Zera Shimshon on Parshas Vayelech/Yom Kippur by Rabbi Simcha Bunim Berger at Scheiner's

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If you have a safer shin in your safer dear what we read today that's right and what we read on every time look for the seek him out when he is found call to him while he is still close when he's close as such each person a Russ should abandon his way the ish and a person is sinful thoughts and let him return to Hashem and he'll have mercy on him it's mentioning a person as an individual the and to our God which is plural. is going to point that out that in one we went from singular to plural [Music] because he's gives in abundance says the a bunch of questions number one what is the double lotion of dear and why does it have to say Why does he say as I mentioned and then afterwards he says and what's if he forgives he forgives if he doesn't forgive he doesn't forgive what's the there's an abundance of what extra >> yeah but so then it's a good time that's what he said in the beginning because he's corrupt because he's close. So get your get your Now he's offering it. That was not necessary to address what you just asked. So So he begins with a gimra in Yuma. He just has excerpts of the gimarra. So let me read to you the gimmar in its entirety. It'll give us a much clearer picture. The gamari here is discussing when you use the lotion of it's talking about three different levels of sin. A vi is a person who willfully sins. Is someone who is also doing something which is negligent. And then is actually a shig. That's why the carbon you bring for a shig is called a kat. The least of the three is the which is the correct order. Do you say or instead should you say which is the correct order? It's a debate in the gimra. Here's how it goes. The Gammorra says what should be the appropriate lion of asking forgiveness from Hashem. How should we say it? One opinion says is you start with the worst the then you go down to the says indeed the instructs the god to do the more the more the worst, the ai, the ones that were like anti first, then the and then the that's also the and that is a mayor. However, the say just the opposite. Those are things that a person does on purpose. He's revoling. like it says and says the I know that Mishraenu said it that way and I know that it says to the but when we're asking does it really make sense that you should ask for the more the more stringent the worst ones first You do you even have if you got forgiveness for the bad ones then of course you're going to be forgiven. The order doesn't make sense >> to ask for forgiveness. >> So good ask this way. So therefore I think says the it's a general opinion. That's the start with the, you know, start slow, work your way up. So says the we have a very good why you should start with the the but did start the other way. So how are the going to reconcile what it is that did and said You said it today many times. Why is it that way? When unfortunately sins, but they do repent. see the zodine. Maybe you won't totally wipe away the sin. The fact that they did it in a malicious purposeful way, but maybe if you see they're doing chuva, at least take away the zod and make it like aka. When a person does something by mistake, they'll get a lot more mercy and there'll be a lot more understanding. So according to the what was saying was not just the order of how you ask but was asking that how could at least take away some of the edge of the sin making the making the shag guys. Omar we like a vihati says yes says mayor broughten brought a riot from so maybe in this case we should side with rep mayor even though he's a y That's why I needed to set the record straight. We pass like the Let's go to our Zerim. Now that's the Gor in its entirety asks the riff. If we know kazal say that chuva has such a power it can even turn the zod into aus talk about that because a person feels so remorseful and he feels at such a loss that the person's feeling of regret and remorse that came from the sin could actually boomerang and actually become a zus for them. So why would so to speak pull his punches and not be willing to ask all the way? Why didn't like they say if you're already asking already ask the way you're supposed to if you can get him all the way down to great kasha in order to become you need a yum kipper. It's a process. It just doesn't go from zero to 60. It >> it's it's there's a process. [Music] Step number one is that the chuva helps to take away the edge that even though a person carelessly carelessly just went and did whatever he or she wanted without regard to the mitzvah and they have regret and they regret it'll be considered like a shig Then with yum kipper that once the sentence so to speak has been mitigated down to a now we can discuss even it being a so that cloud you saw that made ael The story of this this story of that we read was a story that made the ego had to the at that time to take away the edge of the sin instead they made the ego that was said I'm done with them finished They're done. They're toast. That's it. It's youenu is successful that the ai should be that the a vi should be just a shik. Then 40 days later, 40 days later when he came down from first he said and then he said 40 days later came down with then there was then the next day said go build a mishk. So the ended up being >> we turned it around to the extent that we held we held close to the >> that's what he's saying. Let me go. Save your questions for at the end please. Writes the following concept. Shallow. It's three books open. Making the name. He wants to see who the rush is. After the bezdenala pasans, they're not. We don't go back to them anymore. Now you go to the you know what he can do? He can pardon the person is the way the president can pardon someone and just doesn't matter what the judge said. The judge can put him away for life. But if the president pardons then that's it. He's free. When it comes then is only you hear that there are two important components. Number one is regretting and removing oneself from the sin. Not wanting to be associated with the sin. What's the ask for forgiveness? The time to do it is during like it says in the that a has a status of a rabbi during so what we're learning Rabbi Sai what we're learning is that there are really two stages to the chuva process. There are two stages to the chuva process. There's taking a mistake that was a biting mistake and lowering that from a zodine to a shy gig. And then what's that? >> Felony to misdemeanor. >> A felony to misdemeanor. And then just wiping it off the record completely. That's the second stage. Dear, now we're starting to understand our question that we first started the evening with. Why is it too? He has to make has to seek out means to be there requires the initial first step the helps. It might not wipe it off completely but at least you've shown regret and you've already taken away the edge nom. Now comes [Applause] you don't have to do that because he's there already is there is you just have to that's why the second is so beautiful because he's close to The cha already started and he wasn't far. There's no best anymore. Now it's on the desk of the president. There's nobody to stop him. So this let's take a moment to reflect what we're un what what this is teaching us. Let's understand the magnitude of his. Normally you might say ye chuva is 10 days that a person has a chance to get his act together and do chuva. So let's ask ourselves a question. What happens if on the rash shana or the first day of like today the first day of chuva a person in the middle of his dvening got a hearer chuva he really he or she really just broke down and cried and was regretful and remorseful and they really did and it's clear to themselves not that they're advertised but they they really hit a chord so somebody could think that's it I did it. I don't need Jim Kipper. Right. >> Wrong. It's a process. It's happening over time. Each level brings us closer and closer and wipes away the mistake cuz it's not really possible to wipe it away completely in a moment. It takes time. I remember once when I um was polishing my shoes, I got a little bit of black polish on my nice white shirt. O went to the cleaners. Did it come out a more? No. After about 10 times wearing it, I wore it because it was but it was still a little bit there. Right. After 10 times, it went away. The 10 days is not we're hoping that one day over the 10 days you'll get that good and when yum kiper comes along if you haven't gotten it at least you got your last chance. That's not what the zerosim saying. On the contrary every day is an important component. Every day every is makes a difference. A little bit more regret takes away the edge and it continues to take away the edge till Yum Kipper comes along where a person has a chance to then take all of the chuva that he or she has done and then riding off of that then clinch the deal and get so close to the aster that now all of the mistakes become That's why after it says [Applause] that there's two things he explains if the Russia during the days of will change his path then the will beer is comes from love because when there's love when a person feels attached a mother to a child family members they invested in them. So there's a feeling of rahmanus. You only have ramanus on someone that you feel connected to. So that feeling of connection is says the what isu the question he asked was one. It starts off with one singular and then it says listen to what he says. Do you want to know how great Chuva is? Even if there's just an individual, but this fellow really did Chuva in a way that he got close to the astero on his coattails. There is such an aava that the aish has to the world thanks to him that the aish is willing to say fine like the Rambam writes he's 5050. [Music] They are still holding out. Who did this? Who was successful in doing this? Our forefather Araminu. What was the difference gentleman Rabai? What was the difference between Noyak and Aram? Disha was unfortunate the world had gotten to a bad place. Disha told build the ark which he did. But the purpose wasn't just to save him and his family. It was to wake up the world and save everybody. Who was saved? Nobody other than him and his family. The world continued in the ark in the in the but not the world at large. It just was destroyed says the mission is that was but what happened by and he not only did he save himself the entire world the whole world the days of heaven and the earth be Abraham in the Ramu. No wonder there's so many Abrahams. Abraham's walking around cuz it's only because of him that the world continued and we are his children says of he said me and my son right we can bring the for all the dyus they were sadikim they had the energy and the like au we're children of a that aish just said I'll keep the whole business going Why? Because this person, this person's good can spill over to others. He's not living for himself. He can make a revolution and change the world. And it's worth keeping the world going. So I'll give the world a chance. That's you could be that fellow. You could be that person making such a difference. I was inspired by Ellie Stfansky. He wrote an article recently. Uh he was a caterer. He was struggling. He was making business. He wasn't doing necessarily great. And somebody came over to him and said, "Why don't you go into real estate?" He always wanted to, but eh. And then he took that as a message. And he did. He had no experience but he ended up trying it and then eventually he went got successful and then he took the same attitude there he is right on the picture over there and then he took that attitude and then he started saying and now he's got thousands and thousands of people one man making a huge difference in the world a huge difference and anybody could do that that's the that's the of having is the when we start with and then we continue the P by saying the L and that's the the is not just a for one person [Music] everybody and jump aboard. They didn't ask for forgiveness. It's okay. The is good. He has trust in humanity. Has a good we can go ahead and change the world. [Applause] He'll make a lot of even for the people who didn't ask for it. That's how big is continues. We say this. What's the double first? We say, you know what the terret is? It's a double. It's a process. There's and then it's exactly take a look at the last paragrapher. The first is before during we're working on a process of taking away the edge of our mistakes. taking the zod at least you can make it to a shig then comes the sees look how he regretted it I'm pardoning you I'm taking away the entire sin now the feels so close you're fasting again you sound like a malik you're not involved in any part of the gulf now that's the gald that's the double that's what it means on the one hand it's and then that become totally like what even the [Applause] noemu like I say over all the time the famous what's the difference between rash within he's raisin right justifiably you get it's a [Music] that's what says one last piece therefore next paragraph let me explain to you how the aish and how good the aish is to us. He quotes the Rama the Ramano who said in first I'm going to read you the lotion when God forbid a person does a mistake is too he has two problems. He did a sinu while you were challenged with that sin. Had a person overcome the sin, it would have been considered a mitzvah. Like the gar says in kadush, a person who stops himself from doing an ara, somebody said something insulting and you kept your mouth shut. Not only did you not do an ara, you got a mitzvah, beating the urge to do something wrong. It was a somebody pretty walking down the street caught the corner of your eye and then you say, "I'm not looking. It's not appropriate. You know what happens? You get a mitzvah. Not doing an says a mitzvah. So doing an a is doing the ara and you squandered a mitzvah. So there's a double whammy because not only you did the a but if you would it wasn't God doesn't throw a curveball at you that you can't hit. So you could have done it. gave you you could have done it. So it's a double says these two things and would be considered doing a mitzvah. Now when a person does chuva after the sin and he regrets it not only will the aishar wipe away the sin that you did but now that you regretted it you get back that old scar of not having lost it meaning what the gmorra says that I should have but I didn't. If you can get back to that like the Rambam says what's about chuva Rambam writes he quotes it over here last line a person finds himself in the same situation that he was before same situation but he overcomes it so now the that you that we squandered which was that of the mitzah that I could have gotten I get it now that's You get the that you squandered away. You get the that you squandered away at when not fighting the HR by now. It's like being down five runs in the ninth inning and coming and pulling it out. What do you say about that? Huh? And you pull it out in such a massive. So then your real hero being down so bad. So then not only you get the victory, but you also get that of getting out of the land. Look how far down he came and look how high he went up. That's such a high. That's the you get that happens on Yum Kipper. >> It goes the other way too, right? >> That happens on Yum Kipper. Let's read it inside. He also gets the cha of what he could have done before the sin. He should have ran away from it but he didn't. When he comes and asks the first so I take away this sin but I don't have that thing but you didn't beat me. Now, what does that mean? Not only will the a go away, even that will come back too because the apister knows deep down What is the secret of yam kipper? What is that secret? Why is yum kipper such a powerful day? Why does yam kipper turn all of our mistakes into positive into positivity? The ter is because the essence of every single Jew and this is what we have to know is we're good. It's in we are the children. We have all the positive characteristic traits. A whole year we don't recognize ourselves because our actions are not who we are. It really isn't who we are. We're much better than that. He goes we have we made so comes a time a person's able to awaken himself out of it. There's only so much he could do. Hashem helps us and we get that clarity on we get that we're now able to hold on. I heard one story. I want to finish with this. My heshi told me a story today that he knows firsthand. Heshi K. Just say Heshi K. He told me he told me the following story. There was an old age homeowner, nursing home owner who lived here in New York who was convicted of Medicaid fraud. And the judge sentenced him to five years in jail. But be he didn't take him straight from the courthouse. He said, "Listen, I know that you're not a bad person. I know you made a mistake and a big one. We'll send you a letter and you'll have to show up." The fellow and his wife went to the parking lot and were crying, crying bitterly. There's a knock on the window. A kidello knocks on his window and they roll down the window and he says, "I happened to have been in the courthouse. I was in I was in there for a different reason. I was walking by and I heard your sentence. I know one person who can help you sati. He's in Williamsburg. Go to him. The fellow didn't even know who the sarbi was. Didn't know who he was, but he had nothing to lose. He said, "Go tell him. mention my name and show up. You'll get in and needless to say, do what he says. They drive straight there. They had no place to go. Why not? They drove there, came to the rebi, told the rebi the story. The rebi said, "You were sentenced and they didn't take you away in cuffs." Do you know what kind of kesh that is? So do you know why that happened? That happened. I want to ask you how did you daven yesterday? Did you have heartfelt felis? Said rebi davened in a way I've never ded in my life. So the satarbi said to him as long as you keep on ding that way you won't go to jail. They'll hold off on your sentence. Just keep that up and they'll hold off on your sentence. This fellow for 20 years till his late 80s early 90s was waiting for that letter to come. And every day he davened with Cavana because he was scared that letter might show up. But it never showed up. He never let his children tell the story until he told his kids. The kids knew and he told the kids when I pass away at when you're sitting Shiva you could tell the story over. I dare I do not let you say the story until then >> that were heartfelt davening that fela that's what did it I know Rabai to tell you that you should dive in a whole year on yum kipper is a big ask but to hold on to something of yum kipper when yum kipper comes along and there'll be an errands kite you'll have a seriousness and there'll be a heartfelt pray to the aster and a desire and a roen to be better. If you can hold on to that daily, you'll have a and you'll have a zisa. You'll have a sweet life. We should all bee to be all the good that the wants because he knows that we're good. He knows that we're good and we know and we need to know that we're good. should all be that we should all go to your we should be able to bear I like