Basi Legani 5719 #3: The Alter Rebbe's Revolution on the Ego & Physicality

the yeshiva dotnet so let's summarize one of the main points that we've been learning namely that College Avaya is a Clow a principle that Cole agave agave abuser Jared LaMotta motto Bo sir that which is higher comes down lower which means that when you see something that falls down very very low on one level it's very very low on another level that's a sign that's an identifying sign that you're dealing with something extremely high and extremely lofty something that's very Gavea and because it's so Gavea because it's so high so therefore it it could come down and it does come down low the muscle as we said when somebody jumps out somebody falls from a higher place to fall as much much stronger much harsher much lower in terms of quality when you have a wall that falls down so the racks that are on the top the bricks that I on the top are gonna fall further so that's on one level colleague of a a bi sir will come down the mat abuse as I said from the rock I am that the REA the lion in the Merkava is higher than the show but here in this world it's the other way around it falls down much lower somebody like the Gemara says call hagatha Mahavira each racer god--all the Gomorra says in suka somebody who's greater the challenges the eights our heart is also greater so sometimes from the depth of the e-reader one could recognize the Gowanus the Highness of it that's on one level on another level that also means and they're connected that sometimes in the Matamata and the lowest that's where you could recognize the Guevara Guevara that's where you could recognized the highest not just if it's higher it falls lower but also the fact that it could reach Matamata can reach this place the first situation we're talking about sometimes that it's unrecognizable the potential was there but the no fillers are very serious in the fill and the fact that it fell so low is only because it's rooted in Guevara Guevara which of course means that the way of dealing with it the way of healing it is if you're not going to introduce it to its Guevara Guevara you won't be able to be moussaka net you won't be able to fix it because that's what it needs in order to be able to be restored back to its real straightish back to its real source so that's a very profound naff come in a very profound application we have to be able to help it go back not just to a place that is mediocre but to a place that is really hard because that's what it really is that that's where it stickiness but then there's also in the positive sense even without Ana Fela that sometimes the Gavin Gavin bi sir will will you recognize its truth you will recognize it only in the most distance places it gives the three mashaallah and each marshall adds another dimension that when you have a big fire when you have a small fire the light extends not so far when you have a bigger voca when you have a huge Avoca the bigger it is the further the light extends and when you have insanely large source of light so then it can travel huge huge distances and reach places that obviously smaller sources of light would never reach so where do you recognize its power whether you recognize its strength you don't recognize it in the closer places even though there's much more light you recognize it precisely in the most distant places even though there's much less light and if you would light a candle there you would have even more light but nonetheless the fact that it can reach to such a distance that's where you recognize the greatness of the original light so it's in the mata Mata in the furthest distance that you could see the impact then you could see the value and you could see the depth of the guevara govern you wouldn't be able to see it you wouldn't be able to see it for what it is so close another marshal he brings us from water yeah then when you have a picture that's full the picture is full when you have a picture that's overflows so from the overflow you could see that there is much more water here there's much more there's much more abundance of water here here again the overflow is this sure i emits half care it's extra but nonetheless that's what you see inside the abundance of water with the water inside is not overflow but from there you won't see how much water there is or the marshal he gave from a teacher that you'll see the citrus hole and the overflow from the overflow you see genius even though that's only an overflow it's it's not doesn't seem so deep but over there you will see the Guevara Boys and then the third Marshall was completely different type of Marshall was from the teper that when a father or a teacher or mother or anybody shears spiritual information say whole Middle East ideas emotions they could never create a student from it they can give it over to somebody who already is a person and has the capacity to understand so a teacher could give over his ideas his internal ideas to somebody else the ability to create a child a new person completely new and a new person that has a brain it develops a brain to which will be able to understand that comes from which part of the body you would think it comes from from from the light of the body from the energy from the spirituality no it comes now from the tipper or from the egg from the seed of life from the sperm which as he said on one level is very very physical it's a tip against when one sees it they wouldn't think pashka for the shame if you don't know what what what is in here from the hash bar rouhani's from the spiritual emanation of this of the parent that doesn't come what could come as inspiration ideas information and that's why if the student is not shy to understand if he doesn't have his own mind he won't be able to absorb anything he has to be a barcycle on the contrary though in the tip oh gosh miss in the seed of life that is completely completely physical it doesn't seem at the surface to carry anything great but over there you have the potentiality of course it has to be absorbed conceived fertilized conceived to develop and throw an embryo you have to have a lot of conditions but what is the potential here you have the potential of a complete organism a complete goof with a neshama a fetus a child so in the Matamata in the tipper which seems very physical and concrete and simple you have the deepest core self of the father and mother their ability their potential to procreate to reproduce a new person which comes from the deepest place in them not something external it's their core mom mr. eczema nefesh the core of the soul which has the ability to reproduce to procreate a new child where is that translated where does that come out it comes out in the tipper and what comes out from that a child who is completely separate who is completely distinct just like the tipper seems completely distinct once it comes out and it carries the core of the parent it also creates a child who is a complete omaha's completely as he says Mahoosuc Adarsh a separate entity from the parent that doesn't even seem connected I mean you know it's a trial there's always emotional connection but on a physical level he or she is their own person and he says this these three metaphors were given by the Mittal Arab and Sheree area and I said the son of the bhava Tanya the rebus says in basi lagana that it's not just three metaphors they correspond in the three worlds briea and yet Syria and hacia or I'll maíam and rakia the first is a muscle of a light the second is a muscle of water the third is a marshal of the tipper which is how the water gets more congealed rakia so the first is a level of them of a heart a higher light is always connected to its source it just travels far but it's always connected to the original source water is not necessarily connected to its original source you could pour water but nonetheless it's still a flow there is a continuum and there is some form of connection even if it's a separate mohos it's not the same light but nonetheless there is a continuum and then there is the third concept which is the which is the tipper which is a rakia something that becomes concrete on a new in as a separate entity and all of this gives the Marshall the McCallum for college a viable sierad Lamott to be oyster including in this world because in every level this is true wherever you're talking about the most spiritual the most physical whatever is higher it's great its truth its its greatest power it's that deepest depth will emerge only the Matamata bio sir that's where you will see its oximeters that's where you'll see its mo host its impact and how it influences and how it reaches that which is the lowest in its realm the lowest in its world where if it's not so Guevara it can't reach there it has to stay away from there because it's not the higher I am the lower I can go the further I can go so this when something goes everywhere it shows the gavel gavel abusive and therefore it's not afraid it doesn't have to limit itself to a certain realm it can reach to the lowest lowest place in that world why because it's reaches into it reaches into its highest place what's Nagaya here in this discussion is ultimately the third component the marshal of the tipper which describes our world Earlham hacia because here were addressing the ego the sense of ego of our world the yesh the ation even and even though the area never exists also nyla ma brie and I Lama eat Syrah but the greatest sense of asia's is in our world because in this world there's complete concealment one doesn't feel any connection there's no connection in a revealed way so at first glance we said that La Hoya this would seem as the great lowliness of our world the world of clippers the world of cetera the world of tumour the world of sin the world where everything bad happens because Hashem is completely concealed and what we have areas just a sense of self-centeredness and egotism which is the source it would seem of all the corruption and all the problems of our world and on one level that's true the hedonism the self-centeredness the narcissism the selfishness which produces all the types of yeats of horrors that people have on our world and often our world that sometimes in certain places could look like a jungle where might makes right came down a river the Palatine Nina Garcia Kadesh and said even though all of this is true and we say that this world is based on symptom and Hallum and concealment but there's also another dynamic the opposite and that is that precisely the ation Avira the h the the sense of selfhood of independence of autonomy of the created being down here not only is it not a concealment of RM but from a deeper perspective this is the greatest embodiment of Hashem in his essence as explained that all the higher worlds emanate from Hashem slight because Hashem is light has a source so therefore Hashem slight which brings them into being makes them feel that they also have a source just like their source feels that they have then it has a source so that which comes from that source also feels that it has a source the light of the Sun knows that it has a source it even says it because if you shut the blinds it won't exist anymore you can't cut me off for my source so light recognizes that it has a source the worlds that come from that light also recognize that they have a source just like their source recognizes that they have a source our world the ocean every is rooted in atmos and our Shems essence Hashem is essence doesn't have a source so that's why we have the same feeling that we taka don't have a source and even though the reason we feel we don't have a source is because we don't recognize the truth that we have a source in other words it's a result of the concealment so in our mind the reason I don't have a sources because I don't have a source I'm just me that's all there is that's in my imagination that's in my perception but the real reason for this feeling the real reason for this quality for this characteristic that our world has is because it's a manifestation it's an expression it's an embodiment of utmost of Hashem in his essence which taki doesn't have a source he doesn't have an antecedent there's no source that brought him into being he doesn't feel that he comes from somewhere because he doesn't come from somewhere midsi you say may it's mostly hizmet CEA's comes from his essence and this is what the Asia - me captures all the highest world's Canadian and eylem Habra and the shamanism Elohim all of them only capture the light of her shun because they capture the light of Hashem so therefore they all scream out that we have a source but our world captures the essence of my shell the deepest essence of a shell and because it captures the deepest essence so therefore our swirled screams out an evap see it there's nothing outside of me I am everything that I am everything on one level is the lowest it's the lowest of the low on another level it's the deepest that the Etzel what is that it's at Smurfs it's absolutely king it's just the problem is I don't know it I don't associated with that in other words the problem of our world is not to the ego the problem is the problem of our world is not the ego the problem is that I don't know what that ego is the problem of the world is not the sense of self that's its greatest blessing the problem of the world is that I disassociate the sense of self from holiness that I think the sense of self is unholy it's it's it's crippled it's blemished it's under attack I'm trying to I'm trying to I'm trying to suppress it that's the problem the problem is I don't realize its divinity I divorce it from its from its true color from its divinity so therefore without a rebel we reveal this in a garis erudition tangency man/half that our world which is based on the ash the internal instinctive sense of I I am I exist etc etc that entire here'sh of yesh --is which is midsi you see mats mu c comes from me so even though again in my feeling the reason I feel it is because I disassociated from any higher source any higher reality but the emesis the truth is that the reason the world screams I am because it's essentially a manifestation of the truest essence which truly is can say I am and there's nothing that precedes the I am and that's where where Machir comes and everything will be revealed so the ultimate diabatic Turnham the ultimate home for hashem is going to be but acronym in this world the objective of all of the higher worlds with this world because all the higher worlds ultimately are a home for our shams light but withers the truest essence the greatest truth come out we will the dre the greatest truths come out and the fact that it's going to come out then means it's now also because mushiya is not a different world it's just a revelation of the truth which I was like opening the curtains and seeing what was always on the stage it's not like the props get created after you open the curtain the props were always there the curtain opening only means that you could perceive what was there so he says when Messiah comes you'll perceive the reality but the reality is before the reality is a true reality even before mushiya comes what is that true reality that true reality is that precisely in Elam Haase in this world which is physical which is concrete which is brute which is course which seems so desensitized from the spirituality and the transcendent experiences and emotions of the higher worlds Africa in the Gulf in the body the physical outlet of the body which often is so dismissed as just you know the garbage that you have to deal with but ultimately you graduate it and you reach the real world but the truth is it's the most real place it's the most real place that's where the ultimate realness comes out it's more real than anything else the very fact that it screams that there's nothing else is because essentially it is a manifestation of the core itself and therefore the ultimate healing the ultimate rectification of everything in the world is not by running from it but by their ability to be able to tune in and to see that that ultimate core sense of of yesh of self of I in the world what is it it's nothing but the ation haamiti the true yesh which is it's being expressed in the air shall never to be able to bring the two together and express the truth that it's really it's really one it's not two separate things and that's why the foundations in this world unlike in the higher world the foundations are always on the bottom these centers always on the bottom now yeah what's the question well depends how you define Olam haba there's a famous argument between the Rambam and Aram ban what the ultimate elem habis the Rambam held that ultimate eylem Havas in the spiritual worlds and the resurrection of the dead is just a temporary scar but ultimately the scar will be in the spiritual worlds the RAM bond and most of the swaram of Kabbalah and siddhis believed that that ultimate eylem hoppers in this world hacker that the ultimate eylem haba is going to be in in this world not in the higher world in the Gulf and and the argument is a very profound one can the ultimate reward be in the body if you look at the body as at best an accessory so then the ultimate reward can be in the body because why should you limit their heart so dramatically by keeping it in a body like why keep it in a box let it be free and that's one view and it's a very understandable view because the body basically limits even if it's important that best but it limits yeah you need your sleep you need to eat you need a drink the body has all of its temptations and desires and issues and that's why there was all avoided by great people to to suppress the body do even those tiniest and sagu from now as shape of him right now those of you familiar with strive of him taught there's a whole avoid of of people who would fast and mortify the body but the approach was that the body is the source of all trouble the goof is the source of all trouble it's the source of all evil if not the body right the soul doesn't sin it's the body that sins and of course we all know that we all know that if a body is not disciplined right you could become a real couch potato and a real addict I mean we know that so that's no question about it but the other approach was that it's not the case that ultimately them in many ways the goof embodies a realness of God that even spits spiritual part of a person does not and that's why the according to this the ultimate sky will not be the neshamah outside of the goof but after the neshamah the neshamah in the Gulf yeah it the truth is I guess when we speak about that the body is really the HR Mitty that's the truth of it but the bottom line is that I settle mushiya comes it's not reveal in the Asian livery you don't see the Asia amity you could learn about it you could think about it doctor ever explains it the ballot Anya explains it but the intuitive feeling of physicality is one does not see godliness day so in that sense we say that when the neshamah leaves the body it says in Isaiah that sadhika the spotter stockless bhai imatinib a high-status but cooling after him but hey yo ye says enjoy the one atomic passes away he's found in all over the world's more than in his lifetime so the ball Tania says he says in all over the world that means even in this world which doesn't seem to make sense he should say he's found in the higher world not in all of the worlds and against our idea she wrote this after the potato of red men de lavit obscure men lara dr. Simmons of Zion of curse so he explains not that during the lifetime so the neshamah of the sadiq is within a goof and the goof ultimately limits its light to some level after the install cos the neshamah sleight is not limited by the gulf and therefore its expresses itself in an infinite fashion because it's not contained by the by the limits of the body and that's why you'll see that there's a Sadek that his influence and there's our spot after his passing it's far greater then his influence during his lifetime look right it should be the other way around he's not here anymore absent you don't have the same energy the same light so the balance is not sometimes it's exactly the other way around that even in Earlham hase not sometimes always that in eylem house' the the specialist is more even though it's obviously not so tangible and it's still sad that cetera there's something missing but there's a certain aspect where there's a myelin doesn't mean but that's all because yeah you're dealing with soft cold soft even even the holiest body even a body that's worked out ultimately the the yesh I never at this point doesn't scream the truth that it's AI is Atmos it is the truth it is the truth that's why you'll see it's interesting that you have from all things about mushiya the donkey of mushiya became a very significant discussion and huzzah Raschi even brings it that the donkey's mentioned a few times and it's all the same donkey says by Ashley my from Bob Boyd Covey a vicious Hamer a he saddled the donkey and then it says by moisha he took his wife and children and he put them on the donkey and they went him it's Ryan from idiom with the donkey and then it says by mashiac and Scalia on Eva right over like a mire a poor man who comes on a donkey so Hazael same period did a blazer and rash she brings it that it's all the same donkey the donkey that have Rama V new used to go to the arcade and the donkey that moisture put his wife and children ought to go to mitzrayim to redeem the Jewish people and the donkey of machine if is all the same donkey it's the same cowboy which is a very strange thing I mean and if it wouldn't be the same donkey there would be different donkeys and if machine is gonna come in a car it this voice is absurd donkey I need the same Duncan I mean does it mean should I I mean if scripture that means the donkey is a pretty old donkey I mean where is this donkey that's that's almost 4000 years old by now from that Cade that's almost 4,000 years old you say it's a mattress doesn't mean kept short a means it was the concept of the donkey that's what the morale says so one of the explanations is that Hamoui comes from the word homer the word carmine right comes from the word homer which means materialism huh marius the physicality Homer is called materialism grub height we call somebody a Kimora a Kumari we know what it means yeah like very simple there's a certain Brutus of stupidity there the Chimera was considered those own animals very very simple stubborn tough animal but it can carry a burden that's where the goof was a marshal for the Hammar so there's three stages of the development of the chimera it's the same comer but there's three stages is the time of avril lavigne there's the time of moisture and there's a time of mushiya by rama v no what did he put on the donkey he put his wood the wood the lumber that he carried for that K they put on the donkey that's why it says that by I'm Ashley she he saw the place by Mary on the art of Schuler hempen Mahamaya you stay here with the ham I finished a cover vanish of our life and we'll come back ye caca Brahmas I'd say Allah by Osama it's all tonight he took the wood the logs that he was using for the carbon and he put it on its and in his hand he took the knife and he took the fire in others what did he use the donkey for it seems like at least explicitly doesn't say that he attack one on it he used the wood he put on it and the knife and whatever he used for the fire that was on the donkey and that's why when he left the donkey with his lads he has to take away these items and put them on it's good to put them on himself by moisture it says he took the donkey but he could hurt somebody because it's tire borne off by RTV Mahamaya he placed him the donkey his wife and his children doesn't mention himself his wife and his children and he gone another donkey that he walked behind the donkey doesn't say by mushiya had says only very from Allah how my he himself will be riding on the donkey so it's explained them considers that it's actually three stages in the development of the Gulf and the development of the body three states of consciousness of Rama VII was before Martin Turner much before Martin Taylor at best the physicality can be an accessory for the spirituality so the goof could be like like a slave like a subservient to the soul the did you carry the would you carry the fire you carry the knife in other words at best the Gulf could be mature but the goof could be enslaved completely discipline like a slave completely subservient to the soul and that's a tremendous McGregor where your body instead of being an independent an independent contractor who does whatever he wants like many of our bodies the goof turns to the neshamah and says what now like a real slave you know before Abraham Lincoln when slaves sadly were part of reality the real slave he didn't make move without his master's permission or consent so that's in the pin of a rama v no you would think it's the greatest level no it's before Martin Taylor before Martin Taylor the goof at best at its highest level is subservient to the soul it's bubble it's mature / to the soul Martin tire changed that because mother finish of monetary is as a meddler says Alyona married Allah motto of attacked enemy Allah Allah my Allah there's a bridge between heaven and earth like we learned here about the beams and I'm wooden the pillars that connect heaven and earth so now it changes so moisture i Boehner already puts his wife and his children on the on the body on the go under ham we're on the donkey on the go Easter is could go for da Mia your wife is like a bad it's the second half of a person's soul you children bruh Kyra Devore's an extension of you they are ready the hammer could carry them not just the wood in other words the body is not just a slave the body is already a partner the body could be elevated the body could be sublimated the body can be enlightened you can have a marriage there could be a marriage between the soul and the body that's what's represented by the fact that moisture when he's going down to mitzrayim to liberate the Jewish people and bring them to Martin Tyra here already the level of the camera is elevated elevated seriously it's not just Tuffle it's not just subservient as a slave in the stable no now it's already used for his wife and his children in other words the goof can conjoin along the goof could could come along on this marriage and and feel feel part of it you don't have to subjugate the physical and and always harness it and enslave it but rather it can it can already feel a partnership which is again a tremendous a tremendous state by mushiya the hadisha is much deeper on the very relative alikum where he himself is going to be riding on the donkey in other words the Guillory of machines is gonna be with the donkey through the donkey he himself why because here it's already not just the goof is a partner but it's the other way around the soul gets nourished from the goof it says law said love a hunter shaman is earnest man hug off the neshamah will get hears from the body in other words the body has something that even the soul doesn't have so the Gili of mushiya himself will be alikum eye on the donkey the donkey is gonna is gonna bring it out not just the body is a partner and slepping along or even enthusiastically coming along but the goof becomes in some ways the mucker - irish the source of the his godless of machine why that's the explanation because the yesh Higashi me which is represented in the body on one level seems to be at best at best a slave even more at best a partner but at worst a complete enemy or just a pathetic or alienated but that's all it's only his liquor perspective I say concern is I don't mean stamp concern is I mean so deep perspective well it's relatively it's it's external and the ultimate truth of everything the gufa gosh me the physical body and everything represented by the Geshem which at first glance would seem to be completely alienated from the truth of the divine carries the essence itself we're all ruinous carries the light the Geshem carries the essence itself it's the seat of the essence itself it's declaration I am is really the voice of apps most saying I am and there's no there's no precedent and when the two are aligned that is what Google is when the two are aligned when one realizes that the truth of the Asian never is the truth of the Asia amity and that's why the ultimate scar according to that which has been accepted by the half maja Easter and the Rambam is that the ultimate scar is going to be in the Gulf not outside of it even though there's another on a low value of de varela Kim crying because there's another Mahalo can that go fall so it's not not a contradiction there's many layers to the truth it's not everything it's not black and white there's many layers to truth yes only two only two questions okay there was a come or gone Dina Dina Dina there was a human come we're a real camera come on like we say in Hebrew come on yeah yeah those cameras are connected as you can guess ah he says but what happened to bilham's donkey why am i ignoring Balaam's donkey why am i ignoring Dina's donkey comer who was the father of of Shem right come back tomorrow yeah yeah with uh from not the same that of Romney's Diaries and Bill omnes Diaries they both rushed they both rushed to settle the donkey but there is a connection it's not for now it's a little bit more over there the hammer was misused here but what do you see that the donkey spoke to Bill um bilham was a prophet and the donkey enlightened Balaam right the donkey spoke to Bill up the donkey told Bill um what are you doing over there you also see right something ah Tamar was killed with his son the whole town was killed uh I was killed also by Bill um it says assign akamai it's a female donkey and the Sycamore in Sanhedrin has a whole my so what bilham did with it huh yeah yes we said Balaam's donkey was killed gets redeemed PD emphatic am I the only one yeah every when you ever are a donkey opinion Petaluma you have to redeem it also yeah every Jew every Jew had donkeys to take out the gomorian virus yeah seems like the opposite right and the more look Freya exactly I mean that's colleague available a co-ed LaMotta bi said that that's the whole point the whole point is that that the ultimate truth of yiddish kite is not found in the in the negation of the i the great tension that we all deal with that religion deals with this god's will versus my will god's plan versus my plan my body versus my soul heaven versus earth right and who wins and every day it's a new battle and a new struggle what's the truth and what do I feel what's the ultimate reality and what's my reality what God wants and what I want right well what some people will call in these circles bitl versus self-confidence yet somebody once told me that for him you know and you see v was always told you're a schemata you're a nothing you're a nobody just do the right thing right and then others say no you gotta build up yourself and self confidence and you know that's a void Azhari that's idolatry now your ego becomes the main thing what about you that whole tension is it's it's a serious tension and ego is easing God out try to say ego is easing God out or edging edging God out and this yeah ego is edging God the Gemara says inciter that a sham tells about Guyver in an EVO who you phylum lada riva us i can't live with an arrogant person on the one roof because arrogance is really the the root for all all excessively you know when a person is arrogant they can hear anything there's nobody outside of me there's no other opinion there's not kind of a relationship with anybody with any kind of leadership with yourself you're too arrogant so these are all you know the sources for everything no question and the outer deborah himself who's the one who says this and wrote this - three days you know that whatever wrote as I mentioned - three days before he passed away he never said this during his lifetime his whole lifetime well - never never said this not that we know of not recorded - three days before his passing he passed away matsuri Shabbos coffe dollar Davis either Friday or Thursday or Wednesday one of those days he wrote he wrote this he wrote a whole one of his most complicated my Martin says chapter it's printed in tiny Gary cicadas simin huff it's one of his longest my mahram that he wrote himself mostly he said and other people wrote but this he wrote himself like the Tanya and and this is we said it his whole life he kept it a secret that's Q before he passed away when his neshama was leaving his goof look sorry there before he passed away you think about the my love the neshamah not the my love the gulf the gulf is going to the grave before people pass away they think about Canadian Shamma Lamma Abba alte dev the punk huh I'm feeling misery this is but what would him he was a real manicure sauce he didn't think about himself he gave what he but he gave over so it's interesting in the Alton episode I'm honored you won't have any other source that will speak um ah I'm not so much about people hi ash like that'd ever bit like yes but the limits is like at Safari yeah no was it stuff long this was a Savoy yeah yeah the rebel ones of Dalit ever said a whole cific splaining why Dalton ever wrote this right before he passed away I told it once it's on the I'm telling you she would that net look at the surface for half dollar Tavis once a whole sicker why he said this before his passing so that's that that's tacky the hidden this is a big finish then the ultimate truth aim ID Malvado it doesn't mean that the eye has to be destroyed that's not what it means annoyed malvada means that the ultimate truth of the eye that you're feeling even though right now all you're feeling is the distance or not even distance that's not distance you don't feel nothing there's not even a glimmer of spirituality that ultimate that that sense in its ultimate truth when all we'll be exposing I'll be able to see you'll be able to x-ray it and take an MRI of your yesh and you'll go through the MRI will show what is the truth of that guys you'll see what is it it's essentially axis itself so the ultimate redemption of the world is not by going to the world of leukemias we're everything that's clear now over there it's like a Val de que habrá or inky Louie him everything but where's the absolute absolute essence which doesn't have a source is expressed in that which feels it doesn't have a source what feels it doesn't have a source the yes I gosh and that's why the derailer use Barajas but dr. Lerman that's why you the mitzvos as he continues our task in the gosh me most mitzvahs are in the gosh me why the gosh name mitzvah should be more meditative more spiritual because there's something in the physical that the Mitzvah doesn't have and isn't and that's why so much of life is the physical so we always say it's life that's what it is get over it and move on right but the truth is no that's where ultimate M s is that I answer your question not really you can ask further you can ask more don't that I am separated from neighbors that itself but that feeling I am separated I am my own thing I don't need anybody what is that you're saying that it's your separateness for Marsha and I'll turn ever said it's your vagus in our sham but but you can relate to it a little bit you're saying you're interpreting it as your separateness and he's interpreting it actually as your deepest relationship okay so now like everything you have to you have to be sensitive this is it's ADA love stuff it's it's able to stuff can we say that yes you say that that's just in the last year the last few years of the Rebbe he started to say things that were very he said them in previous years but in the last year's he said more so Shabbos vanish locked option on Aleph that never said I heard it from his mouth he said that in kedusha everything is precise everything is big deal when something is larger in numbers it means it has some advantage not just in numbers but also spiritually the fact that it's bigger it's more means there's also a spiritual advantage so he said even though in so many places we talk about the fact that the Jews are the smallest of Nations and less quantity but more quality and so forth the fact that in actuality there are so many more Gentiles and Jews it means that even in rootless there's some mile and a non-jew that is unique to the non Jew so it's not it's not always black and white there's a certain milah that exists in every single person and sometimes just like an every person does every person has their uniqueness the fact that there's billions of non-jews they have a special role to play and something unique that it drew doesn't have it's ultimately all connected to the Jewish people because variation special military obviously is through and we have to help the non Jew bring out that that condition but there's something there you take a look by useless option an olive speaks about the my love is happily the my love transformation the my love is haploid hello IRA etc these are not Isis that we used often in previous years for the last few years that I've build a lot of a lot of beans as they say it could be listen it says enjoy her I said last time that para the spiri nvidia man a call now hired and partners comes from North Korea all the lights are opened by him all the lights are exposed preparing Peru up open with what the sorry didn't know para it was didn't know part was when we're learning now about the Tim Schmoyer area boy but Charlotte we know Paris the shot is again color gavel gavel be assured LaMotta Matt to be us but now we come you address a good a good again you have to know when you say colleague avoid be I said Mathematica it doesn't mean when it's mathematics guevara it means it came from Cavalia but it could be sometimes you have a genius yeah goes through a breakdown on a nervous breakdown a genius after the breakdown yeah you could still recognize genius but it's broken its fragment you know what I mean you'll suddenly have a homeless person walking in the street saying things ah and people will say you know 20 years ago he was he was a she was unbelievable now he's broken but and sometimes the breakdown happens la Fiera the the potential but it's broken it's lost in translation there's a sub before the and there's a sub after the beer was of art from the Vilma gone they say it says in my Lackey that area of Paris parties vanish la Paris by Yeats a boyish la I think waits here told us one of the parishes about a saw the movie Malacca Shem says the Jewish people were gonna say by marathon oh you tell us that you love us but do you really love us why would you love us that's what the Navi then that last Navi of Claudius Chavez Milwaukee he was at the end of he was the beginning of by her SHANY that's when the lure ended so the last prophecy it's the last safer of Tanakh Malati is basically the Jewish people tell God that you really love us you tell us you love us but is it true a marathon you know when somebody tells you I love you and you don't believe it right it happens often right even if you say thank you but you don't really believe them because what's there to love I hate myself so why would you oh well why would you love me it's hard it's hard to accept love sometimes especially if you have if you're not in touch with the yes I live it is so well touch the ocean ever it's much healthier if not it's a problem because you do exist I don't existence of all things I'm not supposed to exist yeah so so the Navi says you're gonna tell God well you don't really love us he says hello our case of Lea cthe but I oversee active as a sub Sun a sea ASA was a brother for Yaakov and I loved Yaakov and I loved Asaph so the villa McGann says he says I oversee archive the s ace of Sun AC not the ACE of Sun AC the essays of Sun I see the Gemara says whenever it says s s means that which is accessory for example by Mick wits as V rockets s-sorry Bamiyan so the Gemara says what's s s is puffle up sorry you have to put you here also on to the mikveh s ra means not the flesh that which is an accessory to the flesh carb aid s of V huh the SC Massa should say copy the visual respective father whose s s is your brother your older brother see Haggadah right he's an accessory to the father and mother because the oldest child always carries as we know all the stuff of the family if you're in alders you know what I'm talking about and if you're not in all this I get to be the baby of the family but if you you're the oldest okay oh there's a reason that the Bukhari gets double he pays a price for the topple a not so partial to be up car you're like you're the middleman you know you're the middleman and also you're the guinea pig they expel all the mistakes we're done we're done on the prior usually so where s is always accessory so he says well are you vesica sa sub son I see which part of a sub do I hate the s of Asaph that which became TOEFL to Asaph a so vanish Irish says where's ace of buried ratio the ace of the head of a sub is but it's for the it's because in the bosom of your talk that's where the head of a sum is so the muharram say there's our lucky and I'll let a barrier Russian ear at south you're not gonna do that how can it be that a subs head is buried a diary Missouri literally it's hugs bosom by his chest it's Oksana Marisa Micaela the answer is a subs head is something different than the rest of ASA ASA spiritually was beheaded physically - why because a subs had meaning a subs source a subs Genesis is right there by you talk that's why you took monster blessing a sieve is a holy child the tragedy of a sieve is he didn't know how to translate his holiness into his body into his real life so therefore so much so many things attach themselves to Asaph so the Roberta Jerome says sa sub son AC the S of a serve I loathed by Yakko Eve even the S is holy and by ace of the S is amazing yeah you toy first that's a very that's a pretty loaded loaded idea so his head like what do you talk because the show you shove Asaph is connected and that's why ultimately we speak about the bigger of the whole world the Rambam brings in the end of illness Malakand the passage says that during the time of mashiac so it says that the Kohanim right what's the what's the expression over there Safa Brugha that basically all the nations are going to leak rate who Lamba shame are shimla of the shakka man huh it's going to be a unison Rashi even says I don't know if you know what are you supposed to think when you say Shania saw a similar chaos I my god says in show Canara they have to have qivana by that first pasta kits my a cave how does rash attention similar can wash my car most people don't know Rachid everyone says hear o Israel God is our God God is one now she says that's not charge my is wrong hashem elokenu hashem echad the god who today we say is our god one day he's gonna be the one god of everybody hashem elokenu smile you oh you should hear Hashem and they came to the god that is Lak new you should know that's now but one day that Hashem is gonna be echoed it's gonna unite the whole humanity that's the Quran of Krishna when you're thinking when you say so myself Inc about mushiya but so Drive she says computer hashem elokenu hashem cut some of the other things that for one it's a reference yeah with the other other sensitive nef s specifically they're the ones that are going to be home with them along with everybody else what doesn't it's it's not not not Kanaan but is there a difference between the two that one is what isn't and just also yeah with custard women cutters yeah I don't have to look about I have to look into that and it's into hilum y'all are I'll have to I have to look I don't know I don't want to answer stuff I'll take a look bleeding head I'll take a look but now here we come to the next step this was severe mo here you have to understand taka as he says why is it taka this way I think this will address us on your question this was the finish of the alter rebbe but anyone's know why is attack in this way that in the erroneous you don't have an expression of the yesh Amity I mean obviously we're not saying that the essence of our Shem is only in the physical world the essence of Hashem is is everything it's everywhere why is attacker that in the gosh me you have an expression of the a shun me T that you don't have an attorney and that's why we say that the ultimate video of ashram is gonna be weird but actinin and all of the highest worlds are just accessories Tuffle tyldum has a gash me what why is that hacker you explained to me that the yesh of the gosh we don't divorce it from Hashem and the ultimate I the sense of inés the sense of eyeness which seems so distant is really a mirror it's really an embodiment of the eye of God the a committee but why is it occur that way that the erroneous is not the home at least also at least Jerusalem should also be a home for the Amity why are we discriminating against spirituality so much and this is where the McCollum of the Mittler ever add a new dimension a new perspective and let's go back to the tipo cuz that's the third marshal that really becomes our focus the marshal of the T / somebody said it at the end of last year abide risen very nicely when you asked about parenting let's think about this what's the greatest gift that parents give a child can give to a child now obviously we know the basics a home security safety shelter love connection family the basic things that parents have the responsibility to provide for their children both physically emotionally psychologically morally and spiritually which all goes into the world of excuse me of Education of Kinnock both in physical matters and in spiritual matters and that's all that's also true but if you'll ask and I want to oppose this question and there may be more than one answer when you bring it all the summation of everything what is the greatest thing you can give your child I understand you have to give them food and drinks for them to survive I mean throw mud beyond you know they should be able to survive if you're not gonna nurse an infant they have no hope in this world even animals know that but for them it's a shorter amount of time for us it goes for 6070 years you have to nurse them but that may depends on which community you live in but at least for a couple of years you gotta feed them so we understand the basic stuff that you have to provide on some level because kids are don't have the ability to function in a world until they're adults and even then sometimes Papa Papa gotta intervene but we won't we won't go there at the moment what is the greatest gift after the basic survival skills survival ability that a parent you think could give a child from your experience or maybe not for your experience maybe from the lack of experience ah independence why do you feel that independence is the greatest gift that they can think for themselves yeah what are you saying anybody else right responsibility yeah that's what they say that's what my wife says do I have a choice to disagree to give over your own mistake so they don't have to repeat them or sometimes to give over your mistakes without telling them it's mistake so they could go through that process other mechanic cuts mean oh yeah the Tommy died he wants him to be even better than himself so if you think about it essentially the greatest gift and this is this is essentially what it is even before we make a choice what is the idea of having a child the idea of having a child is that you're creating something that's separate from you you're creating some that is distinct from you it's a separate entity I mean physically a separate entity that is the gift of childhood what is this kya of reproduction of of procreation that the Ribbon asylum gave of mother and a father there are a lot of things we can do with our lives all the things that we do are extensions of us they ultimately live as long as we live in them on one level or another the place where we can really create something outside of us something separate from us something distinct from us that is a child that's what a child is a child is you created a father and a mother created what did you create you created a mahadesh you created a self-contained organism that one day will be able to grow up and function hopefully independently on its own that is the gift of childhood the gift of childhood does not I'm expressing myself the gift of childhood is just what did what did natural gift is I created a new person who just like me can create a new person and essentially what that means is that when I think about what's the greatest thing I can give that child is the ability to be able to create a child he could also or she can also create to create a child which means that they're not forever dependent on me and are just children and remain children forever because then I'm doing to them what I'm depriving them from the gift that I received from my parents the gift I received from my parents was that I became an independent person who could now father a child or mother a child so it's like a bird who holds all the birds in the nest and says I don't want you to fly away and therefore I'm gonna clip your wings so that way we could be a close family too but what that mother bird is doing is she's cutting off the chain forever there's not gonna be eternity because the chicks are gonna die and that's it the real motherhood comes out when she says left to OFI makan get out of here why are you breaking up the family and not breaking up the family you're actually immortalizing the family because you're letting her go become a mother herself even though that means she's becoming separate from you because she's not coming back to this nest she now has to find her mate and has to build her nest and has to take care of her young but we all understand that's the greatest kindness she can do for this child because it lets the child become an adult so to speak from a chick a bird and then hopefully a mother bird it comes with challenges because independence comes with challenges creativity comes with challenges responsibility comes with challenges so when the reborn' ashlar them says Pru or vu o me Luis Ari's with Eve sure it's time to to to reproduce Valtor ever once said a beautiful party says there's two myths for the first Mitzvah and Tyra is prove oh she said in Yiddish the first Mitzvah is ií'd DAF mcconaughey the first Mitzvah the whole Terrier is a Jew needs to make another Jew the way he put it the first Mitzvah is best ie they are smart enough how you'd make another Jew what does it mean to make another Jew means to make another Jew not to make yourself to make another Jew to make another person that's when a child is I'm making another person now that person needs me that person can't survive on their own they need my food they need my shelter they need my security they need my love they need the relationship they need the attachment a child who doesn't have attachment suffers terribly physically and emotionally but what is that's a means to an end what's the ultimate purpose ultimate purpose is alkane Yasuo vicious of averse emo the devar could be each toy as the Torah says he should let go of his father and mother why why are you breaking up a family because if you don't break up a family if a one stays in the same bedroom for in the same dining room and family room forever it's beautiful but it's running contrary to the very design they're never maximizing their potential and the family could never could never and that you're killing it you're actually you're nipping it in the bud you're not letting the the tree blossom because you're saying let's just let's just keep it together so yeah of each a service am i your ultimate purpose is to leave Tatia nami and say goodbye and do what patty and mommy did for you they brought you into the world now you will do the same thing you will Bezier shrimp bring a new generation into the world and you will empower them to say goodbye to you and do to others what was done for them rather than deprive them from that ability or they saying we're not interested we're stopping the chain right here that is the cycle of creation it's not just in the human race it's in the whole Animal Kingdom not just an animal kingdom it's in the whole world of botany all vegetation all produces bed day based on this principle I don't know if you're familiar how much mysterious nefesh if I could use that word trees and flowers and plants have to make sure that the seeds are protected and maintained and can reach a place where they can once again take root in the earth and and and and reproduce in the hold the whole system is is made made that way the buck doesn't stop here and the statement the buck stops here is may be good for an executive in an office but in terms of the planet the buck never stops here the buck is here and now it has to be it has to be passed on to the next yes yes yes yes yes and every every fruit is designed to protect its seed in an extraordinary way I mean I don't know if you realize you eat a peach right try cutting the pit of the peach good luck yeah you'll get hurt much faster than that pit it's almost impenetrable and the reason is because it contains it contains the DNA it contains the secrets of reproduction it contains the seed so what happens the way nature is designed the way I shall design the world is before we had our nice kitchens and dining rooms when you finish with a peach you through the pit onto the ground and here is the miracle when the pit of a peach hits soil suddenly it dissolves try breaking it you'll never break it but you put it in the earth and after a little while it just opens up and the seed falls into the earth and a new peach tree grows so every fruit every fruit I don't know if you realize watermelons why are the seeds so slippery the seeds are so slippery so they should be able to slip off when you open it up should slip off people again were in contact with the earth it slips down to the earth and it could it could it could reproduce again every fruit has its mechanism to maintain this why because this is inherent to creation proved Umi Lewis or it's the buck doesn't stop it you do for your children what have been what has been done for you what does this then mean let's understand this we also understand this emotionally and psychologically right the greatest one of the greatest gifts you can give your children is that they don't need you I don't mean they don't need you they don't want you hospital home they don't need you for survival they don't need you should I go to the dentist Tati I'm 69 years old can you take me to the dentist right financially we will understand when they could have the confidence and the Baraka to be able to build themselves up emotionally too I don't need you to guide me directly not because I don't want you I want you but it's really the more we were connected when we were young the more we could be disconnected when we get older in a healthy way right that's what they have learned though so psychologically will soon see here where it comes from they used to think this is fascinating that children who get too much cozy tender love it's detrimental for them I don't know if you know that in America till the 1960s the lattice stay with your child in the hospital even a little child you deposit them in the hospital you could come once or twice a week for an hour and it was based on the fact that these kids need independent it was often said by some great psychologists and physicians and healers and philosophers the more kissing the more hugging the more cuddling the more I love you the more damaging the more paralyzing you're creating crippled children who forever will need love teach them to become tough harsh independent and they'll be able to grow up and take responsibility there were a few great healers and thinkers and therapists who challenged us and it took decades John Bowlby was one of the big ones and others who revolutionized the whole thing and realize it's exactly the other way around they did experiments with baboons and different monkeys showing the anxiety of separation he put in videos in hospitals showing what children are experiencing when their mother leaves and they wanted to throw him out and they dehumanized them and he legitimize them but ultimately if you could put your child in hospital and stay there overnight there's a person to thank for this don't take it for granted there was a change of Mahabad there was a change of thinking and the change of thinking realize discovered that it's exactly the opposite that children not only among the human race even among the animal need attachment they need to have the safety the security the comfort that there's somebody who really cares for me if somebody was going to respond to my needs to somebody for whom my emotions matter very very much and the more they have that when they need it the more they can actually detach in a healthy way feeling the power of independence because their eye has become wholesome their eye has become healthy where if my eye is so shattered and broken and fragmented even as a 46 year old I'm still looking for that attachment and when I get married it just translates to my wife which translates to my husband and when I have children it translates to my children when I have children I'm still a three-year-old looking for attachment and everything is processed that way so the more attachment the more detachment in a healthy way the less attachment the less detachment because I always need you I'm like a parasite because you're so little wholesomeness and many of the challenges that people have in their marriages are basically could be traced back to their attachment needs that they have the attachment that they need did they ever graduate what is it that they never had and so forth so these are these are powerful ideas that just came out in the last few decades in the world of therapy and marriage and education and so forth but here we see it in the shirah SH if this is the case yeah let's think about a teacher or a leader there are teachers who create students there are leaders who create followers right but in the famous expression those are not the great leaders the great leaders don't only create students and followers the great leaders create leaders why because they create people who become like them just like they're not following their leaders they're not creating people who are always followers they're creating people who actually think like they think and because they think like they think so they're actually not students they become leaders they have that creativity that expansiveness to be able to create what their leaders created so you're not just creating students which seems great because you're so big so you created such small people that means you're small when you're really big you don't create people that are dependent you create people that can go out and do what you did so here is a paradox aah-aah in some ways in some ways here is the paradox there's a teacher who keeps the students very close and very independent very very dependent you never feel you have the confidence because I want you to remain a student forever when you look at that student he's always quoting his teacher he's always calling his teacher he's always referencing his teacher he's always using this teacher as a source there's such closeness then you'll have another student who may not quote his teacher a lot may not call him may not use him as a reference may not blame him actually is so much more distant to so much more independent but who's really closer who's really close there are two types of closeness there's a closeness that is expressed in closeness and there's a closeness expressed you don't have to be close cuz you have become me when you have not become me you have to be close because that's your only connection to me when you have become me you don't have to be close anymore because even in the furthest distance you are me there's an expression coucher a Talmud Nastenka my Fouchet harav you have become me there's the child who always has to Kolkata should I do this I not do this I'm full of doubt I'm full of uncertainty I never know what to do I could never be in the pen I never have the confidence you have made a child who will forever be close to you because in many ways he's so far from you and then you have created a person right who has wings and flies far far away and does their own thing completely does their own thing completely who's really closer it would look like this person is so much further they forgot you no no they are you you have been independent they have become independent in their independence you can find yourself why because that was what you wanted I didn't want you to be my follower I wanted you to develop and get what I got so that you could become independent so in your distinctiveness you are really a reflection of me so that the great teacher looks at that student who's far far away and does his own thing and really gets the most Nahas because he knows that this is the greatest reflection of him by not reflecting him he reflects him so much more because he reflects his essence he has become a carbon copy of him in a good way I mean carbon copy but he has become an embodiment of him rather than an extension of him an extension of him means he never really became connected because if he would really become connected he would be able to reproduce himself biologically we have the same thing what's the tipo what's the sperm you could speak and share and share but that doesn't have the DNA a teacher could give she room for 70 years but that doesn't have your DNA all that has is information that they're going to receive it's the T but the physical people that comes out of you it seems so nothing that has everything that has your core what does that create that's create somebody who is like you an independent person but here's an interesting thing when you look at a painting you may have worked on this painting for 30 years other house I'm I say enough if a painting is lost people mourn but it doesn't come close to something happening to a child why is that the child comes from the deeper the painting came from 30 years and the answer is because a child embodies the deepest core the deepest core of the parent the body manifests your core and that's why what do you have here you don't have an expression you have something that becomes self contained independent it grows up as a child psychologically - that's physically psychologically - there's two ways of educating what does all of this teach us what this teaches us is quahog a viable go a viable is a yurid LaMotta martha bi sir in this manifestation we're will you see your truest self you will see a truest self not in that which is connected you will see your truest self in that which becomes yourself and therefore will be completely self-contained like you are so there is a parent or an educator or a leader who wants those strings to remain attached and that's for them Nahas but the reason that's not us is because they are not wholesome but the real wholesome leader ultimate knockers the ultimate joy is when I can watch you fly away and do your own thing and you're not you're not asking me anymore like I'm out of the picture and you'll tell the person don't you feel horrible don't you feel horrible like we're we where are you in this picture you're the one who's responsible for this no I don't find myself in that which has to remain connected to me I find myself so much more than that which is completely independent because that's not an extension that is the essence itself transported into a new generation into a new world now let's think about this in terms of a person's relationship with Hashem there are now and others ask the big question if the whole reason we need our void is because it shouldn't be free lunch now the God wants to give us everything but he doesn't want it should be free lunch so therefore he wants us to work he wants us to work so we should deserve it because when you get something that you earned you appreciate it much more so if we would get granade in an alum hub and everything else without paying for it without working it would be what's called Muhammad Ali Sufi bread of shame through a void that you earn it so the question is why couldn't he create us with a nature that we would receive free lunch and we would still love it we all know that there are people who if your whole day your whole life you're collecting you don't feel good but I'm sure there's two or three people in the world who are born like this and they really don't mind receiving and receiving God could have all given us that nature that we shouldn't have that dignity that I have to earn my lunch I don't have to earn my lunch you can give me lunch every day and I'm good and then he wouldn't have to make this whole thing that you need a work and work and work and struggle and fight and feel like it's my sky the whole nature he created why did he create us with such a lousy nature that then requires me to work hard you want to be nice to meet Eva toyou hate dvash Emma's good he wants to give goodness no problem create a world give me everything and I shouldn't have to do a stitch of work I shouldn't have to dip my finger into cold water I should feel completely content being the ultimate recipient of goodness and satisfied that's what I see is good but the truth is that from a deeper perspective see this explains that it sounds very nice but that would be missing one aspect what are with what it would it be missing huh this de rêve explained on his 70th birthday your elephant isn't option llama advice he said that people asked him to go into retirement at the age of 70 is supposed to retire so he said then this talk listen the idea the greatest goodness we're looking at good launch breakfast supper hashem should give me whatever i need the real goodness and the ultimate goodness is that a sham could give is the vegas with him oneness with him the greatest goodness that God could give you is to be one with God to be God like to be the Wankel that's the source of all goodness that's the source of everything if Hashem would created a would create us with a nature that he gives and we receive and were content with that reception then our ultimate goodness would just be receiving from Hashem which is great but he wanted to give us something much more we should become God we should be godlike we should be divine not just recipients from the divine what does it mean to be divine that you create that you give that you become divine like you're not just amicable you're a mafia you're not just a recipient of creation you create life so God gave you a life and says here is life I gave you but now you have to create and that's and then very embedded in our nature that I'm not gonna be happy just to receive because if I would be happy just receiving my ultimate perfection and life is I remain a recipient of God which means I never have real oneness with a Shem I never become godlike so we're driven address to receive we're driven to create our own faith to create to create our own destiny and in that we don't become students of God we become actually divine in our independence in our need for independence in our need to create our own destiny and I need to me take responsibility from my life that's weird I don't become distance I actually become much more connected so now let's go back to the H the H which part of the world feels the most independence which part of the world feels the most independence the definition of spirituality is connection that's what earlier is or it is connection light is always connected to the source that's what all the spiritual words are their students their recipients their mccallum they remain connected to the great light whether they want to use the metaphor of light or the metaphor of water or the metaphor of teachers the metaphor of students I'm connected to the light but then you have this world this world is like the teapot this world is no connection absolutely no connection you don't feel any of that connection so the question was why can't atmos be expressed in all of roses and the answer for that is because all of Rumi is essentially is a connection it's a town m''d it's amicable where is Absalom self where is it expressed in that one world that screams independence detachment autonomy so on one level your child could say goodbye bye-bye I don't need you I don't want you they fly away and that's it that's - me is the way it's misunderstood that's the yesh anivia the way it's misunderstood that's the way you raise a child who becomes an independent monster and bully and runs away because there was no attachment so therefore because there was no attachment in order to avoid the pain that there was no attachment they have to become detached because the attachment is so painful and the lack of it is so painful they can't acknowledge that they need you so because they can't acknowledge that they need you they say I don't need you forever and that's why the garrison chorus of the altar ever had to come after rest of his life when he spoke about attachment because if you don't have attachment then the detachment becomes toxic then the detachment is I don't want you I hate you because I needed you so much and I loved you so much and I didn't get it and it's so painful so the only way I can deal with it is by saying I hate you and I don't want you and I don't need you because if I don't need you there's no pain of not having you there's only pain of not having you if I need you if I don't need you I don't have you so when a child tells us father I don't need you I don't need you you're the worst thing that ever happened to me it's essentially the pain of saying I needed you so much and I never had it so that's the only way I can deal with it because I'm not ready to open myself up to that pain so that's why this stage of the Asia - me being one with the Asia myth he could only come after there's a very deep understanding of the attachment but where is the ultimate gift with is the ultimate etson come out where is the ultimate witness the ultimate divine come out it can't come out in the words of the teacher of the parent it comes out in the DNA the DNA is separated into the t / the t / has those genetic secrets that procreative power in the separateness independence so now you ask a question you feel completely independent you feel completely detached you feel completely alienated and the more you feel alienated it's what it's the more Hagar's of medusa mat samosa in the show union in the american union that is its ms that's we're the greatest truth of the parent comes out that's where the greatest core of the parent comes out in the world that is completely independent but what is it really it's really the vine it's really at samosa it's really mature same at samosa just like that leader or that teacher or that parent who looks at the child flying away completely on their own they have their own resources their own mind their own heart they're really not dependent on any level and yet that represents the greatest relationship it represents the greatest closeness in prep presents the greatest intimacy why why you don't need me you don't need me another parasite anymore I don't have to wire your money I don't have to wire your advice I'm not telling you should do this with your parents as long as you can get them to wire the money get them to wire the money no question better in your bank account than in their bank account without somebody else's bang why should I go to the IRS let it go to you I'm not here giving practical advice about how much you could squeeze the lemon of your parents that's that you got to figure out on your own but but the real concept is in that moment the father and mother could look and there's a certain inner wholesomeness that can't come from anything else what is the wholesomeness the wholesomeness of the knowledge I didn't create just a child I created a new father I created a new mother essentially this is where I am my deepest essence is being manifested here because what I did for him he can do for others what was done for me he can do for others he's not anymore a reflection he's independent and in that independence he captures me much more than he would capture me if he was not independent because in his independence he captures my very very core which is emerging in the fact that he has his own core and that core is severed from my core and in that severance it's really a reflection of my core they say they once asked one of the Gary Revis I think it was this famous he changed a lot of things from his father so they said to him huh from his grandfather or the Emory Emma's from the swamis one of the Gary rebus this farce and mrs. yard said was hey schmuck one of the guy representing the Emory em isn't as fast as they said you know you're a child or a grandchild of your father of use aid they're your follower how can you how could have you changed so much and he said I copied my father my father changed what his father did I changed from what my father did I am a copy of my father there is a there's a profound insight in that you understand what I mean I'm a copy of my father do I do the same thing no I'm a copy of my father in the sense I have the same confidence like my father had my father had a core and I also have a core he gave me that core but what does it mean he gave me a core it means that he had to cut the umbilical cord that I have a core that I have an eye that's what the yesh Higashi has for my son no ruin is has that all Russia Gnaeus has an umbilical cord and that's its beauty that's why it's spiritual that's why it's holy that's why it's divine it's part of the family it didn't leave home it's holy that's what gonna dienes the Yesha gosh me was sinful bye-bye I got nobody I'm completely on my own I don't even feel God exists even though my whole entity is God from God so you could look at it and say yeah we're detached he says no no that's the greatest attachment the greatest attachment is the detachment the greatest attachment is you are at smus the greatest accomplishment and the grit in many ways it's not you're connected you are actually the same and that's the difference there is connection that's what Rock'em uses ruffini's is connected - meais is not connected look at history where is it connected it's not connected it's the same it's it - Mia screams Machias Emirates Massey I am I there's nothing there's nothing outside of me there's nothing I am everything I am invincible I don't come from anywhere that what is that what is that that is Atmos that is the real eye that has no source being embodied in the air - so the madman says why can't I - maybe a chamois to be expressed Aurelius find a way and the answer is it isn't roughly as at samosas everywhere it doesn't mean it's not there but we can it come out where does the Guevara gávea be yes sir when you want to find the essence what do you have to look when you have to look you have to look in that of real independence and that in that in that point of separateness I once heard from once Rosh Hashana Rosh Hashana so see his name is Ed Mayer Harlech so I once heard from him but there was a drew his name was barrel Baumgarten he was Ashley oh they're a bit too bonus iris to Argentina for many years he was a teacher I think in the Shiva Flatbush and one year before Rosh Hashana little voucher ever asked him to go on Ash Lucas to go on a mission somewhere for some Jewish community or some Jewish families far away from New York so he asked it up if he can go right after Rosh Hashanah she said no no you should be there issue Shauna she told her ever that I have never missed a little Shauna by the Leba never and the source and the experience of being at kia chauffeur when they never blow chauffeured dushashana this is incredible I don't want to miss it to see her I'll go write a day morning after a session I'll go the Deborah is Trisha Shauna was it was a very emotional experience never would cry by the BIM and whoever was around the binman to pushing there they called it a washing machine was incredibly powerful because of the you saw things then that you didn't see a whole year that ever usually was pretty concealed but Rosh Hashana by turkey is there was a lot of Gilly a lot of revelation you saw things that you didn't see even a simple person you just his face the whole experience it was very very intense very heavenly so you didn't want to miss it so the rebus says to him he says indeed this other nuts translate he says verse trasto when it stay about the beam about here Schaefer Reagan remand tractor tractor Gandiva stupids of Dharam trafficking divas Geffen and Zach Wright avec said when I'm standing by the bill might be a chef who do you think I'm thinking about I know about the people I'm thinking about only the people that are pushing around I'm thinking first and foremost about the people who are far away you can go for a Shoshana in other words it's it's but but about all of life that which seems close is not always close and that which seems far is sometimes much closer not because you're closer because you're actually recreating the essence and that's why you could be far and that's where you have to be far and that's why you have to be far that's where it all happens on the other hand if there's no attachment so let now let's get rid of ruffini's let's stop talking about Luke Aeneas no because if the child doesn't grow up in a home of attachment they can't be detached they will be crippled it's like sending out the bird before they develop wings what's going to happen it's it's dangerous what was your question before repeat your question would you ask before so you ask does this mean that the the further you are from the truth the more truth you are that's what it seems like if you're closer to truth that's the truth of this world this world is the farthest away from the truth the farthest away from the truth the more truth it has why why because the etson comes out in this separateness the mechanism is I feel I am I I don't need anybody the reason I don't feel I don't need anybody is because it's God shining through me and God doesn't need anybody just like the child the reason he feels he doesn't need Patti is because he became Tati because Tati gave him everything that he didn't give him only little little but sometimes father's give their kids crumbs then you'll always need Tati what if Tati gives you everything then you say I don't need you in that statement I don't need you what are you saying you're saying I got everything from you there's nothing that I didn't get from you in other words I can't thank you enough in that sense you're the closest to him because you're the furthest tip you could be further you could be so far if you wouldn't be so close you can't be so far the reason you could be so far is because you're so close your typhus that's why somebody else can be so far they would either become completely disconnected and disintegrated the yesh are - to me is so close therefore it could be so far you're right so the reason the yesh screams I don't need you Tati in fact you're not even my Tati fact I don't even know your name fact I don't know who you are right which seems like the lowliest so but it's only is it's what makes this world lowly filthy it's what makes this world the world with its clip it with the sitter a clear wish I am gravely but like it says and Tania Perry involved that's that's on one level deep enemy is what's the I'm McClure Union don't forget the cry I don't need you I don't have I'm completely detached from you it's because I got everything from you because I am you because I am you and you and I your eye is my eye my eye is your eye that's why it's detached from you because it is you it is you ah yes the whole eye is you it's you playing itself out in this world that's what I was explaining ah what no you're right if you don't have the attachment you can't have the detachment that's what we speak about ruthless we don't say there's no ruthless again it's like a child you can't give him you can't have him fly away if you haven't given him the wings and the support you get what I'm saying the yeah uh gosh me can never be aligned with who it is if it doesn't have the conscious if we don't learn about the consciousness of ruinous which is about connection you have to go back in time to get it so to speak no but also how's the second part that they place yes you're right hundred percent you do that you can't go back you only go forward if you missed the first part you miss the bar it's a good question you have to be sorry it's a good question if you miss the attachment how do you become yes that's what the velum Alec says into he'll empiric of zion.t Aviva Amyas of Unni wash my ass Fanny right my father and mother have neglected me and God took me in a person sometimes has that challenge and they have to be able to find the unconditional love that they are from God they have to be able to find that to discover that after be able to heal from that place and when they can heal from that place then they don't have to be defined by the wounds by the lack by the want because if they don't heal from that wound then they're always just looking for that attachment that they didn't get they could never really take responsibility for their life they never have grown up they've never become adults which is a challenge that many of us have you see we almost undermine our growth it's like I don't deserve to be an adult a lot of people like I have to be a child I will undermine my success because I don't deserve it I'm still a baby like what am i doing handling some so many so much money a person who told me recently they have a clear path for tremendous financial success and it's pretty hard but it's also simple and every day they undermine it he doesn't know why he undermines it every day he will he will stay in Shirin extra three hours knowing that he's undermining it it's like almost there's a voice that says it's not for you you've got to stay in the small league you know you need Papa that's don't so these are all voices that have to be seriously challenged and certainly not allowed to take control of people's lives how do I relate to all of this you want to know how do you relate to what I'm relating to how do you relate to what I'm relating to so well the answer is because were all in the same boat that's why you think I was raised in Milan Marcellus what do you think I was raised more addictive arts yeah he gave us the nature no no in other words I didn't I was saying of art it's from your olive listen top summit based it ever said then that if our Shem would have created us with the nature to be content with receiving right so the Schley most we would receive in life is to remain mccollum from Hashem what he wanted us to give us everything including his exome to be dumela by ray to be divine like no so therefore you have to create your life so you have to be well what does it mean what they mean to create something means to overcome to overcome the resistance to that what does it mean I'm creating something I'm creating I'm creating my life I'm creating my life if I'm programmed to do something let's take a person from pre-program to always do to always say eat healthy live healthy do everything else I'm not creating it I'm just receiving I'm just a recipient of a good programmer he programmed my brain and my brain just follows the script so it's great I have an unbelievable life but I'm essentially forever the recipient the Makabe Hashem wanted was there should be the ultimate toy which is you become the Boyar you're not a never any more you're not created you become the Creator you become completely one connected to the Creator one with the Creator in other words you like the co-partners of creating your life together yeah we're not God yeah of course we know that my dad ah I should speak for myself this is the Hungarian confidence that he got from his parents power is the other expires Leonie vanya system it's my River and I made myself and if I can enslave the Jewish people I'm the ultimate power that's where the yesh anivia becomes the most dysfunctional that's we become the most divorced that's why we attack the ego because pyro is ego Li Hongzhi gone Avadh Netzer ziggo Mahad that's her said Adam Allah Elia and I'm like God I am God the Gary Sukhoi this is saying the same thing with exact opposite you understand Perry was in denial very good Perry was in denial yeah the Leo led Vania sicinius I made myself and the factory do whatever I want in the world with what we're saying is that you are the manifestation of the divine in this world it's more Bittle it's not less before the Bittle creeps in even to the ash you know even that which you thought was a yesterday's 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