Zera Shimshon Parshas Ki Teitzei Shiur by Rabbi Simcha Bunim Berger

for Miriam. She should be want to thank once again Torah anytime for putting this putting the giving the shurim the platform that it gives to allow people to learn Tyra any place and anytime. I actually got a text on Arab Shabas from a mother of one of my Talm who says that she listens to the Zerim. She watches the Zerim haven't heard for them in years. So it was very uh for you doing this mayor [Music] made a very big Okay. First letter alif take a safer please. We're going to follow follow along inside. We begin with what Rashi says. The Pik says you'll go to war. doesn't shy away from the fact that he recognizes that the will see a woman and he's going to be interested. She says, Yates that means that the understands the nature of the person understands the Yates of a person and understands that not always can we expect a person to be perfect. Not always can a person sees a woman who's attractive. The Tyra has to give us instructions. How do we deal with this? The suga of tonight's how to deal with one's Yates. I found the Zerosim in this week's para and Cohelis like we talked about we did coalis last week that takes on this suga takes as we would say the bull by the horns. So, and that's the sug you tonight. This week's is talking about seeing things that are desirableman. What do we do? Like Rashi says to tell you that it's doesn't allow you. He'll marry her. So the Tyra has to deal with the fact that people are ballet. We can't shy away from it. That's the headlines of this week's para. redu what are we talking about? We're talking about the mama not of the conquering of the seven nations that lived in the shivim but rather the expansion going beyond the boundaries whether it's surya or other places there it's called milas rishus why does rashi say that quoting the gimar quoting the cphree because a the of we take no prisoners. There's no prisoners. Those we have to wipe out. So this is all a fight against the and is attacking the person. How are we this? How is the dividing between the two? Each one who asks the says has his I want to say upshot. [Music] Just like you understand that when Claus goes to battle and they're in a they're in a precarious situation where sometimes the says you have to give into this sometimes is also negative. It's the same battle. The same battle. But sometimes you have to give in and sometimes you have to fight. Explains the I'm not sure how many people know the about. It's a do as you're about to see the med says when Yeshua crossed the yard and went to battle he sent a three letters to the Eisro. He made the an offer. He made them an offer. He said to them Hashim, if you want to make peace and you want to be subservient and you understand that the aish is giving us this land and you're okay, we won't kill you. If you're willing to come around and be submissive and recognize that the aster is giving us this land, then the prohibition, the of getting rid of them does not apply. Wow. You'll see it inside. It was only after the goim were defiant and said we're fighting the Jewish people when they took the position to destroy us. Then we took the counterposition to say that's it. How do I know that? What's with Do you remember who was who was >> the went to her? >> She lived in. What are you supposed to do with all the people of Kill them? >> Kill them. Did they kill her? >> She married to Yahosua. What do you mean? She married Jehoshua. >> Made a deal with her. >> And made a deal with her. What happened to That's what Yeshua said. If you're willing to be subservant, you're willing to recognize that it's the we have no beef. We have no mama. We won't wipe you out. That type you're willing to come around said there. Let's see it inside. And that's why they married Yeshua. The ones that were still defiant and said, "We're not doing it." Those were the ones, right? and her family. Everybody was part of that because they recognized they were willing to come around and they were willing to make here is what the is teaching us. You have suggest of the milit and you have the mus the eritz they were given a choice they were given a choice they didn't have to be negl they chose to be neg get those are the ones that those are the ones where the says that you're not taking as a prisoner. Those are the ones that are negot [Music] that that was never given such an option and that's not part of the land of per se. That's extending that has already a different in if the comes then then we'll make peace with it. Let's see it inside. Israel requires us to live a moral decent mitzvah life. You have to be to live in and it's not dimension the only choice h people who inhabit have is they have the one choice dova before it's too late once it's let once You were given the chance and you reneg. She knew all of the other people in were going to fight. They were going to be defiant. So she separated herself from them and she took the initiative with her family and everybody was willing to stelu to listen and to be part of. And look who she married. She married the king. She married Yahushua. That's how far she was able to go. But those not those who were defined also if they didn't listen concludes the on this point where he said certain are certain are even when you're giving in to the can you give into even when I have to let you give in says cuz if I don't then you're going to do it wrong but it has to be in such a way look what he says you got to fight the before he gives you the opport opportunity to do. It stops you from doing chuv says know what's going to happen but they get too lazy. They they go ahead and they push the things down. Telling us that the a person is comprised of good and comprised of a that demands attention. That demands attention and to ignore it. It's not going to work to ignore it. But we have to figure out a way to use those that a person has the physical the desires and theas in a way that should become avoid that doesn't mean giving into everything but it's sometimes it means you have to give into that this himself discusses at length in khelis in letter. If you all turn to page on the Pikad, don't be too much of a sadic. So what should you be? asks says then the next says don't be too big of a sadic and don't be too big of a what should you be a >> and anybody who learned a knows that being a banan is a madrega hal We should be ba Franker sees where I am. We're going to learn this piece now. We're learn some excerpts from [Music] what kind of balance is this? I should be Don't be Don't be too big of a What does that mean? How can you be at in Russia? What's going on in the following it's we've talked about in the past speaks about but here you see the mayor >> that's what you have [Music] so that makes sense now means that even When somebody does something good, there's always going to be something bad mixed inside. It means to say that as good as it sadd there's going to be certain personal things that a person wants. But this is going the other direction. This is telling that's saying nobody's perfect. This is pink fake. This is saying don't be too good. >> The other one's saying you you should know when you're good. There's something which is always going to be a little bit not good. This is saying don't be too good. Why shouldn't I be too good about how to deal with our physical desires with our look what he says? A person should of inciting he say and if he does if he goes away get meaning the first stage is just fight and tell the it's wrong if he can't do that get a little bit of help learn if and readishes. [Music] Bottom line, the atom bomb, you drop the bomb and you tell the host of them, you're going to die. They're going to put you into the ground. What are you going to have from all these tus? Why are you wasting your time? Just nuke them. That's all. with Arabs. You don't [Applause] Everybody ask if that's what works. What do I got to wait for? Just mention he'll leave you alone. What are you What are you playing games for? What are you playing games like if helps to fight the and do it right away? That's not appropriate. Why? Listen to this. And that's not what the wants. Why as it's known in the medish to we talked about it is the is the platform of Jonathan is Why? He's quoting the Gmorrah. If a person doesn't have a Yates, he'll never build a house. If he doesn't have a Yates, you'll never get married. Listen to this. It's underlined by me. Shim writes on quoting the Gmorra is about to mention Gummorra says that when Claus built Bayas Sheni and Shakessa Amongst them were many. They realized that Bay Sheni had the same problem of bias which was a zor and they realized that if they don't do something drastic the second mikdash will be quickly become decrepit and become a place like in bayas where unfortunat brought in it was already a dangerous mativ soar says fasted three days and three nights. three days that means 72 hours they're basically like by Esther when it says the Gmor is in Sanhedrin is in Yuma it's a few places with the word MS and they dedish and they said the reason they were davening and the reason they were fasting was that the aish should be the co of Yateser Har of of of a desol should no longer have a desire to do a desim that said em and the Gmorrah says it went out a little lion like a cub of fire from the base and says the they said do this is the of my said how did it get in how that little cub get into the because put it there by them doing they had already put it into the shakadim yet the anek was able to get it out continues the gimar they said since we have the yates on the ropes Let's go all the way. And there were that there should be no Yates or says the Gimmorra. They looked for a chicken to lay an egg. Not one. They No. No. When once there was no ta for his people had no reason to do it and they realized the world will not be misinder the garra says they asked so maybe you should just have the tya for the people that's mut only those that I'm allowed to be with but somebody that's also the gummor says you can't get it halfway shimon you can't have it that way but says the gimar they blinded it so that people shouldn't have beg that person has a mother a daughter a mish and doesn't have a ta for that one that's as much as we're able to accomplish without the vanish kin in there if not for the atara where what we wouldn't be here the world wouldn't be here these houses wouldn't be here everything the desire and the drive for a person to make money for a person to b to to be all the things that people want it come from the isman the ter is you have to figure out a way to use that kayak for the good you have to use that kayak for the Hashem continues the take a look at page the it is known second column every mitzvah has to be with our body it has to be so if not for the you can't just say right it's not you have you have to do with what with your goof with your goof you have to do listen to this when you have when you do a mitzvah you should have two cavas two one I want to do the mitzvah I'm going to do the rats in Hashem the other one I'm going to take my body and use the body for the right reason and be my body so that the horror my body doesn't have a say. Let's see it inside page. We'll come back soon to over there. There's two in a mitzvah. One of them to fix up whatever in that the the needs to be fixed up. That's one next paragraph [Music] to go ahead and do the mitzvah to bring down of the cloud. Bottom of the page, two lines from the bottom. It's not enough just to do good and therefore subsequently you'll be you should have I'm using my body. You're using your body to do the I know I'm hungry. I know I want to eat. But I'm not going to just do just listen to my body in I'm going to eat like a mench. I'm going to be mal of food. So I'm going to eat it. I'm going to enjoy it. You made a go ahead and enjoy it. It's yours for the taking. You're supposed to enjoy yourself. It's meant to be of having enough. When you do it, just don't do it for yourself to be, but rather have [Applause] can't push away. You can't deny the fact that there is a Yates, but you can temper it and use it in a way and have the which is explaining now. It's a double that's inside of me. Every year on Yamipper when there was a base onto there was one they were identical one that they took their blood its blood and spritzed it by the kadeshim and its partner the other they took took it and threw it. They gave it over to the other side because that other that other that represented as the devil inside of us. The em is that every single yeed has in him the ruts of good. The problem is we're possessed throughout the entire year with that want to slip us away that want us to do things for the wrong reason. And a ye once a year has a chance to filter himself and get down to the core of who he is. And when you do that, all the mistakes we make, we can give it over to the other side. We need the But you need to use it in such a way that you bring it and you filter it. Now let's go back the quotes. The zoyer is in pares. It's back on page. You can follow along inside. I'm going to read it from the source from the zy itself. Back to that paragraph. You can't do it without incorporating the sometimes a person needs. Sometimes you have to be tough. Sometimes you have to be tough with yourself. Sometimes you have to be tough with ourselves. sometimes say I once heard from revulba ga is a terrible mido to be a balga right sometimes revulba says there's something called ga kadusha you know what ga kadusha means a person tells himself you're going to do that ara it's below you you're bigger than that what are you so silly what are you getting involved with something like that For Boba called it it's a holy Ga the person should keep should say it's past you know it means right you know when it comes to I'm not going to let it do it for that that's what you're doing. You know how the di says there's aik because sometimes you do have to do with the rabbitson you have to go you have a wife you have a sometimes you do have to do you know when if a person needs to be killed then person be bestd has to go and kill a person that needs to be killed doesn't say together says wouldn't be able to kill anybody said it's not true. Sometimes yes, sometimes no beer to go home, right? Because the Torah said I'm all says you're allowed to fool your why. Tell the I want him to explain it to me better. You're allowed to do that, too. You're allowed to be avi so he should explain to you more. You should be able to get more from him. I'm making what am I doing? You're using the negative for positive. You're using those that should beer for the right because you have no choice. You have to. It's part of who we are. And that's the ultimate. You know who does this? Only a malik can't do this. A can't do this. No, we can do this. We have the same bodies and the same desires. Somebody once said to me, I'll finish with this. Somebody maybe was a guy and heard of and said 12 days you're in the house. You don't touch each other for 12 days. Couldn't believe it. Couldn't believe it. We carry around the rules. We live our life like that. That's what Eid is. And you're serving the with your and with your being in your being in the Yates. That's what it means. Don't be too much of a sadic. Meaning to say you have to use the of the for what? For the part. You have to use don't think you can just nuclear bomb get rid of your Yates or and that's it. That's not true. You're going to use those but use it for the right reason. Use it and go ahead and help others. Go ahead. You you want to people should go ahead and you want some cover this and that. So you know what? Go help other people. Go ahead make your hands dirty. Go ahead and run out and run on this and help a poor person this. So you get a little bit of you have for the right reason and then you're being your [Music] two a person has when they do mitzvah. When a person does that should help us as we come closer and closer to the as we come closer and closer to we should be tire ourselves to use the for all the right reasons that the gave us by Doing ty mitz.