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Was Rabbi Akiva’s Perspective on Sukkos Shaped by His Extraordinary Marriage?
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Okay, this is really what the Gomorrah
say, but the drash is good drash.
And I think there's a beautiful lesson
about um about life and about Sukkot.
Well, let's start, okay?
Starting point is is that there's a
great machlokes um um tanaim, one that
you're probably exposed to, about what
the sukkah recalls, what the objective
of the sukkah is.
Is it meant to recall the ananei
hakavod, the clouds that protected us
when we traveled through the desert?
Or is it meant to recall the um
the little huts we built for ourselves
when we traveled through the desert.
This is I mean, this is standard
standard sukkah discussion. So, let's
start with the Gomorrah and the first
source, source one, the Tanyum. Kiva
sukkah se'achatis bnei Yisrael. Let us
see as Hashem
let us sit in sukkah places in sukkah or
afford us the opportunity to sit in
sukkah.
What were these sukkahs? So, here's
there's the machlokes. Um Rebbe Eliezer
says they were ananei hakavod. Ananei
hakavod are you the Rebbe Eliezer. Rebbe
Akiva says sukkah mamesh Hashem. Kiva
they were actual booths. Now,
um
according to this opinion, and this is
the one that we'll be following, Rebbe
Akiva is the one who says they were
booths, and Rebbe Eliezer says that they
were clouds. Now, the Mechilta reverses
that. It's important to sort of, you
know,
>> Is it possible a booth that's made out
of cloud?
>> Mhm?
>> Is it possible that it's a booth made
out of cloud?
>> Um
I I I think each accepts the other, but
I think the reality is a logical reality
is is that people need homes. If they're
traveling in the desert, where do they
sleep, right? So, they needed homes.
So, they had little huts, and the pasuk
is explicit in saying that they were
ananei hakavod that traveled before
them.
So, the pasuk is absolutely explicit
about clouds. The um I I think it's
obvious to us that people people need
homes, right? Well, people are not going
to sleep out in the open, right? Uh men
and women and families. So, they had
they had both. And how do they have
these little homes? They built them,
right? So in in all probability, I mean
I think it's almost illogical to say
that they both are untrue.
They had huts.
And they had homes. The question is what
do our sukkas recall? Do our sukkas
recall the huts or do our sukkas recall
the homes? So let's go with the Gemara
as we have it. The Gemara um tells us
that Rebbi Akiva is the one who stresses
the homes.
Um Rebbi Eliezer says it we stress the
clouds. I will say the Mechilta reverses
it.
Okay? It's important to know that. We're
not going to involve the Mechilta.
Now, before we go any further, if indeed
that the sukkas um are recalling the um
clouds, right? Then the famous question
is is why just clouds? Why don't we
recall the man? Why don't we recall the
bear? Why are we calling the clouds?
That's the Rashba's question.
Like why there are three classic
miracles that accompanied us through the
desert, right? There's Moshe, there's
Aaron, there's Miriam. And in the zechus
of each one there was a miracle, right?
And and the miracle sort of captures the
essence of each one, that's another
discussion. But there were three uh
great leaders, right? They were these
three pillars, they were three miracles,
but we only recall one. So this is
really a real segway. The Rashba says
something really nice.
He says the water was necessary because
we couldn't have survived without water.
So when took us out it was obvious he
would provide water.
The um bread was necessary. Without
bread we wouldn't survive. Clouds were
not necessary. Clouds were really a
statement of affection. And because of
that they're more sign
>> Sun?
>> You could survive with the sun overhead.
It's not going to you I mean people live
with the sun over
>> they had huts.
>> They had huts also, right? They slept in
huts. Right? So the clouds were extra.
Because of that we recall it because
it's it's a sign of endearment. It's a
sign of love. It's something special.
But that's It's really what I want to
focus on, okay?
Now, the starting point of our
discussion is going to be a very
wonderful article, and he asks an
obvious question.
He says, "If the sukkas recall the
clouds,
well, then we're we're recalling a
miracle, and and we do recall miracles,
right? At at the seder, we recall the
makos, and and after shabbos, we recall
kriyas yam suf, and miracles are are
worthy of recollection.
So, if the sukkas recall the clouds,
then they were recall something
extraordinary that Hashem did for us.
The clouds protected us, they made the
traveling easy,
they saved us from danger, and they
miracles are well worthy of
recollection. But, if the sukkas only
recall the huts that we built for
ourselves when we traveled through the
desert, what's the big deal? Why in the
world are we, you know, making a whole
big deal out of it?
There's nothing there. Like, what's
Every one of us, you know, you live in a
house, right? You don't live in the
street, right?
And so, what are we recalling?
And so, what developed the answer? So,
the answer is, he says,
"That's worthy of
Right, but that the answer is is also
worthy of focus. You know, sometimes
it's really important to remember the
great things that Hashem does for us.
That motivates us to be good from Jews.
But, sometimes we have to recall the
great things that we do for ourselves to
remind ourselves that we have the power
to grow, we have the power to be great,
we have the power to accomplish.
So, you know, people everyone every
person in his life such as life will go
through a mishbar. It's going to be a
period when you're down, whether it's
economically or socially, every one of
us is going to have a moment when we're
just not together, right? When things
are really down, when things aren't
good. At a moment like that, what do you
have to do? You have to look back and
remind yourself of the great things that
you accomplished. Welcome back, okay?
So, the answer is it's a very beautiful
and it's very correct.
Um both are really true. The idea that
the sukkas recall the clouds, the
miracles that Hashem did for us, for
sure that's true. We have to recall the
Nisan that God has brought for us, for
us, and that's a mainstay of of of
Yiddishkeit, right? Um after till Pesach
and Pesach and of course we recall that.
And Matan Torah, we recall uh God has
brought for us and the miracles and and
and it's something well worth a
recollection. But we also have to remind
ourselves that we have capability,
right? So, when we were in Yeshiva, we
learned a lot. We left, you know, we
slid a little bit. When we got married,
the relationship was really good. That's
why we married the person. 20 years
later, you know, sometimes, you know,
things aren't quite what they they were.
But we have to remind ourselves that
once things were really good. And if
they were really good, maybe they can be
good again. So, um sometimes we remind
ourselves not about what God has brought
for us, for us, but what of what we can
do. That's really important, too. That's
the actual Okay?
And that's the starting point for
tonight's discussion. I want to focus on
the idea that Sukkot are huts. I want to
focus on the fact that we remind
ourselves of the huts that we built when
we were in the desert.
And I want to focus on the fact that who
says what. Rabbi Akiva, at least
according to the Bavli, the Mekhilta
says the opposite. But at least
according to the Bavli, Rabbi Akiva is
the one who tells us that the objective
of Sukkot is to recall our homes, the
homes we built for ourselves. Rabbi
Shmuel says the objective of Sukkot
I'm sorry, Rabbi Eliezer. Rabbi Eliezer
says the objective of Sukkot is to
recall the clouds that God has brought
for us who gave us. But Rabbi Akiva is
actually much more pragmatic. And you
should know this is a very important
argument. It has a halakhic nafka mina.
They will say, "What's the halakha?
Halakha is you just sit in the sukkah."
I mean, it recalls this, it recalls
that. So, there's actually a very famous
Bach. You know, there's a great debate
about you do a mitzvah with kavana,
without kavana doesn't work, does it not
work? Mitzvot
kavana, mitzvot lo tzerikhin kavana. But
even if mitzvot tzerikhin kavana, what
does kavana mean?
Kavana means that you're doing it
because God has brought for you
commanding you to do. You're doing it
because you want to do a mitzvah,
because you want to connect with God's
who commanded you. That's all you have
to have in mind for.
But does anyone recall the by Sukkot? By
Sukkot you're supposed to sit in Sukkot.
And what does the tell you?
Anyone
recall that very enigmatic Sukkot? So
that all generations should remember
so that all generations should remember
key Sukkot shaft
Israel would see me in Israel.
You know what the does with that Sukkot?
Very important not a very well known but
that really has significance.
He says you can have all types of
debates about whether
God is going to do Sukkot or not. Sukkot
for sure needs
because the tells you sit in the Sukkot
so that you know.
So that you know. So by Sukkot is is an
absolute. But then the goes a step
further. Not only do you have to have
for the mitzvah. The says what does the
tell you you have to have for? Not just
God
to remember what happened when we left
Egypt.
Well what are you supposed to remember?
The clouds or the huts?
So this argument keep both in mind.
Okay, you don't lose anything.
But this argument between Akiva as to
whether the Sukkot recalls Sukkot
mamesh.
Whether the Sukkot recall the clouds has
repercussions because according to Akiva
when you sit in the Sukkot you have to
have
and not just that you're doing a mitzvah
but why you're doing the mitzvah? You're
doing the mitzvah to recall what
did for us. What did he do for us? He
gave us the power to do for ourselves to
build our own huts. You have to recall
the huts you built for yourself.
According to Eliezer you have to recall
the
but there's a
difference. Now of course you can keep
both in mind and that would be great.
The actually says there are a number of
mitzvahs where you actually have to have
specific Havana.
>> Is there any mention of
in and the Ananiah covered?
>> In the pasuk? So, that could be the
pasuk. So, let's go through the pasuk.
You're raising a good point, Elazar.
What is the pasuk? L'man yed'u
doroseichem ki um um ki b'sukkos
hoshivti es B'nei Yisrael b'hotzi'i osam
mei'eretz Mitzrayim. So, that your
generation should remember that people
sat in sukkos when they left Egypt.
Well, what are those sukkos? Those
sukkos can be the little huts we build.
Those sukkos could be the clouds that
provided s'chach. That's the argument
between Rabbi Eliezer and Rabbi and
Rabbi Akiva.
>> So, you're saying the Ananiah covered
acted as the s'chach?
>> Uh they they were like a greater
s'chach. We had individual houses.
People didn't sleep in the street.
Remember, there were husbands and wives
and families, men and women. I mean, we
couldn't all sleep in out in the open.
Um people need some level of privacy,
right? People bathe, people people do
things privately, right? So, people had
their own little huts. They had they had
their own little daladalas. Um but in
addition to the little daladalas, the
pasuk is very explicit in telling you
that they also had clouds protecting
them. And the argument is, what is the
focal point of sukkos? Is it the cloud?
Is it the hut? If it's the cloud, it's
recalling what Hakadosh Baruch Hu does
for us. If it's the hut, it's recalling
the great things that we sometimes do.
And people forget that. People forget.
If God forbid a husband and wife have a
disagreement and and something, you
know, that shouldn't be said is said,
they forget that, you know,
2 minutes ago everything was fine. So,
you have to remember the good things,
right? Um if a person's going through a
bad time in his business, he has to
remember that, you know, it worked. I'm
going to keep, you know, pedal to the
metal to sort of carry it through. You
have to remember the good times. That
helps you get through the bad times.
Right? So, either you recall or or you
have to remember what Hakadosh Baruch Hu
does for you because that builds emunah.
But that's Rabbi Eliezer and Rabbi
Akiva's argument. What is the focal
point of sukkos? Reminding yourself of
your own strengths to sort of build
yourself up, reminding you of what
Hakadosh Baruch Hu does for you to make
you more of a mind man, to make you, you
know, more of an
but both are important because a person
can be, you know, an good person unless
he believes in himself and knows that he
can do good things. So, you have to
remind yourself of both.
But that's really just the starting
point. What I'd like to segue into, and
this is
it's a little bit more of emotional but
it it it's important.
Who says what? What does
say? What does say? Remind me again.
>> says
>> I keep saying
what does say you know
what does
cuz it's a little here
arguing with his versus say. Um
>> says
>> Right. So, says
Why is
the one that says Is there anything Is
there anything subconscious here? Is
there anything motivating him?
is the home.
What do you know about home?
>> Very simple.
>> Very simple home. He wasn't
>> wealthy.
>> He didn't start. Eventually, it seems he
found great wealth. But if there's one
thing that
um
one thing that
is renowned for,
he had an extraordinary relationship
with his wife.
And you really don't you know you don't
find statements like this. There are
beautiful and I want to go through these
cuz they really talk about you know a
really a deep emotional relationship
where people connected with one another.
I mean the I mean the line that that I
think that is well known. I actually use
that
for the right?
Right? That is the
that he spoke to his students that what
I've accomplished what you've
accomplished
is is because of her, right? That's it's
a beautiful statement about you know how
a husband recognizes what his wife did
for him. And the truth is the story is
an extraordinary story.
You know, it's difficult to envision,
right? I've got kids getting married
now, right? I may I got a bunch of kids
that are married. You know, you have a
shotgun and they date and they this and
they that an X number of times and the
kiss in the street is all this number of
times and the Shiva's rule is this
number of times. Bal Shabbat's rule is
this number of times, but it's all um
Rebbe Akiva and Rachel met, right? They
met on their own and clearly she was not
meant to met to meet to to um interact
with a man like him. She was the
daughter of one of the wealthiest men in
Jerusalem. Her father is pegged as one
of the three wealthiest men in
Jerusalem. Rebbe Akiva was a shepherd on
their land. They met and a relationship
developed and and and
they married like well, against her
parents' wishes.
And they lived in abject poverty.
And there are these beautiful Gemaras
that throughout it all he was there for
her and she was there for him. And go
through the Gemaras. The Gemaras tell
you Gemaras and Midrashim that they were
so poor that they would sleep in a barn
and in the morning he would pull the
straw out of her here and he would tell
her, "Well, one day it's going to be
better and one day I'll buy you a golden
crown." And they were so poor that they
really had nothing and one day Hakadosh
Baruchu sent them a messenger where a
woman didn't even have straw for her
baby to sort of create a crib and Rebbe
Akiva told her Rachel, "Well, at least
we have straw." And and it's really a
beautiful story of a woman being most
nervous for her husband,
letting him leave for many many years to
learn and then building him up. He he
really had been nothing. He had been
illiterate, right? Hazal in a number of
places paint him as man who was
absolutely illiterate. And he goes to
Yeshiva at an advanced age and she
builds him up.
You have these beautiful stories, but
then you have more Gemaras where again
and again Rebbe Akiva talks about a
husband's responsibility to his wife.
And it's very important to know
different people
You you you don't need to be very
Freudian. The reality is when people
talk about something, that's where their
heart is, right? So, if a person is
always making bad jokes about a
mother-in-law, it means it's not a good
relationship. That's what he's really
telling you. If a person's always making
bad jokes about about marriage, it means
the marriage is not so good. Otherwise,
you wouldn't make these jokes, right?
You know, the heart comes out when
people speak. Um Rebbe Akiva always
always um
said wonderful things about women and
about marriage and about a husband's
responsibility to his wife.
Throughout Chazal, you won't find a
story like this where a woman was so
devoted to her husband and her husband
reciprocated so much. And I want to see
these Gemaras together, and then I want
to go back to Rebbe Akiva. But look at
these Gemaras. These are Gemaras you
know.
So, some of them talk about um you know,
what a good life is. How do you define a
good life? How do you define a good
life? What is a good life? Wealth, fame,
health, um family. What is it? Um um
learning, sipa kanefesh, good davening,
chevre, just believing in yourself,
being comfortable with yourself. What is
a good life? So, um um what is Rebbe So,
there's a whole range, okay? Um it
wealth doesn't really get you very far,
okay? So, what does the Gemara tell?
Turn to Rabban 6.
Rebbe
Meir says, if if you come to terms with
what you have, and the truth is, if a
person is yeshli me'ah, writes him a
sign. A person will never be satisfied
if
>> That's his motivation. That's his
motivation as well.
>> What? Um same idea. Same basic idea. So,
coming to you know, coming to terms with
your lot in life. And I don't think it's
just wealth. It means just lot in life.
Where you are socially, where you are
health. This is what I have. This is
what I'm gaining.
But what does Rebbe Akiva say? Okay?
Okay? Um some of them is Rebbe Look at
the end. Rebbe Akiva at the end.
Someone has a bathroom close to his
home. We just remember how lucky we are
to live in the time that we live.
>> I love it.
>> Right, let's not focus on What does
Rabbi Akiva say?
Rabbi Akiva's order talks about the
marriage.
Others talk about, you know, seeking and
having finding meaning,
health, hygiene, you know, just the
basic standard of living. He says if,
you know, if a person has a good
marriage, he's married to a good woman,
that's everything. That really defines
life.
And I will tell you, it's not the only
statement from Rabbi Akiva's throughout
throughout Rabbi Akiva talk about how a
person has to be much have the yes and
good fight about a husband's
responsibility to his wife. And it's
because he understood what a woman can
do for a man because Rachel had really
been there for him. Look at the story.
Look at the
The you you've come across because I
mean it's it's just it's the Look,
seven. Rabbi Akiva.
She became engaged to him and clearly
against her father's wishes, right?
Seven at the bottom. Shimon bar
He heard that his his daughter was
engaged to an illiterate shepherd who
had worked for him. He wasn't interested
in this for his daughter.
He cut her off. He cut her off. He
disinherited her. Oddly is doesn't make
a difference. She married him
nonetheless. So, it's really
interesting. Kiddushin is the first
step. So, she committed. I guess it's
sort of like engagement. Kiddushin is
more than an engagement. Translating as
engagement is incorrect. But kiddushin
means you're not living together as
husband and wife. It means there's a
commitment.
Doesn't make a difference. She was
committed to him. She married him
anyway. Okay.
And and then the Gamara talks about the
the
like in modern Israel, stuff is really
full. That meant the winter when the
rainy season. How are they going to be
They slept in a barn on on straw. And
this was this was a woman of wealth who
was used to luxury. How would he
He would pull the straw out of her hair.
I'm going to say I have
I would give you
I would give you a golden crown. And
eventually tells us that he did buy his
wife a golden crown. And it's
interesting. The wives of the other tell
me to come said well, we also want that.
And they And these rabbis told their
wives, well, you didn't do what she did,
so you don't deserve it. Okay. As you
lay out, and then the Gamora goes and
tells us that um I guess they were in
such a high level that um Elio came in
to carry a burden. Um Elio came I'm
going to say I have a little burden to
carry now. The oldest because I um
there's a little baby who needs straw
just sort of make them feel good someone
poorer than them.
Okay.
Um
Um and and Rabbi Akiva used this to
comfort her, okay? Um let's continue.
Now, they're absolutely Really, they're
a
They're absolutely destitute. But still
she said, I believe in you. I want you
to become more. I want you to learn. And
this of course the famous Gamora which
he sent them away for many years to
learn. Khazik out, where are we? The end
of the um seven, middle of last line.
I'm going to lay out heavily be rough.
Also, he went go learn. He went um many
years I mean the Gamora starts about how
many years, but many years he learned.
Um she lived in abject poverty. And then
finally came back and there's a whole
crowd greeting him. And she's at the
edge somewhere. And and people don't
want to let her get through because he's
a great Rabbi Akiva and she's some
beggar woman. Until finally he makes the
announcement of course she'll leave her
and show her what's mine and and yours
all goes back to her. Okay.
>> Where were her parents all
>> So the beautiful story is
>> They have a baby alone in the baby
starved to death out of straw.
>> I It got
>> freezing
>> It's a good question.
>> Family fights get very bad, right? Never
be part of a family fight because they
just go from bad to worse. Um people
Um So in the end they reconciled. In the
end um he comes back and Kabbalistic
will hear about the great person he
became and he said, really I I I made a
mistake. And he and and everything is
good. Um but there was there were years
of
>> the time that the baby was starving?
>> Yeah, but people but people sometimes,
you know, if the shidduch is not
possible, people will do all types of
interesting things.
What?
>> You can't exactly blame college rules.
>> Right.
Right. Well,
>> It's a It's a grand trial.
>> Yeah.
>> is married to a farmer. He's the richest
person in Shiloh, I mean.
>> Right. Right.
And right. So, it it matters which
world. In a very structured world, in
the less structured world, it's her
life.
Right. Right.
In the end,
it works it works out well. In the end,
it works out well. There's peace, but
there's a lot of suffering along the
way.
And and the And the Gamorah continue
with this, okay?
Um
Okay. Um
Let's go to the bottom, okay?
Ben Azai
Okay. Halakha
This is These are Gamorahs that you
know. He began learning at 40 and
eventually became the great person he
became.
Now, let's let's But let's see where
this goes, okay?
Now, he didn't just
achieve success in learning. It seemed
he achieved material success also. Ben
Azai
So, he
learned for 13 years. Again, there are
different about how many years he was
away. That's a very difficult story for
us to away from his wife for so long.
Um eventually there was material success
also. And then, of course,
Mhm?
>> Did she have contact with him like he
sent her money?
>> So, it's it's a little
>> She knew he was coming. She sent him
money.
>> So, it's a difficult This is where
sometimes it's hard for me to read these
stories literally because the simple
reading of the Gamorah that we saw
before in the Daram is that she was in
absolute poverty. He was away for many
years. He comes back and she sends him
away. It's a very difficult story to
read literally.
>> She didn't send her a check. He just
sent her
>> Right. It's a very
>> Her husband has a responsibility to
support her as well.
>> Right. Right. So, again
>> Rabbi Akiva you're talking about.
>> Right.
>> He came back and she was still sleeping
in the straw.
>> Right. So, that's why I I for one, I
mean, it's your first time here. I'm not
such a literalist about these Gemaras
because it doesn't really reflect well
on Rabbi Akiva. I mean, you have a
responsibility to your wife and your
child. So, um it might just mean it
might just be a metaphor for a serious
never. One way to literally, I think
that's how it's taught.
But it it it it's a little bit difficult
to see the great Rabbi Akiva doing this
who's so sensitive to his wife.
Where am I going here?
Um let's go back to original discussion.
What does Rabbi Akiva say?
>> Actual Sukkah.
>> And what is he really saying?
He's saying, of course of course you
have to appreciate the good things that
Hakadosh Baruch Hu does for you.
But you can't be so focused on the
clouds that you're not living down in
this world also.
Why does Rabbi Akiva say Sukkah's
Mamesh? Rabbi Akiva had the most
extraordinary relationships and the most
extraordinary of homes. And so, Rabbi
Akiva, who lived in a world of such
beautiful marital bliss, who understood
how beautiful a home is, uh says
Sukkah's isn't just about focusing on
Hakadosh Baruch Hu.
Focus on your home. That's part of the
message. Sukkah's about making your home
a special home. You can walk away from
Yitziat Mitzrayim with two messages. One
message can be a message about what
Hakadosh Baruch Hu does for us. For
sure, we have to remember that. One
message can be a message about the type
of home that we can build. And that's
another message. Rabbi Akiva says,
Sukkah's make that your message. And the
truth is it makes a lot of sense. Look
at the order of the Yom Tayvim. You have
Pesach, Yitziat Mitzrayim, Hakadosh
Baruch Hu took us out of Mitzrayim. Then
we have Kabbalat Torah. But what do we
do with that? We have freedom, we have
Torah, but what do we do with all of
that freedom, that Torah? We go ahead
and we create good homes and we create
good societies. Rabbi Akiva is the one
who says Sukkah's Mamesh because Rabbi
Akiva is the one who really had a
beautiful sukkah.
Maybe. Maybe it's an idea.
>> He was also the
I don't know if you want to call him the
author, but the oral Torah comes from
him.
>> Right. Again.
>> No, but my point is that the oral Torah
stands on Rebbe Akiva.
Without Rebbe Akiva, you can't have the
oral Torah.
>> So, I could
>> His point was
>> I think that's a great connection.
>> why
>> I think it is a great
I I think there is a I think he's making
an amazing connection. I think if a
person builds a good relationship with
his wife, but a really solid, deep,
loving relationship with his wife, he
learns how to love other people and
connect with other people. And and that,
you know, once once you do that in the
house, it's easier to do that with other
people.
Now, again, they're separate re
>> That's exactly my question on the
possuk. Am I right that there is a hint
to the sukkos and shabbos? Also, Hashem
is telling you, this is a good story of
Rebbe Akiva, beautiful metaphor.
>> It could be drush. I don't know that
it's still Right.
Right. And I I prefaced today by saying
today's drush because I think it's an
important message. But you do
>> The signs said
>> What?
>> The signs said that
Why it said it.
>> Right. So, every once in a while, it's
regular drush. Um sometimes it's
academic, but it's yontif, and every
once in a while, we need regular drush.
I think that there's a powerful message
here, though. I don't know if it's the
true reason Rebbe Akiva and um Rebbe
Eliezer are arguing.
But you could You know, Rebbe Eliezer
ben Hurkanus was famous for saying um
Drush is Drush is not telling you what
the possuk means. Of course not. But
good drush is is that you're hanging
your idea on the possuk, and you're not
violating the integrity of the text.
So, Rebbe Akiva says, sukkas mamash.
Rebbe Eliezer says,
ananei hakavod. That is the focal point
of what you're supposed to recall. I'm
using that as an excuse to segue into
something that I need to tell myself,
and that I think we all need to hear.
That of course So have to focus on what
Hashem does for us in not relation to
the other part of But we have to focus
on the people around us. And and the
most important people around us are the
people that are inside our home. To sort
of value that. And um and and that's
where where all of us I speak for myself
make the most mistakes. Because because
that's you know that's where people are
likely to make mistakes the way we said
at home. And so Rabbi Akiva
travel throughout Chazal Machabei
Yismekhu Fui Isha Na'ava Me'aseh. Again
and again and again um you have these
stories and there are many others of
Rabbi Akiva really um um appreciating a
woman and extending himself for perhaps
because you know Rachel began by giving
so much of herself and Rabbi Akiva
reciprocated.
>> It's an interesting point to just all
this come together. It's really the
primary advice and you learn this one
said this this one said that. And if you
dig in and you look review their life,
you can always find a connection to what
was going on during their time.
And you see the connection right there.
>> I agree absolutely. Abs
>> very well, right?
>> And you will see it's um people what
people say are formed by their historic
period, their economic reality, their
home relationship, their relationship
with their wife. Sometimes it'll come
through and you will see see the Gemara
it's very different. You know
the contemporary publications um
um
>> Shalom.
>> What why not? You know we finished the
shiur, right? Yeah.
>> Good point.
>> Right and right. So I I think the
community is actually more relaxed about
it now. I think I mean cuz they lost the
battle. The
don't work.
Um the just increase sales. I think the
community is is a little bit more
relaxed about it. It's bigger.
But the Gemara's it and if Rabbi Akiva
has chosen really to be the paradigm of
good marriage, he was probably the one
who had the most ideal of marriages.
And it
>> Rabbi Eliezer Rabbi Eliezer Rabbi
Eliezer was saying basically that yes,
the ultimate thing is the clouds Hashem
to serve Hashem. But before you can
serve Hashem, you have to remember that
you're an ordinary person and you have
to have respect for your peers.
So Rabbi Akiva is basically saying yes,
it's
of course it's the idea,
but we are human and it took us moments
because that's the that's the ladder.
You have to
There's a way to climb up. You can't
jump to the top.
>> Right.
>> Anything
>> to the clouds. You got to first remember
you're human first.
>> They think that should be the focal
point that should be the avoid of
Sukkot.
The avoid of Sukkot is to um
to focus on family
and to start with the wife or spouse.
>> I think this goes back to what
I'm I'm I'm your theory like you're
saying they had huts. I think that's
exactly what they're saying. Built in
houses.
>> Right.
>> Could mean a home but a house that
>> Right. Right. Right. Right.
>> It's not a physical. It's a
>> But the focal point is the human. The
focal point is the human rather than the
divine. According to Rabbi Eleazar, the
focal point is the divine. According to
Rabbi Akiva, the focal point is the
human.
And again, a human is all relationships,
but with Rabbi Akiva, there's a special
place that a wife has.
And that's something that emerges from
those Gemaras and that I think goes back
to our point here.
>> Who's asking about the story on the
clouds? That the huts were
the clouds were each individual each
individual Sukkot had a had had cloud
material around
>> know that. I don't know that I would
assume that. I don't know that I would
assume that. No, I mean there's
It says there was one host and there was
a cloud that led them. And then in the
world of Midrash
>> each individual house had like
>> I don't
In the world of Midrash, there's a cloud
below that flattened the land, but even
that's Midrash.
Right. But but even that is Midrash.
That's not explicit.
Right.
Okay.
>> Basically
in
>> in in a nutshell, one word. Well, two
words kind of.
Shown bias.
>> Yeah. Yeah. Yeah, and it's a it's a
It's not always so simple. Yes, and
before you go
>> Okay.
>> Yeah. Yeah.
>> see you Tuesday morning.