Timely Shailos Relating to Bochurim and Yungerleit with Rabbi Yosef Viener at Scheiner’s Shul

Hey, you're good. Okay, as always, besides all the leftover shilas from last time, so I managed to uh get a clean copy about 45 minutes ago. So, we're going to try to go through some of them and keep in mind we usually get to everything sooner or later depending on the Zman of the year and some of them are very big sugas which we're going to do very big. So, if there's something that's not explained or left out, please make a note of it and don't assume we covered everything. Uh let's start with what I just received and a lot of them rightfully so are going to be to uh keep it issues and of the parents on their which is not your responsibility but we'll start with the first one because it is after Pesak and apparently it came up my grandfather's makid on Gabra My father went to a lit yes was not makid what should I do so I'm not sure who's asking this I mean sounds like the third dur who's uh at home and I'm not sure where the father is because he asked his father already rashus to change the mig And I uh my first adim was on my uh background and uh his grandfather was wearing a stria and his father wasn't even wearing a gart. So I turned to the zen and I said what happened? He said I uh sent him to uh Philly and learned empaic and uh so I said so you were masked to that he said yeah it comes and he learned very well about a very fine bent very happy with the product what's the den this is surprising to a lot of people and don't quote this out of context it's always a good idea to follow the family been hugging as is clear in the and Ramsha says this invo about the clothing that mig in terms of the is really more a function of mockum than it is family now in the olden days till uh 100 years ago 200 years ago it was the same thing people didn't move around and they you were in they were there for hundreds of years and that's what they were so min was the mig of the nowadays that's not the case and everybody's moving around constantly and people are learning a different yes but clearly different men hug him. So, I don't know what the case is and sort of um I don't want to say I'm walking into a minefield, but uh if whoever wrote this down can see me afterwards because I'm not sure. So, I'm not sure. The father already checked it out with the zeda and he was okay with it and your father is eating a brook. That means that he's okay with you doing that and the zed is already masked. If not, again, it's not your problem. Then there's an issue of doing something that's annoying to a parent in front of a parent. Nothing to do with the actual sh of a minig. If he went to different yeshivas and he was in yeshiva for many years and he was in Ka and he's in that's Ashkanaz and they're doing it then he's not technically being on anything but there's no reason they're are not that important and we have plenty to eat and uh you look around today with the zanthan gum which was a different tomalt nobody asked that because I wouldn't have an hour reach nuda and the uh tapioca and the potato flour and all the things that we're assuming are the finished product doesn't look like it should be under the is of kidney and no one's eating a brook leaves we have plenty to eat and it looks like cake and cookies and plenty of nachos so it doesn't come up as much and I technically eat a brooks I I haven't in years because you take uh them from here and from there you're going to have people who are not then yes and the rabbitson wants to cook. So it usually becomes a very uh mood point. So I am not that misha to the canal in the first place. Lisa here it's a question of sensitivities. It's not a question of the midig. The father already is and the son has every right to follow that and he's in the same type of yeshiva. So it's not what the zed was doing and the zed does mind then that should have been checked out beforehand and better late than never. But it's really more sensitivities of a keep it of an aim issue. Uh the gdarium we covered this last time but it is spherous. So I'll just touch upon it quickly. Some of them I'm going to do quickly uh because we um covered some of it before important to Kazer but for a minute or two and some of them are uh going to need more of a uh elaboration of mara. So the gdarm for listening to ac cappella. So when you mix voices and tracks and using computer fancy software and the like that's instruments not the instruments they had then you're using instruments to make it uh sound better. So there those t know that therefore that should be also let me see it's hard to be m somebody's asking should they be mafir listen to I don't know did they have available anybody vocalist any singing is that blal available they're always mixing tracks it is available still just a plain voice nice voice singing so that's certainly a hra everything else is using modern day instruments and that might defeat the whole concept that might sound better than anything with instruments in the fader. With that said, you can't be there is a that if it's not live, it's not live. Not saying you should go with that, but in terms of you're in a car and you tell him, I have something better here. Can you plug this in? And he's >> musical instruments also that were mixed with the computer. The same thing. >> Uh yeah, it's all simulating the same and and they're and they're very good at it. That's why it sounds so good. I'm saying I'm saying today's musical instruments also on a >> onad that it's not live there is suchad I'm not we have full disclosure over here whenever we discuss this so you can't being something means you're making tiny the person has nothing to be on that's um that's difficult to say well many we don't listen to recorded music who had difficulty with explaining why we're listening to music all year round and it is difficult to explain based on other he said at least in three weeks you don't have to listen that's where it comes from and for good reason so that became the mig and now within that mig we keep on trying to reduce uh what's a certain increase what's available and they have very fancy ways of simulating all that and there's definitely to stick to just voice but those are the uh those are the tom how can you be das you witness is someone doing something that's clearly an obviously user as opposed to what we said before maybe they have so one side is maybe you don't know everything and there's a best way to do it but kits comes up many times a day so it's important to get used to it because there's somebody's down so it's not a small thing it's ser if you're not doing it and you're always looking down the easiest est best way to do it which requires an imagination sometimes but not a big imagination. It's just uh setting in your mind that this is the shot when you don't have any other information is that you're not ding whether it's user or not and you don't have to become and what you hold is user and you can remain and still you could dash that he didn't get the education you got and he doesn't have the same and he didn't see the right way to do it the better way to do it and he grew up like that and therefore he really doesn't know any better and even though he heard it he thinks that it's really overdone and it's not that uh not that bad and that usually is the case. Now that's not the is not making it correct and it's still being done on what you're looking at that he's not a bad guy and then that doesn't mean you have to condone it doesn't mean you have to start doing it that if he's doing it he's such a good guy there's room to be make all that that far you don't have to go that would be the uh if you could internalize that and that'll be the uh because the dean is a very quick reaction in your mind. So if you're not trained for this, you're going to be down the and then to start backtracking, it's hard to erase that. So that has to be a general hashkaf. It's a way to see good in people and also way to stay clear that you're not starting to be you should be acting like that and that it's a good head for you and that's not a not a steer between the two. Similar on So as we mentioned in this um has to be emphasized because otherwise we're uh getting rid of a which u is a big problem. There's no uh no Indian that doesn't apply today unless it's related. There are those who think in China that I'm not perfect and therefore I can't bring anything up. That's clearly not true because no one was ever perfect and if there's or general caring about people after it's obvious that you don't have to wait till you're perfect. That's push. With that said, if you're the worst at this m giving the shush and shouldn't be the biggest talker, that's also push because it's not going to work. And then they're going to start saying, "Well, who are you to bring this up?" So there it does apply. Get somebody else's better at it. If you're the only person standing there and you're really aver and you care about him or you don't know him that well, but he's causing the mat to become then you have a to say something. The best way practically is to disarm the person. So right away he's going to say, "Who are you? You're not so better than me and I heard from my that there's no today." which is not true. Um even though many people have told me that either it's not true was misunderstood or it's misaid the ber himself might be the best or the worst person to do it. Often the friends have the biggest quite often they don't realize it and if not then you somehow manage to get one of the to speak about it and then the person hopefully will be there but you can't ignore it. It's a sak for you if you're hanging around with those people and it's a sak for them and if you really care about them then you should be saying something even without the and basic before you get to the actual so the best way to diffuse it is to start off saying and it's the truth I'm not that good at it I'm not claiming to be better than you I'm not claiming to be firmer than you and I actually struggle with this and it's minus also can we work on this together maybe I'll be usually believe that works wonders because as soon as you say that he's not going to get all insulted and if he still gets insulted there's nothing you could do. He'll say really you I didn't you know I I'm not so great at it and he's he's going to start acting like uh with Anivas also and then you talk working it together you're probably not perfect at it and then you uh took the personal attack out of the mat and you stole Mim. It comes up with and jiva wherever you are. It comes up many times a day and it's a way to really help people grow and you'll end up gaining from it. Also also in this suga uh this already gets involved in an isser and that's why I'm it's going to sound like there's a big koola. Somebody sees a cigarette lying around can he throw it out without reimbursing the owner? Not only can he not throw it out without reimbursing the owner, he can't throw it out in the first place. You can't do geneva to I was talking over y about the zah that talks about being mashlin the rama to do all the mitzvah once and why people try to do so somebody raised their hand and said how about hazela I said not that one and um get and all the there are short list of things that you really don't have to try to get yourself in the mat obviously and this is do I have to pay him back do I have take it, pay it back. You can't take it. And uh if you do, you'd have to pay him back. And uh the reason is not uh condoning smoking or vaping or anything else. The reason is because the tsad that Rah Misha, who was not happy about talking about the cigarettes, said you can't is because even with the mounting evidence that they had that, and we have more now, it's hard to point to one cigarette. And maybe this is his one cigarette that he smokes on perm even though that's not a good idea because as we all know it gets you started. So last time I mentioned that to somebody he said it was in um tavves or it was an avo perm and he saved it up. You going to start micromanaging that he uh he has one a month but that's not going to not going to do anything and that's not going to it's very hard to say that's user. And the same thing with the vaping which was supposed to be solving people had a bad habit called smoking and now they have this thing people put under their gums. I know this because before pes last year and this year is even more which isn't very comforting. Uh they um they want to know is it a kasha pes. So he had to explain to me what it was. I heard about it but until he showed me. So he said, "No, this is for the purpose of quitting smoking and vaping and just a nicotine withdrawal and it's not to get to anybody here, but if you you might know somebody that you put it onto your uh gum and it just sits there and hopefully does not impede your brochas and daving. You can't talk with anything. You can't do with anything in your mouth." I'm not sure what they do with that. You wouldn't say bro with chewing gum in your mouth, I hope, or davin or learn unless it's not interrupting. So as I was explaining that to him, just as an aside, you got to be careful. Use it. He said, "No, no, no. I have it in now as I'm talking." I said, "That's pretty good. I didn't notice it." So I guess it wasn't impeding his speech. I don't know. Doing if you feel it, not so. But that wasn't his pes. I said, "It needs a ha all year round." After he explained to me what it does, I said, "Does it have flavoring?" He said, "Yeah, some of them are pretty good, and there's a whole assortment of flavors." I said, "Where the flavors go?" So he didn't say correctly. So he says doesn't go into your gum. The nicotine goes into the system right away. That's why it's by the gums. The other stuff mixes in your mouth and you swallow it. I said real flavors. He said yeah. I said well it requires a all year round on pes and you have to make a braha. He said a braha. I said chewing gum. You have to make a bra. There's always one guy in the crowd who didn't know you have to make a braha and chewing gum. I'm not sure why, but it's always good to start with that. The less montapoli they put flavors, whether it's natural, whether it's not natural, and this thing is the same thing. And you you're swallowing flavors. I I happen to hold that the Listerine strip does not require a braha. Maybe it depends on the flavor, maybe it depends on the person. That's an overpowering thing that if you have five of them, you'd gag. And it doesn't taste good. I interviewed this fellow for a few minutes. He said, "No, no, no. It just sits there. It's a slow drip and it tastes very good." Besides the my nicotine that's going to get me off this whole habit so I can get back to normal and not need any of this stuff and not be dependent on any substance and just live my life. That's the goal I hope. But he said in the meanwhile I said in the meanwhile you should make a bra and you should make sure it has a hea and he told me there is a company of the so you should have all year round and I hope it's not anybody but if you bump it to somebody who it is no to and you see that he put in his mouth and not make you bring up that I struggle with this also it's going to sound funny over there either you do struggle with it or you don't I mean you go you said you do you have one of these no but in theory I would struggle with it and if you could help me uh do this it requires a len And um that's part and the there are those of China they have the same gishmach from the lististerine things then the taco wouldn't need a braha and the also on a tinus and a tinus I wouldn't take a chance anyway but certainly not on tisham kipper and with this thing if it has slavering it's going to be an obvious problem so I guess the good news is people are trying to move away from everything and solve the problem until we get there it seems to be creating uh other issues and Um, apparently people are using it. I was more than surprised by the end of the conversation when he said he actually had it now and he walks around with it. Um, but he said hopefully it's going to do the trick. If my only ride home, this is all in the same suga or if you're a lot of parents listen to this year. I found out from the shy every six months on time. So it's like to everybody who lives on earth and is murus which we try to be and try to figure out how do you stay mrias without making too many enemies keeping some of your friends but standing up for what's right and protecting your that's one paragraph tall order but doable. So now you understand why this next question. My only ride home from yeshiva is with a bal lashian hur. Should I take the ride? I assume if he knows he's a bal lash that means he got a ride from him a couple times before and he tried the obvious steps. What do you do if somebody comes over to you in the med? Hopefully it's not the best mish and he starts talking. The first thing you do if it's really a close friend you say can we discuss something else I don't talk but if you don't know the guy I understand people get funny they don't want to start giving mus the first time they meet somebody so you try to change the subject which if you're quick in your mind and your is very possible you switch it to something very good and interesting and juicy that's not lush and usually people don't focus that long and they'll uh get off track if that doesn't work then if you already started hearing some of it then you have to start to flip it and say a good commentary on why the person wasn't wrong or it's not lashar you have to try to make it good so I'm assuming whoever asked this has been with this guy a few times getting a ride home from yeshiva he tried A tried B tried C and the guy is such a entrenched bal that nothing works and he just wants to he has his 10 minutes of that he gives people rides and he fills the car with lush and horror for all 10 minutes. That's his to the world. And that's just the way he's built. So, can you take the ride home? The answer clearly is no because you're not going to be able to flip it because most people in the hill all of a sudden they're have great amuna and the person who's saying it, they didn't make it up. It's very hard to dislodge it from your head. And if you try to change the subject and the guy wants to say what he wants to say and doesn't want to listen, he wants to talk. So, you can't hang around with somebody like that who's muk. That's push. There are people like that unfortunately who never never got rid of the habit. They should have a patch in the mouth for that. They have a slow drip to able to I don't know maybe they can invent something like that. That would be a good idea. Uh but there are people like that Nebul. So if you're not making any headway, you don't want to get into a fight with him. You can't take the ride home from Yeshiva. I assume whoever asked this is talking about an intown yeshiva where it's a 5 10-minute ride. He's not in a yeshiva in Anchorage, Alaska where this the last car out. He's been stranded there forever. Uh even if so, Bobby still loves her. You'll catch the next propeller jet out and um for whatever reason you're there, you can't be on a mat where uh people are forcing Kaza down your throat. That's really what's going on. So, uh usually there's a there's a way around it. Uh this is Lifene in the other direction. May I delay paying up a friend because I need the money I have for another need. So again, if you're the bala sha over here, you can weigh in on what you mean. But keep in mind per the it's really to loan money any amount of money without either or most people don't do it because nobody has a pen in them anymore. Nobody has paper and you just want a dollar. you want a dollar or two, whatever you want to buy a Coke and um somebody asked me over Pes what if the guy in wants to buy a diet coke I said it's not ne this what to be whether you drink it or not it's a few times over and there are but it's to give the money if you want it back so in the when people used to borrow quarters that wasn't that long ago I don't think um is a quarter even a shut today something they could buy something. Can you buy anything with a quarter today? >> No, doesn't sound right. Quarter machine. >> You're making faces. What? >> Buy something at a machine like >> a gumball. >> Do they sell those things? They have uh used to be just in the dentist office for free. Uh so uh so okay it you have to figure out what but when it was a quarter people buying quarters all the time it was in the base in the middle of a sugging find somebody and get them and so uh what I used to do which was no great uh generosity on my part especially probably my parents' money uh is but they they wouldn't mind if I'd asked them is that here's the quarter I'd like it back if you happen not to remember I'm afra not clear whe that works or not but it there are a hold that it works the as why even then no one was doing it and Europe they still didn't walk around pen paper and for small amounts of money maybe it's are going to be if you don't plan on being and they're I hear the sh all the time from and it's a dollar a dollar and $2 and $5 and $10 they're not and they shouldn't be as the parents money if it adds up and um you should be paying back on time. So that's for the original loan. This Shila is I finally got my hands in the money and I owe the money. I don't know what the time frame is. So whatever he said I want it back in tomorrow. He has the money. He has a greater need. Can he not pay it back? I don't know. Maybe somebody can help me what that greater need would be said to pay it back. And talks about when it's the it's the versus the do we hold okay it's the when you pay him back you can say mitzvah holds not necessary he has a a lot of over there so whether it's a mitzvah in terms of it's and you can't arbitrarily just say I want to buy a coke now so I'm not Sure, I could think of quickly any need that would counterbalance the to pay back if it's really due whatever that date is or the like. So, um the bala question is not here. So, um we wouldn't know anybody think of an example where it's such an a that uh what you could probably get if it's not right before you have time if it's an hour before usually the at that point would be his and privilege to give it to you for free. I know the arisal says you spend money on dollar but um you know even that's an interesting example you shouldn't wait till the last minute but uh >> why do >> I was going to say that or you I was going to say he wants to loan somebody you can't be a bass on his let's say he wants to be a mala that that you certainly can't do pay somebody else is you're stealing from quote unquote from move to give to uh to shim if he asks first he has first there is a shilon the If you owe money is which is many if you have a number of workers you only have x amount of money should you prorrate it or is a first come first serve or there's big iss how to do that. Maybe that would be totally if they both come to you at the same time. Otherwise, the fact that you happen to have you're in the mood for a coke uh doesn't mean that you shouldn't be mim over here. And it's a it's a problem that um it just came up in uh in Shir yesterday happens to be that we're talking about opportunities of keshm and avoiding in the office place. And I said the payment schedule is what I'm hearing in Shiloh's. What used to be 30 days stom credit came 60 90 120 in certain industries it's just out of control and that's nobody's fault because each one says I'd love to pay you back but the other guy didn't pay me. So it keeps on it's a domino effect and that's not a good way to be even though in certain industries it might not be anybody's fault. So the guy came up with me after she and he said uh certain industries you'll understand which one he said Medicaid doesn't pay to 180 doesn't pay doesn't reimburse the I said okay I'm happy on the mini that means that I but okay so then that's the that's ground zero now after that's 30 you have to try to really pay people back even if people don't do that for you and it's and we're talking about realim and real din and just it's a horrible thing to do somebody and doesn't feel good when you have it done to to yourself. So it's kad to keep in mind. Okay, the last one of this uh this part of the sugia if your parents want you to use the computer it doesn't have the filter that I'm happy with. Should you listen? So the answer is you can't listen because parents can't ask you to put your on the line if that's the case and that often is the case if they're walking away and they're giving you job to go shopping wherever it is and they're leaving and anybody who's sending their sons or daughters to yes deep down agree with that right now might be inconvenient. I would strongly suggest that the person who has to unfortunately not listen in this case be very careful before during and after with their deb response and be extra careful with these reasons in the mitzvah when they ask you to run errands that are kasher take out the garbage clean off the table there's no saknas for that because if not even if you're not good at it that doesn't m this but it's not a kashm all of a sudden you become very makid and one thing ignoring them and when it comes comes to it's like really you'd like to do the you just can't over here that should be followed through with the areas that it's to do so and that's just an there are where they can't ask you to do something wrong it's not ara if that was the question it's not ara and if it's a sak and it is and you recognize that then you have to figure out uh a different way to do it. Okay, we'll go to uh long list of things we didn't get to from before. So, um this one I think is interesting and it must be a sign of the times. Uh it's not a mil even though it's a cute Shiloh. Can someone use a drone to say kish lavana? A real shila here. It's not a bad shila by the way. Can you look at the lava for your glasses if you wear glasses? So there's a deal in the basement about that. The minig I have one guy who I'm standing with in the sh who actually lifts up his glasses. I told him it's fine. He's he likes to be mach. He does it with his glasses, without his glasses. Once he sees it without all fuzzy. It's fine with glasses. Once you know that, can you say through the window? No, we don't say it through the window, but it's supposed to be outside. But that's a different concept. Actually, it's freezing and the person's sick or under the weather. Whenever it's not, you can say it through the window just like you say it through your glasses. That's step number two. Step number three. So, can you see it through an electronic window where the it's a feed and the feed happens to be from a drone. Why would you want to use a drone? So sometimes you know it's there somewhere and you heard reports and you're in a valley and my can easily happen. You can't see it at your angle. So you just need a few hundred feet up. I don't think it's legal to fly a drone over clouds. So if it's cloudy is not going to help you. You just have to go to the famous helicopter and plane stories where you go to the airport and just ask for a flight and they ask where they say it doesn't make a difference. Just get me on the next plane. So there there are probably certain people who did that. Not a very if that's uh you don't have to spend that kind of money for kesana but it's a nice hur for those that do it if they're doing it without ga here if it's very cloudy the drone a drone could go over clouds but you'd have to have an extensive one and it's probably illegal let's say you're just trying to get an angle is there is there anything wrong with that it's not so pushed that that wouldn't be good once it's down here already just to understand if the glasses are okay and through the window pane is okay technically what's the difference that you can't zoom 10 people for a minion that we covered 5 years ago I believe there were people still under the impression that something you can't answering a is a even answering a mi people it's not it's a recreation of the voice held you can't was but over here it's a in seeing it you're seeing it in real time so it's not so ridiculous this lice I wouldn't do it and we try to do mitsis the way it was done and I don't think it's worth the risk and uh you can come to Wesley Hills we have high mountains and you'll see it at the proper angle I don't think it's kadai but it it certainly is possible this is a a serious sashkafa so I'll I'll go to this one and uh it's actually app propo it's coming out of nissen it's of gula what's going on in the world. One thing's for sure, if anybody says they understood and they had a um that they're identifying who the Msiah is and when he's coming and it's so we don't get into that and the Ram is mas people from giving dates and delving too much into the process. With that said, the two most difficult really the second part in the animes and in the mitzvah the mashia is coming there will be a is easier and we mentioned it all over that it could happen any time has always been challenging. I think today it's easier than ever. You shouldn't follow the news too much, but if you know anything that's going on in the world, we've never lived at a time when things change so drastically on a dime from one minute to the next. And uh all the describe wars that take 9 minutes and 11 minutes and there I don't know what that meant to anybody. But now that's pushed. You can have a major world war and everything can come to an end or a new beginning in minutes. in seconds. So it's very believable. That's my hackda to the next question. So the says I heard that once the mashia comes we'll not be able to work on ourselves as much and get as much that is true. This will bear for mitzvah but it's going to be less because the will be put down to size. It'll still exist possib before the Msiah comes. If so, why do you want the Msiah to come so badly? For the same reason that we shouldn't want to die because then we won't be able to do more mitzvah. So we're here to do the misses and do them with the maximum skyhaba. So how do we look forward to the gula? It's a very fair question and I think the answer is uh combination of a number of things. Number one, there are many unfortunately many many people who are certain kufers are on a daily basis they might be Islam losing more than they're gaining in their years due to the nanis of the time and the sh I hope isn't sending in a sh to speak about he's holding is a bent so he's assuming he's gaining more than he's losing and the and the and he's doing what he's supposed to be doing and he does a marriage once in a while but he's on the positive side of things. So even into so first of all there are many people who aren't there's fourth of not just as we sit here now fourths of unfortunately doesn't obey the and they certainly need a Yeshua so perhaps they shouldn't look at just ourselves look at the total picture there's without getting into deep but we do know about we know about the is going on the by and large is not doing the right Many of them are not and many of them who are sham mites but it's not clear dayto day they're doing enough right things that they're in the positive column. So if there's enough of that even if you are you can work on yourself to want it because it's andina is in g is with us but there's and going on so that is it's a madrega but that's enough of a reason. Uh the second thing you should add is that we don't realize and the sha doesn't realize and I don't realize and we don't can't comprehend but we're missing a lot than without the carbonus without the kaduca the gula will bring and even if we're in the positive column it's even for ourselves to want to be with a matzah that has more kaduca and lends to a higher madrega of even though there's less because we're trying to do things and it's not our business whether we're getting so even without thinking of everybody else I think that's no even to the I see there's another one people are thinking of others there's one more on the um sugi before which is actually uh if you don't remember the gamar sahedron could be dangerous engaging with a not get from person what do I do once they asked so the lion brings the mission of us that some people says it's but you have to know where you're learning it from doesn't mean you learn and fill your head with it and so you know what to answer it means people who are qualified to do it which is not necessarily bo we're still learning and even uh mature adults you have to be set up for it because if you don't have it straight yourself then you're going to be more confused you have to sacrifice your even in you have it straight and you're the gar says brings down the Mishna That's a big statement and we're not going to do justice to it now. But it means that if you have anicarious aum, even if he sounds like he's here, but he doesn't know too much and you'll settle the whole thing pretty quickly if you know what you're doing. If it's anar I think the is that deep down what he knows very deep down he's not going to admit if he wants to discuss and push the agenda of Islam it's because he has issues that's always like that and he's using it to justify why he is or isn't doing certain things so if that's the case he's not going to back down and the more you say and he knows more than the guy does he's going to start using the arguments against you. You're going to get into a mat where you're hearing and saying and you're not going to get anywhere and there's no heter for that. So I'm asking it's not and if you think the fellow really needs help and is honestly looking refer him to somebody who can handle it and they'll decide whether this applies. You can say we don't be precarious today but he's struggling. It's all true. So somebody's gonna have to help him. But you have to keep this in mind because he's saying the Mishna. We'll take one more and I want to just get into some of the hashkafa in the time we have left which is uh although lot this was the hashkaf already this was uh sent in actually today and we'll do a uh it's a very uh important and costic and misunderstood topic uh costic meaning people get into fights all the time so I'll just address it briefly And if the ghoul is not here by then and we need to readress it fukus so fukus already there going to be a lot more people even more from is that the yam naran not pes is also mini yam naran but uh the question here sent this morning can I explain the army issue they're talking about I assume might be an army issue here also but hopefully not uh obviously Israel to American yeshiva it's difficult for us to really understand what's so bad about wanting the people in the army of course the terrorist supreme how can we expect people aren't really from to understand this so let me address the last thing first and that is that there are some not yet from people and it's a throw out in America who actually do understand it either deep down or sometimes actually verbalize it and They one one fellow once told me a very um successful fellow in his gashmas in his political standing not yet for him unfortunately and he said I get it it's just being used to bashed and it's a political thing and you just keep doing what you're doing I said I don't live in this he said well tell your friends to keep doing what they're doing and we need some shir and uh he was a mment enough to understand that and he said it's all politics opportunity to get the power when they get the power the left liberals they're not going to be talking about this so much because they're going to be in power already so they'll talk about something else which is unfortunately painfully obvious but he was my dad so there people who know there people who know won't admit it and then there are many people who can't possibly understand they're not from they don't even understand basically they're not shabas not understand the godless of terra and the Terra and the fact that there are supposed to be two out of 12 learning and we're nowhere near that in terms of glyol I think we went through the numbers um couple of years ago and that's counting fry people because they yidden and clyrol is witnessing nissim as we speak if you heard in the reports the people came back from maybe some of you were there and they had very unusual things to see you can't call it an a nigler but uh when things keep falling despite the damage that was done and it's a sakana but there a lot of situations where it could have been far worse and other things happened and the fact that um the mat exists we're finding out with more clarity as time goes on with this last war with all the successes and bombs that they dropped there finding out how many people really don't like us it's aish some young people said now I never realized this this happened to be a 16-year-old that said all your 16 years of existence on earth. You never realize I don't blame him. Life is good. A lot of people there billions of them. So how do you have a mat like this? That's the biggest talks about uh the uh the ama that exists despite the incredible odds. We're seeing more of that. That's and we don't expect not yet from people to understand where the is coming from. So you shouldn't pick an argument with them and if not understand refer to the first part of our where you don't have to go on the offensive with people who it's like I'm not going to work that's the last part to go to the part of the very beiter I want to get to one more point it's not really a conversation about the army as this fire person admitted to me uh he said they'll fabricate whatever it is and whenever it comes to bashing any group. If it's a political game, they'll do it. It never was really about the army. That's not to say there are situations at certain times where on paper looks like it would help if they had more people on the ground. Often, and I've had this conversation with many uh people in the upper echelons of the various armed forces there, and they said, "Yeah, maybe, yeah, maybe not, but we don't really want them." And because um half of us um dealing with the left wing that wants to integrate more women to the army and combat roles and the like and it's still happening believe it or not even though they proved 100 times over in America that it takes away from the fighting ability that shows that they're not they're to press an agenda and make everybody into liberals and fry and see the world the way they see it. So that's not to do with the army. Has to do with a a battle of culture and a battle against which didn't start now. It started with the mascul and before that the karam theim. It's the same battle in a different outfit. And anybody who again you're not going to be able to explain this to a person who's not from even if they're from and they don't have good but we have to understand this is not about the army. This is about forcing people to be in a matzah that they become less firm or not firm and putting them in a matz where they can't get out once they're in. And you just have to understand how it works on the ground there. If you don't understand, take my word for it. And that is the agenda. That's what's driving this. And when people start talking about the numbers and the army and the and not everybody's supposed to be learning long term and that that's predicated on the first thing with how many you supposed to have to balance outim. So that might be wrong unto itself. But even if that were correct it's not about the enlistment per se. It's about putting itself in a mat under somebody else's and their stated agenda from the time of till now and before that with they had the power and they had the power they caused the Russians to make zeras were in that sug now against clothing that they didn't should change their clothing and the education that was going on in Russia for 100 years and they were in power and they had money and they used it and they talked the government into doing all sorts of horrible things which caused huska to grow which is why lobby lost 80%. It's the same exact battle in a different format. So the reason why we're supposed to be very very stark on the issue and understand why they're fighting a battle there and we have to help them out as much as we can and increase the of the London terranates is because uh if we're not there we don't have a vote but we can clearly convey where the largest from community the large Jewish community outside of Israel where they stand on the issue that makes a Russian and where we stand tangibly on the issue in terms of supporting it. That certainly makes a not about the army. It's a shila of the Schmad that they're trying to in their mind they say if we don't make them fry but we make them just less from unless that's also a step in the right direction and we can't be party to that. So that is the short answer of a very complicated topic and anybody listening to this my disclaimer at the beginning was that there's a lot more to say we just don't have time. So if you have any cautious on what I just said, we can uh discuss it uh after this year. Let me end with um one very uh very powerful story which I think I mentioned. This should sound familiar somewhere in Shabas. There is a hespid that was reprinted. I saw this in a Dra say from reprinted a hespid from and the hespid was on Ra Min. So I if you don't know who was so ask afterwards from the previous d and mal as well mal built from the kashu deir who was not from the kabur is there he also engineered derk agav the whole escape uh le mal was nifter relatively young malislan so a lot of people uh even older than the am over here didn't get a chance to meet him myself included and in the hespid rainstein brought up a mice that he heard from and if you know a little bit about a little bit about who was the gelim he came to the mirham was still there for a number of years that became very very close and Rabim if you've seen his farm and we have quite a number of them already was very stark with the tamid because he knew that he was grooming the next gadel and the next set of tamid he probably knew or certainly had the understand that the people that he was dealing with actually survived the war and were responsible for the uh in large degree growth of terror in every land in America. So that's why this is so important. Soim had uh depending on the person he read people very well uh understood people and was able to train them according to Abl came to the yeshiva he was still a teenager an older teenager and he was there the first day or two came over to him in the hallway and he told him I'll translate this into English loses something but he told them he said he says they tell me they tell me you're very sharp so said right away he said I got to understand later on that that wasn't a compliment it's already if you know then this is and if you don't you'll get to know more it can be a compliment but it can also be a way of sham heard you're very sharp. We're here to channel that because you can be very very sharp and he was probably the sharpest of the anti-hiva and you can relax a little bit and say and take the easy way out and not really work. So when he first heard it, you know comes over to you and says you're very sharp. You start straightening your tie and uh you feel good about yourself. So which he himself said I did but I found out later that that that sham was not necessarily a compliment. It was a sort of a hazard light. Then he said being that you're so bright and your reputation precedes you. I have a kash I'm working on it's very fair. Maybe you can help me. Okay. He was gonna learn later on that rebuild was working on many parts of shas and this kasha was tailor made for the youngl. So the kasha was it says in parac as you all know about bring a carbon when you bring a carbon for you got shabas and the has all sorts of and the is that if you forget forget it was shabas you thought it was Tuesday woke up all night and then the talks about described not we overuse it a little bit today. It's more of a than people realize a real in the hospital and delivery room. He was born three minutes ago. They kidnap him and they bring him to uh Kentucky and he's raised by Indians. Never had a chance. Maj never met a Yidds Europe. So whatever is he meets yen on Sunday morning and he's very bright and by shabas he's already from there it's not a mik so does he bring a carbon how many so says he's one katus because he's missing one piece of information never heard of shabas never heard of shabas never heard of yidden yedish guy didn't know anything and now he's backashem I made it Sunday to shabas because otherwise he'd have other problems once he knew something already so making it very very glot he said I don't understand why in the world is he why is he he did absolutely nothing wrong he's whisked away from the delivery room raised in Kentucky never met anybody why is he already at at young age was smart enough to be quiet. He understood that was walking out and he meets him in the hallways. I'm working in the shrekasha for days and I don't know what what the is. And so he was quiet. >> So is waiting. He's quiet. He's quiet. And turns to him and he says that kasha has no terret and anybody who asks that kasha knows nothing about yidden or yiddish what's the so I'm sure bla just he's new here and he heard about you, but he didn't expect this. And right after the story ends, right after he said that, he turned around and he wished him a good day and he walked away. Didn't speak to him for another week. Wasn't angry. Just wanted him to think about it. So, I'm not giving you a week. So, we only have about a minute. So what's uh what's chhat is if you understand that is brought as the name suggests for tak there's no he has gummer and why should he bring a katus it's a kasha has no ter but in essence the next line is the kasha is a katasha because if you understand what a y is and what a hanam is and what our job is here on It makes absolutely no difference that he was in Kentucky being raised by American Indians and it's tak not his fault. That's not the purpose of the Kurban. The purpose of the Kurban is that a Shama needs a tikun even if it's not his fault because Lisa he was here on earth and he wasn't doing his job. It's not his fault. We're not blaming anybody. You understand why engineered this whole thing? because he sees a promising young who ended up surviving the war and helping rebuild and he was very was built like this. is is you have an aas whether it's your fault you're not living up to another you have anas and any step you could take to give you more to make any tikun you don't have to play a blend game as we'd say it is my fault it's not my fault we're so busy pottering ourselves being so nervous about our ego has nothing to do with that it's you have to ask yourself every single hour every single day am I growing and yes liz before d people. He doesn't know he had a bad education. It wasn't emphasized. That's all good to but you could be missing opportunities. And the job here is to find out what opportunities don't you not know about are you missing and where can you maximize the time and the kas that you have and if you didn't do that whether it's your fault partially who could have learned could have looked into it not really that's why gave him a case the guy had no shas whatsoever he still needs a tick that the wasn't doing what it's supposed to be doing very amazing insight what's before man is that you have the privilege of um learning and all the parents and relatives who are listening to this you have the privilege of paying for it and sending the bakim and uh and learning yourself and growing and all everybody's trying to do the right thing. We'd like to be able to sort of pat ourselves on the back which is a good thing to do once in a while for you give yourself give other people that we're doing great and we are we're stiking and we are and we're growing and I always say anybody who comes in it's Sunday after like a long is we just finished Pes like 3 hours ago and you're in the best med and anybody's listening to this later is taking our time to listen to another godless we're doing unbelievable Our responsibility is to look for the times and the moments and the that we didn't think we had and the time we didn't think we had and use it to the maximum and realize more potential. And what we don't want to happen, it's happen to everybody because we're human and you can't nobody leaves this world having done everything. But we'd like to at least we get the shamay besides the videotape or whatever the sabra then is going to go through every misa. We don't want to get to the matzah where they point out you could have done this and you could have learned more and you could have given more and you could have been nicer and you could have helped somebody else and uh and you're going to know I couldn't I couldn't I didn't have is like that I didn't have a time I didn't know that's not always a pure and even if it was it's a missed opportunity and nobody wants to be in a where they're looking at somebody else and that they could have done a lot more and going into his man it's not about just coasting I'm I'm in yeshiva. I'm learning pretty well. Decent kuses. It's taking out a little bit time beforehand. Last month was very good. Very good. I'm enjoying it. I'm doing well. Where can I do a little bit more? When you squeeze out a little bit more, you got to keep the balance. You got to breathe a little bit. Also, you got to know where the uh basm fits in. You got to work that out. But each man and throughout this man it has to be day after day, week after week that you're challenging yourself to do something a little bit more. And that's on day one what is telling is that you can bring even though they did absolutely nothing wrong and it's an is to find out what you're missing. So let's to keep that in mind.