke. I thought I died. Or whatever it is. This person is not even tempted to exaggerate, not even tempted to lie. It's like it's Yeah. I'll give an example that I often give with food, right? Some people, they see horrible food and it speaks to them. Other people, it's like it's not even a thought. I don't struggle with this. I may have other struggles. This it's like my internal system just does not want it. It's not a struggle for me. I'm not that person. I I'm still in the struggling front. No, in reality, I may not eat it. I may not eat it. I may tell God, "Okay, I'm giving you the fruit, but the struggle is there. I want to eat it." The same is true with other people's dependence on things that they know are unproductive. For some people, it's simply not an issue. There are people, they're going to be on their phone for productive purposes, but there are people who struggle. They could be on their phone for three hours straight and not because they're buying clothes for all of the kind for the bitzvah which can take you six hours. I know that. Right. It can even be an addiction. The same is true with with things that are very unproductive. Sometimes even immoral for some people. It's you want me now to waste 3 hours of my having an opportunity to serve Hashem and be a channel for infinite oneness and degrade myself? degrade myself with this. It's it's just it's not it's it's not it's not even it's not even an issal relationships. Okay. Your spouse tells you something for the men listening or going to listen. We'll do one example for the women another example. My wife tells me something or anybody's wife tells them something or a husband as is usually the case. A wife knows her husband very very well. knows how to push the right buttons. God gave each person their soulmate in the sense how do you know how do you know I told you once how do you know that it's the right side last week I think how do you know it's your soulmate nobody can trigger you as well as this person that's how you know it's Bashar this is mama's godly design from all the people in the world you ended up with that person who knows how to trigger the living daylights out of you God bless him God bless her God bless you and my wife says or somebody's wife or anybody's spouse says something and maybe it's sharp, it's intense, it's uh you could call it, you know, real muser. It's challenging. It's really challenging. What's the reaction of people? Or take your child. You have a struggling child, a teenage child, a young child, an older child. They make a comment to mommy or Tati and it's not an easy comment to digest. two two what's the difference of somebody who gave over their tree and somebody who did not yet give over their tree somebody who gave over their tree how do they hear it how do they hear it my wife told me something very very sharp okay what's the reaction of somebody whose tree belongs to God their self their emotions are part of Hashem first thing is your confidence does not come from the fact that your wife is complimenting you 24/7 you So you have unshakable inner confidence and value even if somebody's criticizing you. That's number one. So you don't fall apart. People who don't have an internal self, they need their spouse to compliment them 24/7. The moment their wife is in a bad mood or stressed and she can't. The guy is a basket case. Nobody there. Why? He never learned about himself. But when your tree belongs to Hashem, you know your deepest emotion is that you're part of God. You're fine. You're really, you're good. You're in a good space. Now, your spouse told you something very sharp. So, you can actually empathize with what she's going through. Wow, she's going through what she has a difficult emotion. Maybe it's even true what she's saying. Maybe actually I could be introspective. This is an opportunity for my growth. Even if it's not true or it's exaggerated, but wow, there's there's there's something painful here going on. Maybe there's a fear. Maybe somebody was triggered. Maybe it's an old template. Maybe it's something she has to work through or my husband has to work through. I can actually empathize rather than fall apart, become obnoxious, go into fight or flight or freeze or fawn, which is all a defense mechanism because I became a little scared baby. This child of mine tells me something that may be difficult. If I am a person who saw whose tree is dedicated, so then my inner emotions can respond from a place of empathy. Wow, what is this girl experiencing? What is this girl going through? I don't have to respond. You're such a spoiled, self-centered, narcissistic kid. You know what I did for you? I'm taking you to therapy since you're one week. You owe me $700,000 in therapy costs just for you. You have destroyed this family and you continue to. You are so cafa. Nobody ever taught you about your father and mother haven't slept in 19 and a half years even before you were born. What just happened? What just happened is the girl who may be 17 is talking to her father who just turned two. I am completely disregulated. I am overwhelmed. I am anxious. Why? She knew what to do. She triggered my own wounds. Maybe that I'm an unsuccessful father. Maybe that deep down I feel shame. Whatever it is, my internal emotions are very, very difficult. And therefore, I can't be there for this person. I'm completely overwhelmed. But the other person whose tree is divine, they say, "Wow, she's hurting. What can I now do to be more connected? What can I do to create more attachment, more connection?" Now what she may be saying may be right, may be wrong, maybe 50% right, maybe 100% wrong. But the question is not if she's right or wrong. The question is, I am fine. I am regulated. I love you. My heart stays open. And now the question is, how can I be here for you? The same is true with spouses. One of the things is when a spouse criticises another spouse, can my heart stay open or no, I have to close my heart, get upset, and even if I don't explode, I implode because my tree is internally detached still. So, here are very real differences between the two models. Now, in reality, even if my tree is not divine, my fruits may be divine. I tell God, you know what? I'm going to say the right thing. I'm exploding inside. I want to tell her, "Get out of this house. Get out of this house. Get out of my life." Right? Sometimes in relationships, your spouse may tell you something and they may have an eruption, a volcano from Nicaragua erupting in your heart and you're like, "Get me to China for like 9 years or 9 months or 9 hours. Call me when you become normal. Call me back. I'll fly back from China. I'll pay for the ticket." But I'm going to say, "You know what, God? I'm giving you the fruits. My words are going to be nice. My actions are going to be nice. In one, my internal self is transformed. In the other, my internal self gets very messy and erupted. But I learn self-control. I'm a soldier. I do the right thing. How many people internally they feel anxious, overwhelmed, exhausted. Every part of my body wants to scream. And yet I smile. Hello. How is life? I'm fine. Really? And how are the kids? Amazing age. We're working on it. Yeah. You look like you have a little anxiety. Me? No. Barakashem. Things are perfect. And internal I feel such a I'm I'm blah. I'm numb. I'm not saying the truth. I'm not authentic. And I may do this not only with other people, even with myself. There is such a dissonance between I want to be a good girl. I want to be a good boy. I was taught we have a we have a god. We have midvice. We have derets. We have a carat. You're in a you're like somebody once said, nobody cares about your emotions. There's parents who educated their children that way. Nobody cares about your emotions. What matters are your actions. I don't care if your tree has a virus. I don't care if your tree has bacteria. I don't care if your tree has an infection. I want to see those fruits. The fruits count. Show up. Be a woman. Be a man. That's the contrast. What's the difference? The difference is when I only know about my fruits, not about my tree. When I only deal with the fruits, I can only deal with the moment right now. I cannot deal with the future. There's no guarantee for the future. Why? Because the fruits are not here. Every the next time tomorrow when I erupt, I don't know what's going to happen. I hope I'm going to surrender my fruits again. And that's the difference between the two types of acquisitions. When I give over the tree, the future is guaranteed. When I could only give the fruits because I don't have anything in reality, there's nothing here. I'm not dealing with what I have. I'm only dealing with what's going to come up. So when it comes up, I have a guarantee. But the internal anxiety I didn't deal with. That's why what happens so often in life is people make and I'm never a guy tells me I made I'm never going to scream again at my kids. I'm never going to scream again at my wife. And he means it and he's crying. It's I kipper. He went to Miran. He went to the he went to he went to Ker. He went to um whatever. And he made kabulis and he was crying. I'm never going to look at these things on my internet. I'm not going to a computer. I'm never going to go here. I'm never going to do this. And he means it. The guy is a good guy. I know him. And a week later, he comes home. Boom. Boom. Question. How do you actually saying dedicate your life and your full energy. Good question. What happened? What happened is not that he's a hypocrite. He's not a hypocrite. What happens is he never dealt with his tree. No, my question to you is you're saying I didn't finish. I I know what you're asking. Give me a few minutes. What's the issue here? The issue here is nobody ever taught him how to go inside. He never dealt with his insides in a real way. He's only dealing with fruits. He's trying to be a soldier. Try to control yourself and do the right thing and say the right thing. The problem is we're not machines. We have a lot of internal emotions. When he was in that space and he made a Gavaldica resolution, he meant it. He had his he had an inspiration and he meant it. But now when he comes home and his teenage girl or boy made that comment or his spouse, his wife made that comment or his trigger or his brother, his sister, sister-in-law, friend, his neighbor, his partner, his rabbi, whatever it is, what happened was his physiological fear, his physiological, psycholog or psychological wounds or both of them have erupted. There's a volcano inside of you. You got a lot of wounds you never dealt with. Your tree is messy. There's a lot of viruses there. So the fruits the fruits the fruits the fruits at some point the fruits are coming from somewhere if I don't deal with the inner tree the fruits are also going to be affected by it but this seems like an impossible situation because how many people can take their entire tree and give it to God and say all my emotions like you're asking what does that mean that's a sadic and here we come to the revolutionary idea behind Kanya and this is the third type of transaction the tree for the fruits. So you see the three models we had. The first model was you give away your tree that's like that's not possible for every person at least not all the time with all parts of myself. It's not even what says it's not even what God wants for most people. There's the other model. I only deal with fruits. I don't deal with the tree. I show up. I do the right thing. And sometimes for many generations people have done it and they did amazing amazing things. But ultimately there's no guarantee for that because I am not in the picture. It's like selling you something that doesn't exist. I can't give it over to God. There's no consistency in my life. There's no calmness in my life. And you see people tak erupt at a moment and everything they learned, everything they decided, it all goes out the window. There's people, they come to a class, they're inspired, they go home, they think their anxiety will be gone forever. An hour later, you get a text. Boom. overwhelm, fear, anxiety, mistrust. Whoa. And here we come to the third model. This is the precious model that the Tanya introduces. I can sell you the whole tree. I don't only want to sell you the fruits. I want to gift you or sell you the tree for the fruits. If you look at the third image, dedicating the tree for the fruits, the bayon of Tanya, your inner energy is so clear. You know the struggle so well. You have so much bliss with your divine soul. You just never allow your animal soul control over the fuse producing behavior, thoughts, words, and actions. And let's explain very briefly what this means. The key of the Tanya is and those who go to my wife's Tanya classes at MAL your foyer's home 49 Linkrest every other Monday know this and it's an amazing class I hear the recordings so if you there you'll know what I'm talking about if not I'm going to give you a very brief concise synopsis we all operate on two levels of consciousness at least we're not made up of one part we're made up of many parts the two most basic parts is we have a divine soul we have an animal soul the animal soul soul is not bad. It's just an animal like a puppy, like a cute little elephant, like a cute little turtle or like a cute little reptile, like a cute little chimpanzeee or big one. Depends on what type of animal or a sheep or a goat or an ox. The nephew Bahamas is animal consciousness. It's not bad. It's just focused on one thing, survival. It wants to survive and be comfortable. That's its job. It lives in the blood. It lives in my physical body and it keeps us alive. It regulates our physical temperature. It's responsible for our urinary system, our digestive system, our circulatory system, and all of the other biological systems that we have in our body. It's called nephesh, habaser, badami. That's our animal consciousness. Because my animal consciousness is focused on survival, it will also develop so many different instincts and drives and emotions that will contribute to survival. And many thoughts and words and actions will stem from my animal soul. So for example, if I develop a certain anxiety around people, it's my animal soul being very very vigilant. My animal soul has learned very early on people are dangerous. Authentic relationships are dangerous. You see a person get vigilant, get nervous, stay alert. This is a coping mechanism. In fact, it may have saved their life very early on or at least may have avoided pain. Right? If I have an issue staying present emotionally, my wife tells me something difficult and I run away emotionally. I can't deal with it. I shut down or I get aggressive or I get angry. I can't be there. I can't stay with an open heart. What just happened? My animal soul just got scared of emotions. If I learned early on, like I spoke last week, that to stay emotionally present is going to be too painful, I create a coping mechanism, and that is I don't go there. I'm shut down. I become a shell of myself. I'm good with my brain. I know how to talk. I know how to navigate life. I almost copy people in order to know what to do because I don't feel. That's a coping mechanism of the animal soul. If I find myself always lying, dramatizing, white lies, my animal soul is coping. It's afraid of the truth. If I'm very upfront with people, if I'm upfront with people, you're not going to like me. I'm not going to be popular. You're going to think I'm narcissistic. I don't know. It's much better to get my wife, my I manipulate life through not saying the truth. My child tells me something and it's really challenging for me. It's very hard for me. My animal soldiers got wounded. I thought I was a great father. I was like God's gift to humanity. I gave my kids everything. I looked in the mirror and I said, "Wow, I'm a good guy." And suddenly your 18-year-old has a very different opinion about you, right? Wow. Wow. Wow. You just destroyed everything I built for 52 years. Frask. Fras. Fras. Fras. Frasque. Now today you don't do a frasque. But you do a fraskque inside. You know what a frask is everybody? You don't know. Better that way. It's called a patch. A patch. So there's a physical patch and there's an emotional patch. Yeah. Oh, you know what an emotional patch is. Okay. Yeah. You see this, right? Who? Here is the issue. So we have three models in life. The sadic is the person who transformed their animal soul. That the animal soul and the divine soul are like partners. That's amazing. In other words, the whole tree is godly. So now my wife may say something difficult to me. My trigger is the divine soul's trigger. And how does divine soul get triggered? First of all, I'm good. I'm one with God. Second of all, wow, you're going through something. Let me try to be here for you. That's it. Boom. Sounds easy, right? But my divine soul and animal soul still struggle with each other. They're not fully at peace. Some of us never reach it. The alterba says in Tanya, it's not even the purpose of God for most people. So what is it? It's just fruit by fruit by fruit. No, the power what he calls of the bayon is somebody who dedicates to Hashem the tree for the fruits not the tree itself I can't I'm not a sadic but I go much deeper than the fruits and here is the threestep program of the bayon to answer your question program number step number one listen carefully the bayon is the person who's very well aware of what's happening inside I know my animal soul very well without shame I don't have to repress it. I can be aware of it. I could look at it. I can hold it. I can hold it. I can experience everything my animal soul is doing. So this child said something and I was triggered. I can watch my triggers. My wife told me something. My husband said something. I'm so triggered. I can watch it. I could see it. I can have empathy for it. I could say, "Wow, Rabbi Y, your wound just got very triggered. Wow. Give it a little love. Give it a little love. Your puppy is frightened. The Shabbas is happening tonight. I have a lot of guests for Shabas. I didn't even go shopping. Oh my god. I'm overwhelmed. Anxiety. Anxiety. Anxiety. If my tree was dedicated to God, the regulation would be there. I'm in God's world. I'm a ray of the sun. It's going to be all right. But I'm not there. My animal soul is scared. 20 guests are coming tonight. What are they going to think of me? I was always taught you got to be a balabusta. Comes to the house. The house has to be clean. Anybody suffers from that? Yes. Okay. Everybody. Not everybody, but a lot. Not everybody. My mother told me we are not frivolous people. The house rain and clean. My animal soul is very very scared. And the same is true with another million scenarios in life. The bayon is somebody who can be very well aware of everything. Watch it. Hold the space for it. Have compassion for it. Breathe into it. Literally breathe into it. Give it love. Like a child throwing a tantrum or a puppy throwing a tantrum. More accurately. Hold the puppy. Say, "Mommy is here. You're going to be all right. You're going to be all right. You're going to be all right." The bayon also knows about their divine soul. They know that the divine soul is actually in a very, very beautiful space 24/7. It's in God's world. It's part of Hashem. It's a mamish. They're very well. The divine soul is not afraid of relationships. Divine soul is not afraid of presence. The divine soul doesn't have to shut down. The divine soul doesn't have to run. The divine soul is full of love and empathy and internal confidence. It's curious. It's compassionate. It's creative. It's also has an inner calmness and serenity and confidence. It's full of trust and faith and love. It has no ego because it doesn't have to have an ego to exist because it really exists. It also doesn't live in shame and guilt, shaming myself. I'm so bad. I'm so evil. I'm so this. It's actually beautiful, clean energy straight from Hashem. The Benon knows both sides. That's number two. Number three, every single day this Jew spends time aligning themselves with their divine soul because it's every day aid. Naturally, if I just leave myself to my own devices, my animal soul takes over. Every day the bayon dedicates time, this is an to be able to realign myself with my divine soul, which is work. It's work. First of all, it's physical work to be able to remain in a place of alignment and discipline, right? It's what I eat. It's it's it's how I take care of my body, how I take care of my nut, of my nutrition, how I take care of myself. And then the key is spending whatever it is, every person in their own way some time. Sometimes it's a lot of time, sometimes it's less time to be able to realign myself with my divine soul. And I need to calm down my animal soul. I have to say, "You're good. You're fine. You're fine. I know your wounds." And this is really the function of davining. The function of davining is not just saying words. It's a meditative process that includes connectivity, sometimes breathing, internal awareness, opening myself up to everything that's happening inside and then telling my animal soul, "And now let's be regulated and open ourselves up to the divine soul." And I do this every single day. What happens now? What happens now is let's go back to all the scenarios. My wife may tell the same comment. My child may make the comment. My husband may make the comment. There may be the lash conversation. There may be the conversation. I may be in sh and there's a juicy conversations in the middle of dining. And I may not be a sadic who's like, "No, I'm not going into that conversation." I may get triggered and I feel my animal soul's triggers and I want to shut down. I want to fight back. I want to freeze. I become disregulated. And I get it. Part of my tree has not been divine. Has not become divine. However, because I am so aware of my animal soul and I'm also aware of my divine soul and I'm aware and every day I do the work to maintain that awareness and to connect with my divine soul. It is so obvious to me that I'm not going to allow my thoughts, conscious thoughts, not instinct, instinctive thoughts we don't have control over, but my conscious thoughts, words and actions to take me away from that space of oneness. This is what it means. I give to Hashem the tree for the fruits. There is a very deep calmness in the person knowing how they're going to respond tomorrow and the next week and a year from now. As long as I know how to maintain this state. Of course, nobody has guarantees for sure, but as long as I can maintain this state of mind and consciousness and life, I can sell the fruits today that are going to grow next year. How? I didn't give you the tree. I gave you the tree for the fruits. I know so well my system. I know that my animal soul cannot have control over the part of me that produces thoughts, words, and actions. It has control over a lot of emotions and there could be very messy. But when it comes to the fruits, my divine soul has full control because it's so obvious to me the difference between dead energy and living energy. And this is the key. This is where experience is so important. When I live only with my animal soul's fears and coping mechanisms, I'm living in fake and dead energy because it's all based on fear. It's just coping. I'm just trying to survive. I want you to like me. I want to impress everybody. When I finish the class, I want to get an applause. I want people to come and say, "Wow, that was the best class I ever heard in my life. I think you changed my life for eternity." And then for six seconds, I could feel good until the next criticism. And then I wait for the next compliment. Whatever it is in a person's life, when I'm living only in my coping mechanisms of fear, I'm just always responding. It's like empty energy. It's it's actually nauseiating energy cuz it's not real. The divine soul is energetically alive cuz the sun is shining. It's a beautiful, beautiful energy. It's real. It's divine. It's MS. It's authentic. You could surrender into it. The bayon has such a clear understanding of these two different types of energies that I may be erupted like a volcano. I may be overwhelmed in my eruption. A part of me wants to say, "Run for the hills. Fight, flight, freeze, fall, please, whatever it is." And I could stop and say, "Yeah, wow. Wow. There's a part of the tree that's really not divine." Exactly. And there may be so much shame over there and so much guilt over there and I need to be able to process it. But because I deal with myself, I know who I am. I have an awareness of my internal makeup. I didn't shut down. I know my animal soul. And I am also not embarrassed that I have an animal soul. One of the worst things that happens is the shame that I have an animal soul. It's like I'm not allowed to. That's not true. You were created with an animal soul. There are sadikim who managed to transform their animal soul. And it's amazing. And the alterb says each of us has some of those. We have parts that we transform, but we may have parts that were not transformed. And I may transform one part and God says, "Okay, you're done. Tomorrow I'm going to give you another part that you didn't transform yet." And people wonder what happened. I was doing amazing. You were doing amazing. So now it's time to give you some heavier weights so you can go. You're ready for the next marathon, right? And people say, "No, it means I'm a loser." You're not a loser. Amazing. You were successful at the marathon. Now there's another part of the animal soul that needs to be dealt with. Maybe you'll transform it. Maybe not. But the guilt and the shame around the fact that there's so much messiness in me is completely eliminated in the Tanya. People can be real. I don't have to amputate any part of me. I don't have to be embarrassed with any part of me. I was deting this shabas morning in shu and before dving I was learning something from the alterba which is very very inspiring and he speaks about these aspects and suddenly I don't know how it happened but I started to experience something that I did in my life years ago and it was a bad mistake it was a mistake I did and it was coming from my own trauma to be frank and I just experienced in a very visceral way the shame of that action literally the shame of action it's like my divine soul was experiencing the pain of the shame. And I literally I I I just I started to cry and I turned to my animal soul and I said, "I am so sorry that your coping mechanism had to be such that this is what you felt you had to do in order to get the validation that you need. I am so sorry for you that this is what you had to do." And I could literally experience the shame of the divine soul in that and really look at the animal soul and process it and cry with it. It's a very authentic process that everybody in their own way has until we're completely transformed. And we're not completely transformed. And when we can really do that, it's such an authentic way of living because it's fresh. It's real. If you tell a person if you don't give away your whole tree to Hashem, you're a you're a garnished. You're a loser. It's not a transaction. You don't that's not the case. That's safer. It's a galdic and there are in generation there are sadikim whose animal souls are completely transformed. Their trigger is a divine trigger always. But for the regular person the bony it's not just when the fruit comes you'll give away the fruit and internally I remain a mess. There's a relationship with the internal self with all the parts. You could live at peace with yourself because you understand that what it means to give everything to Hashem is not the whole tree. It's elong. That's powerful. It's powerful. That's a real real Kenyon. That's the bayanese kenyan that I have so much internal awareness of what's happening to the point that I have that control and that inner discipline and blissfulness that even even if I'm complex and a lot of things are coming up I can still choose that my reactions in thoughts words and behaviors and actions are going to reflect the pure energy of the divine soul. Not because there was nothing else going on. There are other things going on, but this is what it means to give over the tree for the fruits. The tree itself has viruses. The tree itself still needs work. At least some parts of it. Some parts are transformed, some parts are not. But there's one aspect of the tree that I have such a powerful relationship with, and that's its reproductive power. Meaning, what's going to come out? What am how am I going to respond to my wife? How am I going to respond to my children? How am I going to respond to my husband? How am I going to respond to my neighbor, my sibling, my my friend, my partner? How am I going to respond to this conversation, to this emotion, to this anxiety, to this frustration, to this temptation, to this addiction? How am I going to respond? I have so much experience with my animal souls, with my divine soul, and with constantly aligning myself and knowing the distinction that I know that the part that's responsible for thoughts, words, and action, this I want only my divine soul to have this belongs to God because I've tried the other way. And what happened? It put me into dead energy, fake energy, fearful energy, coping mechanism energy, survival energy, not authentic and real energy. So therefore, now if you look in the final pictures here, you see you see you have three models. Dedicating your entire tree, that's the sadic. The whole tree is divine. Dedicating the fruits, I don't deal with myself. This is the model. I don't care what you're feeling. Do do do do do do do do do do do do do do do do do do do do until either you collapse from exhaustion you become an angry resentful person and you're just doing doing doing only deal with fruits my tree is far virus I don't care about it fruits fruits fruits but there's nothing predictable there's no guarantees there's no relationship everything is on the external so yeah maybe right now I'll I'll sell the fruits to God maybe yeah maybe not and even Even if I always manage to sell the fruits to God when they come into existence, I don't know about tomorrow because I don't have peace in myself. It's sad. It's sad sometimes for people who thought avoid hashem means that all of you is fixed and then they make these resolutions and they mean well and they learn they go to shim and they hear and everything and they give sodak and they do and then in a moment of truth they just lose it again. say what's so wrong and they guilt themselves into more shame, more shame, more shame, more shame. What's the challenge? The challenge is that people don't realize a hashem means not to make be ashamed of any part of yourself. Have a relationship with all your parts. Be open to all your parts. Don't deny the fact that there are parts of your tree, parts of your inner self that are still very wounded. Good morning, America. We have wounds. Yes. Childhood wounds, adult wounds, nature, nurture. Most of them probably not even maybe not even conscious stuff. And the more I could look at that, I say, "Wow, what is my realm of choice?" My realm of choice is not to transform my character completely. I can't. It would be great that I'm never triggered again in my life. It's just not going to happen. even though my wife deserves such a husband but I don't know that it's going to happen that I'll never ever ever ever be triggered again in my life. I mean fine if God wants me to become a fine it's a tall order but that's not the that's not the is that on the contrary I have that internal mechanism and calmness and connection to be able to know how to go into regulation and serenity even when there are all these even volcanic psychological eruptions in a person's But only because I know my animal soul without crazy shame. Because I know and experience my divine soul. So I know the difference. I could choose. If I never experienced them, I can choose. And three, every day I know I need a schedule and a routine that gives me the mental ability and resources to reconnect with my divine soul experientially to feel it. That's what a hashem means. Where I realize that what my heart is looking for is not attention. It's not distractions. It's not this comfort or that comfort. What I'm really looking is I'm looking to love truth, to love my real self, which is to love Hashem. Then my heart is open. I want to be present. I want to be alive. I want to live a life of connection and attachment. Do all parts of me want that all the time? Of course not. But I know that so well. I experience it so well. That's the third type of the where there is a guarantee for the future. Where there is a calmness, where there is a serenity. So that's what you'll see in the third one. You dedicate the tree for the fruits. Now look at the picture on the right. A person is made up of parts. That's fine. Look, you're a jigsaw puzzle. Some pieces in the jigsaw puzzle are out of sync. Okay, that's what happens. Yes, I just felt something. I'm overwhelmed. I may be anxious. I'm afraid. I'm terrified. Okay, you're made up of parts. Yeah, I'm not giving you the whole tree. God, I can give you now the whole tree. I don't know how. I don't know how. I'm scared. You don't have That's fine. You don't have to sell the whole tree. But you always have control over your fruits. Not by repressing, not by suppressing, not by guilting, not by shaming, not by telling yourself, "I don't care about your tree. I don't care about your feelings." Stop being this spoiled American brat. Me, me, me, me, me, my feelings, feelings, feelings. Feelings, feelings, therapy. Feelings, trauma, trauma, trauma, trauma, trauma. And now you spoiled brats. Nobody had trauma 100 years ago. Yeah. Everybody said, "Trauma, trauma, trauma. I lost my keys." Trauma. I missed the fly. Trauma. Enough trauma. Show up and be a be a person. I said just be like everybody. I'm talking about this internal voice. Anybody relates to this? I see some of you are smiling. What happens right after that? We just learned to shut down. When my kid now comes into the dining room, he's not feeling my love. I shut down. I may be showing up. And we're very good at that. Let's face it. We make sure there's breakfast and lunch and supper in the house. There's clean laundry. The house is clean. Shabas is put together. Yumpt is put together. What else do you want? But let's face it, the greatest gift we can give our loved ones is our heart. The greatest gift. My wife sent me yesterday a clip. Wow. I have to read it to you. I wasn't planning, but it just came into my head. What a gift to see. Somebody read it at her Tanya class. M her hostess. Don't push Hashem into your children's hearts. Bring your child into your heart. And if Hashem is in your heart, they will find him there. Don't push Hashem into your children's hearts. Bring your child into your heart. And if Hashem is in your heart, they will find him there. This I can't fake. I could tell my kid, make say, okay, they're they're young. They'll listen to me. I can even say it with a smile. But if they're feeling my own stress, my own disregulation, my own lack of tug of sim, they know that Hashem is associated with that. Even if I don't say and I'm trying to do the right thing, nobody is. Everybody's trying to do the right thing. But if I can have my heart open, bring them into my heart. And if my heart is in a real relationship with Hashem, don't worry. They're in your heart. They're going to find God right there. They will see your nephew kiss. And it will change them forever by osmosis, by that presence. So in that sense there's absolutely no element of cutting out that inner awareness. We're afraid if people are going to start feeling they're going to do the wrong thing. No. If they start feeling they'll actually be able to know the difference of their animal soul and their divine soul and then they could choose which feeling is going to dictate my behavior. Do I have a feeling that I want to run away from this house? Maybe. Should that dictate my behavior? Is that going to help my marriage? Is that going to help my children? Is that what I really, really want? Is that what I really want? Disconnection, anger, resentment, frustration, deceptiveness. Is that really me? Is that really going to bring me to life? Is that going to resurrect me? No. Okay. So, right now I'm overwhelmed. Okay. So, you're overwhelmed. So, give that part of the tree a little love. And then say, "Okay, now let's produce the fruits we got to produce." And this is that powerful powerful idea of safer shenan. It's not the safer of the saddic. It's also not the safer of the Russia which is really the weak person who doesn't have this mechanism to be able to remain focused on who they really are. It's the Bayony, that possible man, the possible woman, the intermediary person. What does it mean intermediary? Parts of my tree remain unresolved. And yet, at every moment, I have that inner capacity to know how I'm capable of living right here, right now, but without denying and ignoring any part of me. And that's why if you see the last line of the source sheet, you see that that last picture, I'm made up of parts. And because I'm made up of parts, I know the parts so well. I could look at what is responsible for producing that flow of thoughts, of words, of actions, and there could be a seamless flow. I can look at it and then choose not to transform and be transformed, but to be able to think actively and speak actively and do actively those types of things that will bring me back into flow, that will bring me back into oneness. Even though there's parts that are still defiant and rebellious describes the time of Msiah it's the last line that day God is going to add to acquire the rest of his nation meaning the physically means from all over the world they'll be acquired and brought to our eternal homeland. On a spiritual level, it means that what is gul is that the is complete? All the parts of the people, all the parts we all have in every one of us. There's so many parts. All the different parts will be they will all be they will all be acquired. They will all become part of that eternal frequency of oneness. Have a beautiful week. Huh? Sometimes you need also cleaning help. Sometimes you need a nap. Sometimes you need to eat. Sometimes you need to relax. Let's not forget that. Got it. That's true. That's true. So there's a deeper layer. We didn't get to that. And that is that ultimately every part of the animal soul can be transformed. Every part can be transformed. Yeah, that it becomes one with an effic. So, usually there are parts of our animal soul that we transform. But the point is that even when there are parts that we didn't transform yet, we can still have a relationship with them with compassion and empathy. They're they're part of my creation. I don't have to be embarrassed that I have it. I don't The very shame of this struggle is God's plan. It's not my plan. And with with with real work and inner awareness we can transform every part of our animal soul. But we shouldn't think that if there's parts that are not transformed huh in the truest truest level it's all part of that oneness. Right? But the way the animal soul manifests itself it can often take me away from that oneness. So, I really have to be able to unbburden it and disentangle it from its inshment with things that it thinks are helping it cope, but are really taking it away from what it really, really, really wants. You have to align it. Yeah, we get to align it. We get to align it better than you have to. We get to align it by really appreciating it. What what is behind it? But the point here is that it may still erupt and there's no guilt around the fact that not everything is transformed. You get it? Of course, this model with a model for every relationship, even with our closest people, there may be parts of me that are running away. There may be parts of me that are too ashamed. There may be parts of me that are too overwhelmed. And I could be present for that without denying, without suppression. And yet I could show up to a relationship with my authenticity. Not by making a fake smile, forging my energy and amputating anything that's making me uncomfortable so that I could show up. Showing up does not mean inauthenticity. That's the point. Yes. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you for coming. Thank you for coming. I woke up early this morning to finish a paper on vulnerability and I see why I didn't finish it this morning. I have to be here. Thank you so much. So, yeah, it's true about all relationships. It's a model. This is a model. Can my whole tree be, you know, completely one? Yeah. But no, sometimes, yeah. Did I answer your question? Um, I'm in the process. Okay. Oh, okay. 49 link every Monday 9. Every other Monday 9:45 49 link right here for women. You're welcome. Thank you for coming. Yep.