Before a New Light Emerges, You Must Go Into Quarantine

the yeshiva.net boy him to new haven to all communities anybody wherever you are around the world welcome welcome and thank you my love and blessings and prayers to all of you individually and collectively there's a famous song that many jewish communities sing online and really not only it's a very heart sicker it's a very uh it's it's a moving song that it's a beautiful song the words are incredible the composer of this song was a man named shimon ben lovey rip shimon bin lavi was known as one of the great capitalists from earlier generations he lived in libya in libya he was from tripoli and he was one of the greatest mystics and mikubolim and sadikum of his generation he lived around the year hey i love him shin tess which would be 1509 that's the same the same era like that reso a few years earlier and uh you see the signature of his name in the beginning of every stanza of this melody and he wrote a commentary on zohar called kesem the jewel crown on zoya rip shimon bin lovey from tripoli and he wrote this song in honor of rep shimmer by the baalhaeilullah who's whose day we celebrate tonight lagbo ima the day of and the song has ten stanzas y ten they correspond the ten spheres of kasir khakis [Music] from the lower to the higher and at the end of the of the of the song signature of the name of hashem and it's basically a uh a very profound it's not a simple song it's a profound meditation in honor of please join me on the chat somebody put up the lyrics of the whole song and i'm going to focus on a few words from the song i told you this song was composed by one of the great mystics of the late 1400s the early 1500s of shimon ben lovey from tripoli in libya today we don't realize that libya had a very glorious jewish community with great personalities libya over the last years has taken a different turn libya has become known because of qadhafi but uh here we're talking about a different tripoli a different libya and uh this became a a jewel in jewish poetry and it's called barrier but i want to focus on a few words of this great poem of this great song as i told you it has ten stanzas corresponding to the ten swedish you see how it starts off [Music] by what does this mean the son of your you have been anointed fortunate are you shemen saseha so to speak the oil with joy from your friends and then he continues the third stanza i want you to look at i put my uh i put my cursor on it my mouse on it now listen to these words because their relevance is astounding the son of your you have i'm just translating it from the words i don't know if this is the exact accurate translation but more or less you have found a good place to settle to sit down to settle the day that you fled the day that you escaped into the cave surrounded by rocks where you remained over there in that cave you acquired your splendor and your glory over there you acquired your splendor and your glory of course two stanzas later there is the famous words think about those words when the reborn is let us make man who was he talking about he was talking about you nasa adam let's make an adam who was that said we said it was said for the shimmer in other words when hashem conceived of man what does this other look like who did he think of you know when you're thinking of creating a company or an organization or a movement or a kehillah community or a website or a corporation or a yeshiva whatever it is that you want to create a system an idea a book you always have in mind what is what is the ideal the ideal product what is it that you want it should look like if it happens or it doesn't happen as a separate question but when hashem said nasa adam what was he thinking what is this person going to look like wow if ship is such a compliment for a person to get you don't see this as such this is not a usual statement that when hashem said nasa adam it was said about you every line here is another jewel another gem about so i'm going to address some of these themes and bring it back together to the theme of the evening which is israel and unity etc everybody but he wasn't in quarantine for a few months he was in quarantine for 12 years the gomorrah says he fled from the roman wrath they wanted to kill him and he and his son the balazar benjamin ran into a cave into a mire that's what he's referring to and they remained in that cave for 12 years 12 years in a cave talk about quarantine [Music] was quarantined with his son for 12 years and remember there was no minion [Music] dominion well this is before going to iran because it's observed by your height but he couldn't go anywhere like boeing man it was not mikvah actually today is pandemic huh well the students of abri akiva that's another story there was a pandemic the mourinho vomit of samakhbay says there was a pandemic and it claimed the lives of 24 000 students the gomorrah says the pandemic's name was askara you know what oscar is oscar in english i think is called diphtheria diphtheria any doctor here no haven't it was a pandemic it's i think it's a bacteria it's a bacteria it comes in and it hits the heart or it hits the brain and it's very dangerous it often creates an inflation she says it's immaculate in the throat because the neck gland the glands in the neck become inflated it's a very serious bacteria today they have a vaccine they treat it with a vaccine and he trained and he rebuilt was one of the five students with which rebuilt the holy dish that's a separate fashion and we know that the pandemic happened between pesach and schwarz and one of the opinions while is because the pandemic stopped possibly at least one of the opinions posca milamus they flattened the curve they curbed the oscar of the diphtheria and that was a tremendous sigh of relief but i'm now focusing on ripping by nikoi in the cave there was no minion there was no mik forget minion and there was no lulav there was no mata for pesach there was no wine for kiddish there was no filling this was a serious quarantine it's not just he couldn't say kaddish and go to shul to davon with a minion he couldn't do many of the mitzvahs that you pasha needs physical things you want to sit in a sukkah couldn't sit in a sukkah he couldn't blow shaiphone or shashana there's a whole mimer from the al-tarabha the balatani and the kuta toyota parish mini some of you learned the miner with me it starts off with the words live yassen zayatsar to the sacred 12 years and then another year 13 years in the cave the gomorrah says that there was a miracle he had water he had access to water a spring of water and he had a carrot tree boxer tree a carrot tree to eat carobs carobs people don't like but in terms of nutrients carobs are very good for you they're rich in protein and they have good nutrient they have it has a quality that is very nutritious to the human organism so he had a carrot tree so he was on a very good health diet but wiffles are sure eating carrots for 13 years you haven't tried eating it to be schwab this was like the punishment in school if they'd wanted to punish you they gave you boxer to eat but the truth is from a health perspective that's only because i like cotton candy but from a health perspective it's not so pretty good i think if i'm not mistaken now look back at the words come back here to the chat with me and take a look at the words you see over there when you were quarantined for 13 years in a cave that's when you were kinder you're hiding your hudder that's where you acquired your beauty your splendor your glory ferrous your splendor your whole beauty came weird from the mire you would think that's not weird that's not where you're kind of your glory the kind of glory in the basmadrish the yeshiva with the community of course we cherish community very very deeply but when a person is quarantined in a cave for 13 years you would think would look at it as just a horrible horrible tragedy and a punishment but this song tells us it was those years when he was alone with his son that he actually became the person who he was capable of becoming it was during that time that he was forced so to speak to go back to his core and to discover his pinemius and his atmos his innermost essence and his shirish his roots because the root of a tree is never visible the root of a tree is subter mediterranean you have to dig deep deep deep down it's behelim it's concealment concealed how do you get in touch with your own root how do you get in touch with your own sharoshim you have to go into a cave and you have to go away from the whole hustle and bustle of life you have to retreat from the social component of life what they call today social distancing not that i'm comparing our quarantine to the cave we're in our houses we have we sit on couches some of us could go outdoors as well there's no roman government who's trying to kill you but it's a lesson in every generation that when you're quarantined one of two things can happen either you see it just as a crazy time and you wait for it to finish so you can go back to work and the kids can go back to school but that's not the real approach that's a very superficial approach the real approach is sham gives every single person an opportunity now to press restart on your life and to press restart on my life and to discover a new glory and a new beauty and a new depth and a new essence a new sense of essence so that when you emerge from the cave from the quarantine you emerge much wiser much deeper much more honest much more authentic much more wholesome and much more blessed this is an opportunity to go back to the core to be able to really re-examine your priorities re-examine your life schedule to press ctrl alt delete to get rid of the viruses in your computer and the viruses in your brain and the viruses in your heart i'm not only talking about physical ones about spiritual and emotional and psychological it's an opportunity to really go back to the beginning of your marriage and rediscover your relationship it's an opportunity to go back to your owner's you know a lot of people are lamenting the fact that they didn't go to shul they came down with a minion how could you dive without a minion and yes it's difficult and it's sad but we have to remember the story of the tsam son you know the story i heard the story myself from the rebel that samadhika had a son his name was his father-in-law was named after him because his mother from his mother's side from his maternal side he was a grandson of rebellion and the vietnamese when he got married so the schwere his father-in-law made a deal that he has to dive and fill a bit simpler he has to doubt him with a minion and he agree he agreed the problem is he was a tremendous miraculous villa he used to darwin for hours long he poured out his soul to hashem which was dominic by many hasidim great hasidim like the mishnah says in brachas that the khasidim arushanum used to meditate an hour before governing and then esther was and now an hour afterwards now most mignon don't operate like that so the first day of chevy brothers or after chaver brachas he was davening and the minion went ahead and his father-in-law was waiting for him i guess to come home after the minion he wasn't coming home and he met him afterwards and he said we made a deal you're going to die in philippi and he says he says what do you mean philip means 10 people you weren't there with the 10 people he says by us we touched philip not just with 10 people philip means you have to gather the 10 people inside of you the 10 voices inside of you the ten coaches of the nephesh the ten faculties of the soul nets you have to bring them all into davening they all have to be part of davening you have to find the organic unity inside of you you have to be able to incorporate every part of you including the demons and the skeletons and the ghosts and the traumas and the insecurities and your issues you have to bring them all into davening that's dominion now we have a different type of filipincy board you can actually learn how to dive in intimately face to face with your survival in the words of navi hashem it's all on your own it's you and hashem you go out to your porch in new haven you could probably go out to your porch it's not a problem of social distancing or you can go into a room and you could talk to hashem you could learn how to dive in you could discover the art and the experience of prayer it's exceptional opportunity don't forfeit it don't forfeit it you could learn in a whole new way you can even learn in times and swarm that you couldn't learn before you combined with your children in a new way family time marital time and time for yourself and your relationship with yourself it's in these moments of quarantine that you have a historic opportunity to be able to start [Music] i want to be able to go subterranean i want to go back to my cave to my myra of course i had a hard time you think it was easy to be in the cave over there for 13 years it was horrible it was difficult it was tragic nobody wishes this on themselves you don't go into quarantine because you choose it understood that if divine providence put them into quarantine ah this is not a tragic decree that he should just mourn and grieve this is a historic opportunity for renewal for transformation from metamorphosis for rebirth sham khan i say to you my dear brothers and sisters seize the day what do they say how do they say it in hebrew carpe diem seize the day or now i should say seize the night sees the night to be able to suck the marrow out of this experience to emerge far more wise and far more loving and far more authentic my dearest friends and now i want to go back i want to take this a step deeper we'll take it a step deeper and go back to the story in the gemara this is the story of we always tell him gimmel i think i brought out a to shabbos i could look it up gimmel amit bayes what do you say that it's daflamid gimmel the suggestion in the cave is shabb islamic gimmel it was lag boy the day lamid gimble is the day connected to like bohemia i don't know if we're going to have time tonight but one day we're going to learn there's a letter in the cote levi that the rebbe's father wrote to him about the significance of 33 is day 33 incredible insights into the unique number of 33. so this is shabbos i'm going to bring out one point here remember went into the cave because he spoke ill of the roman empire and roman selfishness and roman cruelty and roman greed and they heard about it they wanted to kill him and he went to this cave and he had the water and he had the carrot tree and he was sitting till his neck he was sitting in sand imagine sitting in sand yasuwi yeah all day he would learn with his son yeah and the time of davening such an incredible story all day they would sit in sand meaning without clothes their bodies were without clothes and sand so the bodies shouldn't decompose and they covered the parts that have to be covered in the sand so they could do what they had they could learn during davening they would put on their clothes and cover themselves in darwin and then they would remove the clothes again so the clothes shouldn't decompose remember they are here for 12 years this is not for two weeks this is for 12 years after 12 years they go out they go out of the cave but they can't deal with the real world and they're sent back into the cave they're there for another year or 13th year after the 13th year they come out of the cave i'm skipping a few details because i want to get to one point is some say he was the son-in-law but it's it's known from zaya that was the father-in-law so the father-in-law goes out to greet his son-in-law after 13 years where is the first place they go ali leben they go into a a bathing house after so many years he wants to clean his body looks at the flesh it's full of it's full of uh cuts it's split open everywhere because 13 years in the sand rashly says this there's this split there's cuts everywhere because of the sand so is trying to smooth and anoint his body he should feel better you know some type of physical therapy should be able the body should be able to feel better after all the suffering the prince is crying and the tears the tears come down and actually and the gamoras has come at southerla shimon is screaming rashi says why is he screaming because the tears caused terrible pain to the wounds of the body as the water the tears hit the body the saltiness it's very very painful so he's screaming and the penises says woe on to me that i see you like this so the shipment says you're lucky that you see me this way because if you would have not seen me this way you would not find me the way i am today in the beginning asked the question the penises can answer 12 answers now repentance has asked a question can answer 24 answers don't say woe unto you that you see me you're fortunate that you see me this way why el malila is you wouldn't see this if you wouldn't see me this way you wouldn't have found me this way this is the basis of the song you would have never seen me this way if not if not for the cave we have here i have a colleague a senior colleague in muncie rabbi schlesinger of another jew lives not far from me here in muncie his name is ram david we're from david weiss the vishnu sukhasit and he's suffering from als and he learns all day and he made a sea of ashas he finished the whole sas with als last year and we came to a big celebration his wife rushes at zadecas arranged a beautiful celebration in passaic i had this house of being there very schlesinger told over this story and he asked a question was 13 years in the cave he never screamed once and now suddenly some tears of his father-in-law fall on him and he starts screaming and he gave a possible interpretation what bothered him what he was screaming about was that he looked at the princess and he saw the peninsula is weeping and feeling bad that she is such a nebuchad he's such a victim he says oily whoa that i see you like this and that's what bothered me you look at my life as though i'm like this this suffering person who was destroyed by life like i don't look at my life as a curse i don't look at my life as a punishment i don't look at my life as a horrible catastrophe that nebuchadnezzar i have to tolerate i celebrate my life and here we come to the nakuda is the one who revealed to the world who started to reveal to the world the core of in the summer of tyra which of course was revealed in the zohar and then in all of the works of kabbalah especially through the arizona and his students and then of course subsequently through the balshemptiv subsequently in the language and terminology of siddhis developed even further by his students and of course who developed the whole language and terminology and concepts of siddhis and it continues from generation to generation this began with who's called the master of pinemia and what does it mean the master plan is he doesn't look at hits he doesn't look at externalities he looks at the inner core the pneumonias and by the way i see we have either a shiva from new haven we have her so be able to be mars but he probably gave a few room on this what's ripped shimon says dover-shayna miscavige but i didn't have kavanaugh for example i slap over i schlep over i'm walking on the grass to shoot or to your house or to my house and it's possible that the grass could be uprooted or i'm schlepping a bench from one house to another house if it's a place where you're allowed to carry it even though it's possible that when i slap the bench it may make a furrow in the ground so you have them allah of karisha of plowing but since i don't have kavanah even if i do them allah it's mother you're allowed to do it everybody says no no what's the machoices the ikea is the mice you did a malacca if shimon says no the main thing is the pneumonias double chinese scavenge there was no cavanaugh there's no molecules there was no there was no premiums you did it technically but you didn't want to do it and it's not even inevitable it's not secretion so therefore it's fine and i want to share with you all the kevaric how did you end and they were talking about rome and if you just started to praise the romans and he said look how great they are they built markets they created bridges they built bathing houses ah gevaldik the bjc was quiet what did the shipments say the they did it only for themselves they are greedy they are barbaric they are selfish they built the marketplaces to have zionists they built the bathing houses so they should be able to glorify themselves and have a good time and they built the bridges just to be able to collect more taxes the romans heard about this was promoted rabioisi was exiled they issued a death sentence now let's do abyssal let's understand this what's this first if the romans are good or bad the same as lakers like shabbos dover shayna miscavin the beholder says i don't care about their kavanagh but pyo mamash they didn't give out they could work look at rome a messiah paved roads beautiful bridges nice marketplaces malls stadiums beautiful stores cafes it's a normal place you could live it's great beautiful you can go to a heisei mikveh it's a good sweets beautiful gyms you can work out you can build your muscles beautiful yep shaman says what's negay is the cavanagh the is what was the cavanaugh of the romans the kavanagh of the romans was selfish they're promiscuous they wants news they want you money they just they are narcissistic people don't look at what they did look at the intent [Music] he looks at the inside says i can exempt the whole world from judgment why the whole world from judgement so i saw from the tsar shalom of bells he said why because he says every aveda is a dover every jew does an evader if you look deep down he doesn't really want to do it he's doing it but there's no real cavuna there's no melanchosis he's doing it because he's disturbed because he's in pain because he's because he forgot who he is like it says in tanya he forgets who he is saying he's crying i don't look at my life as a bad life if hashem chose that i should go into the mighty it's not abidived and that's the perspective of that every moment in life and every experience in life it's not a big deal even if you've been through different challenges and different situations it's not like okay now how do you get out of it no you have to be able to look at the penemius of it to be able to see the core look at the enemies of yourself and you'll see that you're always an ambassador of the rabbinislam in this world you're a stickler and therefore you have infinite resources you're never a victim of reality you're an ambassador of hashem adamant adam is a metaphor for hashem the marshall of gashmi is a muscle for the the goof is a metaphor for the soul adam is a metaphor for god the person who revealed the pneumonias of title and therefore the pneumonias of the world and therefore the primitives of an ashama and therefore the premiers of every event and every experience by him there's no such a thing i ended up in quarantine i ended up in this problem i ended up with this problem no you were sent you didn't end up here you're not lost this is not a mistake you were sent into every situation that you're dealing with and it's through this that you're going to find your height and your huddle you're going to find your glory and your beauty and your premieres and your depth and it's through this that you're going to discover your deepest light and now i want to share with you tiger eden all on this caval that is uh you're with me the chevra with me you told us everything huh rabbi roth you with me the children understand children understand they understand better than the adults i love either adult the roth family understands i love either adults will understand they will understand as well as the children let's go to the next step you probably know that after gimmel thomas they found in the debbie's drawer in his room three big loose leafs of letters diaries journals that ever wrote over the years the 1920s the 1930s when he was in russia and in europe in europe and then the first years in america the 1940s and they published it over the next five years the first reshimmer they published with shimmer's fivers aleph is dedicated to yutez kislyam yuta's kislev is the day that alternate came out of prison and that ebb explains there the significance of utes and kisliv and it was on a tuesday and the name schneider and the name zalman and he even discusses the significance of the fact that he was imprisoned in petersburg and he speaks there about peter the great peter the great peter his name was peter peter the great he built petersburg all the details about the alternative being in prison but then the debbie adds an incredible incredible insight that's connected to like bohemia and i want to share it with you and it's really the mahalik it's the cave it's the point that we've been trying to convey till here i'm going to read the words and then i'm going to explain these are the words from the rapper from with shimmer that he wrote when did he write it he wrote it in the very early years this is probably the 1920s so he says i quote never wrote this to himself it was shorthand very brief but i'm going to try to explain i opened it up here yo in a very very brief way in very brief words that ebb here is revealing an incredible insight into life he says if you look through jewish history you'll see that certain people were quarantined in prison either they were imprisoned or they were confined in a place that was similar to prison and you'll see that all these people were people who changed the world and it seems like that they had to go through this quarantine in order to change the paradigm of the world they weren't just great people they weren't just incredible people they were people who transformed the fabric of civilization they brought in a whole new light into the world that was unprecedented but this can't just come gradually i can't just sit on my couch and sip lemonade and eat potato chips and change the world for this they themselves had to go through a transformation they had to go back into pregnancy in kabbalah there's a concept called ibrishan and ibrushini toyota her passion is the first pregnancy from an embryo from the egg and the seed you become a fetus ibrushini is later in life you go through a second pregnancy you go back into the womb now it's not easy to go back into the womb the womb is a nice place but once you're out you don't go back to the womb can you do with the meister without tadaba he told his mother-in-law she offered him to come to vitepsk and she'll live with her and she'll support him because she was very rich after his her husband died because her husband despised altered now tonight but told him told her this is a brilliant answer to ashwiger although said tina there's no days that are as beautiful as in the womb of your mother he says but once you leave you don't go back you don't go back into the room of your mother you leave not because it's bad it's gevaldic but sometimes you're sent back into ibur you have to go back to your shitish quarantined confined and you and you rediscover yourself and it brings a geval dick mario says that a child an infant who's born on if he has long hair you want to give him a haircut i am going to give him a haircut you know i want to give her because the answer is somebody who came out of prison and he couldn't take a haircut out of yomtif you're not going to give him a haircut that's what mishna might cut a little magazine he's confined in the womb of the mother you couldn't give him a haircut out of yamptev he's born he give america what does this bring out ibur is going back you're quarantined you're limited but you go back to the sheridish and you start over again who was in prison so this is the list that ebba makes joseph was in prison for 12 years none of the brothers were none of the brothers why he's considered the mukhership of nayaka he's considered the greatest of the benayaka that the whole trader of yaakov that he learned he gave over he gave over to joseph he was the choicest of the children of yaakov who can go down to mitslam this is joseph he was in prison for 12 years who else the gomorrah says was in quarantine for 10 years three years in kusa and seven years in cardo rama rashi baba bastard ten years of ramavina was in quarantine you know that rough boys you know that abramovina was in prison for ten years he didn't get there rabbi black he knew that abramovina was in prison for ten years you know rama was quarantined for ten years you think you have it hard between pesach to be quarantined 10 years in quarantine 10 years in quarantine next year rebecca the gemara says in brachas she was in prison next rashbi 13 years in prison of course he's writing this about the balatania but was in prison your tuskislavi came out i would also add he doesn't say this is a famous madrid that it's disputed in some places that this russia island that yeshua put moshe in prison for many many years moshe was in prison for many years what's the common denominator of all these people they brought in a new light into the world avraham avinu is the one who brought in the first jew the gemara says that began from and it's connected to lag by me because he started with the five students the heyman middleton is responsible for taylor what about rashbi rash b is the source of kinema is the source of nicola the tata motion of ram is the source of trader yosef is the transmitter of taylor rashbe is the source of the one who took teresa and teresa to reveal it to the world through all of them were quarantined for weeks or for days or for years this is the e-board base how sure to emerge what does this tell us now you understand the song over there you acquired your height and your hudder let's now bring this home to us rabbi say what does this mean by us it means that whenever you are quarantined it's in order to bring out a new oil a new light that's unprecedented a light in yourself a light in your spouse a light in each one of your children a light in each one of your family members a light in each one of your community members a light a new urine cloudy stroll and a new earth a new light among all of us and ultimately a new light into the world the ibor is there to bring a new gula galas is called ibur and gaola is called leiden this doesn't mean it's easy it doesn't mean it's kashmak it doesn't mean you ask for it what it means is there's two types of people there are people who live with insanely useless people who live with panemias when you live with kids superficiality then you look and you say and that makes sense because we live in a world of where you teaches us you have to go to the panemias you look at the premiers you say if you wouldn't have seen me like this what do i say to you what do i say to me a whole new reality comes from right now hashem gave us a historic opportunity to reveal a new light yes we were sent home we're quarantined we're our loan social distancing we don't know exactly when it's going to be over bayesian hashem things will return to normal but don't let things just return to normal he didn't come out from the mighty and say okay back to normal no from this miter we got this but this mighty we got the twenty four answers of sherman yeah on every question from this mighty we got the hoyt and the that's why they light fires unlike boimer to show that the fire of saudi is inextinguishable and where did he get this fire where did he get this passion when did he get this light he got it in the mirror one special area where there's a new light that's being born now is in the realm of actus israel i want you to know i want you to know as this fabrega is going on there's also hot solathon tonight tomorrow or most of the day tomorrow night and the organizers i spoke to the organizers they told me an interesting thing when they started to work on it some people said it's impossible you're going to bring together every hazola from every community in north america like in all jewish organizations there's politics it can't work there's too many interests they're good people but everyone has their own way of doing things they said no this is a new opportunity in claudius and look they brought them all together and it's not an easy thing to do i knew a little bit what was going on behind the scenes incredible opportunity now this is a new era and the new era means the world has changed and now there's only one question have i changed have you changed can we change and what does it mean to change change doesn't mean that you go through cosmetic surgery change means that you go back to your epinemius you go back to the core self that's pre-trauma pre-ego pre-pettiness pre-jealousy free insecurity pre-anxiety pre-stress to go into the mighty go back into your sheidish and you'll see all the fights that we have the people i don't speak to so i'll have a laval it's coming because i'm such a small person i don't know my godless if you would know your godless nephesh if you would understand who you are it's a pastness passage how can the be a mathias the fabregas i could speak blunt how could the beyond see us that one hassan is not on speaking terms with another hustle how could there be such a match for this so that what that we should become petty and small people it doesn't mean there's no tightness it doesn't mean you don't sometimes get an arbitrator it doesn't mean you don't have to work out issues but it means a person without lebanese you have to live with a godless don't be small be big ask yourself a question soon the ghoul is coming when mashiach is going to come how are you going to live that's how you should live now if there's a telephone call you have to make and you're not making it because you have a breakup ask yourself if meshiach was here would you also not make the telephone call if you also not make a telephone call and then it would be different that's now that's now the energy of the ghoul is already in the world we have to embrace it we have to embrace it many of us including myself russia shiva many people sitting here heard from the rabbit many many times in 1991 1992 that ebb said that the presence and the oil of machias in the world we have to take it inside of us you and me what does it mean take it inside what am i supposed to do only hashem decides when the ghoula comes not me not anybody else who can't be dicey because hashem decides what it does mean is i can start living with a consciousness of golem how do you live with the conscience of golola you don't allow the sahara to dominate your life i don't allow the pettiness the insecurities of course i have insecurities of course i have an ego of course i have yeshua's first to have trauma of course i have issues who doesn't have issues i don't know about you maybe you guys are gonna know haven't it comments and diets of course i have one but you don't give the backseat driver the wheel you have a backseat driver and he tells you take the light but you're holding the wheel you decide we have to we have to identify a new part in us and live with that when you wake up in the morning and you say that and you wash your hands and you say stop lifeless think you need to take a deep breath take a deep breath and tell yourself twenty times fifty times maybe a hundred times the tahereh means light aramaic tahira means light tahiri then is uh it's the light of hashem in the world who am i i am the light of hashem in the world i'm a manifestation of hashem in this world shalom so when i wake up in the morning i look at myself i have to say who am i i'm a shliyak of hashem and therefore i represent them so i'm invincible i'm destruct indestructible i'm full of power and confidence and joy and health and strength i'm invincible because i'm an ambassador of hashem my whole eye is a helical i'm a conduit for hashem that's how i live that's how i make my telephone calls that's how i run my business that's how i relate to my wife that's why i relate to my husband that's why i relate to my children that's why i went to my grand are there other voices in me that say no you're jealous he's going to take away your business he insulted you she doesn't like you he doesn't like you nobody likes you you're a loser you're schlamazel you're schlemiel you're a nude nick you're an idiot you're i know i have all these voices also you think it was the instagram i also have all these voices the voice says i know it there's a voice so the voice so he said but i don't have to listen to that voice i don't have to identify with that voice which voice do you have to identify with you have to identify with the voice that says that you are a shliyak of hashem every single moment in this world and therefore [Music] you are infinite you are a piece of infinity rashbee says at the end of massachusetts when i was a child by the lagboemer parades that ebby used to say over this gemara mcgill and his voice echoed on the whole eastern parkway oh my ribs jews are beloved wherever they were exiled wherever a jew ends he's not alone but of course when they go back to the ghoul not the skinners okay i'm gone the ghoul happens that way this doesn't mean i don't have issues but i can identify the part of me that's infinite or i can live with the part of me that's in golos and fahaka then when you live with this part you could forgive you could make up with people you could renew relationships so i wanted to ask you it's like ask yourself is there somebody that i don't speak to call them up send them a message is just somebody you have a fight with it doesn't mean you have to agree about everything it doesn't mean you have to become the best and closest brothers and friends but it means that we have to live in a world where there's ava the achvi if you need somebody to help straighten out issues so you go to somebody but this idea of not speaking to people and hating people and living in this negativity and toxic energy you're in the wrong time of history my friends enough living in a gullos enslaved mentality where you feel that you're gonna gain more from negative energy doesn't work that way don't be stingy with love there's a new era in the world we have to be the agents of hashem's love and compassion in this world be kind to people you're going to see people in the street after we come out greet them see people in shul give them a hug be kind be loving lift up people empower people a physical hug or an emotional hug or a verbal hug don't be stingy with your love give gist gist ava nasa adam [Music] nasa adam he was thinking about you [Music] and you shy and you'd have label and you tied my and you read mandolin you read michael he was thinking about you nasa he was thinking you're the adam you're you you are it me me yeah you you you you why because if you could be megalo in yourself the mitzits of rashbee and when you emerge you will have so much light to give to yourself and people you'll bring in a new light into the world that's our mission today we need this clarity it's a time of leadership not a victimhood it's a time to facilitate a new hizgalos a new gula a new birth after this terrible pandemic it devastated many a family it devastated many a community some of us have lost close friends relatives teachers ms salto mishamino from the best and the holiest of so many communities including of khabad in france in crown heights where i am in muncie and other communities around the world especially in crown heights where misalto mishamna some of my neighbors relatives teachers people we looked up to people who were icons people who were legends i saw today or yesterday a picture of the matsteve by groaner a blade groaner nearer beyond incline and initial mendel simpson my person burst out crying because like the end of an era the end of an era you know whenever i saw label groaner even 20 years after that business after gimmel thomas 25 years you saw that when he still remembered right away did ever because whenever wherever you saw that ever you knew labor groaners somewhere behind there the end of an error at the end of a trophen it's sad it's not easy and so many other great people and greatness shamans and great souls that were taken from us but here's the rule the end of an era is also the beginning of a new era this is the end of an era but is it going to be the end of a narrow the beginning of a new era now we need the beginning of a new era the beginning of a new that depends on all those who are zoyster to be here in the maida and celebrate like we don't believe in despair we don't believe in yosh i once heard from the rabbi these words if a yid has used it's because there's no das the common i think they say that it comes from the helicopter stroller that's what i read once but i remember once by a fabregas there's no years we don't despair we never despair why because we say [Music] don't cry for me that i'm a tragedy no we're living in painful times in tragic times but don't start weeping that nebach we're lost we're goners no this is the beginning of a tremendous light that's going to emerge from this a new consciousness of gula what does it mean practically a consciousness of gullah dalai mah like us get rid of uproot every last vestige of of stupidity of sin on of not speaking with other people or fighting with other people of la shanhara of gossiping all this comes when i think i'm a small tiny little creature when you realize can cite for them who has time for this but after the commission if i love the real me i love you because we're one if i love the fake me then i don't have issues with you now is the time to start loving the real you the pneumonious of you and then you love everybody you get along with everybody even if we're different personalities i don't have to be you have your personality but i can get along with you i could respect you i can embrace you i could tell you good shabbos i could support you i could be here for you and you could be here for me the key in life is not to agree with each other the key in life is to be here for each other like your husband and a wife what's a good marriage a good marriage is that you always agree with your husband how could you be a jewish wife if you always agree with your husband then it's if tyche is connected she has to disagree with him really you have the same touch on toyota era connected against of course we disagree so what i don't need you to agree with me i need you to have my back you need me to have your back i need you to be here for me i need to feel that i can trust you a hundred percent and you have to feel that you can trust me hundred percent we don't have to agree we have to be able to trust each other to be here for each other and sometimes you need boundaries certain people you may need boundaries but hatred the whole community of new haven who brought us together tonight for him and all of the people who are gathered here from the whole world wherever you are from any stream that you're gathered from any website you gathered from him i send you my love my deepest love my deepest blessings that all of us should be able to utilize these moments and especially the yoyma goddal of like of barrio the day of um and to be able to appreciate our togetherness as much as we appreciate our individuality never would always say by the google we have tupsuckin every person individually and call godline it's not a sita yiddish has two basic foundations we're one and we're individual and the two don't contradict each other the two complement each other because when you understand what a jew is you understand that your individuality contributes to the community and the community is not here to cancel out the individuality but to enhance the individuality the rats the source if not the physical fire more important than the physical fire is the spiritual fire to light up the aish tommy the fire of yiddish and the fire of pneumonias of yiddish fire of rashbe and in order to do this you have to light the fire every morning how do you light the fire every morning you learn with a fire and i'll finish with this famous story i also heard the story from the rabbi that that rebel and his older brother did some and aaron when they were children they were playing khasid like you play house shop was a little kid i think he was like four years old five years old and he went into his older brother like a rabbit and he played house playing rebecca and he said zalman aaron or absolute what's a jew and his brother said another little kid his brother said ayid is fire a jew is fire so the rebel shap said if a jew is fire why would i touch you don't i get burnt so he says [Music] you're also fire and when fire touches fire you don't get burns when fire touches fire becomes a bigger fire eden i.e this fire you have to look at yourself and see fire age hashem when you touch another jew what are you touching you're touching fire fire and fire don't burn each other fire and fire become one big shall everest that's the gemarian sighted of your design that some of you are learning together with the youth and the hay that's a fire that doesn't destroy that's a fire that brightens and illuminates that's the fire of like boimer that's the maduras of rashbe this fire which is tumid which is eternal which is timeless may we ignite this fire at this present moment in our lives and bring this fire and this light to so many others until we experience because of the new dawn of taker from mama let's take some questions first time megan and then some questions whoever has uh what would like to ask a question could the ask on the chat okay let's see we have here i'm in boulder colorado welcome from boulder colorado thank you for your kind words everybody i see a lot of people wrote very nice words thank you very much okay yes thank you doctor the causative bacterium is herania bacterium diphtheria that was the bacteria that killed tamil in the cottage system the rabbit tells a story that abhyakovic saul of church asked his future son-in-law howie davins and he said sibur but then he saw that he wasn't about that's when he said that he heard from the tsa in the name of the altar that philip is that you bring together all the beautiful beautiful okay you're telling me that i'm unmute i hope i wasn't on mute the whole time adam the alien was set through but if you looked it up and said if i stand corrected i stand corrected but i'm not sure i stand corrected okay any other questions let's see donate for hot solid saved your brother i agree awesome as always thank you melbourne australia thank you melbourne for being here the connection of all the tsadikim who were in prison uh reba you're going to make the recording available i could you could send it to me i'll make it available so you can hear it again you'll hear about ovitz speak about mr mr whom the event was sponsored for a big big loss to the whole community special special man a heart filled with love and kindness i knew him i knew it i still remember his father what's the connection between lag by aimer and children the valdica question one of the connection is that shimon ban khayi and the zoya speaks a lot about children and he says that when mashiach comes the children are all going to be filled with ponemia satire so like became a day when we celebrate especially children i think there's other explanations but this is one of them hello from sydney australia we're looking forward to your next visit okay we could do a zoom visit zoom it's much cheaper and it's much easier we'll have to get into a plane i'm spoiled now how is the best way to start working on our pneumous oh finally absolutely what's the best way to start working on our premiums the best way to start working on your premiums is by start working on your premiums if i start telling you how to work on your produce it's not going to be your premiums at best it's going to be me you have to work on your epitomes the best way is you spend time with your neshama when you haven't daven with you shamayim with ava focus on one paragraph every day for a few minutes you say avas think about the words if you don't understand hebrew use another siddha learn the meaning of the words think about it reflect on it it's very very important you should have a sheer insidis at least a few times a week if not every day but you have to have a good teacher or a good safer just to learn on your own most people have a problem applying it to their lives either you have a good teacher and what do i mean a good teacher not a smart teacher it's good to have a smart teacher teacher who helps you bring the my mother into your life you learn a mind it should change you if it doesn't change you it's not learning to do this so this has to change you so start learning either with a safer a lot of the translations are not going to help you change you'll know ideas ah kiss it's beautiful to learn it has to change your life if you want you know for many years i gave a daily shear in territory on the torah and the cavity there always one i should bring it down practically so if you go to the yeshiva.net you go to the siddha section you'll see lakuta tita there's a few hundred maybe that's good for you but find a teacher or a safer or a harusa or an mp3 in any language but it should speak to you in a shaman start learning that's number two number three you have to speak to somebody a friend a teacher a mentor somebody who's good who gets you you have to speak to them what's going on in your life what's going on in your middles you need somebody you could trust that you open up to those are the three deciders of starting to work on your epitomes let's go to the next question thank you from buffalo you're welcome how do you think the world will be after things go back to normal that depends on you and me where the world that depends on you on me where the world the fear depends on you and me if we become if we become deeper people will spread the light the truth is the world wants to change everybody even not jews not jews but as jews we're supposed to be the moral ambassadors to teach the world that's our job erla ghayem to light up the world our family greatly enjoys the sheardom for the teens thank you from the wraths of new haven thank you i see you guys are sitting here mamash for almost two hours listening all the kinder luck he didn't even go away once i'm amazed huh no add in the family hashem amazing wow i wish i would be able to concentrate to my with my teachers that way i couldn't sit still for five minutes that's why i became a speaker because i can't listen my wife always tells me my wife always says my wife was why do you give such long speeches you would never listen to your speeches you would run away after five minutes why do you give such she has a point how can we say that baker's students stop passing away if they were none left but five is there a cross-reference in history to a plague that killed the 24 000 students it's an excellent question listen this is the second century after the common era there were plo probably many many plagues we know that even in the 1500s and the 1600s there was so many plagues you know that some of the great swarm were written during pandemics you know that there are more wrote them in a mcgillis esther during a pandemic you know he ran away from krakow a place called shidlove the clay yucca wrote a sephirah mood shaish when he was in quarantine you know that the brother of the maharal rabbit sallow wrote a safer called safer when he was in quarantine you know that is a safe shame he wrote it when he was in quarantine he was running away from the pandemic i once saw the besieged finished when he ran away from a pandemic so it's interesting they used quarantine in govaldica ways but listen the time of the students will be akiva i don't know that there would be historic records for it i wouldn't be shocked if there's not i never heard but it's not really my field but i never heard of it you're asking a question if there were only five left what's up pandemic stopped it could be it could be two things it's a good question it's discussed in a few places i have to research it but if i'm not mistaken there's two ideas number one a pandemic doesn't stop it kills twenty four thousand people and the next day it could kill sixty thousand people outside of the students of ebi akiva so perhaps that's the celebration that didn't spread further to other people or there were more students perhaps there were more students who remained alive but maybe they were not ready or or suitable that ibakiva should be able to begin a whole new uh movement of turtle with them so you have to go find new ones that's also possible it's a good question it's a good question i saw it asked and i don't remember what other people answer why i'm trying to get the question somebody's moving the chat remember this we did already you're going up you have to go down who's moving the ch two too many chefs spoil the dish let me do it please shoot fizz good okay next uh adam alayan okay we did that we did that the volume is on he's a great inspiring speaker tell my mother-in-law what are you telling me for okay very good could you please say the connection i told you we'll get a recording so we don't have to cause it over the words next question how do we movatle the the wish to force a vaccine into us and turn us into slaves onto constant watch of technology when we we all unite and demand meshiach we should all unite in the man no question in terms of the vaccines for this area this is really not my field i'm not a doctor i'm not a physician i never went to medical school even one day do we know why the rabbit shows the parade format for we don't see this by any other yomtif that the parade format was chosen interesting interesting question i'm not sure why the debbie chose this i think i don't know but i heard from the herschel fogelman remember rebecca fogerman from worcester i heard from the version fogelman that geval de kavart you know in 1941 or 42 the rebel yachts founded mesibis shabbos he had every shabbos afternoon bahrain and young should gather children many of them were in public schools there were not many jewish day schools and make with them shabbos remember yiddish guide was still very active in america in terms of zadis who were very jewish but there was no infrastructure of education that's where the generation was lost but shabbos afternoon you know they would still have sudha make them shabbos and give nash and say them and tell stories and sing and he the freedom could but the end is going to be transformed the whole world with territory with yiddish kind i think that for the rabbit the whole idea of parades was a very powerful tool to express what's called yiddish staltz jewish pride in america one of the worst challenges is self-hating jews embarrassed assimilation you have to out gentile the gentiles you have to hide your identity and don't be too jewish you know you want to fit in you don't want to create anti-semitism and they'd ever felt that this path is going to destroy the jewish people and i think he felt that a thing like a parade bringing our children to the street making them feel proud of their jewish march with simsa and somehow i think he felt that this is a tremendous opportunity to really access that energy of like one but it was always a minute to take children to the fields and bow and arrows and say them and learn outside and have and have misibis right the middle episode used to go to the field and everything i think that ever just took it one notch further to be able to actually go to the street and turn it into a parade which would be an expression of real jewish pride and dignity which i think that ever felt would be crucial to the survival and transformation of modern day jury and look at the results the results are on incredible we want the whole jewish world the sense of jewish jews jews coming out of the closet whoever from yeshiva university to satman from baba to kluisenberg from the literature to the yeshiva from the laboratory to the guerra and everybody in in between even those who are left from orthodoxy but they had a certain stall a certain pride of yiddish kite that was all a creation that didn't happen on its own and i think ideas like the lagbo imma pray the methylene all contributed to this not always consciously even unconsciously even unconscious he would go from city to city and he would gather people to speak about vayikra basement yachting that's why there were always miracles about couples getting pregnant is it also an asia russian for other holy things in life like parnosa shalombayas and asidah listen i can't tell you you know i don't have these types of knowledges from the source but the boy was considered an aesthetic considered a big ace rat sin so i'm sure it's an ace racing for health no question it's also one of the days that the rebel would always go to the scene of his father-in-law uh he would only go twice a month right and everybody would go like button obviously it's pretty [Music] what would you suggest to learn with someone las vegas it's hard to answer as i without knowing who he is how old he is what the issues are if it's intellectual if it's emotional his background it's very hard you can email me privately and give me details and i'll answer you rabbi why why the yeshiva.net rabbi y yeshiva.net but you have to give me more details i did do on the muna series for the islam in muncie we went through a lot of usages of ammuna 30 shirin called the basics of ammuna every thursday night you could find it on the website the yeshiva.net t-h-e y-e-s-h-i-v-a dot net put in a muna series and you'll see around 30 on your side of the moon chosen people you know why is there pain in the world these types of issues and that may be very helpful also it's around 30 shirt you could watch them on double speed so you don't have to listen to so slow what will we do if there is no davening for a shoshone kipper we will need social distancing how can we go to shul how will we be able to go to show what do we do to shoshone kipper listen i'm not guessing i don't know hopefully shawnee and kipp will be over but we don't get afraid for saddam devils even if the social distancing maybe you need more space but that's not the end of judaism judaism is not dependent on if i go to show judaism is dependent on hashem you turn your house into a shore so by staying home you're going to save lives that's the mitzvah in the midst of your mr stay home and save lives remember in the beginning of jewish history there were no shulls it was a basa after the started to be shulls now before meshiach what does hashem want every home should be a mikt every home should be a shul every home should be a mini baster you know the zephorne writes that if not for the ego it wouldn't have been a mishkan every home would have been abhis it wouldn't have been a michigan because of the ego the shrine went into the base now it's before mashiach so maybe hashem says i want to shine in your house starving a house learning a house turn your house into a mini base don't be scared of this how can i make islamic volumes special there's no bonfires there's no parades what should i do on my bible first of all you're here so it's already special that's number one number two you could put on music in your house and dance number three you could learn more toyota give more stock to you make another shirt you could learn something about about me that's what you should do 12 years in the cave writing the zayar wasn't enough it resulted in destruction what was needed was another year to rise to the level of avas israel to put theoretical knowledge into practice with the favor of delineating the the the quarium for the kyani he went out after 12 years and he was sent right back because there was missing the sensitivity to other people argentina joining us from argentina welcome argentina practical advice for a family at home trying to keep up with the small details like school housework being home all day to take and make the most of this time okay listen you gotta cut everybody's slack it's hard for everybody people are bored and siblings fight with each other so you have to know not to sweat the small stuff but it's important to try to have family dinner put away all the phones no screams there has to be a few hours without screens when you're darvening no screens try to learn face to face not only zoom so there's no screens it's not good to have screens all day by dinner if you have a family lunch family dinner family breakfast no screens you could talk to each other try to play games together maybe dance maybe do a game of simple simon says maybe draw a project maybe some of them could wear musical instruments maybe you could do something with family do zoom chats with with grandparents with uncles with aunts with friends you could you could try to do things together with as a family as much as you can it's not always going to be easy not everybody's always going to join you know teenagers sometimes have their moods and their issues and you have to give everybody their space but don't worry don't try to control every detail but it's important to have family time it's important to speak it's important to chat it's important to schmooze it's important to listen to each other but bring with each other very important take every day or walk with your spouse 20 minutes 30 minutes 40 minutes of course according to the guidelines of the health officials a walk without phones but take a walk if you can't take a walk spend time on the porch spend time on the front porch spend time in the living room very important to work to speak to your spouse every day a little time a little time take a walk try to spend a little time with the children learn with a child it's a great time to learn daven together if you can play a game together watch something interesting together you could watch one of my classes together or something else that's interesting but do something do just try to do things that can bring the family together in conversation and play in simcha music dancing a family in england i called somebody in england he says oh they're doing musical cheers they're doing a game of musical cheers another family was doing a game of monopoly or family was playing chess or simple i liked that they were just bonding with their kids it's great again not every kid you know maybe start learning machines every day with your child at least one of the children with one of your children but it's a very special time to find different ways of bonding and don't try to it should be perfect it's not perfect by anybody trust me everybody's climbing walls i have a nephew that has drawn on his partial papers angry faces when asked he said hashem is angry at those who don't listen okay [Music] okay so it's important to listen to him and uh he's probably a little boy so it's good to listen to him and i try to understand what he's saying and you want to try to bring into the conversation the insiders of the balsham how hashem loves every jew infinitely more than parents love a child who was born when they couldn't expect anymore to have a child the famous vertov the binyamin katz zakhoinel of new haven was one of the founders of new haven community who was the first to reach out to the meisha eisenberg who was secular at the time the yemen katz was a pillar of new haven and the pride and joy of new haven uh when i came to visit his wife abbotson cats to laying a yarn for shiva in new haven so she shared with me a very interesting story i don't know if you guys know it but it's like a schmackamais she said that after the wedding she married rebecca colonel of raja so they had a few different offers for jobs and he really wanted to go into the tram of ascana satire and he had a few very nice offers in europe in europe and he didn't even think of going to new haven he didn't want to go to his father-in-law he didn't want to go you know so she said they went on here looked through everything he looked through everything she mentioned the place i don't remember and then it ever says why don't you go to new haven your father-in-law needs teachers so he tells the debba that he doesn't want to work for a shred i don't want to work for my father-in-law i don't want to work for my father-in-law so that ever looks up at him and says i work for my father-in-law i'm very happy you can also work for your father-in-law but they didn't have a house so they thought they'll move into the moisture house and they live in like one of the floors in one of the sections so you said zois no no no don't live in the same house like your father i'm not that much you have to have your own house to work for your father-in-law but you have to have your own you wouldn't let them move into that house i thought that was very interesting so that be said for my schweinsteiger i asked rabbits and cats i said that rabbits and yeah rabbits and cats i said uh did you did you schmidt did your husband tell the debba that you know my schwed is a great man but he's not like you're schmed he's not your schmidt he said no no one's that ever said that once the devil was comparing his working for his shredder and his work of israel he understood that this is where he's going to have atlanta i thought that's a beautiful story thank you from florida okay you're welcome how much is acceptable and requested to change to make your spouse close friends family happy even if it means letting go of what you want this is the story of life this is what we try to do we try to make our spouse happy and our family happy but i don't know what it means to let go of what you want if it's something that's very very very important to you so you have to find a way if it's something that's not so important but something that she really needs why would that take away from you if your wife needs certain things in the house and it's going to make her feel very very good so we all learn to compromise that's what we do in a marriage you compromise for the sake of your wife and the sake of your husband if it's something that's going to be horrible for you and it's going to destroy your life then of course not but i don't know what would be such a thing i mean but there's things that a wife wants or a husband wants or needs and that's what we do we listen and we try to compromise and we want to make other people happy and the truth is if you have a good marriage when the other person is happy you become much happier it feels much better it's much better so i i don't understand exactly like why would this be so miserable for you to make to make her happy what is she asking for that's going to destroy you know your life and if it's just extra things then of course you want to compromise that's what couples do and we try to be there for our siblings we try to be there for our parents we try to be there of course for our spouses we try to be there for our children but of course you have to make sure that your needs whatever you need in kashmir if you have certain sensitivities certain things that bother you you shouldn't ignore that i'm not saying you should ignore yourself but you have to always differentiate between your spoiled self and your real self we love you thank you very much i have grown so much from your thank you thank you thank you for your very kind words i've grown from your wonderful and heart piercing fiery terror and lessons thank you and i see that you're called haravatzadek that's a very special compliment okay salmi i know this is a sensitive question how does one know what hashem wants from him in life beyond halacha if the life decisions that are made continuously finish as dead ends is there a way to determine what is and what is not the right thing to do in parnasso and other areas that's a beautiful beautiful question and the answer of course to this is we have to look at a few issues number one you have to look at what your kashmiris are when a person has special talents and resources and gifts you have to maximize them that's part of ratsuna if i have or you have certain gifts and every person has special contribution to make to this world so hashem endowed you with these things you must actualize your constrainers whatever they may be for one person it's money for another person it's the mouth another person it's the head for another person it's a pen for another person it's education for another person it's writing for another person it's communication for another person it's dreaming for another person it's a big heart and for another person it's tackles mice every person has unique cricus and that's part of your slickest in the world that's number one number two if there's something that's very difficult for you but you know that this is necessary for you it's probably part of your slickest listen to what i'm saying if there's something that you know is hard for you but you know that this is important for you it's probably part of your slickers and that's why the hr is finding it and that's why you're having difficulties beyond that it's important to have advice from people you need close friends or a mentor confidante or a confidant with people who you can speak to about your struggles your issues what's going on people who have your back who you trust and they trust you so these are all things that can help you figure out what's right for you and what's not right for you of the rabbit so he was like the fleet of keraba and the rebels so that was the answer to the benyamin cat saying that it is i know that 100 100 i know that the gomorrah says that david didn't sin by marrying basheva how can we understand this it's a great great question this is a whole sugya but it's beyond it's beyond the present fabregan uh the famous gomarium of mitsia right marijuana hey it's a very very important sugar but it's beyond the realm of this year we see how big people end up doing bad things and it throws me off the gomorrah says whoever is bigger has a bigger yet remember every force in kedusha has a counter force and the opposite of kedusha and therefore whenever you have a person who's big and talented and creative and resourceful and has a big mind and a big heart yet sahara is also big and that's why sadly sometimes bigger people end up becoming more corrupt power corrupts absolute power corrupts absolutely that's why it's so important to work on yourself that's why the most important thing is avoid the pynemis you have to work on yourself who are present with us may be known it is the famous talk of the rebbe of nisantop right you heard about this hundreds of times that the debbie said that i tried after everything i have done i was ineffective i did not bring down the gool of the pile i was unsuccessful it was la hevel valeric you know that afterwards that ebba added a few words you know what else he added yeah you know let me tell you listen to this that episode after everything i tried doing the bottom line i didn't accomplish mashiach did not come didn't bring me you know there's something even more that i didn't accomplish that people did not go out of the golus i was unsuccessful in helping people leave their inner gullets he said this is even more painful you understand this we always hear the first half that ebb said i could tried i tried i tried machias didn't come everyone now has to do what they can to change the world and bring the ghoul but the rabbi added something else that he wasn't successful i tried that people should go out of their inner goals and avoid this accept and i was unsuccessful that's why i tell you the most important thing to repay yourself for the ghoul is go out of my own golus the goal is me i am in gullis in myself in my own nephesha bahamas in my own trauma and my own ego my own insecurities and my own filth i have to go out of that goalless i have to become an ambassador of light in my own life and when you're a big person you have bigger assiness and people fail so that's not a reason to get turned off it's a reason to get turned on and to understand how important it is to work on yourself so that it doesn't happen to you that's what it is and i'll remember something else we don't connect to hashem through people we connect hashem directly you know god doesn't have grandchildren he only has children never worship people to the point that you get disappointed the problem is yeah and i know it's true sometimes a person becomes a baltrue and he looks up to arov or rebits him because they made him a volca and then the rabbi makes a mistake and the multivator gets turned off from you don't worship people learn from people get inspired from people you can ask advice from people you could be a student of people but don't worship people you worship only hashem people have yet saharas people make mistakes when you don't have a relationship with hashem directly it's always through a rabbi or a rabbitson you get let down and it's not fair to you of course we look up to people you want to be inspired by people but don't worship people every person has a yate sahara you have to remember that we don't worship people we worship god it's a much more real way of living when you stop worshiping people you'll be better off because i'll tell you why people are not perfect if you haven't figured it out yet even in new haven maybe rabbi had the cover is an exception and even he has obstacles one day rabbi khadukov will tell you about an answer he got from the rabbit a few weeks before that ever strong every person has a yeti every person is imperfect i'll tell you a secret okay even i'm imperfect you know that and if you don't believe me you can ask my mother-in-law and if you don't believe my mother-in-law you can ask my wife and if you don't believe my wife you can ask my mother actually no my mother probably thinks i'm perfect every person has khasirenas every person i'm going to tell you a mice i heard this myself it's such a classic story i love the story it's so human and it's so gesh i heard this from himself he knows the person it happened to he says ayid went into the rabbi and he tells the rabbit that he's very unhappy with him castleman was the legendary masjid of the yeshiva temple and he starts telling the rebbe a lot of negative things about the absolute castle and he did this and this this and this and that ever stopped him and that ever said episodes about himself you know what i also have flaws but let me tell you something let me tell you something i get letters from all of the khabar siddha these are his words our students of that's his and he told us over to him shalom died she told it to me told it to me what was the number telling him you're telling me someone is not perfect i know it was like let me tell you about myself that's how the rabbis spoke you know but he said look at the product the man is working hard he's raising a generation of sydney are there questions yeah are there imperfections yeah what what do you want that ever should fire every spear because he's not the perfect but you don't worship people you don't worship hamas you don't worship a rabbi you don't worship at abbotson they're not perfect they have kasrinas they have yet saharas even the bigger of a bigger of there's a dinner you made up second show me the source there's a homosexual called you know that the sanhedrin sanhedrin they got smith all the way to mushroom they could make a mistake because they're people people could make a mistake and they have to bring a carpet it's called par helen dover salt zebra this doesn't mean they're not holy it doesn't mean they're not great and it doesn't mean they were really really great you're talking about the sanhedrin but they're still people now certainly in our generation we don't have the sanhedrin we have to realize big people could make mistakes don't worship people worship hashem you don't build your relationship with hashem through people you build your intellectual directly directly there's a moderates of word that they avoid from the moderates you know why hashem was telling every jew even if i don't have the rest of claudius i'm good as long as i have you i'm that a lot a lot of great people are really not real they're not authentic so that's why what that's why you're not making them you have a direct relationship with hashem you're not hashem's great-grandchild you're hashem's child we don't have muhammad you don't worship hashem through an arov through an intermediary assailant you take guidance you ask a shailer okay you take guidance we all need mentors we all know people to consult we don't worship people as flawless and then you won't get turned off when people make mistakes because they have yet so hardest every person has aitsuhara remember that it'll be much healthier if everybody knows that yes is it is it very painful when a big man falls of course it's painful of course it's painful it's called it's very painful a lot of questions you seem to be enjoying the zoom style of shurima fabregan's when this magef is over you're going to go back to airplanes and traveling i'll tell you the truth the first few weeks of the coronavirus i was home in shul shabbos yeah i told my wife it's the first chambers i said it's the shabbos have to put shampoo i want to show the shampoos after that i said i think it's the first chambers in 20 years that i didn't give it to russia and you know what you know the famous verdict it says so there's a famous word that always moisture was speaking and speaking and speaking suddenly adam gave a direction wow you could listen you don't have to speak it's an old voice from darshan it was very interesting experience to sit shabbos at home i usually give a shirt friday night shop this morning before darwining and then shop is the middle of davening and you know it's very very intense and it was shabbos there was nothing going on i was learning lakota tayden in the morning with a family member with a little coffee by the kitchen table which we still do every shop this morning we wake up in the morning and we learn liquid to tight and then we dive in at home and i have to say that you know there were so many tragedies but there was a very interesting experience how things are going to be when we all go back listen going on airplanes and traveling is very exciting but it's also hard it's not so easy it takes a toll and even though i feel like i'm a 17 year old teenager but unfortunately i'm not i still wish i was a 17 year old teenager in spirit i am but i'm not mamish so it does take a toll and i would like to slow down a little bit because uh i also see the value of being at home or but we'll see listen wherever hashem wants me to be that's where i'm going to be why isn't basic english and math taught in chabad schools it seems to be needed for learning toyota itself you don't like my english vocabulary what you know where i learned my english and now you're opening up a a pandura box this is a very heavy heavy question i mean i think most about schools do teach english and math no i mean i think most skills i mean i know the school where i went to didn't teach english and math but i think most schools teach basic english and math i don't know that basic english and math is a problem to teach people it's probably a probably a good idea i know others have done a lot of research i think my brother rabbi simon jacobson did a lot of research on this you could reach out to him because he wrote a lot about this and he told me once that he's not sure that ever opposed basic english and math i don't know generally we all know that it ever felt the young years of a child are so powerful that everything we teach them has to be filled with your shamayim because these are the years when you shape their soul rabbi rabbi shmuel godovich from from melbourne australia just lost his son in muncie from the coronavirus spoke to him about the schools in melbourne this is what he told me i heard this from his mouth that ever said your curriculum has to be on the highest level academically the school should be often hesitant on the highest level and he says they're looking at your school the about school grower by growing the school earlier whatever the night what is it called the the educational system in melbourne fifteen hundred kids two thousand kids so they look at you with seven eyes shove up dikes so you have to be on the highest level in terms of academics in terms of your shamayim in terms of excellence he says the secular the secular curriculum should be saturated with holiness because everything in science and physics and biology and history could be a lesson in avoidance hashem this is what he told them very fascinating idea so the debbie generally wanted that young children should be saturated with your shabbat how every school does that they have to figure out what's appropriate in their community that's the general answer which i think is a very authentic answer next question thank you from oregon welcome oregon you could soon have here a roll call a roll call i'm divorced i'm a divorced mother and far away from community my child my child went want my son to stay here my child's dad wants my son to stay i feel that i need to live in israel but not know how to do it can i just trust hashem that my 11 year old child would join me or i should wait till he's older the most important thing is you have to take care of yourself but you have to take care of your child especially if it's a divorce situation you have to be very very sensitive to your child's needs so figure out what's the best way to do whatever you're doing but in a way that your child gets everything he needs if that means you can't go to israel i would say that it's better to stay with your child and not go to israel i don't know the situation with his father with your ex-husband i don't know the relationship that he has with him and with you and the environment in his home in your home and what the boy wants and where would be best for the boy i don't know so i can't answer from a sophisticated or educated point of view but generally speaking you want to make sure that this child is being nurtured physically and emotionally and socially and spiritually and if that means that you can't go to israel i would put the trip on hold and if you have to go to israel so the circumstances will be right that you can go to israel maybe your son will go with you to israel i don't know but you have to be very sensitive to his needs how come during sphere 24 000 people died and we mourn no haircuts no music and then one person dies and we celebrate how do you understand this the answer is my dearest friends because they died and it was a tragedy that they died it was a pandemic passed away a natural death he prepared for it and he told his students that on the day of his passing they should always make it a simcha so you're right when somebody passes away it's a sad day but he himself asked that his passing should be a similar now the question is why and the reason for that is because the shrimp when you saw his soul was very very unique it was a unique soul and he revealed the shama of the world so the day that his neshama went up and left the body became a tremendous symbol but that's because of his explicit request is it okay to watch movies not bad ones especially these days this is too of a generic question i don't know who you are i don't know what type of house you're in i don't know your background i don't know the most of the environment in your family your parents i don't know about you you know you're throwing out a question obviously a bad movie that's immodest or uh or filthy and forbidden according to that's not a question but above that there's so many different gradations we always want to try to use every single moment to enhance our relationship with hashem but part of our relationship with hashem is people exercise people take naps people take walks and people go to work and sometimes you just gotta you know spend time uh with people that you love you know we have meals together we have fabregas together so every person's life really has to be examined how is your life being used but generally speaking you know it's very easy for me to say that most movies are probably not very productive probably most that i'm referring that you're not probably referring to a movie from the shiva.net of a rabbi yui class or fabregan or shia or a gem video or a different type of video probably talking about other types of things but again the details without knowing so much more i can't give you i can't give you that guidance but generally speaking you have to be careful with these things and i'll tell you why there's a lot of addictions to screens there's bakram that can watch movies 10 hours a day it doesn't start off with one so you have to be careful with this even if what you're watching is halogenically fine and you say it relaxes you it helps you maybe teaches you history maybe you want to watch about the six day war the pippa war the second world war the first world war okay i understand that but very often you have to be careful it's so addictive there's people they go to sleep four o'clock in the morning they wake up two o'clock in the afternoon they're addicted to screens so it could be very very unhealthy so besides the movie itself you have to make sure that your lifestyle is not one that's addicted to screens and movies especially a yeshiva you have to live with yiddish kite live with taylor same is true with a girl saying it's true with a boy so you have to also be very careful with this because you know if it's one historic documentary or another component that you feel halogically is fine that's one story but you know what happens with addictions and people get so attached to it and it doesn't stop and sometimes it destroys their whole schedule i have seen boys who waste years years years with these things so you have to just be very very careful because the at sahara is very very smart and he could copy with but again i don't know your background so i'm just being very sensitive and just discussing the different options different options that are here if you're watching movies because you have to distract yourself because your life is so boring then it's not a good idea because you have to figure out how you make your life interesting you can't escape to movies to make your life interesting sometimes a person feels that he wants to watch something for a specific reason or something else but if it's just a general distraction because life is miserable then it's not going to help you you have to fix the issues inside of you these are just general points that i think are important for everybody how does one juggle having keyboard of the aim and not feeling like a smarter if keyboard of aim is making you feel like a smart i don't think it has to do with kebab i have to respect my father and mother how i speak to them i don't contradict their words i don't interrupt their words i don't sit in my father's seat i stand up when they come in right i i help that's years of it i help my father and mother if they need food if they need drink if they need uh clothes if they need medicine if they need health that's what kippa darwin is hypodalvain doesn't mean that you don't have a personality keep it of a doesn't mean your father can't tell you where to learn today your father can't tell you who to marry your father can't tell you which no sacha darwin right there's a famous chuva of the altar you know the truth where is it you want to go to a certain you want to learn a certain siddhas you know i get questions i want to learn i want to go to this issue my father says no i want to wear this hat my father wants this hat i want to darwin in this show that's not quite of him give it to me doesn't mean that your whole life is based on your father your father has his affairs you have to respect your father and mother you have to help your father and mother and what they need doesn't mean that they can tell you how to educate your children let's not keep with the fame so i don't know why you would think hibernate would turn to you we have such a debt of gratitude to our parents your parents brought you to the world your parents raised you even if they're not perfect so of course quebec is a tremendous thing you call your mother you call your father you say good shabbos you share with them love you with them good news i want to tell you a beautiful thing my wife's family did and our family did the pesach i'm sure a lot of families did similar things the first year my mother zozai zund it was a loan for the seder my father passed away 15 years ago many of you knew my father his yard site is this week huff huffy here my father passed away coffee or tufts from samantha i'll mention my father's name and his yard said is this this this week i don't know if i'll even be able to say all the kardashian for uh for the yard sights i especially want to mention him he passed away two days after lag my mother was home elaine she couldn't go to anybody for the seder she couldn't go to my brothers because of the quarantine and none of them could come to her so she was completely alone for the sake of the first time she got matzo she got one she cleaned the house but there was nobody there because she couldn't leave the house because of you know the danger so she stayed home for the seder and uh so what we did was this was actually an idea for my wife's side of the family because they did it with my in-laws every grandchild every grandchild eric pesach wrote a letter to my mother a personal letter from the grandchild and my nephew delivered it to her house right before listen them and he told her that this she has to open up before the manastama and when she did her say there my mother took all these letters she didn't know what it is and it said manishtana letters and before manishtana instead of manastana she had a letter from every single one of her grandchildren it was such a beautiful beautiful thing to do you know that's what you call aim that doesn't make you into a smarter that makes you into a proud child and a proud grandchild now if your parents khalilah are abusive people i don't know if your parents khalilah have an issue with abuse or control they're driving you crazy then it's a separate situation and then you have to ask an expert somebody who's a big expert in this area and there are experts if you want i can help you with that how to create boundaries that's a unique exception sometimes a person has a mother or a father and they have a lot a lot of issues and it's very very unhealthy and they're being not they they want things that are inappropriate and they're taking you away from your marriage and your children then it's a whole other passion then it's a whole other part then it doesn't go into keeping the aim then you have to understand it could be an issue of a tallest it could be an issue of keeping people safe it could be of issue of remaining sane that's a whole that's a whole other issue question how do we explain to one who on one hand he's struggling so much with certain indiana for example kedusha and yet he or she has so much talent crisis greatness and gifts to bring to the world and to give to claudius one pulls him down and one pulls him up the time he doubts himself if you should use his coaches to teach and give to claw you saw because of his failings and battles and typhus he feels maybe he's not worthy maybe he's not being honest maybe he's living a double life he's a two-faced person he really wants to be great and give to other jews and bring hashem and paid into their lives but inside he's struggling not sure if he's worthy maybe he should just do something else in life and not pursue doing kirov and strengthening other jews this is a question that comes from yerushalayim welcome yerushalayim [Music] i could speak about this for six hours so i'm gonna answer you in one minute the whole safer hatana was written for you this is the story of life the more talented you are the bigger yet zohara you have trust me the deeper you are the more sensitive you are the more vulnerable you are the smarter you are the more struggles you have josef das this is not a reason to give up no even if you fail you stand up you do children you make amends and you move on you have a light to give claudius vishal you should stop this you have to strengthen it you have to figure out how to deal with your tivos figure out a strategy which are the hours in the day that you're most vulnerable to your typist change your schedule maybe you need to exercise maybe you need to have somebody in your life that you could talk to maybe you have to shift around things to avoid these pitfalls but don't look at your tyves as a reason to say you're living a double-faced life a double-faced life means if you're lying to people if you're a dishonest person if you make believe you're one thing and you're really another thing but if you're a jew who wants to be an authentic jew and you want to bring toyota to yourself and to people but you have a yatzahara who doesn't you think people don't know you have yet zara that's not called a two-faced person the fact that you don't share it every shirt all your typists you think every teacher is supposed to share all their times with all their talk with them you think i share with everybody every time that i have there's no here to do that you have to speak to the right people they have to speak it's important to have somebody to speak to but you don't have to that's not called a double-faced person that you don't share every struggle that you have again you have to figure out how to work on your struggles if you fail get up say i'm sorry and fix if you fail again you get up again but don't allow the battles to tell you that you're fake and you're a nobody and you're nothing if you have challenges it means that hashem has put you in this world as his ambassador to bring in light into the darkness and if you were sent into more darkness it means that you have more light not less light that's how you have to look at it you just said about power corrupting you're also very sensitive about the dark history in russia how don't you see what's going on in america right now is the beginning of a huge power grab and struggle is there a possibility that the dark history our grandparents lived through didn't start in the 1918 pandemic listen i uh america has its challenges america has its problems but i do not agree comparing the united states of america today to soviet communist russia i have a i had a father who grew up in communist russia my mother to laggy i grew up in communist russia both of my grandparents grew up in communist russia i know a little bit about communist russia i grew up in a home where i heard a lot and read a lot about communist russia america has kasrinas our president is not perfect our previous president was not perfect our next president whoever is going to be is not going to be perfect don't compare america to communist russia it's it's it's it doesn't mean we have no dangers it doesn't mean we have no issues it doesn't mean we don't have to be careful it doesn't mean we don't have issues with anti-semitism it doesn't we don't know exactly the future but you have to be thankful to the buenos airlilla about the country where we're living as it ever used to call it can things change do we have to be careful we always have to be careful maybe you know the siddha put him off why mordechai remained in the palace we don't get drunk not by donald trump and not by america we don't get drunk by that we want malchus based david not malcolm's donald times we're living in with all of the struggles with all of the tragedies let's understand that it's also very very powerful positive experiences that we have seen the favors that he did to israel and the jewish people and i don't worship him trust me i don't worship him maybe there will be a lot of mistakes revealed now about how things were dealt with i don't know i'm not a novi li navi an evolution but i think it's important to be honest and don't compare it to stalin and lenin and trotsky and yejov and beria and khrushchev and kaganovich please don't compare don't compare 50 million people were murdered by stalin 50 million people were murdered remember that don't compare america to the schulten soviet union which created a gehennim on earth for tens hundreds of millions of people it was a cursed country they destroyed tens of millions of lives shot shot shot including grandparents of people who are sitting here we know about the communists it was one of the worst most evil experiments in human nature in human history america has a lot of problems and a lot of challenges 50 million people were not shot by a president of the united states of america just remember that i don't like this uh comparing america to the soviet union please that it's a curiosity and i'm not drunk i'm not drunk in america i don't worship america but i'm thankful for the freedom that we have here we could sit like a night of shampai at home and if i bring together speak about taylor and hiroshima that's thankful because in russia we would be in siberia tomorrow we'll be in siberia so just just remember that i don't mean to be insensitive but just i'm sharing with you my thoughts how can we believe mashiach will come any second if we've been told that for years and years already nowadays is it better to get married very young or wait until you live on your own first and are more mature listen comes nobody else does whoever told you mashiach was coming at a certain date was making it up nobody knows even even the rebbe we know was a big big sardic never would give a date this things you have to trust hashem hashem decides where mashiach comes nobody else i heard from the rebbe 20 times with my own ears that he cannot understand the reason he couldn't understand it's overdue colo it's overdue so we wait for mashiach when mashiach comes every jew knows only hashem decides that that's that but you have to remember there's mashiach coming from hashem and there's our bringing mashiach in our life there's a gula that depends on me and you that we we have to start living a lifestyle of google that's what i spoke about before that depends on us and that that's not something we were told a hundred times and it didn't happen we could start doing that and you will find hats the world is ready to live this way and we have to be the ambassadors of this light about marriage generally generally unless there is a specific reason or problem it's always better to get married young because of a lot of reasons one of the biggest reasons is when a girl and a boy are younger it's easier that they grow up together it's easy you know i'll give a very simple example when you have two startup companies they just started it's easier to merge if you take two companies that are already in business for many many years it's much harder for them to make a merge agent ms is always a good video to watch okay agent emma says pittsburgh pittsburgh my friend rabbi coyne thank you so much for your classes and especially your questions and answers thank you thank you for your personal attention thank you for talking about screen addiction yes now i have to log off and go to sleep yeah don't be an addict but if you're going to be an addict and you're going to learn this is better to be a classes of tighter how can one make mitzvahs feel less of a burden you have to learn the meaning of the mitzvah every mitzvah has tremendous significance and also before you do a mitzvah think about [Music] you're connecting to infinity you really believe that the govaldiga questions sent in by kids and teams these last few weeks were written by them or did their parents write the questions good question good question my question is did you write that question or did your child write that question davening at home is getting a little boring what can i do to enhance this what you could do to enhance this is every day sing a negan before davening learn something inspiring before davenink if you want you could join a class of mine we have a lot of classes on the yeshiva.net and when you dive in take one paragraph and focus on it just meditate on it breathe into it internalize it sing it that's what i would do and do it early try to darwin early regarding the earlier question about kebab intention is when the mother may be a difficult person to deal with and every time you get into a conversation inevitably end up with disrespect on the child's part okay so when that happens you say mommy i love you and i gotta go that's it mommy i love you i'll call you back later cuba dove doesn't mean you have to be on the phone for a hour and a half and start fighting if it gets difficult say mommy i really really gotta go don't lie don't lie say mommy i gotta go now or mommy let's let's not talk about this right now i'm busy now i'm stressed we'll talk about this another time be a big adult be another you're not a baby anymore you're not a baby okay how much longer are we doing this avi it's already 1109. okay uh you said the tiny the questionnaire from your shalom yeah and for us i think uh we should also remind everyone what's the sadness huh we should remind everyone to dive in yeah remember that divas what's the simmer that someone is ready for saint paul brazil let's hear it from brazil how you know you're ready for shidduchim listen if you're a mensch if you're a responsible person if you know how to treat somebody with respect and you're ready to be mature about life you're ready for shidduchim are you perfectly ready nobody's perfectly ready if you're a mensch if you're a responsible person if you could take responsibility for your life and be here for another person emotionally and physically and financially you're ready for shadow and the main thing is that you have the proper values your head is screwed on straight you want to build a beautiful home together the greater a war is one sends a tank against a tank a plane against a plane foot soldiers against foot soldiers similar to chess very good very good if you have a plane the enemy is also going to come with a plane what do we do to bring mashiach isn't it decided already we have to do whatever we can when exactly hashem decided and hashem could bring a day earlier and a moment earlier i'm not comparing america to russia you said many times how any country that violates basic human rights leads to all kinds of destruction jews are the scapegoats we are just the canaries in the mine please rabbi i dearly love you but don't you see how the whole constitution was thrown out of the window in six hours life is under siege on the planet and so is basic human rights and civilization i don't see that yet no i'm sorry we were quarantined for i think everybody's health reasons i'm sorry i'm not seeing what you're saying maybe i'm i'm naive maybe you could uh is it true that lag about amer was a result of mark defeating the romans the 24 000 jews were killed in war i know about the theory i don't know what to say about it the gomorrah says they died from a pandemic is it possible that the pandemic broke out because of the war with by kaiser maybe i don't know i don't know can you recommend english books or video series about understanding davening how and why certain things came to be included in the siddha as opposed to others i'm not sure i know hebrew books about it but i don't know i'm sure you have to research this but i'm sure there's good books you could spend six hours on this is it possible to have a share on this topic one time or can i email rabbi directly about it i gave a lot of shirim about these battles and if you email me at rabbi y why yeshiva.net you could see i could send it to you or you can go to the website go to the yeshiva.net and you could look in the archive human struggle you'll see a lot of shirim about this in psychology and emotions there's a section psychology and emotions or tanya you will see a lot of sheardhim i love you and i bless you khazak khazak may we utilize this day these special moments be able to really light that eternal fire in our hearts and souls this fire should light up the whole world and prepare the world take it from ayaan for the hamittas oh this class is brought to you by the yeshiva.net please help us continue the classes make even a small contribution at www.theyoshiva.net donate